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The time to 
SET GOALS 


o you make New Year's resolutions? Or, as the New Year 

approaches, do you set goals for yourself to accomplish 

during the next twelve months? | am more a goal-setter than 

a resolution-maker, and even though | admit | don’t always 
follow through, | think setting goals at this time of year is a good idea. 
First of all, it makes you assess the past year and think about what 
you'd like to change in the future about your circumstances, your rela- 
tionships or yourself. Then it forces you to make a practical plan to 
change what you don’t like, while building on your strengths. | find it 
helpful when setting goals to give myself a timetable for accomplishing 
them. (| said helpful, not foolproof.) Still, it really makes one look for- 
ward to a new year that can be 
full of potential and promise. 

In this January issue, you'll 
find ways to achieve some of the 
goals that many women have at 
this time of the year. There is sol- 
id information to help you lose 
the weight you’ve probably 


ABOVE, ATTORNEY GENERAL 
JANET RENO. RIGHT, GOAL- 
ACHIEVER DOLLY PARTON WITH 
ART DIRECTOR JEFFREY SAKS 
AND BEAUTY & FASHION 
DIRECTOR LOIS JOY JOHNSON 


gained during holiday partying 
(page 76}—and wasn't it worth 
it@ There’s also advice on how 
to become a lot smarter about 


family finance (page 46) and 
news on the newly recognized value of vitamins in preventing disease 


page 64). \\nd, yes, I’ve started taking a daily dose of the antioxidants.) 
Recently, Ladies’ Home Journal honored Attorney General Janet 
Reno with a special award. At the award luncheon, she spoke pas- 


sionately about the issue of children and how they are affected by 
the violence of our society. She made us feel that we all must do 
more io make our society less dangerous and to protect our children 
both from the violence on Ovr streets and the media’s glorification of 


this violence. This month we ve Osked g group of women prosecu- 


tors how they would deal with the escale%ing crime rate, and we've 
asked you to comment on IV violence and hoxyoy think it affects 
children. To continue reporting on the issue of viol€Nee.and how it 


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January 1994 + VOL. CXI NO. 1 | 





in the news 


40 CNN NEWSLINE REPORT 

LHJ teams up with the world’s news leader to bring you the latest stories. 
This month: the end of a diet myth: predicting heart disease; mortgage 
matters; spring fashion; and more. 







44 WHAT'S HOT 
Prime-time violence—is it hurting your kids? Tell us what you think in our 
readers’ telephone poll. 


86 VOICES OF THE DECADE: “MY MOST DIFFICULT YEAR” 
As we follow the lives of five American women throughout the 
nineties, we found out that 1993 was an especially emotional 
year, which, for one participant, brought the breakup of 

her marriage. Here, an update on these compelling real-life 
dramas. By Kathryn Casey 


90 TRADING PLACES 

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to live as 
aman? Or wished your husband could walk in your heels? 
One couple pulled off the ultimate role-switch—find out what 
they learned. By Sheila McDevitt and Simon Brooking 


94 THE LESSON 

Caught in a terrifying ordeal deep in the heart of the snow- 
swept Rocky Mountains last year, Brigitte Schluger thought 
she could count on her skiing companions for help. She was 
wrong. By Susan Price 


98 REAL PROBLEMS, REAL SOLUTIONS 

No one—not the police, not the lawmakers—seems able 

to control our skyrocketing crime rate. So we went to the real 
experts—women prosecutors—for advice. 


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52 PILLOW TALK: WHAT LOVING COUPLES SAY IN BED 
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THE FAMILY WINTER 
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64 THE THREE 
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Vitamin E, vitamin C 
and beta-carotene. What 
do they have in common? 
Possibly the potential to 
save your life. 


73 ASK THE PEDIATRICIAN 
Top doctors answer parents’ most 
common questions. By llene Springer 


76 THE PARTY’S OVER If you indulged just a little 
too much in all those holiday goodies, we've got a 
simple menu plan to help you lose excess pounds. 
By Sharlene King Johnson 







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46 MONEY MISTAKES EVERY COUPLE 

MUST AVOID 

Learn how you can do more than just get by on an 
average income. A financial planner shows two 
families how to build a better budget. By Andrea Gross 


style 


33 BEAUTY AND FASHION JOURNAL 

The Oil of Olay/LHJ “Il keep getting better” 
contest; body-shaping lingerie; bargain boots; 
hot hair; and more. 


102 LOW COST, HIGH STYLE 

We all know how good outlet malls are supposed to 
be. But do they really live up to their reputation? We 

sent our beauty and fashion team on a buying spree 
to find out. By Lois Joy Johnson 


112 DIXIELAND 

As a Designing Woman, Dixie Carter displayed a 
classic sense of style. And in real life? Come to 
her stunning Hollywood home and find out. 

By Leslie Lampert 


Cover photo, Jonathan Exley/Gamma-Liaison; hair, David Blair; makeup, 
Kevyn Aucoin; wardrobe, Tony Chase. All makeup from the Dolly Parton 
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117 FOOD JOURNAL 
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118 HEARTY, HEALTHY & LOW-FAT, TOO 
Can food that looks and tastes this great i 
you, too? You bet! 


128 PIZZA, PIZZA, PIZZA 
Fifty pies that are fun for the whole family to make 
and even more fun to eat. By Jan Turner Hazard 


144 THE LATEST DISH 
Super super-bowl snacks. Plus, the cold-conquering 
power of Mom's chicken soup. 


146 INSIDE THE JOURNAL KITCHEN/RECIPE INDEX 


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16 CAN THIS MARRIAGE BE SAVED? 
“My in-laws are driving me crazy” How to cope when 
his parents interfere in your life. By Judith A. Reimer 


23 AWOMAN TODAY 

“We survived the shame” The wife of the former 
American University president 
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LESLIE’S TURN “| want a divorce,” 
said Leslie, thirty, a petite blond. 
“Our five-year marriage is hope- 
less, and I don’t want Tom to talk 
me out of ending it. 

“The thought of going it alone 
with an infant daughter is pretty 
scary, but I feel so alone already it 
can’t be much different. Since 
Tom’s parents moved in with us, 
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just scream. 

“Actually, it was my 
idea to move my in-laws 
here. They had retired 
and moved to California, 
but they were very un- 
happy there. They had 
some health problems, 
too, so I thought that if 
they lived with us, we’d 
be in a better position to 
help them if they needed 
it. Pooling our financial 
assets to buy a nice 
house made sense, too. 

“Tom had reservations 
about my idea, but I con- 
vinced him. Actually, I 
had never met his par- 
ents—they couldn’t 
come to our wedding be- 
cause his mom had been 
hospitalized with heart 
problems and didn’t 
want to make the long 
trip. But we had talked 
on the phone and got along great. I 
was so naive! 

“An only child, I grew up ina 
very small town—there were six 
people in my high school graduat- 
ing class. My dad came from a 
wealthy family, but when I was ten, 
he was cheated out of his hardware 
business by a dishonest partner. 
We lost everything. My parents 
sued the man, and the only thing 
that kept my parents going was the 


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hope that justice, in the end, would — 
prevail. We ultimately lost the 
court case, however. After the deci- 
sion, my parents were devastated — 
and divorced a short time later. I 
never see my father, and speak to — 
my mother only rarely. 

“When I was nineteen, I moved _ 
to San Antonio, the nearest big — 
city, and found a job asa clerk ina ~ 
department store. You can’t imag-_ 
ine what a culture shock that was. — 
But after five years, I had settled | 
into a quiet life. I think I fell in — 
love with Tom the first moment I i 
saw him. I had gone to a club with | 
my girlfriend, something I had © 
never done before, and there he | 
was in his Army uniform. We ~ 
danced a few times, and then he | 
asked me out for the next weekend. | 
Part of me was terrified; he was — 
from Boston, and my small-town 
upbringing made me wary of big- 
city types. | 

“Tom was wearing a suit and tie” 


roses, too. We went to an elegant” 
restaurant, another first for me. 

“Tom had been married before © 
and had two small children. His” 
wife had left him for another 
man—his best friend, no less—and 
my heart just went out to him. But” 
everything seemed to be perfect be-" 
tween us. It wasn’t long befo 
Tom was making (continued) 


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ans for a wedding as well as for the rest 
. our lives, which was fine with me. He 
_d everything under control. 

“J suppose I was so blinded by love I 
‘dn’t realize how wrapped up Tom was 
his military career. This man lives and 
eathes his job. Tom is a medical lab 
hnician, and he signs on for every pro- 
 't, every extra duty and every commit- 
»at work; to him, that’s part of being a 
yod soldier.’ So, even though we were 
irried, I wasn’t seeing very much of 
\ nat all. 

“*On top of that, his children—Caitlin 
s five at the time, and Jeremy was 
-ree—came to visit every other week- 
| 4. After an hour of token fatherhood, 
d inevitably have to go into work. I'd 
left to entertain his kids. 

“But I never said anything. I just 
in’t know how to bring it up and 
yught I would sound selfish if I did. 
stead, I decided to surprise Tom by 
aing the military myself shortly after 
. married. My clerk’s job had no future, 
iI wanted to share Tom’s life more. I 
ded it would bring us closer. 

‘Tom was furious; he resents any deci- 
n that’s not his. But he came around 
er he went with me to the recruiter 
‘1 helped set me up in the computer 
- ning program. 

‘His parents arrived just before I came 
ok home after my basic training. I 
ked in the door of our tiny apartment 
find the whole thing rearranged. 
2re was even a sign hanging on the re- 
gerator saying ‘Alice’s Kitchen’— 
vs Tom’s mother’s name. She did ask 
» minded, and, of course, I said no, but 
veally broke my heart. 

Til never forget our first Thanksgiv- 
morning all together. Tom’s mother 
‘I were getting dinner ready. In my 
)id, I had always imagined it would be 
vonderful, the two of us in the kitchen 
“ing and cooking. I was peeling pota- 
i, and I guess I left a little bit of brown 
/10n one. Tom’s mother didn’t want 
‘uffle my feathers, so instead, she told 
n to tell me. He came in and whis- 
-2ed in my ear, ‘Be sure to get all the 
1 off.” I could have died. 

“But that’s now typical of our family 
My mother-in-law complains to Tom 
‘ut everything I do. She puts me down 
‘n he’s not around. Tom says things 
» ‘Mom, you’ll have to teach Leslie 
7 to make a pot roast like this.’ He 
3m’t realize that every time I try to help 
‘e anything, she informs me that her 
\ has never eaten anything like that and 
or will. 

On top of this, Tom and his mother 
ae all the time, yelling and swearing 
ach other. ’'m not used to that. Tom’s 
«er pretends he doesn’t even hear 


them, hiding behind his newspaper. 
Whenever I try to talk to Tom about how 
I feel, he tells me I’m being too sensitive. 

“IT soon realized I'd become the out- 
sider in my own home. All the spontane- 
ity had gone out of our marriage. No 
more romantic things, like tossing a blan- 
ket in the back of the car and heading to 
the woods for an impromptu picnic. 

“Despite the distance between us, 
Tom and I were determined to have a 
baby. At the time Lindsey was born, she 
was the only bright spot in my life. We 
had been married almost four years. I put 
Lindsey in day care—my mother-in-law 
couldn’t handle the responsibility of a 
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was six weeks old. Tom was working 
crazy hours, and I was left to deal with 
his mother. Tom and I were hardly 
speaking. I know I shouldn’t have, but I 
began bringing the baby into our bed to 
sleep. I admit it was my way of telling 
Tom hands off. I was so mad. 

“When Lindsey was two months old, 
we finally found a house we all agreed on. 
I was so relieved, thinking, again naively, 
that once we had a bigger place, my moth- 
er-in-law and I would stop getting on each 
other’s nerves. But things just got worse. 


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The dating game 


Tom and Leslie needed to rediscov- 
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couples, they were so bogged down 
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stead of lovers. Their counselor 
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them at first, this structured 
courtship period actually made 
them feel closer. 

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“T love Tom, but ow rt n 
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everyone concerned.” 


TOM’S TURN “This is just like Leslie,” 
said Tom, thirty-seven, a tall, serious 
man with a precise, disciplined manner. 
“She wants a divorce, and I’m the last 
one to know about it. 

“Leslie operates entirely on emotion 
and impulse. Like when she joined the 
military. Without one word to me, she 
quit her job and enlisted. Mcst wives 
would discuss a career change with their 
husband, but Leslie had to ‘surprise’ me. 
I found out from a message on the an- 
swering machine. I don’t enjoy surprises. 
My first wife surprised me by running off 
with my best friend. 

“It’s true I would have tried to con- 
vince Leslie not to get a divorce. I love 
her, and I love our daughter. I won’t 
deny we’ve had major problems, but I 
did try to warn her about having my par- 
ents move in with us. She was deter- 
mined we’d be this big happy family, 
and now that the reality didn’t match 
her fantasy, she’s ready to pack her bags 
and quit. 

“There’s also no doubt that I come 
from a vocal family. Yelling and swearing 
were commonplace when I was growing 
up. It doesn’t mean anything, and I can’t 
understand why Leslie goes into such a 
tailspin. My father was always, well, com- 
placent, so I guess I expected Leslie to 
tune it out like he always did. 

“IT should tell you that my father was 
an alcoholic. He’s recovered now, but be- 
fore he joined Alcoholics Anonymous, it 
was sort of Mom and me against the 
world—my two sisters are seven and ten 
years older than I am. We never knew 
irom one day to the next what he would 
be like when he got home from work. I 
think yelling allowed us to let off steam 
over the frustration and anger both of us 
were feeling about Dad. We always knew 
there was love underneath. 

“IT moved out when I went to college, 
which went over like a lead balloon with 
my mother; she had depended on me for 
so long. I loved my independence, but I 
wasn’t especially excited about college. 
Some Vietnam veterans in my classes 
got me interested in the military, 
though, so I decided to drop out and en- 
list in the Army. 

“Except for a couple of low moments, I 
even loved basic training. ’'d had twelve 
years of parochial schooling, (continued) 


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continued 4 
so the discipline wasn’t anything née 
me. The rest of the guys were in §} 
from being yelled at all the time 
again, that wasn’t new for me eil 
Once I got over the shock of Leslie’ 
listment, I was proud that she wante 
serve in the Army, too. 
“Leslie was so easy to love, so sil 
and refreshing. When I met her, Jj 
just gotten divorced, and I felt shy 
awkward dating again. I didn’t t 
she’d go out with me; she didn’t k 
was just as excited and nervous a 
was. I think I fell in love with her 
night, too. 
“Then, immediately after we mat 
Leslie started campaigning to hav 
parents move in with us. I tried t 
her that my mother is the kind of 
son who is happy being unhappy 
she wouldn’t listen. I loved Les 
compassion. Besides, splitting th 
with them was the only way we cou! 
ford a house, which was somethin 
both wanted. B 
“Right away, I felt the pressure. | 
working long hours at the lab, sine 
research we were involved with 4 
time was critical, and, besides, I w 
cited about it. I was stressed to thet 
ing point, and suddenly I had to 
with a new bride, my parents anc 
putes over potato peelings. d 
“You know, Leslie never told mé 
much it bothered her that my moth 
arranged the furniture. And she 1 
told me that my mother criticize 
cooking. I thought Leslie was rel 
that Mother was there to cook and 
since she had a new full-time job. 
“Took, I know my mother can be 
cult. But it’s easier to placate het 
fight her. I’ve been doing that all m 
Why can’t Leslie? Her remark a 
ken fatherhood hurts. She was th 
who wanted to be close to my k 
thought she wanted the time to d 
her own relationship with them. 
“Lately, I feel my world is clos 

on me. I’ve got a stressful job, a cr 
mortgage, a new baby, an ex-wife ar 
kids. On top of that, I feel guilty 
I can’t make peace between my V 
my parents. 4 
“Leslie says ve changed. ¥ 
think she’s the one who’s change 
is no longer interested in being 
and makes it clear she doesn’t W 
have sex, since she has been bri 
Lindsey into bed with us wheney 
wakes up. 
“No, I don’t want a divorce. 

as my wife that our family is torn a 


THE COUNSELOR’S TURN “The 
| were struggling with so many pre} 
that even a couple who commu 








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] would be under stress,” said the 
nselor. “Leslie and Tom had such se- 
is communication problems, I wasn’t 
yrised that they were in such turmoil. 
ile it was clear that the arrangement 
h Tom’s parents was not working, 
4 Leslie and Tom continued to feel 
ty about it. Neither was able to dis- 
. the subject without exploding. 
Tom and Leslie are sincere, likable 
ple, and both of them had known 
siderable pain. They also shared a 
line compassion for the needs of oth- 
Unfortunately, from the beginning of 
r relationship, they had put every- 
g and everyone ahead of themselves. 
y didn’t know themselves or each 
x, their needs, desires or dreams. 
they had never had the chance to es- 
ish themselves as a couple before 
’s parents moved in. 
vike many children of alcoholics, 
_yearned for stability and order. His 
lized vision of military life and re- 
sibility gave him a convenient ex- 
‘to ignore the problems in his 
viage. Leslie had also been raised in 
mpredictable, emotionally barren 
-e. On a lifelong quest for the happy 
ly life she had lost at an early age, 
lesperately hoped her in-laws would 
vie void. 
Ven they met, Leslie and Tom each 
_sived the other as having the missing 
_ they needed to make their life com- 
_, Leslie was attracted by Tom’s big- 
| background; he was the soph- 
» ted man who would be decisive and 
»ate her in the ways of the world. 
i ever, though Tom bought roses, 
.e gave him far more credit in this 
‘tment than he deserved. Having at- 
»2d an all-male high school, Tom’s 
»lence with the opposite sex was lim- 
. Shy, demure Leslie seemed ideal 
wared to his wayward first wife and 
) neering mother. 
»om’s assessment of their basic per- 
: ities was correct. He operated on 
|, Leslie operated on emotion. This 
ination of ‘feeler’ and ‘thinker’ can 
ery effective in a marriage when 
complement each other. Unfortu- 
:y, by the time I saw these two, the 
ties that had attracted them to each 
' had become intimidating and irri- 
»3. My goal was to build on their 
one love and concern for each oth- 
| elfare. 
“uring our first few sessions, Tom 
; veslie tended to talk more to me 
‘0 each other. But in time, and with 
dance, they grew more comfortable 
ssing their feelings to each other. 
lig one session, they discovered that 
oth yearned for time alone together 
bad never made it a priority. Now 
€ agreed to hire a baby-sitter every 





















for a family outing with all three children. 
They’ve also promised to discuss any new 
plans or extra projects with each other be- 
fore committing to do them. Leslie also 
realized that bringing their daughter 
into their bed was a childish way of get- 
ting back at her husband, and she’s 
agreed not to do it. 

“Because of their poor communication 
skills, this couple ran into problems 
whenever conflict arose. I pointed out that 
Leslie’s stoic refusal to vent her anger and 
frustration was just as damaging to the 
peaceful home they both wanted as Tom’s 
yelling was. Tom was honestly baffled at 
his wife’s unhappiness since she had never 
expressed her feelings to him. Once he 
was aware of how hurt she had been, he 
was much more conscious of making 
comments about his mother’s cooking— 
and less willing to play middleman be- 
tween her and his mother. Instead of 
placating Mom, he tried hard to support 
his wife. Instead of tuning out when his 
mother spoke to Leslie, he came to his 
wife’s defense whenever his mother made 
a cutting remark. 

“At this point, I outlined some fair- 
fighting strategies for them: Whenever 
tempers started to flare, I told them, 
they had to agree to stick to one subject 
at a time. What’s more, they had to give 
each other a chance to say everything 
they had to say, without criticizing, 
judging or interrupting. If they couldn’t 
resolve a dispute, they learned to set a 
time limit of no more than one half 
hour for discussion, at which point, 
they would table the discussion but set 
another time and place to resume the 
conversation. 

“This structured form of discussion 
enabled Tom and Leslie to finally come 
to some hard decisions about his parents. 
They decided to put their house on the 
market and look for a smaller one so that 
their mortgage payments would be more 
manageable. They were very lucky and 
got back what they paid for the house. 
They’ve asked Tom’s parents to move to 
an apartment complex for senior citizens 
a few miles away, where they will be safe 
and well cared for. 

“As the tension eased at home, as 
Leslie saw her husband stand up to his 
mother and support her, these two began 
to feel much closer. Tom was also more 


relaxed at home, and while he will proba- | 


bly always be more conscious of neatness 
and order than Leslie is, they have both 
learned to laugh at this idiosyncrasy 
rather than argue about it. 


“ ‘We've had our own basic training | 


in marriage,’ Tom said at one of our 
last sessions. Leslie agreed: ‘I think we 


feel much more capable of handling | 


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By Gail Berendzen. as told to Diana McLellan 


ichard Berendzen, 

Ph.D., left his job as 

president of American 

University, in Wash- 

ington, D.C., in 1990, 

after it was discovered that he had 
been making sexually oriented 
phone calls to female child-care 
providers. Through therapy, 
Berendzen came to realize that his 
acts were the result of terrible abuse 
he suffered in his youth. Fis recent 
book, “Come Here: A Man Over- 
comes the Tragic Aftermath of 
Childhood Sexual Abuse” (Villard 
Books), explains his tortured past 
and his struggle to face it squarely. 
Though Berendzen’s life has since 





returned to sanity, a crisis like this 
affects everyone close to the sur- 
vivor, as his wife, Gail, explains: 


The call that changed my life 
came on Saturday, April 7, 1990. 
It was my hus- 
band, phoning 
from the law of- 
fice of the uni- 
versity’s board of 
trustees. “Bun- 
ny,” said Richard, 
“if I ever needed 
you, I need you 
now. I’ve 
made some phone calls that the po- 
lice are investigating. And I’ve re- 
signed the presidency.” 

Phone calls? Police? His words 
struck me like a fist. What was he 
talking about? Richard was a bril- 
liant astronomer and physicist, a 

4 wonderful father to our two adult 





How could I stay with a husband who 
subjected women to obscene phone 
calls? Because | know the horrible The cn 

secret that drove him to « 


daughters, and for ten highly suc 


cessful years the president of Am 

ican University (Al h dn’ 

be happening—to him or us 
Numb, bewildered, my mind 


spinning, [ sat in the kitchen of the 


AU president’s residence, where 


we'd been so happy. The university 


his wl 


Into it, 

weeks. | uppol 

given up my own 
school curriculum coordi 


I organized events and ent 

faculty and students. But | 

strain had been taking its toll on 

Richard. My recent h 

had only added to his worry. 
After three hours, Richard 

walked in, 


sterectom\ 


his face deathly 
white. He held me tight as he 


over and 


said, “I’m so sorry,” 
over. He had made “inappropri 
ate” phone calls, though he 
couldn’t elaborate and said he 
didn’t know why he had done it. 
“T never wanted to hurt the uni- 
versity, you or anybody,” he 
said. I felt helpless, heartsick. 
Everything I knew and trusted 
had suddenly, unaccountably 
collapsed. Yet I had to be strong. 

I didn’t press Richard for de- 
tails. This may seem strange, 
but though our twenty-six years 
together had been happy, ours 
was a somewhat reserved mar- 
We had both remained 
private 


riage. 
nonintrusive people 
who didn’t reveal much of our 


t 


inner selves to each other. So it 


truthfully never 
occurred io me to 
demand answers 


of him. He'll tell 


me when he’s 
ready, I thought. 

thing 
that was clear 


was that Richard 
needed help. Af- 
creet inquiries, he made plans 


a 
as 


to check in to the sexual-disorders 
clinic at Johns Hopkins University, 
in nearby Baltimore. 

Throughout the drive Monday 
evening, Richard apologized over 
and over, his face contorted with 
pain. But I couldn't (continued) 


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be so cruel to him as to ask him to tell me 
what he’d done. I still hadn’t wept. I had 
to cope. 

At Hopkins the next morning, I wait- 
ed in a corridor while Richard saw Dr. H. 
Martin Malin for his first interview. Sud- 
denly, from that office, I heard a terrible, 
wild, primal cry—like a mortally wound- 
ed animal. Could that sound have come 
from the man I thought I knew so well? 
But when Richard came out two hours 
later, his face revealed nothing. 

Next, he saw another staff member, 
Dr. Fred Berlin. This time, it was the 
noise of wrenching sobs I heard through 
the door. ’d never dreamed such pain 
was inside my husband. But all he said 
afterward was, “It was rough.” 

Later that day, Richard was admitted 
to a locked ward for what we hoped 
would be only a day or two. I returned 
home and spent hours mechanically giv- 
ing calm, nonspecific answers to every- 
one who called. It was only that night, as 
I was putting away Richard’s clothes, 
that the grief finally hit me. I collapsed 
to the floor and cried myself to sleep. 

The following few days were a night- 
marish blur. Word had leaked out days 
before that Richard was leaving, and The 
Washington Post broke the news of his 
“retirement” on Wednesday. That same 
day, Richard’s doctors began to ask me 
what I knew about his parents and his 
background. Could his behavior have 
sprung from something in his past? 

Then came the first hint of the content 
of my husband’s phone calls. Our lawyer 
called that week to warn me that our 
house would be searched that day for evi- 
dence of child sexual abuse. Sure enough, 
a detective arrived and looked over every 
inch. Of course, he found no such evi- 
dence, but the violation of our privacy 
filled me with shame. 

Soon after that, I went to visit Richard 
again. Tense and purposeful, he sat heav- 
ily on the bed and asked me to take the 
chair in front of him. My husband is 
known as a wonderfully eloquent speak- 
er—but this time, his speech was broken, 
stumbling, filled with tears, agonizing si- 
lences and rushed, half-swallowed words. 
His doctors had insisted that he tell me 
everything and spare no detail, he said. 

It took two hours for Richard to reveal 
the horrendous story. When he was 
eight, he had discovered his parents in 
bed together. His mother had called him 
in—“Come here!”—and made him join 
them. That was the beginning of what 
would be many instances of his mother’s 
abuse. Time after time, she had forced 
him to have sex with her. She was physi- 
cally brutal, too, taking his pants down 
and beating him with a yardsuck until he 
couldn’t breathe. 


24 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - JANUARY 1994 


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As I sat there, torrential emo} 
rushed through me—horror as well 
tremendous love and respect. How ¢ 
he have been through that unspea) 
childhood and still grow to beco} 
wonderful husband, father and man} 

He told me the long-buried mem 
had resurfaced in 1987, when Richa’ 
tended his father’s funeral back i 
hometown. While looking for a st 
bury his father in, he entered the 
room where he had been molested: 
fell apart emotionally. Haunted bi 
past, he began scanning the classi 
for women advertising child-care sei 
and calling them—at first infrequi 
then more often. Not understan 
why, Richard felt the need to ask 
children and adults in a sexual coi 
hoping to resolve the questions tha 
weighed on his mind for so long. 

I could see the fear in Richard’s e 
fear that I would leave him. But 
a moment did I feel ashamed or 
ed—only heartbroken to see the 
love in such agony. Then somet 
stirred in me that I had never felt b 
murderous rage. If his mother had 
there, I know I would have killed he 

Taking a deep breath, I spoke di 
from the heart. “I love you now 
than I ever loved you before,” I 
can’t believe you have done so 1 
wonderful things with all of that 
you.” Love and gratitude sho 
Richard’s face as we hugged and 
We now see that talk as the benchm 
the past three years—a moment in} 
both of us were, in a way, reborn. 

Suil, nothing in my own happy Iii 
prepared me for this. Somehow I mai 
to get home that day, and I didn’t) 
what to do with myself. I took the fi 
pictures we had of Richard’s parent 
furiously threw them into the bae. 
cabinet. I paced around for seven 1} 
our dog at my heels. 

All sorts of odd things now beg 
make sense. Richard’s mother had 4 
acted strangely, but I'd thought sl 
just unbalanced and malicious. ' 
our daughter Natasha was just fiy 
overheard my mother-in-law tellin 
“Your mother is a slut and a whore 
should hate her! Just love your ¢ 
and me!” We never left her alone 
the children again after that. 

Obsessed with her son, she fo 
him for years wherever he moved, 
apartments nearby. My husb 
been angrier at that than de 
him before. Now I understood w 

This crisis left me feeling so a 
felt I couldn’t confide even in my 
friend. Adding to my misery, the 
skulked around our house at a 
hoping to uncover what they 
were our dirty secrets. : 

If I regret anything, it’s that I} 
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what I knew right away. I wanted to pro- 
tect them, but the silence just increased 
their anxiety. By the time I flew to Boston 
in mid-April to visit eighteen-year-old 
Natasha at college, a reporter from The 
Washington Post had already phoned her 
to ask about her father’s “improprieties.” 
Natasha was understandably upset, but 
when I told her everything, she was sym- 
pathetic and nonjudgmental. 

Debbie (Richard’s daughter from his 
first marriage), then thirty-four, called 
him right away: “If your body were hurt- 
ing, people would send you flowers,” she 
said. “But if your mind is hurting, they 
throw bricks.” 

Inevitably, The Washington Post found 
out the truth and ran a front-page story 
on Richard. Now the world knew. After 
the news broke, our phone didn’t stop 
ringing; surprisingly, though, most of 
the calls were from people we knew, of- 
fering their support. Even the AU stu- 
dents, who I’d thought would be the first 
to protest, were behind us. 

Richard checked out of the clinic on 
May 4. That same day, the Post carried a 
story about the woman who had reported 


misdemeanor first-offense counts of plac- 
ing indecent phone calls. He was given 
two suspended thirty-day sentences and 
ordered to continue his outpatient therapy. 

That wasn’t the end of our ordeal, 
however. Richard agreed to an interview 
on ABC’s Nightline that same evening, 
hoping to explain the truth of the situa- 
tion. But having his most closely held se- 
crets blared nationwide was humiliating, 
not enlightening. Once again, Richard 
became deeply depressed. 

I didn’t know how to help my hus- 
band—or myself, for that matter. I felt, 
in a strange way, that I had ceased to ex- 
ist. I no longer had things to do, to think 
about or to plan for. In the midst of all 
this, we had to move out of the presi- 
dent’s house that summer. 

And then, suddenly, the most wonder- 
ful thing happened. In June, a small 
group of Washington women said they 
wanted to hold a little luncheon for me. 
The event grew and grew until it became 
so large that it filled a large hotel ball- 
room to overflowing. It was the most 
moving show of support I had ever seen. 
Women from all walks of life whom I had 
come to know gathered to say: We are 
with you, Gail. One woman, a prominent 
Washingtonian, pulled me close as she 


l was terrified that Richard 
might try suicide. “lam dead!” 


he’d shout. “You’re simply seeing 
a corpse that should be buried!” 


his calls to the police. She said that 
Richard had phoned her many times, 
asking whether she and her husband had 
sex with the children she supervised. 

This was the first I had heard of the ac- 
tual subject matter of Richard’s calls. I felt 
terrible about the woman and the intru- 
sion into her life, but all the same, I under- 
stood the reasons behind my husband’s 
acts. He never tried to justify them, and he 
even sent a letter of apology to the woman 
through the police. But I knew others 
wouldn’t understand. How could they? 

Hounded by the media, we continued 
to suffer. Richard read or lay in bed all 
day, refusing to leave the house. I felt 
overwhelmed by his despair, and I was 
terrified that he might attempt suicide. “I 
am dead!” he’d shout at me. “I died! 
You’re simply seeing a corpse that should 
be buried!” 

Somehow, we survived until the May 23 
hearing. Richard pleaded guilty to two 


left and whispered, “I was abused, too.” 

This group has since become the core 
of the support and networking organiza- 
tion I run now: Women of Washington, 
Inc. We have monthly luncheon meet- 
ings, and I interview special guests like 
Helen Thomas, White House bureau 
chief for United Press International. 

Yet there have been times when the 
despair has returned to torture us. The 
low point was the night we stopped at a 
gas station and a car of college kids drew 
up beside us. One recognized Richard, 
did a double-take, then pointed to us and 
mimed telephoning as his friends 
laughed. Choking back my tears, I 
thought: This will be with us forever. 

Richard underwent psychiatric treat- 
ment for about a year. Today, after taking 
1991 off on administrative leave, he is 
back at American University—this me 
as a physics professor whose lectures are 
very popular. (After prolonged disputes 


28 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL — JANUARY 1994 


over his contract and severance, 

school agreed to keep him on in this 
pacity.) In his spare time, he also wo} 
in programs for victims of child abuse 

Richard’s mother is now in her eigi 
ies and senile. In 1991, when she coy 
no longer care for herself, we placed ] 
in a good nursing home. She does 1 
discuss the past. 

These last few years have been 
hardest of our lives, and we’ve be 
changed a lot as a result. Richard’s fa 
a wonderful ability to ferret out feelin 
We’re sharing our souls and becom1 
closer than ever before. Even his stude 
feel free to confide their personal pr 
lems to him. Best of all, he is strony 
and happier than ever. 

I’ve learned so much: how very ded 
I love my husband, how important F 
friends are, how wonderful women can! 
to one another, and how compassion 
young people can be, as well. I’ve aj 
learned that we’re all hostages of our pz 
and that in crises, you discover streng 
you didn’t know you had. I have a dé 
faith that is even stronger now. } 

Our family has touched bottom a 
found out in the process what’s impt 
tant. And despite our travail—or perhg 
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in Ohio set his family’s mobile home 
on fire, killing his two-year-old sister. 
His mother blamed the controversial 
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No one knows just how much kids 


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from the media, but almost everyone 
agrees exposure has some effect on 
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dia programming depends on a risk 
factor,” says Leonard Berkowitz, 
Ph.D., a psychologist in Wisconsin 


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who specializes in media vio- 
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of Michigan who specializes in the de- 
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“And if what they see is done in a hu- 
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havior is harmful.” 

If no one’s sure about the problem, 
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show to a later time slot (ten-thirty P.M. 
instead of seven P.M.), when young 
children will be less likely to see it, 
and by eliminating all references to 
fire. Disney cut the offending road 
scene from The Program. And Attor- 
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strongly about the need to control the 
amount of violence and evil shown on 
TV. For now, concerned 
parents might heed 
Berkowitz’s old-fashioned advice. “Ex- 


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JANE AND MARK WINTERS 
This couple’s money crises began 
long before they were married. 
Jane, who was just getting started 
as a legal secretary, was raising 
her daughter, Tara, on 
her own. They were, she 
says, “barely getting by.” 
Since her take-home pay 
of $734 a month covered 
only the essentials—rent, 
utilities, groceries—Jane 
used credit cards for the 
extras. 
In 1988 she met Mark, 
who was then working in 


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SAVING FOR THE FUTURE: 
THE INDERIEDEN FAMILY 
(FAR LEFT). GETTING 
OUT OF DEBT: 
THE WINTERS FAMILY 


the accounting department of 
the law firm where she worked. 
The young couple got married 
in September 1989, and Heather 
was born sixteen months later. 
Although Jane, now twenty-nine, 
received 70 percent of her pay dur- 
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Money mistakes 
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down, we thought this was our opportu- 
nity to buy a home,” says Jane. “So we 
borrowed from our folks [to get the 
$5,000 down payment].” They filled their 
new home with furniture from their 
apartment and with hand-me-downs 
from friends and relatives. 

The couple had barely arranged their 
belongings when they encountered some 
bad luck. Jane had to have gallbladder 
surgery, and while insurance paid most 
of the medical bills, she was out of work 
for eight weeks. Again, she received only 
70 percent of her normal salary. 


But Jane isn’t willing to blame all of 


their financial troubles on misfortune. 
“We just didn’t budget,” she says. “And 
we’re both impulsive spenders. I go to 
sales, and if I see something I like, [ll get 
it. | also spend a little more on gifts than 
I probably should. Mark’s weak spots are 
fishing equipment and sporting goods.” 

It’s no surprise, then, that Jane and 
Mark are in over their heads—although 
both have good jobs that give them an 
annual income of nearly $61,000. Not 
counting loans for their home and two 
cars, both of which they bought used, 
their combined debts are approximately 
$26,000. Finance charges on these debts 
cost them more than $4,000 a year. 


Next to their mortgage, which is $509 a 
month, child care is the Winterses’ 
biggest expense. Day care for seven-year- 
old Tara and two-and-a-half-year-old 
Heather takes $417 a month, or just more 
than $5,000 a year. Another $4,134 per 
month goes toward necessities like credit- 
card payments, food, clothes, insurance 
and taxes. The bottom line: They have 
just $20 a month for discretionary use. 

It would be tempting for someone in 
this situation to declare bankruptcy. 
“Absolutely not,” says Jane. “We are not 
going to tarnish our financial record.” 


THE PLANNER’S ADVICE 
Instead, on the advice of Laurie Laner, a 
certified financial planner, the Winterses 
have gone on an austere debt-reduction 
program. “Jane and Mark must reduce 
their debt now,” says Laner. “Debt is a 
double whammy. They are paying inter- 
est on something they already own, and 
they are prevented from earning interest 
on the money they are making. The 
sooner they are debt free, the sooner they 
can start amassing money for the future.” 
To eliminate all consumer debt (ex- 
cept mortgage and car payments), Jane 
and Mark must squeeze at least $1,252 
out of their budget every month for 
twenty-two months. As one creditor gets 
paid off, they can apply the money allo- 
cated to that loan to reducing their other 


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debts more quickly. : 
For a long-term financial diet 
this, the right psychological attitude 
must. Laner encourages them t¢ 
proach their personal finances as if 
were running a small business. 4 
business, you watch every income 
expense item so that you maintain 
profitability and grow,” she says. 
Luckily, time is on the couple’s: 
Jane and Mark each have more than 
ty years before retiring at age sixty 
ample opportunity to learn to run 
“business.” As in all successful vem 
however, there must be communic 
But Jane and Mark have always kep) 
arate bank accounts, and that may b 
reason they got into trouble. Neithe 
knew what the other was doing. 
Laner suggests they put their ¢ 
salaries into one checking account) 
which they pay their fixed expens 
as credit-card payments, mortga’ 
ties, day care, insurance and taxes 
every week they each can with 
specified amount to cover more fi 
ly flexible needs like groceries 
and entertainment. 
Eventually, Laner says, th 
should put $10,000 a year into ani 
ment that returns 10 percent (whic 
says, is what growth-stock fund 
on average over the long term). 
But for now, Laner says, the ¢ 


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to take some emergency measures. 
t, she advised Mark to stop his cur- 
3211 monthly contribution to his re- 


ent plan until he and Jane pay off 


debts and build up an emergency 
“This is an extreme suggestion, but 
Vinterses are in an extreme situa- 
Under the circumstances, this move 
ranted,” says Laner. 

sht now the Winterses have only 
0 available to them in case of an 
gency like another illness. This wor- 
vaner, who recommends that people 
a safety net equal to three months’ 
home pay. For the Winterses that 
s gradually building their emergen- 
erve to about $14,000. 

d though each of them has medical 
lisability insurance through their 
the couple are dangerously under- 
ed in other areas, Laner says. “They 
more life insurance,” she says. 
ir debts would not be canceled in 
yent of a death. With only one in- 
, it would be very difficult for the 
ning spouse to survive financially.” 
arly two years is a long time to stay 
financial program as strict as this 
If Jane and Mark could increase 
income by an extra $200 or $300 a 
h, they could get back to normal 
: several months sooner—a move 
uaner thinks would be wise both 
logically and financially. Since 
works from seven P.M. until four 
he may be able to help out more 
he children, reducing the Winters- 
fty outlay for day care. Moonlight- 
dy either Mark or Jane—is another 
ility. 


AMILY’S REACTION 

nd Mark are delighted with most of 
’s advice. “To get a third person’s 
2ctive is great,” says Mark. The 
after they met with her, they cut up 
redit cards. 

> following week they opened a 
hecking account. “This was some- 
we'd been talking about before,” 
ane, “but we didn’t know exactly 
) manage it.” Now their paychecks 
o the account, and they pay their 
¢ bills from the joint account. Jane 
rare of the food shopping and the 
-2n’s needs, and Mark is responsible 
‘ands, family outings and special 
-” with Jane. They each pay for 
ywn clothes and personal items. 
plan seems to be working well,” 
ne. 
»pite Laner’s warning, Jane and 
--like many young people—feel in- 
| able and consider life insurance a 
\ority. And they are not interested 
onlighting. “Our family is more 
want,” says Jane. “With our kids as 
nas they are, we want to spend as 
ime with them as possible.” 
| tt now the couple is in a squeeze, 


but they believe it’s not permanent. They 
dream of the day when they can take 
Tara and Heather to Disney World and 
move into a larger home. 

In the meantime, Jane has two warn- 
ings for other couples: “Start out with a 
budget. Change it periodically as you see 
fit, and always know where your money 
is going.” And, she adds, “It’s much bet- 
ter to pay cash for things. Cards are con- 
venient, but they can get away from you.” 


LORI AND JOE INDERIEDEN 

“Sure, we'd like to have more money, but 
we're really doing fine. We’ve never been 
in a paycheck-to-paycheck struggle,” says 
thirty-two-year-old real estate agent Lori 
Inderieden, speaking from the kitchen of 
her new four-bedroom home. Lori and 
her husband, Joe, a thirty-four-year-old 
insurance underwriter, purchased their 
home almost two years ago. Their home 
is—along with their two sons—their 
greatest pride. “We want to make it a 
place the four of us can enjoy right now,” 
says Lori. 

And they are. With a combined annual 
income of $54,660, the Inderiedens have 
enough money to do most of what they 
want to do—today. But the future may 
present a problem. “From the standpoint 
of making a living and paying their bills, 
Lori and Joe are doing a wonderful job,” 
says Steve Finkelstein, a financial plan- 

er. “But from the standpoint of support- 
ing retirement, investment and 
educational goals, they’re not on track.” 

The Inderiedens have a $130,000 
mortgage on their 2,400-square-foot 
home, but it’s not the monthly payments 
of $995 that eat into their cash flow. It’s 
the extras. “In order to get the house at a 
price we were comfortable with, we 
didn’t have the fourth bedroom or third 
bath finished off,” says Lori. They’ve 
since finished those rooms and added 
$1,000 worth of landscaping. 

Aside from their home, most of their 
time and extra dollars go toward low-cost 
activiues that they enjoy with their boys, 
Nick, eight, and Andy, five. They go to 
the park for picnics and on day trips to 
the beach or amusement park. “We don’t 


ever stay home because of money, but we | 


don’t do a lot of expensive things either. 
We sometimes take Nick and Andy to 
sporting events, like the Twins baseball 
games, but most of the time we’re pretty 


conservative. And we don’t have any of | 
the big toys, like boats or jazzy new cars,” | 


says Lori, who drives a 1988 Ford Tau 
rus. Joe has a 1988 Mazda 323. 

Day care, which is a major expense for 
most young families, isn’t a concern for 
the Inderiedens. Lori works three days a 
week for a building contractor, showing 
his model homes to prospective buyers. 
Her sister-in-law, Kathy, takes care of 
Nick and Andy two of the days, and Joe 
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weekend shift. In return, Lori watches 
Kathy’s children while Kathy does her 
stint as real estate agent. 

When the Inderiedens first listed their 
monthly expenses for financial planner 
Finkelstein, there was $632 that didn’t fit 
under any specific heading. Most of this 
money, says Lori, was probably dribbled 
away when Joe, who is a voracious read- 
er, went into a bookstore or when she 
saw something special for their home. 
Recently, for example, Lori bought a 
Wedgwood-blue reclining sofa and 
loveseat for $1,400 to put in the family 
room. To go along with that, she pur- 
chased a painting of a tree-shaded cob- 
blestone lane. And of course there are 
always extras for the boys that don’t seem 
to fit into any particular budget category, 
like the $176 she spent to enroll them in 
summer activities. 


THE PLANNER’S ADVICE 

While Finkelstein realizes the impor- 
tance of these expenditures, he'd like to 
see more of the Inderiedens’ discretionary 
income put into savings for their future. 
He believes that young couples should 
aim to set aside 15 percent of their net 
income for long-term investment growth. 
For the Inderiedens this means almost 
$550 per month. 

Right now their only savings strategy 
is an $86 monthly contribution to the 
401(k) pension plan offered by Joe’s em- 
ployer. Since this money is paid in pretax 
dollars and the interest is tax deferred, it 
is an excellent savings vehicle. Finkel- 
stein encourages Joe to increase his 
monthly contribution by at least $200. 

In addition, he recommends that the 
Inderiedens put $100 a month into mutu- 
al funds. Lori and Joe currently have 
their money invested very conservatively 
in certificates of deposit and money mar- 
ket funds. But if they are willing to ac- 
cept a bit more risk and put some of their 
money in growth-stock mutual funds, 
they can expect to get a much higher rate 
of return. “And, at their age, they have 
time to recover if something goes 
wrong,” says Finkelstein. 

Starting early and investing aggres- 
sively are both vital factors in accumulat- 
ing wealth. If Lori and Joe invest $2,000 
each year in a fund that earns 5 percent, 
in thirty years they will have nearly 
$133,000. But if they wait ten years be- 
fore beginning to set aside $2,000 a year, 
they will have only $66,000. That addi- 
tional $20,000 of investment will have 
doubled their expected return. 

Another future expense is college for 
Nick and Andy. By the time Nick is 
ready for college in the year 2003, four 
years at the University of Minnesota will 
cost around $25,000 for just tuition and 





books. By the time Andy begins in the 
year 2006, the price probably will have 
increased to nearly $30,000. That means 
the boys will have to flip a lot of ham- 
burgers if their parents don’t help out. 

But, says Finkelstein, Lori and Joe 
can save enough to cover these expenses 
if, starting now, they put $175 a month 
into a Uniform Gift to Minors account. 
Under this plan, $600 of interest in- 
come per child per year will be tax free 
until the child reaches fourteen. After 
age fourteen, all interest income earned 
in these accounts will be taxed at the 
child’s rate, which will be lower than 
his parents’. 

According to Finkelstein, the In- 
deriedens are financially vulnerable in 
the event of an emergency. Lori and Joe 
have only $6,500 available in their sav- 
ings and checking accounts. If they use 
some of their discretionary income (of 
about $500 monthly), they can gradually 
increase this to at least $10,000—enough 
to cover three months’ expenses. 

In addition, while the Inderiedens 
have auto and home-owners insurance, 
they are underinsured in case of a major 
tragedy. If, for example, Joe or Lori were 
in an auto accident that resulted in the 
injury of several people, a settlement of 
$1 million would not be unusual. Yet the 
Inderiedens’ auto insurance would cover 


HOW THESE FAMILIES 
SHOULD BUDGET 


Jane and 
Mark Winters 


Monthly income 
$4,555 Salaries $5,075 
Q Investment income 5 
$4,555 Total $5,080 


Monthly expenditures 
Home mortgage $509 
Home maintenance/furnishings 0 
Utilities/teleonone 185 
Child care 417 
Food 350 
Clothing/personal 130 
Transportation/car upkeep =: 130 
Medical/pharmaceutical 10 
Gifts/donations 20 
Entertainment/travel 100 
Insurance 296 
Auto loans 282 
Credit-card payments 1,252 
Investments: retirement/future 0 
175 Education fund for children 0 
50 Savings for emergency fund 185 
150 Discretionary “fun” money 20 
927 Property and income taxes 1,189 
$4,555 Total $5,080 


Lori and Joe 
Inderieden 


$995 
200 
166 


50 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - JANUARY 1994 































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only $300,000. “An aggressive att 
would go after their future earni 
says Finkelstein, “and this could be 
astating.” He suggests Joe and Lo 
crease the deductible on their, 
insurance from $250 to $500 and u: 
resultant savings to purchase uml 
coverage of at least $1 million. 7 


THE FAMILY’S REACTION 
House, activities, retirement, colleg 
surance. ... To Lori and Joe, some 
it seems as though there are a dozen 
to spend every dollar. 24 
“I know we should be more con 
about retirement,” says Lori, “bu 
hard to think about [the future] 
there are so many other things we: 
to take care of now.” e 
Yet, after listening to Finkels 
recommendations, she and Joe 
thinking their financial strategie 
has increased his contributions tf 
pension plan, they have started 
aside more money for emergen 
they are talking to their insurance 
abeut umbrella coverage. They 
to make their money earn more. “W 
alized we’ve always been on the c 
uve end with our investing, and 
necessarily good over the long 
mits Lori. “We need to be a littl 
conservative and more aggressive.” 
But Lori and Joe aren’t too conc 
about Nick’s and Andy’s colle 
“Joe and I basically paid for our ows 
lege educations, and I think the boy 
get more out of their schooling if 
have to work for it,” Lori explains. 
And they have no intention of p 
15 percent of their net income 
the future. “We’re not going to 
says Lori adamantly. Anyway, 
unues, retirement will work ou 
“By then we’re not going to hz 
mortgage, and we’re not going to 
the expenses for the kids.” . 
Finkelstein is disappointed 
surprised. “Lori and Joe are pr 
cal of couples in their thirties,” 
“At this age people tend to wo: 
the present—getting a home, fu 
it, having fun. It’s not until peo 
their forties that they usually ste 
ing about college for the kids a 
ment. And by then it’s more diffi 
save enough to make it work. 
“Financial planning is like w 
into a store with lots of merchan 
continues. “Each person selects 
items she or he wants most. It’s a 
of priorities.” ad 


For more information, call the Inst 
Certified Financial Planners, 
PLAN, or the International Ass 
Financial Planning, 800-945-IAFP 


Andrea Gross is a contributing e 
Ladies’ Home Journal. 


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Here are eight great ideas for doing just that. Philadelphia’s Anna Lane Lingelbach School. 
These tips will show you how to use books to ~—— “Make an effort to read signs, billboards and 
help kids explore the world they know, the other meaningful print that you and your child 
world they want to know and the world they see everyday,” she says. “Eventually, your 
don’t even know exists. child will begin seeking out similar signs to 
read to you!” 
1. Interest Catalogue. “Make an inventory of Begin your adventures in sign literacy with 
your child’s interests,” suggests Susan Tana Hoban’s companion wordless picture 
Paprocki, a language arts enrichment teacher books, / Read Symbols and I Read Signs (both 
at the Avoca Schools in Wilmette, Illinois. Greenwillow, 1983). Books like these show 


“List letters A-Z on a large poster board. Then __ kids that reading provides information about 


f you’ve watched a child’s first have your child print the name of a person, the outside world. 

encounter with sand and water, place or thing that begins with each letter. 

you know children are eager to Review the list, circle topics that appeal to 3. Label Tours. A great way to remind kids of 
mm and discover. A good thing, too. —_ your child and get books on those subjects.” their links to worlds beyond their own comes 
r curiosity—the simple desire to from Ann Lessard, a second-grade teacher at 
ow and learn—is a key to your 2. Sign Sightings. Delight your child with the Peterborough (New Hampshire) 

ild’s success in school and beyond. _ reading discoveries outside the home, says Continued on page A10 


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Enis you. “What works for young people,” says Dr. David Elkind, a 
fessor of child study at Tufts University in Medford, Mass., “is for parents to be curious 
‘mselves.” From what makes soap work to where sink drains lead, your daily routines raise 
imderful questions you can explore with your child. “Just do the things you normally need 
| 1 want to do,” says Elkind, the best-selling author of Miseducation (Knopf, 1987) and The 
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detail and expand their 
vocabulary. When doing 
laundry, take turns coming up 
with words to describe an item 
such as a towel. Obvious 
terms will pop up first—words 
such as white, cotton, 
rectangular, fluffy, soft and 


four-cornered. Older children 


will move on to more 
sophisticated labels, such as 
machine-woven or absorbent. 
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featured in the book Are We 
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think more logically and 
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“Grandmother’s Trunk.” 
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item (“I put a radio in Grand- 
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Provide an atlas, map 
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explain more about the 
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cultures and history.” 


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Alongs. Parents can 
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reading. “If you know what your child is 
reading, you can talk about it,” says Fred 
Brown, principal at the Boyertown 
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reference for both of you to explore through 
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5. Answer Books. Across the country at the 
Jefferson (Oregon) Elementary School, Larry 
Buschman also promotes shared reading as a 
way to bring the 
outside world into your 
child’s life. “Read to 
and with your child 
long after your child 
begins reading inde- 
pendently. And take the 
time to find books that 
answer your children’s 
questions,” urges this second-grade teacher. A 
current favorite: Eve Bunting’s 32-page gem, 
Fly Away Home (Clarion, 1991), a powerful 
story about a homeless boy and his under- 
employed father. 


6. Bridge Builders. Any parent would do 
well to copy Valerie Williams’ technique for 
exciting children about brand-new topics. 
This first-grade teacher at the E.M. Baker 
Elementary School in Great Neck, New York, 


enjoys exploring tough topics like mythology, 


which teachers of 6-year- 
olds usually avoid. 

The secret of her 
success? She builds 
bridges to new topics with 
stories. “I don’t say what 
mythology is or talk about 

it,” she explains. “What | 
do is retell myths in my 
own words. Afterward, when I introduce 
picture books and storybooks about myths, 
the children aren’t afraid of the subject. It’s 
no longer foreign to them.” 


7. Models of Success. Mary Angeli 
urges parents to set an 

“Kids don’t see 
adults reading enough,” says 


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Canton, Ohio. “Your children may not q 
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on their own!” 


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world outside your front door through 
writer’s eyes. Brown teaches English at 
George Washington Middle School in 
Ridgewood, New Jersey, the setting 0: 
of Mary Higgins Clark’s best-selling — 
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the practice for its power to sharpen language skills. And Phillip Hoose, author of /t's 
Our World, Too! Stories of Young People Who Are Making a Difference (Joy Street, 
1993), recommends letter writing as a way to help kids clarify their thoughts. “Tt 
strengthens their ability to organize data,” he says. “And it gets them to state their 
cases logically and briefly.” 
Here are Hoose’s guidelines for writing effective letters: (1) Be personal. Say 
who you are and why you care. (2) Keep your letter neat. (3) Address it to the 
person who has the power to make the change you want. (4) Be specific. 
Explain exactly what you want the person to do. (5) Include 
details that show you understand the views of those who 
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people in your community, and list their names on your 
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en that world you can give your child a healthy boost. _ news,” she says, “look for children’s books about the Holocaust so 
e U.S. Department of Education, kids who discuss your child really understands why people get so upset. With 


“current events at home tend to be higher achievers at school. something like Somalia, you’d want to let your child know that Africa 
is far more than starving people at war. Check out a 
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Pillow talk 


WHAT LOVING COUPLES 
SAY IN BED 


Do you whisper sweet nothings in his ear? Tell him how sexy he is? What you say during 
lovemaking speaks volumes about your marriage. 





hen Frank 

tells me in the 

middle of 

that he loves me, 

that I’m the most 
beautiful the 
world and he can’t live with- 
out me, I melt,” says thirty- 


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four-year-old Priscilla, a 
department-store buyer in 
the Midwest who’s been 
married for ten years. 
“Those words bring me clos- 
est to my peak of pleasure 
and ready to do anything to 
him to return the favor.” 

Since Cyrano de Bergerac 
(the gallant theatrical hero 
of the nineteenth century) 
wooed his beloved Roxanne 
with eloquent recitals of her 
beauty, putting passion into 
words has spelled sexual se- 
duction. In 
proved that couples who talk in 
bed have happier marriages. 


has 


fact, research 


Of course, there’s no limit to 
what husbands and wives say dur- 
ing lovemaking, but most pillow 
talk falls into one of three cate- 
gories: loving talk, erotic talk and 
telling each other what you want. 
Though women are generally more 
expressive about emotions and feel- 
ings than men—and thus better at 


52 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL 


By Judy Kuriansky, Ph.D. 





love talk—traditionally, they’ve 
also been more inhibited when it 
comes to talking sexy. But times— 
and attitudes—have changed. Re- 
cent surveys show that men are 
increasingly interested in romance 
and that more women are enjoying 
telling their partner what they 
want in bed. Not only that, many 
men now say they welcome women 
taking the initiative and saying 
what turns them on. 


JANUARY 1994 



























WHAT'S YOUR LINE? 
While communication be- 
tween the sexes is becoming 
more open, husbands and 
wives have their own ideas 
of what they like—and don’t 
like—to hear in bed. Re- 
search shows that what 
turns us on depends on 
which of the senses we most 
prefer: tactile (touching), vi- 
sual (looking), olfactory 
(smelling) or auditory 
(hearing). Ask each other 
which sense 1s most arous- 
ing, and let the answers 
guide you in bed: If your 
husband gets turned on vi- 
sually, for instance, describe 
erotic scenes; if he enjoys 
auditory stimulation, recite 
sexy comments or stories in 
his ear; if he’s tactile, touch 
him and describe how it feels. 

Personality also plays a key role. 
Based on my collaborative work 
with the Ned Herrmann Group, a 
research and training organization” 
in Lake Lure, North Carolina, that 
has done extensive research on 
brain style, there are four distinctive | 
personality types. Creative love talk- | 
ers have an active imagination and 
enjoy unique and vividly described 
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And, the same treatment that relieves the 
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about one of every four women over 50. 


HE CONNECTION BETWEEN 
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After menopause, your body produces very little 
trogen. Without estrogen, your bones can become 
agile, more likely to break. 

In fact, half of the bone mass women lose is lost 
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unusual vaginal bleeding, abnormal blood clotting, 
or heart disease. 

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Pillow talk 


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this description fits your partner, turn 
him on with tales of what you plan to do 
to him in bed, or play-act figures from his- 
tory or novels. Romantic love talkers enjoy 
intimacy and self-expression. They'll re- 
spond warmly to sharing feelings and 
dreams, being asked “Tell me how you 
feel” or told “I care about you deeply.” On 
the other hand, the conservative talker is 
uncomfortable talking about feelings. In- 
stead, get him in the mood by being prac- 
tical, yet passionate—whisper to him that 
the phone is unplugged, the kids are in 
bed, and that nothing can disturb the two 
of you. Intellectual talkers value an analyt- 
ic and logical approach to life and love, 
and can be stimulated by lively debates 
about sex or by taking control in bed. 





Don’t worry if you’re a romantic and 
he’s a conservative—any combination of 
pillow-talk styles can mesh, as long as you 
both learn to satisfy your different desires. 


TERMS OF ENDEARMENT 

Sometimes, even the simplest words can 
spark passion. In an informal survey of 
callers to my radio show, nine out of ten 
men and women said the most pleasur- 
able pillow talk is hearing their own 
name. Says thirty-six-year-old Mary, 
“When my husband says my name aloud 
during sex, I know he’s really thinking of 
me and that I really matter.” 

In an advanced version of the name 
game, many couples have special 
monikers for their private parts. Both 
male and female callers to a TV show I 
did on this subject reported that refer- 
ring to their own and their partner’s sex- 


ual body parts added both th 
derness to their lovemaking. ‘ 

Flattery is a close second as a 
aphrodisiac. Since so many of us 
men and women—are insecure ab¢ 
bodies, it’s always a turn-on if y 
mire his physical characteris: 
praise a special trait—“You’re so 
“You make love in so many int 
ways,” or “How strong you are!” 

Compliments will make your 1 
sizzle by boosting confidence and 
fears. They’re essential for men w 
often insecure about their perfor 
like forty-five-year-old John, a di 
electrical engineer. “I have to | 
she likes me,” John admits. “The 
worry that she will measure me 
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To reduce menopausal symptoms. Estrogens are hormones produced by the ovaries. The decrease in the 
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use of drugs containing estrogens can help the body adjust to lower estrogen levels 

Most women have none or only mild menopausal symptoms and do not need estrogens. Other women 
may need estrogens for a few months while their bodies adjust to lower estrogen levels. The majority of 
women do not need estrogen replacement for longer than six months for these symptoms 

To prevent brittle bones. After age 40, and especially after menopause, some women develop osteo- 
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fined to women who appear to be susceptible to this condition. The following characteristics are often pre- 
sent in women who are likely to develop osteoporosis: white race, thinness, and cigarette smoking. 

Women who had their menopause by the surgical removal of their ovaries at a relatively young age are 
good candidates for estrogen replacement therapy to prevent osteoporosis 

To treat certain types of abnormal uterine bleeding due to hormonal imbalance. 

To treat atrophic vaginitis (itching, burning, dryness in or around the vagina) 

To treat certain cancers. 

WHEN ESTROGENS SHOULD NOT BE USED 
Estrogens should not be used 

During pregnancy. Although the possibility is fairly small, there is a greater risk of having a child born with 
a birth defect if you take estrogens during pregnancy. A male child may have an increased risk of develop- 
ing abnormalities of the urinary system and sex organs. A female child may have an increased risk of devel- 
oping cancer of the vagina or cervix in her teens or twenties. Estrogen is not effective in preventing miscar- 
riage (abortion) 

If you are breast feeding. Many drugs are excreted in human milk and can be passed on to your baby 
Therefore, estrogen therapy should be used only when your doctor decides it is clearly necessary 

If you have had any heart or circulation problems. Estrogen therapy should be used only after consulta- 
tion with your physician and only in recommended doses. Patients with a tendency for abnormal blood clot- 
ting should avoid estrogen use. This includes patients who currently have clots in the leg (thrombophlebitis), 
or any other part of the body (thromboembolic disorder). (See below.) 

If you have had undiagnosed vaginal bleeding. \f you have ever had abnormal bleeding from the vagina 
estrogens should not be used unless you have talked to your physician about this problem 

If you have had cancer. Since estrogens increase the risk of certain cancers, you should not take estro- 
gens if you have ever had cancer of the breast or uterus. In certain situations, your doctor may choose to 
use estrogen in the treatment of breast cancer. 

When they are ineffective. Sometimes women experience nervous symptoms or depression during 
menopause. There is no evidence that estrogens are effective for such symptoms. You may have heard that 
taking estrogens for long periods (years) after menopause will keep your skin soft and supple and keep you 
feeling young. There is no evidence that this is so and such long-term treatment may carry serious risks 


DANGERS OF ESTROGENS 

Cancer of the uterus. The risk of cancer of the uterus increases the longer estrogens are used and when 
larger doses are taken, One study showed that when estrogens are discontinued, this increased risk of can- 
cer seems to fall off quickly. In another study, the persistence of risk was demonstrated for 10 years after 
stopping estrogen treatment. Because of this risk, it is important to take the lowest effective dose of estro- 
gen and to take it only as long as you need it. There is a higher risk of cancer of the uterus if you are over- 
weight, diabetic, or have high blood pressure 

If you have had your uterus removed (total hysterectomy), there is no danger of developing cancer of the 
uterus. If you have your uterus, please refer to the section titled “OTHER INFORMATION.” 

Cancer of the breast. The majority of studies have shown no association with the usual doses used for 
estrogen replacement therapy and breast cancer. Some studies have suggested a possible increased inci 
dence of breast cancer in those women taking estrogens for prolonged periods of time and especially if 
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Regular breast examinations by a health professional and self-examination are recommended 
receiving estrogen therapy, as they are for all women 
Gallbladder disease. Women who use estrogens after menopause are more likely to develop g 
disease needing surgery than women who do not use estrogens. 
Abnormal blood clotting. Taking estrogens may increase the risk of blood clots. These clots’ 
a stroke, heart attack or pulmonary embolus..any of which may be fatal. 
Heart disease. Large doses of estrogen “) men have been shown to increase the risk of ce 
diseases. This may not necessarily be truein women. In order to avoid the theoretical risk of hig 
the dose of estrogen you take should not exceed the dose recommended by your doctor. 
Excess calcium in the blood. Taking estrogens may lead to severe hypercalcemia in women with 
and/or bone cancer Z 
SIDE EFFECTS i 
In addition to the risks listed above, the following side effects have been reported with estrogen use: 
¢ Nausea, vomiting; pain, cramps, swelling, or tenderness in the abdomen. 
Yellowing of the skin and/or whites of the eyes 2 
Breast tenderness or enlargement 
Enlargement of benign tumors of the uterus 
Breakthrough bleeding or spotting 
Change in amount of cervical secretion 
Vaginal yeast infections 
Retention of excess fluid. This may make some conditions worsen, such as asthma, epilepsy, m 
heart disease, or kidney disease 
A spotty darkening of the skin, particularly on the face; reddening of the skin; skin rashes. 
Worsening of porphyria , 
Headache, migraines, dizziness, faintness, or changes in vision (including intolerance to contac! 
Mental depression 
Involuntary muscle spasms. 
Hair loss or abnormal hairiness 
Increase or decrease in weight 
Changes in sex drive. 
* Possible changes in blood sugar 


REDUCING RISK‘OF ESTROGEN USE 
\f you decide to take estrogens, you can reduce your risks by carefully monitoring your treatment. 
See your doctor regularly. While you are taking estrogens, it is important that you visit your 
least once a year for a physical examination. Special attention should be given to blood pi ] 
abdomen, and pelvic organs. A Pap smear should be taken and tested at this visit. If members ¢ 

ily have had breast cancer or if you have ever had breast nodules or an abnormal mammogral 
ray), you may need to have more frequent breast examinations. Also be sure to let your doctor kn 
have ever had liver or kidney disease, as this may affect the decision to use estrogen. 
Reevaluate your need for estrogens. You and your doctor should reevaluate your need for 
least every six months 
Be alert for signs of trouble. Report these or any other unusual side effects to your doctor im 
¢ Abnormal bleeding from the vagina 
* Pains in the calves or chest, a sudden shortness of breath or coughing blood (indicating p 
the legs, heart, or lungs) 
* Severe headache, dizziness, faintness, or changes in vision, indicating possible clots in the | 
¢ Breast lumps ; 
* Yellowing of the skin and/or whites of the eyes 
* Pain, swelling, or tenderness in the abdomen 
OTHER INFORMATION 
Some physicians may choose to prescribe another hormonal drug to be used in association 
treatment for women with a uterus. These drugs, progestins, have been reported to lower the 
occurrence of a possible precancerous condition of the uterine lining. Whether this will p 
from uterine cancer has not been clearly established. There are possible additional risks that 
ated with the inclusion of a progestin in estrogen treatment. The possible risks include unt 
blood fats and sugars. The choice of progestin and its dosage may be important in minimizing 
Your doctor has prescribed this drug for you and you alone. Do not give the drug to anyo 
If you will be taking calcium supplements as part of the treatment to help prevent oste 
with your doctor about the amounts recommended 7 
Keep this and all drugs out of the reach of children. In case of overdose, call your doct 
poison control center immediately 
This Summary provides the most important information about estrogens. If you want to r 
your doctor or pharmacist to let you read the professional labeling. 


This Brief Summary for Direct-to-Consumer Advertising is based on the current Premarin T 
4143-2, Issued June 29, 1993 with the incorporation, in lay language, of pertinent text from the 
C14119-3, Issued June 21, 1993 


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he American Association of Sex Edu- 
s, Counselors and Therapists, affects 
_ons of men in the U.S. In such a case, 
man should let her partner know that 
-esn’t matter: “I don’t care if you have 
ection; I’m enjoying being with you.” 
iking the pressure off his need to per- 
', he can enjoy himself—and also con- 
‘ate on pleasing you. 

-attery, coupled with reassurance, 
-s equally well to boost a flagging ego 
solidify trust in a relationship. Take 
vase of Lisa, thirty-two, who was a 
>] when she met her fashion-photog- 
|er husband, Thomas, but gave up 
areer to have children. Now feeling 
-f shape and jealous of the stunning 
-g models Thomas is around daily, 
, is in even more need of compli- 
1s. “Since my first baby, I gained 
at and hate my body,” she says, “so I 
to be told constantly how beautiful 
) and how much he wants me.” 


| NG HIM WHAT TURNS YOU ON 
'. from compliments, it’s also impor- 

o tell your husband what you'd like 

to do. Communicating your needs 
ons the bond between you. 

.e of the basic exercises in marital- 
|} hment programs is talking about 
» you feel and what you want during 
-iaking. You and your husband can 
| is same exercise by asking each oth- 








er open-ended questions (“What gives 
you the most pleasure when we make 
love?”), specific questions (“Do you like 
this position?”) and either/or questions 
(“Do you like my touch to be gentile o1 
firm?”). Also, tell each other what you 
don’t like, but do it in a supportive and 
nonthreatening way: “I prefer when you 
kiss me softly rather than being rough.” 

A homework assignment I often give 
couples is to share sexual secrets in bed. 
In one exercise, you recount for each oth- 
er, and relive in detail, the most exciting 
ume you’ve ever had together. In anoth 
er, you write down explicit accounts of 
what you'd like to do, then read each oth- 
er’s script in bed. 

Reciting sexual fantasies is also a sure- 
fire way to get you in the mood—and 
help you learn new things about each 
other. Contrary to some couples’ fears, 
telling each other such intimate thoughts 
does not ruin the fantasy or your rela- 
tionship—as long as your partner 1s ac- 
cepung and nonjudgmental. 


EROTIC TALK 

Talking dirty was once considered de- 
viant—certainly something that nice 
girls didn’t do. But with increased sexual 
liberalism, sex talk is increasingly popu- 
lar. Recent surveys prove that even good 
girls now enjoy naughty talk. According 
to The Janus Report on Sexual Behavior 


7 per- 
; : ’ nd 


Erotic tall 
sometime | in ¢€ 
search has sh that 
ner the misleading mess: 
to go further in a sexual act 
ly do, and that it can lead to un 
Imagine, for example, crying out “Do it 
now!” before precautions are taken. 

While men are often the ones to initi- 
ate erotic talk, women find it arousing, 
too. Some wives are shocked or appalled 
when their partner first uses a crude term, 
but grow more accepting when they un- 
derstand what he’s really trying to say. 
Marcia, a thirty-eight-year-old account 
executive, complained that during sex 
one night, her husband had called her a 
slut. “Could it be,” I asked her, “that he 
meant that you are wild and wanton and 
turn him on? And that if you were really 
secure [about yourself], you wouldn’t be 
hurt and could even find it exciting?” Af- 
ter realizing how the word triggered neg- 
ative images from her teenage days, 
Marcia conceded that the “name-calling” 
had led her to a wilder orgasm than she 
had ever experienced. 


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continued 


however, between talk that’s meant to be 
playful and sexy, and verbal humiliation 
meant to degrade and destroy a person’s 
self-image. That kind of talk is both un- 
healthy and unacceptable in a loving re- 
lationship. Nor does one partner always 
have to go along with the other’s desires. 
For instance, if Marcia had found her 
husband’s dirty talk a turnoff, he would 
have had to accept that. 


EXPRESS YOURSELF 

Oftentimes we all need permission and 
encouragement to be more vocal in bed. 
Here’s how to get past your inhibitions: 
@ Explore your body’s sensations. Many 
women today still don’t know enough 
about their anatomy. However, some re- 
search indicates that the more you know 
and love yourself, the better able you are 
to share with a partner. 

@ If you feel uneasy practicing pillow 
talk, the best place to start is with your 
feelings. Tell your husband, “Id like to 
say how I enjoy being with you,” and 
share with him your concerns: “I was 
taught it isn’t proper to speak about sex.” 
Then, during lovemaking, start with sim- 
ple phrases, such as “That feels good.” 

@ Write down all the things you'd like to 
say to your husband. Then, practice say- 


ing them aloud to desensitize yourself to 
the fear of doing it with him present. Ask 
him to make the same list, and exchange 
them in an intimate moment. 

@ Experiment with using different words 
and phrases depending on your mood 
and the situation. Clinical terms or dirty 
talk may be loving and exciting at some 
times and crude and cold at others. 

@ Ask your husband for specific instruc- 
tions. He may say, “It all feels good.” 
That’s nice, but ask, “Tell me exactly: 
Do you like this faster or slower?” 

@ Always let him know when you enjoy 
what he says or does. 

@ If you want to try some erotic talk in 
bed, but feel hesitant about doing so, ex- 
amine your objections. Are your feelings 
based on a conservative upbringing or 
your religious beliefs? You may want to 
read sexy books or watch sexy videos to 
give yourself permission. Practice utter- 
ing phrases, first under your breath, then 
aloud in private. Next, picture yourself 
saying them to your partner. Imagine 
him smiling in approval. 

If your mind says, “That’s bad,” imag- 
ine who would disapprove. In an imagi- 
nary conversation with that person, say, 
“You may disapprove of this for you, but 
I don’t consider myself bad for it.” 


WHAT NOT TO SAY IN BED 


In passionate moments be careful not to 


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sabotage your intimacy by: ia 
@ Criticizing his or your own p 
mance by saying something like, ' 
touch me like that” or “’m no g 
this.” Replace negative thoughts v 
couraging ones. 
@ Saying “no” to sex the wrong 
While every healthy relationsh: 
room for sexual refusals, you sho 
ways explain why you’re not intere| 
that moment, reassure your partnd 
offer a time when you will feel | 
mood: “I would love to make lov 
you now, but I really had a hard di 
would like to cuddle and go to sle 
be fresher tomorrow morning for y¢ 
@ Boasting about past experien 
partners. Unless both of you are 
pletely secure about yourselves an¢ 
relationship, talk of others can 
competitiveness, distrust and jealov 
@ Starting a fight. Some couples u 
guments to fuel their passion. Acc¢ 
to The Janus Report on Sexual Behav 
percent of the men and 23 percent) 
women agreed that making love 
best way to make up after an arg 
However, people who need to get n 
get turned on usually have a fear o 
macy—arguing calms the anxiety | 
ing too close to the other person. I] 
pillow talk is often angry or coml 
professional help is necessary. | 
@ Telling him about your other tro 
Keep your lovemaking loving by s 
problems for another time and ] 
That was the problem for Kate anc 
ald. When Donald’s carpeting bus 
failed, Kate had to take some 
shifts at her nursing job. Bedtime 
their only private time together, a 
began to talk about money tr 
which sabotaged their previously 
mate and loving encounters. Whet 
sisted that they set aside a se 
“problem-solving hour” and a “p) 
sharing hour,” they were able to 1 
tain the loving support that would 
them through the troubled times. _ 

In the end, whether romantic or 
ic, pillow talk will translate i 
stronger love bond that extends fi 
yond the bedroom for every couple. 


Judy Kuriansky, Ph.D., 1s a sex he 
clinical psychologist and host of the 
New York radio talk show “Love Phon 


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URINARY TRACT 

INFECTIONS In most women, 
cystitis—the most common 
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treated effectively with 
conventional antibiotics. But there 
are new opuons for women who 
suffer from chronic cases: 
Lomefloxin. This antibiotic 

was introduced in 1992 to treat 
women who have recurrent 
cysutis. In addition to being 
stronger than other medications, 
it is the only one-tablet, 
once-a-day treatment. 

After-sex pill. Doctors have 
found that a single precoital or 
postcoital dose of an antibiotic 
can prevent cystius. from 
occurring in women prone to the 
infection. 

A vaccine. Researchers at the 








By Lauren David Peden 


University of Wisconsin, in 
Madison, are testing a vaccine 
that will prevent recurrent 
infections by stimulating the 
production of antibodies that 
prevent bacterial growth. 


INTERSTITIAL CYSTITIS Unlike 
“regular” cystitis, this 1s not a 
bacterial infection. Rather, it 1s a 
chronic inflammation of the 
bladder wall that results in 
frequent urination, and severe pain 
and pressure in the pelvic area. 

The cause of this malady 
remains a mystery, but researchers 
are working to learn more. Last 
year, Congress earmarked 
$4 million to study the ailment. 

In the meantime, several new 
treatments are on the horizon: 
Elmiron. An antibiotic that coats 
the damaged bladder wall with a 
protective lining. Although it 
hasn’t yet been approved by the 
federal Food and Drug 
Administration (FDA), it is 
available on a “compassionate 
use” basis. That means the doctor 
prescribing it needs to have the 
FDA’s permission and must 
follow strict guidelines. 
Nalmefene. An antihistamine that 
blocks the release of irritating 
substances from cells in the 
bladder wall. This treatment is 
currently moving toward the FDA 
approval process. 

Nifedipine. An anti-inflammatory 
drug that increases blood flow to 
the inflamed area. Currently used 
for other ailments, many doctors 


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Vaginal cones. Small weights 
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Stimulators. Battery-powered 
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PERSONAL 
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This year, resolve to make healthy living a top priority for the whole 
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THE THREE VITAMINS 
everyone should take 


Vitamin E, vitamin C and beta-carotene. They’re called antioxidants, 
and the evidence is mounting that taking them might save your life 


JANUARY 





f you've been watching the 
news or reading the papers 
lately, you've undoubtedly 
noticed the many health re- 
ports touting the benefits of 
vitamins. And, as you've 
walked down the aisles of your 





pharmacy or grocery store, you've 
orobably been struck by the sheer 
volume of pills from which to 
choose. You may be wondering: 
Which ones should | take2 





Most health professionals concur 
that women can benefit from get- 
ting extra calcium, which builds 
bones and guards against osteo- 
porosis. But now, a consensus is 
building that many women—and 
men—can benefit from three other 
pills as well: vitamin E, vitamin C 
and beta-carotene. 

“The evidence is becoming so 
impressive that it’s prudent for 
people to take these supplements 


64 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - JANUARY 1994 












because the potential benefit is} 
so great,” says nutritionist David) 
Schardt, M.S., spokesman for the 
Center for Science in the Public 
Interest, a nonprofit consumer 
advocacy organization in Wash 
ington, D.C. 

Not everyone agrees. The Nation 
al Academy of Sciences (NAS), 
which helped formulate the federal] 
government's recommended dietary} 
allowances (RDA) (continued 














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(continued) — for vitamins, says that 
it is possible to get sufficient 
amounts of these nutrients through 
food. Consequently, the NAS 
doesn’t advise heavy use of vitamin 
pills. “At this time, it’s premature,” 
says Paul Thomas, Ed.D., R.D., a 
project director for the NAS Food 
and Nutrition Board. For one thing, 
though no serious risks have been 
associated with higher-than-the-RDA 
doses, the long-term research is still 
ongoing. “There’s still a lot we don’t 
know,” Thomas says. 

But there is mounting evidence of 
the potentially lifesaving benefits of 
these three vitamins: 


VITAMIN E 
When Meir J. Stampfer, M.D., and 
his colleagues at Harvard Medical 
School and Brigham and Wom- 
en’s Hospital, in Boston, analyzed 
the vitamin-E intake of more than 
87,000 nurses in the ongoing 
Nurses’ Health Study, they found 
that women who took daily sup- 
plements of at least 100 interna- 


tional units (Us) of vitamin E for 
two years or more had about 43 
percent fewer heart attacks than 
those who didn’t take the vitamin. 
(Participants who took a multivita- 
min, which typically contains 30 
IUs of vitamin E, did not realize 
the same benefit.) 

Similar results occurred in the 
companion Health Professionals’ 
Follow-up Study. That study of 
51,529 men found that the group 
taking vitamin-E supplements daily 
for two years or more had an al- 
most 40 percent lower risk of 
heart disease. 

Vitamin E’s seemingly miraculous 
power comes from its activity as an 
antioxidant. Oxidation is a natural 
process that causes metal to rust, 
butter to go rancid and, in hu- 
mans, cells to age or be damaged. 
In the body, oxidation produces 
free radicals, renegade cells whose 
molecular structure is incomplete. 
The free radicals then try to scav- 
enge the missing parts from other 
body molecules. The resulting 


66 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - JANUARY 1994 


damage can lead to a number of 
serious illnesses. Antioxidants can 
block the process. 4 
This seems to benefit more than 
just the heart. Over the past- 
decade, studies have found that 
people who take vitamin-E supple- 
ments have a slightly lower risk Of | 
cancer of the colon, rectum, esoph=— 
agus and lungs. And the newest 
findings cite E’s positive impact on: — 
M@ The immune system. A 1991 
study of 200 men and women by 
scientists at the Department of Agri- 
culture’s Human Nutrition Research | 
Center on Aging at Tufts University, 
in Boston, suggested that supple- 
ments of vitamin E strengthen T 
cells, which fight invading germs. 
H Oro! cancer. In a study of 2,365 
people, researchers at the National 
Cancer Institute, in Bethesda, Mary- 
land, found half the risk of oral can- 
cer in people who took 100 IUs of 9 
vitamin E daily for at least six 
months. —— 
M@ Muscle pain. Mohsen Meyda 
Ph.D., an immunologist at Tutts 






















Human Nutrition Center, found that 
the twenty-one men who took vita- 
min-E supplements were less likely 
‘o experience muscle inflammation 
‘han those who didn’t. The scientists 
speculate that the extra vitamin E re- 
duces the release of oxygen radi- 
cals, which may be responsible for 
causing muscle inflammation. 


VITAMIN ¢ 

n the 1970s, when Nobel-laureate 
chemist Linus Pauling began touting 
he benefits of vitamin C for every- 
hing from cancer to the common 
old, the notion was greeted with 
skepticism by mainstream scientists. 
ut, increasingly, researchers are 
yeginning to think Pauling may have 
deen right. 

In recent years, studies have 
ound that vitamin C—also an anti- 
»yxidant—has many of the same 
denefits of vitamin E, plus a few 
»others of its own. In a recent survey 
of medical literature, epidemiologist 
“Sladys Block, Ph.D., of the Univer- 

iity of California at Berkeley School 


. 
7 


of Public Health, found that thirty- 
three of forty-six studies suggested 
that taking high levels of vitamin C 
seemed to protect people against 
various types of cancer, including 
lung, stomach, esophagus, throat, 
pancreas and mouth cancer. Ex- 
perts believe that the vitamin may 
prevent the formation of carcino- 
gens and enhance the immune sys- 
tem’s response. 

Like E, vitamin C is also thought 
to help fight heart disease. A study 
at the University of California in 
Los Angeles found that women 
taking about 300 milligrams of vi- 
tamin C daily were 25 percent less 
likely to die of cardiovascular dis- 
ease than those who weren't tak- 
ing a supplement. Men in the 
study had a 45 percent lower 
death rate. 

Other studies have suggested 
that vitamin C—as well as vitamin 
E—may reduce the risk of 
cataracts. And, although it has 
never been proved to effectively 
prevent colds, at least one study 


eet 


oe 





says that the vitamin can lessen 
severity of the symptoms. 


BETA-CAROTENE 
When you were a child, did your 
mom always tell you to eat your 
carrotse Well, it looks as if Mom 
may really have been onto some- 
thing. There’s evidence to suggest 
that beta-carotene—a key ingredi- 
ent in carrots as well as other yel- 
orange and 
vegetables—is an important nutri- 


low, dark-green 
ent for maintaining health and pre- 
venting disease. 

The third antioxidant, beta- 
carotene, has also been associated 
with a lower risk of stroke and heart 
disease. The most impressive evi- 
dence comes from the Physicians’ 
Health Study at Harvard University. 
More than 300 men entered the 
study with signs of heart disease. 
After five years, the ones who were 
taking a supplement of 50 mil- 
ligrams of beta-carotene every oth- 
er day had only half as many heart 
attacks, strokes and (continued) 

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DEPO-PROVERA Contraceptive Injection is a form of birth contro! that is given as an intra- 
muscular injection (a shot) in the buttock or upper arm once every 3 months. To continue 
your contraceptive protection, you must return for your next injection promptly at the end of 
3 months. DEPO-PROVERA contains medroxyprogesterone acetate, a chemical similar to 
(but not the same as) the natural hormone progesterone, which is produced by your ovaries 
during the second half of your menstrual cycle. DEPO-PROVERA acts by preventing your 
egg Cells from ripening. If an egg is not released from the ovaries during your menstrual 
cycle, it cannot become fertilized by sperm and result in pregnancy. DEPO-PROVERA also 
causes changes in the lining of your uterus that make it less likely for pregnancy to occur 


HOW EFFECTIVE IS DEPO-PROVERA CONTRACEPTIVE INJECTION? 


DEPO-PROVERA is over 99% effective, making it one of the most reliable methods of birth 
contro! available. This means that the average annual pregnancy rate is less than one for 
every 100 women who use DEPO-PROVERA. The effectiveness of most contraceptive 
methods depends in part on how reliably each woman uses the method. The effectiveness 
of DEPO-PROVERA depends only on the patient returning every 3 months for her next 
injection. Your health-care provider will help you compare DEPO-PROVERA with other con- 
traceptive methods and give you the information you need in order to decide which contra- 
ceptive method is the right choice for you 


The following table shows the percent of women who got pregnant while using different 
kinds of contraceptive methods. It gives both the lowest expected rate of pregancy (the 
rate expected in women who use each method exactly as it should be used) and the typical 
rate of pregnancy (which includes women who became pregnant because they forgot to 
use their birth control or because they did not follow the directions exactly). 


PERCENT OF WOMEN EXPERIENCING AN ACCIDENTAL PREGNANCY 
IN THE FIRST YEAR OF CONTINUOUS USE 


Lowest . 
Method Expected Typical 
DEPO-PROVERA 0.3 
0.3 0.3 
0.4 


Implants (Norplant ) 


Female sterilization 


Male sterilization 


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Combined 0.1 
Progestogen only 0.5 


1UD = 
Progestasert 2.0 
Copper T 380A 0.8 


Condom (without spermicide) 
Diaphragm (with spermicide) 
Cervical Cap 
Withdrawal 

Periodic abstinence 


Spermicide alone 


Vaginal Sponge 
Used before childbirth 
Used after childbirth 


No method 



























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Source: Trussell et al; Obstet Gyncol 76:558. 1990 


WHO SHOULD NOT USE DEPO-PROVERA CONTRACEPTIVE INJECTION? 


Not all women should use DEPO-PROVERA. You should not use DEPO-PROVERA if you 
think you might be pregnant, have any vaginal bleeding without a known reason, have 
had cancer of the breast, have had a stroke, have or have had blood clots (phlebitis) in 
your legs, have problems with your liver or liver disease, or are allergic to DEPO- 
PROVERA (medroxyprogesterone acetate or any of its other ingredients). You will have a 
physical examination before your doctor prescribes DEPO-PROVERA. It is important to 
tell your doctor if you are taking any prescription or over-the-counter medications or if 
you have a family history of breast cancer; an abnormal mammogram (breast x-ray), 
fibrocystic breast disease, breast nodules or lumps, or bleeding from your nipples; kidney 
disease; irregular or scanty menstrual periods; high blood pressure; migraine headaches; 
asthma; epilepsy (convulsions or seizures); diabetes or a family history of diabetes; or a 
history of depression 


WHAT IF | WANT TO BECOME PREGNANT AFTER USING DEPO-PROVERA 
CONTRACEPTIVE INJECTION? 


Because DEPO-PROVERA is a long-acting birth control method, it takes some time after 
your last injection for its effect to wear off. Based on the results from a large study done in 
the United States, for women who stop using DEPO-PROVERA in order to become preg- 
nant, it is expected that about half of those who become pregnant will do so in about 10 
months after their last injection; about two thirds of those who become pregnant will do so 
in about 12 months; about 83% of those who become pregnant will do so in about 15 
months; and about 93% of those who become pregnant will do so in about 18 months after 
their last injection. The length of time you use DEPO-PROVERA has no effect on how long 
it takes you to become pregnant after you stop using it 


WHAT ARE THE RISKS OF USING DEPO-PROVERA 
CONTRACEPTIVE INJECTION? 


1. Irregular Menstrual Bleeding 

The side effect reported most frequently by women who use DEPO-PROVERA for contra- 
ception is a change in their normal menstrual cycle. During the first year of using DEPO- 
PROVERA, you might have one or more of the following changes: Irregular or unpredictable 
bleeding or spotting, an increase or decrease in menstrual bleeding, or no bleeding at all. 
Unusually heavy or continuous bleeding, however, is not a usual effect of DEPO-PROVERA, 
and if this happens, you should see your health-care provider right away. With continued 
use of DEPO-PROVERA, bleeding usually decreases, and many women stop having peri- 
ods completely. In clinical studies of DEPO-PROVERA, 57% of the women studied report- 
ed no menstrual bleeding (amenorrhea) after 1 year of use, and 68% of the women studied 
reported no menstrual bleeding after 2 years of use. The reason that your periods stop is 
because DEPO-PROVERA causes a resting state in your ovaries. When your ovaries do not 
release an egg monthly, the regular monthly growth of the lining of your uterus does not 
occur and, therefore, the bleeding that comes with your normal menstruation does not take 


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place. When you stop using DEPO-PROVERA your menstrual period will usuall 
return to its normal cycle. = 


2. Bone Mineral Changes <3 
Use of DEPO-PROVERA may be associated with a decrease in the amount 
stored in your bones. This could increase your risk of developing bone fract 
of bone mineral loss is greatest in the early years of DEPO-PROVERA use, bi 
begins to resemble the normal rate of age-related bone mineral Joss. 


3. Cancer 
Studies of women who have used different forms of contraception found that wi 
used DEPO-PROVERA for contraception had no increased overall risk of develo 
of the breast, ovary, uterus, cervix, or liver. However, women under 35 years of 
first exposure to DEPO-PROVERA was within the previous 4 years may ha) 
increased risk of developing breast cancer similar to that seen with oral contre 
You should discuss this with your health-care provider. ’ ‘ 


4 Accidental Pregnancy > 
Because DEPO-PROVERA is such an effective contraceptive method, the:risk o 
pregnancy for women who get their shots regularly (every 3 months) is very low. 
have been reports of an increased risk of low birth weight and neonatal infa 
other health problems in infants conceived close to the time of injection, such, 
are rare. If you think you may have become pregnant while using DEPO-PROVEI 
traception, see your health-care provider as soon as possible. “a 


5. Other Risks 

Women who use hormone-based contraceptives may have an increased risk 
or stroke. Also, if a contraceptive method fails, there is a possibility that the 
will begin to develop outside of the uterus (ectopic pregnancy). While these e 
you should tell your health-care provider if you have any of the problems list 
section. 


WHAT SYMPTOMS MAY SIGNAL PROBLEMS WHILE USING DEPO-PRO\ 
CONTRACEPTIVE INJECTION? : 


Call your health-care provider immediately if any of these problems occur | 

injection of DEPO-PROVERA: Sharp chest pain, coughing of blood, or sudden 
breath (indicating a possible clot in the lung); sudden severe headache or vol 
ness or fainting, problems with your eyesight or speech, weakness, or numb! 
or leg (indicating a possible stroke); severe pain or swelling in the calf (indicat 
clot in the leg); unusually heavy vaginal bleeding; severe pain or tenderness 
abdominal area; or persistent pain, pus, or bleeding at the injection site. 


WHAT ARE THE POSSIBLE SIDE EFFECTS OF DEPO-PROVERA 
CONTRACEPTIVE INJECTION? 


1. Weight Gain 

You may experience a weight gain while you are using DEPO-PROVERA. Ab 
of the women who used DEPO-PROVERA in clinical trials reported a weight gai 
pounds during the first year of use. You may continue to gain weight after th 
Women in one large study who used DEPO-PROVERA for 2 years gained an a 
of 8.1 pounds over those 2 years, or approximately 4 pounds per year. Women 
ued for 4 years gained an average total of 13.8 pounds over those 4 years, or 2 
ly 3.5 pounds per year. Women who continued for 6 years gained an average 
pounds over those 6 years, or approximately 2.75 pounds per year. Ҥ 


2. Other Side Effects ; 
In a clinical study of over 3,900 women who used DEPO-PROVERA for up to 7: 
women reported the following effects that may or may not have been related to 
DEPO-PROVERA: Irregular menstrual bleeding, amenorrhea, headache, 

abdominal cramps, dizziness, weakness or fatigue, decreased sexual desire, 
nausea, vaginal discharge or irritation, breast swelling and tenderness, bloating, 
the hands or feet, backache, depression, insomnia, acne, pelvic pain, no 
excessive hair loss, rash, and hot flashes. Other problems were reported by vi 
women in the clinical trials, but some of these could be serious. These include ¢ 
jaundice, urinary tract infections, allergic reactions, fainting, paralysis, osteopor 
return to fertility, deep vein thrombosis, pulmonary embolus, breast cancer, or ¢ 
cer. If these or any other problems occur during your use of DEPO-PRO' 


them with your health-care provider. , 
) 


SHOULD ANY PRECAUTIONS BE FOLLOWED DURING USE OF DEPO PR 
CONTRACEPTIVE INJECTION? : 


1. Missed Periods 
During the time you are using DEPO-PROVERA for contraception, you may | 
or your periods may stop completely. If you have been receiving your DEI 
injections regularly every 3 months, then you are probably not pregnant. 
think that you may be pregnant, see your health-care provider. 


2. Laboratory Test Interactions , 
If you are scheduled for any laboratory tests, tell your health-care provider 
using DEPO-PROVERA for contraception. Certain blood tests are affected 
such as DEPO-PROVERA. 


3. Drug Interactions 
Cytadren (aminoglutethimide) is an anticancer drug that may significant 
effectiveness of DEPO-PROVERA if the two drugs are given during the same 


4. Nursing Mcthers 
Although DEPO-PROVERA can be passed to the nursing infant in the breast 
ful effects have been found in these children. DEPO-PROVERA does no 
breasts from producing milk, so it can be used by nursing mothers. Howe 
the amount of DEPO-PROVERA that is passed to the infant in the first 
you should wait until 6 weeks after childbirth before you start using DEP 
contraception 


HOW OFTEN DO | GET MY SHOT OF DEPO-PROVERA CONTRACEP 


The recommended dose of DEPO-PROVERA is 150 mg every 3 months 
intramuscular injection in the buttock or upper arm. To make sure that you a 
at the time of the first injection, it is important that the injection be given on 
5 days after the beginning of a normal menstrual period. If used following th 
child, the first injection of DEPO-PROVERA should be given within 5 days aft 
you are not breast-feeding or 6 weeks after childbirth if you are breast-fee 
longer than 3 months between injections, or longer than 6 weeks after 
health-care provider should determine that you are not pregnant before 
injection of DEPO-PROVERA. 


receive a prescription. 


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(continued) sudden deaths 
as those who weren't. 

Another recent study suggests 
that beta-carotene can help bat- 
tle the negative effects of the 
sun’s ultraviolet rays. Scientists 
at Cornell University, in Ithaca, 
New York, monitored the diets 
of 24 healthy men. Half of the 
men took a 30-milligram sup- 
olement of beta-carotene; the 
sther half, a placebo. The im- 
mune systems of men with low 
evels of beta-carotene were 
»nore easily weakened by the 
jun’s rays. 

Other studies have linked 

»yeta-carotene to a reduced risk 
of lung, colon, prostate, cervical 
and breast cancer. 
_ Beta-carotene converts inside 
'he body into as much vitamin A 
vis is needed, making it impossi- 
»yle to take too much. It is possi- 
pole, by contrast, to overdose on 
} upplements of vitamin A, which 
‘an cause liver ailments and 
ther problems. 










HOW OFTEN, HOW MUCH? 
~you think you should be tak- 
1g these supplements, you're 
irobably wondering how often 
bh nd how much. Ask your doctor 
ir nutritionist to get an answer 
est suited to your individual 
»eeds. But, as a guideline, the 
-enter for Science in the Public 
jaterest recommends these 
) mounts: 

I Vitamin E The government's 
} DA is 30 IUs, but you can get 
}ptimal benefit from a daily dose 
nf 100 to 400 IUs. (Read vita- 
Niin labels to determine the 
4 osage the pills contain.) 

WI Vitamin C Though the RDA 
1. 60 milligrams, it’s probably 
}-orth taking a daily dose of 250 
1) 500 milligrams. 

!1 Beta-carotene There is no 
|DA for beta-carotene, but 
1 0,000 to 15,000 |Us per day 
iay be helpful. You don’t need 
on—beta-carotene vitamin A, 


Pome, it should not be more 
ian the recommended dietary 
: lowance of 5,000 |Us. 


Ask the 
PEDIATR! 


Winter is prime time for doctors to field question: 
from anxious parents. These top M.D.s uddnees some 
of the most common concerns. By Ilene Springer 





My child has been cough- 
ing for a week. Should | 
be concerned? 


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tomatically should 
If your child develops 
a fever with a cough, 
seek medical attention 
because this may sug- 
gest an infection. A cold 
may turn into an ear infection or 
even pneumonia, and both usual- 
ly require antibiotics. 
Carol Phillips, M.D., professor of 
pediatrics at the University of 
Vermont College of Medicine, 
Burlington 


Most coughs are due 
to viral infections, 
and these can go on 
for weeks. The impor- 
tant thing is to see how 
your child is doing oth- 
erwise. If she has no 
fever, is eating well 

and tolerates normal 
exercise, then there’s 
not much to worry about—or do, 
except provide plenty of fluids to 
keep the respiratory 
passages moist. 

You do have to wor- 
ry about croup, a com- 
plication of a viral 
infection, usually occur- 
ring in children aged 
three months to two 
years. It often starts as a 
runny nose and then pro- 
gresses to a_ high- 
pitched, barking 
cough, indicating the 
airways are getting narrow from 
swelling. If this happens, con- 
tact your doctor. 

Usually, though, 
most coughs are more 
annoying than any- 
thing else. If your 
child coughs at night, 
try a mild over-the- 
counter children’s 
cough medicine. Chil- 
dren’s cold formulas are 
generally safe if 
they're taken only 


JANUARY | My little girl has a 
temperature of 
| 103°F. What 


should | do? 


Fever itself is not a 
disease; it’s a symp- 
tom that the body is fighting an 
infection. So when your child 
has a temperature. stay in touch 
with your doctor—not because 
of the fever, but because of what 
might be causing it. 
More important than the actual 
temperature is how your child looks 
and acts. If your child 
eats okay and interacts 
and sleeps normally, it’s 
less likely that she has a 
serious illness. (Excep- 
tion: Always call your 
physician if an infant de- 
velops a fever of 100.5°F. 
or greater. With babies, it’s hard- 
er to determine what’s going on 
from their behavior.) 

If your child isn’t uncomfort- 
able, you may not have to treat the 


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when needed. fever at all. Some studies suggest 
(Just because the instructions say — that certain infectious organisms are 
to take medicine four times a day destroyed more readily — (continued) 

73 


(continued) at a higher body tem- 
perature. But if your child 1s irritable, 
try giving her acetaminophen or 
ibuprofen. (Never give a child under 
eighteen aspirin because of the asso- 
ciation with a dangerous condition 
called Reye syndrome.) Always deter- 
mine the appropriate dosage and 
form (pill, syrup, etc.) with your doc- 
tor before giving it to your child. 
Most fevers are due to viral in- 
fections and usually ease up after 





forty-eight hours. But if the fever 
persists or other symptoms arise, 
such as ear pain or sore throat, seek 
medical attention. Your child may 
have a bacterial infection that re- 
quires antibiotic treatment. 

Lewis R. First, M.D., assistant profes- 
sor of pediatrics, Harvard Medical 
School, in Boston 


My thirteen-year-old fell on 
the ice today. Now he’s com- 
plaining that his ankle hurts. 
What should we do? 


First, look at the ankle to see if it’s 
swollen. If it’s also warm and ten- 
der to the touch, this indicates in- 
flammation. Bring your son to the 
doctor’s office or hospital to have 
his ankle evaluated; he may have a 
fracture. Also bring your child in if 
there’s a deep cut or a lot of bleed- 
ing; stitches may be needed. 

If there’s just swelling, rest the 
ankle; apply ice for twenty-minute 
sessions several times a day; com- 
press the ankle by wrapping an 
elastic bandage around it (consult 


with your physician to make sure 
you do it correctly); and elevate the 
ankle. Don’t be alarmed if you see 
discoloration—bluish, reddish or 
purplish bruising—at the injury 
site. This normally accompanies 
injury and means that there’s been 
bleeding under the skin. Some- 
times the bruising occurs hours or 
days after the injury, and the sever- 
ity of bruising is not always related 
to the extent of the injury. 

Knee injuries are also common 
during the winter sports season. 
Because of the intricate structure 
of the knee, these injuries always 
should be evaluated by a doctor. 
Lillian M. Beard, M.D., practicing 
pediatrician and associate clinical pro- 





fessor of pediatrics, George Washing- 


ton University School of Medicine, in 
Washington, D.C. 


My children like to stay out a 
long time in the winter. How 
can I prevent frostbite? 


Staying warm and dry are the keys 
to preventing frostbite. Dress your 
children in layers (including wool), 
which help trap air and insulate 
the body. Don’t let them play out- 
side when the wind-chill tempera- 
ture is minus 20°F. or below, 
although the temperature doesn’t 
even have to drop below freezing 
for frostbite to occur. If your child 
is out too long or gets wet, he is at 
risk. Water cools the skin more 
rapidly than air alone. 

Frostbite commonly strikes the 
toes, fingers, ears and tip of the 
nose. Therefore, cover these areas 
adequately. In very cold weather or 
while playing in the snow, your 
children should wear at least two 
pairs of gloves or mittens. Buy wa- 
terproof footwear—not sneakers— 
in a size big enough to accommodate 
a couple of pairs of socks. Use 
glove and sock liners. Your chil- 
dren should always wear a hat and 
a face mask or scarf if they’re out- 
side for a long time. 

Children won’t always admit 
that they’re getting cold, so check 
them frequently. Signs of frostbite 
include very cold skin that be- 
comes painful and then numb, pos- 


74 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL — JANUARY 1994 


John McNamara, M.D., pulmonole 











































sibly appearing pale and waxy. 
Frostnip, less serious and more} 
common, involves very cold skin} 
that still has some sensation. When} 
it’s warmed, it gets red, warm 01 
tingly. Frostbitten skin has no sen= 
sation, and needs immediate medi=} 
cal attention. 

If frostbite occurs while you're 
far from medical treatment, don’t 
rewarm the part and then allow it 
to freeze again. Serious skin da 
age can result. Rather, let the skin 
remain frozen until you get help. 
Mindy Sherman, M.D., acting direc 
tor of pediatric emergency services @ 
Massachusetts General Hospital, im 
Boston 


My baby has a cold, ana 
sometimes | hear a wheezing 
sound. Should I be con:- 
cerned? 


Not all noisy breathing is wheez- 
ing. True wheezing is a high- 
pitched, musical sound coming 
from the chest, usually on exhal- 
ing. More commonly, noisy breath- 
ing is due simply to nasal 
congestion. Try to distinguish the 
two by listening to your child’s 
chest. If you think you hear wheez- 
ing—or have any doubts—call your 
doctor for further instructions. 

Children up to two years often 
wheeze as a result of a viral infee- 
tion called bronchiolitis. This occa- 
sionally requires hospitalization 
but often can be treated at home. 
Sometimes children persistently 
wheeze for weeks or even months 
requiring medication, in response 
to a particular, one-time infection 
Usually, this is the only wheezing 
episode in their lifetime. But abou 
7 percent of children wheeze be 
cause of reactive airways disease, é 
newer term for asthma. If asthmé 
runs in your family, your child is 
more likely to develop it, and th 
wheezing may be triggered b 
colds, other viral infections and al 
lergies. In this case, your child wil 
have to carefully follow a treatmen 
plan prescribed by your doctor. 
gist, Minneapolis Children’s Medical 
Center, in Minnesota 





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always gain 
weight over 
the holidays,” 
says Janine 
Latus-Musick, 
thirty-four, of 
Columbia, Mis 
souri. Although her 
weight gain doesn’t usually amount 
to much—no more than a few 
pounds—Janine says it still has to 
come off. “I’m only five feet tall, 
and any extra pounds are obvious 
on a frame this small,” she explains. 

Janine’s problem is typical of 
millions of women who put on sev- 
eral pounds each year in the weeks 
between Thanksgiving and New 
Year’s. So if your New Year’s reso- 
lution is to take off those extra 
pounds, you’re not alone. 

The reason holiday weight gain is 
so prevalent is painfully obvious: 
“During the holiday period, sched- 
ules and regular eating habits get 
out of sort,” says Karen Miller- 
Kovach, M.S., R.D., general manag- 
er of program development for 
Weight Watchers, International. Be- 
tween big holiday meals and parties, 
most people end up eating far more 
calories than usual. And exercise 
routines are often disrupted as well. 

But the holidays may not be the 
only culprit. The changing season 
can be a factor as well. Someone ac- 
customed to walking every day, for 
example, may not feel as motivated 
when it’s cold and dark out. Some 
researchers also speculate that peo- 
ple may store extra fat as winter 
approaches, just like animals who 
do so in anticipation of a decreased 
food supply or hibernation. 





GETTING STARTED 

First of all, don’t panic and go on a 
crash diet. “The notion of losing 
ten pounds in ten days, or some- 


|The party's over 


You ate heavily throughout the holidays, and now 
you're paying the price in extra pounds. Here’s how to 
get rid of them. By Sharlene King Johnson 


thing absurd like that, 1s danger- 
ous,” says Robert Hackman, Ph.D., 
associate professor of nuirition at 
Oregon State University, in Corval- 
lis. Still, once you’ve made the de- 
cision to take off the weight, start 
doing something immediately, says 
Robert H. Lerman, M.D., Ph.D., 
director of the Evans Nutrition 
Group at Boston University Medi- 
cal Center Hospital, in Boston. 

Of course, the real trick is devis- 
ing a sensible plan that you can 
stick to. Hackman is one of a grow- 
ing number of experts who believe 
that traditional “crash dieting”’— 
cutting calories drastically for a 
short period of time—is often more 
harmful than helpful. While peo- 
ple can and do lose weight by diet- 
ing, they usually gain it right back. 


THE TRANSITIONAL DIET 
However, Hackman concedes that 
dieting is not always bad for you. 
“If you use it as a transitional tool 
to return to a healthy state, I would 
recommend it,” he says. Hackman 
advocates slow and steady progress: 
“A pound or two per week is con- 
sistent with the research on safe 
weight loss. It’s important to con- 
sume a fair amount of food every 
day—no skipping meals and no 
skimpy portions.” In general, says 
Miller-Kovach, you can expect to 
lose the weight in about as much 
time as it took to put it on. 


THE BATTLE PLAN 

The bottom line, according to 
many experts today: It’s not neces- 
sarily how much you eat, but what 
you eat that counts—and what you 
should be eating are low-fat pro- 
teins and carbohydrates. Why? 
They’re not only filling, they’re less 
readily converted to body fat than 
are high-fat foods. 





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Your goal, then, should be to fill 
up on fruits, vegetables, grains and 
legumes. Even on 1,000 to 1,200 
calories per day, you should still be 
able to eat a fair amount of these 
kinds of foods. “If you drop below 
one thousand calories per day, the 
likelihood that you'll be able to meet 
your nutritional needs becomes in= 
creasingly slim,” says Miller-Ko- 
vach. To be on the safe side, take a 
high-quality vitamin and mineral 
supplement while dieting. 

Hackman believes it’s also im 
portant to eat frequently—as often 
as five to six umes a day. He rec- 
ommends the following schedule: 
breakfast, a mid-morning snack, 
lunch, an afternoon snack and din- 
ner. Frequent meals not only keep 
your blood sugar more stable so 
your energy levels remain consis- 
tent, but they also keep your 
metabolism—the rate at which you 
burn calories—from dropping. 


HOT FOOD FOR COLD DAYS > 
Living on fruits and veggies is one 
thing in the summer and some- 
thing else entirely in the middle of 
winter. Not only is fresh produce 
scarce and more expensive, but 
many of us crave creamy, hot com- 
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Ex 
oT (continued) colder months. 
©. The solution to the first 
iis problem is to rely more 
on produce that’s in sea- 
son, as well as frozen 
vegetables. As for those 
comfort-food cravings, get 
creative: Try poached 
fruits instead of high- 
calorie pies; use legumes 
and vegetables in low-fat 
soups and stews. 












MOVE THAT BODY 
Cutting back on fat and 


calories is important, but the ex- 
perts agree that eating less is not 
enough to guarantee weight con- 
trol. “You need to find ways to be- 
come more physically active that 
are both enjoyable and doable in 
cold weather,” says Miller-Kovach. 
Her suggestions: Try mall walk- 
ing; take a swimming class at the 
local YWCA; use a treadmill or 
stationary bike. Building extra ac- 
tivity into your daily routine will 
help you burn still more calories, 
says Lerman. Park your car far- 
ther away from the office or shop- 


ping center, and use stairs insteac 
of elevators. a 

Whenever you feel stressed or 
bored, don’t reach for food as an 
automatic response. Choose to do 
something active instead. Exercise 
not only burns calories, it also re 
lieves stress. 

Finally, once you’ve lost the 
weight, don’t give up on good eat- 
ing and exercise habits—keep them 
for life. After all, says Lerman, “It’s 
best to prevent weight gain in t 
first place, instead of trying to d 
with it afterward.” 




















































78 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL = JANUARY 1994 


HE LHJ POST-HOLIDAY SLIM-DOWN PLAN 


This five-day eating plan was designed to help you make the transition from calorie-laden holiday foods to a healthy 
diet. Each day’s meal plan includes three meals and two snacks for a total of about 1,100 calories per day, with less 
_ than 20 percent of calories from fat. A calorie-free beverage, such as herbal tea, diet soda or mineral water, may be 
added to any meal_or snack. A daily multivitamin and mineral supplement is recommended for anyone on a re- 
duced-calorie diet: By Jodie Donnelly Perry, R.D. 


DAY 1 


BREAKFAST: 3/4 cup 
cooked oatmeal, 2 T. 
raisins, dash of 
cinnamon, !/2 cup 
nonfat milk, 1/2 cup 
orange juice 

SNACK: | small apple 
LUNCH: | cup 
minestrone, 2 sections 
rye cracker, | ounce 
low-fat mozzarella string 
cheese, spinach salad 
(2 cups spinach leaves, 
1/4 cup sliced 
mushrooms, '/4 cup 
shredded carrots, 2 T. 
oil-free Italian dressing) 
SNACK: 2 small 
gingersnap cookies (1/2 
ounce), sugar-free hot 
cocoa 

DINNER: Chicken 
quesadilla (7 small corn 
tortilla, cut in half, 1/2 
cup cooked, diced 
chicken, 1 ounce low-fat 
shredded cheese, | T. 
mild green chiles; layer 
half the ingredients on 
tortilla half, repeat with 
second layer, bake 5 
minutes at 350°F. or until 
cheese softens; top with 
1/4 cup salsa and 2 T. 
nonfat sour cream), salad 
(2 cups mixed greens, 
'/2 cup cucumber slices, 
2 T. natural rice wine 
vinegar), | cup nonfat 
milk 


Total calories: 1,035 
(19 percent of calories 
from fat) 


DAY 2 
BREAKFAST: 2 slices 
low-calorie whole wheat 
toast, 2 tsp. sugar-free 
fruit spread, '/2 
grapefruit, | cup nonfat 
milk 

SNACK: !/2 cup 
seedless grapes (about 
15 grapes) 

LUNCH: 1 small whole 
wheat bagel, 2 ounces 
95% to 98% fat-free 
ham or roast beef, | T. 
fat-free mayonnaise, | 
tsp. flavored mustard, 2 
T. alfalfa sprouts, 1 
medium tomato stuffed 
with 1/4 cup low-fat 
cottage cheese and 
sprinkled with paprika 
SNACK: 1]-ounce 
wedge of angel food 
cake (no icing), topped 
with | cup unsweetened 
strawberries mixed with 
1/2 cup sugar-free, 
nonfat flavored yogurt 
DINNER: 2-ounce 
white fish fillet, 
microwaved, baked or 
broiled, with lime juice, 
1 T. low-calorie tartar 

| sauce, | small red 
potato, baked with skin 
and seasoned with 


1/2 cup green beans, 
2 cups mixed salad 
greens, | T. fat-free 
dressing 






Total calories: 1,065 
(12 percent of calories 
from fat) 


butter-flavored sprinkles, 





DAY 3 
BREAKFAST: 1 four-inch 
frozen waffle, toasted, 
with 2 T. nonfat sour 
cream (flavor with 
almond extract), 1 large 
tangerine, sugar-free hot 
cocoa 

SNACK: Fruit smoothie 
(1/2 cup juice-packed 
peaches, | cup nonfat, 
sugar-free fruit yogurt, 
crushed ice, vanilla 
extract to taste; blend) 
LUNCH: Hot pocket 
sandwich (1 small wheat 
pita filled with 1 ounce 
fat-free cheese, grated, 
2 ounces smoked turkey 
breast, 1 T. nonfat sour 
cream, | T. salsa. Heat 
at 350°F. until cheese 
melts), 1/2 cup jicama 
sticks, 3 radishes, 1/2 
cup baby carrots, 2 T. 
fat-free ranch dressing as 
a dip, '/2 cup sugar-free 
gelatin 

SNACK: 1 small apple, 
baked with cinnamon 
and nutmeg, | T. tat- 
free cream cheese 
DINNER: 1 cup cooked 
angel hair pasta tossed 
with 1/2 cup diced 
tomato, basil and garlic, 
2 T. Parmesan cheese, 
salad (2 cups romaine 
lettuce, 1] T. sliced water 
chestnuts, 2 T. oil-free 
Italian dressing), | cup 
nonfat milk 





| Total calories: 1,135 


(9 percent of calories 
from fat) 








DAY 4 
BREAKFAST: 1] raisin 
English muffin, 2 tsp. 
sugar-free fruit spread, 

1 cup sugar-free, nonfat 
fruit yogurt, 1 medium 
orange 

SNACK: 1 small winter 
pear or 1/2 cup 
unsweetened canned 
pears 

LUNCH: Shrimp Louis 
(2 cups mixed greens, 

2 ounces bay shrimp or 
20 canned cocktail 
shrimp, '/2 cup tomato 
chunks, 1/4 cup sliced 
celery, !/4 cup water- 
packed artichoke hearts, 
sliced, 2 T. oil-free 
Italian dressing), 2 slices 
low-cal whole wheat 
toast 

SNACK: 10 fat-free 
pretzel crackers, | cup 
nonfat milk 

DINNER: Pizza bread 
(2 ounces French bread, 
sliced, 2 T. pizza sauce, 
garlic powder and 
Italian seasoning to 
taste, '/4 cup sliced 
mushrooms, |] ounce 
thinly sliced Canadian 
bacon, | ounce low-fat 
mozzarella cheese, 
grated; broil until cheese 
bubbles), 1 cup mixed 
cauliflower and snow 
peas, microwaved or 
steamed 







Total calories: 1,150 
(13 percent of calories 
from fat) 






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DAY 5 
BREAKFAST: 1 cup 
Wheat Chex cerea 
cup nonfat milk, 3/4 
unsweetened frozen 
blueberries, thawed 
SNACK: 2 butter- — 
flavored popcorn 
sugar-free hot coco 
LUNCH: Soft taco 
(1 small corn tortilla, 
cup cooked and ma: 
pinto beans, | ounce 
shredded fat-free ; 
jalapeno jack a 7 














































diced green onions, 2 
salsa, 1 T. nonfat sour — 
cream), 1/2 cup sliced — 
unsweetened peaches 




























sugar-free fruit yogurt 
DINNER: Oriental 
chicken (Cook in : 
nonstick pan with water — 
or defatted broth: 2 
ounces skinless chicken — 
breast, 1 cup red, green 
or yellow pepper stri 
] cup mixture of 

shredded cabbage o 
sliced mushrooms, 1] 
lite soy sauce), 1/2 cu 
steamed brown rice, f 
cup juice-packed 
pineapple chunks 

























Total calories: 1, 
(6 percent of calo 
from fat) 












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THE COUNTRY CLASSIC - 

HAS A WHOLE NEW GIG. 

OO BUT HOW DOES SHE 
MAKE IT ALL LOOK SO 

sO EASY2 BY MIRIAM KANNER 


or a little bitty slip of a 
thing, Dolly Parton is big z 



















big big. When the country 
singer—slash-songwriter- 
slash-performer-slash- Jae-aege mee pS metics, fragrances and beauty treatments 


— 
actress greets a 


from Revlon, called Dolly Parton’s Beauty 
visitor at the | 
door of her gayi 
New York 


City pied-a-terre, her blond named by her, with her own thirty-minuté 












scramble of hair is big, her fabu- TV infomercials (they begin airing this 






lously fake eyelashes are big. . . month) and an 800 number (see page 85). 5 


and her curvese The biggest: lusher “I’ve been dreamin’ about this for years 
than life can realistically support, and and years and years!” she swears, and a ree 
fitted snugly into a soft, sequin- ceptive listener can almost see the young 


strewn sweater. 















girl—the fourth of a dozen dirt-poor kids from 


And then she smiles. Which is £ | the foothills of the Great Smoky Mountains= 





Dolly Parton’s biggest asset of all. Be- dabbing on eye shadows and teasing up hel 


cause this five-two, forty-seven-year- sisters’ hair into complicated dos. In fact, it Was 





old bundle of talent and ambition from Dolly who approached Revlon about a parts 





Locust Ridge, Tennessee, has a way of nership. “Second to music, | have always 





defusing all stares, all snickers, all in- loved makeup!” she confesses. “I think’ 


credulity at the cartoon va-va-voomness | hadn’t made it in show businessy: 
probably would have been a beautician 
And | would like to think | would have 


been the best colorist!” 


of her frankly fake hillbilly persona with 





appealing grins, giggles and self-mock- 





ing comments delivered in a fast-paced 


Tinnessee drawl. But being famous has always been a crava 





ing for Parton. It’s what made her hop a bus! 
to Nashville in 1964, straight out of high 


school, to pursue a singing career. On hem 


“Heck,” she says, “I don’t think every- 






body wants to look like the town tramp! But 
that’s kinda how | pattern my look.” 


Her look matters even more these days be- first day in town she (continued on page 14 


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\LAWLESS SKIN 
‘on’t skip moisturizer— 
“sa must if you want 
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»oncealer to go on 
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| ast results, apply 
»oncealer over foundation 
») it stays put, then dust 
ig translucent powder. 
For the sheerest, most 
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poply foundation with a 
“amp wedge-shaped 
-akeup sponge (available 
- most drugstores). The 
edge shape makes it 
Psy fo even out skin tone 
ound the base of the 


nose and other hard-to- 
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BRIGHT EYES 

For a great daytime look 
that's right for work or 
weekends, stick to soft, 
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bring out every eye color. 
Don’t apply shadow one 
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and forth on both eyes for 
an even look. 

To improve the staying 
power of eye pencil, brush 
a darker shade of eye 
shadow over the line. 

Rest the heel of your 
hand against your chin for 


more control when lining 
yOur eyes. 

If you have dark circles, 
tired-looking eyes or 
droopy lids, apply mascara 
to top lashes only. 


NATURAL GLOW 
Don’t skip the face powder 
before applying blush. It 
will keep blush from 
looking streaky and help 
it stay fresh for hours. 
For the most natural 
look, apply blush while 
smiling. Sweep across 
cheek apples toward 
hairline to just above 
the ears. 





PERFECT MOUTH 
Don’t forget the corners of 
your mouth when applying 
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Imagine discovering that your husband had a daughter he'd never even 





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met. Or that your marriage of twenty-two years was suddenly over. For 


our “Voices of the Decade,” the five women whose lives the Journal is 


following, 1993 was an especially emotional year. Find out about their 


real-life dramas and how they coped. By Kathryn Casey 


DY NT Wace) ee Me A 





ventful and difficult are the two 
words Id use to describe this past 
year. In April, I became a small- 
business owner when I opened my 
own beauty salon adjacent to our 
family farm. But the event that most affected our family 
occurred when a twenty-one-year-old woman walked into 
our lives and announced that my husband was her father. 

Jack, who’s seven years older than me, had told me 
when we were dating that there was the possibility he had 
fathered a daughter when he was a high school senior. Af- 
married, he brought it up again, asking, “What 
would you do if she ever came looking for me?” Because I 
had the impression he didn’t believe the baby was his, I 
told him we'd cross that bridge when the time came. 

In October 1992, the time had come. Jack was outside 
his parents’ house getting ready to haul a truckload of 
grain when a young woman, Tonya Jackson, walked up 
to him. She introduced herself to Jack by saying, 
“You're supposed to be my dad.” Jack took one look at 
her and realized how much she looked like him. “Well,” 
he said, “I guess I probably am your father.” 


ter we 


That initial meeting lasted only minutes. “I don’t 
know if I’ll ever see you again, or if I even want to; I just 
86 


wanted to find out who you were,” Tonya told Jack. 
Then she left. 

It was the following night when Jack finally told me 
about Tonya’s visit. I was stunned. Almost immediately, 
though, my curiosity took over, and I wanted to know 
everything about her. But Jack seemed disinterested. “I 
don’t know if she even wants to see me again,” he said. 
Later, I realized he was in shock. 

Within a few days, however, Jack had tracked Tonya 
down. Two weeks later, he and I picked her up at her 
apartment in Indianapolis and took her out to dinner. 
When we sat down in the restaurant, I got my first good 
look at my husband’s daughter. She was beautiful, tall 
and thin with long blond hair. 

When I asked how she had managed to track Jack 
down, Tonya said, “You were easy to find.” Though she 
knew only his name and that he lived in Eminence, in 
such a small community it wasn’t hard to find us. 

As we talked, I found myself staring at Tonya. I 
couldn’t get over how much this girl looked like my hus- 
band. In fact, she resembled him more than any of our 
three children do—Molly, twelve, Ty, ten, and Casey, 
six. Tonya had Jack’s blue eyes, his bone structure and 
many of his mannerisms. I almost (continued) 





L BED FIVE WOMEN REPRESENTING A CROSS-SECTION OF THE U.S. AND BEGAN 
iT OF THE CENTURY, PUBLISHING A REPORT EACH JANUARY. THE COMPLET 


yfna (right), “Tonya has 
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continued) flipped when they both ordered sour cream and 
then spread it over their food. 
Tonya came out to meet our kids a few weeks later. They took to 


her immediately, but the truth is, Jack and I were having problems. 


We were both plagued by some very deep feelings. I found myself 


resenting Jack, not understanding how he could have ignored his 
own child for so many years. For his part, Jack grew depressed and 
filled with guilt. “You don’t know what it’s like,” he told me one 
night when I went into the bedroom, where he holed up almost daily 
for weeks. “She’s twenty-one years old. I’ve missed her entire child- 
hood. She doesn’t even call me Dad.” 

“You don’t deserve that, Jack,” I told him. “You didn’t raise her. 
Her mother and the man she married did.” 

When day after day passed and Jack remained depressed, I didn’t 
know what to do for him. Finally, I called a longtime friend who I 
knew would understand what we were going through. She had re- 
cently told me that at the age of sixteen she had given birth to a baby 
girl, and that her parents had forced her to put the child up for adop- 
tion. “I hope someday my daughter finds me,” she said. “You don’t 
know how I envy Jack.” 

That night I suggested Jack call my friend, and after some prod- 
ding, he did. Having someone who understood how he felt made all 
the difference. Before long, Jack began acting more like himself. 


ANNE WEATHERILL, 48, CLARKSTON, WASHINGTON 





_DIANE BISHOP, 35, VALLEY FORGE, PENNSYLVANIA 


I’ve been happily married for over a 
year now to Dave. And last August, he 
legally adopted my son, Sean, eight. So 
today, with Dave’s daughter, Leigh 
Ann, also eight, we’re a real family. 

But we've had our difficulties, too. 
Over the last year, my health problems 
have been so severe that sometimes 
I’ve felt like a walking time bomb. 

Just what’s wrong with me is the 
source of some controversy. All the 
doctors seem convinced that I have an 
autoimmune disorder, a disease that 
signals my immune system to attack 
my own body. This last year it was so 
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for six weeks. 


darn nice. 


ast year | hired on as a reporter for a division of the Lewiston Morning Tribune, 
our local daily newspaper. It’s the first fairly permanent job I’ve had in two years 
and | love it. Since | was laid off by a weekly paper in 1991, I’ve kind | 
bounced around, but, thank God, I’ve always been able to work steadily. 

My husband’s job as a pilot for Continental Airlines is more uncertain. | 
year, the airline came out of bankruptcy. But at the end of the summer, they an- 
nounced drastic cutbacks, and the Spokane route, which allowed us to live in Clarkston and 
Jim commute to his base in Denver, has been cut. He may be reassigned to a new base. 

How ironic that we would even be considering the possibility of a move now, when for the fi 
time in many years our daughters are both living relatively near. Maryanne, twenty-five, 
speech therapist at a hospital in Spokane, and Christine, twenty, is a junior at Washington 
University, in nearby Pullman. 

Still, everything that really counts is good. Jim and | have been married for twenty-seven y 
and we still enjoy being together. The important things are okay. 


bad it almost put me in a wheelchair. 
I’m a systems analyst for a major de- 
fense contractor, and I couldn’t work 


I don’t know how I could have en- 
dured all this without Dave. It was 
particularly poignant for me when he 
adopted Sean, because of my fears 
about my health. Knowing that Sean 
will always be part of Dave’s family 
has given me a sense of peace. 

Right now, though, I’m taking it 
one day at a time. And those days, with 
my husband and children, are pretty 


















































For the first time, Jack and I were able to sit down and really talk 
about what had happened eight years before I even met him. He exe 
plained how his parents, especially his mother, were opposed to his 
marrying Tonya’s mother, who was only sixteen at the time. After ag 
while, I stopped blaming Jack and he stopped blaming himself. This 
was just something that happened a long time ago. | 

In the past year, Tonya, who’s now twenty-three, has become au] 
part of our family. The children love her, and I’ve learned to relate} 
to her almost as a friend, which is easy because she’s smart and fun 
to be with. Jack and I brought her over to meet his mom and dady 
and they, too, were ready to greet her with open arms. 

Unfortunately, it wasn’t as easy for Tonya at home. Once when 
she was visiting, I asked, “What does your mother say about all 
this?” Tonya began to cry. She said both her parents had been 
against her contacting Jack. I understood the resentment Tonya’s: 
mother probably felt for Jack, yet I also sensed how important it was 
for Tonya to find him. It was her way of discovering herself and how 
she fit into the world. 

It’s been an emotional year for all of us, and there will still be 
adjustments to make. But last winter, without any prodding, 
Tonya called Jack “Dad” for the first time. It made him very hap= 
py and proud. Somehow, I think that in time all of this is going to 
turn out just fine. 


MOLLY MINNICK, 34, CHEBOYGAN, MICHIGAN 





1993 was a traumatic time for our family. We moved to 
this small town from East Lansing last year after Dave 
finished his medical training, and since then, Murphy's 
Law has been the order of the day—just about every- 
thing that could go wrong has. But the worst was last 
summer, when our youngest, six-year-old Andy, was vi- 
ciously attacked by a German shepherd. 

Moving to Cheboygan was not what we expected. 
We were grateful to be leaving the frenetic pace of city 
life behind, and | was enthusiastic about taking a 
respite from my career as a genetic social worker to 
spend more time with our three children. But we 
couldn't find a home we wanted to buy, so we were 
forced to rent. Then, one day, when our son Andy went 
outside, he was attacked by our landlord’s son’s Ger- 
man shepherd, which was usually kept penned up in 
the backyard we shared with our landlord and his fami- 
ly. Andy's arm was bruised from the elbow to the shoul- 
der and red with the imprint of the dog’s powertul teeth. 

Still suffering from the trauma, poor Andy regressed 
to the point of acting like a two-year-old. He had night- 
mares and wasn’t able to go to bed by himself. Dave 
and | took him for counseling, but it was months before 
he started acting like his cheerful little self. Since we 
moved out of that awful house at the end of the sum- 
mer, our lives have finally taken on a sense of normal- 
cy. We now own a beautitul new home, and the 
children are all back in school. Brandon, seventeen, is 
a senior, and Julie, fourteen, is in ninth grade. Andy is 
our first-grader. Dave and | have finally settled in 
enough to do something we've discussed since 1989: 
We're trying to have another baby. Maybe at this time 
next year we'll have happier times. 








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HAVE YOU EVER WONDERED WHAT 
IT WOULD BE LIKE TO LIVE AS A 
MAN2 OR WISHED YOUR HUSBAND 
COULD WALK IN YOUR 
HEELS—FOR JUST A LIT- 
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PLE CARRIED OFF A 
ROLE-SWITCH—WITH 
SURPRISING RESULTS 


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housekeeper in order to be 
near his kids after his ex-wite 
gains custody. But gender- 





bending in the movies is one 
thing—getting away with it in the real 
world is another thing altogether. Could if 
f be done? LHJ asked a pair of actors toy 
- take on the ultimate role-playing chale 
lenge. We wanted to find out what it’s really 

like for a man to experience life as a woman, 

and vice versa. And since Sheila McDevitt, thirtys 
four, and Simon Brooking, thirty-three, are mar 
ried, the project took on a whole new dimension: 
Although they’ve known each other for ten years 
and have been wed for five, they discovered as= 
pects of each other’s life that they could only have 
guessed at. 

The transformation began each morning with 
padded bodysuits designed by special-effects artist 
Richard Tautkus, of Long Island City, New York. Sis 

mon also endured having his eyebrows waxed, and 

Sheila’s gorgeous hair was cut. And then the makes 
up. The danger, of course, was that they would look 
exaggerated, like male and female impersonatorss 
But makeup artist Jim Crawford, of New York City 
who gave Sheila heavier eyebrows, chin stubble ang 
a mustache, kept their makeup subtle. Clothin 
completed the switch. The result: two attractive, bes 

lievable people. f 

But that was only the beginning. As the week 
progressed, Sheila and Simon kept detailed dis 
aries that tell the rest of the story. 


simon, aka Linda 

MONDAY: Getting dressed as a woman is so complicated! It takes forty 

yst to shave my legs, and | butchered the left one. | come out of the bathroom cor 
ag about the blood, and Sheila says, “Should | act like you do when | 


ut myselfe” | feel a little sheepish. | never had a problem shaving _gesassmme 







































ny face; | didn’t realize shaving your legs could be so difficult. 

It takes about three and a half grueling hours to become 
Linda.” When | finally see myself complete, | start to believe 
nat it’s actually possible—maybe | can pass as a woman! 





Looking at myself in the mirror, | wonder if I’m standing like * 
i woman, smiling like a woman. I’ve noticed during the weeks 
spent preparing for this role that women smile more in gener- 
il—and when | don’t smile, my face looks too masculine. 
| decide to spend some time wandering around 
‘ur neighborhood. | soon find that my long nails 
yake my hands useless (never mind how 
ifficult it is to put on pantyhose!). Trying 
9 dig a quarter out of my pocketbook 
> buy a paper is practically impossible. 
'UESDAY: \Ve start making up early. 
oday, it’s a little easier. | try on a pair of 
onservative yellow slacks and a white 
yp. | look in the mirror and think, Oh, 
iy God! I’ve become my mother! 
Although yesterday went well, I’m 
till very nervous about going out in 
ublic again as “Linda.” | hate the 
ought that someone will know I’m a 
yan dressed as a woman. Sheila and | 
yk about my sudden attack of stage 
ight. Although |’ve never thought of 
vyself as a supermacho type, it’s usually 
-ard for me to admit being afraid about 
nything. This project, though, is really 
vaking us talk about how we feel. 
| put on my high-heeled pumps and go 
'> Macy's to buy some perfume. The 
/oman behind the counter is very gra- 
} ious, even cozy. “Men love this scent,” 
one confides as she dabs it on my wrist. Her 
asual acceptance of me gives me more 
onfidence to face the rest of the day. 
|_| can’t believe that I’m passing for a wom- 
non the streets of New York (continued) 





By Sheila 
McDevitt 
and Simon 
Brooking 






(continued) 
City. A sidewalk 
peddler tries to 
sell me some- 
thing; when | say, 
“No, thank you,” 
he replies, “Ooh, 
sexy voice!” Suddenly, | feel 
a flash of anger that a sim 
ple exchange of remarks 
has to be made into some- 
thing sexual. 

| take the train home dur- 
ing rush hour, and it’s 
packed. Having breasts and 
hips means parts of your 
body are out there, and | 
worry about people brush- 
ing up against me or grab- 
bing me. My padding may 
not feel as realistic as it 
looks! A man sits down next 
to me with his legs apart, 
crowding me even further. 

At home, | think about 
the day and realize that in 
some ways |’m playing an 
exaggerated version of the 
stereotypical passive female. 
| have this image in my 
mind of what women are 
like, but | begin to wonder 
how much gender is shaped 
by the expectations of soci- 
ety (not to mention the stric- 
tures of women’s clothing) 
and how much is really in- 
trinsic to men and women. 
Do women take smaller 
steps because they naturally 
have a less aggressive stride 
or because it’s impossible to 
do anything else in heels 
and a skirt? I’m not sure. 
WEDNESDAY: Major 
fashion crisis! My outfit just 
doesn’t look right. Also, | 
have noticed men’s eyes 
drifting toward my breasts, 
and | don’t feel comfortable 
unless I’m wearing a jacket 
to cover them. Finally, | set- 
tle on my brown wrap skirt 
and plaid blazer. | realize 
that being a woman means 
being continually noticed 
and assessed. 

As | stand outside a deli, 
waiting for a friend, an old- 


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er man looks me over. He 
walks by once, twice, eyes 
me in a lecherous way. | 
feel very uncomfortable and 
try to avoid looking at him. 
How does Sheila deal with 
thise | vow to be more care- 
ful about how | look at 


women in the future. 

Later, when Sheila and | 
are back to normal at 
home, | discover the most 
amazing part of this assign- 
ment: We're both in a very 
amorous mood! | think 
both of us feel the need to 
reaffirm our real sexual 
identities as a man anda 
woman. 

THURSDAY: | have a 
lunch date on Wall Street 
with my friend Isabel. I’m 
feeling pretty good, until | 
come up out of the subway 


a 


into the financial district. 
Groups of men walking 
five abreast are roaming 
the sidewalks. | suddenly 
become very de- 
pressed and wor- 
ried. | wonder how 
all these macho 
men would react if 
they knew who | 
really am. 
FRIDAY: | hove discov- 
ered there are some things | 
just can’t do. | cannot bring 
myself to use the ladies’ 
room. | keep thinking that if 
a woman realizes I’m a guy, 
she'll feel that her privacy is 





being invaded. What if 
someone called the cops? 

In the evening, we decide 
to go to Tatou, a club, for a 
late dinner and dancing. 
The place is packed. | feel 
very self-conscious again, 
worried about someone get- 
ting too close to me. | no- 
tice suddenly that | expect 
“Sean” to do everything for 
me—he’s getting my drinks, 
hanging up my coat. It’s in- 
credible how easy it is to slip 
into this role, and | must ad- 
mit, | kind of like it. 





Sheila, aka Sean 
MONDAY: |’m waiting 
while my bodysuit gets some 
final adjustments. I’m impas 
tient to try out my new look, 
Once |’m ready, | have to 
wait for Simon to finish 
dressing as “Linda.” How 
much easier it is to be a 


guy! No hair curlers, nom 
mascara. As a woman, | ale 
ways feel like I’m never pret- 


ty enough, skinny enough o 
firm enough. But here | am, 
this barrel-chested guy, and 
| feel powerful. 

At the photo shoot for this 
story, the photographer 
keeps reminding me not to 
smile so much. It’s hard. | 
try to sit like a man, shoul- 
ders back, legs apart. I’m 
really taking up space; if 
feels great! 

| go to a trendy bar in 
Manhattan with the makeup 
artist for a drink. | order a 
beer. Then | panic when | 
realize | have to go to the 
bathroom—in the men’s 
room. At first, the urinals are 
all | see. Thank God, no 
one is using them. | find an 
empty stall. 

Last week, | promised my 
friend Suzi that I’d go to @ 
cocktail party with her to- 
night. | don’t know anyone 
there but her, so I’m ve , 
careful to lower my voice 
and watch the other men for 
clues on how to act. It seems 
there’s no question in any- 
one’s mind that I’m a man 
As we all make small talk, 
realize that I’m much more 
animated than the mer 
around me; | constantly noe 
my head and show more fa- 
cial expression than they de 
Gradually, | tone it down ane 
try to act more like them. 
TUESDAY: “Lindo” and 
plan to spend the morning 
running errands together 
We worry that our roles wi 
be more difficult whe 
we’re interacting with eact 
other in public, but as 
walk to the subway, no one 
pays any particular atte 
tion to us. 

At the bank, we wate 
carefully for any strang 








looks. Again, no reaction as 
we make our deposit. Then 
it’s off to lunch. When the 
food arrives, “Linda” is de- 
mure, picking at a Caesar 
salad. | take a huge bite of 
my chicken in what | assume 
to be true macho fashion 
and nearly choke. Is this 
how Simon does it? He al- 
ways eats so fast. 

Walking down the street, 
| feel very protective of my 
husband in his feminine get- 
up. I’ve always loved Simon’s 
eyes, and with the false eye- 
lashes, they really stand out. 


_ And he’s so courageous. 


How many guys would have 
even wanted to attempt 
thise | feel like I’m falling 
in love all over again. Is 
there something that’s not 
male, not female, just hu- 
man, that makes us love 
each other? 

When we kiss good-bye, 
“Linda” is not very demon- 
strative—only a little peck. | 
wonder if Simon feels 
strange kissing a mané | 
certainly feel a little odd 
kissing a woman! 

| have to drop off some 
papers at the office where | 
work part-time as a comput- 
er programmer. My col- 
leagues are fascinated with 
my disguise. The women, in 
particular, want to know ev- 
erything about the project. 
The guys start punching my 
shoulder as a joke. Soon, 
though, it becomes almost 
their natural behavior. 

“Linda” is supposed to 
stop by, and when she 
shows up, one of my male 
co-workers looks her over. 
He’s very embarrassed 
when he finds out she’s re- 
ally a man, almost angry. 
I’m proud that he found 
“Linda” so attractive, but he 
seemed terribly threatened. 

When “Linda” leaves, | 
decide to walk through the 
Garment District, an area | 
normally avoid because the 
guys who unload the trucks 
there always seem to have 
something to say to women 
who walk by. I’m feeling 


‘smug that they won’t say 


anything to me tonight, 
when suddenly | realize I’m 
a prime target for mugging 
in my nice suit. | guess 
women aren’t the only ones 
who feel vulnerable. | 
change course and stay on 
a busy street as | walk to a 
small lrish pub to meet my 
friend Rick. He’s amazed 
when he sees me but soon 
starts treating me just like 
one of the guys, even 
though he knows |’m a 
woman. He flirts heavily with 
the waitress, something I’ve 
never seen him do before. 
He obviously feels like it’s 





okay to flirt in front of 
“Sean,” even though he 
would never have done that 
in front of Sheila. 
WEDNESDAY: Waiting 
for “Linda” to get ready. 
She’s driving me crazy! 
Nothing looks right, she 
says; nothing goes together. 
| try to help, but my opinion 
doesn’t matter. I’m wearing 
jeans and a flannel shirt. No 
matching, no accessorizing! 
We go to a play, and 
during intermission, when 


I’m standing outside 
for a few minutes, a 
rides by on a | 
smiles and checks me oui a 
she rides by. At that mo 
ment, | wasn’t thinking of 
my spouse; it was nice to be 
looked at with approval. 

THURSDAY: | leave work 
early to meet “Linda.” | still 
feel very protective of her 
She keeps trying to walk on 
the outside of the sidewalk, 
and | keep switching places 
with her. My father was al- 
ways a very chivalrous man, 
and | realize that in some 
ways |’ve been modeling my 





“Linda” felt 
exposed in a skirt, 
while “Sean” felt 
powerful in his 
male uniform 


behavior after him. Some- 
times | feel like a walking 
cliché of manliness 

“Linda” has to stay in the 
city to see her agent, so | 
take the subway home 
alone. | actually feel safe 
enough to nap a little. I’ve 
never done that before. 

| go into my neigborhood 
hardware store to look for a 
new clothesline. Usually the 
men who work there follow 
me around and ask if they 
can help me, assuming | 
wouldn’t know a ham from 
a hacksaw. Today, they let 
me wander on my own. 
FRIDAY: After a late din- 
ner, we decide to dance. By 
now, we’re both into our 
roles. | push 
through the crowd, leading 
“Linda.” We're a little more 


my way 


and 
( 5C 
oIirea 
me. | cai 
My la 
miss tne 
dressed, 1 
dence of being ma 
the same time, | can’t wa 
to wear a dress again |! just 
wish | had “Linda’s” legs!) 


Back to nature 
Although both Simon and 
Sheila often tound them- 
selves conforming to clichés 
about how men and women 
behave, they did learn a few 
things about the opposite 
sex. Simon now knows how 
it feels to be looked over— 
and possibly found lack- 
ing—while walking down 
the street. Other aspects of 
being a woman he enjoyed 
much more: “It was fun to 
lei someone else take 
charge,” says Simon. “But | 
definitely can live without 
the long nails.” 

Sheila, on the other 
hand, enjoyed the 
anonymity of not being 
stared at for a change. But 
the best thing about being 
a man, she says, was the 
sense of being able to take 
up space. “| didn’t have to 
sit with my arms crossed 
and my legs together,” she 
says. However, both con- 
cluded that there are many 
things about the other gen- 
der that will always remain 
mysterious. 

In the end, both their 
marriage and their confi- 
dence in themselves as per- 
formers 
“We've been on this great 
adventure together, and it’s 
made us so much closer,” 
they say. “And after pulling 
this off, we know we’re 
damned good actors.” 


grew stronger. 


Text by Sharlene King Johnson. Pro- 
duced by Kimberlie A. Waugh. Spe- 
cial-effects artist, Richard Tautkus,; 
stylist, Jeannine Lynch; set stylist, 
Pamela Damonte-Markovic; hair and 
makeup, Jim Crawford for Indorato 
Artists; Sheila’s haircut, Lyn D’Albert 
for Warren Tricomi Salon 


LOST IN THE FORBIDDING CCLORADO MOUNTAI 
HER COMPANIONS. SHE WAS WRONG. A STORY 


ditors’ note: Last 

February, the nation 

waited as nearly one 

hundred — rescuers 
searched for a party of skiers 
lost in the mountains near As- 
pen, Colorado. The group of 
seven miraculously survived the 
ordeal in what seemed to be 
an instance of extraordinary 
bravery; however, the skiers 
themselves quickly turned the 
post-rescue celebrations info a 
vicious round of blame and dis- 
sension—caused by both the 







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media feeding 
frenzy that sur- 
rounds any such 
event and the sim- 
ple clash of per- 
sonalities that may 
have led fo the cri- 
sis in the first 
place. One member of the 
party, art-gallery owner 
Brigitte Schluger, was charac- 
terized by some of her part- 
ners as weak, unprepared 
and dependent on them for 


survival. In this interview, 




















Schluger tells a different story. a 


“What happened to me on™ 
that mountain and afterward — 
is a metaphor for what hap- 
pens to women every day in 
our society,” Brigitte Schluger — 










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says passionately. 

We are sitting in the house 
of a good friend of hers, ad- 
miring the gorgeous view of 
the Rocky Mountains. At fifty- 
one, Brigitte is youthful, en- 
ergetically upbeat and 








beautiful, with a ready sense of 


humor. A bandage covering 
her damaged right thumb is the 
only visible aftermath of the 

five-day ordeal. 
The psycho- 
logical scars, 


however, are still very much 
there. During those five terri- 
fying days, she learned the 
bitter lesson of what being a 
woman alone, without o true 
ally, means in a primitive strug- 
gle for survival. (continued) 





(\COPLLEILUEU) ZAC, WilCTL SHO LOU IIL 
she was finally safe, she suffered anoth- 
er, more insidious ordeal, initiated by 
the very people she thought she could 
trust. Suddenly, she found she had to 
defend herself publicly. 

“Clearly, there are people who will 
think of me as weak and helpless,” she 
says. “But that’s not what I am, and I 
could not stand to be portrayed that 
way one minute longer. I was so proud 
of what I did out there, and to have 
been so sullied and my actions so dis- 
torted was unbearable.” 


BAD OMENS 

Brigitte had first heard about 
the ski trip in December 
1992, during a birthday party 
for an acquaintance, Ken 
Torp, an administrator at the 
University of Colorado. Near- 
ly a decade earlier, she had 
been introduced by a friend to 
Torp and to video-production- 
firm co-owners Dee Dubin, 
forty-seven, and her husband, 
Rob, thirty-nine. Since then, 
she had gone on several back- 
country trips with them and 
other friends. 

At the party, the Dubins 
invited Brigitte to a ski trip 
over the weekend of Febru- 
ary 19. She demurred at first, 
but Torp urged her on. “I 
had made a New Year’s reso- 
lution that 1993 would be my 
‘year of participation,’ ” says 
Brigitte. “Now I had no ex- 
cuse not to go.” 

Torp had made reserva- 
tions at the Goodwin-Greene 
Hut, one of many cabins 
available for lodging in the area. From 
a parking lot not far from the Ashcroft 
Ski Touring Center, fifteen miles south 
of Aspen, they would ski up a route 
known as Express Creek to the hut. 
Brigitte believed the trip would be well 
organized: “Ken had a reputation for 
being obsessively careful. I trusted him 
completely.” 

Nonetheless, on the first day of the 
trip, things got off to a bad start. When 
she set off with the Dubins on Thurs- 
day, Brigitte suddenly realized she 
hadn’t packed her sleeping bag and had 
to borrow one en route from a friend. 
She was troubled by her uncharacteris- 
tic forgetfulness: “I couldn’t get over it. 
It struck me as quite the omen.” 

That night, they met up with Torp 
and the others at an Aspen hotel: Elliot 
Brown, a forty-three-year-old metailur- 
gist; newcomer Richard Rost, thirty- 
four, head of facilities for the local 
transit agency; and Rost’s then-girlfriend, 
Andrea Brett, forty-two, who worked 
for Torp. Brigitte suggested going for a 
drink or a bite to eat, but no one 


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SCCIICA TIlE Cote. OU Was ous pr ilolu at 
this lack of camaraderie—and began to 
feel uneasy about venturing off with 
people she didn’t know very well. 

(Her discomfort was a warning 
sign. Brian Baird, a psychologist and 
chair of psychology at Pacific Luther- 
an University, in Tacoma, Washington, 
who studies dynamics between people 
in the backcountry, later told a Denver 
newspaper that most accidents happen 
when skiers don’t work well together.) 

Friday morning, rush-hour traffic 
delayed the skiers a crucial hour and a 
half getting to the trailhead. They 
would have to hurry to make the eight- 





SAYS BRIGITTE: “I’VE LEARNED | CAN PROTECT MYSELF IN A 
SITUATION WHERE THERE IS NO PROTECTION” 


mile trek to the cabin before dark. 
Oddly, no one discussed the weather, 
although forecasters were predicting a 
big winter storm that weekend. In the 
past two weeks alone, more than six 
and a half feet of snow had fallen in the 
area, and between eighty-five and one 
hundred avalanches—an extraordinary 
number—had been reported to the au- 
thorities the week before. 

Brigitte, relying on Torp’s judg- 
ment, didn’t question the hazards; as 
far as she knows, nor did anyone else. 
At Ashcroft, another skier tried to 
warn them away, but Brigitte says Torp 
replied, “Well, Express Creek is always 
a crapshoot.” 

The group set off in the light snow- 
fall. They worked their way uphill, 
picking their way gingerly across sever- 
al avalanche areas—or “chutes.” But, 
Brigitte says, after about six hours, Ken 
Torp made a critical error: He led the 
party to the right, instead of to the left. 
Then the others made the mistake of 
letting his decision stand, although 
they sensed it was wrong. 


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tinctly going to the left six years ago,” © 


says Brigitte. “Dee and Andrea whis- 
pered to me, ‘We went to the left last 


time.’ ” But Torp, she says, insisted he — 


was right. “He said it with such convic- 
tion that we followed him, though I 
didn’t want to. I think what happens to 
many women, including me, is that 
while they have good instincts, they 
tend to suppress them when they face 
an authority figure.” 

Later Brigitte was told, she says, by 
Elliot Brown that Torp had disregard- 
ed his compass and map, which had 
also indicated a left turn. 

The group followed Torp 
for another hour. Then as the 
light left the sky, he an- 
nounced laconically, “Well, 
folks, I guess this isn’t it.” 

His announcement was 
met with stunned silence; 
there was no chance now that 
the party would reach shelter 
that night. “He had no idea 
where the hut was. None. I 
was very mad, but what was 
there to say? It was done,” 


would be too risky to ski 
back now, they decided to 
make camp until morning. 


A NIGHT IN HELL 

But the group was ill pre- 
pared to weather a night out- 
doors. They had no tents or 
ground covers and only one 
portable stove. The high, ex- 
posed area provided no shel- 
ter from the snow, which was 
blowing wildly by now, and 
when several members tried 
to build a snow cave, it quickly col- 
lapsed. The tired skiers dug a hole near 


says Brigitte. Knowing it 


a tree, where the Dubins, Brigitte, El- — 


liot Brown and Andrea Brett set their 
sleeping bags side by side. Torp and 
Richard Rost, who had waterproof 
sleeping bags, slept nearby. 

The endless night was “unspeakable, 
horrible,” says Brigitte. The wind 


pushed snow over the hole, and it be- | 


gan to fall in on itself in a funnel effect. 
“Since I was in the middle, I sank 
down farther and farther from the oth- 
ers’ body heat,” Brigitte says. “People 
were piling on top of me. Every so of- 
ten I couldn’t breathe and would jump 
up, and the snow would fall into the 
sleeping bag.” 

At dawn, Torp and Rost shoveled 
the others out from the heavy, wet 
drifts. The mood was grim. “We were 
all in terrible shape; I was panicky be- 
cause I was so cold,” recalls Brigitte. 
“Andrea was making windmills to bring 
circulation to her hands.” They started 
down the mountain, struggling against 
the blinding snow and fierce wind. 


After half an hour, Brigitte saw that 
Torp and Brown had broken away and 
had climbed atop a steep hill, defying 
the cardinal rule of the mountains that 
a group should never split up unless 
absolutely necessary. Brigitte knew she 
couldn’t possibly maneuver this new 
route. Richard Rost followed the men 
for a minute, then rejoined the others. 
“I’m not going to follow Ken on that 


Brett, which should still have been visi- 
ble. Brigitte kept protesting, “This 
doesn’t look right to me,” and, she says, 
Rob Dubin screamed back, “Shut up! 
You shouldn’t think so much. I’m pret- 
ty sure this is the right way.” It wasn’t. 
Rob now told Brigitte to get in front 
and cut a path in the snow for them. 
Though aghast, she obeyed, feeling she 
had no choice. By some accounts, Du- 


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said angrily. 

News reports later said 
that Torp and Brown had 
gone ahead to “scout a 
route” for the others. Bui 
when Richard Rost visited 
Brigitte in the hospital, he 
told her another story: After 
Rost had argued that no one 
else could manage the dan- 
gerous terrain, Torp had 
said, “I cannot be responsi- 
ble for these people.” 


“DROP YOUR PACK” 


The remaining five skiers 
forged on. Dee Dubin and 
Brigitte, who both fell sever- 
al times in the thigh-high 
drifts, straggled behind the 
rest. “All you could think 
was: Please don’t let me fall 
again,” Brigitte says. 

Around nine o’clock, Rost 
and Andrea Brett, worried 
that Brett was in danger of 
succumbing to hypothermia, 
decided to split from the 
group and ski on ahead. The 
couple made it back to their 


_car late that afternoon and re- 


THE PRICE OF A RESCUE 


The total cost of the search for Brigitte Schluger and her 
partners reached upward of $70,000. But the county will 
likely never receive compensation for its efforts. A state law 
enacted last January grants compensation for rescues under 
a four-tier system of priorities, with funding going first to res- 
cues involving people with sporting licenses or registered off- 
road vehicles, snowmobiles and motorboats. (Surcharges on 
these licenses go into a rescue fund.) The second tier is for 
rescue of the relatives of these people; the third, where most 
of the money goes, is funding for training and equipment. 
The Aspen skiers would fall into the fourth and last tier, 
which is any other uncompensated search. According to 
Brighid Kelly, a Division of Wildlife spokes- 
person, Pitkin County has not submitted a request for com- 
pensation, and “even if they had, there would not have been 
any money left for them,” she says. 

Some Aspen residents feel that the skiers themselves 
should foot the bill. But Sheriff Bob Braudis, who supervised 
the rescue, says, “None of the skiers has donated money to 
us at this point, and none has been asked.” (However, 
Brigitte Schluger says she did make a donation to one of 
the rescue teams.) 

The National Parks Service is currently researching a policy 
that would require people pursuing hazardous outdoor 
sports in national parks to compensate the federal treasury 
in some form if they need rescuing. Says Braudis, “The de- 
bate on whether we should continue to pick up the tab for 
people who like to live on the edge is just beginning.” —S.P. 


However, Brigitte ré 

Dee’s words to her afterward 
were less than heroic: “The 
only reason I gave you the 
sleeping bag is that I didn’t 
want you to sleep between 
my husband and me.” 


CLOSER TO SAF=’ 
According to Brigitte, she 
continued to lead the way on 
Sunday. “It felt as though my 
heart was jumping out of my 
body. I often thought I 
wouldn’t be able to take the 
next step, but if I stopped, 
Rob would scream at me to 
keep moving. I finally told 
him, ‘I’m doing the best I 
can. If you don’t like it, you 
can break trail.’ But he ig- 
nored that.” 

On Monday, feeling light- 
headed and dazed after an- 
other night in the cold, 
Brigitte plowed ahead for 
two hours before finding the 
miracle they needed: the 
Dorchester Cabin, a fur- 
nished hut owned by the Bu- 
reau of Land Management. 


ported the others missing, but 
the weather prevented rescue 
efforts from beginning until Monday. 
Rob Dubin, waiting for the two 
women to catch up, began, Brigitte 
says, to scream at her to discard her 
gear so the party could move more 
quickly. She refused; she needed her 
sleeping bag and supplies. (Normally, 
when a skier is too weak to carry a 
backpack, the leader divides the useful 
items among the rest of the team. But 
the Dubins took nothing of Brigitte’s.) 
Rob, she says, was insistent, and so 
Brigitte made a crucial mistake. “There 
was something so urgent, so forceful 


about his voice that I gave in, dropped 


eee 


it and skied down to him,” she says. 
“The irony is that we then had to wait 
a half hour for Dee to catch up. At one 
point, she was dragging her pack with 
her ski pole.” Yet, she says, Dubin never 
asked his wife to abandon her supplies. 


A LIFE-AND-DEATH ARGUMENT 

Dee Dubin caught up to her partners, 
and they started off again. But Brigitte 
noticed that there was no sign of the 
tracks left by Richard Rost and Andrea 


bin told the press that he had done 
this because she was the weakest; in 
fact, it is the stronger skiers who usu- 
ally break trail. 

Brigitte was concerned about surviv- 
ing another freezing night, now that 
she had no sleeping bag. Already, her 
hands had the grisly gray pallor of 
frostbite. But they would not make it 
out that day; at three P.M., Rob decided 
to make camp. 

What happened next would become 
the most hotly disputed incident of the 
whole ordeal. Brigitte says, “I felt humuili- 
ated—I have a very hard time asking for 
anything—but after a while I said, ‘Do 
you think I could have one of these sleep- 
ing bags?’ No answer. I got the impres- 
sion Rob was mad that I even asked.” 

Rob, says Brigitte, offered her a jack- 
et and some extra clothes instead. She 
repeated, “I would really prefer a sleep- 
ing bag.” He reportedly protested that 
if he and Dee shared a bag, they 
wouldn’t be able to close it against the 
cold. “Finally, I asked again, and Dee 
said very reluctantly, ‘Well, I guess we 


As it turned out, Ken Torp 
and Elliot Brown had just 
spent a warm night in this 
cabin. They had stamped the word 
HELP in the snow and hung the flag 
upside down as a distress sign. They 
left a note inside for rescuers, explain- 
ing they “got separated from the other 
five,” detailing their travel plans and 
apologizing for “any residual mess.” 
(Strangely, the note expressed no con- 
cern for their fellow skiers.) Then they 
skied off—again in the wrong direc- 
tion—until they reached a resort forty 
miles south of Aspen. From there, they 
called their families and the authorities. 

Exhausted, dehydrated and frostbit- 
ten, the Dubins and Brigitte lit the 
stove with the few scraps of firewood 
they could find; when that ran out, 
they then broke up furniture. They ate 
canned herring and freeze-dried cot- 
tage cheese, then went to sleep. 

By now, dozens of volunteers, in- 
cluding Rob Dubin’s two brothers, had 
joined in the search, though weary offi- 
cials were giving the remaining skiers 
less than a 10 percent chance of sur- 
vival. Pitkin County Sheriff Bob 
Braudis (continued on page 146) 


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“WE NEED PLEA- 
BARGAIN REFORMS” 


BARBARA LAWALL, ADMINISTRATIVE 
CuHieF Deputy, PIMA COUNTY 
ATTORNEY'S OFFICE, TUCSON, ARIZONA 


“The entire criminal-justice system Is 
undermined by plea bargaining. 
The process was developed to save 
time and money and to concentrate 
the resources on high-priority cases. 
But that’s not always what happens. 
Often, we aren't protecting the 
community and providing the kind 
of justice that needs to be provided. 
When defendants can bargain their 
way through the system without ac- 
cepting responsibility for their ac- 
tions, the system loses credibility. 

“In 1989, Robert Lee Walden was 
arrested for two attacks in Tucson: 
He tried to run down one woman 
with his car and then kidnapped an- 
other woman a month later. If either 
case had gone to trial, he would 
have faced mandatory prison time. 
Instead, he was allowed to plead 
guilty on a charge that did not man- 
date jail time, and was given proba- 
tion. In 1991, he was arrested 
again—this time on fourteen 
counts, including sexual assault, 
sexual abuse, kidnapping and first- 
degree murder. He now faces a 
death sentence. Had he been jailed 
for those first offenses, those rapes 
would never have happened. The 
woman he killed would still be alive. 

“Prosecutors’ offices across the 
country must make their policies 
more clear and well defined, stat- 


ing the conditions under 
which plea bargains may 
be entered, so prosecutors 
can’t offer pleas based on 
their individual preferences. 

“These policies must 
also be prioritized; the 
most dangerous offenders 
should be subject to the 
most stringent requirements 
before being allowed to 
plea. Currently, almost any 
type of case is eligible for 
plea bargaining—even 
murder, rape, armed rob- 
bery and child molestation. 
Expediency should not re- 
place the process of what 
we are all about: holding 
people accountable for their con- 
duct and protecting society.” 


“CLEAR OUR JAMMED 
COURTROOMS” 


Jit Hiatt, Deputy District ATTORNEY, 
COUNTY OF ALAMEDA, 
OAKLAND, CALIFORNIA 


“Clogged courtrooms are a prob- 
lem all around the country. It’s a 
combination of many factors: an es- 
calation of crimes in general and a 
shortage of resources. There are in 
sufficient courtrooms, judges, prose- 
cutors, public defenders and district 
attorneys to adequately serve the 
system at the appropriate speed 
That results in long waits to come to 
trial, and time can be deadly for the 
prosecution. Memories fade, wit- 


nesses move away, cases crumble. 


The police can't seem 


our rocketing crime rates; 
neither can our lawmakers. So 
we decided to ask the real 
experts—women prosecutors 
who deal with criminals every 
day. Here, their smart, sensible 


suggestions. By Kathryn Casey 


Even murder cases can sit for a 
long, long time 

“The waiting can be very hard on 
crime victims and their families, who 
essentially put their lives on hold. | 
specialize in crimes against chil- 
dren, and I've literally gone from 
judge to judge begging for court 
time so that an abused child can go 
on the stand, er with and 


get it c 
get on with her life. | had one case 
that took mor 


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come 1¢ mia 


than three years to 
a girl who said she’d 


been molested by a family member 


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from the time she was five until the 
2 of ten. By tne time we went to 

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court, she was tourteen and the |ury 


couldn’t picture this teenager as a 
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very young girl. We lost the case. 
“Drug-related crimes have crip- 
pled the system to the point where 
we don’t have the resources to pros- 


ecute other crimes (continued) 


This is the first in a series of articles in which women experts offer their solutions to the most serious 
problems our country faces. This month, four women attorneys explain what they would do to reduce crime. 


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property crimes. | would say that 


more than halt the crimes tying up 


the courtrooms have to do directly 


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drugs are against the law and we 


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prosecute drug sellers, it 


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may be necessary to think about 


alternatives, sucn as ee 


to prosecuting drug users. Getting 
users Out as] the system oles money 


up tront, but it’s more cost-ettective 


in the end. You can only slice a pie 


so thin, and pretty soon you don’t 


nave qa pie anymore We're slicing 


Our own resour thinner and 


thinner.” 


“STOP KIDS FROM 
TURNING TO CRIME” 


DEBORAH LASHLEY, DEPUTY BUREAU 
CHIEF IN CHARGE OF FAMILY Court, 
KINGS CouNTy District ATTORNEY'S 
OrFice, BROOKLYN, NEw YorK 
“Kids Across the 


nave 


to come tirst 


country, juveniles are often consia- 

ered low priority, but the earlier the 
; 

intervention, tne easier if is fo break 


the cycle of crime. We're not 
putting enough resources toward 
that intervention 

“Children have more access to 
guns than they did ten years ago— 


they get them trom home or buy 


them for protection. One of the by- 
products of this is more violent 
crime involving children. Our de- 


partment prosecuted a tourteen- 


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year-old who was shooting from a 


rooftop and killed a woman who 


was walking with her children. A 
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sixteen-year-old boy killed his 


tor money and persuaded 


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nother 

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help him. A thirteen-year-old shot 


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felt the boy didn’t sho 


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kids when they first start showing 


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ng enough time with 
their children to spot these signals. 
A child is arrested once, and the 
parent just makes excuses for him. 
y the time he’s arrested for the 
third time, it’s a serious 
problem. We should be interven- 
ing the first time a kid gets in 
trouble—within not only the crimi- 
tem, but the commu- 
parents, schools, 

. Everybody has to 
work together to take responsibility 
for the children 


aren't spendi 


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nal-justice sys 
nity, tco 
neighborhoods 


“Education is ele at the top of 
the list. We need to teach that there 
are nonviolent ways to solve prob- 
lems and people to go to. We need 
teach kids that they 
can overcome anything and achieve 
any positive goal. Children are our 
future, and they affect the quality of 
lite for everybody.” 8 


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lt may not seem as though the average citizen can do 
much about the problems described here. But, in fact, 
anyone can work to change these injustices. “You 
don’t need to, be a legal eagle or Mother Teresa to 
” says Jean O'Neil, director of 
research and policy at the National Crime Prevention 
Council. “You just have to be someone who cares.” 


make a difference, 


How can you get involved? 


BB Join or form a neighborhood watch group to patrol 
your area and deter criminals. Less crime on your 
own streets means fewer cases burdening the courts. 
MI Report crimes whenever they happen, even if you 
think nothing will come of it. Yours may be the 
evidence.needed to establish a suspect’s pattern—and 
that can help judges hand down stricter sentences. 

BM Volunteer in a mentoring program for juvenile 


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offenders or disadvantaged children. Intervention and 
good role models can keep kids celal becoming first- 
time or repeat offenders. 

@ Work with witness assistance programs to help 
crime victims prepare for court. Sometimes key 
witnesses need extra support and encouragement to 
present their testimony. 


@ Start a community watchdog program to monitor 


local court proceedings and let judges know your 
opinions on their decisions and sentencing. 

Mi Become an informed constituent by researching the 
laws and justice system in your state. Then write or 
call your local public-safety office, county or state 
legislators, or congressional representatives to let 
them know where you stand on the issues and what 
changes you want to see implemented. 





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Prep Time: 10 min. Cook Time: 10 min 
1 can (10 3/4 0z.) Campbell's® 
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1/2 tsp. Dijon-slyle mustard 
1 cup cooked broccoli flowerets 
4 hot baked potatoes, splil 


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Sliced Vlasic® or Early California 
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Serves 6. 

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3. Do you own enough clothing and 
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splash of Southern comfort, and what have you got? The 
setting for Dixie Carter’s gracious Hollywood home. We 

discovered that the star of Designing Women is a talented 
décorator in real life, too. By Leslie Lampert, Lifestyle Editor 


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hen Dixie Carter and her 
husband of nine years, 
Emmy Award-winning 
actor Hal Holbrook, began 
searching for a new home five years ago, 
they wanted a place where they could 
blend her family heirlooms from 
Tennessee with his New England 
treasures. “We looked at a lot of houses 
in Los Angeles, but when I brought my 
mother with me to see this one, she said, 
‘Oh darlin’, this ts the house! It has a 
real Southern feeling,’ ” says Dixie. 


And indeed it does. As you walk 


through the rooms, you think of trellises 
and vines, not Hollywood and Vine. 
The furnishings reflect Dixte’s love of 
antiques and romantic floral fabrics. 

Though she insists on good reading 
lamps near every seat, and vases of fresh 
flowers everywhere, Dixie doesn’t worry 
about whether her ~+ 
furniture goes together. 
“Tf a piece 1s good and 
you love it, it will look 
right with everything 
else,” she says. The result 
is a home that’s full of 
personality—from the 
fanciful painted screen of 
a cow in the hving room, 
above, to the romantu 
bedroom, near right. 

‘We are completely, 


totally, utterly out of the 


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Hollywood scene,” says 
Dixie. Instead of hobnobbing 
in L.A.’s trendy restaurants, 
“we eat a proper dinner in 
the dining room every night, 
except on Sunday, when we 
watch 60 Minutes’ and eat 
in front of the TV.” 

Though Dixte and Hal 
don’t entertain often, when 
they do invite guests, the 
party usually ends up in the 
music room, near right. “My 
piano is my favorite piece of 
furniture,” says Dixte. 
“Whenever friends are over we wind up 
by the piano, singing until we get 
hoarse.” 

An old-fashioned sing-along in her 
comfortable, Southern-style home ts this 


star’s idea of the perfect evening. And 


she’s not just whistling Dixie! 








































Dixie has a second 
career, as a cabaret 
singer, and she’s just as 
serious about it as she is 
about her acting. “I live 
in the music room while 
rehearsing for my annual 
spring show at the 
Carlyle Hotel in New York 


City.” When she needs a 
break she heads for her 
wisteria-covered porch, 
top, with a cup of tea. In 
warm weather, Dixie and 
Hal spend as much time 
as possible in the 
sunroom, right, with its 
cushioned rockers and 
pretty backyard view. “In 
fact, Hal loves natural 
sunlight so much that he 
argued with me about 
putting draperies in the 
bedroom. | kept the look 
spare and serene, but I 
did cover the windows!” 





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BARBECUED TURKEY WITH FRIES 
AND CREAMY COLESLAW 





Down-home taste makes this low-fat din- 


ner a winner. We gave the oven-“fried” 
potatoes a sweet-spicy flavor. Salsa 
ketchup comes in two heat levels, so this 
barbecue can be hot—or not. 
Prep time: 20 minutes 
Cooking time: 40 minutes 


Vov 


Fries 
2!/2 pounds baking potatoes, scrubbed 
1 teaspoon vegetable oil 
1 tablespoon sugar 
] teaspoon salt 
1/4 teaspoon ground red pepper 


Creamy Colesiaw 
1/3 cup plain nonfat yogurt 
1 tablespoon fresh lemon juice 
1] teaspoon honey 
'/4 teaspoon salt 
'/3 teaspoon freshly ground pepper 
3 cups thinly sliced green cabbage 
1 Granny Smith apple, julienned 
2 green onions, julienned 





1 teaspoon vegetable oil, divided 

4 turkey breast cutlets (1 Ib.) 

Salt and pepper 

1/2 cup mild or medium salsa ketchup 

1 tablespoon firmly packed brown sugar 
4 lemon slices 


1. Make Fries: Preheat oven to 450°F. 
Line cookie sheet with foil; coat with veg- 
etable cooking spray. Cut potatoes length- 
wise into '/2-inch sticks. Toss with oil in 
large bowl to coat. Sprinkle with sugar, 
salt and red pepper; toss well. Spread on 
prepared cookie sheet. Bake 30 minutes. 
Immediately remove from pan. 

2. Make Creamy Coleslaw: Meanwhile, 
combine yogurt, lemon juice, honey, salt 
and pepper in large bowl. Add cabbage, 
apple and green onions; toss to combine. 
Makes 3!/2 cups. 

3. Heat '/2 teaspoon oil in large nonstick 
skillet over medium heat. Pat turkey dry on 
paper towels and sprinkle lightly with salt 
and pepper. Add half the turkey to skillet; 
cook until golden, 1 minute per side. Set 
aside. Repeat with remaining !/2 teaspoon 


oil and turkey. Combine salsa ketchup and 
brown sugar in cup; stir into pan. Add 
turkey and lemon slices; simmer 5 minutes. 
Serve with Fries and Creamy Coleslaw. 
Makes 4 servings. 











Per serving Daily oo 

Calories 465 2,000 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 4g 60 g or ne (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat lg 0 SS (F) 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 71mg 300 

Sodium 1,102 mg 2.4 or le 

Carbohydrates 72g 350g g or more 

Protein 36 g 55 gto 90g 


GOOD FORTUNE HOPPIN’ JOHN 
WITH HAM AND GREENS 





In the South on New Year’s Day, black- 
eyed peas are always served as a symbol 
of good luck, and greens, as a symbol of 
wealth. li’s your good fortune that our ver- 
sion is lower in fat, so your resolution to 
eat healthier in the New Year will be a 


whole lot easier to keep. 
Prep time: 10 minutes 
Cooking time: 1 hour 


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3 cups water 

1 cup dried black-eyed peas 

1/2 cup finely chopped onion 

'/2 cup finely chopped carrots 
1/2 cup finely chopped celery 

1 slice bacon, diced 

1/2 teaspoon crushed red pepper 
'/2 teaspoon salt 

'/2 cup long-grain rice 





Greens 
1/2 cup chicken broth 
11/2 pounds mixed collard or mustard 
greens, kale, or spinach, chopped 
'/2 teaspoon salt 


1 ham steak (3/41 |b.), broiled 
Red-pepper sauce 








1. Combine water, black-eyed peas, 
onion, carrots, celery, bacon and crushed 
red pepper in large saucepan. Bring to 
boil, cover and simmer 30 minutes. Stir in 
salt and simmer covered until tender, 30 
minutes more. 

2. Meanwhile, cook rice according to 
package directions. Stir into black-eyed- 
pea mixture. 

3. Make Greens: Bring chicken broth to 
boil in large saucepan. Add mixed greens 
and salt; cook, stirring occasionally, until 
tender, 15 minutes. (If using only spinach, 
reduce broth to '/4 cup and cook spinach 
5 minutes.) Serve with Hoppin’ John, ham 
and red-pepper sauce. Makes 4 servings. 


Daily goal 
2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 


Per serving 
Calories 475 


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10g 60 gor less (F); 70 g¢ 
3g 20 g or less (F); 23 g0 
51 mg 300 mg or less 
2,238 mg 2,400 mg or less 
63g 250 g or more 
36g 55gto90¢ 


CURRIED VEGETABLE STRUD! DE 


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Dal, an Indian staple, is a sauce 
from lentils or other beans. Ours is § 
with curried veggies wrapped in p 
Because the phyllo is brushed very 
with oil, there’s not much fat to be 
in this delicious vegetarian dinner. © 
Prep time: 50 minutes plus cooling 
Cooking time: 1!/2 hours 


Yellow Dal 
3 cups water 
3/s cup yellow split peas 
'/4 cup finely chopped celery 
1 large clove garlic, smashed 
] teaspoon cumin 
1/2 teaspoon salt 
'/3 teaspoon turmeric 


4 teaspoons vegetable oil, divided 

1 cup minced onions 

] teaspoon minced garlic 

] teaspoon minced fresh ginger 

1 teaspoon curry powder 

1/2 teaspoon cumin 

\/8 teaspoon ground red pepper (op 

' pounds diced all-purpose potatoe S 
11/2 cups water 
11/4 teaspoons salt 

1 cup diced carrots 

1 cup tiny cauliflower florets 

1 cup frozen peas 

1/4 cup chopped fresh cilantro 

5 sheets phyllo dough 

4 teaspoons unflavored dry bread a 


Lime Yogurt 
1 container (8 oz.) plain nonfat ys 
\/4 teaspoon grated lime peel 


1. Make Yellow Dal: Bring the we 
boil in large saucepan. Stir in spli 
celery, garlic, cumin, salt and tut 
Return to boil; cover and simmer un 
tender, 11/4 hours. Beat or whis 
smooth. Makes 21/2 cups. 
2. Meanwhile, heat 1 teaspoon 
large skillet over medium het 
onions and cook, stirring, until 
to 10 minutes. Stir in garlic, gin 
cumin and red pepper; cook 30 
Stir in potatoes and cook 2 minu 
water and salt. Bring to boil; red 
cover and simmer 10 minutes. A 
rots and cauliflower; simmer coveré 
tender, 10 minutes more. Unco 
continue simmering until no longer 


essary. Stir in peas and cilantro. 
(Can be made ahead. Cover and 
rate up to 24 hours.) 
‘heat oven to 400°F. Spread | sheet 
» dough on ungreased cookie sheet. 
remaining phyllo covered with plas- 
1p.) Brush very lightly with some of 
naining 3 teaspoons oil, and sprin- 
th 1 teaspoon bread crumbs. Con- 
layering remaining phyllo on top, 
ng each sheet with oil and sprin- 
vith crumbs. 
yon vegetable mixture down center 
long side of phyllo. Fold one side 
llo over and tuck under filling. Roll 
log so that seam side is down. 
with any remaining oil. With sharp 
iscore top diagonally at 11/2-inch in- 
|. Bake 20 minutes or until golden. 
with Yellow Dal and Lime Yogurt. 
» 4 servings. 
ike Lime Yogurt: Combine yogurt 
»el in small bowl. 


re] Daily goal 

5 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

7g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
: at lg 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
1 mg 300 mg or less 

2,400 mg or less 

» ites 96g 250 g or more 

228 55 gto 90g 


/) N-GARLIC CHICKEN 
| VEGETABLES 


jet recipe of the month This 
ri ‘le dish features skinless, bone-in 





chicken thighs, the newest cut available in 
the supermarket meat section. If your mar 
ket doesn’t have this cut, regular thighs 
will do—just remove the skin. You can 
even substitute skinless chicken breasts, 
but roast just for thirty minutes. 

Prep time: 15 minutes VOV 
Cooking time: 40 minutes 





3 teaspoons vegetable oil, divided 

3 teaspoons minced garlic, divided 

1 teaspoon grated lemon peel 

'/2 teaspoon thyme 

11/2 teaspoons salt, divided 

Freshly ground pepper 

6 chicken thighs (2 |b.), skin removed 

3 small red onions, quartered 

1 bunch (11/4 lb.) broccoli, cut into spears 

4 zucchini (13/4 |b.), halved, then 
quartered lengthwise 

1] red pepper, cut in !/2-inch strips 


1. Preheat oven to 450°F. Combine 1 
teaspoon oil, | teaspoon garlic, the 
lemon peel, thyme and '!/2 teaspoon each 
salt and pepper in large bowl. Add chick- 
en and onions; toss well to coat. Spread 
on jelly-roll pan and roast 40 minutes. 

2. Meanwhile, in another bowl combine 
remaining 2 teaspoons each oil and gar- 
lic, 1 teaspoon salt and '/2 teaspoon pep- 
per. Add remaining vegetables; toss well. 
Spread on another jelly-roll pan. Halfway 
through roasting chicken, add vegetables 
to oven and continue roasting both pans 


20 MINt 


Per: serving 


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HEARTY POT ROAST 





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be simple eve ryt roast 
slowly in ne oven ie »n dinner 


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serve it with o tossed salad 


Prep time: 20 minutes 
Cooking time: 2!/2 hour: 





2 pounds trimmed bottom round roas 

11/2 cups coarsely chopped onions 

2 teaspoons ginger 

2 teaspoons minced garli 

1 teaspoon ground coriander 

1/4 teaspoon cinnamon 

11/2 cups white Fly 

1 can (1383/4 or 141/2 oz.) 
ona uk ipo tc equal 2 cups 

1 tablespoon molasses 

2 strips (3 inches each) orange pee! 

1/2 bay leaf 

'/2 teaspoon freshly ground pepper 

3 pounds red new potatoes, quartered 

2 pounds carrots, cut into 2-inch pieces 

'/2 teaspoon salt 

2 tablespoons chopped fresh 
parsley 


beef broth plus 


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“BAKE SALE’? 
WHAT BAKE SALE? 
YOU NEVER TOLD ME 
ABOUT A BAKE SALE! 


WHAT AM I SUPPOSED 
TO DO NOW’”?” 


Hearty, healthy & low-fat, too 


continued 


1. Preheat oven to 325°F. Heat large 
Dutch oven over medium-high heat until 
very hot. Add beef and cook until well 
browned on all sides; set aside. 

2. Add onions to Dutch oven; cook until 
soft and beginning to brown, 10 to 15 
minutes. Stir in ginger, garlic, coriander 
and cinnamon; cook | minute. Stir in 
wine, broth, molasses, orange peel, bay 
leaf and pepper. Return beef to pot and 
bring to boil. Cover and transfer to oven. 
Roast 1!/2 hours. (Can be made ahead. 
Cover and refrigerate overnight. Skim fat. 
Reheat to boiling over medium heat.) 

3. Add potatoes and carrots to Dutch oven 
and sprinkle with salt. Cover and roast 1 
hour more. Remove beef and slice very 
thin. Serve with vegetables and juices. 
Sprinkle with parsley. Makes 8 servings. 


1. Preheat oven to 350°F. Coat 13x9-inch 
baking pan with vegetable cooking spray. 
2. Sift flour, baking soda, baking powder, 
salt, nutmeg and mace in bowl. Stir in 
wheat germ. In food processor or grinder 
with coarse blade, pulse or grind orange 
with raisins until chopped (do not puree). 
3. Beat sugar, applesauce, oil, egg and 
egg white in mixer bowl until smooth. At 
low speed, beat in flour mixture alternately 
with orange juice, beginning and ending 
with dry ingredients. Stir in orange-raisin 
mixture. Pour into prepared pan. Bake 35 
to 40 minutes, until toothpick inserted in 
center comes out clean. 

4. Prepare Glaze and Topping: Mean- 
while, combine orange juice and sugar in 
saucepan. Heat, stirring, over low heat 
until sugar is dissolved. For topping, com- 
bine all ingredients in bowl. 

5. Poke hot cake all over with toothpick or 
skewer. Pour glaze evenly over cake, then 























CREAMY RICE PUDDING 


This luscious dessert really fool 
palate: Its creaminess comes from the 
Arborio rice has a high starch conte 
enriches the low-fat milk, so yot 
need to use cream or even whole mil 
Prep time: 15 minutes 
Cooking time: 35 minutes 


2 to 21/4 cups plus 2 tablespoons low 
(1%) milk 


Per serving Daily goal 

Calories 380 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 78 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat 2g 20 gor less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Criolesterol 67 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 495 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 48g 250 g or more 

Protein 30g 55 gto 90g 


FLORIDA ORANGE KISS-ME CAKE 


1/2 cup Arborio rice (or 1/2 cup long ¢ 
rice and | tablespoon instant noni 








sprinkle with topping. Cool on wire rack. 
Makes 16 servings. 





. dry milk) 
Per serving Daily goal , i 
Calories 210 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) '/4 Cup raisins 
Total fat 5g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) t n 
Saturated fat lg 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 3 ablespoo Ssuge 
Cholesterol 13 mg 300 mg or less Pinch-salt 
Sodium 172 mg 2,400 mg or less 
Carbohydrates 40¢ 250 g or more large €gg 
Protein 3g 55gt090g '/8 teaspoon nutmeg 





Susan Purdy’s tips for low-fat baking 








This cake keeps a low-fat profile because 
an orange and raisins replace some of the 
fat in the cake. The flavor is especially in- 


tense because the fruit is ground. 
Prep time: 25 minutes 
Baking time: 35 to 40 minutes 


vo 


13/4 cups all-purpose flour 

1 teaspoon baking soda 

\/2 teaspoon baking powder 

1/2 teaspoon salt 

'/4 teaspoon nutmeg 

'/4 teaspoon mace 

2 tablespoons toasted wheat germ 

1 small juice orange, washed, cut into 8 
wedges, seeds removed 

1 cup raisins 

| cup sugar 

1/3 cup unsweetened applesauce 

'/4 cup vegetable oil 

| large egg 

1 large egg white 

1 cup orange juice 


Glaze 
'/2 cup orange juice 
2 tablespoons sugar 


Topping 
'/4 cup sugar 
'/4cup finely chopped pecans 
'/2 teaspoon cinnamon 





124 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - JANUARY 1994 







flour as above. 


nuts will add a hint of nuttiness. 


To grease and flour pans the low-fat way, use vegetable cooking spra 
1.25-second spray coats a 10-inch pan and has less than 1 gram of fat 
7 calories, compared to the 11.5 grams of fat and 100 calories that € 
with a tablespoon of butter or margarine. Susan Purdy likes 
butter-flavored spray because it is more delicate in flavor. Spray the 
evenly, then sprinkle with flour; invert pan and tap out excess flour. If 
don’t have cooking spray on hand, lightly brush pans with vegetable oil 


M@ While there is no formula for replacing fat with fruit puree or fruit be 
you can replace one quarter to one third of the fat with an appropriat 
vored fruit puree. Prune puree pairs deliciously with chocolate and spice 
ters; apple butter or pear butter works with citrus or more delicate flavors, 
Wi To enhance the flavor of crumb toppings, consider using a nut oil sue 
hazelnut or walnut oil. These have a very concentrated flavor and @ 
amount of saturated fat. Replace 1 tablespoon of the fat in the recipe 
nut oil. Store nut oils in the refrigerator up to six months. Almond extra 
another flavor enhancer—just '/4 teaspoon in a crumb topping insted 


You can use nuts in low-fat baking but in reduced amounts. Try cutting 
amount of nuts in half. For “taste visibility,” place nuts on top of the be 
Not only will you see the nuts, they will toast as the cake bakes. If you p 
the nuts in the cake, toast them in a 350°F. oven for 6 to 8 minutes to & 
out their full flavor; chop fine and add to batter. 
Some low-fat and nonfat dairy products can be good substitutes; howl 
avoid low-fat butter and margarine because the water and gelling ager 
them will not yield good baked products. Low-fat and nonfat yogurt and 
cream are interchangeable with their higher-fat counterparts. Although 
fat cream cheese and Neufchdtel cheese work well in recipes, nonfat ci 
cheese is not suitable for baking. Read labels carefully; there should 
note if the product is not suitable for baking. 








































































‘AU LAIT CHEESECAKE 


_ ne: 20 minutes 





7] Daily goal 


175 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 
4g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 


23 mg 300 mg or less 
231 mg 2,400 mg or less 
es 35g 250 g or more 


3g 55 gto 90g 








y lait is the French version of cap- 
». Here’s a cheesecake that boasts 
ye rich flavor, and with its reduced 
calories it’s a superb sweet cheat. 

VOoOV 


time: 1!/4 hours 


3h\lespoons grape nuts cereal 


ylespoon chopped walnuts 


- lespoon sugar 


tiner (16 oz.) nonfat cottage 
; 2se 


ces low-fat cream cheese, at room 
oerature 

os sugar 

os low-fat sour cream 

eggs 

egg whites 

all-purpose flour 

spoons instant espresso coffee 


» der 


spoons coffee liqueur 
‘(oons unsweetened cocoa 
poon salt 

poon cinnamon 


Chocolate-covered coffee beans or 
instant coffee powder, for garnish 


1. Preheat oven to 300°F. Line bottom of 
9-inch springform pan with parchment pa- 
per; coat with vegetable cooking spray. 

2. Prepare crust: Combine cereal, walnuts 
and sugar in food processor; pulse to 
coarse crumbs. Sprinkle over bottom of 
prepared pan. 

3. Spoon cottage cheese into fine-mesh 
sieve set over bowl. Cover with plastic wrap 
and press to remove excess liquid. Transfer 
to food processor and process until smooth, 
2 minutes. Add cream cheese, sugar, sour 
cream, eggs, egg whites and flour. Process 
until blended, about 15 seconds. 

4. Dissolve instant espresso in liqueur in 
cup. Add to processor with cocoa, salt 
and cinnamon. Process until blended, 15 
seconds. Pour into prepared pan. Bake 
11/4 hours, until just set in center. Turn off 
oven. Leave cheesecake in oven 30 min- 
utes. Transfer to wire rack. Run thin knife 
or spatula around edges of pan. Cool 
completely. Cover and refrigerate 4 hours 
or overnight. Remove sides of pan and 
garnish with coffee beans or powder. 
Makes 16 servings. 


Per serving Daily goal 

Calories 190 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 68 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat 28 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 46 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 294 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 25g 250 g or more 

Protein 8g 55 gto 90g 


















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holstery, James Cisneros of Brothers Upholste 213-463 
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for Dickson Fabrics; rectangular pillow, “Rudyard” in Antique 
Gear for Robert Allen Fabrics; red damask pillow, sku# 64 
gold/red, Napoleonic Bee pillows, sku# 4A, green/gold, 
gold/maroon, natural/gold, long pillow with yellow bee fabric, 
sku# 6G, red/gold, red damask square pillow, sku# 4F, 
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“Manor Rose” in Rosewood, Gear for Robert Allen Fabrics; dec 
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4846. Patio: blue silk rag rug, Berbere Imports, 
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Lane” in Rose, Gear for Robert Allen Fabrics; mohair throw, 
Mystic Valley Traders, for a store near you, call 617-729-0660; 
vintage fabric pillows, Lavender & Lace. Sunroom: fabric on 
cushioned loveseat and chair slipcover, “Hedges Lane” in Delft; 
fabric on pillow with ruffled edge on cushioned loveseat, 
“Brighton Rose”, ruffle, “Hedges Lane” in Delft, all from Gear for 
Robert Allen Fabrics; mohair throw, Mystic Valley Traders 


























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LEADY-MADE 
CRUST OR KNEAD 
YOUR OWN, 

THESE TOPPINGS 
ARE THE TOPS. 
FROM LEFT: 
PEPPERONI, GNION 
AND PEPPER; 
SOUTH OF 

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travel 
iDpurnal 


| Welcome to the Hotel 
del Coronado 


veryone wants to feel spoiled once 
in a while, and what better place to 
be spoiled than in a grand old hotel 
with all the amenities of a modern 
resort—a hotel that just happens to 
) ike a wedding cake with white frost- 
i) .t the beautiful and historic Hotel del 
1ado, on Coronado peninsula across 
an Diego Bay, tradition and lavish 
clan charm coexist happily with such 
‘rm amenities as high-tech video 
ment to improve your tennis swing. 
e Del, as the hotel is affectionately 
n, is somewhat of an architectural 
er with a colorful past. A National 
yrical Landmark, the Hotel del 
nado was built in 1887, complete 
‘urrets and gingerbread. It is said to 
ie of the world’s largest wooden 
ures and the last remaining extrav- 
'ly conceived seaside resort. Its dis- 
H\ive wedding-cake appearance has 








ROCK STARS. 


AMERICAN NAME, 





EXTRA 
MILD 


NATURALLY Pesan 
on werenum: 


ITALIAN TASTE. 





inspired builders and dreamers of many 
sorts, including Frank Baum, who wrote 
The Wizard of Oz on Coronado, and the 
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GRITS WITH 
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1. Grease 8-inch 
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Bring 4 cups water to 
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with 1/4 teaspoon 
salt. Gradually add 1 
cup quick-cooking grits, stirring 
constantly. Simmer, stirring, until water is 
absorbed, 6 minutes. 

2. Remove from heat and stir in 2 cups 
shredded sharp Cheddar cheese and 
1/4 teaspoon freshly ground pepper. 
Spread into prepared pan. Cool. Cover 
and refrigerate 4 hours. 

3. Cut grits into 4-inch bars and remove 
from pan. Coat with '/2 cup all- 
purpose flour, shaking off excess 
(reserve flour for second coating). 
Arrange on cookie sheet and refrigerate 
30 minutes more. 

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Melt 1 tablespoon butter in medium 
saucepan. Add 2 tablespoons flour 
and cook, stirring, ] minute. Gradually 








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chiles. (Can be made ahead. 
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low heat.) Makes 11/2 cups. 

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M.D., professor of medicine at the University of California at Los Angeles, “Chicket 
contains a natural amino acid called cysteine, which is released when you make 
soup. Cysteine bears a remarkable chemical similarity to a drug [called acetyl 
teine] that doctors prescribe for their patients with bronchitis and respiratory inf 
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variety. We recommend adding a dried chile to clear those sinuses fast. 
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in 1-inch pieces, 1 onion, quartered, 
6 garlic cloves, peeled, 3 parsley 
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Combine 3/4 cup sugar, 1 cup water and 2 tablespoons fresh 
stirring to dissolve sug- 
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(about 20), tangerines (about 5) or blood oranges (about 6) 
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exotic oranges to make a simple sorbet so 
memorable. Clementines may be hard to find, 
so sweet tangerines or ruby-colored blood or- 
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kitchen and advertisements. 
Advertisers’ recipes appear in 
boldface. Recipes marked with 
an asterisk include microwave 
instructions 


Carol Prager, 
New York City 


Café au Lait Cheesecake p. 127 
Chocolate Cake p. 126 
Clementine Sorbet p. 146 
Creamy Rice Pudding p. 124 
Florida Orange Kiss-Me Cake 

p. 124 
Lemon Poppy-Seed Cake p. 125 
Old-Fashioned Bread Pudding 

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Barbecued Turkey with Fries 
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Curried Vegetable Strudel p. 122 
Good Fortune Hoppin’ John with 
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Hearty Pot Roast p. 123 
Italian Chicken Pasta p. 139 
Lemon-Garlic Chicken and 
Vegetables p. 123 
Mexican Chicken and Rice p. 116 
Simple Chicken Italiano p. 127 


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The lesson 
continued from page 9 


ruefully commented that a rescue expert 
had referred to the group as “Popsicles.” 
Back in Denver, creditors were demand- 
ing payment from Brigitte’s gallery, and 
artists were retrieving their work to avoid 
having it ted up in probate. 


MIRACLE ON THE MOUNTAIN 

Suddenly, Tuesday morning, the sound 
of a helicopter reverberated in the si- 
lence. Brigitte’s face lights up as she re- 
members, “This big bird came down the 
valley—it was the most wonderful sight.” 
The compassion of the rescuers moved 
her. “I felt I was truly safe for the first 
time in five days.” 

Rob, Brigitte says, then made two final 
demands of her: that she wash the dishes 
before they left, and that she then ski to 
the helicopter on her own, despite her in- 
jured feet. She did neither: “What did it 
matter,” she says angrily, “if the dishes 
were washed?” 

The three were whisked away.to the 
Aspen airport, where an ambulance wait- 
ed to take the women to the local hospi- 
tal. By now, all the skiers were instant 
celebrities. At the hospital, Brigitte re- 
ceived numerous business cards from re- 
porters and TV producers. The Aspen 
doctors agreed that the two women 


needed treatment, so an hour later, they 
were sent to Presbyterian/St. Luke’s 
Medical Center, in Denver, which was 
equipped to handle frostbite cases. 
Their injuries were dressed, and they 
underwent oxygen treatment in a hyper- 
baric chamber to speed healing. Last 
May, doctors performed minor surgery 
to shave a bit of protruding bone off 
Brigitte’s thumb. 

Feeling secure at last, Brigitte didn’t 
realize that more trials lay ahead. By 
Thursday, major newspapers and maga- 
zines had begun running the incredible 
story—from the points of view of Ken 
Torp and Rob Dubin, who made them- 
selves readily available for interviews. 
They soon had the world believing that 
the Dubins were heroes, while Brigitte 
was a weak woman whose life they had 
saved. Brigitte, though shocked by the 
statements, was still too sluggish from 
medication to speak to reporters. 

Local residents got into the act, too. 
Now that the initial relief was over, they 
began to argue that the skiers were reck- 
less, irresponsible fools for going out in 
hazardous weather in the first place. 
Some thought they should be made to 
pay the rescue costs, which totaled tens 
of thousands of dollars. 

On the Friday after the ordeal, Brigitte 
confronted Rob Dubin about the negative 
publicity. She says he assured her that it 


146 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL — JANUARY 1994 


recipe index 
Fried Cheese Grits with Jalapeno 
Sauce p. 144 
Homemade Pizza Crust p. 140 
Mom’s Chicken Soup p. 144 


Mozzarella, Gorgonzola ant 
Walnuts p. 136 

Mushroom and Bacon p. 1 

One-Alarm Chili p. 138 — 


Nachos p. 101 Pepperoni, Onion and Pep 
Redenbacher's Ranch Party Mix p. 140 
p. 145 Pesto and Tomato p. 136 


Pesto Chicken p. 136 
Primavera p. 134 
Provencal p. 136 3 
The Real McPizza p. 134 
Roasted Vegetables p. 138 
Santa Fe Chicken p. 135 
Sausage, Fennel, Basil an 
Tomato p. 136 





Brie, Ham and Honey Mustard 


p. 138 Shrimp and ASparagiSii 
Broccoli Rabe and Red Pepper Sicilian p. 130 

p. 138 Smothered Onion and Swis 
Broccoli Rabe and Sausage p. 136 q 

p. 130 Smothered Onion, Bacon 4 
Broccoli, Ricotta and Sun- Swiss p. 138 

Dried Tomato p. 130 South of the Border p. 14 
Caesar Salad p. 136 Spanakopizza p. 134 
Cajun p. 138 Spicy Scallop p. 134 


California Spa p. 134 
Chicken Cacciatore p. 138 
Deep Dish Pizza p. 137 
Eggplant Parmesan p. 135 
Four Cheese p. 130 


Spicy Shrimp p. 134 

Spinach and Onion p. 138 

Spinach, Red Pepper an 
Nut p. 130 

Steak and Onions p. 134 

Ham and Pineapple p. 135 Sunday Brunch p. 130 

Herbed Ricotta and Walnuts Thai Chicken p. 135 
p. 136 Three-Alarm Chili p. 



































Hero p. 140 Tomato, Ricotta and 

Individual Funny Faces p. 134 p. 134 4 
Meatball p. 135 Vegetarian Paradise p. 1: 
Mediterranean p. 130 Wild Mushroom and Smo 


Middle Eastern p. 138 Mozzarella p. 136 


was all “media distortion.” “We're 3 
friends. We love you,” he said. (“Soi 
these were live interviews. How ¢ 
they be distorted?” Brigitte counters 
set the record straight, she granted o1 
multaneous interview to a local 
tion and the Denver Post, accusia 
Dubins of betrayal and Rob of tre 
her like a “little Roman slave girl.” _ 

Rob later retorted, “I want to state 
equivocally that Brigitte is not w 
apologize if I was a bit harsh in m 
structions to her, but as a leader 
severely adverse situation, polite, s 
tive conversation is often sc 
need to survive.’ 

On March 2, the Dubins set up a1 
ing for the group at the hospital w 
representative from Hollywood’s Wi 
Morris Agency to discuss signin 
with the agency. According to Bri 
Elliot Brown said afterward, “We 
sign anything until we resolve our 
flicts,” and Brigitte took this Oppes rt 
to vent her feelings. 

When she finished, she says, 
went crazy. He just stare screami 
the top of his lungs, ‘Why sh 
[have given] you our sleeping bag? 
makes you think you’re entitled?’ I 
see now what I had suspected all 
that he had never wanted to give 
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ankle. It was so ugly that I started to 
quiver in shock, and I stormed out. Rob 
and Dee Dubin are hardly the heroes 
they were portrayed as, believe me.” 

As the story grew messier and messier, 
the TV networks and producers who had 
been vying for it quickly lost interest. 
One offer of $250,000 was presented to 
the group, but, says Brigitte, the Dubins 
said they wanted to hold out for more 
money. Brigitte has not spoken to the 
Dubins or Ken Torp since then. 

At present, no one has sold anything 
to anyone. Rob Dubin complained to the 
press that this was Brigitte’s fault, saying, 
“Had we all come forward as a group of 
seven, I think we would have had a deal.” 


“| HAVE A LONG WAY TO GO” 

Brigitte Schluger’s life is slowly regain- 
ing its sanity. She’s closed the art gallery 
she owned for eighteen years and now 
deals art directly from her home. 

Though her long-term plans aren’t yet 
clear, she has gained some powerful tools 
with which to forge her destiny. “Now I 
know it’s okay to have confrontations,” 
she says. “I must listen to my instincts 
and stand up for myself. And I’ve learned 
I can protect myself in a situation where 
there is no protection. I’m still very 
proud that I spoke out. 

“On another level, though,” she adds, 
“it made me come to grips with my own 
failings, particularly around the issue of 
authority: about the way I view the peo- 
ple I associate with, about unquestion- 
ingly following a man’s orders. It made 
me realize that even though I like to 
think of myself as a liberated, indepen- 
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Good golly, Miss Dolly 


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met Carl Dean, who became her hus- 
band later that year—although, to hear 
Dolly tell it, the spontaneous, outgoing 
workaholic and the mysterious, privacy- 
loving homebody are bound more by 
absence than by togetherness. (Dean is 
vaguely described as a mechanic.) “Carl 
doesn’t want me in his face all the 
time,” she explains, when asked about 
the rumors surrounding their less-than- 
storybook marriage. “We’ve been to- 
gether for thirty years, and he’s proud 
for me but doesn’t want to be part of 
that [show business] world. I think 
there’s a whole lot to be said about peo- 
ple thinkin’ that when you get married 
you’re supposed to just set right up 
with somebody, eat every meal with 
°em, never go to bed without that par- 
ucular person. That works wonderfully 
for some. But, good grief, if I'd a-done 
that when we were married in sixty- 
four, what would I be doin’ now? I’d 
probably be a big fat wad sittin’ some- 
where very unhappy—with no makeup 
*cause I prob’ly couldn’t afford any!” 

Certainly, Dolly did not sit around. In 
Nashville, she had her first two hit sin- 
gles, “Dumb Blonde” and “Something 
Fishy,” by 1967. She hooked up with fa- 
mous Grand Ole Opry power broker 
Porter Wagoner and became his pro- 
tegée, developing her appealing, big- 
hearted style. But theirs was a stormy 
relationship, and after parting with 
Wagoner in 1974, she wrote the 
poignant ballad “I Will Always Love 
You,” which soared to the top of the 
charts. The tune hit number one again 
with a new recording Parton made in 
1984. And now the song has broken the 
record for longest-running number-one 
single in the history of pop-music 
charts, thanks to Whitney Houston’s 
rendition, recorded for the 1992 movie 
The Bodyguard. 

In her time, Dolly has won four 
Grammys, countless Country Music 
Awards, and three People’s Choice 


| Awards. She has put out sixty-two al- 


bums (her newest, Honkytonk Angels, 
brings Parton together with fellow 
country queens Tammy Wynette and 
Loretta Lynn; next up is a reunion al- 
bum for Parton, Linda Ronstadt and 


| Emmylou Harris following the success 


of their 1987 album, 7rio). As an ac- 
tress, she has starred in some good 
movies (9 to 5, Steel Magnolias), some 
clunkers (Rhinestone, The Best Little 
Whorehouse in Texas), and a game try, 
1991’s Straight Talk. She has appeared 
on numerous TV specials, and in 1989 
she survived the brutal trashing of her 


short-lived variety show, Dolly, only to 


rebound with a number of TV projects 


| now in the works for Disney (theyll be 


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produced through Sandollar, the 
duction company she runs wifl 
close friend, manager and New 
City apartment co-owner, § 
Gallin). Dolly lends her name to I 
wood, a ninety-three-acre theme 
near her hometown in Tennessee 
is now developing a $20 million 
theater complex nearby. Her auto 
raphy, My Life and Other Unfir 
Business, is scheduled to be publi 
by HarperCollins later this year. In 
the list of projects Dolly Parton 
off on formidable fingernails can 
a mere mortal breathless. 

“I’m very active. I’m restless. ] 
stand feelin’ bored. I got more guts 
I got talent, but I got enough tale 
back it up,” explains the dynamo, 
ing a pair of baby-blue mules off he 
ute feet. “I wanted to sing andI w 
to write, and one thing led to anot 
probably wouldn’t know my ass ff 
biscuit about somebody else’s bus 
But nobody’s smarter about what I 
to do than me.” 

Part of the reason she’s been at 
keep so busy, Dolly admits, is be 
she has no children—a subject the 
her to thinking about what migh 
been had she been a mother. 

“T always say, God is mighty. 
think He definitely knows what’s 
penin’,” she muses, acknowledgin 
she went through a much-reportec 
od of depression in the early 1] 
during which time she was ill and 
weight. “I used to think I wanted t 
children. I used to think that tha 
my duty as a woman. But it wasn’t 
to be. It was a bad time. When | 
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in the news 


40 CNN NEWSLINE REPORT 
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month: preventing arthritis, credit-card refinancing 


48 IS YOUR BANK ROBBING YOU? 
These days, keeping your money in the bank may be 
Find out how you can fight back. By Paula Lyons 


100 A GOOD KILLING 


Almost everyone who knew Lonnie Dutton knew he was abusing his wife 
and his kids—and one day his sons did the only thing they 


to stop him. By Beverly Lowry 


102 IN PRAISE OF STRONG WOMEN 
4 heartfelt message from the President to the women he 
oves—and to women across America. By Bill Clinton 


personalities 


42 WHAT’S HOT 
vatching up with Julia and Lyle; LHJ’s movie of the 
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96 OPRAH AT 40: WHAT SHE’S LEARNED THE 
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33 BEAUTY AND FASHION JOURNAL 
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116 THE NEW AMERICAN 
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Step inside this year’s hottest 
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123 FOOD JOURNAL 


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124 SIDE DISHES THAT MAKE A MEAL 
We've got ways to une all your entrees—from 
chicken and beef to fish—a terrific change of taste. 
By Jan Turner Hazard 


134 HOT CHOCOLATE! 

Heat up your Valentine’s Day with these warm 
chocolate desserts—the perfect finish for your 
special dinner. By Susan Sarao Westmoreland 


142 NO- FAIL RECIPES FROM THE PROS . 
We asked the country’s best cooks for the recipes 
they serve Sh en company’s coming. They gave us 
fabulous m that will impress your guests, too. 


150 THE aun DISH 
The makings of a romantic dinner; testing nonstick 
skillets; a ue soup; and more. 


131 LHJ RECIPE INDEX 


regular features 
12 EDITOR’S JOURNAL 


14 CAN THIS MARRIAGE BE SAVED? 
Is PMS ruining our marriage?” How one wife coped 


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with her uncontrol ‘lable anger. By Margery D. Rosen 


22 A WOMAN TODAY 

| wouldn't let Claire die” A mete struggle to find 
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By Pam Held, as told to 
Deborah Berger 


164 PET NEWS 1 
Hollywood's pampered pets; 
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and more. By Shana Abom 


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ecently | had the oppor 

President Clinton in th: 

yes, indeed, it is ver 

beautiful and his 
refurbished with a brighi » ve carpet, elaborate 
draperies and silky strinec couches. The President, 
soft-spoken, almost !aid-back in person, said that 
after a year in office he was enjoying his job. “You 
know, even on the bad days you can remember 
there are some things you can do that make a 
ditference. And most days | really do enjoy it,” he 
said. His toughest times? “When people’s lives are 
at stake. | have difficulty when | know | have to 
make decisions that involve people’s lives.” 

Like most Americans, the President seemed deeply 
troubled by the increasing violence in our society. He 
said he is most concerned about attacking the root 
causes of this violence. “To improve social well- 
being, you’re going to have to have social security on 
the one hand, in a broadly defined sense, and then 
we’ re going to have an agenda for change.” At the 
same time, the President stressed individual 
responsibility. “Children need certain things. People 
need to behave in certain ways. There are certain 
things that you shouldn't do. | have believed for a 
long time—1 know that a lot of people don’t agree 
with this—but | think a lot of those basic values 
should be taught in our schools.” He also said that in 
our country “there has to be a sort of explosion of 
grass-roots activity” to help the children whose lives 
are constantly touched by violence. “We have to start 
taking some responsibility for the children of chaos. 
One or two or three ata time. | really believe the 
whole future of this country is riding on it.” 

It was fascinating talking with the President. You'll 
find a special valentine he wrote to the women of 
America on page 102—and lots of other engrossing 
features in this special February issue. Now curl up, 


read and enjoy! 


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LUCY’S TURN “We haven't made 


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thirty-five, a tall, slender woman 
with close-cropped hair. “Jerome 
has made it clear that he doesn’t 
want to have anything to do with 
me. Whenever I try to give him a 
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“I’m not very comfortable being 
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period starts, I’m frantic and edgy. 
Before I can help myself, I’m 
yelling at everyone. I know I’m do- 
ing it, but I can’t stop. I mentioned 
it to my doctor once, and he told 
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self last. 

“ve been taking care of every- 
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was a housewife, and my father 
was a truck driver. He was practi- 
cally a stranger to me and my little 


14 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - FEBRUARY 1994 


sister, Denise. He also had 
drinking problem. I kind of took 
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mother, helping her out, baby-sit 
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girl, seven, and a boy, eight—bu 
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us permanently. 

“As I said, I love John, I really do, but 
I wasn’t prepared to suddenly be the 
mother of a ten-year. 'd. I was working 
full-time—more th. full-time, in fact, 
because my supery:sor was always asking 
me to work overtime at the last minute— 
and now I had to worry about who would 
take care of him after school, help with 
homework, do that extra laundry and 
plan dinners. I don’t mean to sound like 
a shrew, but I think what really bothered 
me was that Jerome never consulted 
about his decision. 

“He does that a lot. A year a 
told me that we were all going love 


in with his mother because Louse 
was much too large for her cep up. 
She’s a good woman and | «o like her, 
but I would like some privacy. But 
again, no discussion, jusi, ©! ais is what 


we're going to do.’ 

“So we moved into this house, and 
soon afterward, Jerome and I started 
bickering. Just to give you a little exam- 
ple of the kinds of things we fight about: 
I admit I have a tendency to clean com- 
pulsively. I don’t like it when Jerome 
leaves magazines or newspapers all 
around the house. Why can’t he put them 
back in the basket instead of leaving 
them strewn all over the sofa? Also, his 
mother is allergic to a lot of the products 
I’ve been using for years, and she’s al- 
ways yelling at me to stop cleaning. But 
it’s my house, too, and I want it clean. 
Jerome tells me I’m insensitive, yet it 
seems I have no say in what happens 


around the house. It’s gotten kind of 


nasty at times. 

“Then there are the problems with his 
ex-wife. That woman is just out to ruin 
our happiness. She’s always finding ex- 
cuses to keep him involved in her life. 
She couldn’t have cared less about 
Jerome—she was the one who walked out 
on him—but lately she won’t leave him 
alone. Last month, she was visiting a 
friend of hers who happens to live 
around the corner from us. Around 
eleven P.M. the phone rang: She just real- 
ized she didn’t have enough money for 
the bus fare home, and could Jerome 
please come over and lend her some? 
Now, I ask you, couldn’t this old friend 
of hers have loaned her the money? She 
has to call us up that late at night? I hate 
to make waves, so I kept quiet, but I can’t 
help feeling he’s encouraging her. 

“Our own daughter, Jillian, is five 
now, and I have to say that Jerome is a 
wonderful father. In so many ways, we 
have everything I could possibly want. 
But now my husband doesn’t even want 
to be near me. Jerome has always been 
very affectionate. He’s a kisser, a hugger. 
I’m losing him, and I don’t know why.” 


JEROME’S TURN “It’s simple: I love 
Lucy, but I don’t like her,” said Jerome, 
forty, a handsome, muscular man with a 
ready smile. “Lucy’s rages remind me too 
much of my father’s rages, and ’m not 
about to liv. the rest of my life like that. I 
won't pul vith her anymore. 


“My |! was an alcoholic, and he 
flew int ‘es all the time. The worst 
part v vou never knew when ‘ey 
wer iit. My parents would ‘ight 


all Li metimes my father would 
ad if I tried to step in and 
my mother, he’d threaten me. 
as the oldest of nine kids. Dad was 
vderly in a hospital, and my mother 
oviously had her hands full. But they 
divorced when I was about ten, and my 
brothers and I went to live with him 
while my sisters stayed with Mom. We 
were around the corner from my mother, 
so I saw her a lot. 

“I wasn’t a very good student. I was 
the kind of kid that the teachers always 
said would ‘do so well if he’d only apply 
himself.” But I was busy doing odd jobs 
to help bring in money—packing gro- 
ceries in the supermarket, walking other 
people’s dogs, stuff like that. Since my 
grades were terrible, I never went to col- 
lege. But I always wanted to help people, 
so I started working as an orderly in a 
hospital, like my dad, then applied to be 
a nurse’s aide. 

“T also got married really young. The 
girl I'd been dating for a while got preg- 


SKILL BUILDER 
Timing is everything 


Lucy and Jerome were unable to 
recognize patterns of anger in their 
marriage. They not only fought fre- 
quently about the same issues, but 
their fights occurred at the same 
time of day and often in the same 
place. Recognizing these patterns, 
no matter how irrelevant they may 
seem, can actually help you break 
the pattern of fighting. For in- 
stance, if you and your husband 
often get into arguments right be- 
fore you go to sleep, or soon after 
you walk in the door after work, 
promise yourselves to table trou- 
blesome issues until after dinner, or 
even the weekend, when you have 
time to discuss them fully. Or 
change your location: Go out to a 
restaurant for dinner and plan to 
discuss your conflicts. You will be 
much more likely to talk calmly 


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nant, so we decided to get marri 
had another child a year later, 
separated and finally divorced whe 
children were about six and five. 

“I love my kids, so it was hat 
seeing them all the time. And, fra 
get along real well with my ex 
We're friends. Why does Lucy 
such a big deal about my ex? P’ 
her over and over again that we’1 
friends. She means nothing to m 
Lucy can’t accept that. 

“You know, sitting here, I’m sh 
This is the first time I’ve heard th 
didn’t want John to live with us, tk 
didn’t want to move into the hous 
my mother. Mother is elderly and 
house that was far too big for her 
makes sense to live together. If my 
er is allergic to the cleaning stut 
Lucy uses, why can’t she use an 
product? Is that such a big deal? 

“Who wants to live like this, y 
woman who is sweet one day and 4 
the next? I don’t want to make le 
cause I don’t want to be near he 
sorry to put it so bluntly, but t 
honestly the way I feel. I think 
kissing her, but something insi 
stops. I just can’t. 

“That’s not the way it was in ft 
ginning. It didn’t take long to falli 
with Lucy. She’s so pretty, sel 
smart. She was shy but had an 
strength that I couldn’t help admiri 

“Sometimes I suspect there are 
she doesn’t want to do, but she doe 
anyway, and I can’t figure that out 
are mostly when it comes to her f 
and her sister: Whenever her motl 
and says her sister is having yet 
problem, Lucy rushes right on ove 

“In the last year, things have 
much worse. She snaps at the kid 
at me. Tell me: Why is everything 
big deal? Is it the end of the wo 
don’t put a magazine exactly wh 
wants me to put it? Does our life 
have to be in neat little piles?” 


THE COUNSELORS’ TURN 
this couple first came to see us, \ 
not sure they would be able te 
their problems,” said the c 
“Jerome seemed to have given t 
and was adamant about ending t 
riage. The fact that he had wi 
affection and seemed totally u 
in his wife sexually further 
doubts. However, since Lucy 
sistent about her love for he 
and her desire to solve their pt 
Jerome agreed to see us. ’ 

“Lucy was intelligent and 
but she had so little confide 
own feelings that she couldn’ 
ognize when she was angry, let : 
press that anger directly to her | 
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if 


ntified child—forced early on to 
the take-charge member of the 
Id since her alcoholic father and 
mother couldn’t. The only way 
any attention or approval was by 
ig the very good girl who never 
} trouble and, above all, never 
aed. In fact, to voice her opinions 
or express any displeasure was 
ato Lucy. As a result, many peo- 
er life—her parents, her sister, 
—took advantage of her. 
10l surprising that Lucy fell in 
h Jerome, a warm, affectionate 
) gave her the nurturing that had 
lacking in her childhood. Lucy 
cally swept away by this hand- 
ind man. They did enjoy the 
al honeymoon year: just the two 
no children or financial prob- 
divert their attention from each 
ie loved and got along well with 
children, both she and Jerome 
| jobs they enjoyed and, for the 
t, they spent the year concentrat- 
ich other. The only negative fac- 
Lucy’s relationship with her 
s ex, whom she strongly felt was 
sabotage their happiness. But, 
good girl, she said nothing untul 
d just explode. 
‘ly, Lucy suffered, as she sus- 
rom premenstrual tension, or 
sr all-too-common symptoms— 
anxiety, flaring temper—wors- 
ring the week preceding the 
1er period. Coupled with the in- 
anger she was feeling toward her 
mother-in-law and others, her 
ge reached a boiling point. 
»gh she was aware of her prob- 
failed to follow through with her 
vadvice. In typical fashion, she 
- of others but not herself. One 
st things we suggested was that 
ike another appointment with 
2ologist to find out exactly what 
| do to eliminate, or at least alle- 
r symptoms. He prescribed an 
essant and a diuretic. He also 
o watch her diet: to cut back on 
chocolate and highly salty foods, 
fruits and vegetables, and drink 
er. Determined to save her mar- 
icy has diligently followed his 
dis now more in tune with her 
e to recognize the early edginess 
: symptoms. This has given her 
sense of control. 
while we were encouraged that 
| Jerome recognized that physi- 
sms could be affecting their rela- 
they still had issues that needed 
ilved. 
i can’t put all the blame on 
e told them both. ‘That’s like 



























ee devil made you do it. Both of 


you need to take responsibility for im- 
proving the communication between 
you.’ Jerome had in effect been saying, 
‘Tm off the hook here. Our problemis are 
her fault.’ 

“Our goal with Lucy was to he}p hei 
recognize when she ‘os justifiably angry 
and give her the c lence to express 
herself in the mome::. She had to do 
this, however, In a cain, nonconfronta- 
tional way. ‘Couples iys disagree, we 
assured her, ‘and it’s ptable to voice 
your grievances.” \\ » told Jerome 
that even though he ues different- 


ly from the way his wi id, he had to 
stop negating her feelings. ‘Many of 
Lucy’s complaints are legitimate,’ we 


told him. ‘You may not agree with her, 
but don’t disparage her for feeling the 
way she does. Instead of telling her it’s 
no big deal, hear her out.’ 

“We also explained to Jerome that in 
some cases, he was turning many of their 
disagreements into moral issues. By say 
ing, ‘How could you treat my mother, a 
sick old lady, like that?’ he was making a 
judgment and trying to coerce her to be- 
have differently out of guilt. Lucy was 
trying to tell him that she needed priva- 
cy, not that she didn’t like her mother- 
in-law. Once he understood that, 
Jerome agreed to do some construction 
on the house that would separate the 
first floor from the second, ensuring 
them some private space from his moth- 
er. Lucy has agreed to trade in her old 
cleaning supplies and order new ones 
from a catalog that offers hypoaller- 
genic products. 

“Once Lucy was no longer afraid that 
her husband would reject her if she spoke 
honestly, they were able to negotiate 
problems calmly. Even though he still 
sees nothing wrong with leaving newspa- 
pers and magazines around, now that he 
feels less besieged, he is more willing to 
recognize that these things are important 
to his wife, and he tries hard to remem- 
ber. As the tension eased, their sex life 
returned to the way it had been. 

“Lucy’s newfound ability to speak up at 
home carried over into the rest of her life, 
too. When her sister called in tears one 
evening about a problem she was having 
with her boyfriend, Lucy was able to keep 
the conversation brief and to the point. 
And she quietly but firmly resisted her sis- 
ter’s entreaties to come to visit her, saying 
she needed to spend time at home with 
Jerome. On another occasion, Lucy told 
her boss that although she enjoyed her 
work and didn’t mind working overtuume, 
since she had a family at home, she needed 
to know in advance when she would be 


staying late. ‘Finally,’ Lucy said at one of 


our last meetings, ‘I feel like I’m in charge 
of my life. And it feels good.’ ” = 


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by Pam Lleld. as told to Deborah Berger 


t was the last day of Jan- 
uary 199]. I had just come 
oul 

wallpaper for the new 

house we were building, 
while my husband, Mark, stayed 
home with our two children, 
three-year-old Taylor and five- 
month-old Claire. As I walked 
in, Mark said that Claire seemed 
“a little funny” and asked me to 


back from picking 


look at her. Two days earlier, 
we'd had to take the baby to the 
doctor because she’d been vomit- 
ing. [le had prescribed medicine, 
and this 
seemed better. But now, when I 
went to her crib, my 
stopped. She wasn’t breathing; 
her skin was blue. 

“Mark! here!” I 
screamed. ‘Trying to stay calm, I 
performed infant CPR to get 
our daughter breathing again. 
Mark took over 
while I 
911, and within 
minutes a team 
of paramedics 


morning she had 


heart 


Come 


called 


was working ove! 
her, pumping 
oxygen into her 
lungs. It all 
seemed like a 

horrible nightmare. 

We live on a small island near the 
coast of Washington, so Claire was 
taken by helicopter to Children’s 
Hospital & Medical Center, in Seat- 
tle. A neighbor volunteered to stay 
with Taylor while Mark and I 
caught a ferry to the mainland. 





Doctors couldnt figure out what 
was making my little girl so sick. | 
took matters into my own hands— 

and found the answer 


Mark’s face was white as he paced 
up and down the deck. 

At the hospital, a nurse immedi- 
ately put us in a private waiting 
room, where a grim-faced doctor 
told us, “We don’t think your 
daughter is going to make it.” Yet 
no one knew why she was dying. 


22 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL — FEBRUARY 1994 


that I had HELLP syndrome, a ra 


Mark and I were too numb to% 
anything but cling to each other. 

Claire’s short life had been 
eventful until now, although fh 
birth was somewhat traumatic. Inf 
seventh month of pregnancy, I ha 
become very ill with what I assum 
was just the flu. Two days later 
could barely move. Tests show 









and sometimes life-threatent 
condition that affects the blog 
liver and kidneys and can oce 
in mothers-to-be. I spent 
days in an intensive-care U 
for high-risk pregnancies befo 
Claire was delivered prem 
turely by caesarean. 

Though small at four pou 
Claire seemed no worse for fi 
early arrival. I recovered we 
and my baby was ready to 
home after six weeks. Fort 
last four months, I had been 
leave from my job as a special-¢ 
ucation teacher, and it had be 
wonderful to be with the ch 
dren—until this sudden crisis. 

The next five days went by 
a blur. Clinging to life, Cla 
was moved to the intensive-ێ 
unit. It was a terrible time 
fearing every second that son 
one would tell us our daugh 
had died. O 
day, I broug 
Taylor to 1 
hospital so 
could see I 
baby sister 4 
last time. 

But as Cla 
hung on, we | 
gan to feel a lil 
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of two weeks, she was breathing 
her own. She underwent a num 
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couldn’t keep her food down, and they 
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Day—Mark and I went to see how our 
baby was doing. As soon as | looked at 
her, I knew sometiting was wrong: Her 
weak, kitten-like cries were the same 
ones she had made when she first became 
ill. I tried to alert the staff, but they as- 
sured me she was all right. 

We left the room to attend a CPR 
class, but moments later, we heard the 
emergency “Code Blue” announcement. 
We raced back into her room to find do 
tors and nurses surrounding Claire’s bed. 
She had stopped breathing once asain. 


That day, I made a big decision. I had 
picked up Claire’s sign of dis':cess more 
quickly than the experts hac. I had no 


medical training, but I knew ‘hat I had to 
trust my own instincts where my child 
was concerned. I realized | had to be her 
advocate, even if that meant arguing with 
her doctors. 

And I wanted to do more. Claire’s con- 
dition was still a mystery to the medical 
staff, and their differing opinions just 
served to fuel my frustration and fear. 


ICU and corner the first doctor I found. 
Holding up the article, I asked, “Could 
my daughter have this carnitine deficien- 
cy?” The doctor said, “Wow—thavs very 
rare. Chances are it’s not that.” I retorted, 
“I don’t care. Even the slightest chance is 
better than nothing.” They agreed to 
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disorder. Mark and I were willing to pay 
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but, fortunately, help was closer to home: 
Dr. Ronald Scott, a metabolic disease ex- 
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was called in to help with the case. 

Scott explained that I was right— 
Claire might indeed have carnitine defi- 
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produced in small amounts in the body 
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into energy. Without it, Claire wouldn’t 
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would slow dramatically, and she 
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A metabolic laboratory in Oregon was 
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Scott sent a blood sample there. The re- 
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I will never again take 


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is wrong with my child. 


One doctor’s theory was that she had a 
metabolic disorder, but these conditions 
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medical journals on metabolic diseases in 
the hospital library. I spent hours there, 
hoping to find any scrap of information 
that might save my little girl’s life. 

I wasn’t sure how long it would take to 
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weeks later, I found an article describing 
a very sick child whose symptoms sound- 
ed just like Claire’s. The diagnosis was 
something called carnitine deficiency. 

I could hardly wait to get back to the 


weeks to come back. 

But since Claire’s life was still in grave 
danger, Scott put her on small doses of liq- 
uid carnitine to test its effect, knowing it 
wouldn’t hurt her in any case. Continuing 
my intensive research, I found articles stat- 
ing that larger amounts of carnitine were 
also safe, so I insisted that the doctors give 
her more—and they did. Yet, as each day 
went on, we saw no improvement. 

Mark and I were doing our best to be 
strong for each other, but one incident 
during this time triggered a bad fight: A 
doctor told us about a study that said car- 
nitine deficiency was always fatal. Heart- 
sick, I said to Mark, “Maybe we should 
just accept these terrible facts and let her 
go.” The thought of our baby being in 
pain made us lash out at each other for a 
few minutes—until I saw how pale and 
exhausted my usually steadfast husband 
was. Firmly, Mark told me, “I refuse to 
believe our daughter will die.” We 


28 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL | FEBRUARY 1994 


stopped arguing and hugged each oth 
Then our miracle happened. Five} 
after Claire began receiving the] 
doses of carnitine, she pulled oug 
ventilation tube, sat up in her cri 
cried! The medical staff was astoun 
and so were we. 
The blood test confirmed the car 
deficiency, and Claire was able to 
home by late April 1991. The cure 1 
condition seemed so wonderfully si 
All we had to do was give her liq 
nitine in her formula three times 
and she would be fine. 
However, our peace of mind was 
lived. Even with the treatment, 
still went into severe shock three 
times over five months. More time 
I can remember, we were told tl 
would probably die, and we fou 
hold on to hope. 
There had to be some other exg 
tion for Claire’s near-death episode 
I was driven to find out what it 
called metabolic researchers all ov 
country. I took detailed notes on 
activities and symptoms, trying to 
sense of what was going on. 
In the midst of these crises, I d 
best to give enough time to Tai 
would go to the hospital while he 
day care, then come home and pla 
him. Mark helped by supporting 1 
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and our friends and neighbors assis 
in every way they could. 

By the early fall of 1991, it 
we didn’t have much more time 
the missing pieces of this medical 


ing over my notes, I noticed a pat 
seemed that if Claire wasn’t eatin 


metabolize certain kinds of fatty 
More complex tests were needed te 
this theory; one involved cutting: 
of muscle from her thigh and sen 
to a New York lab. But since we ¢ 
wait the six months it might take 
the results, Scott told me to put Cl 
an extremely low-fat regimen in ac 
to the carnitine. Only 10 percent 
daily calories could come from fa 
third the amount recommend 
healthy adults. j 

I fed Claire a special low-fat fe 
fresh fruit and vegetables an 
amounts of fish and white-meat ¢ 
Suddenly, our girl gained wei 
than she ever had. She smiled, 
played with her toys—I wept witk 
ness just to see how healthy she s 
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A woman today 
continued 
had been makin» her so ill. 
On Thai ksgi: ng Day, Scott called us 


at home 1 waderful news. “Pam, we 
have th ree ilts on Claire,” he said. I 
was rig ckness was connected to 
her d s body couldn’t metabo- 
lize 1 fatty acids, one of the 
gr n chains that make up fat. 


told us about the connec- 
the food and her symptoms, 

suld have identified her ill- 

ickly as we did,” Scott said. 
ided, as long as Claire stayed on 
her special diet and took carnitine sup- 
plements for the rest of her life, she 
should be fine. 

I took a deep breath and asked, “How 
long could she live?” Scott replied, 
“Well, Claire should be able to lead a 
normal life.” Then I asked about the life 
expectancy of other children with the 
disorder. The doctor was silent for a long 
moment before explaining that many 
children like Claire die before the condi- 
tion can be diagnosed. Only very recently 
have physicians been able to successfully 


> 
But, h 


diagnose and treat certain types of 


metabolic diseases. 

We later found that this inability to 
metabolize long-chain fatty acids is 
thought by many to be genetic. Some re- 
search also suggests that women who 
develop HELLP syndrome during preg- 
nancy may be at higher risk of having 
that child born with a defect like this. 
Modern technology—and my intensive 
research—had saved our daughter. 

With that news, I thought we knew ev- 
erything we needed to help our baby. But 
there was still one more hurdle to face. 
Just weeks later, right before Christmas, 
Claire was treated for an ear infection 
and went into shock a few hours later. 
After a second similar incident, we made 
the connection: For unknown reasons, 
Claire’s metabolism can’t handle peni- 
cillin or penicillin-related drugs. Fortu- 
nately, she has no problem with other 
forms of antibiotics. 

Today, Claire is a thriving, happy 
three-year-old who knows her colors and 
numbers. She shows no sign of heart or 
brain damage from her long ordeal, and 


has to see the doctor only a couple of 


times a year. Three times a day, Claire 
takes a teaspoon and a half of carnitine in 


For your information 


For more information on carnitine deficiency and other metabolic disa@ 
contact the National Organization for Rare Disorders (NORD), Px@ 
CT 06812-1783; or the Association for Babie 
Carnitine Deficiency (ABCD), 720 Enterprise Drive, Oak Brook, IL 6C 
800-554-ABCD. For information on genetics and genetic counselingg 
chapter of the March of Dimes Birth Defects Foundations 


8923, New Fairtield 


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nonfat milk or in a special formy 
she grows, she’ll get more. (My inst 
pays for most of her medical care.) q 

I’m immensely grateful I was aj 
help uncover Claire’s problem in tf 
there’s one thing this experieng 
taught me, it’s that a mother some 
docs know more than the experts wW) 
comes to her family. I will never! 
take someone else’s word over mint 
I think something is wrong with my 

But now that we know that eatif 
wrong food could literally kill myd 
ter, I have to be careful about every 
I put on her plate. We measure hery 
take scrupulously, and make sure sh 
regularly—fasting also brings on 
episodes. It took me several mon 
intense label-reading at the supern 
to be able to shop with confiden 
Claire’s needs. 

From the pharmacy, I buy a ca 
based oil with the long-chain fats ¢ 
cally removed. I use it to make 
sauces, salad dressings and desser 
brownies. Apart from that, our] 
pretty much eats the same things= 
produce, low-fat proteins and p 
which have the added benefit of 
healthful for all of us. Occasional 
treat Taylor to his favorite meal 
chicken, after Claire has gone to be 

Some foods, like sausage and nut 
always be off-limits to Claire, but Sh 
eat things like nonfat cheese and ef 
stitutes. One local fast-food resta 
fixes her a “Claireburger”: lettuce, 
les, tomatoes and ketchup on a plat 

I think Claire will adjust well 
grows older and becomes more av 
her situation, since we’re not br 
her up to feel different or disables 
teacher of special-needs children, I 
care what kids can’t do; I care wh 
can do. If Claire ever asks, “Mor 
can’t I have the same pizza everyo) 
is eating?” [ll tell her it’s because 
very lucky girl. 


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AVUVERTIOCIMENT 


WHEN I SEE MY EX-HUSBAND, I HAVE 
HIS SECRET TRICK I CLAY ON HIM..? 





vou eyer notice that when you're fat, | And it’s all good 


n't look you in the eye? They look 
our shoulder. There's no eye contact. 
ume is Leslie McClennahan. I'ma real 
I live near Goose Creek, South 
a. Up until two years ago, | was never 
‘in the eye. By anyone. 
‘too tired to be a lover to my husband. 
tling asleep by 8 o'clock most even- 
hen I did go out for an evening, my 
dwas ashamed of me. And said so to 
. When I walked, my thighs brushed 
-c.Tcouldn’t even cross my legs. | was 
just ‘overweight!’ Fat. | was 5°5”" tall 
)ighed 205 pounds. 
(18 months ago, my husband Darrell 
ear Leslie” letter on my dresser. And 
+ divorce. 
‘it for counseling. | knew that my 
was the source of my troubles. But 
14 different diets. One by one. And 
)at all of them. 
yunselor listened carefully and rec- 
ded an entirely different program. 
sn’'t a “‘diet?’ It was a unique new 
Oss program researched by a team 
satric physicians—specialists who 
: severely obese. The program itself 
eloped by Robert Johnson, M.D. of 
fon, South Carolina. 
ed the program on October 2nd. 
) he first four days, I lost only three 
So I was disappointed. But during 
-e weeks that followed, my weight 
) drop. Rapidly. Within the next 193 
) ent from 205 pounds to 124 pounds. 
twas a miracle. This was the first 
| my life I'd ever lost weight and 
of 
‘eason the program worked was 
) | was always eating. | could eat six 
very day. So 1 never felt deprived. 
Hangry. | could snack in the afternoon. 
) efore dinner. I could even snack at 
hile | was watching TV. 
can you eat so much and still lose 












b cret is notin the amount of food you 
‘in the prescribed combination of 
vu eat in each 24-hour period. Nutri- 
' dense portions of special fiber, un- 
| carbohydrates, and certain proteins 
f erate a calorie-burning process that 
2s all day long... a complete 24-hour 
ction cycle. Metabolism is evened 
at is burned away around the clock. 
| inunhealthy spurts like many dicts. 
‘hy it lets you shed pounds so easily. 
hunger. Without nervousness. 








your normal eating lifestyle. You can cat six 


by Leslie “icClennahan 
olesome food. No | 
strange foods. You'!! “y avariety of meats, 


chicken, fish, veget 
sauces—plus your fay 
light wine or beer it 
This new program ©) 
secretin America. Beca\ p until now, it’s 
only been available to Go. ors. No one else. 
In fact, The Charleston Program has been 
used by 207 doctors in the |S. and Canada 
to treat more than 62,500 patients. So it’s 
doctor-tested. And proven. ‘This is the first 
time it’s been available to the public 
There are other benefits too 


potatoes, pasta, 
nacks. Evensome 
ish. 
c the best kept 


> There are no amphetamines. No drugs 
of any kind. 

> No pills. No powders. No chalky- 
tasting drinks to mix. 

> There's no strenuous exercise 
program. 


© You don’t count calories. Just follow 
the program. It’s casy. 

> There are no daily charts or records 
to keep. 

P You eat foods you enjoy. Great variety 
Great taste. 

© You can dine out. 


v 


There’s much less fluid retention 
© There's no ketosis. No bad breath odor 


But here's the best part... 

Once you lose the weight, you can keep 
it off. Permanently! Because you're not 
hungry all the time. 

Let's face it. We all have “eating lifestyles” 
Our eating habits usually include three meals 
a day. Plus two or three snacks. We all love 
snacks. Especially at night. 

But most diets try to force us to change 
all that, 

And that’s why they fail! 

The Charleston Program lets you continue 


times a day. You can snack when you wish. 
So, when you lose the weight, you can keep 
it off. For good. Because no one’s forcing you 
to change 

Here are some other patients from South 
Carolina who entered Dr. Johnson's program 
with me. 

Marie C. isa 42-year-old woman who went 
from 167 to 139 pounds in just three and a 
half months 

As I got into the program I began to 
feel better, to develop more energy. 
Now my busband has trouble Reeping 
up with me—in every way! I'm proud 
of my new body. 





1D. isa 36-year-old man who 
fros 145 in only six months! 
mmnot describe bow good | 
fee hungry or tired ai all. | 
feel « int 
Fran H. is old woman who went 


months. 
lifferently when 
ocial world, 
hole 


ne those 


from 223 to | 
The world tr 
you're fat... no 
but the business u 
world has changed $711 
88 pounds off! 


Josette C. is a 33-year-old woman who 

went from 165 to 119 in four months 
My busband has started looking at me 
the way he did before we got married 
He's starting to show jealousy when 
other men look at me or want to talk 
to me... it’s wonderful. 

And then there’s me. 

Whenever I see my ex-husband, I have this 
secret trick [ play on him. I know a restaurant 
where he goes with some of his ‘buddies’ 
I love to go there with a date—I have plenty 
now—stroll past his table and whisper, 
“Hello, Darrell? 

I know through the 


‘grapevine’ that his 


' me ~ 4 
friends often ask about me... Who am I?... 


Am I single? And he has to tell them. I love it. 

Obviously I’m excited about the program. 
This is the first time it’s been available out- 
side of a clinical setting. Dr. Johnson has 
asked Green Tree Press, Inc. to distribute it. 

We'll be happy to send you the program to 
examine for 45 days. Show it to your doctor. 
Try it. There’s no obligation. In fact, your 
check won't be cashed for 31 days. You may 
even post date it 31 days in advance if you 
wish. 

Choose a day and start the program. If you 
don't begin losing weight within five days— 
and continue losing weight—we'll promptly 
return your original uncashed check. No 
delays. No excuses. 

Or keep it longer. Try it for six months. 
Even then, if you're not continuing to lose 
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‘To order, just send your name, address and 
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4 ; | 
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Eighty-two percent of dermatologists recom- 
mend Dove” in an average week. They know that 
it won't dry your face like soap. Because Dove 
isnt a soap. It cleans thoroughly, without disturb- 


ing the skin’s outer layer the way soap can. And 


that’s why most dermatologists recommend) 
And why you can trust Dove, with its 1/4 
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Where did Michelle Pfeiffer turn when she »~ Jed to tone up her th - her Catwoman 

role? To the same person Meg Ryan countec ©: to flatten her tummy & Filming 

Sleepless in Seattle. These celebs and many nice work out with Kathy Ka, the Beverly 
— Hills—based celebrity trainer of the moment. We asked Kathy to share the sc ercises 


that Michelle, Meg and Candice Bergen do for star-quality hips, abs and thighs. 


MICHELLE PFEIFFER’S THIGH TONER 


Inner-thigh lift: Lie on your left side as shown with right leg crossed over the left leg at 
mid-thigh, right foot flat on floor. Rest head on left hand and place right hand in front of 
chest. With hips aligned one on top of the other, slowly lift and 

lower left leg. Do one set of sixteen reps, switch sides and re 
peat. Build up to three sets for each leg. 


















\ f cardiovascular activity combined with a 4 
| 1 of thigh toners” 


CANDICE BERGEN’S HIP AND BOTTOM REDUCER 


Leg extension: Kneel on floor on hands and knees with head 
down. Lift right leg slightly and pull knee in toward chest, keeping toes 
pointed. Hold three seconds, then extend leg behind you, keeping 
foot flexed. Hold three seconds, return to starting position. Do one set 
of sixteen reps, switch sides. Work up to three sets for each leg. 


lice always needs lower-body help. She concentrates on aerobic 
y, especially walking uphill, and does spot exercises to tone 
vrengthen her lower body” 


AAF SE PVAASE 
vote 


Oblique twist: Lie on floor with knees bent and feet flat on floor. 
Place hands behind head with elbows out to the sides. Squeezing 

abdominal muscles, lift left shoulder, twist body to the 
right and lift right knee, touching elbow to knee. Lower 
right leg and left shoulder. Do one set of sixteen. 
Switch sides. Work up to three sets for each side. 


i _— to tone her midsection after her son was 
// 1 recommended walking and running combined with 
§ abdominal crunches” 






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piece of 
wipe the surface of the b 


clean pillowcase or white 


a cream formula 0 


tions carefully. Always 


e paper. 


If you found a new handbag under the Christmas tree or 
are planning to buy yourself one soon, read on: Ve asked 
Ronald Price, owner of Artbag in New York City, for ex- 
pert advice on how to protect your bag. 

Before you use it, wax it. Use any neutral polis!)—choose 


ra liquid like Lexol—and follow instruc- 


use a very soft cloth—a piece of an 


old cotto works well. If you use your bag daily, 
it’s be wax it once every two to three weeks. The wax 
ma tually build up and need to be removed: Use a 


loth moistened with a few drops of white vinegar, and 
remove residue. Store your leather bag in an old, 
Stuff bags with white tissue paper to retain shape. 


If your bag gets scratched, you can fill in the scratches temporarily with | 2 


a matching cream po! 


ish and gently go over the scratch. For a more permanent solution, a bag | 
repair shop can fill in the scratch with dye. If your light-colored bag 
gets a stain, unfortunately you're out of luck. Stains cannot be removed or 
completely covered up. If your bag handle or strap frays or 
breaks, don’t try to fix it yourself. It’s best to bring the bag to a 
professional repair shop. Don’t blindly take your bag in 
for repairs to the local shoe shop; shop around for an ex- 
pert. Artbag is the place in New York City for bag repairs. You 
can mail your bag to Artbag, 735 Madison Avenue, New York, 
NY 10021, or call Ronald Price at 212-744-2720 with any questions. 


WHAT SKIRT LENGTH ARE 
WOMEN WEARING? 


gg t seems to us that de esigners have 
no idea what skirt length most 
women want to wear. The two 
v lengths last fall were ankle- 


grazing ae micro-mini, and stores 
were offering these plus styles that 
are one to two In¢ hes above the 


knee, 


knee and decidedly dowdy mid-calf 


at the knee, just below the 
» what skirt length do women like 
Klein, Fashion Director 
JCPen- 


“right now, our best- 


beste Lucille 


for the Women’s Division at 


ney, says that 


, 
selling skirts are between twenty-one 


and twenty-three inches; clearly, 


Model, Silke Horstkamp 


Hanes; bracelets, Richard Minadeo at Fragments; bag 


34 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL FEBRUARY 1994 


sh such as Meltonian. Dip a cotton swab in the pol- 


of HV Models; skirt, JH Collectibles; shoes, Charles Jourdan Bis 










































Seem meee eee ewe eee eres seen eeeeeeeeeD 


above the knee is the 
most-wanted length.” 
The same story is true 


Ellen 


the company’s 
f y 


at Liz Claiborne 
Daniel, 
corporate V.P. of Appar 
el, says, “We are currently 
making several lengths, but 
-seller is twenty-one 
We're not sur- 


prised: We did research on 


the best 


inches.” 


our own and discovered that 
most women feel most com- 
fortable and sexiest in just- 


above-the-knee lengths 


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CAN 
I take ata 
BACK 


Just bought a blush that look 
completely different on you 
cheeks than it did in the packs 
age? Don’t toss it: Return if 
We recently bought—and 
a slew of product 


turned 


department stores, discoun 
stores, and large and smal 
drugstores will take back 
used product (some didn 
even require a receipt) am 
will give you either a full 
fund or a store credit. If # 
store won't take the produe 
back, in general, the compt 
ny will. Our advice: 
1. If you're buying a ne 
product, keep the receipt i 
case you want fo return if. 
2. Try returning the produ 
first to the place of purchase 
lf you have a receipt, you 
usually get a cash refunds 
you don’t have a receipt B 
have the product packagini 
that proves place of pu 
chase, you'll get either a cas 
refund or a store credit. 
3. If the store refuses to @ 
cept the return or won't gi 
money back, write to #f 
company. Over half the cor 
panies we dealt with (incla 
ing Estée Lauder, Maybellir 
and Avon) offer a full casht 
fund with no receipt require 
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n spite ¢ ectic, de- ones | wear every day 


mand as execu- with everything— 
tive : president at are my mother’s 
\dvertising, in gold watch from 


v York City, Glo- 


ria Appel looks sophis- 


the thirties 
and chunky 
ticated and polished gold 
all the time. How doe: 
sne manage to be 
dressed and out the 
“SCARVES ARE PERFECT 
FOR ADDING A QUICK 
JOLT OF COLOR TO 
EVERYTHING | WEAR” 


door in a stunning outtit 
vile most of us are still 
slaring at the closet? She 
relies on simple neutral co- 
rdinates (tailored jackets 
trousers, CreWneCcKSs 
and cardigans), and she 
dresses up every outfit with 
great accessories 
“The big spark in my 
wardrobe comes from my jew- 
“| FEEL 
SOPHISTICATED 
AND POLISHED 
IN A TWINSET 
AND PLEATED 
TROUSERS—IT’S 
MY VERSION 
OF A SUIT” 


elry and shawi collections,” 
says Gloria. “I also collect an- 
tique I'm always 


jewelry 


uting flea markets for inter- 
esting pieces, especially big 
pins to wear on my jackets. 


N\A 


Ay signature pieces—the 





ad 
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ye . lingerie. Recently I’ve been walking around in a “cloud” of Angel, the new Thierry Mugler fragrance, wh 


has a dense vanilla and fruit scent. I’ve been getting rave reviews from everyone—business associates, dates 


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NAL STYLE 


UNIQUE ACCESSORIES ARE KEY TO ONE WOMAN’S STANDOUT LOOK 












EDITOR’S PICK OF THE MONTH 


I’m always trying new fragrances, and when I find one I love, I wear a lot of it—you can smell me coming am 
going! I also spritz the ironing board before pressing cottons, spray my bed linens before going to sleep/at 
night (I swear it’s why I have sweet dreams!) and add a drop of fragrance to the rinse water when wash 


my college-age daughter’s boyfriend! The eau de parfum spray is $55. Try it—you'll love it. —Lors JOY; 0 


bracelets from the for- 


ties. | wear them all 
together on one arm 


for maximum impact.” 






Gloria’s other style- 
making passion Is large 
scarves and shawls. “| own 
at least a dozen in neu- 

tral solid shades and 

muted florals.” 
Gloria’s formula 
tor style is one any- 
body can follow for 
always-right 


looks. 


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Christmas and I Love Trouble—a@ 
romantic comedy co-starring 
Nick Nolte—due out this sume 
mer. Topping it off will be Mary 
Reilly, a remake of the Jekyll-and= 
Hyde story for which she pulled) 
down a reported $10 million— 
making Roberts the highest-paid 
actress In town. 

Friends and family say there’ 
no doubt that the credit for her 
newfound stability should go to 
her hip, if oddly coiffedy 
hubby. “He’s a sweet, lov: 
able, Christian man,” says 
Shirley Harrington, first 
cousin to Lovett’s mom 
Bernel. “He just makes 
you feel so special.” 

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(continued) with a romantic 
front porch and set on several 
acres of pond-dotted prairie 
adjacent to Lovett’s folks’ 
place. “He’s done a wonderful 
job renovating it,” says Lovett’s 
cousin, Mark Klein. Hap Har- 
rington, mayor of nearby 
Tomball and the principal of 
Klein High School when 
Lovett attended in the 
early seventies, adds, 
“You'd 


know any- 
one of such prominence lives 
there—except that there’s a big 
stretch limo out front.” 

When they fly in for week- 
end getaways, however (the 
couple also own a Manhattan 
apartment), the earthy newly- 
weds prefer to tool around 
town in Lyle’s black pickup— 
visiting his many relatives, 
shopping for groceries, dining 
out. Lyle has even been seen 
gamely adhering to his wife’s 
vegetarian regimen, although 
Mark Klein doubts he will 
completely forsake beef for 
beans and leafy greens. “Julia 
will get him to cut down on 
red meat,” he says, “but he’ll 
never give it up.” The Smyrna, 
Georgia, native may modify 
Lyle’s style in other ways, too. 
Known for moody ballads that 
bemoan bitter relationships 
(sample lyric: “She’s no lady, 
she’s my wife”), “Lovett,” says 












Klein, “is a happier guy since 
the wedding.” 

And the pair have held up 
well under intense media 
scrutiny: In the eight months 
since their nuptials in Marion, 
Indiana, two reports (both 
false) of a pregnant Julia have 
surfaced, two unauthorized bi- 

ographies have appeared, and 
rumors that the lovers 

married on respective 
rebounds (he had 
just split from 
twenty-three- 
year-old student 

Alison Inman, 

she from actor 


Jason Patric) 
have lit up the 
tabloids. But they 


have proclaimed their 

love for each other re- 
peatedly. “Mecting [Julia] 
is unlike anything that had 
happened to me before,” Lyle 
has said. “She’s so wonder- 
ful.” Julia herself has been 
even more specific in her 
marriage goals: “I want to 
have a family, raise kids... . 
Those things come way before 
work. Movies come and go, 
but family life is a 
real kind of rich 
consistency.” 

And while fans 
of both performers 
may have fun won- 
dering what the 
Lovett-Roberts kids 
will look like, Klein, 
for one, shrugs off 
the much-discussed 
image disparity; he 
attributes their mutu- 
al attraction to good 
old Southern comfort. 
“Julia wanted a hus- 
band who had a similar up- 
bringing,” he says. “They’re 
just two peas in a pod—soul 
mates.” —DEAN LAMANNA 
AND SUSAN PRICE 


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E.T.). “They were real people, real situations, 
and it’s an issue—aging parents, grown-up: ; 
children who have to care for them—well 
worth exploring.” The fifty-three-year-old 
actor, who admits he read dozens of other © 
scripts before signing on with Frasier, plays 
fractious father to Kelsey Grammer’s amicabl 
anal-retentivé Frasier Crane. Dad is a grump 
ex-cop who resents having to live with his 
grown son as much as his son resents having 
to take him in. 

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who started acting at the relatively late age o 
thirty-six and became known for playing smal 
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headphones. She is in her 
room, door shut, talking 


to Jason. PRIVACY. # Caroline, 

Caroline, where are you? ¢ So 
you take the family someplace with 
no distractions. No “'I-can’t-right-now”’ 


You take them on atrain. ¢ It can be a long 
trip, like the Zephyr across Colorado. Ora 
short hop to see Auntie Mary. IT DOESN'T 
REALLY MATTER. Because this miraculous thing 
happens on trains. You talk. ¢ You'll comment 


on the ever-changing scenery, and learn about Jason. 
(Finally.) You'll hear the groups she’s been listening to on 
those headphones. (O.K. They’re terrible. Are you going to 
break her heart?) ¢ Look. She is as beautiful as she always 
was. ¢ Though her ears are triple-pierced, and her taste in music 
floors you, she is and always will be YOUR BABY. ¢ A train is like 
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s far as Marian Kind,* of 
Dade County, Florida, 1s 
concerned, her bank 
duped her out of a 
whopping $4,672. How? 
By failing to alert her to a clause 
buried in the fine print on the back 
of her car-loan contract. 

The clause said Kind was obli- 
gated to buy insurance coverage 
for the car; if she didn’t, the bank 
would buy it for her. Nowhere did 
it say the bank would be buying an 
extremely expensive form of insur- 
ance that would reimburse only 
the bank—not Kind—if the car 
was damaged in an accident. And 
nowhere did it say the bank would 
charge her 18 percent interest on 
*Name has been changed. 







the high cost of that insurance— 
but it did. 

It wasn’t until after Kind 
made the final payment on her 
loan that the bank reminded her 
of the clause. Then, to her dis- 
may, it slapped her with charges 
of $2,918—for two years’ worth of 
insurance the bank says she 
failed to buy—and $1,754 in in- 
terest. This was at least twice 
what such coverage would have 
cost her elsewhere. 

“I thought when you deal with 
a bank,” Kind says, “they’re sup- 
posed to be on the up-and-up. No 
one pointed out that clause to me. 
This may all be legal, but I feel 
misled.’’ So much so, in fact, that 
she has joined other customers in 


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a suit charging the bank with 
misrepresentation. 
Allison Zenk* doesn’t feel mis= 
led—just penalized for not being 
wealthy. She calculated it cost her 
$200 last year to keep a simple 
checking account in her local Ney 
York City bank. “It frustrates me, 
because I’m just starting out,” 
says Zenk. “I can’t yet afford te 
maintain the $3,000 minimum 
balance my bank requires fo: 
‘free’ checking, so I have to pay 
fees through the nose. The bank is 
taking the most from me when I 
have the ieast.” 
What's happening here? Why de 
today’s banks seem to be getting us 
coming and going? Most of us 
can’t remember when banks pai 
us less interest on our money (2t 
3 percent on savings and checking 
accounts, these days), yet charge 
us so much on our credit card 
(anywhere from 12 to 21 percent) 
And every time we turn around 
banks seem to be raising fees or 1m- 
venting new ones. Some examples: 
@ A bank in Wheeling, West Vir 
ginia, is now charging more for th 
check designs its customers orde 
most often. In Geraldine, Mon 
tana, one bank charges a handlir 
fee to customers who use check 
not made by the bank’s printers. 
@ A Tinley Park, Illinois, bank no 
only charges a standard check 
bouncing fee of $15, it now als 
charges $10 to redeposit any chee 
that didn’t clear the first time 
(Until recently, most banks woul 
redeposit checks free of charge th 
first time they bounced and some 
times demanded a redeposit fee 
the check bounced twice.) 
@ In Tuscaloosa, Alabama, a ban 
has instituted a $10 charge f 
closing an account within thir 
days of opening it. (This is a rel 
tively new phenomenon, but it 
catching on. Today, 41 percent 
all banks charge this fee.) 
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$7.50 to $8.84 to open and close a cus- 
tomer’s account. 

Worse, of course, are fees that seem to 
target those least able to pay. One bank 
in Hutchinson, Kansas, charges ATM 
fees only to customers who can’t main- 
tain a $1,500 minimum balance. A bank 
Ht | in Naperville, Illinois, offers a “no- 
i frills/no-fees”’ account to folks with low 
| balances. The catch: All their transac- 


| tulons must be done through an ATM; if 
| they use a teller, they’re charged $1. 
Low-balance customers at a Midlothian, 
j Illinois, bank have to pay a fee every time 
1 they cash a check. 
“Some banks are offering so little in- 
| terest and imposing so many fees that 
consumers might do better keeping their 
money under the mattress,” says acting 
New York City Consumer Affairs Com- 
missioner Richard Schrader, who has 
conducted a survey of area banks. 

But this is not just a local problem. 
Banks across the country say rising costs 
are driving their fees up, but both the 
Consumer Federation of America (CFA) 
and the U.S. Public Interest Research 
Group (USPIRG) say that’s not necessar- 
ily justified. On surveying two hundred 
large banks nationwide, USPIRG found 
that in the last three years ATM fees rose 











34 percent on average, while ATM costs 
actually fell 12 percent. It costs banks ap- 
proximately $1 to process a bounced 
check, but the average bounced-check fee 
now hovers around $18. That’s a return 
of more than 1,600 percent. 

The American Bankers Association 
says the CFA/USPIRG study was deliber- 
ately designed to present the worst-case 


~Consumers have to uncersta 
that banks are their financial ene 


“They will take 4 


much money as you let them take 


says Mrkvicka. 


scenarios. “Not everyone pays all the 
fees,” says ABA spokesperson Virginia 
Stafford, who feels these studies imply 
that they do. 

But fees are one thing; deceptive deal- 
ings are another. Sadly, Marian Kind is 
not alone. Five banks in Florida, includ- 
ing hers, have been sued on charges of 
deceiving and gouging tens of thousands 
of car, boat and mobile-home buyers on 
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fected customers; nevertheles 
did nothing illegal or out of step 
rest of the banking industry. 
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banks are their financial enemy,” 
“They will take as much money 
leuthem take. Knowledge is t 
sumer’s best protection.” 

Mrkvicka cites some potent 
bank customers should know abot 
Credit life and disability insur 
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sly overpriced, and they protect 
<s more than they do you. Banks 
x commissions for selling them 
; high as 40 percent), and they of- 
the cost into the loan so they can 
‘ou extra interest, too. Don’t give 
yank’s pressure to buy these poli- 
all but a few rare cases, they are 
iired for the loan, and you can 
kind of protection yourself—for 
ym a local insurance agent. 
interest-rate computations. If 
ik is not compounding and pay- 
interest On your savings account 
om the day of deposit to the day 
srawal, Mrkvicka advises that you 
» savings in another bank. 
te fees. Avoid them by making 
s on time. Like check-bouncing 
: fees are usually way out of pro- 
to the expenses the bank incurs 
nple, a payment of $250 that is 
lays past due costs the bank ap- 
tely $2.40. The typical late-pay- 
arge is $15). 
sosit boxes that aren’t. No vault 
vious to theft, fire or flood, but 
ents of safe-deposit boxes are sel- 
vured by the bank. Even if yours 
od, collecting on it is tough. Most 
‘isurance companies won’t accept 
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box. Get a copy of the policy, and ask the 
insurer what evidence will be required to 
prove a loss. Mrkvicka says it’s almost al- 
ways necessary to have proof other than a 
notarized inventory. If so, you may have 
to allow a bank officer to observe your 
transacuions on eac!) visit to your box and 
sign a receipt attesting to the contents. 

An even better option: Cover jewelry 

and other valuables under your home- 
owner’s policy. This policy will cover 
specifically appraised and itemized pieces 
of jewelry, whether you keep them at 
home or in a safe-deposit box. There is no 
policy, however, that will cover money 
and securities. 
The fine print on bank documents. For 
example, some certificate-of-deposit agree- 
ments contain an obscure clause allowing 
the bank to redeposit your funds for an 
identical term when the certificate ma- 
tures, unless it hears otherwise from you. 
That can work to your advantage if inter- 
est rates are rising, but in today’s falling 
market, you could be the loser. Read ev- 
erything, and keep track of when your 
CDs are due; banks are not obligated to 
send maturation notices, says Mrkvicka. 

Criticisms such as Mrkvicka’s draw fire 
from the industry. Stafford, of the Ameri- 
can Bankers Association, concedes that 
banks need to do more to educate their 
customers, but says that books like 
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part of the banks and. 

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customer’s best interest (© be informed— 
and to know how to ge most service 
for the money. “Most « time,” he 
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Is your bank robbing you? 


to a teller or an account repreg 
tive on the floor. Explain youRm 
lem firmly and ask for assisfamm 
concise and polite. If that pe 
unable to help, complain next 
or her supervisor or boss, them 
bank’s president, then to the & 
necessary. Let them know that 


ceive either a satisfactory explt 
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el of lawyers who deal with these 

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fraud, report it to your states 
general's office. If your bank is) 
regulated (you'll have to ask 
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Find out about three surprising factors that can make your sex life sizzle. 
By Mary C. Hickey 


exually, Karen Spencer” 


and her husband, Marc, 


seem 


to travel on 


the 


same wavelength. “It’s 
only once in a blue moon 
that he’s in the mood to make love 
and I'm not,” says Karen, thirty- 
one, a nurse in Danbury, Connecti- 


cut, who has been 
married to Mare, 
thirty-five, a com- 
puter technician, for 
three years. 

Yet, even though 
the couple are sexu- 
ally compatible, the 
intensity of their 
lovemaking varies 
from day to day. 
Karen 
finds sex “absolutely 
wonderful.” And 
then there are times 
“more 


Sometimes 


when it’s 
than absolutely won- 
derful,” she says. 
“It’s sizzling hot and 
totally dynamite.” 
Though 
may be one of the 


Karen 


lucky ones whose 
sexual encounters 
usually rate at the 
high the 
wom- 


end of 
scale, most 
en—and their hus- 


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ing can range from 


“moved the earth.” At times, sex 
can be soft, cuddly and comfort- 


able. At other times, 


veritable acrobatic feat. One night 
an orgasm might stretch out bliss- 
fully, and another night it might 


OWN FORMULA FOR EXCITING SEX: 


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it can be a 





Sex drive 


After dark 





50 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL FEBRUARY 1994 


Stormy sensations 


Fun in the sun 


Bolts of passion 








last avfleeting second or never 


What variables determine how 
exciting—or how routine—an inti 
mate encounter might be? What is 
it that affects a person’s sexual aps 
petite from day to day, week 10 
week, or month to month? Inter 


views with doctors, 
sex therapists and 
researchers offet 
many explanations. 

“Physical, em@ 
tional and hormona 
factors all influene 
how we experience 
sex,” says Elizabeth 
Mooney, M.S., a se 
therapist and cov 
ples counselor 1 
Paw Paw, Michigar 
“A person’s mooe 
energy level am 
feelings toward 
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What makes for great sex 
continued 
surprising—factors that can have a big 
impact on your lovemaking. 


LOCATION, LOCATION, LOCATION 
“The best sex I ever have is on foreign 
soil,” says Rhonda Fried, a thirty-six 
year-old social worker from Dayton, 
Ohio. Each year, Rhonda and her hus- 
band, Dave, an attorney, travel to Europe 
for a vacation. While abroad, their sex 
life—which Rhonda describes as “okay” 
the rest of the year—takes off. “We'll 
spend hours necking, playing with each 
other, acting like a couple of teenagers,” 
she says. “And we actually have sex every 
day for two weeks, something we never 
do at home.” 

Rhonda is so insistent that “foreign 
soil” enhances lovemaking that one year, 
as an anniversary gift, Dave gave her a 





bucket filled with dark soil he’d asked a 
puzzled business colleague to bring from 
France. “That night, I swear, we made 
passionate love,” she says. 

Though it’s doubtful that European 
soil has any special aphrodisiac quality, 
Rhonda’s claim that she has better sex 
overseas makes a lot of sense to the ex- 
perts. And it’s not only being away from 
household chores and the demands of 
family that free the pair to enjoy love- 
making. “Anything that adds an ele- 
ment of novelty can enhance sex,” says 
Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D., a sex and mar- 
riage therapist and author of The New 
Male Sexuality: The Truth About Men, Sex 
and Pleasure (Bantam, 1992). Zilbergeld 
says that the greatest sex problem most 
married couples face is boredom. “Most 
people make love at night, in their bed- 
room, under the covers with the lights 
out,” he says. No matter how strong 
their passion for one another, that 


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monotony can take its toll. “A1 
tion often adds a spark, a bit of 
ergy,” he says. * 

Many people find sex in hote 
especially exciting—even if the 
just a few blocks away from the 
Others have discovered that si 
to another room in the house 
fireworks to sex. Stull others vent 
doors or into cars. 

“If you’re outside, or in thel 
of a car that you’ve pulled off fl 
way, there’s a risk of getting ¢ 
says Harvey Hester, Ed.D., a 
pist in Melbourne, Florida. “ 
of public discovery can be a trem 
turn-on and can make sex ex 
adventuresome.” 


A TIME FOR LOVE 
Marjorie and Mel Russo live ne 
muter train station in Port Wasl 
New York. Each weekday morni 
awaken to the sound of a train w 
6:05 a.m. “Neither of us has to b 
til about seven, so when the mot 
us, we spend that time foolin 
says Marjorie, a homemaker 
morning sex is “very special,” she 
tend to have a lot more energ} 
morning than I do last thing att 
sex tends to be much more dar 
adventuresome.” 

The timing of a sexual encc¢ 
the day of the month and even 
of the day—can have a distinct 
on the quality of sex, experts sa 
know, of course, that sex drive 
ates greatly depending on the 
month. “A woman’s interest im 
vary with her menstrual cyel 
Beverly Whipple, Ph.D., R.N., 
searcher at Rutgers Univ 
Newark, New Jersey, campus. 
sensus has been reached on 
woman’s sex drive peaks. “Some 
have found that sex drive is 
mid-cycle, and others sugges 
peak at the beginning of the 
varies enormously from woman 
an,” Whipple says. 

Perhaps less known, thou 
the quality of lovemaking can be 
by the hour of the day as well 
say that each individual has 
“circadian rhythms” that influ 
energy level over a twenty-four- 
riod. Those rhythms can help d 
the intensity of a sexual enco 
ally good, hot sex requires a h 
level,” says Judith Seifer, Ph.D 
sex therapist and spokesperso 
Chicago-based American Assoc 
Sex Educators, Counselors an 
pists. “If you’re feeling exha 
unlikely that it’s going to bear 
canic experience.” 

The time of day can be a facto 
it influences attitudes about 
Libbey Livingston, Ph.D., co-d 








tle Sexual Health Center. Some 


-onsider making love in broad 


to be “naughty,” and the sense 
atiness can add an element of 
ent to an encounter. And day- 
‘ows people to use the sense of 


»hich adds another sensual di- 


-to lovemaking. On the other 
iose same factors inhibit some 


.ad make them less comfortable. 


st sex occurs when people are 
ible with what they’re doing,” 
ton says, adding that couples 
rmine their comfort level by ex- 


.ting with sex at different times 


ae day. 


iT FOR PASSION 


‘yan, twenty-nine, who lives in 


looks forward to the summer 
ison as a time for frequent and 
s sex with her husband, Pete. 
s something about thunder- 
hat turns him into a sex mani- 
says. In the late summer and 
months—September in particu- 
‘rential rains, lightning and 
can happen as often as several 
night. “By the end of a really 
reek, I’m exhausted,” Trish says, 
aile. 

»s no research to prove that 
has an impact on our sex lives. 
e’s certainly plenty of anecdotal 


+: to suggest that climate has a 


influence on sexual encounters. 
uples find that long, cold winter 
rompt them to cuddle up and 


‘ve. Others, by contrast, think 


ny and warm weather, and the 


» othing that goes with it, is a 


. Still others say that rain or 
fog can put them in the mood 


ding to sex therapist Seifer, a 


/nt impact of weather is comfort. 


yn’s got to feel comfortable for 
» she says. “If he’s too hot, or 
, that will get in the way of his 
and affect sex.” 

heer comfort may not be the 


» or. “A lot of our passions are in- 


| by association and romance,” 


nda Venus, author of Secrets of 
» 1: How to Be the Best Lover Your 


Ever Had (Dutton, 1993). 
*, she says, can elicit romantic 
ions that can quickly turn to 


Abrams, who lives in northern 
ota, says she and her husband 


ir best sex on snowy and blus- 


ter days. “To me, snuggling up 
of the fireplace is so romantic,” 
». “Maybe I’ve seen too many 
but I find it a total turn-on.” 
ce Bartlett, summer is the most 
vason. “I find that when I spend 


‘time at the beach watching all 
‘l-tanned bodies in swimsuits, I 


come home feeling extremely sensual,” 
she says. 

According to Venus, weather ¢:n help 
fuel fantasies, which can help add zest to 
lovemaking. It also can help conjure up 
memories of an especially passionat. en- 
counter we’ve had on a similar day 11 ‘he 
past, and that memory can bring new cx 
citement to the present. 

Though any type of climate can do the 
trick, certain weather conditions—such 
as thunderstorms and blizzards—seem 
most likely to add inicnsity to lovemak- 


ing. “Bolts of lightning and loud claps of 


thunder have a kind of dangerous feel, 
and the element of fear can definitely in- 
fluence sexuality,” Venus says. That’s be- 
cause fear causes adrenaline to rise, and 
“anything that raises the adrenaline level 
has the potential to raise interest in sex.” 
That might be something to remember 
the next time forecasters predict stormy 
weather. 


THE MOST SATISFYING SEX 

The ways in which these three factors in- 
fluence lovemaking vary enormously 
from one individual to another. The im- 
portant thing, sex therapists say, is to be 
in touch with your own body—and 
mind—to be aware of when you’re feel- 
ing most sexy. Those are the times that 
lovemaking is most likely to reach the 
heights of passion. 

But that doesn’t mean you should ab- 
stain from sex at other umes. “There are 
lots of different reasons that couples want 
to make love,” says R. Taylor Segraves, 
M.D., professor of psychiatry at Case 
Western Reserve University Medical 
School, in Cleveland, Ohio. “Sometimes, 
a person wants sex for release of tension. 
Other times, it’s for comfort, or for reas- 
surance. Or maybe a couple is feeling re- 
ally intimate toward one another, and sex 
evolves from that intimacy.” 

According to Segraves, the reasons and 
expectations couples have for lovemaking 
can have the strongest influence on their 
activities in bed. If, for instance, a man 
wants sex as a release, he may be satisfied 
with a quick, uninventive encounter. On 
the other hand, if he wants to express 
feelings of closeness, he may be likelier 
to experiment with a variety of tech- 
niques and positions as he seeks to satisfy 
his wife. 

Though it’s nice when partners are in 
sync with one another’s moods and moti- 
vations, that’s not always necessary for a 
satisfying union. “In a loving, trusting 
relationship, enjoyment from sex occurs 
on many different levels,” Segraves says. 

The critical thing, experts agree, is for 
couples to be attuned to the fact that 
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when a friend demands more than you 
can possibly give? By Kristin von Kreisler 


t first, Mary Rafferty,* thir- 
ty-three, didn’t mind her 
friend Jo’s 
phone calls cach night. 
After all, Jo was getting 
a divorce; the least Mary felt she 
could do was stand by her. But over 
the weeks the calls got longer as Jo 
raged on about her soon-to-be-ex- 
husband and his girlfriend. Final- 
ly, Mary became angry. 

“Jo wasn’t doing anything to 
help herself,” Mary says. “I started 
feeling resentful that she was hang- 
ing onto me. It never occurred to 
her I might have problems of my 
own or something else to do in- 
stead of talking on the phone.” 
Their friendship had become a 
one-way street. 

Kor many women this story 1s all 
too familiar. “Having a fitend 
need you too much is very com- 









hour-long 


mon,” says Herbert J. Freuden- 
berger, Ph.D., a psychologist and 
psychoanalyst in New York City. 


Why? The reasons are varied. Your 


*Names have been changed. 


friend’s  hus- 
band may not 
give her any 
emotional sup- 
port, so. she 
needs you to. Or 
she may trust 
only you to 
share her prob- 
lems. Or those problems may be so 
complex or painful that she feels 
overburdened with anxiety, fear, 
loneliness, depression and guilt. 
“The temporary comfort you offer 
may distract a friend from the dis- 
tress, so she keeps coming back to 
you—often without realizing she’s 
Imposing or depending on you too 
much,” says Jim Wolf, M.S., a 
marriage and family counselor in 
Oakland, California. 

Thats what happened to Melissa 
Steiner, thirty-eight, whose friend 
Emily was so overwhelmed by a life 
crisis, she showed up at Melissa’s 
house one day—and didn’t leave 
for a month. Emily had been laid 
off from her job and ended up los- 


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showed no signs of moving ou 
Melissa got more and more upsé 
But she couldn’t make herself ai 
Emily to leave. “I felt sorry for 
I kept thinking how terrible Pd fe 
if I were in her shoes,” Meliss 
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discovered, that kind of empaihy for an- 
other’s plight can contribute to the prob- 
lem. Says Freudenberger, “Women 
identify themselves as nurturers.” They 
often feel pressured to extend themselves 
to those who need them. “Women are so- 
cialized to go the extra mile for people,” 
adds Marta Vago, Ph.D., a Los Angeles 
psychologist. 

Women also typically invest a lot of 
themselves in relationships and disclose 
intimate details about their lives. Conse- 
quently, they “start off expecting that a 
lot can be asked and a lot should be given 
in a friendship,” says Drury Sherrod, 
Ph.D., a psychologist in Los Angeles. 

Perhaps not surprisingly, this can 
cause problems. “Expectations can turn 
into demands that can lead to resent- 
ments,” says Linda Sapadin, Ph.D., a psy- 
chologist in Valley Stream, New York. In 
the beginning you may feel good about 
being there for your friend, and you may 
genuinely want to help her. But if she 
keeps asking for more and more, you may 
end up feeling used and angry. 

Ashley Pearson, twenty-eight, got so 
mad at the demands her friend Karen 


Marta Vago. “Chey think they must care 
for anyone in need.” Yet honesty about 
your feelings may be your first step to- 
ward solving the problem and saving the 
friendship. “You can more rationally 
think whe: your options are for taking 
care of yourself and still be respectful of 
your friends,” adds Vago. 

@ Remember that your friend is not your 
responsibility. If you don’t want to keep 
seeing her so often or listening to her 
problems, you need not feel guilty. Even 
when you try to help her, “you shouldn’t 
be her rescuer,” advises Jim Wolf. “She 
needs to be responsible for herself.” 

#7 Consider whether you’re really the 
best person to help your friend. Perhaps 
she would benefit more from joining a 
support group or talking with a doctor, 
lawyer or psychologist. If so, suggest an- 
other resource to her. Say, for example, 
“Maybe your marital problems are seri- 
ous enough to require a counselor. I'll be 
glad to support you while you find the 
kind of help you really need.” 

Also remember that you have a right 
to set limits on your involvement and to 
say no to her demands. “If you don’t 
watch out for yourself, then who else 
will?” asks Wolf. “A real friend—some- 
one who is as interested in your well-be- 


“If @ friend makes you feel 
constantly depleted, the 


relationship isn’t healthy.” 


continually made on her that she nearly 
ended the friendship. Karen, a college 
roommate, had relocated to Chicago, 
where Ashley had been living for seven 
years. “Suddenly, Karen expected me to 
drop everything to spend time with her,” 
Ashley complains. “I could understand 
she was lonely starting out in a new city, 
but I was stressed at work and scram- 
bling around to get to my son’s soccer 
games. I didn’t have time to sit around 
and talk the way we'd done in college.” 
When Karen kept pressuring Ashley 
to get together, Ashley began to feel she 
wasn’t dealing with a friend so much as 
with a spoiled child. Her anger flared. 


HOW TO HANDLE A SELFISH FRIEND 

If a friend’s demands and neediness have 
pushed you, like Ashley, into feeling an- 
gry and resentful, what should you do? 
Here’s what the experts advise: 

@ Acknowledge to yourself that you’re 
feeling burdened by your friend. “Wom- 
en are reluctant to admit the burden be- 
cause it also makes them feel guilty,” says 


ing as you are in hers—will understand.” 
@ Don’t try to dodge contact with your 
friend by making phony excuses. “That 
only increases the problem,” says Linda 
Sapadin. Instead, talk with your friend 
about her depending on you too much, 
and explain your feelings honestly. You 
might start by telling her you care about 
her and value her friendship. But then 
say, for instance, “I have a lot of demands 
on my time right now, and I’d like to 
limit the length of our phone calls.” 

The confrontation may result in an ar- 
gument, but if the friendship is genuine, 
you can work through it. “Being honest 
about your feelings may be the most pre- 
cious gift you can give your friend,” says 
Wolf. “Tolerating too much of a person’s 
insensitive or inappropriate behavior en- 
courages it.” 

@ Decide what you’re willing and not 
willing to do for your friend. Try to work 
out a balance between your own needs 
and hers. If she’s going through a crisis, 
you can spend more time and energy on 
her for a while. But don’t let your friend 


70 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - FEBRUARY 1994 


disrupt your life too much or put 
out more than you want. : 
@ Finally, ask yourself if this situ 
part of a pattern. Do you feel you 
help someone with problems in ¢ 
be a worthwhile person? You may 
ing your own need to feel impor 
giving too much of yourself to 
who look for nurturing. Consider 
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change how you choose friends.” © 


CAN THIS FRIENDSHIP BE SAVED? 
If your friend keeps pressing you fe 
and attention even after you’ve te 
how you feel, you may have to ff 
difficult and often painful decisio: 
whether you should continue th 
tionship. But before you take 4 
carefully analyze the situation. 

“If your friend’s problem is jus 
term, hang in there. That’s what f 
are for,” says Vago. “But if she mak 
feel.constantly depleted over time 
the relationship isn’t healthy, a 
need to pull out.” ‘i 

Reexamine whether your frie 
really is as one-sided as you feel it 
haps your friend is returning you 
tiona! support with other kinds ¢ 
Does she take care of your kids 
times? Give you advice about fit 
“No friendship is exactly fifty-fift 
Vago. “One person always gives 
than the other in certain areas.” — 

If you do decide you’re doing 
giving and you want to call it qui 
your friend, Sapadin says you ha 
options. One is to make a direct 
“I’m sorry,” you might say, “but 
have the time right now to get t 
The other is to let the friend: 
slowly by gradually growing more 

That was the approach taken b 
Rafferty, who listened until she 
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day Mary withdrew her support: 
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very couple fights about chores, 
but for working parents, who does 
what and when they do it around 
the house can take on global pro- 
portions. “Housework can be a lightning 
rod for family tensions—as well as the 
scapegoat for unspoken marital prob- 
lems,” says Ellen Galinsky, M.S., co- 
president of the Families and Work 
Institute, in New York City. 

“Working couples today are operating 
on emotional overload,” adds Leah Potts 
Fisher, L.C.S.W., co-director of the Cen- 
ter for Work and the Family, in Oak- 
land, California, who runs seminars to 


help parents better negotiate shared 
roles at home. On the surface, they’re 
battling about mundane issues: Who’s 
doing the dishes tonight? When are the 
bookcases going to be painted? But what 
they are really fighting about, she says, 
is who’s most deserving of a break. 
Whose personal needs—for love and af- 
fection, for exercise, even for a good 
night’s sleep—are going unmet? 

Indeed, the Chore Wars can drive a 
sharp wedge through even the strongest 
marriage. When women feel weighed 
down by household chores, when they 
that those (continued) 


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(continued) aren't being sharec 
equally, they often become so angr 
that they’re unable to find a !ogica 
rational solution. Simmering r 
sentments and open hostilities 
seem inevitable. 


THE EXPECTATION GAP 

Why are families today in such a 
state? Experts say most are strug- 
gling to cope with the gap between 
their ideals and the reality of their 
overextended lives. 

Many wives still feel they don’t 
have a right to ask their husbands 
for help with chores. After all, even 
though both of them are working, 
he’s probably earning more than she 
is. That means his job is more 1m- 
portant, as strict economic reason- 
ing goes—and _ because _ he’s 
providing more, he’s more entitled 
to his leisure time, right? 

“Historically, managing the home 
and nurturing the children and the 
marriage were women’s work, their 
report card,” points out Leah Fish- 
er. “Was the home clean? Then the 
wife got an A. But, historically, 
women didn’t have to work outside 
the home, too,” she adds. Sixty-sev- 
en percent of mothers now do—and 





they’re still paid only 70 percent of 


what men are paid. 

What’s more, a study released last 
fall by the Families and Work Insti- 
tute confirms that despite the high 
numbers of women in the work- 
force, a traditional division of labor 
sull develops at home. The study 











JOAN McOMBER and 
JEFF LEIFER, both thirty-nine. 
Married eight years. They have 
two children: Matthew, nineteen 
months, and Daniel, four. Joan 
is a parent educator; Jeff runs 


MOST INTENSE CONFLICT: 
laundry; getting everyone ready 
for the next day. 


SOLUTION: Negotiated a 
compromise they could both live 
with: Whoever does the laundry 


folds it and puts it away. They also lay out 
everything the night before—clothes, 
breakfast cereal, car keys—so mornings 


are less frantic. 


his own tile-contracting business. 


noted a striking difference in a 
working couple’s perceptions of the 
household division of labor: Some 
31 percent of men in dual-earner 
families reported that chores were 
split fifty-fitty. But only 15 percent 
of women in dual-earner families 
made that claim. Clearly, he may 
think he’s helping, but in re- 


ality, he’s not doing all si 
that much. f 
CALLING A CEASE-FIRE — Pe 


While it may not be pos- —S_ ff 
sible to lessen the num- 
ber of domestic tasks, 
you can change your atti- 
tude toward those tasks 
as well as toward each © 
other. With the help of 
Leah Fisher, we found 
three couples in Berkeley, 
California, who volunteered to par- 
ticipate in a four-week workshop on 
resolving the chores crisis at home. 
Here’s what they learned: 

@ Act like allies, not adversaries. 
A sense of moral righteousness of- 
ten fuels the Chore Wars. The per- 
son who forgets to switch the wet 
clothes from the washer to the dry- 
er, the one who always leaves the 
bill-paying to his (or her) spouse, is 
not merely forgetful, but bad. 

If this moral one-upmanship 1s 
feeding your Chore Wars, remember 
you are partners, not adversaries, 
says Fisher. How you say something 
1S as important as what you say. 
Couples must learn to speak to each 
















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other in a way that gets a pow 
across but doesn’t undermine sel 
esteem. How do you do that? By 
cusing on feelings. Stick to the fae 
and keep the conversation neut 
Talk honestly about what’s bother 
ing you. Tell him why it’s impor 
tant; offer suggestions for change. 


into tirades about @ 
spouse’s slothfuln 


._— identify their own unmet 


see 
“fz needs,” says Fisher. Exam 


your work/family activities for on 
or two weeks. What’s missing from 
your life? Time alone? Time witl 
your husband? Time for exercise? ] 
you're feeling resentful, some essen 
tial needs are not being met. 

Jeff Leifer and Joan McOmbe 
also realized they were desperatel 
lacking couple time. That prompte 
them to arrange a child-care swa 
with another couple. Now, one ni 
every other weekend, they can coul 
on time alone. “And since the 
makes us feel so much better abou 
us,” Joan says, “the tension at hom 
has eased.” Indeed, Fisher repor 
that couples often discover that b 
simply meeting one, albeit smal 
need that each partner has, they fee 
better about themselves and their f 
lationship in general, and are bett 
able to figure out solutions. 

Keeping a weekly diary is also 
good way to identify your I 
points. Gloria Bocian-Schnitzer di 
covered that her hot point is havi 
to be responsible even for the thin 
she doesn’t do. “Willie doesn’t uf 
derstand that if I have to remig 
him to do something, then it’s st 
on my to-do list,” she said afte 
keeping track of her feelig@ 
throughout the week. “I don’t wa 
to nag him or even have to remem 
ber to mention it again.” 

However, once again, the way y 
express your unmet needs can ma 
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your partner “I need 
p around the house” or 


u to bathe the kids” is 
tive. says Fisher. When 


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you to h 
“I need) 
not prod 


you phi your feelings this way, 
you are instructing your partner, 
often | demanding way, to do 


something. He may well resist or 
turn a deaf ear. Reframe your com- 
ment in a way that focuses on the 
need without jumping to a solu- 
tion: “I need more time for myself. 
How can we help me get that?” 
This turns a potential power strug- 
gle into a problem-solving effort. 

@ Communicate, communicate. 
Unspoken misunderstandings— 
the silent, simmering resent- 
ments—are frequent triggers for 
Chore Wars trouble. “Jay says 


















even retreat to a private corner off 
the house, do it. 
@ Set priorities and brainstorm) 
strategies. Ask yourselves: What, 
really important? What’s nog 
Which chores have to be dom 
right away, and which can wait 
Remember, too, that priorities 
may change over time. Mak 
choices that work for you now, am 
renegotiate if necessary later. 

Then, brainstorm strategies. Start 
small and pick one issue or prob 
lem to tackle at a time. Collaborate 
negotiate, compromise—what yot 
do with co-workers all day long 
What one thing can you change 
Resolve to try it for one week, thei 
meet again to discuss how you each 
feel about the change. Modify the 


GLORIA BOCIAN-SCHNITZER, 
thirty-three, a computer programmer, 
and WILLIE SCHNITZER, forty, a 
real estate appraiser. Two kids: Emily, 
five, and Charlie, two. Until recently, 










Gloria worked a split shift; her 
schedule changed daily. 


MOST INTENSE CONFLICT: 


“Mornings are insane, and the last 


thing | need is to realize we're 
out of cereal, milk or bagels,” 
says Gloria. 


SOLUTION: From now on, 
Willie is in charge of every 
aspect of breakfast: making sure 
there’s breakfast stuff in the 
house, preparing it, cleaning up. 
“It may not sound like a big 


deal, but it is to me,” Gloria says. 


cross off my list. I’m thrilled.” 


that all I have to do 1s ask him to 
help, but that’s the problem,” 
says Lee Eisman. “I don’t want to 
be the one to always do the ask- 
ing.” The first step in opening 
lines of communication is to cre- 
ate a time to discuss important 
Chore Wars issues. Timing is 
critical. Don’t bring up how un- 
equal the distribution of labor 1s 
when you’re both exhausted. Set 
aside time to talk without inter- 
ruption. If that means hiring a 
baby-sitter so you can go out or 


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-EE EISMAN, thirty-nine, sales 
manager, and JAY 
TENNENBAU\M,, fo:ty-five, an 
employee-benefit sc'esman. 
Married eleven years, they have 
a nine-month-old baby, Jordan. 


MOST INTENSE CONFLICT: 
“I resent having to always ask 
Jay to do something,” says Lee. 
“I'd like him to take the initiative 
more so | don’t feel like such a 
nag and get so angry.” She also 
needs more time for herself. 


SOLUTIONS Lee learned to 


speak up to Jay before the resentment 
pushes her over the edge. To carve out 





time for Lee, they now check their 
schedules and agree which nights Jay 
will come home early to baby-sit. Lee 
goes out to a movie or dinner with 


friends, or to the gym. 


(continued from page 76) the work- 
week.” Then it dawned on her: Why 
not go out? Or bring in dinner, even 1f 
its fast food? The point is not to cook, 
but to get everybody together. 

@ Identify other resources. Con- 
sider all possible ways of getting 
things accomplished. What tactics 
work best for you? Instead of bat- 





tling over chores, if you can afford 
it, hire a cleaning service once a 
week or even once a month. Can 
you get older children more in- 
volved? How about hiring neighbor- 
hood teenagers to do yard work, 
home repairs, or even to clean out 
your garage and run errands? 

@ Get tough. You can’t demand 


































compliance or control your partn 
willingness to do his fair share. 
you can control your willingness | 
pick up the slack. One mother 
three, whose husband had agreed 1 
do the family laundry, did just tha 
When he failed to keep his part @ 
the bargain, she stuck to her gung 
The dirty laundry piled up. @ 
washed out my own underwear,” sh 


complained they had no clean 
clothes, she told them to ask their fa 
ther. “Eventually, he got the point.” 
@ Renegotiate the work at work 
“Many couples assume their work 
lives are set in stone,” says Fisher 
“and that the only part they can con 
trol is the home.” While this may b 
true, don’t shortchange yourself before 
first considering other options. Is flex 
time or job-sharing an option? Ca 
you work at home one day a week? 
@ Be thankful for little things. | 
happens all the time: Hassled, hat 
ried working parents fail to ae 
knowledge how much their partnet 
do—whether it’s bringing home 
paycheck or feeding the cat. “It ma 


appreciate the things your partne 
does, instead of zeroing in on whe 
he doesn’t do, can make a differ 
ence,” says Fisher. j 





Wise is the parent who can 





get the whole family, even 
preschoolers, involved in 
household cleanup. Here’s 
how: 

1. Don’t underestimate your 
kids. Sure, it can take less 
time to put things away 
yourself, but you'd be 
surprised at how resourceful 
kids are. Make it clear from 
an early age that you expect 
them to do simple tasks. 
Structure the tasks to make 
them easier. For instance: If 
yOu have very YOUNG 
children, set the breakfast 
table the night before with 
cereal in a bowl. Leave a 
small container of juice and 
one of milk ona low shelf In 


the refrigerator. Even a four- 


80 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL 





year-old can take it out and 
pour it. Older kids can also 
make their own lunch the 
night before 

2. “Have the same 
standards for yourself that 
you do for your kids,” adds 
Linda Dunlap, Ph.D., 
assistant professor of 


psychology at Marist College, 


in Poughkeepsie, New York. 
If you want your kids to make 
their beds in the morning and 
leave their rooms in 
reasonable condition, you 
should do the same 

3. Have a family meeting 
and tell children honestly: 
“I'm tired at the end of the 
day. | can’t do it all.” Then 
spell out not only what you 
think they're able to do, but 


FEBRUARY 1994 





to learn. Admit that you 
don’t love doing your 
chores either, but you do 
them, anyway 

4. Don’t take it for granted, 
however, that they will 
remember. “You may have 
to remind them—again and 
again. Try to accept that and 
not lose your cool,” says 
Dunlap. When a child does 
remember, reward her for it: 
“I'm really pleased you 


made your bed today. You 


should be proud of yourself.” 


5. What if they say, “You 
can’t make me?” Dunlap 
suggests taking a firm stand 
by responding: “You're 
right; | can’t. But if you don’t 
clean up your room, I'll do it 


that it would be a good idea 









for you. And you may not 
know where everything is, 
| may decide you don’t need 
some of this stuff anymore. 
In your arsenal of things” 
to say in the heat of the 
moment, you can also store 
this: “After you get this job 
done, we will [go to the 
mall, see the movie— 
whatever]. Not before.” 
Should you pay a kid to 
do chores? Dunlap has no 
problem with that, within — 
reason. You might decide 
that certain chores are part ¢ 
being a responsible member 
of a family. More special 
jobs—cleaning the garage, 
washing the car or doing — 
windows—may be worth a 
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diet is of the eat-and-run 
variety—maybe a bag of potato 
chips from the office vending ma- 
chine washed down with another 
cup of coffee... . Your children are 
enrolled in myriad sports programs, 
but the last time you made it to the 
health club was, Iet’s see, sometime 
before Thanksgiving, right? ... You 

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for their reg- 
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your own physical. Most likely, 
you're also exhausted, stressed out 


and, considering the time of year, 
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and marriage and family therapist 
in New York City whose paticnt 
load is overwhelmingly working 
moms. Juggling professional life 
and office politics, family schedules, 
child rearing, chores and maybe 
even the care of elderly parents are 
common stressors for working wom- 
en today. 

Doctors have long known that 
the 
“Stress can 


chronic stress can weaken 
body’s 1mmune system. 
render a person more susceptble to 
infection, depression, anxiety, in- 
somnia, fatigue, accidents, head, 
neck and back pain, viruses, heart 
attacks, ulcers and other stress-re- 
lated illnesses, skin disorders, possi- 
bly even cancer,” notes psychologist 
Andrew Baum, Ph.D., director of 
Behavioral Medicine and Oncology 
at the Pittsburgh Cancer Institute. 
What’s more, women are at risk for 
other stress-related ailments unique 
to them, including premenstrual 
syndrome and amenorrhea 
(lack of or irregular menstru- 
al periods). 


THE EMOTIONAL 

SIDE EFFECTS OF STRESS 

Why does stress affect us the way 
it does? One key theory, says 
Baum, 
area of vulnerability in our body. 
When we’re under stress, that’s the 
first place we feel its impact. One 


is that each of us has an 


woman will notice pain in her neck 
or back, another will have a migraine, 
another will get an upper respiratory 
infection, yet another will experience 
an outbreak of cold sores. 

“Working parents push them- 

notes Leah’ Fisher, 
5 an expert in work/family 


selves,” 


L.C.S.W 


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issues. “When they’re overtired ¢ 
overworked, there’s a tendency | 
speed up and work even harder an 
faster.” Minimizing the importane 
of stress in your life is guaranteed? 
make it worse. But for a working 
mother to control that stress, sk 
first has to give herself permissio 
to recOgnize it, and then educat 
herself in combating It. 

“You can’t make the traffic lig 
change any faster or the elevat 
come more quickly,” notes Hele 
Neville, a stress-management expe 
at Kaiser Permanente Medical Cem 
ter, in Oakland, California, “b 
you can change your thinking pé 
tern. If you are kept waiting at 
doctor’s office or are stuck in traf 
driving to the day-care center 
pick up your children, use that tim 
to relax. At the very least, take a fe 
deep breaths. Inhale slowly thro 
your nose to the count of five, ho 
for five counts, then exhale slow 
through your mouth to the count 
five.” What else can you do tot 
duce the emotional toll of stress?” 
@ Understand the stress tri 
“Remind yourself that you aren't 
only one trying to tread water W 
bringing up your kids and ho 
down a job,” advises Fisher. Ju 
work and family is tough for eve 
one, and trying to institute a jo 
managerial style, as working parel 
must, is the trickiest task of é 
Don’t turn it into a power struggle 
@ Recognize your personal stre 
symptoms, even subtle ones. / 
you not sleeping well? Are yow 
ways tired, often sick, headachy 
irritable? Do you feel depressed 
anxious? Listen to your body 4a 
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(continued) the workday to re- 
lease physical tension. 

“A working mom should schedule 
regular aerobic exercise—jogging, 
swimming, biking or even just walk- 
ing around the block for twenty 
minutes,” says Neville. She also sug- 
gests keying tension-reducing tech- 
niques to daily activities or 
occurrences. For example: While 
you're wailing for the elevator in 
your office building to come or the 
computer screen to change, do slow, 
easy stretches. At Icast once every 
hour, get up from your desk and 
move around. Don’t forget to work 
physical exercise into your 
day: Climb the stairs in-  ¢— 
stead of taking the elevator. ( 
@ Do something for | 
yourself. Working moth-  . 
ers always feel they should 
be doing something 
more for someone clse. 
When was the last time 
you carved out private ume 
for yourself? Even ten min- 
utes at the end of the day can 
be restorative. No excuses or expla- 
nations necessary. Just say: “I need 
time for me now,” then go to your 
room, close the door and do whatev- 
er you want. Allow no interruptions 
unless someone 1s bleeding. It also 
makes sense to use commuting time 
as transition time. If you travel by 
train or bus, don’t use up the whole 
commute doing work. Instead, take 
fifteen minutes to read a novel, med- 
itate or simply stare out the window. 
@ Stop doing two things at once. 
Many working moms pride them- 
selves on their ability to chat on the 
phone, cook a meal and sort the 
laundry all at the same time. Such 


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Mark L. Held, Ph.Ds calls them 
time-stuffers—may be doing more 
harm in the long run. “If you're al- 
ways doing many things at once, 
you may think you’re being effi- 
cient, but you’re missing out on the 
joys of relaxation,” says Held, who 
specializes in emotional burnout. 


THE PHYSICAL TOLL OF STRESS 

Emotional stress can also trigger 
myriad physical symptoms. The 
most common: 

Canker sores are painful recurrent 






sores that appear on the inside of the 
lips or cheeks, or on the gums, 
tonguc, palate and throat. Vhere’s no 
cure, but you can treat the pain with 
an over-the-counter numbing medi- 
cation—such as Anbesol. If your 
pain is severe, your doctor can pre- 
scribe a steroid cream. 

Fever blisters or cold sores are 
small blisters that appear on the lip; 
they are caused by the herpes sim- 
plex virus. For recurring attacks, ask 
your doctor for a prescription of a 
medication called Zovirex, cither in 
a topical loulon or a capsule. 

Skin conditions (such as acne or 
eczema). If you are predisposed to 
these conditions, stress can exacer- 
bate your problem, says Ellen 
Gendler, M.D., a dermatologist and 
director of the Center for Skin 
Health and Appearance at New 
York University Medical Center, in 
New York City. “What’s more, 
when you’re nervous or anxious, 
you may touch, rub, scratch or pick 
at your face, and this can definitely 
make a skin condition worse,” 
Gendler says. To keep conditions 
under control, note cach outbreak 


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in your appointment book so ye 
can track high-stress periods. Whi 
the ideal scenario would be t 
cleanse your face carefully at mid 
day, most hassled working mothet 
can’t find the time. What they need 
a fast and simple cleansing routin 
geared to their skin type, that the 
can do morning and night. Gendle 
also advises keeping makeup to 
minimum. If a skin condition wors 
ens, consult a dermatologist. Ask fé 
samples of any products the derm: 
tologist prescribes so you can tak 
them with you on business trips. 
Ulcers are chronic sores in the pre 
tective mucous lining of th 
digestive tract. The areas 

most commonly affected ar 

the duodenum (recurring 

pain two hours after eat 
ing); the stomach ( 
burning pain that is re 
lieved, temporarily, b 
milk or antacids); an 
the esophagus (pail 
when swallowing or lying 
down). According to Rob 

A. Kutnick, M.D., an internist i 
New York City, there is new evi 
dence that in some cases bacteri 
may be responsible for ulcers. ] 
you are suffering from these symf 
toms, ask your doctor about testin 
for the presence of bacteria. H 
may prescribe a course of antib 
otics. “However,” says Kutniek 
“smoking and stress are probabl 
two of the major contributors to t 
cer formation.” A doctor can ¢0 
firm a diagnosis of ulcer with eith 
barium X rays or endoscopy (insé 
tion of a long flexible tube throt 
the mouth and into the intestiné 
tract). Some ulcers may healgg 
themselves in six to eight week 
Meanwhile, stop smoking and ave 
alcohol and caffeine, which 
crease production of gastric ae 
For serious or recurring ulce 
physician can prescribe medicati 
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nerves and lower-back pain. 
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are caused by seemingly innot 
things: the way you sit, the 
you lift an object, even the 
you reach for the phone on y 
desk. Here’s another example 
the elusive connection betw 
mind and body: Poor post 
places stress on neck, upper@ 
lower-back muscles, which 
trigger spasm, says Jon Ke 
M.D., an orthopedic surgeon 
New York City. By the sameé 
ken, stress can exacerbate 
musculoskeletal conditions 
already have. 
A good example: what layr 
catl a “pinched” nerve. This €6i 
tion is, in fact, caused by press 
on a nerve from a bulging (or 
niated) disk in the neck or bé 
The resulting pressure may 
pain at a point distant to where 
nerve is actually being pinched 
ally, pressured by the disk) 
may feel a dull ache on the sid 
back of your neck, accompanied 
shooting pain into your arm@ 
tingling, burning or numbnes 
your fingers. Pain that sh 
down the leg (also called seia 
may stem from a pinched nery 
the lumbar region. 
What causes that pressure? 
haps you lifted something wi 
which sent a muscle into spa 
and that tightening has put 
sure on the nerve. Or perhaps 
work in a deadline-heavy job 
you're tense day in and day 
Neck and back muscles may tg 
en for long periods, eventt 
causing pain. 
What to do: Once you've 
covered what’s causing the 
sure—and you may have to $ 
doctor to determine this—1 
tuting some simple lifes 
changes may eliminate or Ie 
it. For instance: ; 
@ Rethink what you do and 
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(continued) floor? If your office 
chair doesn’t fit snugly in the small 
of your back, buy a lumbar pillow 
(at most pharmacies or health-food 
stores) and put it behind you. Sit 
up straight, tuck in your chin, low- 
er your shoulders and pull in your 
abdominal muscles so you feel your 
lower back flatten. 

Is your computer screen at eye 
level? If you do a lot of typing, use 
a book stand to prop up pages in- 
stead of resting them flat on your 
desk. To prevent repetitive stress 
injury (RSI), a form of tendinitis, 
make sure your wrist is flat, not an- 
gled, when you work at the comput- 
er; better yet, attach a wrist support 
to your chair or computer table. Ar- 
range your work station so every- 
thing is within easy reach—the 
phone, pencil holder, and so on 
should be no more than eighteen 
inches away from vou. Instead of 
reaching for something farther 
away, get up and get it. 
What’s in your shoulder bag or 
briefcase? Bricks? Carrying a bag 
that is too heavy throws the body 
out of alignment. Take out every- 
thing you don’t need during the 
workday. Leave a duplicate makeup 
case at your office so you’re not car- 
rying extra weight back and forth. 
Try to distribute the weight evenly 
in both hands, or switch the bag 
from arm to arm; better yet, switch 
to a clutch or smaller handbag. 
What about that briefcase? If you 
find you tlt to one side when carry- 
it’s too heavy. If you abso- 
lutely need everything, try carrying 
the briefcase in front of you like a 
grocery bag. 
How do you hold the telephone? 
Do you prop the receiver between 
your chin and shoulder while you 


ing it, 


THE EAT-AND-RUN SYNDROME 


Too busy to cook, too rushed to eat 
properly, working moms often com- 
promise on healthy eating. What to do: 
1. Eat small, frequent meals for 
quick energy: low-fat foods, foods 
high in carbohydrates, fruits and 
vegetables, and whole grain or soy 
products. Instead of coffee, have a 
glass of water or fruit juice. 





take notes? Almost everyone does, 
but it’s the worst thing you can do 
for your neck. Ask your company to 
purchase headsets, like telephone 
operators use, sO you can maintain 
good posture and still write with 
one hand as you talk. 

Learn to lift properly. Instead of 
bending over from the waist to get 
files on the floor, bend at the knees 
and squat close to a heavy object. 
Pull it close, keeping your back 
straight and abdominals contracted 
as you rise slowly. 

Meanwhile, analgesics such as 
acetaminophen or anti-inflammato- 
ry drugs prescribed by a physician 
may offer pain relief. So does soak- 
ing in a hot tub at the end of the 
day, as well as applying heat or ice 
(try both, for no more than twenty 
minutes at a time, to see which 
works best for you). Also, ask your 
doctor about simple stretching and 
strengthening exercises to do at 
home as well as on office breaks. 

However, if neck or back pain has 
not abated after one week, consult 
an orthopedist, who will need to 
take X rays or perform other tests to 


2. Eliminate or cut down on refined 
sugar. Instead of bingeing on junk 
foods or skipping meals, choose 
foods that you can eat quickly and 
that pack an extra protein punch: 
cheese, low-fat granola, yogurt. 

3. Don’t neglect your body’s need for 
calcium, found in low-fat dairy prod- 
ucts such as milk, yogurt and cheese; 


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uncover the cause of your pain. € 
new technique—called pereu 
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YOUR KIDS (LITERALLY) 
YOU SICK 


In addition to stress-related ai 

ments, working moms must al 

battle a host of infections t 
like all moms, catch from their kid 
But for a working mother, this it 
evitability can be a double whan 
my: “Many working moms can 
afford to get sick,” notes Hele 
Neville. “It can take a lot longer 
get better if you don’t give yourse 
the time to really recuperate. ¥ 
go to work anyway because you 
you can’t miss an important me 
ing or can’t tell your boss you won 
be in because you were up fol 
times in the middle of the nig 
with a sick child.” And before ye 
realize it, that run-of-the-mill co 
may have turned into bronchitis. 
Colds, upper respiratory infe 
tions, coughs The most likely et 
prits here are viruses, says Mar 
Meyers, M.D., an internist in Me 
ristown, New Jersey. What to ¢ 
Drink plenty of fluids (hot herb 
tea or soup is best). During the da 
cough suppressants that contai 
dextromethorphan, in tablets | 
lozenges, are soothing and usua 
don’t cause drowsiness. If you 
truly miserable, ibuprofen ca 
lieve aches and pains. At ni 
cough suppressants with cod 
(you'll need a prescription) or d 
congestants will help you sleep. — 
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rector of the Nation 
Foundation for I 

uous Diseases. Despi 
this success, some ch 
dren still have not bee 
completely vaccinate 
Make sure yours are. _ 
But what about chicke 
pox, for which a vaccine 
still not routinely adminis 
tered? (It’s only available ft 


other family members 
HH might get it. Strep is 
uh usually not serious— 
though if untreated, it 
can be. A doctor can 
prescribe an antibiotic, 
and you should feel bet- 
ter within twenty-four 
hours. Be sure to take all 
the medicine prescribed for all high-risk children, such as thos 
ij ten days. suffering from leukemia.) If you af 
| Stomach upsets Most stomach up- hats or hairbrushes, or simply by _ pregnant, or trying to get pregnan 
i sets turn out to be viral gastroen- hanging one’s coat next to that of an and don’t know if you were ever & 
teritis, which has to run its course. infected person. You will notice posed to chicken pox, a simple bloa 
Drink plenty of fluids, rest as much itchiness on the scalp, especially test can confirm the presence of ant 
as you can, and eat lightly. For diar- around the nape of the neck and _ bodies, says Max Van Gilder, MD., 
rhea, Meyers suggests taking ears (look for tiny white egg sacs pediatrician in New York Cit 
Imodium AD, an antidiarrheal med- that cling to hair shafts). Treat the Most women, he says, have been € 
ication, eating a light diet and whole family with an over-the- posed2and developed antibodie 
avoiding milk products. counter shampoo or rinse, such as even if they've never shown sym 
Pinworms Rectal itching due to NIX, that kills the eggs; remove nits toms of the disease. Since chicke 
tiny parasitic white worms that at- with a fine-tooth comb. Wash pil- pox can be dangerous to an unboj 
tack the intestinal tract and are lows and bedding in very hot water. child in the last trimester, or to 
spread when children scratch them- Childhood diseases Three years newborn the first five days afte 
selves and then touch other objects ago, an epidemic of measles _ birth, consult your doctor if you ha 
or people. Your doctor can prescribe prompted a nationwide immuniza- been exposed and do not know 
medication for the whole family. tion campaign. Today, the Centers you’re immune. He may recommer 
You should also wash all underwear, for Disease Control and Prevention, an expensive, but effective, gamm 
pajamas and bedding. in Auanta, report that the disease globulin shot, which can prote 
Lice can be easily spread by sharing has reached an all-time low in this against the virus. ] 


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How’s it doing? 





Listen, we’re not complaining. For struggling working 
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employers have to comply (all state and federal gov- 





ernment agencies as well as any private employers human services director. You may need to fill out € 
| j with fifty or more employees). And since most of the form from the U.S. Department of Labor or get 
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take up to twelve weeks of unpaid leave every year them at 202-219-6666, or look in your local phone 
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HEALTH 


Th 


eC 
secrets of 


LONG-TERM 
WEIGHT LOSS 


Are you constantly taking pounds off—and putting them ‘back on? Break the 
pattern with these tips from successful dieters. By Anne M. Fletcher, M.S., R.D. 


ermanent weight loss 

may seem like a long 

shot—especially when 

you hear over and over 

that just about 
everyone who loses weight 
gains it all back. What you 
don’t hear, though, is that 
there are plenty of people 
have lost a lot of 
weight and kept it off for a 
long time. 

I set out to find such 
people, and with the help 
of friends, colleagues and 
weight-loss professionals, I 
identified 160 men and 
women who had lost at 
least twenty pounds and 
kept it off for three or more 
years. I’ve dubbed these 
people the “masters” of 
successful weight control. 

These come 
from all walks of life. They 
include 
homemakers, lawyers, re- 
pairmen, writers and a for- 
mer showgirl. Some are secretaries, 
teachers and retirees. One is a state 
senator. They lost their weight in a 


who 


masters 


psychologists, 


variety of ways, but virtually all of 


Adapted from THIN FOR LIFE, March 1994, 


by Anne M. Fletcher 


them had made at least one unsuc- 
cessful attempt at dieting before 
achieving their goal. 

Here are some of their secrets: 





a 


SECRET #1: IF YOU THINK YOU CAN, 
YOU WILL 

One of the most important steps in 
becoming thin for life is believing 


92 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL = FEBRUARY 1994 





M.S., R.D. Reprinted with permission of Chapters Publishing Ltd., Shelburne, Vermont. 





















in yourself. The masters I inter 
viewed are all people who see 
themselves as capable of maintain 
ing a thin body. Psychologists cal 
this determination “self-ef 
ficacy.” It’s the sense @} 
how competent and effec 
tive you believe yourself to Bi 
in any particular situation. 

I asked psychologis 
Robert W. Jeffery, Ph.D? 
of the University of Mins 
nesota, in Minneapolis, “Ts 
there any way to increas 
someone’s sense of self-effi 


best way is to show people 
they can do it.” Indeed, on 
of the most effective ways 
to increase self-efficacy 
to observe people who hav 
struggled to master situa 


serve as your inspiration. 
By way of their examplh 


lem, be it large or small. Give you 
self time, and realize (continuet 


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The secrets of long-term weight loss 
continued 
that your new attitudes and behaviors 


will take practice and continued atten- 
tion. After all, if you had high blood 


pressure or diabetes, you’d never think of 


getiing treatment for three months and 
then stopping. You would continue to 
follow a special diet or take medication 
for the rest of your life. Likewise, with 
weight control, you must keep taking ac- 
tion—and keep believing that you can do 
it—if you want to become a master. 


SECRET #2: ACCEPT CERTAIN 

“FOOD FACTS” 

When I asked each master, “What are the 
three most important things you do to 
keep your weight down?” I got more than 
ninety answers. It quickly became obvi- 
ous that there are just as many ways to 
maintain a desirable weight as there are 
to lose it in the first place. Still, I was 
struck by certain “food facts” that 
emerged from their stories: 

The masters stop seeing the way they eat as 
dieting. Diets can be useful tools to get 


you started on losing weight. But all of 


the masters I interviewed had undergone 
a change in their attitude about weight 
loss. They accepted the fact that they 
had to make permanent changes in the 
way they eat 


94 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL 


The masters see the beauty of low-fat eating. 
When asked how they keep their weight 
down, the masters’ number-one answer 
was, “Watch my fat intake.” 

“Restricting the level of fat in my diet 
made a huge difference in losing my final 
ten pounds,” says Ann B., who lost 35 
pounds and kept it off for three and a 
half years. “I found I could eat almost 
anything as much as I wanted, as long as 
my total fat intake was less than twenty 
percent of my total daily calories.” 

Research suggests that if you reduce 
your fat intake, you can lose weight with- 
out paying much attention to calories. A 
study published in a 1991 issue of The 


American fournal of Clinical Nutrition 


found that women who switched from 
the typical American diet, with a fat level 
of 37 percent, to a diet that’s only 20 per- 
cent fat for twenty weeks lost a signifi- 
cant amount of weight—even when they 
added calories. 

The masters develop—and enjoy—new tastes 
in food. The masters have discovered the 
satisfying tastes of fruits, vegetables, 
breads, cereals, pasta and rice, which 
have bulk and are filling without provid- 
ing excess calories. 

“T eat five starches a day, four vegeta- 
bles, three fruits, two servings of nonfat 
dairy products and one serving of pro- 
tein-rich foods,” says Edith S., who has 
kept off 56 pounds for three years. 


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“This is my daily goal, and I us 
keep close to it. I stress high=i 
foods, as they seem to keep meq 
feeling hungry.” 

The masters indulge themselves occa 
One of the ways the masters mana 
eat healthfully over the long term) 


Linda W. told me, “I found that 
get hungry for a high-fat food, I eal 
slip-up every now and then is betté 
me than the craving.” 
The masters learn to listen to their B 
“Never eat just to eat,” says Kathlee 
“If it takes more than five minutest 
cide what you want to eat, you’re pi 
bly not hungry!” : 

On the other hand, the masters 
that it’s important not to starve t 
selves. “Getting overly hungry ca 
to disaster,” says Mary B. 


SECRET #3: “MOVE IT TO LOSE IT” 
Without question, one of the most 
cial differences between people 
maintain their weight and those 
gain back pounds is their commitn 
exercise. As Mary Ann K., who mai 
to lose 84 pounds, says of her n 
nance method, “Exercise is a big 
You have to move it to lose it.” 

What may come as a surprise, tf 
is that most masters are not exerel 
natics. Indeed, experts suggest that) 


















/mportant about exercise is consis- 
‘and enjoyment—and less so the 
4 cand type of activity. 
‘t successful weight controllers ex- 
i on a regular basis, according to a 
hiudy in The American Journal of 
4 | Nutrition. The study found that 
4 sent of the women who had lost 
and kept it off exercised regular- 
east three times a week for thirty 
s or longer. 
is exercise so critical? Consider: 
e burns calories. The number of 
; you lose depends on how often, 
ensely and how long you exercise. 
‘ first glance, the number of calo- 
ercise burns may not seem like 
{fa 175-pound man, for instance, 
twenty minutes at a speed of five 
\ialf miles per hour (quite a lot of 
» for most people), he’d burn only 
ories. But the critical difference 
t ercise is its cumulative effect: If 
/ie man were to run that distance 
ys a week, in a year’s time, he’d 
ff an extra 52,000 calories—or 


> is good for your psyche. Studies 
' a association between higher fit- 
) vels and better mental health. 
is evidence that exercise im- 
‘mood and psychological well-be- 
'd enhances self-esteem, at the 
ime decreasing stress, anxiety 
E ression. 


| #4; BREAK OLD RELAPSE 


You’ve lost the weight. You’re 
a) at your goal. But soon you find 
% f “slipping”—a social situation 
rows you, a bad day at work— 
lu decide a hot-fudge sundae 
J soothe your soul. A few pounds 
then some more, and before you 
it, your weight is right back 
+ rou started. 
\) niliar scenario? It doesn’t have to 
good news is that you can break 
fvapse” cycle as the masters of suc- 
il weight loss have. The best way of 
..g the relapse cycle is by setting 
».c goals. Did you ever make a 
i: to yourself that you’d never eat a 
* ° chocolate again? Or, after start- 
' et in May, that you’d be a size 10 
! |-June? What about exercise? 
Vi) u vowed to start running a mile 
i) vhen you’ve done no exercise for 
j: six months? 
| of these vows are examples of 


[ely difficult to achieve. And 
Moals set you up for a possible re- 
) Tere’s how you can set more re- 
»bjectives: 

cr clear of “never,” “always” 
lweryday” goals. What, after ail, 
4 odds you’ll never eat a piece of 
OC) te again? Or that you'll exercise 


every single day? In their book Perma- 
nent Weight Control (Norton, 


Kathryn Mahoney, M.S.W., M.S., point 
out that all-or-nothing goals encourage 
all-or-nothing behavior. “You are ask- 
ing yourself for perfect behavior, for er- 
rorless eating habits. You are leaving 
yourself no room for human error, for 
gradual improvement.” Thus, if your 
downfall is chocolate desserts, a far 
more reasonable goal—one that you’re 
likely to accomplish—would be to eat 
them no more than once a week or to 
let yourself have them only in con- 
trolled circumstances, such as when 
dining in a restaurant. 

@ Set “just for today” or “just for this 
week” goals. In other words, focus on 
short-term goals, rather than long-term 
desires. Ask yourself what small steps 
you can achieve today: Drink a cup of 
water before each meal? Have a serving 
of fruit with each meal? Use the stairs in- 
stead of the elevator at work? 

@ Replace “I will be” with “I will do” 
goals, as the Mahoneys suggest. You may 
want to be thinner, be fit or be a health- 
ful eater. But what will you do to get 
yourself there? Make your goals action- 
oriented: “I will walk three or four times 
a week” or “I will switch from sugar- 
coated cereal to a high-fiber cereal.” 

@ Base goals on where you are now, 
not where you want to be down the road. 
If you’ve always gained in the winter, it’s 
more realistic to try to keep your weight 
stable at that time than to lose weight. 
Maybe you’re accustomed to eating a big 
bowl of ice cream in front of the TV each 
night—after you’ve had dessert at sup- 
per. Instead of giving up the sweet bed- 
time snack altogether, you might try 
having fruit for dessert at supper time 
and having a measured cup of low-fat 
frozen yogurt later. 

@ Set flexible goals, and be ready to 
change them. If your long-term goal is 
to cut your fat intake to 25 percent of 
your calories, but you’ve failed at the 
short-term goal of eating bread, toast 
and potatoes without butter, maybe you 
should use diet margarine instead of 
none. Or try cutting back on fat in 
some other way. 

Why is realistic goal-setting so helpful 
for long-term weight control? For one 
thing, it helps you experience numerous 
small successes, which in turn will raise 
your confidence. One success tends to 
breed another, the masters discovered. 

Above all, I found the masters of 
weight control to be people who believed 
in themselves. Somewhere along the way, 
they started to have faith in their own 
ability to conquer their weight problems. 

Hopefully, they will inspire you to 
start believing that you can successfully 
control your weight—and be thin for 
life! a 

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As America’s reigning talk-show queen turns forty, 


she’s got plenty to celebrate. But her success didn’t 


come easy, and she’s clearly learned a great deal 


from her heartache and pain. By Miriam Kanner 


t there are more 


dramatic ways fo 


approach a mile 


stone birthday, 


Wintrey 


would like to hear 


about them necause in tne 


1 f | [ 1 
montns betore ner tortietn, 


she’s been so busy, even a 


talk-show host would have 


trouble keeping up with ner 


| ee ob oe a 
Last fall, the tive-foot-seven- 





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years Ago when, fueled 


a liquid diet drink, she 


,7 .. <8. 21) 
dropped O/ pounds Only 


to gain them back—and 
then some—in the years 
that followed 


Oprah pro- 


duced and starred in ABC’s 


Nixianenixa 
In INOVeMmbDer! 


= 
nere Afre 


ratings-winner, 
No Children Here, 
wrenching drama based on 
the 1991 best-seller about a 


poor mother and her chil- 
d ren at Henry H orner 


Homes, a misery-riagaen 
Chicago housing project 


| oa 
Oprah produced the movie 
Har- 


mMrougn ner company 


po Product 


t ons S 


at ee ( 
Oprah spelled backward, c 


course). And she donated 





)0,000 acting tee to 





help the children ot Horner 
vith various needs 
+> ton + ot+ 


Oprah was 


1 A on 
recently namea America s 


lighest-paid entertainer by 
yrbes magazine—beating 
t even such male heavy- 
as Bill Cosby and 


pielberg—by pulling 


nitters 
C4 Cc 
STEVEN oO 

1 


Jown a regal $98 million in 


l72ee. isa 





1e first 


Q9 \q 
7244 QhNnG 


time a woman has ever 
topped the prestigious list 


As sne 
ecade on January 29, the 


enters a new 


woman who is every viewer's 
avorite girlfriend, who flings 
her arms encouragingly 
vous, comforts 
continued) 











nued) and tells it 


it is—this is also the 
eats 


voman who now 





well, not diet-crazily. The 


woman who exercises 


taithtully, not fittully. Th 

is the woman who enjoys 
her money and her power 
isne remains in sole con 


{ The Oprah 


tro} 


Ol C 


T 


VV INTE NOW, 
lives luxuriously in 
1 sweeping Chica- 
go condo and on 


160-acre tarm in 
| we 
iInaIana, and gives 
generously to 
charity). And this is 
the woman wh 


finally, has learned 


+ 


o admit the kinds 
of fears and Inse- 
curities that even 
the highest-paid 
entertainer n 
America can feel 
when she’s home 
| anoth- 


alone at night, 


f | 


er woman in a bathrobe 
with her makeup off 

As she celebrates her 
tortieth birthday, Oprah 
Winfrey appears to have 
found a new self-confi- 
dence that has nothing to 


with DIG OUCKS Or Tren- 


t 
zied tame; it has to do 
vith learning trom her ex- 
periences. Which, in 
have been 


EQSS; 


1s extraordinary as tne 


herself 


LESSON #1: DON’T LET 
A BAD CHILDHOOD 
STAND IN YOUR WAY 


Her early life sounds like a 


WOMAarl 


sad Taik-snow seqmen?: 


he was an illegitimate 
daughter born to a four- 
teen-year-old girl Vernita 
Lee, in Kosciusko, Missis- 
sippi. Even her name was 
Y inaled al ™m -Q 7 
jelling of the Biblica 
name “Orpha.” For the 


six years of her lite 
she lived with her grand- 


motne Inen moved 


Milwaukee to live with her 
At nine, she 
sexually abused by a 


mom 


teenage cousin, and 

by other male relatives 
the years that followed. In 
her family’s eyes, Oprah 
was also a handful—she 


was sent to juvenile deten- 





tion at thirteen, only to 
be turned away for lack 
ot beds. 

A year later, Oprah 
gave birth to a premature 
baby, who died soon af- 
terward. Last fall, she re- 


vealed that an uncle might 


oO 
({@) 


have been the father. “Ev- 
erybody in the family sort 
of shoved under a 
rock,” she said teartully 
‘Because | had been in 


veda In S€xud! promiscu- 



















ity, they thought if any- 
thing happened, it had to 
be my fault.” And, indeed, 
it took her many years to 
realize that fault has noth- 


ing to do with 


a 
m 
oO 
3 
Q 
nn 


late as 1988, Oprah in- 
sisted that the abuse “was 
not a norriple thing in my 


as a lesson in 


not to let 


life. There we 
it. It teaches yo 
people abuse you.” (But 
when she finally realized it 
was, in tact, a “horrible 
thing,” Oprah began to 
peak out actively against 
even testify- 


ing before the Senate Ju- 






IMM ittee on the 


¢ 


National Child Protection 
Act, intormally called “The 
Oprah Bill.”) 

1e young girl's life be- 
gan to turn around when 
she got what so 


many 


Ubled kids lack: a 









+ fa 


ence. At age thirteen, 
she went to live with thes 
man she believes is her 
father (no one knows fom 
certain that he is), Vers 
non Winfrey, a Nashvilles 
barber. That’s when she 
began to study hard in 
school; Winfrey was @ 
strict disciplinarian, coms 
pelling her to read and 
expand her vocabulary. 
And by the time she was 
seventeen, the pretty 
teenager was namedm 
Miss Black Tennesseem 
The next year, she en= 
tered Tennessee State 
University, in Nashville 







Sweet success (clock- 
wise from above): 
chatting with Michael 
Jackson; posing with 
her Emmy; making 
“There Are No Chil- 
dren Here”; finding © 
love with her “Steddy” 








working her way 
through school as 
reporter and anchor 
at WTVF-TV, the local 
CBS affiliate. In 1976) 
one credit short of he 
degree, Oprah moved te 
WJZ-TV in Baltimore= 
and there Oprah-the 
personality was born 
when she became host o 
a morning talk show 
People Are Talking. @ 
said to myself, ‘This @ 











what | should be doing,’ ” 
she told Time. “It’s like 
breathing.” 

The ratings proved her 
right, and six years later 
she moved to AM Chicago 
and wowed the Windy 


- City. The show was quickly 


| Show 




















| her personal 


| to learn how 


expanded to an hour, re- 
named The Oprah Winfrey 
and, in 1986, 
launched into national syn- 
dication. It became, quite 


Diet right: 
The old 
Oprah 
(above) got 
help from 


chef, Rosie 
Daly (right), 


to eat well 


simply, the hottest, most lu- 


crative talk show in the 


/country, to which Oprah 


can only say, “! don’t even 
recognize the full extent of 
my power.” But she’s start- 
ing to, all right. 


LESSON #2: EAT REASONABLY, 
DIET PRIVATELY 


/"| decided a long time 


ago | have to be healthy 
oy the time I’m forty,” said 


| Oprah last August, five 
‘ynonths into the new eat- 


ay 


ing-and-exercise regimen 
that’s helped her drop 
some 60 pounds and get 
into good enough shape 
to run a half-marathon. 
But the road to that partic- 
ular goal has been long 
and difficult. 

Few public figures have 
discussed their weight so 
publicly—or have been so 
willing to admit the fears 
and insecurities and anger 
a woman can experience 
when her body feels “out 
of control.” When she first 
went on her liquid diet 
more than five years ago, 


Oprah swore it was “the” 


battle in a long war with 
weight—a war she’d been 
fighting for most of her 
life. “I’m tired of this being 
a problem!” she said. “I’m 
going to settle it.” But af- 
ter showing off her new 
body in skin-tight jeans 
and a cosmetics ad cele- 









brating “The Most Untor- 
gettable Women in the 
World,” Oprah 
steadily into despair as the 
pounds crept back in the 
months and years that fol- 
lowed her public unveil- 
ing. “I’ve lost my resolve,” 
she wrote a year later in 


sank 


her journal. 

It was especially tough 
fighting what is normally a 
very private battle in front 
of millions of people. “The 
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The 

MOS | 

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birthday? 


FOR YEARS, WOMEN HAVE DREADED THE BIG 4-0. 
BUT NOW, MANY LOOK FORWARD TO IT AS A 
TIME OF NEW BEGINNINGS. BY ANDREA GROSS 





he more than four million women who 
will turn forty this year might, at first 
glance, seem to have little in common 
with a superstar like Oprah. Yet no 
matter what our circumstances, this 
milestone birthday has certain 
recognizable features for all of us. 

Says Charles Figley, Ph.D., fellow of the 
American Psychological Association and director of 
the psychosocial stress research program at Florida 
State University, in Tallahassee, 
“There’s a certain amount of 
reminiscing, but one of the most 
important products of this phase is that 
one can recalibrate for the future.” 

In other words, it’s a time to make 
big decisions. “Significant ages often 
are a time when women Say to 
themselves, ‘What am I doing? Am | 
where I thought I’d be?’ ” 
Yahne, Ph.D., a psychologist in private 
practice in Albuquerque and co-author 
of Adjustment: The Psychology of Change 
(Prentice Hall, 1990 


people take stock of their lives.” 


says Carolina 


“Tt’s a time when 


THE NEW FORTY 

According to the National Center of Health 
Statistics, in Hyattsville, Maryland, today’s forty- 
year-old women can expect to live another forty 
years. They are exactly at the midpoint of their 
lives—and the rest is in no way downhill. 

In fact, the whole meaning of forty has changed 
Two or three decades ago, few women had a choice 
about how they were going to spend their lives. 
Society dictated that they marry early and devote 
themselves almost exclusively to their family.“If 
they did something else it was sort of as an add-on 
or ‘just in case something happens to my husband,’ ” 


says Carol Anderson, (continued on page 167) 


“nlike a lot of 
killings, the 
facts about 
this one stand 
out cold and 
clear. That on 
July 12, 1993 
in a trailer 

house on the outskirts of Ug 
Springs, Oklahoma, Herman and 
Druie Dutton killed their sleeping 
father with a .243 deer rifle is 
not in contention, nor has it ever 
been. The boys say that they did 
it together: Herman, fifteen 
Steadying the rifle, and Druie 
twelve, pulling the trigger. 

They had their reasons. Earlic: 
on that blistering 105°F. day 
their sister, Alisha, then ten, hac 




















yan Mele ev, the ee house cry- 
ng. When she told her brothers 
hat her father had molested her, 
hey knew what they had to do. 
Lonnie Dutton had given his 
ons blazingly explicit instruc- 


nybody fooling with their sister, 
hey should shoot him, either in 
he heart or the back of the 
ead, just behind the ear. Her- 
an and Druie were obedient 
ons; they worked hard to please 
heir dad. Four days short of his 
ortieth birthday, they shot their 
ather exactly where he’d told 
hem to, on the right side of his 
ead, just behind his ear. 

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man and Druie were crying, as 
were Alisha and their eight-year- 
old brother, Jake. Druie and 
Herman are small boys, blond 
and compact; they could be ten 
and twelve instead of twelve and 
fifteen. After telling the sheriff 
what happened, they both asked 
Waa TaMiat-T imme hil-1 Seer te 
buried. They knew what they’d 
done, but they loved their daddy. 
They wanted to go to his funeral. 


VTA a te ae 

By now the story has been told 
everywhere, from newspapers to 
TV talk shows, about what a 
monster Lonnie Dutton was: He 
beat and shot at his children; he 
made Herman and Druie throw 


stat se eee hs 


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metal darts at their mother until 
the points pierced her skin, and 
bite her-until she bled. (Not sur- 
prisingly, she eventually left the 
marriage.) He ‘once kicked Her- — 
man between the legs with a 
steel-toe boot and another time 
knocked him unconscious with a 
two-by-four, making a perma-. 
nent dent in his skull. He made 
his children shoplift and steal to 
underscore his authority. And he_ 


‘carried a loaded nine-millimeter 


semi-automatic gun in the bib of 
WoT] MeL MoM it a 
a saying that people in Rush 


' Springs thought fit Lonnie Dut- 


ton to a tee: He was a man in 
need of a good killing. 
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“As for accomplishments, 
| just did what I had to do as 


things came along.” 
—ELEANOR ROOSEVELT 


hroughout our history, American women have 

done what they had to do, and that was quite a 

lot. They fought for the right to vote, they kept 
America afloat in wartime, they raised and nurtured 
families, and they added careers to raising families. 

Women have been our greatest leaders, teachers, 
artists and organizers. Women have led us to address 
some of our most troubling issues—crime and vio- 
lence, drunken driving, disease, poverty, family disin- 
tegration and civil rights, to name a few. 

These are not superwomen, and to call them that 
detracts from their accomplishments. They are every- 
day women who have seen 
a need and are helping ad- 
dress it. At this time of enor- 
mous economic and social 
change here at home and 
around the world, these 
women—mothers and 
stateswomen, professionals 
and laborers, women from 
all walks of life—are doing 
nothing less than making 
change better for us all. In 
my lifetime I’ve seen the 
most dramatic of examples. 

| think of Rosa Parks and how much better we 
have become as a people because she held on to 
her dignity and her seat on that Montgomery, Alaba- 
ma, bus in 1955. 

Two years later, in my home state of Arkansas, Daisy 
Bates, an African-American newspaper publisher and 
the head of the Arkansas chapter of the National Asso- 
ciation for the Advancement of Colored People, spon- 
sored nine black children chosen to attend all-white 
Little Rock Central High School. Before it was over, she 
and the children had faced down troops, city high 


schools were shut down and Mrs. Bates’ newspaper 


Exclusive! 

A heartwarming 
message from the 
President fo all 

women—and 
to the woman he 
loves most 


went out of business. But she didn’t give up 

Her fight was joined by a group of white women 
who called themselves the Emergency Women’s 
Committee to Open Our Schools. With the help of 
the federal government, these women desegregaied 
Little Rock schools. 

| was just eleven years old then, but many years lat- 
er as Governor of Arkansas, it was my honor to pay 
tribute to Daisy Bates, now in her seventies and still a 
fighter for justice. She freely admits that she was often 
afraid during the turbulent days of desegregation. But, 
she said of herself and others like her, “You acted in 
spite of your fear. You acted because you believed.” 

Fortunately for us all, that kind of commitment has 
carried on, through women like Zoila Terrazas, an 
apartment-building manager | met in 1991. Mrs. Ter- 
razas’ building in West Hollywood, California, was 
overrun by gangs and drug 
traffic. The windows of the 
apartment where she, her 
husband and four children 
lived were shot up with bul- 
lets, and their pickup truck 
was torched. 

She was frightened, but 
talked with the 
teenagers causing the trou- 
ble, and she helped some 
find job training and drug 
counseling. She cleaned up 
the place, making it gang- 
free and a good place to live, and she probably 
saved the lives of a few misdirected kids. Mrs. Ter- 
razas could have left and no one would have blamed 
her. Instead, she did what she had te do, and she 
made a difference. 

So have women like Ollie McLemore, who served 
as principal at Beasley Academic Center Magnet 
School, on Chicago’s South Side in the shadow of 
housing projects in a neighborhood that’s been 
called the second poorest in our nation. 

You might think that’s one heck of a place for a 


magnet school. But, as | found out (continued) 


103 























(continued) during a visit there, it works so well that it 
attracts children from all over the city, and its eighth 
graders have tested at the tenth-grade level. That’s due 
in large measure to Mrs. McLemore, who during her 
tenure focused her school’s purpose on commitment, 
responsibility and the involvement of family. 

| have been moved by the inner strength and faith of 
these women. During the floods in the Midwest last 
year, one young woman from Wisconsin, wise beyond 
her thirteen years, volunteered to help our people in 
distress. Her name is Brianne Schwantes. She stands 
barely four feet tall, weighs about sixty pounds and has 
a disease that made her bones so brittle that she was 
born with more than a dozen broken bones. Every day 
she faces life knowing she could easily suffer a crippling 
break. When she told me her work as a flood volunteer 
was life-affirming, | knew that this child’s bones may 
break but her spirit will not. 

| was also inspired by a woman from Detroit who had 
to support her children after her husband died, a situa- 
tion that my own mother faced when she was widowed 
three months before | was born. My mother, determined 
to make a better life for me, 
went away to nursing school. 
Gwendolyn Vanover enrolled 
in a six-year advanced train- 
ing program and found a job 
as a machinist. It wasn’t 
easy, but she said she was 
absolutely determined to take 
care of herself and her thir- 
teen-year-old son. 

Sometimes women have to 
make sacrifices they 
shouldn’t. | have met mothers who quit their jobs or 
gave up much else because a member of their family 
was sick. Courageous women like these are the back- 
bone of families in distress. Meeting them further con- 
vinced me to move as quickly as we did on the Family 
Medical Leave Act. And now that it’s law, both mothers 
and fathers can take time off from their jobs to care for 
an ailing loved one or a newborn. Women deserve the 
chance to be successful mothers and successful workers. 

Women deserve the chance to work in positions in 
which their abilities can be fully utilized. When | became 
Governor of my home state, a good number of top po- 
sitions in my office went to women. Throughout my state 
administration, we hired many women whose work ex- 
perience amounted to managing a household, raising a 
family and doing volunteer work. The resumes were un- 
traditional by many standards, but if you think about it, 
anybody who could handle all that was more than a 
good bet for a tough job. 

Within my first year in the White House, we had given 
at least 47 percent of the Presidential appointee posi- 
tions to women. Six members of my Cabinet are wom- 
en, including the first woman to be Attorney General, 
Janet Reno. For Surgeon General, | appointed a wom- 


104 


“The smartest thing I’ve 
ever done was convincing 


Hillary Rodham to marry me? 
































an who speaks her mind forcefully on the issue of pub 
health, Joycelyn Elders. For the first opening on # 
Supreme Court, | appointed Ruth Bader Ginsbu 
become the second woman to serve on the high courk 

These women were chosen, as the men in the Admi 
istration were chosen, because of their credentials, the 
ability and their commitment to serve our country. 
fact that many of these women are also trailbla 
whose careers often thrived in spite of their gende 
makes them even more admirable. 

Of course, | need look no further than my own family 
find women who make a difference. | am the son of af 
markable woman, the husband of an extraordinary wor 
an, and the proud father of a very special young woman. 

Each has shaped my life in wonderful ways. My mot 
er has faced more tragedy than anyone should see in 
lifetime, including the deaths of three husbands and he 
own breast cancer. But she never lost her humor ne 
held back one ounce of love. In fact, from grief sh 
gained a determination that | would not want for oppo 
tunity or love. Because ofthe hard work and firm f 
solve of Virginia Kelley, | néver did. 4 


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And | have been blessed with a wife who has a {6 
ing, caring and courageous heart, who is herself a we 
dertul mother, and who has dedicated herself to makir 
our nation a better place. The smartest thing I’ve e 
done was convincing Hillary Rodham to marry me. 

As First Lady, she gives voice to the causes that ¥ 
brace the American family through our time of gre 
change. The intelligence and passion and commitmi 
she has invested in reshaping our health-care sys 
will ultimately give every American a security never E 
fore enjoyed: health care that can never be taken 

As a mother, she is my partner in raising Chel 
which we both see as the most important and most 
warding work we will ever do. 

If all of these very different women have somethine 
common, it may be that even in fear they have 
propelled by an unwavering will, purpose and fa 
expending this special strength, they have lifted us all 





Make your voice heard 


If you’d like to comment on the Clinton Administra 

policies toward women, call the White House com 
line at 202-456-1111 (a toll call), or write Ladies’ Hor 
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Crispy Chicken With Asparagus Sauce 


Prep Time: 10 min. Cook Time: 20 min 


4 skinless, boneless chicken 2 tbsp. vegetable oil 

breast halves 1 can (10 3/4 02.) Campbell's 
1 egg or 2 egg whites, beaten Cream of Asparagus S« Up 
1/2 cup dry bread crumbs 1/3 cup each milk and water 


1. In shallow dish, dip chicken into egg; coat with bread crumb: 
In skillet over medium-low heat, in hot oil, cook chicken IS min 
or until browned on both sides and no longer pink. Remove; ke« p 
warm. Pour off far 

3. In skillet over low heat, combine soup, milk and water. Heat 
through, stirring occasionally. Serve over chic ken with parslied rice 


Garnish with cherry tomatoes if desired. Serves 4 





Pork t Corn Stuffing Bake 


Prep Time 10 min. Cook Time: 30 min 
1 can (10 3/4 oz.) Campbell's 1/4 cup finely chopped onion 
Golden Corn Soup 1/2 tsp. paprika 


1 1/2 cups Pepperidge Farm + boneless pork chops, 3/4” thick 
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Corn Bread Stuffing | tbsp. packed brown sugar 


1/4 cup finely chopped celery | tsp. spicy brown mustard 


1. Combine soup, stuffing, celery, onion and paprika. In 9” greased 
pie plate, spoon stuffing. Arrange c hops on stuffing, pressing lightly 
into stuffing 

2. Combine sugar and mustard Spread mixture evenly over chops 

3. Bake at 400° F. 30 min. or until c hops are no longer pink. Garnish 


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}ssed out? Hop in the bath. Want to be alone? Go soak ina tub. It may sound like a 


é—alter all, women’s magazines have been recommending baths as the 


yiaber-one de-stressor for years—but the truth is, we're taking more baths than ever. 


Mi 7? Because bathing is therapeutic. and with the myriad of bath products on the 
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NTIALS 
»}:laxing music 
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good read 
1 exfoliator 
} tub tray or small 
ible to hold bath items 
B}:ented bath oil, salts, 
il, soap or bubble bath 
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aily bathers know that a intense.” But women are buying more 
good, long soak is an than bath additives. Soaps, especially 
instant stress-buster. But the fruity ones, are huge sellers. “Body 
if this isn’t reason enough lotion is a big seller, too,” says 


to convince shower fans to take a few Gottlieb. “After-bath care is 





extra minutes and relax in a tub, we a step that’s become a rou- 






know how to make you change tine, not an occasional indul- 


your ways: Add a scented bath se gence.” Here are nine of our 
product to the water, and you, = favorite fruit products, for the 
too, will be a bath lover. Baths a bath and after. From top (prices 
are more alluring than ever be- — a vonge from $4 to $12.50): 


Bath & Body Works Loofah 
Body Scrub in Tangerine; The 
Body Shop Marmalade Scrub; 
Bodyography Raspberry, Mint 
and Coconut Oil Bubble Bath; 
Yardley Bath Shoppe Shower & 


cause there are so many new 
ways to make the bath—and 
your body—smell delicious. 
“Scent is the big reason women 
are attracted to the bath,” says 
bath-industry consultant Ann Gott- 
lieb. “The more senses involved, Bath Gel in Peach Elegance; 
Jean Naté Energizing Bubble 
Bath; Vitabath Naturals Fresh 


the more pleasurable the bath.” Ac- 


cording to Gottlieb, white florals = 


and fruit are the most-wanted vt Peach Bath & Shower Gel; H,O 
bath scents. “White freesia isa 9} ° 2%] Plus Tango Mango Shower & 
pretty floral—young and modern, | 4 & Bath Gel; Vitabath Naturals 


B= Fresh Peach Body Lotion; 
Yardley Bath Shoppe Body 

= = Lotion in Peach Elegance. 
107 


not something your mother 
would use. The fruity fran- 


grances are fresh, clean and 

















Q: I love taking baths, but my skin always 
feels so dry afterward, even when I use bath 
oil. Am I soaking too long? 

A: According to Patricia Wexler, M.D., a top New York 
dermatologist and a consultant for Donna Karan’s 
luxurious Bath & Body Collection, you may be bathing 
too long and using the wrong bath product. The most 
effective bath oils and gels contain humectant 
moisturizers (look for these words on the label: urea, 
lecithin, hyaluronic acid, glycerin) that attract water and 


108 





category for 1992 \ 

were $1.2 billion, a 4.5 ; 
percent increase from 199 7 
Approximately 40 percent 
the sales were bath addifivg 
(oils, bubble bath, etc.) souream 


help bind it to the skin, so skin remains hydrated. 
Q: | know it’s important to exfoliate, but 
all that scrubbing bad for your skin? = 
A: “Exfoliation is an essential part of bathing—tt 
only way to get rid of dead cells so skin will be 
smooth and glowing—but the method you ¢ 
depends on your skin type,” says Wexler. If you 
very delicate skin, you want to use the gentlest 1 
exfoliation, which is a washcloth. Coarser sk 
handle a loofah or body brus 


aoc don’t scrub your skin—aug 
.~ ~ massage will do the job. 
. ee = Skin-polishing Bel ators, from gentle to heavy-duty: 1. The Body | Butfe 


Shop, $8.50; 2. Pink Foam Sponge, Boyd’s NYC, $7.50; 3. Natt 
age Lk $3 36. 4. But-Puf Body Mate, $4.39; 5. Loofah Stick, The Ba 
Me Bath Mitt, The Body Shop, $6.95; 7. Natural Fiber Ski 

; Body shen; $8 50. Details, page 129. 


“For most women, the bath is a refuge 
scented tub 1s something to look lorwe 


| 
“Drugstores and mass-market stores have 
‘PLISH SPLASH 


eed Diane Ackerman, author rebuilt the bath business by selling quality 


(“A Natural History of the Senses” 


bntage, 1990) and a daily bather, products for less than the department’ 


y women love baths: stores. The bath category has grown 

The warmth works like a sedative b ebiEaatalh 
By colin ond de-stress ecause more women are taking baths, 
Baths, especially bubble baths, and they love the idea that they can 

nind us of our childhood. So purchase a luxury item for under $10.” 


the bath tools like loofahs —Allan Mottus, beauty-industry consultant 








+d brushes—they’re adult toys 


‘lacing rubber duckies and boats. 
cing ING 
Baths are an escape—for some BEAU TIES 


women, the only peaceful HOLLYWOOD HAS ALWAYS KNOWN THE FUN AND 
FANTASY OF THE BATH. AFTER ALL, ALONE IN YOUR 







time alone they get all day. 
B Soaking in a bath 


» gives you a sense of 





_ weightlessness. You 






can, for a little while 


anyway, be totally 


eT eet 
—— unaware of your size. PTR ees a3 


— SCRUB-A-DUB-DUB 


A stack of sudsy options, left, from 
top: Elizabeth Arden Spa for the Bath 
and Body Sensual Soap; Pond’s 
Moisturizing Cleansing Bar with 

» Moisturizing Complex; Origins Jump 
Start Stimulating Body Soap; Yardley 
of London Bar Soap with Moisturizers 
in Roses; Dove Beauty Bar; Bath & 
Body Works Homeopathic Soap in 
Eucalyptus; Ivory Soap; VitaSpa 
Bodyskin Care Exfoliating Cleansing 
Bar; Yardley of London Bar Soap with 


) 





Moisturizers in Peach Blossom; Bath 

& Body Works Homeopathic Soap in 

Oatmeal; Yardley of London Bar Soap 
with Moisturizers in Aloe Vera. 


he soak in a wonderfully 


: all day long” — rn Gottlieb lle Rober am ese 


Photos, clockwise from 
top right: Photofest, 

Archive, Photofest, Neal 
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Inc., of 


Costa Mesa, Calitornia, 
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best and is a model for families 


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terior designer Carole Eichen, ot 


Carole Eichen Interiors, Inc., in 
Santa Ana, California, to create 
an environment that blends high 
style and relaxea comtort one 
oft the key decorating tnemes this 


year. “The big trend now is rustic 


elegance,” says Eichen. “Large 


sturdy but stylish pieces that 


make a strong statement.” It’s a 


sophisticated look with a tocus 


cs and natural 


on textured tabri 


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surtaces: suede and leather, Tin 


stone accessories. The color 
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sunset accents that retlect tne Las 
Vegas desert. 

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The family r is still the 
heart of the home, and in this 
house it shares space witn tne 
kitchen and the breakfast nook 
The inviting leather sofa sur 


rounds a huge coffee table that 


accommodates everything from 
board games to laid-back family 
meals in front of the TV. 

While the home’s wide-open 
floor plan makes it pertect for en 
tertaining, the personal quarters 
were designed for privacy. In ad- 
dition to the master-bedroom 


suite retreat (which will be tea- 


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tured in next month’s Journa 

along with the living room and 
dining room), this house has two 
generously sized bedrooms, eacn 
with its own bathroom, that we 
decorated for a young girl and 
boy, using furnishings carefully 


selected to grow with the child 

We hope this first look at The 
New American Home has provid- 
ed lots of ideas. Turn the page 
for close-ups of the top trends, 
and stay tuned tor more tips to 
come in March 


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BLACK BEAN SALSA, SPINACH-FETA ORZO OR SPANISH RICE) TO PROVE THAT 
SIDE DISHES DO MORE THAN ROUND OUT A MEAL: THEY CAN GIVE YOUR 
DINNERS A WHOLE NEW FLAVOR. “GYSANL TURNER HAZARD, FOOD EDITOR 


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continued 


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@ Moderate @Microwave 
3K Can be frozen up to 3, 6 or 9 months 


Low-calorie 


BROILED STEAK MENUS 
Serve Broiled Steak with: 
*Pinto Bean Ragout 
Sliced orange and watercress salad 
French bread 


*Garlic Roasted Vegetables 
Tossed green salad 


*Oriental Noodles 
Cucumbers and radishes with rice vinegar 
“Recipe given 





BROILED STEAK 


Even a juicy steak can taste like the same 
old thing when it’s served the same way 
every time. There’s a simple trick to pair- 
ing it with different side dishes: Season 
the steak with complementary flavors be- 
fore broiling. 

Prep time: 5 minutes O 


Cooking time: 14 to 16 minutes 


1] teaspoon vegetable oil 
3/4 teaspoon salt 
'/2 teaspoon freshly ground 


pepper 

1 pound top round or flank steak (1 inch 
thick) 

Preheat broiler. Combine oil, salt and 


pepoer in cup; spread over both sides 
of steak. Broil on rack in broiler pan 3 
to 5 inches from heat source 7 to 8 
minutes. Turn steak over and broil 7 to 
8 minutes more for medium-rare. Let 
stand 3 minutes before carving. Makes 
4 servings. 





Per serving Daily goal 

C 185 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 
9g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
32 20 gor less (F); 23 g or less (M) 

holestero 69 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 461 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates Og 250 g or more 

Protein 252 55 gto 90g 


To serve Broiled Steak with: 

Pinto Bean Ragout Prepare steak as 
directed except add 1 teaspoon 
minced garlic and '/4 teaspoon dried 
thyme to seasoning. Garnish with fresh 
parsley sprigs. 


Garlic Roasted Vegetables Prepare 
steak as directed except add 1 teaspoon 
balsamic vinegar or red wine vinegar 
and 1/2 teaspoon dried rosemary to 
seasoning. 


Oriental Noodles Prepare steak as di- 
rected except add 1 teaspoon minced 
fresh ginger to seasoning 





PINTO BEAN RAGOUT 





Prep time: 15 minutes YOV 
Cooking time: 15 minutes 

1 slice bacon 

1/2 cup chopped onion 

1 medium carrot, cut into '/4-inch dice 


1/4 teaspoon salt 

1/4 teaspoon pepper 

'/4 teaspoon thyme 

1 tablespoon tomato paste 

1/2 teaspoon minced garlic 

1 can (141/2 oz.) stewed tomatoes 

1 can (16 0z.) pinto beans, rinsed and 
drained 

2 tablespoons chopped fresh 
parsley 

2 teaspoons red wine vinegar 


1. Cook bacon in large skillet over medium- 
high heat until crisp. Remove with slotted 
spoon; drain on paper towel. 

2. Pour off all but 1 tablespoon drip- 
pings from skillet. Add onion, carrot, 
salt, pepper and thyme; cook, stirring oc- 
casionally, over medium-high heat until 
onion is tender, 5 minutes. Stir in tomato 
paste and garlic; cook 1 minute. Add re- 
maining ingredients. Crumble bacon and 
stir into pan; simmer 5 minutes. Makes 





21/2 cups. 

Per 1/2 cup Daily goal 

Calories 115 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 3g 60 gor less (F); 70 g or less (M 
Saturated fat lg 20 gor less (F F); 23 2 or less (M) 
Cholesterol 3 mg 0 mg or less 

Sodium 529 mg 00 = or less 

Carbohydrates 17g or more 

Protein 5g to 90g 








Prep time: 

Roasting time: 

2 tablespoons olive oil 

11/2 teaspoons grated lemon 
peel 

11/4 teaspoons salt 

1/2 teaspoon freshly ground 
pepper 

1 teaspoon rosemary, crumbled 

8 red potatoes (about 1'/2 Ib.}, 


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15 minutes O 
40 to 45 minutes 


















quartered 
8 garlic cloves, unpeeled 
4 medium red onions, quartered — 
1 large red pepper, cut into 
3/4-inch strips 


Preheat oven to 450°F. Combine 
lemon peel, salt, pepper, roser 
potatoes, garlic, onions and red 
in large bowl; toss to coat well. § 
in jelly-roll pan. Roast 40 to 45 
until vegetables are tender. 
4 servings. 





Per serving Daily goal 

Calories 285 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M 
Total fat 78 60 g or less (F); 
Saturated fat lg 20 gor less (F); 
Cholesterol O mg 300 mg or less 
Sodium 718 mg 2,400 mg or less 
Carbohydrates 50g 250g or more 
Protein 7g 55 gto 90g 


ORIENTAL NOODLES 























ey time: 20 minutes 
Cooking time: 25 minutes 


8 ounces soba noodles or whole w 
spaghetti 

1 tablespoon vegetable oil 
'/2 pound mushrooms, sliced thin’ 
2 carrots, sliced thin diagonally 
2 teaspoons minced fresh ginger 
1 teaspoon minced garlic 
1 cup beef broth 

1 tablespoon soy sauce 

] teaspoon Oriental sesame oil” 
3/4 teaspoon cornstarch 

'/s teaspoon crushed red pepper | 
'/4 pound snow peas, julienned 


1. Cook noodles according to 
directions; drain. 

2. Meanwhile, heat oil in large sk 
medium-high heat. Add mushroe 
cook, stirring frequently, until 
evaporated and mushrooms are g 
minutes. Stir in carrots, ginger ar 
cook, stirring, until vegeanea are 
about 2 minutes. 
3. Meanwhile, stir broth, so 
sesame oil, cornstarch and red f 
small bowl until smooth. Add te 
bles in skillet. Heat to boiling « 
heat; boil 1 minute. Add noe 


snow peas; toss to Codi: 
4 servings. 
Per 3/4 cup Daily goal 
Calories 285 2,000 (F), 2,5 
Total fat 6g  60gorless ( 
Saturated fat lg  20gorless( 
Cholesterol Omg 300 mg or less 
Sodium 929 mg 2,400 mg or less 
Carbohydrates 522 250 g or more 
Protein llg 55gto90g 





| BROILED FISH FILLETS MENUS 

| Serve Broiled Fish Fillets with: 

*Savory Vegetable Risotto 
Sesame breadsticks 





| 
. 
. 


*Spicy Vegetable Couscous 
Steamed zucchini 





*Fennel Mashed Potatoes 
Sautéed spinach 
Crusty dinner rolls 


*Recipe given 


ets are the ideal foundation for a whole range of menus, 
| a delicate flavor (and very little fat) to subtly seasoned 
| nd vegetable dishes. The rule of thumb for cooking fish is 
utes per inch of thickness, so adjust time according to the 
fish you select. 


1 
ne: 5 minutes O 
2 time: 3 to 10 minutes 
llets (6 oz. each), such as 














Imon, flounder, sole or orange roughy 
spoon olive oil 

oon fresh lemon juice 

poon salt 

poon freshly ground pepper 


broiler. Coat broiler pan with vegetable cooking spray. 

2 fillets on pan. Combine oil, lemon juice, salt and pep- 

‘up; brush over both sides of fillets. Without turning, broil 
i s from heat source 3 to 10 minutes, depending on thick- 
til opaque throughout. Makes 4 servings. 


él Daily goal 
270 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 
14g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
2g 20 gor less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
94 mg 300 mg or less 


7 348 mg 2,400 mg or less 


| 
2 1S Og 250 g or more 
34g 55 g to 90 g 


31 > Fish Fillets with: 
'’ Vegetable Risotto Prepare fish as directed except omit 
vice from seasoning and add 1 tablespoon chopped 


'' Vegetable Couscous Prepare fish as directed except 
!) teaspoon cumin to seasoning. Garnish with fresh pars- 
logs. 
2; Mashed Potatoes Prepare fish as directed except add 


Prep time: 

15 minutes 

Cooking time: 

35 minutes CS 





»poons butter or margarine, divided 
Bliad shiitake mushrooms, sliced 

€> shredded carrot 

Upacked chopped spinach leaves 
frozen peas (continued) 


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Side dishes that make a meal 


continued 


teaspoon salt 
2 bottles (8 oz. each) clam juice 
cup water 
cup arborio rice or short- 
grain rice 
3 Cup minced shallots 


3 t 


up ary wnife wine 
lespoons freshly grated Parmesan 


( 
ab 


cneese 


1. Heat 
um-high heat in large skillet. Add mush- 

carrot; stirring 
until golden, 3 minutes. Stir 
stirring, 


tablespoon butter over medi- 






rooms and cook, 
sa II 


occasionally, 


in spinach, peas and salt; cook 


until spinach is wilted. Set aside. 

2. Bring clam juice and water to simmer 
in saucepan. Heat remaining | table- 
spoon butter in 3-quart saucepan over 
medium heat. Add rice and shallots; 
COOK, Stirring, 
cent, 3 minutes. Add wine and cook, stir- 
ring, until completely absorbed, 
3. Stir clam-juice mixture into rice, Cu 
at a time, stirring frequently until liquid 
almost completely absorbed before 
adding more. When all clam-juice mixture 
is added, add reserved vegetables with 
any juices that have formed, and grated 
Parmesan, stirring until vegetables are 
heated through and rice is creamy. Serve 
immediately. Makes 3 


until shallots are translu- 


ih ey in 
1 minute 


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Daily goal F4 
2,000 (F), 2,500 (M)§ 
60 g or less (F); ( 
20 g or less (F); 23 84 
300 mgorless  ¥ 
2,400 mg or less 
250 g or more ey 
55g to 90g a 


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Test-kitchen favorite 
Prep time: 10 minutes 
Cooking time: 10 minutes 


2 tablespoons olive oil, divided 

3/4 cup chopped green onions ~ 

3/4 cup diced carrots 

] 4easpoon cumin 

1/4 teaspoon salt 

1/g teaspoon cinnamon 

‘1/8 teaspoon ground red pepper - 

11/2 cups chicken broth 

3/4 Cup COUSCOUS 

1/2 cup raisins 

2 tablespoons chopped fresh 
parsley 

1 tablespoon fresh lemon juice 

|/2 teaspoon grated orange peel 


1. Heat 1 tablespoon oil ing 
saucepan over medium-high hé 
green onions and diced carrots 
stirring occasionally, just until 

to brown, about 3 minutes. Stiri 
salt, cinnamon and ground req 
cook 1 minute. Add chicken br 
bring to boil. Stir in couscous ane 
Remove from heat; cover andJe 
5 minutes. 
2. Combine parsley, lemon juice 
peel and remaining 1 tablespoe 
cup. Stir into couscous mixture Uni 
ed. Makes 4 servings. 


Per cup 





Daily goal 
275 2,000 (F), 2,500 ( 
8g 60 gorless (F); 7 
lg  20gorless (F);2 
Omg 300 mg or less 
2,400 mg or less 
46g  250gormore © 
6g 55 gto 90g 


FENNEL MASHED POTATOE 





Prep time: 15 minutes 


: 
ig time: 35 to 40 minutes 





spoons butter or margarine, divided 
fennel bulb (1'/2 Ib.), cut into 

| 2-inch pieces 

\ chopped onion 


} poon freshly ground pepper 


unds all-purpose potatoes, 
reled and halved (or quartered 
arge) 

'g cup milk 





Journal Shopping Center 


THERAPY Page 106 Teacup, pitcher, Pierre Deux, NYC; natural sponge, 
NYC; loofah stick, The Body Shop. Page 107 Top: razor, Gillette Sensor for 
Bottom: radio, SONY Sports CFS-902; teacup, placemat, napkin, Pierre 
} andles, Rigaud. Page 108 Towel, Cannon Royal Family; eyeglasses, Robert 
nk sponge, Boyd's; pink twisted back sponge called Sloofah, HO Plus 
=W AMERICAN HOME 1994 Pages 116-121 Architect, McLarand, 
i; & Partners, Inc., 714-549-2207. Builder, Heartland Homes, Inc., 702- 
} 72; Builder Magazine, 202-383-8352; Popular Science/Home Mechanix, 
79-5000. Interior design, Carole Eichen Interiors, 714-250-7050. Land- 
} chitect, Land Concern, Ltd., 714-250-4822. THROUGHOUT THE New AmeRri- 
if \E: paint, Sherwin Williams, 216-566-2323. Artwork and sculptures, Stary 
3, 714-733-0445. Cabinetry, Timberlake Cabinet Co., 800-388-2483, ext 
i all graphics, Dave Avanzino, 714-870-1552. Carpeting, area rugs and in- 
t pont, Fabrica International, 714-261-7181. All faucets and sinks, Kohler 
| 4-457-4441. Plumbing fixtures in bathrooms, American Standard, 908- 
) 00. Fresh flowers and plants, 1-800-SEND-FTD via Claire's Flowers. Plants 
Hes, Flower Factory, 702-737-0193. Sandblasted stone flooring #133218 
) Beige,” Universal Granite & Marble, Inc., 310-921-9549. All windows, 
di Shield Manufacturing, Inc., 715-748-2100. Countertops, Corian, Dupont, 
49-4965. Wallpaper, Paloma Picasso La Maison collection, for Motif De- 
fF 00-431-2424. Accessories and furniture, Pier | Imports, 800-44-PIER1 
‘ies, The Bombay Co., 817-870-1847. Wicker baskets, Palecek, 800-676- 
Jown comforters and feather pillows, The Company Store, 800-323-8000 
fy ducts and bathrobe, Caswell-Massey Co., Ltd., 800-326-0500. Bathroom 
ss “ies, Dawson Home Fashions, 800-805-BATH. All clocks from Howard 
I} 360 Main Avenue, Zeeland, M! 49464. Picture frames, Exposures, 800- 
a’ 17. Stone planters, Ware & Malcomb, 714-660-9128. Pottery, LA Pottery, 
53-1418. Shells, Nautalus, 714-848-1662. Outdoor furniture, Windsor De- 
00-783-5434. Shades, Hunter Douglas Window Fashions, 800-937- 
@ Glass blocks, Pittsburg Corning, 412-327-6100. Phones, AT&T, 
; 2-3111. Famity room: sofa fabric in “Saltine,” scrubbed-oak coffee table, 
sofa, Marge Carson, Inc., 818-571-1111. Breakrast Nook: Western De- 
p., 702-227-3553; Robert Allen, American Textile Co., 800-333-3777; 
ick “Trails” chairs and table, Tell City Chair Co., 812-547-3491. KITCHEN 





2 #2Mc3000W, dishwashers #ZBD3000TWB, trash compactor 
} OTWW, gas burners, Monogram series, General Electric, 502-452-4311; 
@ ipliances, Black & Decker, 203-926-3000; “Windsor” cabinetry with iron 
3, Timberlake Cabinet Co. Girt's Room: “Zig Zag” bed, Momento Imports, 
@ 3-5023; beach-white chests, Lexington Furniture Ind., 702-249-8500; 
ti d waterbed by Vinyl Products, America’s Best Sleep, 800-648-0997; “Gyp- 
[F e” bed linens by Collier Campbell for Martex, West Point Pepperell, Inc 
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tf’ Home THEATER: “Colonial Brick” velour curtains, Accoustical Curtains, Prima 
§)s‘aperies, Inc., 702-756-7832; projector screen, Draper Shade & Screen 
|, 317-987-7999; chair fabric, “seine multi," Marge Carson, Inc. HALLway 
HF CE: PS-1 computer, IBM, 800-IBM-3337; rosewood desk set, It Adds Up 
ock/calculator, Howard Miller. Girt’s BATHROOM: “J-90" whirlpool, shower, 
| Inc., from the Pacific Group, 415-989-6660; soap dispenser, wastebas- 
na collection from Dawson. Boy's Room: headboard #6351, nightstands 
92, dresser #6351-30 all in midnight finish, Broyhill Furniture Ind., 704- 
38; upholstered chair #A4IIT-CH5 and ottoman #A40ID-OT3 in Palamino 
large Carson, Inc.; bed linens, “Chatsworth” collection, Cameo Interiors, 
| 39-3040; soft-sided waterbed by Vinyl Products; ruby clock and frame, 
Miller; bathrobe, Caswell-Massey Co., Ltd. 
. RECIPES FROM THE PROS All linens, Anichini, Tunbridge, Vermont, 
3-9430. Page 142 Plate, “Acanthus” pattern by Sources; glassware, “Lau 
y” pattern by Platemaker Studio, Sasaki, 212-686-5080. Page 144 Top 
lowers” pattern by Robert Venturi, Swid Powell, 800-808-SWID. Bottom 
uscany” pattern by Carson Pritchard, Sasaki. Page 146 Top: plate, “Drum” 
wy Geoffrey Beene, Swid Powell. Bottom: plate and bowl, “Fleur de Lys,” 
' Page 148 Top: plate, “Serenade” pattern by Calvin Tsao, Swid Powell 


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If you've got 15 minutes, 
you've got dinner. 


Kear |SMEAT 1SVEGETABLES SEXTRAS 1 





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stewed 
tomatoes 


2 t. mustard 













1 t. chili powder 








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ground beef = green pepper oe Bui 







1/5. green 
pepper 


stewed 
tomatoes 


ham =a peas ws 


Italian sausage 


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meal’s ready for the oven in no time, where it cooks per- 
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Side dishes that make a meal 


continued 


2 tablespoons chopped fresh parsley 


1. Heat 1 tablespoon butter in large skillet over medium-high 
heat. Add fennel, onion, '/2 teaspoon salt and the pepper; 
cook, stirring occasionally, until fennel is golden, about 10 
minutes. Stir in 2 tablespoons water. Reduce heat to low; cover 
and simmer until fennel is very tender, 10 minutes more. 

2. Meanwhile, bring large saucepot of water to boil. Add pota- 
toes and !/2 teaspoon salt; cover and cook until tender, 15 to 17 
minutes; drain. With potato masher, mash potatoes with remain- 
ing 1 tablespoon butter, then add milk, parsley and '/2 teaspoon 
salt; mash until smooth. Stir in fennel mixture. Makes 3!/2 cups. 





Per '/2 cup Daily goal 

Calories 110 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total tat 4g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
3 ed fa 


2g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
10 mg 300 mg or less 








Sodiu 523 mg 2,400 mg or less 
Carbohydrates 17g 250 g or more 
Protein 3g 55 gto 90g 





SAUTEED CHICKEN BREASTS MENUS 
Serve Sautéed Chicken Breasts with: 
*Spicy Black Bean Salsa 
Warm flour tortillas 
Guacamole 





*Spinach-Feta Orzo 
Cucumber salad 





*Spanish Rice 
Steamed green beans 


*Recipe given 











130 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - FEBRUARY 1994 


















































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There’s nothing more versatile than chicken breasts. 
little of the right seasonings, their mild flavor can stand 
ciously to robust side dishes from around the world. 
Prep time: 5 minutes 

Cooking time: 6 to 8 minutes 


4 large skinless, boneless chicken-breast halves (11/4 Ibt 
1/2 teaspoon salt 
1/4 teaspoon freshly ground pepper 
1 tablespoon vegetable oil 

Sprinkle chicken with salt and pepper. Heat oil in large 
Add chicken and cook until tender and golden, 3 to 4 
per side. Makes 4 servings. 
Per serving Daily goal 


Calories 185 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 5g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat lg 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 82 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 366 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates Og 250 g or more 

Protein 33g 55gto90g 


To serve Sautéed Chicken Breasts with: : 
Spicy Black Bean Salsa Prepare chicken as directed 
reduce salt to '/4 teaspoon and add 1 teaspoon 
powder. Garnish with fresh cilantro sprigs. 


Spinach-Feta Orzo Prepare chicken as directed exceé 
1/2 teaspoon dried mint to seasoning. Sprinkle cookee 
en with 2 teaspoons lemon juice. Garnish with dill spr 


Spanish Rice Prepare chicken as directed except ¢ 
teaspoon paprika to seasoning. Garnish with parsley § 





Take It Easy Mor 


Chicken ’N Gravy — 
Preparation Time: 14 minutes — Cooking Tim 
1 Reynolds Oven Bag, 1-1/2 cups wate 


large size (14" x 20") 

2 tablespoons flour E 

1 pkg. (3/4 to 1 02.) chicken gravy mix 6 
1/4 teaspoon garlic powder 


*PREHEAT oven to 350° F. aoe 
*SHAKE flour in Reynolds Oven Bag; place in 13x9x2-in 
eADD gravy mix, garlic powder and water. Squeeze bag t 

ents. Sprinkle chicken with seasoned salt and pepper; 

Place carrots and celery in bag around chicken. 
*CLOSE bag with nylon tie; cut six 1/2” slits intop. 
*BAKE until chicken is tender, 45 to 50 minutes. Makes: 


isin: — 








Sunshine Barbecue Chicken 
Preparation Time: 6 minutes Cooking Time: 45 minutes 


| olds Oven Bag, 1 cup barbecue sauce 

| size (14” x 20") 1/4 cup orange juice 

| spoons flour 8 skinless chicken pieces 
| EAT oven to 350° F. 


, Eflour in Reynolds Oven Bag; place in 13x9x2-inch baking pan. 
| arbecue sauce and orange juice to bag. Squeeze bag to blend 
tients. Add chicken to bag. Tum bag to coat chicken with sauce. 
+ ye chicken in an even layer. 

* E bag with nylon tie; cut six 1/2” slits in top. 

, .until chicken is tender, 45 to 50 minutes. To serve, stir sauce; 

) Over chicken. Makes: 4 servings. 


Make It Easy Wednesday 


)Y BLACK BEAN SALSA 


ime: 20 minutes 
ng time: 15 minutes 





7OV 


fk espoon olive oil 
|p chopped onion 
) p shredded carrot 
b)poons minced jalapeno chile 
poon cumin 
ispoon chili powder 
fh spoon salt 
f spoon freshly ground pepper 
frozen corn or canned corn, rinsed and drained 
canned black beans, rinsed and drained 
400 diced plum tomatoes 
2spoons chopped fresh cilantro 


oil in large skillet over medium-high heat. Add onion, 
t, jalapeho, cumin, chili powder, salt and pepper. 
stirring, until onion is translucent and tender, 2 to 3 
as. Stir in corn, beans, diced tomatoes and cilantro; 
nrough. Makes 31/2 cups. 


ap Daily goal 
75 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 
22 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 


fat Og 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
| 0 mg 300 mg or less 
157 mg 2,400 mg or less 
yy: ates llg 250 g or more 


3g 55g to 90g 
»ACH-FETA ORZO 


hime: 15 minutes 
1g time: 20 minutes 








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}:3spoon olive oil 


Ho chopped onion (continued) 


131 











Here is a listing of recipes ap- 
pearing in this issue, including 


those from the Journal kitchen 
and advertisements. Advertis- 
ers’ recipes appear in boldface. 
Recipes marked with an asterisk 
include microwave instructions. 
DESSERTS _ 


Brownie Hot-Fudge Sundaes 
p. 137 
Cereal Killer Cookies p. 150 
Chocolate-Cherry Bread Pudding 
p. 136 
Chocolate Waffles p. 140 
Double Chocolate Cookies p. 138 
Fun Cookies™ p. 137 
Lemon Tart p. 146 
Soufflé Nerone p. 140 
Strawberry Margarita Sorbet 
p. 148 
Warm Brownie Pudding Cake 
p. 136 
Warm Chocolate-Hazelnut Cakes 
p. 138 


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Broiled Fish Fillets p. 127 

Broiled Steak p. 126 

Cheddary Pasta & Vegetables 
p. 166 

Chicken ’N Gravy p. 130 

Crab Cakes p. 144 





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Sauce p. 105 
Deep Dish Pizza p. 147 
Herbed Grilled Chic! 
Lemon-Thyme Butter p. 142 
Jenny Mayberry’s Success 
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Mexican Chicken and Rice 
p. 145 
Norwegian Betasuppe p. 152 
Pasta Primavera p. 146 
Pork & Corn Stuffing Bake p. 105 
Recipe Secrets® Golden Lemon 
Chicken p. 133 
Salmon with Onions and Soy 
p. 142 
Saucy Beef Over Rice p. 131 
Sautéed Chicken Breasts p. 130 
Shrimp Barbecue p. 144 
Sunshine Barbecue Chicken 
p. 131 


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Fennel Mashed Potatoes p. 128 
Garlic Roasted Vegetables p. 126 
Oriental Noodles p. 126 
Pinto Bean Ragout p. 126 
Savory Vegetable Risotto p. 127 
Spanish Rice p. 133 
Spiced Vegetable Couscous 

p. 128 
Spicy Black Bean Salsa p. 130 
Spinach-Feta Orzo p. 131 


Oh, So Easy Thursday 


Saucy Beef Over Rice 


Preparation Time: 12 minutes 


1 Reynolds Oven Bag, 
large size (14” x 20”) 
2 tablespoons flour 


1 can (14-1/2 oz.) stewed tomatoes, 


1 envelope onion soup mix 
*PREHEAT oven to 350° F. 


Cooking Time: 40 minutes 


1/2 cup water 
1/4 teaspoon pepper 
1 pound beef sirloin steak, 
cut in thin strips 
2 cups hot cooked rice 


*SHAKE flour in Reynolds Oven Bag; place in 13x9x2-inch baking pan. 


eADD undrained tomatoes, soup mix, water and pepper to bag. Squeeze 
bag to blend ingredients. Add beef strips to bag. Turn bag to coat beef 
with sauce. Arrange ingredients in an even layer. gz, x Oe 


*CLOSE bag with nylon tie; cut six 1/2” slits in top. [imeem 


*BAKE until beef is tender, 40 to 45 minutes. 
Serve over hot rice. Makes: 4 servings. 











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spoon minced garlic 
spoon salt 
‘spoon freshly ground pepper 
chopped plum or cherry tomatoes 
sspoon chopped fresh dill or | 
:aspoon dillweed 

spoon dried mint 

1 package (10 oz.) fresh spinach, 
ems removed, chopped 

) (2 oz.) crumbled feta cheese 
-yoons fresh lemon juice 


bik orzo according to package direc- 
vrain. 
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n-high heat; add onion and cook 
ader. Stir in garlic, salt and pepper; 
minute. Add tomatoes, dill and 
ook 2 minutes. Add spinach and 
ntil wilted, 2 to 3 minutes. Stir in 
mon juice and cooked orzo; heat 
). Makes 4 cups. 


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160 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 
4g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 


t lg 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
6 mg 300 mg or less 
231 mg 2,400 mg or less 
es 26g 250 g or more 
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1 tablespoon olive oil 

] green pepper, cut into '/2-inch pieces 

1/2 cup chopped onion 

'/4 teaspoon each salt and pepper 

1 cup long-grain rice 

1 teaspoon minced garlic 

1 can (133/4 or 14!1/2 oz.) chicken broth 

1/4 cup dry white wine 

'/4 teaspoon paprika 

Pinch saffron powder 

1 can (14'/2 oz.) stewed tomatoes, 
drained 

1/3 cup chopped pimiento-stuffed olives 


Heat oil in large skillet over medium-high 
heat. Add green pepper, onion, salt and 
pepper; cook, stirring occasionally, until 
vegetables are tender-crisp, about 5 min- 
utes. Stir in rice and garlic; cook, stirring 
constantly, until rice is opaque, about 1 
minute. Add broth, wine, paprika and saf- 
fron; bring to boil. Stir in tomatoes, break- 
ing up with spoon. Reduce heat to low; 
cover and simmer until liquid is absorbed 
and rice is tender, 20 to 30 minutes. Stir 
in olives. Makes 41/2 cups. 





Per 3/4 cup Daily goal 

Calories 185 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 4g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat Og 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol Omg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 788 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 32g 250 g or more 

Protein 4g 55g to90¢g 





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Prep time: 15 minutes plus cooling O 


Baking time: 35 to 38 minutes 





3/4 cup all-purpose flour 

3/4 cup granulated sugar 

11/2 teaspoons baking powder 

1/2 teaspoon baking soda 

1/4 teaspoon salt 

1/3 cup plus '/4 cup unsweetened cocoa 
1/2 cup milk 

3 tablespoons butter or margarine, melted 
] teaspoon vanilla extract 

1/2 cup firmly packed brown sugar 


















































13/4 cups boiling water 
Whipped cream or vanilla ice cream (optional) 


1. Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease 9-inch square baking 
2. Combine flour, granulated sugar, baking powder 
soda, salt and !/3 cup cocoa in medium bowl. Combine 
butter and vanilla in measuring cup; stir into dry ingredie 
until blended. Spoon batter evenly into prepared dish, @ 
3. Combine brown sugar and remaining '/4 cup € 
small bowl. Sprinkle evenly over batter. Pour boiling waite 
entire mixture; do not stir. 
4. Bake 35 to 38 minutes, until toothpick inserted in 
comes out clean. Cool 10 minutes. Serve with whippee 
or vanilla ice cream if desired. Makes 8 servings. 


Per serving Daily goal 
Calories 235 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 7 
Total fat 6g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 


Saturated fat 


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20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
300 mg or less 


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Sodium 296 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 462 250 g or more 

Protein 32 55 gto 90g 
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sugar 

unsweetened cocoa 

poon salt 

half-and-half cream 

spoons butter or margarine 

es (3 02.) semisweet chocolate, chopped 

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spoon vanilla extract 

chopped dried cherries, currants or raisins 


‘e Amaretto Custard Sauce: Combine sugar and corn- 
1 small bowl; beat in egg yolks. Slowly beat in !/2 cup hot 
Pour yolk mixture and remaining cream into small 
an. Bring to boil, stirring constantly, over low heat; boil 30 
3. Stir in amaretto. Refrigerate until cold. Makes 13/4 cups. 
inwhile, preheat oven to 350°F. Cut bread into 3/4-inch 
(you should have about 5 cups). Arrange bread on 
sheet and bake 10 minutes to dry bread slightly. Cool 
‘bine sugar, cocoa and salt in medium saucepan. Stir in 
and butter; cook over low heat, stirring constantly, until 
»s melted. Add chocolate and cook, stirring, until melted 
#ygs in small bowl; gradually beat !/2 cup chocolate mix- 
'o eggs. Return egg mixture to saucepan and cook | 
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Total fat 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 

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Cholesterol 153 my 12 or less 

Sodium 315 ms mg. or less 
Carbohydrates 57e2 yy more 
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promptu desserts. 
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egg and vanilla. Blend in flour mixture 
Slowly. Stirin "M&M's" Semi-Sweet 
Chocolate Candies and nuts. Drop 
heaping teaspoonfuls onto an 
ungreased cookie sheet. Bake 8-11 
minutes until browned. Cool 1 minute 
on cookie sheet; place on wire cooling 
racks. Makes about 5 dozen 2-inch 
cookies. 


Fun Cookies’ 


2 cups all purpose flour 

3/4 tsp baking soda 

3/4 tsp salt 

1 cup (802) softened butter or shortening 

2/3 cup granulated sugar 

1/2 cup firmly packed brown sugar 

1 egg 

1 tsp vanilla extract 

12 0z package (1-3/4 cups) “M&M's” 
Semi-Sweet Chocolate Candies 

3/4 cup chopped nuts (optional) 

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1/3 cup all-purpose flour 
\/4 teaspoon sali 
1/4 cup pecans or walnuts, chopped 





Hot-Fudge Sauce 
3/4 cup unsweetened cocoa 
3/4 Cup sugar 
3 tablespoons butter, cut up (no 
substitutions) 
'/2 cup heavy or whipping cream 
Pinch salt 
1 teaspoon vanilla extract 
Vanilla or coffee ice cream 


1. Make Brownies: Preheat oven to 350'F. 
Grease and flour 8-inch square baking 
pan. Combine chocolate and butter in 
large microwaveproof bowl. Microwave on 
High 1!/2 minutes or until melted 

2. Stir in sugar, then eggs and vanilla; beat 
until combined. Stir in flour and salt. Pour 
into prepared pan; sprinkle with nuts. Bake 
25 minutes or just until center is set. Cool 
in pan 10 minutes. Cut into 10 wedges. 

3. Make Hot-Fudge Sauce: Meanwhile, 
stir cocoa and sugar in small saucepan. 
Stir in butter and cream. Bring to boil, stir- 
ring constantly, over medium heat; boil 
30 seconds. Remove from heat and stir in 
salt and vanilla. (Can be made ahead. 
Refrigerate up to | month. Reheat over 
low heat.) Makes | cup. 

4. For each sundae, place | brownie in 
bowl. Top with 1 scoop ice cream and 2 
tablespoons Hot-Fudge Sauce. Makes 8 





servings. 

Per serving Daily goal 

Calories 515 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 31g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat 4g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 29 mg 300 ing or less 

Sodium 245 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 6lg 250 g or more 

Protein 7g 55 gto 90g 

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A plate of warm cookies, studded with 
semisweet chocolate, and a glass of cold 
milk are sure fo satisfy the child in all of 
us. The dough keeps in the refrigerator for 
up to a week, so you can make it ahead 
and bake off a batch in no time. 

Prep time: 10 minutes O 
Baking time: 12 to 14 minutes per batch 





6 tablespoons butter or margarine, 
softened 
/3 cup granulated sugar 
'/3 cup firmly packed brown sugar 
2 tablespoons milk 
1 teaspoon vanilla extract 


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FYI 
Chocolate from A to Z 


It’s everyone’s favorite flavor, but 
how riuch do you really know 
about chocolate? Below, a glossary 
of terms that can turn chocoholics 
into chocolate connoisseurs. 
Chocolate liquor is the base sub- 
stance of all real chocolate and co- 
coa products. You can’t buy it. It 
comes from ground nibs, which 
are the core of cocoa beans. 
Unsweetened chocolate (or bak- 
ing or cooking chocolate) is 
chocolate liquor that has been 
cooled and molded into squares. 
Semisweet chocolate, or dark 
chocolate, is a blend of chocolate 
liquor, added sugar, and cocoa 
butter, a vegetable fat extracted 
from chocolate liquor. It’s avail- 
able in bars, squares and baking 
chips. The chips, also called bits 
or morsels, are specially made to 
hold their shape when baked. 
Sweet chocolate is a combination 
of chocolate liquor, sugar, a bit of 
vanilla and cocoa butter. It contains 
more sugar than does semisweet 
chocolate. It usually comes in bars 
and is good for baking and eating. 
Bittersweet chocolate, a sub- 
category of sweet chocolate, ranges 
in degrees of sweetness. It contains 
chocolate liquor, milk, extra cocoa 
butter (to make it melt easily for 
baking) and sugar. 

Unsweetened cocoa is what re- 
mains after cocoa butter has been 
removed from the chocolate liquor. 
Naturally low in fat and sodium, it 
has no additives or preservatives. 
Milk chocolate, the most com- 
mon type, contains chocolate 
liquor, cocoa butter, milk or 
cream, sugar and flavorings. Milk 
chocolate must contain at least 
10 percent chocolate liquor. 
White chocolate is not strictly 
a chocolate because it contains no 
chocolate liquor, which gives 
chocolate its color and flavor. 
Currently there are no federal 
standards for white chocolate. It 
may be made with vegetable fats, 
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3/4 cup all-purpose flour 

1/3 cup unsweetened cocoa 

'/4 teaspoon baking soda 

1/4 teaspoon salt 

|/2 cup semisweet chocolate chips 

'/2 cup toasted walnuts or pecans, 
coarsely chopped 


1. Preheat oven to 350°F. Gre 
cookie sheets. 

2. Beat butter and sugars in mix 

until light and fluffy. Beat in m 

vanilla until blended. ; 

3. Combine flour, cocoa, bakit 

and salt in small bowl. Stir into bu 

ture. Stir in chocolate chips an 

(Can be made ahead. Wrap and: 

ate up to | week.) 

4. Spoon batter by heaping tablesg 
onto prepared cookie sheets. Bak 
14 minutes, until set in centers. C 
cookie sheets 2 minutes, then tre 

wire racks. Serve warm. Makes 15 € 


Per cookie Dally goal 
Calories ! 160 2,000 (F), 2,500 ( 
Total fat 10g 60 g or less (F); 70 
Saturated fat 4g 20 g or less (F); 23g 
Cholesterol 13 mg 300 mg or less 
Sodiaf 107 mg 2,400 mg or less 
Carbohydrates 208 250 g or more 
Protein 22 55 gto 90g 
WARM CHOCOLATE-HAZEL 
CAKES 


indulgent but worth it Chocol 
hazelnuts are a match made in he 
actually, in Italy. The Italians @ 
them in every kind of food from 
confections to spreads for bread. 
them in these miniature cakes—a 
valentine for any day of the year. © 
Prep time: SO minutes plus chilling 
Baking time: 10 to 20 minutes 





Amaretto Custard Sauce (recipe oF 
137) 

1/2 cup hazelnuts 

\/2 cup plus 2 tablespoons sugar 

'/2 cup butter (no substitutions) 

3 large eggs, separated 

] teaspoon vanilla extract 

5 squares (5 oz.) semisweet choco 
melted 

'/3 cup all-purpose flour 

'/4 teaspoon salt 

Seedless raspberry jam 


1. Make Amaretto Custard Saue 
rected except substitute 1 tabl 
hazelnut liqueur for the amaretto 
erate at least 4 hours or up to 24 
2. Preheat oven to 350°F. Place hh 
on jelly-roll pan and toast 13 to 
utes, until fragrant. Immediately 
nuts to clean kitchen towel and 
towel to remove any loose skin. - 
nuts to food processor and coe 
tablespoons sugar to processor ¢ 
cess until ground fine. 

3. Meanwhile, increase oven tem 
to 400°F. Butter and flour 6 Bundt 
cups or 6-ounce custard cups; set 
4. Beat butter and '/2 cup sugal 
mixer bowl until light and (ex 





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around the seed. 

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to separate. Slide the 
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gently under 
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Serving Suggestions. 


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Hot chocolate! 
continued 


fluffy. Add egg yolks, one at a time, beat- 


ing well after each addition. Beat in vanil- 
la. Stir in melted chocolate, then nuts and 
flour. In clean mixer bowl with clean beat- 
ers, beat egg whites at medium speed un- 
til frothy. Add salt and continue beating to 


soft peaks. Fold one quarter of the egg 
whites into chocolate mixture. Gently fold 
in remaining egg whites. Spoon mixture 
into prepared cups. (If using custard cups, 
place on cookie sheet.) Bake 10 to 14 
minutes for Bundtlette pans, 18 to 20 
minutes for custard cups, until tops are 
set. (Centers should still be runny.) Re- 
move from oven and let stand in cups 5 
minutes. Invert onto wire rack 

5. Transfer one cake to each serving 
plate. Spoon Custard Sauce around each 
cake. Spoon 5 dollops of '/8 teaspoon 
seedless raspberry jam each onto custard 
on each plate. Run tip of small knife 
through center of each jam dollop to form 





5 hearts. Makes 6 servings. 

Per serving Daily goal 

Calories 630 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 40 g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat 20g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 241 ng 300 mg or less 

Sodium 312 meg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 652 250 g or more 

Protein 9g 55 gto 90g 


SOUFFLE NERONE 


A soufflé is probably the easiest fancy 
dessert to make. Adapted from a recipe 
served at the Hotel Cipriani, in Venice, this 
crowd-pleaser can be served alone or with 
chocolate ice cream and hot-fudge sauce, 
as they do at the Cipriani. 

Prep time: 15 minutes oO 


Baking time: 35 to 37 minutes 


3 tablespoons butter or margarine 

'/4 cup all-purpose flour 

1 cup milk 

4 large egg yolks 

'/2 cup unsweetened cocoa 

1 teaspoon vanilla extract 

Pinch salt 

/3 cup plus | 
sugar 

6 large egg whites 

Confectioners’ sugar 

Chocolate ice cream and Hot-Fudge 
Sauce (recipe on page 138), 
optional 


tablespoon granulated 


1. Melt butter in medium saucepan over 
medium heat. Add flour and cook, stir 
ring, | minute. Remove from heat and 
whisk in milk. Return to heat and bring to 
boil, stirring frequently; boil 1 minute. Re- 
move from heat and stir in egg yolks, one 
at a time, beating well after each addi- 
tion. Stir in cocoa, 
smooth. (Can be made ahead. 
face with plastic wrap and let 
room eaeeoie up to 2 hours.) 
2. Preheat oven to 375°F. Butter 8-cup 
soufflé dish and coat with | tablespoon 
granulated sugar; set aside. 


vanilla and salt until 
Cover sur- 


stand at 


3. Beat egg whites at low speee 
mixer bowl until frothy. While gral 
creasing speed to high, beat if 
sugar a tablespoon at a time. 
beating until glossy and soft pee 
Stir one quarter of the mering 
chocolate to loosen. Pour choca 
meringue mixture and gently 
Spoon into prepared soufflé dish 
of knife, draw circle on top ofg 
inch in from edge. 

4. Bake 35 to 37 minutes, until pt 
barely set in center. Sift confection 
ar on top. Serve with ice cream 
Fudge Sauce if desired. Makes 8§ 


Per serving without Daily goal 


ice cream and sauce 


Calories 210 2,000 (F), 2,500 
Total fat 10g 60 g or less (F); 7€ 
Saturated fat 5g 20 gor less (F); 23 
Cholesterol 125 mg 300 mg or less 
Sodium 131 mg 2,400 mg or less 
Carbohydrates 272 250 g or more 
Protein 7g 55 gto 90g 
CHOCOLATE WAFFLES 


These delicate waffles are ter 
branch, topped with assorted fre 
oras a showstopper dessert 
cream and hot-fudge sauce. ) 
make them ahead and freeze—4 
the lightest setting of your toaster 
Prep time: 10 minutes 

Cooking time: 3 to 4 minutes per Wi 





11/2 cups all-purpose flour 
'/2 cup granulated sugar 
|/3 cup unsweetened cocoa 4 
2 teaspoons baking powder 
\/2 teaspoon baking soda 
'/4 teaspoon salt 
11/2 cups milk 
2 large eggs 
1 teaspoon vanilla extract 
3 tablespoons butter or margarine 
] tablespoon vegetable oil 
1 square (1 0z.) semisweet choce 
grated 4 
Confectioners’ sugar 
Vanilla ice cream and Hot-Fudge 
(recipe on page 138), ae 
1. Preheat waffle baker ace 
manufacturer's instructional ¢ 
flour, sugar, cocoa, baking pow 
ing soda and salt in large bowl. 
2. Whisk milk, eggs and vanilla te 
another bowl. Stir liquid ingrea 
dry ingredients just until blende 
butter, oil and grated chocolate. 
3. Lightly coat grids of waffle baker 
etable cooking spray. Spoon bi 
bottom of waffle grid. Close lid ai 
to 4 minutes, until crisp. Keep wai 
in 300°F. oven while baking rema 
fles. Sift confectioners’ sugar on f 
plain, with fruit or with ice cream 
Fudge Sauce. Makes 20 small hee 


Per waffle without Daily goal 

ice cream and sauce 

Calories 110 2,000 (F), 2,500 

Total fat 4g 60 gorless (F); 7 

Saturated fat 2g  20gorless (F); 2 

Cholesterol 28 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 141mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 16g 250 g or more 
55gto90g 


Proteir 3g 


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no problem 


feed a 


utes before grilling 


to increase the recipe to 


larger crowd, 


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in the count 


they want to impress: Theil 


ne of the best « 
the foolprc 
guests when 
elegant en- 


esults 


20 minutes plus marinating O 
45 minutes 


Prep time: 
Grilling time: 


2 small chickens (2 lb. each) or 
4 Cornish hens (1 lb. each), 
butterflied, or 1 chicken (3!/2 lb.), 
quartered 





'/4 cup olive oil 


2 tablespoons chopped fresh parsley 
tablespoon chopped fresh thyme or 
| teaspoon dried 
| teaspoon salt 
'/2 teaspoon freshly ground pepper 





Lemon-Thyme Butter 

3 tablespoons butter 

| tablespoon chopped fresh lemon 

thyme or '/2 teaspoon dried 

'/2 teaspoon grated lemon pee! 

] tablespoon fresh lemon juice 

'/4 teaspoon salt 

'/4 teaspoon freshly ground pepper 
1. Toss chicken with oil, parsley and 


thyme in (Can be made 
Cover and refrigerate up to 24 


large bowl 
ahead. 
hours. Remove from refrigerator 30 min 
utes before grilling.) 

2. Preheat grill or broiler. Sprinkle chick- 
en with salt and pepper. Grill over medi- 
um coals or broil 4 inches from heat 
source, turning occasionally, 45 minutes 
or until crisp and cooked through 

3. Make Lemon-Thyme Butter: Melt but- 
killet. Stir in thyme and 


lemon peel. When butter begins to siz- 


ter in small s 


zle, stir in lemon juice, salt and pepper. 
4. Arrange chicken on plates and driz- 





zle with Lemon-Thyme Butter. Makes 
4 servings 

Per serving Daily goal 

Calones 615 000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 43 60 g or less (F), 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat 14g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 199 meg 3 T 7 

Sodiur 66] me 

Carbohydrate Op 

Protein 55 p 

SALMON WITH ONIONS 

AND SOY 





Fastest recipe of the month [his sim- 
ple salmon dish is an old favorite of cook 
Ing teacher Mary James Lawrence. She 


teaches it to inspire (continued) 


AV OCADOSS 





NATURALLY CHOLESTEROL FREED 


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Brand Chocolate Flay 


Chocol 


cups KR AFT™ Miniature M 






tablespoons m 


OOL WHI 





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2'/2 cups thawed 
) 


cups cold milk 





MICROWAVE marshmalloy 









(Marshmallows will be partially 1 | gerat I t Surin | cup | 
POUR 2 cups MUHK Into large Dow Jing mixes. Deat With wire Whisk 2 minutes. Let stand | minute ¢ 

Stir in remaining |!) cups of why IPPing. Spoon into crust \rrange cookies over pudding mixture opres 

mixture over COOKIES 


REFRIGERATE 4 hours or until set. Store leftover pie in refrigerator 

Drizzle with chocolate topping just before serving, if desired 

Makes 8 servings. 

*Suoar Free JELL-O” Brand Instant Pudding and COOL WHIP Lite * Whipped 


Topping can be substituted in this recipe. Substitutions must be exact 

















































7 


Bere : 


r ed) confidence about prepar 





1e makes it often at he 





De rTect last-minute eritertainin > ‘ 

The fel : : ~ co-owner of 
Ve TISN COOks In twenty minutes, ar 

1 


Frog’s Leap, 
Tae 


Hele 


1 either dress it up or serve if ci 


Her favorite way is with orzo seasoned 
with extra-virgin olive oil, salt, pepper and 


thyme, and steamed tresh asparagus. 
Prep time: 6 minutes O 
Cooking time: 17 to 20 minutes 









JooNS olive yr butter 
chopped onions 


1 fillets (6 oz. each), skinned 


ediice 


d-sodium soy sauce 


arge skillet over medium- 


C 


L 
@ 


1igh heat; add onions and cook, stir- 
ring occasionally, until translucent 
bout 9 minutes 


lace salmon fillets over onions in 


NO 





killet; pour on soy sauce. Cover and 


Y 








| 
simmer over medium-low heat until 
salmon is just opaque in center, 10 to 
12 minutes. Transter salmon to platter. 
| 3. Continue cooking onions and soy 


sauce uncovered until slightly thick- 
ened, 2 to 3 minutes. Pour over salmon 
and serve. Makes 4 servings. 

i Per serving Daily goal 





| SHRIMP BARBECUE 


As co-owner of Frog’s Leap Winery 
g y, 





Julie Williams entertains often. She likes ) 
; Pf 
fo serve tnese speeay marinated shrimp 


H ’ L J : P,. 

s P ; ti 4 FF, 

as the festive first course of an informal 4 | “ide MMO eh ?. 
Mest y ” 1 Fr cA 


barbecue because “it’s quick and tasty 


d goes very well wilh our Sauvignon 


TL | | 


‘ 8g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Blanc This dish is also hearty enough lg 


| resh dill or b 
2 cup minced fresh dill or basil lg  20gorless(F); 23 gorless (M) 
210 mg 300 mg or less 


3 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil 

1 tablespoon minced garlic ga Sea 
] 
l 





to serve as the main event, with rice and 


grilled tomato nalve Either way, be 





teaspoon salt Prote 282  §5gt090¢ 
teaspoon crushed red pepper 


4 cup white wine (preferably Frog’s CRAB CAKES 


vide towels—your guests 





peel off the shells themselves 


Prep time: 10 minutes plus marinating O 





Grilling time: 3 to 6 minutes Leap Seuvignon Bian Laura Cabot’s quick-cooking crab cakes 
a 2s 1. Rinse shrimp, then combine with dill, | are her signature dish—they’re the local 


| |!/2 pounds medium shrimp, unpeeled oil, garlic, salt and red pepper in bowl catch enjoyed by guests at catered din- 






Cover and refrigerate 30 to 60 minutes. ners and by customers at her retail stores 
Other bonuses of this recipe: You can 
Mary James use any cooked fish with delectable re= 


, and the savory sauce can be made 
a day or two ahead. Serve with a crisp 
salad or a pilaf. 





Lawrence, cooking- 
school teacher at 


f . 
Cook’s Corner, Ltd., Prep time: 25 minutes = 
Greensboro, Cooking time: 4 to 6 minutes per batch 
North Carolina Rémoulade Sauce 


2 Cup mayonnaise 

2. Prepare grill or preheat broiler 2 tablespoons chopped fresh parsley 

Ten minutes betore cooking, add ] tablespoon Dijon mustard : 
1 
] 
] 


wine To shrimp and toss. With slotted tablespoon chopped capers 


spoon, arrange shrimp on grill. Cook tablespoon pickle relish 
11/2 to 3 minutes per side, just unti teaspoon minced fresh tarragon OF 
opaque throughout. Serve immediate- /s teaspoon dried 


ly. Makes 4 main-dish servings or 6 ] teaspoon anchovy paste 


appetizer servings 





pound crabmeat, flaked and picked 


in-dish Daily goal _ 
te ae ee Spa eres over, or 1!/4 pounds (continued 


144 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - FEBRUARY 1994 


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Mocige 
Pe Clas ee 













1 cup fresh bread crumbs 
4 CUP Minced green onions 
2 


3 ta blespoons mayonn 





Vorcestersnire sauce 


resniy ground pepper 
avored dry bread crumbs 
s vegetable oll 

| 
Sauce: Combine all 
bowl. Makes 2/3 cup 


1. Make Rémoulade 
ingredients in small t 


I 
2. Combine crabmeat, fresh bread 


crumbs, gre een onions, Mayonnaise, 
Worcestershire, salt 
mash until 


well blended. Spread dry bread crumbs 


egg, dry mustard, 





and pepper in large bowl; 


on sheet of wax paper. Shape crab mix 


ture into eight 3-inch patties. Coat with 
bread crumbs 

3. Heat 1 tablespoon oil in large non- 
stick skillet over medium-high heat. Add 


4 crab cakes and cook until golden, 2 





to 3 minutes per side. Wipe skillet with 


Repeat with remaining oil 


Serve with Rémoulade 


paper To wels 





' | 
crab cakes 


8 appetizer servings or 4 


Mokes 
IVIOKES 








main-dish servings. 

Per appetizer serving Daily ag 

alor 100 (F 500 
J me S 

PASTA PRIMAVERA 


food stylist, | eat with my eyes, 
) T, A tt zs Bea | 7 
Polly Talbot. And her colorful pas 
a dish satisfies the eye and the palate 
A D I] L il 
At least once a week, Folly whips tis up 
after a long day at the photographer's 
studio, using whatever vegetables and 
J | - ‘ 
pasta are at hand. Her no-tail recom 
weg 


menaation IT YOU Use caret or other 


tee cal rah lA _ - | 
egetables that take longer fo COOk, be 


ure to add them firs 


Prep time: 20 minutes O 
Cooking time: 15 minutes 








] 
CUP Olive Oll 


146 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - FEBRUARY 1994 


Laura Cabot, caterer, 
= Laura Cabot Catering 
at the Pine Cone, 
Waldoboro, Maine 


5 garlic 


- cloves, minced 

2 green onions, chopped 

red pepper, sliced 

| yellow pepper, sliced 

1 bunch broccoli, cut into florets, stems 
1 pieces 

small zucchini, deed 

small yellow 
4 teaspoon salt 


cut in |-inch 


squash, sliced 
4 teaspoon treshly ground pepper 

| cup 

1 cup fresh or frozen peas (optional 

1 pound pasta (penne, fusilli, spaghetti 
or other shapes) 

1 cup fresh basil, chopped 

1 cup freshly grated Parmesan cheese 

2 tablespoons pine nuts, toasted 
(optional) 


chicken broth 


ey Te 


ia 


BSS iF le 
Se rbor, 


New York 





. Heat on in large skillet over MeqiUmMs 

heat. Add garlic and greenm 
ook 30 seconds. Stir in remy 
/ peppers; cook, stirring, until | 
to 3 minutes. + 
li, zucchini, squash, call 
cook 5 minutes. Add 
chicken broth and peas; cover andl 

cook until vegetables are tender, 5 mines 
utes more. al 
3. Meanwhile, cook pasta according tom 
package directions. Toss with vegetaa™ 
bles, basil and cheese in large serving® 
dish. Sprinkle with pine nuts. Serve Witty 
additional Parmesan. Makes 6 servingss 


Per serving 


tender-crisp, 2 





Daily goal 

2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

l6¢g 60 gor less (F); 70 gor less (M) 
4g 20 gor less (F); 23 g or less (M). 
300 mg or less 





2,400 mg or less 
250 a more 





LEMON TART 


Caterer Nancy Key Harris knows that 
dessert doesn’t have to be complicated 
an elegant touch. OF 
this reffeshing lemon tart, she admitsy 
“It’s really nothing more __ (continued} 


to end Aimed! with 





Deep Dish Pizza = Chicago. 


tat “Aly Kind of Town” by Old Blue Eyes on the stereo whittle sett 
red checked tablecloth and Chianti candle holder: 
1 lb. loaf frozen bread dough, thawed > 
4 c. Sargento® Classic Supreme << 
Shredded Mozzarella 
Cheese, divided 
- 1% lbs. lean 
& pork sausage 
© 1At. each dried 


oregano & fennel seeds, crushed 








































3 cans (14% oz. each) plum 
tomatoes, chopped and drained 
a> ” c. fresh sliced mushrooms 


=>": basil leav Tes for garnish 


| 


irtace, roll dough to 16 in. circle. Press into’ 


-rease a 14x2 in.pizza pan. On flour-dusted 


, sttom and 17% in. up sides of pan. Spri 
| ith 3 c. of fresh, natural Sargento Moz 
: 
| rumble sausage over cheese. Top wit 


t nnel, tomatoes, mushrooms & remainin. 


zeduce heat to 400° F. 
Bake 40-50 min. 
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e browse through a 
Bog of Abe Lincoln ‘ 





mood. Remove pizza when crust i 





sw Sausage is cooked through. (8 servi 
antmated Otnaner 0tscud3ton on bere 


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argento of Wisconsin. 





(continued) than lemon bar cookies 
that look more sophisticated in a tart 
shell.” You can substitute lime for lemon 
and serve it plain or with a simple rasp- 
berry sauce. 

Prep time: 10 to 15 minutes plus 


cooling O 


Baking time: 30 to 36 minutes 


Crust 
1 cup all-purpose flour 
7 tablespoons butter, softened (no 
substitutions) 
2 tablespoons confectioners’ sugar 


Filling 
3 large eggs, lightly beaten 
| cup sugar 
/3 cup fresh lemon juice 
2 tablespoons flour 











Confectioners’ sugar 


. Prepare Crust: Preheat oven to 
350°F. Combine flour, butter and con- 
fectioners’ sugar in food processor; 
process until combined. Press evenly 


148 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL FEBRUARY 1994 


into 9-inch tart pan with removable bot- 
tom, or springform pan. Refrigerate 15 
minutes. Bake 15 to 18 minutes, until 
deep, golden brown. Cool completely 
on wire rack. 
2. Make Filling: Whisk eggs, sugar, 
lemon juice and flour in large bowl 
until smooth. Pour into prepared crust. 
Bake 15 to 18 minutes, until filling is 
Transfer to wire rack. Sift addi- 
tional confectioners’ sugar over warm 
tart, then cool completely. Makes 
8 servings. 


Barbara Pool Fenzl, 
author and teacher 
at Les Gourmettes 
Cooking School, 
Phoenix, Arizona 













































Per serving Daily goal 
Calones 


290 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 
12g 60 gor less (F); 70 g or less (| 
7g 20 gor less (F); 23 gor less (M) 
07 mg 300 mg or less 
27 mg 2,400 mg or less 
42g 250 g or more 
4g 55 gto 90g 
STRAWBERRY MARGARITA 


SORBET 


Strawberry mangas are a populc 1 
cooler throughout the hot Southwe 
For her cooking classes, Barbara Pog 
Fenzl based this dessert recipe on the 
cocktail, and it will appear in the boo 
“Southwest the Beautiful” (Collings 
1994). She says, “It’s delicious with b 
cotti, after Mexican food, or even pd 
tially frozen as a slushy drink on a he 
summer night.” 
Prep time: 15 minutes plus freezing OV 


2 cups water 

| cup sugar 

4 cups fresh strawberries, hulled, or 
1 bag (20 oz.) frozen whole 
strawberries, thawed 

'/3 cup fresh lime juice 

/3 cup Yequila 

'/4 cup orange-flavored liqueur 

Mint sprigs, for garnish (optional) 





Bring water and sugar to boil i 
medium saucepan over high heat 
cook, stirring, until sugar is dissolvee 
Remove from heat and cool completely 
2. Puree strawberries in blender or foot 
processor until smooth. Stir in lime 
juice, tequila, orange liqueur and suga@ 
syrup. Refrigerate until cold. 
3. Freeze in ice-cream maker according 
to manufacturer's directions. (Or pou 
mixture into 13x9-inch pan and freez 
until almost solid, 5 hours, stirring 
whisk every 1!/2 hours. Refreeze, 
Makes 6 cups. 








Per '/2 cup Daily goal 

Calones 125 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 3 
Total fat Og 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (Mj 
Saturated fat Og 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (Mi 
Cholestero| 0 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 1 mg 2,400 mg or less 
Carbohydrates 24g 250 g or more 

Protein Og 55 gto 90g 










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They said it would be for 
butter or for worse, 
but calories made 
their love a curse. 
Then one day 
their hearts 
took flight, 
they discovered 
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when it comes to love, 
look for less. 


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ISN TIT 
ROMANTIC? 


n celebration of Valentine’s 

Day, we asked famous chefs and 

food writers to share stories of 

their most romantic meals with 
us. Dessert maven and cookbook au- 
thor Maida Heatter told us that she 
and shared 
smoked salmon—and-caviar pizza, 
Grgich Hills Chardonnay, chocolate 
ice cream and chocolate biscotti—in 
bed. Emeril Lagasse, chef at Emeril’s 
and Nola, in New Orleans, treated 
his wife to a meal of citrus-roasted 
duck with caramelized sweet pota- 
toes, followed by wonderful choco- 
lates. Cookbook author and bread 


someone she loves 


MARKET TRENDS |. 
Fresh Winter | 


FRUIT 


baker Daniel Leader cooked a white- 
bean casserole with tomatoes, garlic 
and escarole right in the fireplace for 
his wife one snowy winter night. But 
our favorite story was from food wril- 
er John Mariani, who admitted that 
his most romantic night was not with 
his wife. He was dining with a friend 
at Harry’s Bar, in Venice. After a de- 
licious meal of carpaccio, pasta and 
wine, he wandered outside to watch 
the couples dancing to violin music 
on the piazza. He turned to his friend 
and said that he had to go home and 
marry Galina, so he could bring her 
to Venice to experience this. And he 
did—they returned a year later. 


A Romantic Valentine’s 

Menu for Two 

Caviar on Toast with Sour Cream 

Champagne 

She-Crab Bisque 

Grilled Filet Mignon 

Oven-Roasted Red Potatoes 

Steamed Asparagus 

Cabernet Sauvignon 

Warm Chocolate-Hazelnut Cakes 
(recipe on page 138) 





Thanks to advances in 
shipping and the devel- 
opment of higher-quality 
fruit imported from Chile 
and Mexico, summer 
fruit can be enjoyed all 
winter long. Here, the 
best picks. Grapes Look 
for firm, well-colored, 
plump bunches. Retriger- 
ate in a plastic bag until 
ready to eat. Peaches 


and Nectarines Choose 
peaches with a creamy 
or golden undertone and 
a sweet fragrance. Nec- 
tarines should have a 
yellow. background and 
no green at the stem 
end. To ripen, place in a 
loosely closed paper bag 
for several days until fruit 
yields when gently 
squeezed. Pears Select 


150 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - FEBRUARY 1994 








well-formed fruit free of 
bruises. Ripen as you 
would peaches. Pa- 
payas Look for tender 
fruit that is mostly or all 
yellow, or ripen at room 
temperature until the skin 
has turned at least half 
yellow. 







et 
MYSTERIES, 


LOVES TO — 
COOK 


hat do whodunits and 
cooking have to do with each: 
other? They're the ingredients” 
for a few delicious new novels: 
Someone |s Killing the Great 
Chefs &f America, by Nan and Ivan Lyons® 
(Little Brown, 1993), a thriller by the 
authors of the best-seller Someone Is 
Killing the Great Chefs of Europe; The 
Cereal Murders, by Diane Mot Davidson 
(Bantam), a suspense-filled novel that 
offers recipes for plum cake and cookies; 
The Body in the Cast (Avon), the latest in 
scrumptious series by Katherine Hall Page; 
and The 27-Ingredient Chili Con Came 
Murders, by Nancy Pickard (Delacorte 
Press), which is redolent of cilantro and 
chile peppers and includes the chili recipes 
—PHYLUS C. RICHMAN 


Hungry yet? Here’s a recipe 
from The Cereal Murders: 


CEREAL KILLER COOKIES 


Preheat oven to 350° F. Grease 
2 cookie sheets. Combine 21/4 cups 
old-fashioned oats and 2 packages 
(71/2 oz. each) almond brickle chips 
in bowl. Sift together 12/3 cups all- 
purpose flour, 1 teaspoon baking 
powder and !/s teaspoon salt. Combin 
1 cup firmly packed dark-brown 
sugar, 3/4 cup granulated sugar and 
1 cup butter, softened, in mixer bowl 
beat until smooth. Add 2 large eggs 
and 1 tablespoon vanilla extract; 
continue beating until blended. Add 
dry ingredients; beat just until 
combined. Stir in oat-candy mixture 
until well mixed. Drop dough by 
tablespoonfuls 2 inches apart on co 
sheets. Bake 10 minutes, until gol 
brown. Cool on pan | minute; tra 
to wire racks. Makes 4 dozen. 





































From THE CEREAL MURDERS, by Diane Mott Da) 
son. Copyright © 1993 by Diane Mott Davids 
Published by Bantam Books. : 


—. 





HOW TO EAT a ala a You 
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vied 


TANGY TUNA MEL? 
Just make your favorite tuna § 
Salad with MIRACLE WHIP 
LIGHT Dressing. 


¢Top with a ton lice and 
some cheese. 


¢Then broil...and enjoy! 


Miracle Whip 


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| TSE LATEST DIO 
\ GOLD-MEDAL SOL 


CELEBRATE THE XVII WINTER OLYMPIC GAMES, PLAYED IN LILLEHAMMER, 
Norway, FROM FEBRUARY 12 TO 27, WITH A WELL-LOVED NATIVE RECIPE 











eems like we just watched same hearty Norwegian soup that 
the Winter Olympics, will be served at the Games. 
right? Well, we did—two NORWEGIAN BETASUPPE 
years ago. But since Combine 1 pound yellow split peas, 
Olympic viewing is such a popular] pound ham hocks or !/2 cup finely 
i! sport worldwide, the Olympic Com- chopped ham, 1 onion, chopped and | tablespoon salt. Return to 




































mittee decided to alternate the Win- fine, 1 tablespoon chopped fresh simmer and cook covered, stirring 
ter and Summer Olympics so we thyme or 1 teaspoon dried and occasionally, 30 to 45 minutes more, _ 
could see one every two years, instead —_ 10 cups water in large Dutch oven. until vegetables are very tender. 
Hi of watching both every four years. Bring to boil; reduce heat, cover and § Remove ham hocks; discard skin and| 
So before you settle back to cheer — simmer until tender, 1!/2 hours. Add _ bones. Chop ham fine and return to 
on your favorite figure skaters, skiers 2 cups each diced potatoes, rutabaga soup. Sprinkle chopped fresh 
and lugers, we suggest you get into (yellow turnip) and celery root or parsley or thyme on top. Makes 
the Nordic spirit by simmering the _ celery ribs, 1!/2 cups chopped leek about 15 cups. 
| | WITH THE FOCUS ON LOW-FAT EATING AT AN ALL-TIME HIGH, IT’S NO WONDER THERE ARE SO MANY NONSTICK PANS ON THE MARKET. WE TESTEM 
SIX SKILLETS THE SAME WAY: WE PREHEATED THE SKILLET FOR THREE MINUTES. WITHOUT ADDING FAT, WE COOKED ONE EGG FOR 50 SECONDS'GS 
| ONE SIDE, 20 SECONDS ON THE OTHER, AND THREE LEAN GROUND-BEEF PATTIES FOR FOUR MINUTES PER SIDE. HERE’S HOW THE SKILLETS STACKED: Oia 
} TESTING NONSTICK SKILLETS 


BRAND; NONSTICK SURFACE DESCRIPTION TEST RESULTS COMMENTS 


=! CALPHALON 10-inch omelet pan (2 Ib. 11 Egg: some sticking. Lifetime warranty. Ovenpro 4 
See (NONSTICK), $58"; ©2.). Slightly curved bottom; 2- Burger: thin, light- up to 450°F. Has Lifetime 





PROPRIETARYt inch sides. Anodized-aluminum brown crust, no sticking. Release System (LRS). Pricey,» 
exterior. Nonstick inside and out. oa 


FARBERWARE 10!/2-inch sauté pan (2 Ib. Egg: turned a brownish = 20-year “never-stick” = 
— MILLENNIUM, $72*; 2 02.). Flat bottom; straight color, resisted slightly guarantee. Metal handle 
— EXCALIBUR 2'/2-inch sides. Stainless- when turned. Burger: stays cool. Ovenproof 
: — steel exterior. browned quickly but and dishwasher-safe. 

rare inside. Expensive. 





NORDIC WARE 10-inch skillet (2'/4 Ib.). Egg: turned an odd 15-year warranty. Durabl 
LIFESTYLES, $35*: Heavy, flat bottom; semi- brown color on bottom, — Aluminum disc across bo 
Pe PROPRIETARYt straight 2-inch sides. no sticking. Burger: for even cooking. Ovenproc 
we FLAME-SPRAYED Aluminum-clad bottom; golden-brown crust,no to 450°F. Dishwasher-safe. = 
SURFACE stainless steel; plastic handle. sticking. Good depth for sauced dishes. 


REVERE NONSTICK 10-inch skillet (1 Ib. 14 0z.). Egg: slipped perfectly 5-year limited warranty. ¥ ; 





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Sp $17.50": SILVER inch sides. Heavyweight deep brown, no liquid. Ovenproof to 42 
STONE. aluminum; pistol-shaped sticking. Protective base for easy 
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a T-FAL RESISTAL 101/4-inch skillet (1 Ib. 12 Egg: brown on 5-year warranty. Exclusive 
. =e DISTINCTION 02.). Flat bottom; semi- bottom, stuck. Burger: — “honeycomb” surface, 
e $19.95": ' straight 11/2-inch sides. browned, medium “expansion channels” for 
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exterior; plastic handle. safe and easy to clean 
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. CONCENTRIC AIR &2:): Flat bottom; rounded sticking. Burger: dark _ outside bottom allow eve 
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| MAXALON 2000 porcelain enamel on Ovenproof to 350°F. 
| a aluminum; plastic handle. Dishwasher-safe. z 
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| 152 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - FEBRUARY 1994 





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Kristopher’s 
Potato MV heels 
Slice potatoes into 
rounds, Drizzle 
lightly with oil 
sprinkle with 
seasoned salt 
bake Dip 
ketchup. And 
eat it all just in 
case someone § 


making a list 





A good killing 
ntnued from page 101 


The case was so sensational that the 
morning after the shooting, vans packed 
with TV cameras lined the streets of 
downtown Rush Springs. When Bill 
Chambers, the middle school principal, 
arrived at work, reporters jammed his 
outer office. Noting the absence ofa 
movie theater, journalists classified Rush 
Springs as “sleepy,” and made stinging 
accusations: Everybody in town knew 
what was going on in the Dutton trailer 
house, but nobody did anything about it. 
As Fred Fitzgerald, a Rush Springs math 
teacher, says, “This thing’s a tough old 
deal for our little town. A tough old deal. 
I mean ... this is Hometown, U.S.A.” 

Rush Springs is some fifty miles 
southwest of Oklahoma City, in Grady 
County. The countryside is lush and 
green, its rolling hills carpeted with thick 
grass, the landscape dotted with heavy- 
headed trees: oaks, pecans, the stunty 
scrub oak the locals call blackjack. Crops 
such as watermelons and peanuts are the 
main sources of income. Downtown 
Rush Springs is spanking clean, bristling 
with local pride. But on the outskirts of 
town, the bars look dark and forbidding. 


three, Lonnie’s sister. “He was a mon- 
ster.” She stares off into space. “You 
just don’t know.” 

The residents of Rush Springs say they 
didn’t know. Karen Goodwin, editor and 
publisher of The Rush Springs Gazette, 
says, “What I'd like to get straight is... 
we didn’t all know what was going on out 
there. I’ve lived here twenty-nine years, 
and I’d never even heard of Lonnie Dut- 
ton. Or Luther.” 

Bill Chambers agrees. “People are 
jumping on the media bandwagon now, 
saying they knew this and that. Do you 
think for one minute if we’d have known, 
we wouldn’t have done something?” 

Schoolmates say the Dutton children 
kept to themselves. “Herman wasn’t part 
of things,” says Ryan Goodwin, fourteen, 
a freshman at Rush Springs High. 

Herman had bruises and black eyes 
many times, but he always had an expla- 
nation. “Once,” Ryan remembers, “I was 
going to the school bathroom to get some 
paper towels, and Herman was sitting on 
the floor, kind of under the sink, with his 
head down. I asked him if he was okay. 
He said he was just feeling a little sick 
and had to sit down.” 

“It’s a rural community,” Karen 
Goodwin explains. “Kids ride horses, 


“If you didn’t know him. 


vou dont eres 
Lonnie Dutton’s s 


“Hew 


The Duttons did not live in Rush 
Springs; they lived outside the city lim- 
its on land belonging to Lonnie’s par- 
ents, Luther and Nancy Dutton. 
Lonnie, an unemployed roofer, had 
pulled his trailer house onto a cleared 
spot in the scrub oaks, way back off the 
road. On the locked gate is a beat-up 
sign that says “Private Property”; above 
it hang five huge withering catfish 
heads on fishing lines. 

“Nobody knows what went on out 
here,” declares Karen Caveny, who 
shared a fenceline with Lonnie. “No- 
body.” She and her family often had to 
dodge bullets when Lonnie was in a 
shooting mood. “Lonnie was crazy... he 
was liable to do anything.” 

Luther Dutton, Lonnie’s father, says, 
“We are the only ones who know. Me, my 
wife and those four kids. Nobody else.” 

“If you didn’t know him, you don’t 
understand,” says Linda Munn, forty- 


says 
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sa monster. 


work cows. They play rough. And any- 
way ... we didn’t teach our kids to look 
for evidence of abuse; we never thought 
we had to.” 


Math teacher Fred Fitzgerald is one of 


the few people who admits to raw feel- 
ings of guilt about Herman and Druie. 
He recalls once asking Herman about a 
black eye and an abrasion on his cheek. 
“Old Herman looked bad that day,” 
Fitzgerald says. “He looked really bad.” 
Fitzgerald told Herman, “You know, you 
don’t have to live like this. This is Amer- 
ica. You tell me what happened, and we'll 
go talk to the principal .. . the sheriff... 
whomever we need to... .” Herman po- 
litely said he didn’t know what his teach- 
er was talking about. 

“This old deal has changed my life 
dramatically,” Fitzgerald says with emo- 
tion. “If there’s another little boy like 
Herman who comes through, I'll do more 
for him. I'll explain his rights as a citizen 


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even though he 1s a child.” Ps 

These days, who knew what 
Lonnie Dutton and why nobody ¢ 
his kids’ rescue is a big issue if 
Springs. “It’s complicated,” says 
Dutton, a stooped man in his sixti 
looks older. “If you file charges, ye 
to stop and think, How are the k 
ing to react? It’s their daddy you're 
charges on. Oh, we’d get into it. 
Herman with his head swole up, 
with a black eye, and we'd get i 
He'd tell me to mind my own d 
business, those kids were his and h 
what he damned pleased. . Lr 
when you call somebody . . .” > he ‘s 
“The police are thirty-five miles 
Time they get here. 

Nancy Dutton sits ona kitchen D2 
smoking a cigarette. At sixty-one sl 
appears much older. “But, you knoy 
says, “those kids loved their daddy 

“That’s right,” Luther agrees. 
killed their daddy, but they loved § 

Neighbor Karen Caveny says | 
didn’t do anything to stop his so 
pounding on his grandchildren for 
pler reason. “Family,” she declares 
know what’s going on; you kn 
wrong. But it’s your own. And § 
stand by them.” 


A SHOW OF SUPPORT 
After telling the sheriff they'd 
their father, Herman and Druie 
charged with murder and conspii 
commit murder, and taken to the 
nile-detention center in Lawton, 
homa. Three days later, a group ¢ 
Springs teachers organized a town 
ing in support of the boys. The ¢ 
tion of Rush Springs is fifteen hv 
some two hundred people came 
meeting. Blue bows and bumper s 
were given out, and donations w 
to help pay for court expenses. Th 
went up everywhere: on lampposts 
boxes, doors and flagpoles. 

The meeting was not a purg 
communal guilt, but part of a¢ 
campaign to get national sympai 
Herman and Druie by attracting 
attention from as far away as pe 
That was important because anot 
stance of patricide hangs over th 
case: In 1992 in Cement, Okla 
miles northwest of Rush Spri 
teen-year-old girl named Billie Jo 
ell shot and killed her father, sayi 
he’d sexually abused her. Billie J 
pleaded guilty to shooting her fatl 
tried in court as an adult, and al 
her sentence was deferred, the 
against her are on record (in } 
court, such charges are sealed). 

The citizens of Rush Springs 
to do better for Herman and D 
day after the shooting, a tea 
Rush Springs called a teacher fi 


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said. “Don’t wait. Make sure they 
hose boys as juveniles.” 
> Christian, the Grady County 
t Attorney, says, “We never in- 
certifying those boys as adults. . . . 
aile court, rehabilitation is the fo- 
it punishment. Rehabilitation 
appropriate in this case.” 
nany people at the town meeting 
- the system had already failed the 
‘aren Caveny told reporters that 
» called the Department of Human 
»s (DHS), the federally funded 
in charge of protecting children 
‘gligence and abuse, thirty to forty 
) report Lonnie for wife-battering 
ild abuse. She says nobody ever 
up to investigate. Lonnie’s sister, 
Munn, who lives in Louisiana but 
{to Rush Springs for the meeting, 
> had also called DHS twenty-five 
y times. 
aw, DHS employees can’t talk 
pecific cases; they'll discuss only 
issues. Too many [domestic vio- 
cases and not enough staff, they 
and this is true. Also, when they 
-juct an investigation, once a level 
‘imal safety” has been established 
a reasonably be expected to con- 
/nost states try to reunite the fami- 
atever the circumstances. As for 
i, County sheriff's department, 
‘y that if the kids don’t talk there’s 
ig they can do. “We are exonerat- 
7s the sheriff. 


| SSING PARENT 
-t Attorney Gene Christian struck 
»with the attorneys appointed to 
nt Herman and Druie—Jim Per- 
‘od Bob Perrine. All four Dutton 
»n were made wards of the court, 
-ke and Alisha were sent to live 
-a aunt. A petition of delinquen- 
‘ich simply stated that a crime had 
/ommitted—was filed in juvenile 
-or Herman and Druie; they pled 
test to it. The judge held off her 
-until after the two boys had un- 
-e extensive testing. 

one person missing from this pic- 
f course, is the children’s mother, 
Dutton, thirty-five. Karen Caveny 
) hear Marie scream in the night, 
g her husband not to hit her any- 
One morning, Marie showed up at 
venys’ door, children in tow. “Her 
as this big; her eyes were black,” 
remembers. “Her mouth was bust- 
i one ear was torn. She had black- 
ue marks all over her.” Marie 
for a ride to town so she could get 
s and go home to Texas. Over the 
she would leave for a while, but 
‘ways come back. 
da Munn says that Lonnie beat his 





wife, poured jalapeno juice in her eyes, 
stabbed her . . . the stories go on and on. 
She adds, “My parents weren’t there for 
Marie. They covered for Lonnie.” 

In 1989, after about thirteen years of 
abuse, Marie left her husband for good. 
She took the children to live with her in 
Texas, but Herman and Druie didn’t 
like it there and went back home. Jake 
and Alisha stayed with their mother un- 
til Lonnie sued for divorce. He asked 
for custody of all four children, claim- 
ing Marie and her boyfriend had ne- 
glected and abused Alisha. Marie failed 
to appear in court, and Lonnie was 
granted custody. 

Oklahoma has a strong children’s- 
rights law: If a parent has had no signifi- 
cant contact with the child and has paid 
no child support for twelve consecutive 
months, parental rights can be terminat- 
ed. And, in fact, Jim Percival, Herman’s 
lawyer, is trying to get the court to termi- 
nate Marie’s rights to the children. In the 
meantime, she has filed for temporary 
custody of them, but the suit has so far 
been unsuccessful. As for Herman and 
Druie, they want nothing to do with 
their mother. 


HELP AT LAST 

Herman and Druie Dutton spent three 
weeks at the Central Oklahoma Juvenile 
Diagnostic & Evaluation Center, being 
examined by psychologists, social work- 
ers, a medical doctor, a substance-abuse 
specialist and a youth care worker. On 
August 16, the boys went to court. The 
unanimous recommendation by the doc- 
tors and specialists was that Herman 
and Druie should be in therapeutic fos- 
ter care. They should receive regular, 
long-term individual and family therapy 
and live in a family-type setting. The 
boys’ lawyers didn’t push for a court tri- 
al because the therapists were against it, 
and the boys—especially Herman— 
didn’t want it. 

The judge ordered the boys to be 
placed immediately in foster care. Ruling 
on the delinquency petition for both boys 
was deferred until Herman’s eighteenth 
birthday in April 1996. If, by that time, 
the two boys have not been in serious 
trouble with the law, they will be judged 
not guilty, their records will be sealed 
and the charges will be dismissed. 

Although help for the Dutton children 
was late in coming, since the shooting, 
the state of Oklahoma has done well by 
Herman and Druie. They currently live 
apart in a town some several hundred 
miles from Rush Springs—Druie, in a 
therapeutic foster home; Herman, in a 
group home with a number of other boys. 
Five days a week, the two brothers spend 
seven hours together at a special clinic 
for kids with psychological needs; they 
also have regular supervised meetings 
with Jake and Alisha. The boys were sep- 


arated so that Herman would have a 
chance to be a kid. without feeling re- 
sponsible for his brother, and Druie 
wouldn’t grow up relying on Herman to 
make decisions for him. Eventually, it is 
hoped, the Dutton children wil! all live 
together. Periodic court reviews 
held to assess the needs and progress of 
all four children. 

But their world was so small, some 
people wonder if things can ever change 
for Herman and Druie. Both boys say 
they don’t want to go to college. Nor do 
they want to leave Oklahoma. Linda 
Munn is afraid that if Herman and Druie 
go back to Rush Springs, “they'll be pi- 
geonholed. They'll always be known as 
Lonnie’s kids . . . they'll always have a 
stigma attached to them.” 


A HARD LESSON 

You can point fingers, cast blame, won- 
der how these kids fell through the 
cracks. But there are no easy answers. 

One of the people most deeply in- 
volved in the case is Darla Lorance, a 
court-appointed special advocate who 
represents the children’s interests. Lo- 
rance is schooled in social work and 
criminology; more important, at sixteen 
she escaped a cruelly abusive family. 
When it comes to child abuse, Darla Lo- 
rance is a she-bear. 

“Child abuse cannot exist without 
sanction from the community,” Lorance 
declares. She rails against people who see 
and hear things and don’t call their state 
child-abuse hot line or DHS or the po- 
lice. “We have to quit being afraid to 
make reports. If you call and nobody 
comes, call back. Call somebody else.” 

In the meantime, the lessons from this 
case continue: Family privacy is a sacred 
myth. So is minding your own business. 
Linda Munn says that people waved her 
brother’s behavior away, saying, “Oh, 
you know, Lonnie’s real funny about his 
kids; he thinks of them as property.” 
Linda says her father thought of his wife 
and children as property, too. “It got a 
little too rough sometimes,” she says of 
the way Luther treated her and her sib- 
lings. And when it came to Lonnie, she 
adds, “Luther was unmerciful.” 

Lonnie Dutton went his father one 
better, the way sons often feel they must. 
Somebody had to stop him. Jake Dutton 
told his aunt that he and his brothers and 
sister used to get together and pray their 
daddy would change, and if he didn’t, 
that somebody would hear their screams 
and come help them. Nobody came. So 
when Herman and Druie’s father 
changed the rules of the game he invent- 
ed, they did what they had to do. They 
killed the man in charge. ® 


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ree years, I never had the tabloids 
in my life,” said Oprah recently. 
problems started after the diet 
Since then, at least once a month, 
something written about me. My 
with weight has been a personal 
that is in the public’s eye.” But 
also realized that, until recently, 
, She’d been approaching weight 
om the wrong perspective—and 
the wrong reasons. “I would have 
‘ts battle whether or not I was on 
he admits now. “It happens to be 
y I manifest my fears. To others it 
drugs or alcohol... . The issue is 
‘food, it's what made you overeat 
irst place.” 
he first of two programs she devot- 
er new healthy-at-forty self, Oprah 
ted to uncover what some of her 
et-busting triggers might be. She 
Fear of not being liked” and “Fear 
ng ‘no’ ” among her obstacles to 
e eating. “My weight was always 
logy to the world,” she said at the 
I’ve got this big weight problem, so 
a still love me.” Can she now ac- 
ye—and a trim, toned body? “I had 
back the layers emotionally,” she 
ied on her show. “It took me fif- 
ars to be able to do this.” And, she 
added, if she can do it, anyone can. 


#3: DON’T BE SATISFIED WITH 
“WE SUCCESS—AND DON’T GIVE 
=R FAILURE 
surely the only talk-show host to be 
ated for an Oscar—acknowledg- 
or her outstanding work as Sofia in 
Spielberg’s award-winning 1985 
aptation of Alice Walker’s The Color 
And she was praised for her role in 
mini-series The Women of Brewster 
Then again, not all her. acting has 
) dramatically successful: Her spin- 
ies, Brewster Place, was a definite 
he key to her perseverance? “I don’t 
in failure. It is not a failure if you 
d the process. I learned from my 
es on Brewster Place.” And so she 
nong her boffo successes from last 
here Are No Children Here, a top-ten 
er prime-time interview with 
el Jackson, which was the third- 
t-watched entertainment show of 
son; and her Oprah interview with 
ust-retired basketball superstar 
al Jordan. 


1 #4: DO WHAT YOU WANT TO 

‘IEN YOU WANT TO DO IT... AND 
/MOMENT SOONER 

ug as there has been Oprah, the 
iothly successful talk show, there 
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with other animals before choosing a 
new one. Then have both neutered to 
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Keep the ani- 

mals separated 

when no one Is 

he until they can 


<ist peacefully. 
Dog/dog: Sue Myles, a 
alifornia animal-behavior newcomer in one room for a 
week. Then put both cats in carriers 
and bring the first cat into the new 
one’s room for short periods, moving 
them closer each time. The third 
week, bring the new cat, in its carriers 
into other parts of the house. Then let 
them meet on their own terms. 
Patience and supervised interac= 
tion are key; eventually, most pets do 
Vick! L. HOGUE 


consultant, recommends this method: 
Slowly walk the dogs past each other 
in neutral territory; then gradually 
bring them closer. At home, always 
greet your first dog first, and don’t 
scold him if he nudges or growls at 
the newcomer. Praise them both when 
they interact nicely. 

Cat/cat: Cats are territorial, so make 


the introduction slowly. Confine the get along. 


TAKE A DOG TO WORKS 


your work performance. With her colleagues, psychologist Kat en 
Allen, Ph.D., of the State University of New York at Buffalo, ob: r 
forty-five women who were paired either with a close female frien 
with a dog. The women’s physical stress levels were gauged as 


those with dogs had near-perfect scores and the least stress. 
Allen speculates that we may feel pressured to perform in fro 
friends, whereas dogs, who are nonjudgmental, help us focus. She he 


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during his convalescence, Kirstie Alley hung 

a (human) family portrait in the aviary. 
@ Vanna White and her husband, 
George Santo Pietro, share their home: 
with cats Ashley and Rhett. The beloved 
felines nibble on gourmet goodies, get 
house calls from the vet and loving care’ 

from baby-sitters when Vanna travels. 
Call it extreme if you will, but it’s alk 
done in the name of love. 
—BONNIE SIEGLER 


stars and their pets. A sampling of how 
some famous animal lovers dote on their 
turry companions 

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outdoor running faucets at her country 
home for her dogs, Dash and Dudley. 

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with lots of hugs and touching,” she once 
explained. “Nobody ever said, ‘I love 
you.’ ” But for more than the past seven 
years, there has been the constancy of 
Stedman, her Stedman, a once-divorced 
man (he has an eighteen-year-old daugh- 
ter, Wendy, who lives with her mother) 
so secure he was able to appear on 
Oprah’s show a few years back to address 
the touchy and personai subject “How 
Fame Affects a Relationship.” “We will 
announce happily when we’re getting 
married when we decide, and not be- 
fore,” he said at the time. 

Since then, Oprah has waited and de- 
flected, joked and, one might imagine, 
yearned. (She once said she wanted to be 
pregnant at thirty-eight; now she claims 
to be ignoring the ticking of the biologi- 
cal clock.) For his part, Graham has 
borne with dignity the occasional ill-tem- 
pered accusations that such a good-look- 
ing man was surely just after a fat 
woman’s money. In October 1992, head- 
lines blared that her “Steddy” had finally 
proposed and that a wedding would take 
place the following year. But as 1993 
came and went, no date was set, and the 
couple defied anyone to question their 
contentment—or their commitment. 
“There was a time in my life when I 
needed marriage to validate myself,” 
Oprah has said since. “But now I’m very 
content with what my relationship gives 
me. ... I’m very sorry I ever mentioned 
Stedman’s name to the press. This 
whole wedding thing might not be such 
a big issue if I had never mentioned 
it.... But if I hadn’t, then everybody 
would be asking, ‘Who’s the Mystery 
Man? Is she a lesbian?’ ” 

Oprah didn’t hesitate to shine an 
equally public spotlight on another sig- 
nificant project: her autobiography. Last 
June, she shocked the book world and fu- 
eled the gossip industry by indefinitely 
postponing the publication of her highly 
anticipated life story. Winfrey’s publish- 
er was red-faced, and punsters dubbed 
the book Noprah, but the author stood 
firm. “I’m in the heart of the learning 
curve. I feel there are important discover- 
ics yet to be made,” she said in her vague 
official statement. Meanwhile, her 
spokesman said Oprah “felt [the book] 
was premature,” since she was hoping to 
include chapters about her marriage and 
her ongoing weight loss. Many insiders 
speculated that it was Stedman who put 
the brakes on the book, upset at revela- 
tuuons about Oprah’s sexual history and 
the inevitable questions that would fol- 
low on her promotional tour. Clearly, 
we'll never know, but just as clearly, 
Oprah has learned this: Some things are 
just too personal to share with the 
world—and that’s okay. 


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LESSON #5: YOU CAN’T DO IT 
ALL YOURSELF “=. 
This new, to-hell-with-what-t 
thinks attitude squares perfec 
Oprah’s new age. At forty, says 
Friedan, founder of the Natio 
nization for Women and author 
Fountain of Age (Simon & Sek 
1993), “You’re going to beco 
and more yourself; yowre going ft 
less what other people think. ... 
going to be free to take new ris] 
you would have been afraid to te 
lier, and you will be open to su 
new experiences and possibilit 
Oprah herself has said, “I made 
timate decision.” She might as 
have added, “As an almost-fortys 
old woman, I’m not afraid to mak 
popular choices.” 
She prays a lot, she admits re 
And she accepts her mission 6 
earth—which may well be that of 
ca’s compassionate TV confessor, 
times, she thinks, “I have a sé 
greatness which comes from fee 
I’m doing what I’m supposed to b 
on the planet—empowering peor 
pecially women.” Other times, she’s 
“Tam a woman in progress. I’m jt 
ing, like everyone else. I try to tak 
conflict, every experience, ané 
from it. All I know is that I can’t] 
body else. And it’s taken me a lon 
to realize that.” At forty, Opra 
have finally learned to like being 
Which is, after all, the greatest g 
can give oneself on a milestone b 
like this one. 


LESSON #6: IT’S GREAT TO TURN 
FORTY TODAY 

Oprah knows what millions 0 
American women are learni 
day: Reaching a milestone like t 
forty can be a terrific energiz 
“The Most Significant Birthd 
page 99). And at no time has th 
more true than today. “For mos 
en, the second halves of their 
infinitely richer, more creati 
more enjoyable,” says Jo-Ann K 
M.A., co-author of Singing at 
Our Lungs: Women, Love, and ( 
(HarperCollins, 1993). Adds_ 
Schwartz, Ph.D., a professor of § 
gy at the University of Washing 
Seattle, “There are extraordinary 
ences between forty years old ni 
forty twenty or thirty years ago. 
forty-year-old woman’s whole 


looked terminally grown-up.” 
longer true—partly because won 
so many more choices in their liv 
partly because, thanks to th 
boom, it seems as if everybody 
turning forty, too. And with Opri 
ing the way, who could ask for ¢ 
role model? 


. significant birthday? 


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{of Medicine and author of Flying Solo (Norton, 1994). 

, today, largely because of the women’s movement, women 
nore choices. They’ve become used to dealing with the 
,e world, adept at balancing career and family. And because 
. baby boom, being forty no longer means being “old.” In- 
i wherever we look we see strong, healthy forty-year-olds. 
-e running marathons, running companies and—much 





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ere’s no denying that some realities of our fortieth birth- 
«main much the same. As women turn forty they begin to 
ye loud tick of their biological clock. One out of twelve 
») has already experienced menopause. For the rest, con- 
i, although possible, becomes less likely. 
e closing of the option of childbearing is what causes 
-1 to do this kind of review and say, ‘What do I really want? 
the best way to live the rest of my life?’ ” says Anderson. 
en talk about forty being the time when they begin to be 
into a different self.” 
_ nen who have devoted their early adult life to family and 
aships often turn outward, returning to school or throw- 
emselves fully into a career. Others, says Constance 
18, Ph.D., a psychologist and professor of sociology at the 
‘sity of Southern California, in Los Angeles, see their ear- 
ies as “a last call for familying.” Some women suddenly 
o marry a longtime suitor, others choose adoption or arti- 
nsemination, and others come to terms with the fact that 
| never have children of their own. 
, tty raises the half of the equation you suppressed,” says 
»a Krestan, M.A., co-author of Singing at the Top of Our 
| Women, Love, and Creativity (HarperCollins, 1993). 
e going to look at it and you’re going to reassess it. You 
| yt make a different choice, but it’s a taking-stock time.” 


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) “ING YOURSELF 
| 0 a time of acknowledging—and learning to like—who 
» ally are. Now, as she faces forty, Oprah says that for the 
me she’s not afraid to be herself. “I am finally ready to let 
» ight go. Not the pounds. But the weight of my life,” she 
| reporter last fall. Says Naomi Wolf, author of The Beauty 
| Anchor, 1992) and Fire with Fire (Random House, 1993), 
ly, part of what comes with maturity is self-acceptance, 
) aradoxically, when we accept ourselves, we take better care 
| bodies.” 
2ourse, Most women aren’t particularly pleased with the 
. al changes that signal approaching midlife. “The body be- 
|) change in the early forties,” says Cathleen Rountree, au- 
if Coming into Our Fullness: On Women Turning Forty 
sing Press, 1991). Looking in the mirror—through their 
| ifocals—women suddenly glimpse a strand of gray hair, a 
) inkles. Its a shock, but not necessarily an unpleasant one. 
‘ you’ve got other sources of feeling vital and powerful and 
( ting and compelling in your life, you are not so dependent 
ing to be an earlier self that you’ve outgrown,” says Wolf, 
i future, she suggests, women “will be finding more and 
» ways to love the years that make them strong and therefore 
eautiful.” 
 § certainly seems to be true of Oprah. She appears more 
ent than ever before. As for her birthday and the birth- 
f all forty-year-olds. .. Well, perhaps Jenijoy La Belle, 
| professor of literature at California Institute of Technolo- 
* Pasadena, and author of Herself Beheld: The Literature of the 
» g Glass (Corneil University Press, 1988), best sums it up: 
‘hat if the candles cost more than the cake?” she asks. “Ev- 
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in the news 


39 CNN NEWSLINE REPORT 

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stories. This month: better shades; healthy reading; accent on 
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*118 WHERE ARE OUR CHILDREN? 
‘Thousands of children are kidnapped in this country every year. A 
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personalities 


~42 WHAT'S HOT 
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» $2 TOM SELLECK TODAY 

' A few years ago, no one was bigger than the man 

/ behind Magnum, P./. But then his career hit a snag— 
so where is he now? Find out. By Susan Price 


-116 REBA: THE TRUTH ABOUT THE RED ZINGER 

A revealing talk with the reigning queen of country 
x ae music. Sure, she’s sweet—but she’s also smart, 
sassy and strong. By Linda Sanders 


body and mind 


-62 NOT TONIGHT, DEAR 
It's a familiar story: One of you is always asking; the other is 
always saying no. What happens when couples crave different 
amounts of sex? By Dr. Patricia Love and Jo Robinson 


70 MEDINEWS 
Contact-lens trouble and menstruation; a cancer drug that may 
help the heart; and more. 


72 IN SEARCH OF LIFE 
~One woman's diary of her fight against breast cancer and her 
search for alternative cures. By Juliet Wittman 


80 THE NO-WILLPOWER DIET 
What does it take to diet successfully? It's not what you think. 
By Lynn Harris 


86 THE EXHAUSTED WOMAN 
We're frantic, frazzled—and fed up. Read these simple ways to boost 
your energy. By Mary C. Hickey 


120 WHAT EVER HAPPENED TO BEDSIDE LAUREN 
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94 UNPLUGGED! 

The TV was beginning to rule their lives—and her 
kids were becoming fresh and sarcastic. So she 
went to the source . . . and turned it off. 

By Mary Mohler 


110 ACCEPTANCE: THE GREATEST GIFT 
The best way to boost your child’s self-esteem? 
Acknowledge negative traits—but focus on the 
positive. By Stanley Turecki, M.D., with Sarah 
Wernick, Ph.D. 


style 


31 BEAUTY AND FASHION JOURNAL 
Skin-awareness month; makeover magic; snag- 
proof pantyhose; and more. 


122 THE NEW AMERICAN HOME 1994 

Come with us on a tour of this year’s showcase 
home for a look at '94’s most important decorating 
trends. By Leslie Lampert 


126 ROLE MODEL 
Lauren Hutton shares her secrets for looking 
gorgeous all-the time. By Lois Joy Johnson 


132 A PERFECT 10? 
Does trying on clothes get you down? It’s not you; 
it's the clothes. How to get a perfect fit every time. 


‘food 


139 FOOD JOURNAL 
What's cooking in March. 


140 PASTA WORTH 


Baked pasta takes a little 
longer—but, mamma mia, 
wait till'you taste it. 

By Jan Turner Hazard 


146 THE NEW WAY TO EAT 
How hard is it to eat from the 
pyramid, the USDA's dietary 
guidelines? Learn how one 
family adapted to the new 
nutrition. 


Cover photo, Jonathan Exley/Gamma-Liaison; hair, 
Sandra Spika; stylist, Jeanine Lynch; blouse, Equip- 
ment; vest, Country Road Australia; jewelry, Dower 
and Hall at Topper and Lowell. Photos this page, from 
top: Ellen Silverman, Terry O'Neill/Sygma 





CAN YOU 
BEAT 
THIS? 
PAGE 174 


158 THE 
BREAKFAST 
BOOK 

A wake-up call with 
recipes from the 
country's top 
restaurants and 
spas. 





174 THE GREAT CHOCOLATE CAKE CHALLENGE 
We say this is the best chocolate layer cake ever 
Think you can do better? Fire up your oven and 
enter our contest 


178 THE LATEST DISH 
Roasted garlic; fast-food chicken; and more 


181 INSIDE THE JOURNAL KITCHEN/ 
LHJ RECIPE INDEX 


regular features 
14 EDITOR’S JOURNAL 


18 CAN THIS MARRIAGE BE SAVED? 
“| love my kids more than | love my husband” 
By Margery D. Rosen 


24 A WOMAN TODAY 
“The language of love” By Terry Mayo Sullivan, as 
told to Tracy Cabot 


57 WOMAN TO WOMAN 
“Terror in the want ads’ 


198 BACKTALK 
Report on bad bosses. 


200 LAST LOOK 
All about Oscar. 


EMINENT 
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EDITOR’S JOURNAL 








In the 
KITCHEN 


e think the food pages in Ladies’ Home Journal are 

very special, and we know that our readers agree 

Our food department constantly hears from readers 

who compliment us on our recipes, ask for a copy of a 

much-loved recipe they've mislaid, have a suggestion 
for a food feature. What's more, our peers are pretty impressed 
by our food coverage. Recently, the Newspaper Food Editors and 
Writers Association gave us an award for our outstanding 
pages. We were the only women’s magazine to be so honored 

Because we have so much expertise about cooking and 
nutrition (and because we know that readers today want even 
more information about food), we've just introduced the ladies’ 
Home Journal Cooks Club of America. This innovative program 
tips and 
techniques with a special 
but elegant signature 
recipe series that good 
cooks will adore. The 
Club also will give you 
the opportunity to swap 
recipes, ideas and 
resources with other 
members who really 
enjoy cooking. To find 
out how you can become 
a Cooks Club member 
call 800-243-0001 
Food Editor Jan 


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ter chock-full of news, trends, 








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Cooks Club staff: (standing, 
from left) Margaret Danbrot, 
Margot Abel, Jan Hazard, 
Susan Westmoreland; 
(seated, from left) Kathy editor of the Cooks Club 


Kaliban, Lisa Brainerd =‘), the Kitchen’ 

has been in our food department for almost 

Jan says, “ladies’ Home Journal's food staff 
the latest and most interesting food news to our 


t, doable, tripletested recipes. We're 


newsletter, 
eighteen years 
to bring 
readers, along with grea 
driven to do our best by smart, informed readers who expect 
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Strives 


ae quality from us.” 

We have introduced two innovations on the Journal's food 
pages: Each recipe is now presented in easy-tofollow numbered 
steps, and we also tell you for how long our recipes can be 
frozen after cooking. We started giving that added informatio 
after a suggestion from a reader 

But now you'll have to excuse me, because it's time for a tasting 


You see, around here we don’t just write about food 


Myua Blyth 


1A LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL \JARCH 1004 


in the kitchen 


MYRNA BLYTH 
Editor-in-Chief & Publishing Director 











Jeffrey Saks Art Director 
Mary Mohler Managing Editor 
Lois Joy Johnson Beauty & Fashion Director Jan Turner Hazard Foo 
Jane Farrell Articles and Fiction Editor Linda Fears Senior Editor 
ARTICLES 
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Margery D. Rosen family and child-care editor 
Mary C. Hickey senior editor 
Shana Aborn associate editor Melanie Berger associate editor 
Karyn Dabaghian assistant editor Katherine Lee researcher 
Christine Urgola 
BEAUTY AND FASHION 
Nicole Taub associate editor 
Gwen Flamberg assistant editor 
FOOD 
Susan Sarao Westmoreland associate editor 
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LIFESTYLE 
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He was abusive to 
my mother, not to us kids, but 
there we were, always anxious 
about how he would be when he 
came home. He could be very loud 
and very mean; 


his explosive rages. He ultimately 


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By Margery D. Rosen 


lost his business and never recov- 
ered from the shock. 

“Nat and I lived near my folks 
when we first married, but after 
our third child, 
house about an hour away, in a 
nice community with a lot of other 
young couples. I devoted myself to 
my family. We have eight biologi- 
cal kids and four adopted. I know, 
I know—everyone wonders how I 
manage. What can I say? I| started 
having kids when I was very 
young. I’ve always had tremendous 
energy; I don’t need a lot of sleep. 

“After the eighth child, I decided 
not to have any more. But I was 
only thirty-nine, and | didn’t know 
what to do with the rest of my life. I 
sat down to think about it, and when 
I wrote down all of my strengths 
and weaknesses I realized that, more 
than anything, I love—and am very 
good at—being a mother. 


we moved to a 


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“So, when I read in the newspa 
per about the need for homes for 
children that nobody wanted, ] 
spoke with Nat, then with our chil 
dren. They were all in favor of 
adopting another child. We spoke 
to the social-services people, and 
were parents of six 
month-old Christine. In the nex 
few years, we added three more 
kids to our family: Linda, fifteen; 
Nat Jr., eleven, and John, who’ 
seven, still live with us. We adopt 
ed John when he was just a few 
months old; the authorities think 
he may have been abused by 
birth mother. 

“We both adore John, but he 
demanded more of my attent 
than all the other kids combin 
One problem we’re struggling 
now is that he insists on staying ii 
our bedroom at night. He sleeps 
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between a dresser and my side of the bed. 
We've tried endlessly to get him to move 
to his own bed, and he’s been seeing a 
counselor, but sleeping alone is a fright- 
ening experience for him. He and Nat 
are actually very close, but Nat thinks 
I’m too indulgent with him and says I 
should demand that he leave the room. 
How can I do that? The child is scared. 

“T was always active in the communi- 
ty and at school—I was a Cub Scout 
leader for about twelve years, and 
coached the basketball and soccer teams 
as well as the cheerleading squad; I 
can’t even remember what else. Now I 
also volunteer at a soup kitchen. 

“Tt hasn’t always been a Hallmark- 
card kind of life, though. We’ve had our 
share of difficult times. A few years ago, 
one of our daughters had cancer—a 
rare form of lymphoma—and it’s a mir- 
acle she’s alive. In spite of the 
chemotherapy treatments, she was able 
to have a baby last year. One of our 
sons was in a bad hiking accident. Part 
of his leg was severed and he walks with 
a limp, but he can do pretty much ev- 
erything he did before. 


all agreed that getting the apartment 
sounded like a good idea. But now Nat 
spends the whole week in the city and 
comes home only on weekends. 

“By the weekend, so much has hap- 
pened it’s hard for him to catch up. I 
know it’s not fair of me, but I’m tured. 
Sometimes, I just don’t want to take the 
time to explain things, to go through it 
all. He complains he feels closed out, 
that he’s the last on my list of people to 
pay attention to. What does he expect? 
He’s a grown man. He can’t always be 
number one. 

“T have to say, sometimes I really re- 
sent his comments. When he comes 
home and says, ‘How could you let Nat 
Jr. do that?’ or ‘Why did you give that to 
Marie?’ my back goes up. I tell him, 
‘Look, you’re not here. When you’re 
away, I make the decisions.’ I’ve been 
handling everything and everybody for so 
long, who is he to criticize me? What else 
could I do? I had to make a life for myself. 

“He wants to fight, but I’m not going 
to argue. He screams and yells so, some- 
times I think he’s going to burst. What 
can I possibly say to this man? 

“What makes him the most upset? 
Money. He’s always yelling at me for 
keeping terrible records. He says he 


“Am I number one in her 
life?” asked Nat. “Are vou 


e/ 


kidding? Pm number 
seventeen!” 


“What got us through? Faith, I sup- 
pose. For me, I could always cry and talk 
things through with others. It has always 
been much harder on Nat. He thinks it’s 
a sign of weakness to show emotion— 
with the exception of anger, that ts. 

“T really can’t say when the problems 
started. Over the years, I just got more 
and more engrossed in the children, and 
we slipped further apart. Nat 1s a worka- 
holic; he isn’t home all that much. 

“T should explain about his apartment 
in the city. We live about a two-hour 
drive from Nat’s office. He is a vice 
president of a large metallurgy compa- 
ny. When our oldest son decided to live 
in the city, he asked Nat if he wanted to 
split the rent with him. The idea was 
that Nat could stay there one or two 
nights a week to break up the long com- 
mute, or if he had to entertain clients 
late at night and didn’t want to face the 
long ride home. So we discussed it and 


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can’t understand how we can still be in 
debt, when he works so hard. I don’t 
think Nat has any idea what it costs to 
run a home. And if our children need 
money, even though they’re on their own 
now, I want to give them a hand. I don’t 
think that’s a terrible thing to do, do you? 

“So either he’s screaming at me or 
there’s silence. We never talk anymore. I 
go about my business; he goes about 
his. We’ve grown apart. 

“T guess I’m angry. I still care about 
him, but I’m not in love with him any- 
more—not like I used to be. 

“And I know the kids are worried. 
They hear Nat yelling, and they ask 
questions like ‘Are you and Daddy go- 
ing to get divorced?’ We can’t go on like 
this. We have to resolve things one way 
or another.” 


NAT’S TURN “Number one? Are you 
kidding?” yelled Nat, fifty, a large man 


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with a booming voice. “Nun 
teen is more like it. i 
“She’s right. I am angry 
good, loving woman, but she 
room for anyone but the ki 
stranger in my own home. Just 
work long hours doesn’t mea 
care about my family and don’t 
know what they’re up to. I as 
what’s happening, and she te 
‘Oh, nothing.’ I ask why she 
thing, and she either gives me @ 
look or gets mad at me. I’m not 
gating her. I’m the father, remem 
“You know, when we got ma 
was a different era. We both con 
large Catholic families—I was t 
est, like Joan—and having lots 
was no big deal. 7 
“But Joan and I are oppo 
very outspoken and outgoing. 
I think and don’t like to hold 
Joan is quiet and keeps her fee 
wraps. She’s always positive, 
anything bad about anybody. I th 
realistic; she thinks I’m negative. 
“The problem is, I can’t talk t 
I get the slightest bit agitated, 
up. I believe that if you have a 
you discuss it. She won’t. 
“I feel like a money machine, 
father or a husband. I make a 
ing, but there is never, ever 
Joan is spending it faster th 
make it. I don’t know where i 
and when I try to get her to kee 
she either forgets or delibe 
ceives me. Sure, she told m 
giving our married daughter som 
ey. I figured fifty, sixty dollars, 1 
was six hundred dollars! Did she 
wasn’t going to find out? Sh 
our credit rating all messed up 
she’s put off paying bills. 
“Look, I know she doesn’t 
money on herself; she spends 1 
the kids—but it’s gotten so out 
it makes me crazy. I think I have 
to be upset about that and 
how permissive she is with 
This has been going on for y 
never says no. They’re basical 
kids, but she never asks any of 
do anything around the hous 
shouldn’t be their servant. 
“This apartment business 
blown way out of proportion. 
having a little place to stay in 
would ease the stress because I 
have to go back and forth. It’s g 
the point now that the apart 
other source of tension. She’ 
ing: I do not spend the whe 
there. I have never stayed the 
than two nights a week at the m 
“But even at home we 
time together. We have ab: 
privacy. Joan leaves the bi 
wide open. All the time. 
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Can this marriage be saved? you can keep your sense of humor, 
you'll be okay.’ In fact, as a prelude to 
their sessions, they started to drive to 
probably closer to John thanI am to any — that same duck pond purposely, just to 
of them, but I'll be damned if I want _ sit and chat before they came to see me. 
him sleeping on my bedroom floor. “Over the next few months, this cou- 

“What can I say? I have a wife and ple were able to understand and know 
twelve kids, and I’m lonely. I feel like I each other in a way that had eluded 
don’t have a friend in the world. Joan is them for almost thirty years. 


continued 


a wonderful mother, but once in a while “Joan had lost sight of the importance 

a it would be nice to have her say I love of putting her marriage first. I told her 
you. If she can do it for the kids, why _ forcefully: ‘Your marriage must always 

| not for me?” be your number-one priority. It is the 
best gift you can give your children, too.’ 


THE COUNSELOR’S TURN “This cou- Joan was genuinely puzzled to hear Nat 
ple were so alienated from each other _ say he didn’t feel loved. Even though she 
til that our initial counseling sessions was not overtly affectionate, she was sure 
] served as a sounding board as well as a that he knew: ‘I’ve always taken such 
| vehicle to help them break the commu- wonderful care of him; I keep the house 
nication barrier,” said the counselor. clean and launder his clothes. I plan the 
“The marriage had been rocky for the meals around foods he loves. That’s an 
last five years but had deteriorated expression of love, isn’t it?’ 
rapidly in the last two. Though they “T told Joan that, yes, it is, but that it 
shared a home, Joan and Nat were able wasn’t what her husband wanted. ‘You 
to talk to each other only in my office, need to say I love you outright, to give 


j where I could act as referee. him a hug, to become more fully in- 
“As the oldest of five children of an volved in lovemaking.’ Joan listened and 
alcoholic father and a passive mother, said she understood, but for some rea- 

Joan had stepped into the role of family | son resisted making the changes. 


caretaker early on. A surrogate mother “That’s when another breakthrough 
to her siblings, she continued to nurture 


everyone after she had married. SKILL BUILDER 


“However, having endured her father’s 


abusive rages, Joan was terrified of con- The blame game 





frontauion. In a marriage, she avoided Blaming enehieiher ted brought i 
arguing at all costs and would gladly sup- : / 

press her own feelings if it meant avoiding couple's relationship to a dead 
a fight. Joan is one of those rare women end. Joan blamed Nat for being 
: who sincerely loves being a mother; she hostile and angry; Nat blamed her 
| sees this as her purpose in life and is not for being cold and unaffectionate. 


| | sae clei tt alsa Each was right—but their relation- 
Nat is a hail-fellow-well-met kind of 


guy: gregarious and hearty, in sharp | Ship was wrong. Righteous blaming 
: contrast to his demure wife. If he has makes for a dead-end relationship. 
} something on his mind, he’s not afraid Instead, have the courage to look at 
\ to say it. He is also an openly affection- 

ate man—again, in stark contrast to his 
shy, restrained wife. However, he had 


your end of what's going wrong: 
1. Think of an issue that’s causing 





an explosive temper that terrified Joan; | PQ! !N your relationship. 
it reminded her of her father. 2. In three sentences, write down 
| “When they came to see me, Nat and your position on that issue. 
Joan each insisted they were right and 3. Pretend to be your partner and 
refused to see the other’s point of view. 4. ao pote al nee ecicte hat 
| While it was a positive sign that they wee ne or she sees that is 
continued to come week after week and sue. Be fair 
talk about their situation, we were at an 4. Now, ask y rself: VWWhat would 
| impasse until the fifth session. have to change inside me for me to 
“Here’s what happened: Even though see the issue fom 1 partner s point 
they lived in the next town, Nat kept Dif as r BN le ate ca tae ae 
| getting lost every time he drove to my |°% “IEW ME these changes ones | 
. office. One evening, :fter riding around § | G7 COM! ottable with? If so why am 
1| | in circles for the better part of an hour |! not making them? It not, why are 
| because of yet another of his ‘shortcuts,’ | they difficult for mee 
i they ended up by the town duck pond. | \\/a break out of the blamina im- 
iiii They both burst out laughing. That | __ ei pears ae 
Pi broke the ice. As Joan revealed, ‘I real- | POS WIEN We give Up neeaing to 
‘ ized we had stopped laughing. It struck | ©€ "ight, take responsibility for our 
| me then that if you know someone for own behavior and make healing 
such a long time, plenty changes. You the relationship the main priority 





get old, you get fat, you get bald—but if 


 RAATOSCTLI «AMMA 


occurred: During one of their ta 
the duck pond, Joan reminded Na 
after their eighth natural child, sh 
been very upset that he had refus 
have a vasectomy. ‘I think I have r 
ed you—unconsciously, maybe—a 
time because of that. I had asked y 
take some responsibility for birth 
trol, and the fact that you wouldr 
that for me hurt.’ Clearly, for 
years, Joan had avoided and repr 
her hostile feelings. Recognizin; 
was the first step in beginning to cl 
their relationship. 

“During another session, Nat | 
in touching terms about how mec 
cal his life was. Rather than compl 
attack, he revealed his sadness ar 
loneliness. This confession had a 
impact on Joan; she realized for th 
ume that he was hurting as much « 
was. Many couples have this proble 

“At the beginning of our next se 
Nat burst into the room, beaming 
did it all,’ he exulted. ‘She close 
door, she got out a sexy nightgowr 
we had sex—twice.’ 

“That was a courageous step for 
the first of many. In the follo 
weeks, she did, indeed, issue a rul 
from now on, the bedroom doo: 
close at nine P.M. After that time, 1 
it is a true emergency, the children 
to respect their parents’ privacy. 
have understood and accepted this 
much less difficulty than anticip 
For the first week, John slept o: 
floor outside their room. ‘Now 
sharing a room with Nat Jr., and 
are fine about that,’ Joan reported. 

“Nat appreciates how difficult « 
lishing this rule, and making all the 
er changes, has been for Joan. H 
committed himself to controllin 
temper. Now that Joan has put. 
marriage high on her list of prio: 
now that she lets him know he is | 
he doesn’t get as angry as he us 
Joan also has worked hard to stick ! 
budget and refrain from using ¢ 
cards. When the family finances ai 
der control, Nat feels much mo} 
laxed. He is thinking, though, ¢ 
switching jobs: ‘It’s not going to bi 
at my age, but I want a life that’ 
demanding, less stressful. I love 
with my wife.’ 

“Joan will never change her p¢ 
sive attitude toward her children, t 
Nat said in one of our last ses! 
‘Some battles you have to stop figt 
Indeed, they are both so much m¢ 
tuned to each other in so many 
that this complaint has dramatical 
creased in importance. 

“ “You could say that now I’m n 
four,’ Nat said. ‘That’s progress!’ ” 
















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The language 


of love 


by 
made the small sound I 
was still able to utter, 
and my husband, Kerry, 
reluctantly turned the 
next page of the book I[ 
was reading: Final Exit, the 
controversial text on suicide. 
Longing for a way out of my 
hopeless life, I had asked him 
to buy the book for me. As we 
came to the chapter on taking 
pills, I looked up at Kerry 
pleadingly. He adamantly 
shook his head “no.” 

Then I came to a grim real- 
ization: Without Kerry’s help, 
I couldn’t even kill myself. My 
hands wouldn’t hold a gun or 
a razor blade, and my tongue 
wasn’t strong enough to swal- 
low pills. It was grotesquely 
ironic: The very disease that 
was keeping me 
from living life 


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After a cruel disease robbed me of 
































winning newswriter and produe 
Throughout our then-eighteen=y 
marriage, our hectic lives in theR 
dia had sparked personal batt 
over priorities, and we had separ 
ed for a year. During that‘ 
apart, we realized how much 
still loved and needed each oth 
Now we were back together and] 
ing a second honeymoon, @ 
I wasn’t going to let a lif 
hand problem get in the way 

I did go to an acupunctum 
and a couple of chiropracte 
‘all of whom said my 
‘would get better. Yet, by] 
time we went on a skung 1 
in the winter of 1987 
couldn’t get dressed with 
assistance, and my ener 
once boundless, was lag: 
Alarmed, Kerry and I agree 
needed another physical. — 

I'll never forget the fleet 
panicky look that crossed] 
doctor’s face as he examin 
my hand. Composing 
he said, “I can’t help y 
You'd better see a neurolo 
right away.” Though there 
no specific tests for ALS; 
neurologist also recogni; 
the conditi 
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janwry 1992, live. My husband gave it back to me toned “iiss 


and I had not ex- 
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birthday, which would be in a few 
days. Five years earlier, I had been 
diagnosed with a progressive and 
incurable illness: amyotrophic later- 
al sclerosis (ALS), also known as 
Lou Gehrig’s disease. This condi- 
tion kills the motor nerves, render- 
ing one’s entire body helpless, yet 
leaves the mind healthy and sharp. 
My first symptoms appeared in 
1985, when my right wrist felt weak 


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figured it would get better with rest, 
but within a year, I couldn’t even 
button a blouse or hold a pen with 
that hand. Even so, I was too busy 
to worry much about it. I had been 
a TV anchorwoman in Los Ange- 
les, and now I was behind the cam- 
eras, running my own video 
production company. 

‘This was also an especially happy 


time for me and Kerry, an Emmy- 


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help me, he didn’t want to séé 
again. I could have killed him. ~ 

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A woman today 


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of anything before, but I was terrified of 
the future and the possibility of being 
totally paralyzed. When Kerry and I 
couldn’t deny the facts any longer, we 
became angry at fate—and sometimes at 
each other—but we loved each other too 
much to let my illness divide us. 

Astoundingly, the one thing my doc- 
tors never made clear to us was that ALS 
is fatal. We discovered this fact by acci- 
dent one day as Kerry read aloud from a 
medical journal that mentioned ALS: 
The phrase “fatal disease” jumped out at 
us. I was horrified, and Kerry was furi- 
ous. How could the specialists have ne- 
glected to tell us that I was going to die? 

e did our own research now, wanting 
to know everything. We learned that, con- 
trary to popular belief, recent studies 
show that ALS is as likely to occur in 
women as it is in men; it can be heredi- 
tary, but most often is not (there is no his- 
tory of it in my family). The average ume 
from diagnosis to death is two to five 
years, but many patients live much longer 
than that; Stephen Hawking, the brilliant 
physicist and author, has lived with ALS 
for thirty years. After some debate, Kerry 
and I decided to tell Chris, our twenty- 
three-year-old son from my first marniage, 
about the severity of my condition. He lis- 
tened carefully, but I don’t think he was 
ready to believe it at that point. 

I was determined to go on with my 
life as long as I could, but by 1989, my 
symptoms had worsened. Barely able to 
run my company, I hired an assistant to 
take notes because I couldn’t write with 
either hand. Walking up and down stairs 
was becoming very difficult, and when I 
spoke, I was never sure what would 
come out. I told everyone but my closest 
friends that my slurred speech was a 
side effect of a medication I was taking. 

But it was a happy year for us, too. In 
February, we attended Chris’s wedding. 
I was worried that I would embarrass 
my son on his special day by laughing or 
crying uncontrollably—a peculiar side 
effect of ALS—but I somehow managed 
to keep the outbursts contained. 

That summer, I finished my last docu- 
mentary, which was a much more difficult 
experience. By now, the enure crew knew 
about my problem, and everyone was 
very sympathetic and helpful. Sull, I was 
relieved when it was all over. Then in late 
September, Kerry and I took a wonder- 
fully romantic trip to Rome, Florence and 
Venice. We resolved that this would be a 
great vacation, even if it was our last. 

After we returned to California, how- 
ever, I had nothing else to look forward 
to. As my health worsened, so did my 
attitude. I became a prisoner in my own 
home, confined to a wheelchair I 
couldn’t push; our second-floor condo- 


minium has no elevator, so I had to be 
carried up and down the stairs. ALS 
moves relentlessly and mercilessly: A 
muscle may work okay one minute, not 
at all the next. Kerry says, “It’s like 
watching someone being buried alive, 
one grain of sand at a time.” 

Kerry took a second job to make up 
for the lost income, but quit it after he 
came home late one night and found me 
lying on the floor, where I’d fallen hours 
before. My mother looked after me on 
weekdays until it became clear that I 
needed full-time professional caretakers. 
Once a comfortable two-income family, 
we now had to scramble to pay bills be- 
cause Kerry’s insurance didn’t include 
unlimited catastrophic illness coverage. 
We raided our savings (even our IRAs) 
and borrowed from family and friends. 

My body continued to betray me. As I 
lost the muscles in my tongue, my speech 
deteriorated to grunts. We set up a com- 
puter so I could type with my thumbs, 
but soon I couldn’t move even those. 

It was another cruel irony: I had de- 
voted my professional life to the busi- 
ness of communication, yet I couldn’t 
make my simplest desire known. The 
ability to communicate had also been 
one of Kerry’s and my greatest strengths 
as spouses and best friends. Now he had 
to guess the meaning of every grunt— 
did I want the TV channel changed, to 
go to the bathroom, have my nose 
scratched? I became even more angry 
and frustrated. 

We resorted to using an alphabet 
board; Kerry would point to each letter, 
and I’d nod when he reached the right 


‘But I was totally despondent. 




































one. It was a laborious pro 
didn’t know what else to 
their good works and resear 
the ALS Association nor the 
Dystrophy Association knew o 
access to any communication 
that would help me. There are 
made systems that use comp 
generate electronic speech—suc] 
one Stephen Hawking has—b 
was no way we could afford o 

By January 1992, all hope 
me. I was tured of fighting and 
to die. For three weeks str 
spelled out Final Exit until Ker 
relented and bought the book. 

My husband was deeply depre 
uring that if I was giving up, 
wouldn’t live much longer. 
with me, saying I had to live for ¢ 
ly’s sake, and he reminded me thi 
my goals was to help others wi 


make my thoughts and wishes 
what was the point of existing any 

Then, not long after the 
redd the book, Kerry had a 
spiration: He called IBM, whick 
referred him to the Center for 
Rehabilitation Technology (C! 
Rancho Los Amigos Hosp 
Downey, California. CART, w 
a computer department, pr 
cial equipment for the disabl 
they had something I could use 

We spent a day meeting with) 
technicians and therapists, 
which of my atrophied mus 
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ALS: The loss of control 


Approximately 30,000 people in the U.S. suffer from amyotrophig 
which occurs when motor nerve cells in the nerveus 
stop functioning and die. The result is a loss of muscle control thatp 
to the point where chewing and swallowing become difficultcaus 
ing and swallowing problems that can result in pneumonia—and Th 
ing muscles become paralyzed. Because ALS affects only motor 


The two known types of ALS include sporadic, which is the most cc 
and familial, which is hereditary and was linked recently to a defect 
in a particular chromosome. Although only 5 to 
suffer from the familial type, both forms have the same symptoms, 
and prognosis, and men and women as about the same risk of de 
the disease, usually between the ages of forty and seventy. 

While ALS may progress very slowly, it is ultimately a fatal disease. 
expectancy is two to five years, but half of all patients live three or 
after diagnosis. Because there is no known cure for ALS, treatment iste 
relieving its symptoms. Since April 1993, ongoing studies have been 
ed on drugs scientists hope will slow the progression of the diseases 

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keyboards. They also showed us a spe- 
cial computer program that converts 
Morse code into words on the screen. 
Since my neck muscles were the 
strongest, I could theoretically input the 
code with small movements of my head: 
one way for dots, the other for dashes. 

There was one catch: CART had 
hand- and foot-operated electronic 
switches for this computer program 
and switches I could operate with my 
cheeks—yet they had nothing immedi- 
ately available on which the devices 
could be attached close enough to my 
head. We needed a stand of some sort. 
The thought of being able to communi- 
cate again was exhilarating, but I re- 
fused to raise my hopes until it became 
a reality. 

Kerry, certain he could find an an- 
ordered the Morse software and 
the special switches. But it was a tough 
challenge finding a stand for them. 
Medical-supply had 
wheelchair parts, but they were expen- 
sive and not the right shape. Then Ker- 
ry s idea came out of nowhere: Why 
couldn’t we use a microphone stand and 
equipment? These parts were readily 
available, cheap, sturdy and flexible. 
Best of all, if the setup worked, we could 


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28 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL 


show other disabled people how to 
make similar stands for their needs. 

Kerry bought a heavy floor stand with 
an adjustable sliding rod. He placed a 
T-shaped bar atop that and connected 
two flexible rods for extension arms. A 
local metal shop attached brackets to 
the arms so the computer switches 
would stay in place. The whole device 
sat on the floor behind me, encircling 
my face, so I could tap the sensors with 
very little effort. We could hardly wait to 
see whether the device would work. 

It did. The first words I typed were “I 
love you!” I was transformed—I could 
talk again! 

We were so thrilled we spent hours 
playing on the computer, saying things I 
had kept bottled up for months. All my 
caretakers were excited at being able to 
understand me. Entering the code letter 
by letter was slower than normal typing, 
but I didn’t care: I had rejoined the world. 

My will to survive returned, as did 
my desire to actively help others with 
ALS. Now I visit and talk to patients as 
often as I can. I can’t use my Morse 
program outside the house because it’s 
connected to a home PC, but Kerry 
thinks he’ll soon be able to hook it up to 
a laptop computer. In the meantime, I 
use an alphabet board when I’m away. 

Other disabled persons who have 
seen my device have begun asking Kerry 


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to design similar aids for them, | 
ready made a machine for 
can move only his feet, and 
ing two others with special ne 
call him “the miracle worker.” ~ 
Now, rather than being boune 
spair, I look forward to living € 
sharing laughter and joy with n 
band, family, friends and wor 
caretakers. That’s not to say i 
easy: Fighting ALS is fusca 9 
breaking and time-consum 
gets me up in the mornings 
goes to work; at night, he n 
every two hours so my mus 
cramp. It takes about an hour to 
foods and liquid supplements, be 
can’t chew or move my tong 
muscles are in constant discom 
cause I can’t move them, so I he 
lar massage sessions, and a G 
exercises my limbs several times 
I keep active by writing my at 
raphy—I manage about a page 
With the help of my massage # 
I’ve also created audiotapes for’ 
takers and family members of] 
with neuromuscular disorders 
Healing From Within, the tapest 
laxation and massage technique 
lieve stress and pain. 
And I am sustained by the h 
a treatment for ALS may be ff 
my lifetime. Just a year ago, res 
identified a gene defect that is I 
the disease, which may lead ont 
finding the cause—and perhaps @ 
To further that cause, Kerr 
have created the Terry Mayo: 
Foundation. With donations, V 
to fund research for ALS and 
some of the cost of my care, whi 
ages about $3,000 a month. TI 
dation also distributes my ta 
sends information about Kerry’s 
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with ALS was not knowing for 
that there were ways to help mé 
can’t help thinking of the thou 
others who are in my situation= 
whose minds are clear and e 
reach out, but whose voices 4 
inside. The medical commu 
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tion. Being human means bei 
communicate. 
I don’t think about suicide an 
My life has meaning again, and] 
live it fully in the time I have rer 
Most of all, I have so many ¥ 
love and thanks to say to my V 
husband, who never gave up ani 
stopped loving me. ¢ 


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be sacrificing your health if you 
skimp and go to the cheap 
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2. Be sure your manicurist’s tools 
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your cuticles. The cuticle is there for 
a reason—to protect your nail. Even 
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MI [ If you haven’t been giving 2. A mole, birthmark or beauty mark’ 

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‘ . check, start now. According thickness, changes in texture, or has af 
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(Accessorize, accessorize 
A key element in spring dressing this year, say designers, is bold, eye-opening 
accessories that complement the soft shapes of the season. Paris designer 
Christian LaCroix is using large, chunky jewelry and pendants, especially hearts 
and crosses that hang from scarves or chokers made of chains. New York’s 
Echo Design Group is working with intricately patterned scarves. And in 
Milan, Laura Moltedo, of Bottega Veneta, is giving her accessories an African 
motif, entwining straw, satin, linen and soft leather into interlocking braids for 
her handbags, belts and shoes. —ELSA KLENSCH, STYLE WITH ELSA KLENSCH 


iHair-trigger 


In these politically correct times, Hollywood is once again under attack—this time, 
on a hairy issue. Self-proclaimed “bald activists” are complaining that too few bald 
leading men grace today’s big and small screens, and that too many entertainers 
hide their baldness under toupees. Richard Sandomir, an “unhaired activist” and 
author of The Joy of Baldness, a recent book criticizing Hollywood's bald bias, has 
charged that bald characters are generally written as "second bananas, best 
friends, boobs and heavies.” It remains to be seen whether Hollywood will listen to 
the demands for a balder tomorrow. —Mark SCH SHOWBIZ TODAY 


‘Shades better 


How can you tell if your sunglasses offer the best protection against 
ultraviolet rays? Since there’s no uniform labeling system, consumers often go 
by the darkness of the lenses or the price of the glasses—neither of which is 
-an accurate indicator. Now, the Food and Drug Administration is finally 
taking steps to ensure that consumers will be properly protected: It’s 
suggesting uniform labeling to reduce confusion, and proposing that 
»manufacturers use lenses that block all but 1 percent of UV-B rays (which 
- can damage the cornea, lens and iris) and at least 50 percent of UV-A rays 
(which can harm the retina). 


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RED-HOT STAR 


efore last fall’s 
television sea- 
son began, the 
name David 
Caruso was lit- 
tle known outside a few 
casting offices in Los An- 
geles and the actor’s small 
circle of friends. A dozen 
episodes of ABC’s NYPD 
Blue later, and C 
doesn’t need a 
name. Just say, “that red- 
headed cop on TV,” and 
almost everyone, espe- 
will know 


aruso 


even 


cially women, 
exactly whom you mean. 
“A lot of people are re- 
sponding with love and ac- 
ceptance to the character,” 
Caruso says of his alter 
ego, Detecuve John Kelly, 
“because they need him. I 
think that’s what makes a 
character happen.” 
Maybe. 
thirty-seven, 


But Caruso, 
probably 


‘Ideally, | aspire to be a man like Kelly. 


has something to do with 
it, TOO. 
Well, 


those nude scenes, the 


okay, there are 
ones that riddled the show 
vith controversy before it 
even went on the air. But 
other than that, you could 
say he’s just another six- 
foot, one-hundred-eighty- 
pound redhead with pale 
blue eyes, a soft nose and 


a stubby chin. What sets 


him apart is the big heart 
you can see pasted to his 
chest—he’s made the art 
of decency sexy. 

But ask Caruso what 
women find so attractive 


about him, and he just 
shrugs. “Ideally, 
to be a man like Kelly,” 
“The man, in 
has tremen- 


I aspire 


he says. 
my opinion, 
dous courage and char- 
acter.” 
has been married and di- 
he has a 
nine-year-old daughter, 
Greta, and currently lives 
with Paris Papiro, a for- 


vorced twice; 


mer masseuse. ) 


42 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL : MARCH 1994 


(Caruso himself 





‘The actor’s own story 
is one of determination to 
no matter what. 
His father, a newspaper 
editor, left the family 
when David was two. His 


succeed, 


man has tremendous character. 


mother returned to 
school and moved the 
family into her parents’ 
house; it was a fiery, en- 
ergetic place. “An Irish- 
Italian Catholic family,’ 
the actor says ruefully. 
“You mix that blood, and 
youre in trouble, man.” 
After graduating from 
high Caruso 
skipped college to pursue 


school, 


acting, and a few years lat- 


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ESTROGENS HAVE BEEN REPORTED TO INCREASE THE RISK OF 
ENDOMETRIAL CARCINOMA. 

Three independent case control studies have reported an 
increased risk of endometrial cancer in postmenopausal women 
exposed to exogenous estrogens for more than 1 year. This risk was 
independent of the other known risk factors for endometrial cancer. 
These studies are further supported by the finding that incidence 
rates of endometrial cancer have increased sharply since 1969 in 
eight different areas of the United States with population-based 
cancer-reporting systems, an increase which may be related to the 
rapidly expanding use of estrogens during the last decade 

The three case control studies reported that the risk of 
endometrial cancer in estrogen users was about 4.5-13.9 times 
greater than in nonusers. The risk appears to depend both on 
duration of treatment and on estrogen dose. In view of these 
findings, when estrogens are used for the treatment of menopausa! 
symptoms, the lowest dose that will control symptoms should b 
utilized and medication should be discontinued as soon as possible 
When prolonged treatment is medically indicated, the patient should 
be reassessed on at least a semiannual basis to determine the need 
for continued therapy. Although the evidence must be considered 
preliminary, one study suggests that cyclic administration of low 
doses of estrogen may carry less risk than continuous 
administration; it therefore appears prudent to utilize such a regimen 

Close clinical surveillance of all women taking estrogens is 
important. In all cases of undiagnosed persistent or recurring 
abnormal vaginal bleeding, adequate diagnostic measures should be 
undertaken to rule out malignancy 

There is no evidence at present that ‘natural’ estrogens are more 
or less hazardous than “synthetic” estrogens at equiestrogenic doses. 
ESTROGENS SHOULD NOT BE USED DURING PREGNANCY. 

The use of female sex hormones, both estrogens and 
progestogens, during early pregnancy may seriously damage the 
offspring. It has been shown that women who had been exposed in 
utero to diethyistilbestrol, a nonsteroidal estrogen, have an increased 
risk of developing in later life a form of vaginal or cervical cancer that 
is ordinarily extremely rare. This risk has been estimated as not 
greater than 4 per 1000 exposures. Furthermore, a high percentage 
of such exposed women (30-90%) have been found to have vaginal 
adenosis, epithelial changes of the vagina and cervix. Although these 
changes are histologically benign, it is not known whether they are 
precursors of malignancy. Although similar data on the use of other 
estrogens are not available, it cannot be presumed they would not 
induce similar changes 

Several reports suggest an association between intrauterine 
exposure to female sex hormones and congenital anomalies, 
including congenital heart defects and limb-reduction defects. One 
case control study estimated a 4.7-fold increased risk of limb- 
reduction defects in infants who had been exposed in utero to sex 
hormones (oral contraceptives, hormone withdrawal tests for 
pregnancy, or attempted treatment for threatened abortion). Some of 
these exposures were very short and involved only a few days of 
treatment. The data suggest that the risk of limb-reduction defects in 
exposed fetuses is somewhat less than 1 per 1000 

In the past, female sex hormones have been used during 
pregnancy in an attempt to treat threatened or habitual abortion 
There is considerable evidence that estrogens are ineffective for 
these indications, and there is no evidence from well-controlled 
studies that progestogens are effective for these uses. 

\f Estraderm 1s used during pregnancy, or if the patient becomes 
pregnant while taking this drug, she should be apprised of the 
potential risks to the fetus and of the advisability of continuation of 








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INDICATIONS AND USAGE 

Estraderm is indicated for the treatment of the following: moderate-to- 
severe vasomotor symptoms associated with menopause; female 
hypogonadism; female castration; primary ovarian failure; atrophic 
conditions caused by deficient endogenous estrogen production, such 
as atrophic vaginitis and kraurosis vulvae; and prevention of 
osteoporosis (loss of bone mass) 

Estrogen replacement therapy is the most effective single modality for 
the prevention of postmenopausal osteoporosis in women. Case- 
controlled studies have shown a reduction of approximately 60% in the 
incidence of hip and wrist fractures in women who began estrogen 
replacement therapy within a few years of menopause. A recent, well- 
controlled, double-blind, prospective trial conducted at the Mayo Clinic 
has demonstrated that treatment with Estraderm prevents bone loss in 
postmenopausal women at a dosage of 0.05 mg per day 

Treatment with Estraderm 0.05 mg showed full maintenance of bone 
density with a slight (0.8%), but not significant, increase. Placebo 
treatment resulted in a significant loss of more than 6% below baseline 
vertebral bone mass. Patients using either Estraderm 0.1 mg, or 0.05 
mg, had significantly greater bone densities than those using placebo 

Other studies suggest thai estrogen replacement therapy reduces the 
rate of vertebral fractures 

Peak bone mass is reached at age 30 to 35 and can best be 
maximized by adequate calcium intake and exercise during the 
adolescent and early adult years. Early menopause is one of the best 
predictors for the development of osteoporosis. White women are at 
higher risk for osteoporosis than white men, black womerrare at higher 
risk than black men, and thin women are at higher risk than obese 
women. Cigarette smoking may be an additional risk factor. Calcium 
deficiency has been implicated in the pathogenesis of this disease 
Therefore, when not contraindicated, a calcium intake of 1000-1500 mg/ 
day either by diet or supplements Is recommended for postmenopausal 
women 

Immobilization and prolonged bedrest produce rapid bone loss, while 
weight-bearing exercise has been shown to both reduce bone loss and 
to increase bone mass. The optimal type and amount of physical activity 
that might lower the risk for osteoporosis have not been established 
CONTRAINDICATIONS 

Patients with known hypersensitivity to any of the components of the 
therapeutic system should not use Estraderm 

Estrogens should not be used in women or men with any of the 
tollowing conditions 





1. known or suspected cancer of the breast ; 

2. known or suspected estrogen-dependent neoplasia: 

3. known or suspected pregnancy (see Boxed Warning); 

4. undiagnosed abnormal genital bleeding; 

5. active thrombophlebitis or thromboembolic disorders; 

6. history of thrombophlebitis, thrombosis, or thromboembolic 
disorders associated with previous estrogen use 

WARNINGS 

1. Induction of Malignant Neoplasms. Long-term continuous 
administration of natural and synthetic estrogens in certain animal 
species increases the frequency of carcinomas of the breast, cervix, 
vagina, and liver. There are now reports that estrogens increase the risk 
of carcinoma of the endometrium in humans. (See Boxed Warning.) 

At the present time, there is no satisfactory evidence that estrogens 
given to postmenopausal women increase the risk of breast cancer, 
although a recent long-term follow-up study has raised this possibility. 
Because of the animal data, there is a need for caution in prescribing 
estrogens for women with a strong family history of breast cancer or 
hi e breast nodules, fibrocystic disease, or abnormal 
mar grams. 

Gallbladder Disease. A recent study has reported a two- to threefold 

crease in the risk of surgically confirmed gallbladder disease in 

postmenopausal women receiving oral estrogens, similar to the twofold 
ncrease previously noted in users of oral contraceptives. 

3. Effects Similar to Those Caused by Estrogen-Progestogen Oral 
Contraceptives. There are several serious adverse effects of oral 
contraceptives and other high-dose oral estrogen treatments, most of 
which have not, up to now, been documented as consequences of 
postmenopausal estrogen replacement therapy. This may reflect the 
comparatively low doses of estrogen used in postmenopausal women 
a. Thromboembolic Disease. |t is now well established that users of oral 
contraceptives have an increased risk of various thromboembolic and 
thrombotic vascular diseases, such as thrombophlebitis, pulmonary 
embolism, stroke, and myocardial infarction. Cases of retinal 
thrombosis, mesenteric thrombosis, and optic neuritis have been 
reported in oral contraceptive users. There is evidence that the risk of 
several of these adverse reactions is related to the dose of the drug. An 
increased risk of postsurgery thromboembolic complications has also 
been reported in users of oral contraceptives. If feasible, estrogen 
should be discontinued at least 4 weeks before surgery of the type 
associated with an increased risk of thromboembolism, or during 
periods of prolonged immobilization. 

While an increased rate of thromboembolic and thrombotic disease in 
postmenopausal users of estrogens has not been found, this does not 
rule out the possibility that such an increase may be present or that 
subgroups of women who have underlying risk factors or who are 
receiving relatively arge doses of estrogens may have increased risk. 
Therefore, estrogens should not be used in persons with active 
thrombophlebitis or thromboembolic disorders, and they should not be 
used in persons with a history of such disorders in association with 
estrogen use. They should be used with caution in patients with cerebral 
vascular or coronary artery disease and only for those in whom 
estrogens are clearly needed 

Large doses of estrogen (5 mg conjugated estrogens per day), 
comparable to those used to treat cancer of the prostate and breast, 
have been shown in a large prospective clinical trial in men to increase 
the risk of nonfatal myocardial infarction, pulmonary embolism, and 
thrombophlebitis. When estrogen doses of this size are used, any of the 
thromboembolic and thrombotic adverse effects associated with oral 
contraceptive use should be considered a clear risk 
b. Hepatic Adenoma. Benign hepatic adenomas have been associated 
with the use of oral contraceptives. Although benign and rare, these 
tumors may rupture and cause death from intra-abdominal hemorrhage. 
Such lesions have not yet been reported in association with other 
estrogen or progestogen preparations, but they should be considered if 
abdominal pain and tenderness, abdominal mass, or hypovolemic shock 
occurs in patients receiving estrogen. Hepatocellular carcinoma has also 
been reported in women taking estrogen-containing oral contraceptives. 
The causal relationship of this malignancy to these drugs is not known 
c. Elevated Blood Pressure. Women using oral contraceptives 
sometimes experience increased blood pressure which, in most cases, 
returns to normal upon discontinuing the drug. There is now a report 
that this may occur with use of oral estrogens in the menopause and 
blood pressure should be monitored with estrogen use especially if high 
doses are used. Ethinyl estradiol and conjugated estrogens have been 
shown to increase renin substrate. In contrast to these oral estrogens, 
transdermally administered estradio! does not affect renin substrate 
d. Glucose Tolerance. A worsening of glucose tolerance has been 
observed in a significant percentage of patients on estrogen-containing 
oral contraceptives. For this reason, diabetic patients should be carefully 
observed while recetving estrogen 
4. Hypercalcemia. Administration of high doses of estrogens may lead 
to severe hypercalcemia in patients with breast cancer and bone 
metastases. If hypercalcemia occurs, use of the drug should be stopped 
and appropriate measures should be taken to reduce the serum calcium 
level 
PRECAUTIONS 
General 
1. Acomplete medical and family history should be taken before 
initiation of any estrogen therapy. The pretreatment and periodic 
physical examinations should include special reference to blood 
pressure, breasts, abdomen, and pelvic organs, as well as a cervical 
Papanicolaou test. As a general rule, estrogen should not be prescribed 
for longer than 1 year without another physical examination being 
performed 
2. Because estrogens may cause some degree of fluid retention, careful 
observation is required when conditions that might be influenced by this 
factor are present (e.g., asthma, epilepsy, migraine, and cardiac or renal 
dysfunction) 

3. Certain patients may develop undesirable manifestations of excessive 
estrogenic stimulation, such as uterine bleeding, mastodynia, etc 

4. Prolonged administration of unopposed estrogen therapy has been 
reported to increase the risk of endometrial hyperplasia in some 
patients. Estrogens should be used with caution in patients who have or 
have had endometriosis 

5. Studies of the addition of a progestin for 7 or more days of a cycle of 
estrogen administration have reported a lowered incidence of 
endometrial hyperplasia. Morphological and biochemical studies of 
endometrium suggest that 12 to 13 days of progestin are needed to 
provide maximal maturation of the endometrium and to eliminate any 
hyperplastic changes. Whether this will provide protection from 
endometrial carcinoma has not been clearly established. There are 
possible additional risks that may be associated with the inclusion of 
progestin in estrogen replacement regimens. The potential risks include 
adverse effects on carbohydrate and lipid metabolism. The choice of 
progestin and dosage may be important in minimizing these adverse 
effects. 















6. Oral contraceptives appear to be associated with an 
incidence of mental depression. Although it is not cl 
due to the estrogenic or progestogenic component of th 
patients with a history of depression should be ca 
7. Preexisting uterine leiomyomata may increase in: 
prolonged estrogen use. If this occurs, estrogen 
discontinued while the cause is investigated. 
8. In patients with a history of jaundice during pre 
increased risk that jaundice will recur with the use of 
containing oral contraceptives. If jaundice d 
receiving estrogen, the medication should be discontinue 
Cause is investigated. 
9. Estrogens may be poorly metabolized in patients | 
function and should be administered with caution in suc! 
10. Because the prolonged use of estrogens influe " 
of calcium and phosphorus, estrogens should be A 
patients with metabolic bone diseases associated with | 
and in patients with renal insufficiency. 
Information for Patients 
See Patient Package Insert printed below. 
Drug/Laboratory Test Interactions 
The results of certain endocrine and liver function 
by estrogen-containing oral contraceptives. The follo 
been observed with large doses of oral estrogen: 

. increased sulfobromophthalein retention; 
2. increased prothrombin time; increased factors VII, 
decreased antithrombin 3; increased norepinephri 
aggregability; 
increased thyroxine-binding globulin (TBG), leading to 
circulating total thyroid hormone (T, ) as measured by 
radioimmunoassay; free T, resin uptake is decreased, ref 
elevated TBG; free T, concentration is unaltered; We 
affected in clinical trials of Estraderm; 
reduced response to the metyrapone test; 
reduced serum folate concentration; 
increased serum triglyceride and phospholipid conce! entr 
decreased pregnanediol excretion. 

The pathologist should be informed that the patient 
estrogen therapy when relevant specimens are submitted 
Carcinogenesis, Mutagenesis, Impairment of 3 
See WARNINGS and Bas Warning. : 

Long-term continuous administration of natural and 
estrogens in certain animal species increases the frequent 
carcinomas of the ae cervix, vagina, and liver. 


Pregnancy Category : 
See CONTRAINDICATIONS and Boxed Warning. 
Estrogens should not be used during pregnancy. 
Nursing Mothers 4 
Asa general principle, the administration of any drug to n 
mothers should be done only when clearly necessary sin 
drugs are excreted in human milk. 

ADVERSE REACTIONS 

See WARNINGS and Boxed Warning regarding pot 

on the fetus, induction of malignant neoplasms, i 
gallbladder disease, and adverse effects similar to tho 
contraceptives, including thromboembolism. 

The most commonly reported adverse reaction to Estr 
clinical trials was redness and irritation at the appli 
occurred in about 17% of the women treated and ca 
2% to discontinue therapy. Reports of rash have been 
also been rare reports of severe systemic allergic re 

The following additional adverse reactions have 
estrogenic therapy, including oral contraceptives: 

Genitourinary System: Breakthrough bleeding, 
menstrual flow; increase in size of uterine fibro 
cervical erosion and amount of cervical secretion. 

Endocrine: Breast tenderness, breast enlargement . 

Gastrointestinal: Nausea, vomiting; abdominal cramps 
cholestatic jaundice have been observed with oral esti 

Eyes: Steepening of corneal curvature; intolerance 

Central Nervous System: Headache, migraine, dizzi 

Miscellaneous: Change in weight, edema, change i 
DOSAGE AND ADMINISTRATION 
The adhesive side of the Estraderm system should be pla 
Gry area of the skin on the trunk of the body (including 
abdomen). The site selected should be one that is not 
sunlight. Estraderm should not be applied to the b . 
application must be rotated, with an interval of at least 
between applications to a particular site. The area 
be oily, damaged, or irritated. The waistline should be : 
tight clothing may rub the system off. The system sho 
immediately after opening the pouch and removing th 
The system should be pressed firmly in place with 
for about 10 seconds, making sure there is good co 
around the edges. In the unlikely event that a system 
same system may be reapplied. If necessary, a new 
applied. In either case, the original treatment sct 
continued. 

Initiation of Therapy 

Treatment of menopausal symptoms is usually i 
0.05 mg applied to the skin twice weekly. The d 
adjusted as necessary to control symptoms. The lo 
necessary for the control of symptoms should be 
women with an intact uterus. Attempts to taper or d 
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Prophylactic therapy with Estraderm to prevent p 
bone loss should be initiated with the 0.05 mg/day 
possible after menopause. The dosage may be adju 
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{n women not currently taking oral estrogens, 
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In the late eighties, no one was hotter. But then his 


success was followed by a series of flops—and the 


one-time sex symbol seemed to disappear. Where did 


he go? LHJ found out. By Susan Price 








s Thomas Mag- 


num, musta- 
chioed star of 
Magnum, P.1., 
Tom Selleck 


spent a lot of time prying 
into people’s personal lives. 
That was Magnum’s job, 
after all, and like most good 
TV ap- 
proached his work with hu- 


detectives, he 


mor, enthusiasm and 
enough sex appeal to en- 
sure that his female sus- 
pects, at least, would 
always give up the goods. 
And when he wasn’t woo- 
ing his latest guest-starring 


beauty, Selleck was stealing the 


hearts of millions of women 
around America—and the world. 
‘This was a man they could count 
on: dependable, resilient, fast on 
his feet—and, boy, did he look 
good in a bathing suit. 

So it’s more than a little ironic 
that when it comes to his own life, 


Tom Selleck, forty-eight, is one of 


the most private people around. 
Almost all celebrities pay lip ser- 
vice to the idea that fame has its 
frustrating drawbacks, but Selleck 
really means it. That’s why, even 
when he was at the top of the Hol- 




















yr / 

Although he’s made 
millions of women 
swoon, Selleck prefers 
monogamy with his 
wife, Jillie Mack (right) 


lywood heap, he rarely 
gave interviews. It’s why 
he was often the target 
of rumor and innuendo, 
when journalists had to resort to 
digging around for dirt. And it’s 
why we haven’t heard much about 
him—let alone from him—in the 
last two or three years. 

After all, Magnum went off the 
air in 1988, and his last big-screen 


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winner was 1990’s Three Men and 
a Little Lady, the sequel to the 
1987 hit Three Men and a Baby. 
Since then, he’s suffered a series 
of box-office bombs. Granted, the 
difficulues in making the transi- 
tion from small-screen heavy- 
weight to big-screen star are well 
documented: The qualities that 
usually translate best on TV (nice-7 
ness, likability, even a certain in- 
nocuous innocence) don’t cut it in 
the movies, where actors need an 
energized edge to carry them 
through. And Selleck is nothing if 
not “nic¢.” Nevertheless, in 1992,™ 
apparently frustrated with the turn 
his career had taken, the actor 
signed up with Creative Artists) 
Agency—the most powerful} 
agency in town. But a few 
months ago, he left CAA for an= 
other top agency, ICM. Yet, for 
Selleck, who turned down the role 
of Indiana Jones to headline Mag- 
num, P.I., movie stardom may ulti- 
mately be out of reach. (You can, 
however, still hear his voice on 
TV—he does the voice-over on 
commercials for AT&T.) 

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proud family man (he’s been 
married to actress 
Jillie Mack for sev- 
en years this August, 
and their daughter, 
Hannah, is five) is 
sitting around his” 
$2 million Thou- 
sand Oaks ranch 
feeling sorry for 
himself. For starters, 
he says, “I took a 
year off to watch 
my daughter grow 
after doing three movies back-to= 
back.” And he loved doing it. 

Says one movie executives 
“Tom is a lot like Mel Gibson and 
Clint Eastwood. They’re all guys 
with what I call the right priorities: 
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they are—handsome leading men, 
sure, but with families they care a lot 
about. There was a time when it 
seemed more interesting to be recover- 
ing from some kind of self-destructive 
behavior, and these guys didn’t give 
anyone any [of that].” 

Instead, Selleck’s been putting his 
time, money and efforts to good use as 
the national spokesperson for the Char- 
acter Counts Coalition, a partnership of 
thirty-six youth and educational organi- 
zations whose goal is to “strengthen the 
moral fiber of the next generation.” And 
while it’s not going to get him as much 
buzz as a trip to rehab, a scandalous di- 
vorce or even a nightclub brawl, it zs get- 
ting him the kind of attention he can 
live with—and make use of: interviews 
with David Brinkley and Larry King, 
meetings with newspaper editors and 
young children around the country. 

“We have six pillars of values in the 
Character Counts Coalition,” Selleck 
explains. “Trustworthiness, respect, re- 
sponsibility, fairness, caring and citizen- 
ship. I’m not trying to talk from an ivory 
tower. I’m just saying these things are 


based on its six pillars of values. 

Unlike many stars who jump on a 
bandwagon for the latest cause without 
knowing much about the subject at 
hand, Selleck has long been concerned 
with the issues of ethics and values—es- 
pecially as they relate to the media. 
Michael Josephson, founder of the 
Coalition, says Selleck called him about 
three years ago after the actor heard 
Josephson on a radio talk show. Selleck 
had recently donated money to the Uni- 
versity of Southern California, for the 
study of ethics in journalism; he asked 
Josephson to help design the program. 

“As I got to know Tom, I genuinely 
became impressed that he was a serious 
fellow with serious ideas,” says Joseph- 
son. “He has a realistic sense of himself 
and understands the powers of star- 
dom—how his celebrity is a positive as- 
pect that can be used for positive 
[goals]. He is actively involved in dis- 
cussions and is financially generous, but 
his real contribution is his perspective as 
someone who really understands the na- 
ture of the media. As our spokesperson, 
he writes and rewrites the material and 
delivers it his way. He told me, ‘I don’t 
want to be just a cardboard cutout.’ ” 

Indeed, part of the program is de- 


“The entertainment 
industry should shoulder 
some of the responsibility 


for all this violence on TV. 


important. What it amounts to is re- 
minding people to look at themselves in 
the mirror in the morning and ask them- 
selves if they’re being ethical.” 

Selleck, an Independent and self-de- 
scribed civil libertarian, says the Coali- 
tion has nothing to do with politics. 
“There should be things that we as 
Americans can agree are right and 
wrong. For example, it’s wrong to lie, 
cheat and steal. We as citizens in this 
country can agree on that. The Charac- 
ter Counts Coalition is not just for the 
liberal left or conservative right; it’s for 
all Americans. If Marian Wright Edel- 
man, the American Federation of 
Teachers, Little League Baseball and 
[former Congresswoman] Barbara Jor- 
dan can sign on, I can [too].” As part of 
its campaign, the Coalition plans to in- 
stall a program to train and certify 
teachers, coaches and other youth lead- 
ers to teach ethical decision-making 


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signed to work on a one-on-one basis, 
and Selleck doesn’t want to shut himself 
out of that personalized loop. “It’s indi- 
viduals reaching individuals,” he says. 
Parents and teachers, he feels, have to 
work very hard to talk about these val- 
ues in ways that make them seem “cool” 
to kids. “Our sports figures and actors 
have to take responsibility for the signals 
they send. I hate to hear public figures 
saying, ‘Look, I don’t want to be a role 
model; my only responsibility is what I 
do on the playing field.” Well, like it or 
not, they are role models, and their ac- 
tons have an effect on kids.” 

Along those lines, Selleck is a big crit- 
ic of the current levels of violence in the 
media. Like the President and Attorney 
General Janet Reno, he strongly believes 
that Hollywood should start exercising 
self-control. “The entertainment indus- 
try should shoulder some of the respon- 
sibility for where we’ve gone with all this 


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7 
violence and sleaziness on TV,” he 
intensely. “It desensitizes us to the 


lence, especially violence where the 
no consequence for the act or [wh 
the hero is the most violent element. 
thing kids need to know foremost is 
there are consequences for their acts. 

To help in that educational effort, 
leck recently volunteered his time to. 
See Dick and Fane Lie, Cheat and Sté 
TV documentary about ethics that 
syndicated across the country. And 
actor wants to make more family-or 
ed programming (he has two produc 
companies—Banana Road Product 
and TWS Productions). But he ad 
that even this lofty goal presents 
with a dilemma: He’d need to use @ 
actors to do it, but he doesn’t think 
industry is a healthy place for child 
(After making Three Men and al 
Lady, he advised the mother of then: 
year-old Robin Weisman, who ple 
the little lady, “Just do me a favor; 
back to Florida, get her back in sch 
and don’t stay in the business.”) 

‘That perspective probably has a I 
do with Selleck’s middle-class upbrir 
in the San Fernando Valley, where 
says, he was “fortunate enough to ] 
parents who didn’t teach us by say 
‘Do as I say, not as I do.’ Instead, 
set a good example. If you hit your k 
ball through a neighbor’s window 
run away, and then finally get 
courage to tell your dad, and he t 
you down to talk to the neighbor 
then helps you go buy the glass ani 
the window, you learn a lot. That 
pened a lot for me, whatever I 
trouble with. I remember my dad 
took us down to the jail and the fire 
partment to meet the police officers 
the firemen and see what they d 
taught us to wave and say, ‘Hello, offi 

“They did something right, becat 
was more concerned with the fact 
I'd let them down than what pur 
ment I was going to get—though I 
I would get punished if I did some 
wrong.” But, he adds with a laug 
was a pretty good kid. I neve 
thrown in jail.” 

As for passing those lessons on 1 
own child—and the children of A 
ca—Selleck is humble but determ 
“I don’t have a magic bullet,” h 
knowledges with a sigh. “I don’t I 
how I’m going to raise my kid. 
hope I can do what my parents dic 
kids need avenues where they can 
self-respect and respect for ot 
When you see something good, pt 
out to a kid. And when the kid 
something good, it’s just as import 
notice it and tell him you’re pre 
him because he did the right thi 


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newspaper, I’m still a 

little nervous when I 

see the want ads. I 

know that most of the 

people who answer these ads are 

good human beings—but I know 

from bitter experience that not all 
of them are. 

It happened some years ago, at a 
time when things were finally 
starting to look bright for our fam- 
ily. My husband, Mike,* had grad- 
uated from college and was 
starting work with a major engi- 
neering firm. Now we could begin 
to think about buying the new car 
we had been postponing. 

Less than a year later, we were 
ready to get rid of our old yellow 
Volkswagen, so we ran an ad in 
the classifieds of our local paper 
one Saturday morning in May. It 
worked: Prospective buyers began 
calling and coming by that same 
day. But by nightfall, we hadn’t 
made a sale. 

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rang again. A warm 
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asked if the car was 
still available. I de- 
scribed the VW, and 
the young man 
replied, “It sounds like 
just what I’m looking 
for!” He arranged to 
= come over that night. 

An hour later, he and a young 
woman arrived at our front door. 
He introduced himself as Dick 
Gates and the woman as his fi- 
ancée, Susan. They were young 
and gorgeous; Dick dressed like a 
perfect preppy student. We chat- 
ted about his forthcoming degree 
in advertising and her first year 
teaching at a local kindergarten. 
Susan cooed over my new baby 
son. I liked them immediately. 

Mike spent an hour going over 
every nut and bolt of the VW with 
Dick. He explained both what was 
wrong with it and what might need 
repairs in the future. When they 
returned from a test drive, I could 
tell we had a sale. “Could you take 
$4002” Dick asked. Mike replied, 
“You just bought a car!” 

The next morning, Dick 
brought us the cash. Mike and I 
signed our names to the back of 
the title paper and gave it to Dick 
with the keys. The deal was 
done—or so we thought. 

Six months later, Dick called us. 
By the sound of Mike’s strained, 


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we have known it would be so dangerous? 


angry responses, something was 
wrong. In a minute, he hung up, 
looking bewildered. “The car 
broke down last week, Andrea,” he 
explained. “Dick says itll cost 
$600 to fix, and he wants us to pay 
for it.” I was shocked. “What?” I 
shouted. “We explained about the 
high mileage.” 

“T know, I know!” Mike said. 
“But he sounded almost—crazy!” 

An attorney assured us that we 
were not legally required to pay for 
repairs to a used car sold six 
months ago, especially since we 
had been totally upfront about its 
condition. Dick called us that 
night, and Mike made it plain that 
we owed him nothing. There was a 
long pause, and my husband’s face 
turned ashen. “If you set one foot 
near this family,” he shouted, “Ill 
have you arrested!” Mike slammed 
down the phone and grabbed my 
shoulders. “He is crazy, Andrea. 
He said if we refuse to fix the car, 
he’ll return itand...and... take 
our baby instead!” 

It couldn’t be true. This had to 
be a prank. People didn’t do and 
say those things, especially not nice, 
clean-cut guys like Dick. Did they? 

“Pack the kids up,” said Mike. 
“We can’t stay here.” We headed 
for my parents’ house without 
even telling them we were coming. 
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sheriff came over with the evidence. 
Dick Gates’s rap sheet included such 
charges as assaulting a police officer, as- 
sault with a deadly weapon, forgery, 
credit-card fraud and drug possession. 
The only honest thing he had done was 
give us his real name. 

How could two intelligent, educated 
people like us have been so stupid? We 
had given our address and phone num- 
ber to a total stranger. We had let him 
see that we had a baby and a small 
child. Now we were his vulnerable prey. 

Mike and I did some digging of our 
own the next day and found more sur- 
prises. Dick was not, and had never 
been, a student at any of the colleges in 
town. And Susan was no teacher; she 
was a cocktail waitress. 

That evening, Mike and I drove back 
home to get a change of clothes. As we 
cautiously pulled into the driveway, we 
saw a sign in the front garden. The mes- 
sage, in blood-red letters, was horrify- 
ing: “YOU WILL PAY FOR THIS!” 
The screens on the baby’s bedroom 
window had been slashed, but it didn’t 
look as though anyone had entered the 
house. I ran in and quickly loaded my 
arms with clothes, feeling dizzy and sick. 


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hang-ups and short 
threats. We ordered a phone tap from 
the police. 

We had made another stupid mistake 
by giving Dick the title paper ourselves, 
rather than having it officially trans- 
ferred. He never had the car registered 
in his name, and since we had also left 
the license plates on the car, his traffic 
violations were traced to us. 

Thank God, our nightmare didn’t last 
much longer. We gave the police per- 
mission to impound the car when they 
found it, and in late December, an offi- 
cer did just that, when he spotted the 
car in a well-to-do residential area. 

The next day, our answering machine 
picked up an angry call from Dick, who 
said he was calling from a downtown 
pay phone. “I know you’re home,” he 
said. “You’d better show up here in the 
next forty minutes with the money, or 
you'll be sorry.” Of course, we never 
did. In the meantime, Dick must have 
been tipped off—maybe by his criminal 
friends—that the police were on the 
case, because we never heard from him 
again after that. 

Because we didn’t have enough evi- 
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twice a week. Here’s how to deal with this surprisingly difficult conflict. 


By Dr. Patricia Love and Jo Robinson 


vant you to know that I love 

my wife,” one husband told 

me. “We’ve been married 

sixteen years, and I’ve never 

fooled around. But I’m not 
always happy with the lovemaking 
part. The problem is, I’m always 
the one wanting her, doing the ini- 
tiating. I think she’s sexy. I wish 
she felt the same way 
about me.” 

‘This husband was de- 
scribiii.z a phenomenon 
that sex therapists call 
“desire discrepancy ”— 
when one partner has a 
higher sex drive than the 
other. It’s a very com- 
mon problem. For most 
couples seeking help, 
nothing is “broken” in 
their sexual relationship; 
rather, one of them’s hot 
when the other is not. 

Consider the case of 
Pamela and = Dan. 
Pamela, thirty-five, 
would be content to 
have sex three or four 
times a month. One rea- 
son for her lack of interest is that, 
like many people with low desire, 
it takes her a long time to become 
aroused. “For the first fifteen or 
twenty minutes of lovemaking, I 
could happily stop at any point,” 
she told me in a counseling ses- 


sion. “I have hardly any sensa- 


From HOT 


tion. It’s only when my orgasm is 
imminent that all of a sudden, ’m 
thinking, Don’t stop! Don’t stop! 
But I crave sex for only about two 
minutes out of twenty.” 

Her husband, Dan, thirty-sev- 
en, feels just the opposite. He’d 
like to make love every night and 
thinks about sex dozens of times a 


THE RALSTONS DISCUSS 
THE FREQUENCY OF THEIR 
SEXUAL ENCOUNTERS 





day. Scant minutes after he’s had 
an orgasm, he’s wondering how 
soon it'll be before he and Pamela 
do it again. The only thing he 
knows for certain is that it won’t 
be soon enough. 

When Pamela and Dan first 
came to me, both of them regard- 


MONOGAMY: ESSENTIAL STEPS TO MORE PASSIONATE, INTIMATE LOVEMAKING. Copyright © Patricia Love and Jo Robinson, 1994. 
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ed Pamela as the one with * 
problem.” Given our society’s 
preoccupation with sex, this ism 
surprising. We expect people 1 
have an unwavering interest in 
lovemaking. 

But there’s a powerful biologica 
component that controls the sexual 
urge. Studies done around the 
world have shown that 
most men think abou 
sex more often, are 
more easily aroused, 
want to have sex more 
frequently, desire more 
partners and mastur- 
bate more often than 
most women. a 

When there’s only 
moderate difference 
desire between a man 
and a woman, they 
may find it easy t 


person has sex so: 
what less often t 


effort to “get in th 
mood.” Problems a 
when there is a marked difference 
in desire between a man and 
woman, or when they find it di 
ficult to compromise. 

It often helps such couples © 
share their separate points of viey 
In one of my first sessions wit 
Pamela and (continu 


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Dan, I asked Dan to tell his wife how he 
felt when he was filled with sexual ener- 
gy. Dan turned to her and said, “I can 
tell you honestly that there is rarely a 
moment in my life when I have no sexu- 
al desire. When we were first married, 
those feelings were overpowering. Sex 
was the only thing worth doing. Now, I 
don’t think about sex every minute of 
the day, but it’s always there on the 
back burner, bubbling away.” 

Pamela told her husband that there 
were brief periods in her life when she’d 
been highly interested in sex, and she’d 
found those times very enjoyable. But 
most of the time, she has little sponta- 
neous interest. “To be honest,” she told 
Dan, “I think if it weren’t for pressure 
from you, I could go for a week without 
having one sexy thought. You initiate 
sex when your level of desire builds up; 
I initiate sex when my level of guilt 
builds up.” 

While many women do have plenty of 
sexual desire, there are millions of oth- 
ers like Pamela. They may enjoy sex and 
be orgasmic, but they don’t experience a 
pressing physical need to make love. 
Some studies suggest that a third of all 
women rarely have enough spontaneous 
interest in sex to initiate lovemaking. 


THE KEY TO DESIRE 

What causes our differences in sexual 
desire? Until the 1970s, experts focused 
on psychological factors such as mar- 
riage problems or a repressed upbring- 
ing. These conditions do indeed 
influence desire. It’s difficuit to have a 
healthy appetite for sex if you were 
shamed for your sexual curiosity as a 
child, or if you and your partner are 
feuding. Gender conditioning can also 
play a significant role. Our society has 
long given men more permission to ex- 
plore their sexuality than women, which 
may partly explain the greater interest 
men have in sex. 

But psychological and social factors 
don’t fully explain the differences be- 
tween male and female sexuality. Only 
when we examine the role of sex hor- 
mones do we get the complete picture. 

Researchers now know that men and 
women have the same half dozen sex hor- 
mones, only in differing amounts. Testos- 
terone, which has long been regarded as 
the “male” hormone, fuels the sex drive 
in both genders. The fact that men have 
from ten to twenty times more testos- 
terone than women is one of the primary 
reasons they experience more desire. 

Barbara Sherwin, Ph.D., a researcher 
and professor at McGill University, in 
Montreal, has provided many new in- 
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have such low levels of the hormone that 
they never desire sex. 

Though it may seem sensible to pre- 
scribe testosterone for the millions of 
women with low sexual desire, doctors 
have been slow to do this. Some may 
not be well informed about the role that 
testosterone plays in female sexuality. 
Others don’t seem to consider a wom- 
an’s lack of interest in sex a serious 
problem. Finally, excessive amounts of 
testosterone can cause increased facial 
hair, acne, a lowering of the voice and 
changes in the menstrual cycle. Many 
physicians are concerned about the viril- 
izing effects of testosterone. 

My advice for anyone with an unusu- 
ally low level of sexual desire is to get a 
physical exam. If blood tests indicate a 
hormone deficiency, the patient may be 
referred to an endocrinologist for further 
testing and treatment. 


SEXUAL HEALING 

But what about the vast majority of cou- 
ples without obvious hormonal deficien- 
cies? What can they do to even out their 
differences in desire? 


when he had gone without sex for several 
days. To her, a week without sex was a 
vacation. By contrast, Arnold revealed 
that sex was very important to him, not 
just for the welcome physical release but 
for emotional reasons as well. He said 
that sex seemed to be almost a healing 
form of contact for him. “If we haven’t 
made love in a long time,” he told 
Karen, “then I feel emotional pain. I feel 
more isolated, not just from you, but 
from everyone around me.” 

After that, Karen was more willing to 
make love on a regular basis. “I’d been 
resisting too much, especially consider- 
ing the fact that I enjoy sex just as much 
as he does once I get going,” she said to 
me. “Now that I know what our love- 
making means to him, I’m more willing 
to say yes.” 


RECONCILING YOUR DIFFERENCES 

As Karen and Arnold did, you and your 
husband can put your lovelife back in 
sync. Below, strategies for both of you. 


For the partner with greater desire: 
1. Turn your partner on. The more adept 
you are at arousing your spouse, the 
more often you’ll both be excited. 

2. Accept your partner’s needs. Many peo- 


In one study, women who 


were 


oiven testosterone 


had a much higher 
Cs 
level of sexual desire. 


The first step is to become less polar- 
ized, or at odds with each other. Many 
couples with conflicting sex drives de- 
velop dramatically different points of 
view about their lovelives. Your hus- 
band may think you “hardly ever” have 
sex, while you believe you have it “all 
the time.” You each become so invested 
in defending your separate points of 
view, you’re unable to compromise. 

When two people are at odds about 
how often they make love, both individ- 
uals can suffer. However, when couples 
make a concerted effort to understand 
each other’s point of view, they often ex- 
perience a dramatic turnaround. 

Karen and Arnold, both in their late 
thirties, went a long way toward resolv- 
ing a five-year stalemate simply by hav- 
ing a long, candid conversation about 
sexual desire. 

What touched Karen the most was 
hearing her husband describe how he felt 


ple with low desire need such stimula- 
tion as sexual fantasies or erotica to 
become aroused. The more graciously 
you accept this, the more satisfying your 
sexual relationship will be. 

3. Honor any sexual preconditions your 
partner has. For example, make love at 
night, if that’s what your spouse enjoys. 
The time of day may not make much 
difference to you, but your partner will 
be more responsive 

4. Consider satisfying some of your own 
physical needs. Masturbation is normal— 
even for people who are happily mar- 
ried. If you’re highly aroused and your 
partner is not, masturbation is one way 
to achieve physical release. 

5. Redirect some of your sexual energy. If 
sex is an obsession, channeling your en- 
ergy in other directions may even out 
some of the differences between you and 
your spouse. 


6. Don’t confuse lust with love. Try not to 


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take your partner’s low sexual de 
personally. It’s likely to be the r 
number of factors, including an 
cation your mate may be taking,’ 
ing process or a low level of horn m 


For the partner with lesser d 
1. Accept more responsibility for y 
arousal. Don’t expect your partne 
all the work. What turns you on- 
ing sexy clothes? Hugging and 
Because you have less spontan 
sire, you must learn how to cre 
Initiate those activities you find 
Give your partner a treat from — 
ume and come to bed turned-on. 
2. Pay attention to subtle sexual 
like your partner, you may nev 
ence a strong burst of sexual 
you may have to amplify the 
ings you do have. When you 
the slightest twinge of desir 
through on it. Also, try to detect 
cles of desire. Are you more rec 
a certain ume of day or month? I 
tain: place? Note these instaz 
oa advantage of them. 
. Make room in your life for love 
ce people with low desire enj 
great deal once they’re arouse¢ 
problem is they don’t have m 
vation to initiate passion. Work 
this problem by scheduling 
times for making love. "i 
4. Be reasonable about any preco’ 
you set. Define the situations 
you most eager for lovemaki 
your partner know about them. I} 
ample, you may be more wil 
you’ve had a relaxing massage or 
soak in the tub. 
5. Don’t feel guilty about saying ne 
make an effort to meet your } 
sexual needs much of the tin 
blame yourself for those times 
choose not to. But when you 4 
to lovemaking, tell your pa 
you will be available. 
6. Balance your life. Low sexua 
can be a reflection of a lack 
ment in your life in general. 
your daily activities turn you on, 
surprising that your sexuality is 
as well. Create a life that is 
teresting. If you have a good 
wake up each morning, your libi 
wake up, too. 
. Appreciate all that you do. Will 
to oo your partner’s needs an 
crease your own sexual desire 
that you’re a loving, giving— 
partner. Take pride in your pos 
tude and be assured that you a 
husband can create a long-lastin 
tually satisfying relationship. 


Dr. Patricia Love is a marriage an 
therapist at the Austin Family Ins 
Austin, Texas. Jo Robinson ts 
writer in Portland, Oregon. 





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Women more apt to be prescribed psychiatric drugs 


receive a osychiatric-drug prescription than men who teported 
similar symptoms. “Male physicians were the major source Of this 
orescrik ING difference," the study says. 

According to psychologist linda J. Allred, Ph.D., of ECU, the 
reason for this is probably a “gender bias” that the medical 
profession has against women. “Doctors tend to diagnose more 
1 problems and neurotic disturbances in women," she says 


Women are mote likely than men to be given psychiatric 
medicatic ns, even when both genders CC ymplain of the same 


sympioms, G new study shows 
And the doctor’: 


physi lans pres¢ tribe more antidk spressants and tranquilizers rol 


gender is a factor as well: Th ugh all 


women than me n, male doctors nd lo do so ata higher rate 
says the study, done by researchers at East Carolina University 


North Carolina 


PET scans work by tracking 
glucose levels in the body. Patients 
are injected with a radioactive 
form of glucose. Because cancer 
cells use more glucose than nor- 
mal cells, the PET scan can detect 
a greater concentration of it at the 
site of the abnormal cells. 

But UCLA’s John Glaspy, 
M.D., who is conducting the re- 


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search, cautions against viewing 
the PET scan as a technology that 
will replace mammograms or 
biopsies. For one thing, its cost 
currently $1,000 per scan—makes 
it prohibitive for widespread use. — 

“We don’t yet know where th 
PET scan fits into cancer detee 
tion,” Glaspy says, “but it is an 
exciting new technology that is 
yielding promising preliminary 
results.” —KATHERINE LEI 


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amoxifen, a drug used for more than twen- 

ty years to treat breast cancer, also seems to 

cut the risk of heart disease, according to a 

new report from the Karolinska Hospital, im 
Stockholm, Sweden. 
Researchers studied nearly 2,400 breast-cancer 
patients who were taking tamoxifen. They found 
that those women who took the drug for two years 
had one third fewer incidences of heart disease 
than a control group that received no tamoxifen: 
Among those who took the drug for five years, 
results were even better. 
The researchers concluded that tamoxifer 
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disease in women with—and possibly without— 


breast cancer. —S.f 


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“Breast Cancer Journal: A Century 
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In 1988, Wittman, then forty-six, 
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She 
lumpectomy, followed by nearly a 


right breast. underwent a 
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cred and healthy. 

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allics in her battle against the disease: 
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support groups 
medicine. In this excerpt, she de- 
scribes some of those experiences. 


and Chinese 


all of the 
self-help books I read 


Imost cancer 
talked about visualiza- 
tion: They claimed 
that some patients were able to 
help and even cure themselves by 
relaxing deeply and imagining the 
white blood cells of their immune 
system battling the cancer cells. 
‘Vhey might see these white cells as 
anything from cowboys in white 
hats to cleansing bubbles of soap. 

I tried to do some of these visual- 
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izauons, though whether because 
believed it would protect me from 
recurrence or simply to bring so 
peace and centeredness to my days, 
I wasn’t sure. But it was difficult. 
‘There were so many questions, 
From my reading, I knew that 
Was Important to visualize correct 
ly. If you came up with the wrong 
image, you could harm yourself. 

What was I to imagine? If] 
hoped my body was cancer-free; 
should I be imagining cancer cells 
within it at all, even if they were 
being destroyed by whatever crea= 
tures | chose as a metaphor for my 
white blood cells? Or should I just 
think of torrents of water pourt 
through my system and cleansing 
it? Or music bringing everything 
into harmony? 

Did you have to be able to 
sualize your bones, blood, organs 
and cells accurately, or could you# 
sort of fudge it? And what was 
the best creature to choose 
your inner ally? 

One morning, as I relaxed on 
the floor, an image came to me un- 
summoned of a beautiful white 
situng in a window, preening. The 
light made pink shells of his ears 
his coat was fluffed out and soft. 1 
decided to call him ‘Tomas and ft 
give him a mate called “VTomasina 


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In search of life 


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two of them loose inside me. They 
prowled through veins and along bones, 
under hanging knots of muscle, in set- 
tings that I imagined as dark, dangerous 
and tantalizing, like the streets and al- 
leys down by the London docks. They 
caught cancer cells, which I saw as large 
rats, killed them and dropped them into 
the dark whirlpool of my kidneys to be 
disposed of. 


Ithough I felt great affection for the 

cats and enjoyed this entire sce- 
nario, it did have its drawbacks. Rats are 
strong, unpredictable and vicious. It 
isn’t possible to imagine a rat-infested 
area being totally cleared. And cats 
aren't very clean killers; tomas and 
‘Tomasina tended to play with whatever 
they caught so that you couldn’t be 
sure, even when a rat was dropped limp 
and wet into the kidney whirlpool, that 
he was entirely dead. Furthermore, 
these were utterly self-willed felines. Ef- 
ficient ratters when they chose to be, 
they were also fond of sitting in casy 
chairs, nibbling delicately at the skin be- 
tween their claws or washing their ears 


dous zest and concentration. She en- 
countered a cancer cell, which was big 
and light and hollow, like a bubble, and 
burst it with one blow, laughing. Sud- 
denly, there was another identical Anna, 
and another, and another. Dozens of 
them. They came tumbling out on my 
rushing, transparent bloodstream; some 
rolled in little balls, some half risen, 
some on their feet, feinting, jumping 
and hitting, eliminating the hollow can- 
cer cells with no effort at all. 

“But this is wrong,” I kept telling my- 
self. “This isn’t the right image. I should 
be seeing the cells as stronger, the whole 
thing as more of a battle. And Anna is 
too little and hght to represent killer 
cells. 1 am doing this all wrong.” 

But then I realized the image was ex- 
actly right. If Anna was a delicate small 
child, she was also exceptionally strong 
and steady in spirit. And besides, how 
could any image be more powerful? My 
daughter’s existence was the strongest 
incentive I could possibly have for living. 


| Bee after I mastered visualization, I 
continued going to support groups 
run by QuaLife. One of the greatest bene- 
fits of these was the simple joy and relief 
of being with other cancer patients. 


| attended classes aiid 
‘as able to get more 


and more ito the 


spirit of visualization. 


and faces. They slept a great deal on 
silken cushions. So while I retained their 


services simply for the pleasure of 


watching them, I soon decided I needed 
more dedicated helpers. 

I decided to attend visualization class- 
es offered by QuaLife, a support group 
for cancer patients that I'd learned 
about through a friend. I went every 
‘Thursday night for four weeks, and little 
by little, I was able to get more and 
more into the spirit of visualization. I let 
go of the idea that there was one right 
way to do this, and then the images 
came easily. 

One evening, we were relaxing into 
the overstuffed chairs at QuaLife’s of- 
fice. The leader’s gentle voice was guid- 
ing us through a visualization. And 
suddenly, springing from my thymus 
gland, I saw my ten-year-old daughter, 
Anna. She was in her white karate out- 
fit, kicking and punching with tremen- 


We formed a kind of community in 
the shabby QuaLife office, laughing at 
jokes that no outsider would have found 
funny, understanding each other in a 
way not even the most loving spouse, 
parent or child could do. 

One evening, we had gathered in the 
kitchen during a break. “I have a cold,” 
said Nancy, one of the women in the 
group. 

“That seems so unfair,” said an angry 
woman with curly red hair. “It seems 
like when you’ve had cancer, you should 
never have to bother with minor nui- 
sances like colds and flu again.” 

“Oh, I don’t know,” said a third 
woman. “I kind of like colds. You know 
where they are and what they’re going 
to do. ‘There’s a beginning, middle and 
end to a cold.” 

“Right,” said the second woman, 
“and they don’t cut you when you have 
a cold.” 


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We all began chiming in: 
“Or poison you with chemic 
“Or irradiate you.” 
Suddenly, I felt a sense of eas 
my illness that I had never felt be 


had heard a lot about the bene 
Chinese medicine, and I decic 
look into it. Though I never had 4 
tention of abandoning my conver 
treatments in favor of herbs 
acupuncture, I thought that perha 
cient healing practices might offer 
thing that the American me 
establishment couldn’t. 
The attitude of my Western d 
toward my interest in Chinese me 
varied. One doctor was clearly ske 
But another, my surgeon, Dr. John 
was very interested in alternative 
pies and often asked me what mi 
nese doctors were saying. 
The Chinese system is based 
completely different understand 
illness, health and humankind’s p 
the “universe than the one infa 
Western medicine. Like healers fr 
most all traditional cultures, Cl 
doctors believe human beings are J 
an entire system: You cannot | 
gether well in a sick society or 
world. The Chinese see a kind 
gy—called qi or chi—permeatin 
universe, underlying all pheno1 
‘This same energy courses thro 
bodies along pathways called meri 
If the flow of energy becomes ble 
or distorted, illness results. The pt 
of acupuncture, herbs or massag 
free or redirect qu. 
When I was. beginning 
chemotherapy, I made an appoin 
with a Chinese doctor I had heard 
through a colleague. “Herbs will ¢ 
eral things for you,” he to 
“They'll protect your body from 
of the bad effects of chemoth 
they'll shield the integrity of yot 
marrow. They will also help exg 
poisons from your system.” 
“Will they work agains 
chemotherapy?” I asked. “Will th 
vent it from doing its job?” 
“No. They are designed to be 
plementary.” 
I was to take the herbs religio 
meditate daily and keep my qi m 
“If you’re angry, don’t repress 
don’t lash out either. Try taking é 
you can. Here,” he said, rum 
his drawer, “take this relaxatior 
Listen to it every day. It will keep 
circulating.” 
A few days later, I went to pick 
herbs he had prepared for me. Thi 
the box was astonishing. 
home, I saw that it contained ten J 
cach crammed with what look 
mixture of bark, twigs, fungi and b 
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conunued 


soaked for forty minutes, simmered for 
another forty, and “boiled gently” for 
forty more. I never could figure out the 
difference between simmered and boiled 
gently. The cooking process smelled up 
the house, and produced a black hquid, 
covered with debris. I was to drink five 
cups of the herb water over the course 
of the day. Pd toss down one cup in the 
morning and two in the evening. I car- 
ried two more cups in separate glass jars 
to work. “Hey,” a co-worker was sure to 
remark when I came in. “It’s the pond- 
scum lady.” 


Ithough I had no major complaints 
about my first Chinese doctor, I 
operated on the general principle that a 
second opinion was always useful—as it 
had proved to be when I was deciding 
on surgery and chemotherapy. So I went 
to visit a young Chinese woman, Dr. 
Lin. I liked her immediately and decid- 
ed to switch to her practice. 
The herb regimen she recommended 
for me was a little easier. The packages 


better if chemotherapy did not take 
place on days when I had my period— 
an injunction that was sometimes diffi- 
cult to follow and that my medical 
doctor found plain ridiculous. 

I had read in Western magazines that 
researchers were trying to discover if 
there was an optimal time of day for re- 
ceiving chemotherapy. Is there a partic- 
ular hour when cancer cells are most apt 
to be dividing and hence most suscepti- 
ble to being destroyed? Dr. Lin suffered 
no ambivalence on the topic. “You have 
the treatments at ten in the morning,” 
she told me. 

Some of my awed friends found her 
ministrations mystical or exotic, yet Lin 
herself was unfailingly practical and 
down to earth. Once, I came early for a 
session. As I relaxed on her couch, I lis- 
tened as she took the pulse of a slender 
young man. 

“Wow,” he said. “You know, I think | 
can feel what it is that’s happening in 
my body, what you’re listening for. All 
the pulses and rhythms. It’s like they’re 
answering your fingers.” 

I was impressed. “I’ve never felt 
that,” I told Dr. Lin when my turn 


i thought that perhaps 


ancient healing practices 
Cc 


might offer something 


Western medicine couldn t. 


were smaller, and I was permitted to 
soak the herbs overnight and simmer 
them for forty minutes in the morning, 
which was a big improvement. The 
lifestyle changes she prescribed, howev- 
er, Were more far-reaching than any- 
thing that had been suggested before. 
She forbade me to drink alcohol. She 
also wanted me to avoid beef and veal, 
lamb and mutton, and all kinds of fish, 
except those that swam in rivers. Peri- 
odically, half in fun, half in earnest, Pd 
test my boundaries. “Can I eat elk?” I 
once asked. “Sure,” Dr. Lin replied. 

Eventually, I forged a diet high in 
fruits and vegetables, low in fat, con- 
taining foods generally considered to 
have some anti-cancer activity: green tea 
and licorice-root tea; foods high in beta- 
carotene such as sweet potatoes, can- 
taloupe and carrots; garlic; vegetables 
like broccoli and cabbage; rye bread and 
crackers; strawberries; kiwi fruit. And 
someumes I cheated. 

Dr. Lin also suggested it would be 


76 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL -— MARCH 1994 


Mii 2 


came. “I never felt anything at all when 
you took my pulse.” 

She had an odd look on her face, as if 
she were pursing her lips so as not to 
laugh. Finally, she said diplomatically, 
“He must be a very sensitive young 
man. I never feel these things with my 
doctor either.” 


he spring after my chemotherapy 

treatments had ended, I decided to 
work on my garden an activity I have 
always loved. But this year, 1t was even 
more important. I got the spade from 
the shed and went into the yard. Be- 
cause I had neglected the fall cleanup, 
the garden was in a sorry state. 

I had never been a very efficient gar- 
dener. Because my work as an editor de- 
mands clarity and decisiveness, I 
enjoyed gardening differently: puttering, 
pawing at things, getting stained with 
earth and soaked with water, generally 
messing around. My vegetables never 
found themselves in straight rows: Baby 

















































plants meandered and strayed. — 
As a result of these odd h 
hours in the garden were full o 
es. On this particular morning, I f 
tiny strand of parsley nestled a 
some sprouting onion tops; a col 
carrots left over from last year’s 
pushing their energy into fresh, 
green fronds. 
As I spaded the remarkably 
yielding earth, I paused conti 
make decisions. There were d 
clumps of onions. Some I dug 
I left in place. The mint was 
knew it tended to take over coi 
so I could uproot every plant, | 
that the bouquets of the fragr 
were bound to pop up later, and I 
decide then to let one mound flour 
‘Then there were some vibrar 
strawberry plants. I had dug 1 
patch the previous year because it 
ed very few fruits. But, now, the 
so full of life. I just couldn’t mé 
my mind about them. First, ’'d 
tecth and spade one up, tossing i 
like a weed. Then, I'd dig car 
around another. Finally, Pd rese 
of the orphans I'd uprooted and 
ly replant it. 
I knew, of course, that the 
would go much faster with a R 
but I couldn’t bear the thought 
ing up the myriad earthworms wk 
going about their job of aerating tt 
With a weathered wooden st 
traced a furrow in the earth ] 
fence. Then I poured some see 
sugar snap peas into the palm 
hand, and began placing them ¢ 
one into the trough. I pushed th 
into place over them, patting a 
ing it like a kid playing in sand 
beach. Farther into the garden, 
same for the carrot seeds. It was § 
to imagine a full-blown carrot cor 
in cach of these tiny grains. 
them was an act of faith. 
My last round of tests—a mé 
gram, lung X ray and several! 
tests——had revealed nothing thre 
My doctors had said they were f 
with my progress and optimisti¢ 
my prognosis. I’d be going in fe 
every few months and continuing 
Chinese herbs. 
I leaned on my spade and reste 
ment. I thought about how last ye 
bris--the rotting leaves and ste 
fruits—would fertilize the tendet 
of this year’s garden. I thought ak 
blind worms pushing through the 
of soil and reaching filaments | 
And I thought about this past ye 
odd flashes of pure joy, the const 
that underlay my daily living and 
acute with every freckle, cough, 
or misspoken word. And I tho 
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HEALTH 





THE 


«WILLPOWER 


We've all been taught that willpower is 
all it takes to lose weight successfully. But 
the latest research shows that this elusive 
quality may do more harm than good. 
By Lynn Harris 








eah Vetter,* 
seven-year-old systems 


a thirty- 


analyst from Charlotte, 
North Carolina, battled 
weight problems for 
to find herself 


years, only trapped 


in the yo-yo dieting cycle. “I would 
lose a hundred pounds and gain 
back one hundred twenty or one 
hundred fifty,” All the 
while, Leah blamed herself, think- 


ing that she could lose the pounds 


she admits. 


for good if only she had more 
willpower. After all, willpower 1s 
what it takes to stick to and get 
through a diet, right? 

Wrong. 

What zs willpower, anyway? John 
Ph.D., director of the Nu- 
trition Research Clinic at Baylor 


Foreyt, 
College of Medicine, in Houston, 


and co-author of Living Without 
*Name has bee 


Qn J ADIEC’ HOME I OLIRNAIL 


n changed 


Dieting (Harrison Publish- 
ing, 1992), says that psy- 
chologically speaking, we 
We 


don’t know for sure. 


what we think it is—such as 
passing up a candy bar that 
you really want—but, he 
says, “we 
know what’s causing it.” 
Yet we continue to buy 
into the myth that 
willpower is the bottom line to suc- 
cessful dieting. Sue Luke, M.S 
R.D., a registered dietitian anid 
spokesperson for the American D1- 
etetic Association, blames the bar- 
rage of quick-fix diet books and 
products for perpetuating that no- 


simply don’t 


raw 


tion. “Because of all these promo- 
* she asserts, “many of us 
have expectations: ‘Gee, if I do it 
right—if I have enough willpower, 
if fm a good enough person—I 


tions, 


should be able to lose two to three 
pounds a week.’ No way!” 

What the experts do agree on is 
that willpower work. 
“Hunger will always overwhelm 
willpower in the long run,” says 
Foreyt. ‘Thomas A. Wadden, 
Ph.D., director of the Weight and 
Eating Disorders Program at the 
University of Pennsylvania School 
yf Medicine, in Philadelphia, 


doesn’t 


says, 


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“Willpower presents no strategies 
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toughing it out.” 

What’s more, relying oO 
willpower can do more harm than 
good. We tend to think of willpow- 
er as an internal force that natural- 
ly occurs in virtuous, disciplined 
and something we weaker 
folks don’t have. With that im 
mind, when we say yes to a piece 
of cheesecake we think we 
shouldn’t eat, it’s easy to think of ii 
as giving in, and blame ourselves! 
for being “bad” or out of control: 
From there, it’s usually just a mat- 
ter of ume before we give up onl 
and ourselves. 








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o-willpower diet 
ed 


ine specialist Howard M. 
o, M.D., “We try to get people 
re choices, to make them aware 
r triggers so they learn how to 
th things differently. And all of a 
i, the things we’ve taught them 
the course of a weight-loss pro- 
tick with them afterward, and 
ianage to keep the weight off. 
re learned something they can 
ever.” 

\w are some common dieting 
yas that might derail you—and 
le solutions. Happily, none of 
avolves gritting your teeth and 
willpower will carry you through. 


n’t give up chocolate-chip cookies— 
my downfall every time. 
vy all means don’t give them up, 
say. Janet Polivy, Ph.D., pro- 
of psychology and psychiatry at 
versity of Toronto, explains 
s only makes the treat more al- 
“The more you restrain your- 
e more likely you are to break 
and overeat.” Adds Foreyt, 
1ever want to forbid anything. 
‘ter to try incorporating foods 
r eating plan rather than giving 
p completely.” 
her words, eat your favorite food 
aed intervals that are reasonable 
2 you and your diet. For exam- 
ian Hirshen, fifty-seven, an edu- 
| therapist in Vancouver, British 
yia, followed an exercise regimen 
“it, but treated herself to one hot- 
‘sundae per month. “It was pleas- 
“self in a controlled way,” she 
vad though she would have con- 
his treat plan indefinitely, Vivian 
‘ierself craving her gooey sundaes 
‘ie cut back to one every other 
| then every third month, before 
| lly giving them up altogether. 
} ake it easier to stick to a regimen, 
'<pose yourself to temptation un- 
-rily. Instead of bringing home a 
of ice cream and a jar of fudge 
ad forcing yourself to resist them 
th, go to a restaurant. That way, 
| dae—or nachos or french fries— 
‘ven more of a special treat. 
| point is worth emphasizing: Do 
‘yer to eryoy the food. Don’t think 
‘a cheat or a guilty pleasure, but 
itt of your plan. Says Sue Luke, 
tas one of your true pleasures in 
: it slowly and savor it.” 


rropping a couple of pounds, | 
»auraged when | can’t seem to lose 
re. 

ttern is quite common and abso- 
‘normal. Most important, it 
mean that you’ve blown it. In 
| 
| 


fact, explains Luke, there’s a physiologi- 
cal reason behind getting stuck at a diet 
plateau. The first few pounds lost tend 
to be mainly water, and only then does a 
diet start to trim the fat—which comes 
off much more slowly. So, what may 
look to you like something you’re doing 
wrong may actually be your body work- 
ing normally. 

Since there’s nothing to be fixed here, 
congratulate yourself for what you have 
accomplished so far—then keep plug- 
ging. “Keep a record of your weight 
change each week, and try to do some- 
thing to acknowledge it,” recommends 
Wadden. “This can be as simple as 
telling someone close to you about it, or 
rewarding yourself in small ways—buy- 
ing that new CD or going to a film.” 


1 do great all day, but then | always pig 
out around four o'clock. 

For many people, these late-afternoon 
cravings are natural, especially when 
they’ve skipped a meal or eaten an early 
lunch. “Don’t go longer than five hours 
without eating,” says Luke. “Plan on 
having a snack—something you enjoy 
that’s also nourishing—and have it be- 
fore you get famished. Don’t wait until 
you’re so hungry that you’ll grab what- 
ever isn’t nailed down.” 

Think, too, of what you’re usually do- 
ing at that hour. Is that the time when 
work becomes most stressful—or most 
boring—and you find yourself searching 
for any available food as a distraction? 
Are you home alone with nothing to 
keep you from the fridge? In any case, 
says Foreyt, find an activity that will take 
you away from that situation, even for a 
few minutes. In addition to the snack, 
for instance, try taking a brisk walk. 


I bring light, healthful lunches to work—but 
if someone brings in doughnuts or other 
treats, | can’t resist. 

To start, don’t skip breakfast, stresses 
Luke. Then, when the box of pastries is 
passed around the workplace in the 
morning, it'll be easier to say to your- 
self, “No, I don’t need that; I just had a 
good meal.” 

Keep a steady supply of nutritious 
snacks on hand, too, so you won’t feel 
deprived when a co-worker offers to 
share a bag of potato chips. Erica 
Heller, twenty-seven, of Charlestown, 
Massachusetts, used this method to 
lose—and keep off—sixty-five pounds. 
“At my desk, I’d always have food 
around, like rice cakes or carrots, for 
when other people were eating junk,” 
she says. 

Leah Vetter’s method is somewhat 
unusual, but for her, it works: She keeps 
a bag of M&M’s at her desk. “What I’m 


doing is cutting down on the feelings of 


deprivation,” she says. “I know the 
M&Mv’s are there if I need (continued) 


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no-willpower diet 


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though it might be two weeks be- 
‘eat any.” 

course, you can also designate 
shnut days” once or twice a week. 
the office snacks on those occa- 
and you’ll crave them less the rest 
time. 


sy to stick to my diet at home, but 
fattening food is served at parties, 
power goes out the window. 

olunteer “ambassador” for her lo- 
aamber of commerce, Deanna 
illier, of Hampton Falls, New 
shire, attends “an awful lot of for- 
ffairs with a lot of yammy food 
it,” she says. At one recent party, 
1a, fifty-four, admits she felt guilty 
sating several caviar-and-cream- 
» appetizers: “My nutritionist told 
at wasn’t so bad, but I thought I 


was really breaking down.” 

The nutritionist was right. On special 
occasions, there’s no need to deprive 
yourself entirely of the foods you like or 
to feel guilty afterward. Again, it’s a 
matter of thinking ahead. “Sometimes 
you plan to overeat, to increase your 
calories compared to what they are dur- 
ing the week,” says Wadden. “The most 
important thing is that you create differ- 
ent expectations, so that when you do 
eat more, it’s acceptable—you don’t feel 
like youw’re destroying your diet or that 
you’re losing control.” 

When you know you’ll be eating more 
at a party, you might also schedule some 
extra exercise or make different food 
choices for the rest of the day or week. 
These adjustments won’t directly cancel 
out the additional calories, but what’s 
more important is feeling you can fit in 
some festivity. a 


Lynn Harris ts a writer based in Boston. 








Long-term diet strategies 


methods in this story can help you negotiate the toughe 
resolve. But sticking to a diet also means looking at things from a broad- 
2rspective. Here are some tips that will help make the so 
of a normal day. 
eo for a goal. Don't be vague about what you want to accomplish 
-when. Choose an approximate period of time for your diet 
‘mate, reasonable goal weight. You may or may not achieve precisely 
- you set out fo do, but, more important, 
ep in mind, though, 1 that the most Si ecesetil healthy and lasting “diets” 
Nictually permanent. overall lifestyle changes. Think of this goal period as 
hy to get started, not as a quick, temporary fix. 
ind a buddy. A supportive friend can serve as a morale booster for 
mes when you wonder whether you'll ever be able to shed those last 


’ feel more like part o 






dounds. 


lys Sue Luke, 
1 take willpower. It 


»ok at food choices in terms of your goal. |f you find yoursel! 
toface with a triple-chocolate mousse cake, Sue Luke suggests you ask 
elt: “VVhat am | doing? How is it helpful toward | my goal? What else 
1| do? What am | going to do?” When you answer these four questions 
reference to a goal, you shift the emphasis away trom the concepts of 
ower and of being “bad.” Within this framework, even if you do decide 
ita slice of cake, you can still find a way to make it consistent with your 
dlan (it could, for instance, replace that month's hottudge sundae). 
jut it on paper. Keeping a journal of your weight-loss ups and downs 
mly helps acknowledge your good days, but recording wha 
g the bad days will keep you from ignoring the problem times or berat 
yourself when they occur. As you go over the entries, ask yourself: 
sh strategies are working, and which aren't? Can you detect 
you hadn't noticed before? What can you learn from als 
b> it for you. When Deanna Dorvillier went on a diet “ 
n't last. But ever since she decided that a diet would make her feel better 
} t herself, she’s lost thirty-four pounds and counting. What's 
, Which diet is more inspiring to stick to—one t fe might impress 
Par one that aftirms that you deserve to look, feel and ts hec Ihye Ultimate: 
“the goal is healthful eating and taking care of yourself. That 
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WOINall 


We're frazzled, fatigued—and sick of being tired. But there 
are easy ways to make sure you get the sleep you need. 


By Mary C. Hickey 


t two A.M., Patrice Lane*—a the collective mood of American wom- 





thirty-eight-year-old wife, en of the nineties, it’s sheer exhaustion. 
mother and attorney from  ‘Today’s female baby boomers are do- 
Bethesda, Maryland—tosses ing more than any generation before 
and turns in her bed them as they adroitly balance the de- 
It’s been a couple of hours since mands of work and family. But they 
she collapsed into a much-needed may be paying a steep price. Millions 
sleep, but her toddler’s whimper woke of busy women complain that 
her, and now she’s unable to relax. they don’t get enough sleep, and 
Her mind races with thoughts of the as a result they feel 
upcoming day: the calls she has to — tired all the time. 
make for the nursery-school fund- (continued on page 904A 
raiser, the case she’s working on at 
the office, the laundry that still hasn’t 
been done. As she watches the num- 
bers flip past on her digital bed- 


side clock, another worry eat 





weighs on her: When will she 
ever get enough sleep to feel 
rested and refreshed? 

Finally, after an hour 
or so, Lane drifts back 
into dreamland. But all 
too soon, it’s SIX A.M., 
and the alarm clock 
sounds 


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The exhausted woman 
continued from page 86 


“ 


Fatigue and exhaustion are the 
most common complaints that women 
have,” says Linda Sebastian, M.N., di- 
rector of the women’s program at the 
Menninger Clinic, a health facility in 
Topeka, Kansas. 

Sleep, like food and drink, is a biologi- 
cal imperative. But in a society that offers 
round-the-clock temptations—early- 
morning exercise classes, late-night talk 
shows, twenty-four-hour supermarkets 
it is a need many people choose to ig- 
nore; in fact, they’re rather proud of 
doing so. “Our society doesn’t put a high 
premium on sleep,” says Stephen Gidro- 
Frank, a sleep researcher at the 
Sleep/Wake Disorder Center at Monte- 
fiore Medical Center, in New York City. 
Rather, “People tend to brag about how 
little sleep they can get by on. To admit 
that you need to sleep is considered a 
sign of weakness.” 

Even those people who do try to get 
the right amount of shut-cye are often 
so stressed by the demands of daily life 
that they can’t slumber peacefully. 
“Stress isn’t conducive to restful sleep,” 
says Nicholas Rosenlicht, M.D., assis- 


State University, in University Park, 
34.5 percent of women said they had 
trouble sleeping through the night, 
compared with only 6 percent of men. 
In the same study, 33 percent of wom- 
en said they felt excessively sleepy at 
least one day per month, compared to 8 
percent of men. 

In part, the explanation for this may 
be physiological. At virtually every stage 
of a woman’s life, there are hormonal 
factors that get in the way of a good 
night’s sleep. During pregnancy —and 
again during the postpartum period- 
hormone imbalances can contribute to 
sleep disturbances, says Donald W. 
Greenblatt, M.D., director of the Sleep 
Disorder Center of Rochester, New 
York. Menopausal women experience 
similar imbalances—and, consequently, 
loss of sleep, he adds. 

New research suggests that insomnia 
is one of the key symptoms of premen- 
strual syndrome. Scientists at the Uni- 
versity of Arizona, in Tucson, found 
that, in the days preceding their men- 
strual periods, women took longer to fall 
asleep and that the quality of their sleep 
declined—most likely because of bio- 
chemical changes. 

But the reasons for the exhaustion 


Doctors say that women 
are far more likely than 


men to experience sleep 
difficulties of all kinds. 


tant professor of psychiatry at the Uni- 
versity of Cahfornia at Davis. “If you’re 
ruminating over the events of the day, or 
if you’ve got lots of things on your 
mind, it can be difficult to fall asleep or 
stay asleep.” 

So its no surprise, then, that Ameri- 
cans are a drowsy lot. Studies show 
that as much as 35 percent of the pop- 
ulation don’t get enough sleep. “Sleep 
deprivation is pervasive throughout our 
society,” says a 1993 report of the Na- 
tional Commission on Sleep Disorders 
Research, a panel established by 
Congress to investigate the sleep prob- 
lems in our society. 


WOMEN AND SLEEPLESSNESS 


It is a problem that is disproportionate- 
ly borne by women. Doctors say that 
women are far more likely than men to 
experience sleep difficulties of all kinds. 
In a survey by scientists at Pennsylvania 


90 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - MARCH 1994 


that many women experience go far 
beyond mere physiology. Experts say 
that Americans in general—and wom- 
en in particular now enjoy less 
leisure time than almost any genera- 
tion before them. According to the 
National Commission on Sleep Disor- 
ders Research, the average American 
has added 158 more hours per year to 
his work schedule since 1969. For 
working mothers, the increase has 
been a whopping 241 hours. 

For some, that has meant sacrificing 
sleep. Laurie Schmidt, thirty-one, is a 
full-time nurse and the mother of year- 
old twins. She works the midnight to 
eight A.M. shift at North Shore Univer- 
sity Hospital, in Long Island, New 
York, a forty-five-minute drive from 
her home. 

The schedule does offer advantages. 
“My husband is with the twins at night, 
so I’m not working to pay a baby-sitter, 




















































like a lot of people I know are. 
plains. “And I have my days free 
them to the park, to go grocet 
ping, to do things around the f 
EXELrcise: | ac 

Unfortunately, that doesn 
much downtime. “I’d say I ge 
three or four hours of sleep ont 
that I’m working,” Schmidt say: 


MAKING SLEEP A PRIORITY 
What should Schmidt and the 1 
of other women who are just 
do about their exhausting I 
simplest solution—and the 
often overlooked—is to make § 
priority in your life. “You have 
ize that you'll feel better and 
function more effectively if you 
sleep you need,” says Margar 
Ph.D., director of the Sleep 
order Center at New York FE 
Cornell Medical Center, in 
Plains, New York. 

Experts emphasize that skim 
steep—even by as little as an he 
a*night—has consequences. ‘ 
we can get away without sleep,” 
says, “but the fact is, we can 
something the body needs.” 

Lethargy and irritability 
most obvious effects of sleep ¢ 
tion. “When I’m really tired, 
have much energy, my temper 
and I’m not as patient with 1 
dren as I’d like to be; 73sam 
Slome, a New York City vy 
mother of two daughters, aj 
and seven, who gets about six ] 
sleep a night. 

But the consequences of t 
sleep can be more serious than 
feeling dazed or acting cranky 
have shown that people who @ 
are less efficient and more likely 
mistakes—some potentially dea 
cording to the Department of 
portation, as many as 400,00 
accidents each year—about & 
them involving fatalities—may 
ed to sleepiness. 

And evidence is mounting @ 
deprivation can lead to health 
Researchers from the Universi 
fornia at San Diego, for instar 
that certain immune-system 
creases as much as 30 percent 
nights when people miss three 
sleep or more. 


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How do you know if you’r 
enough sleep? How many ho 
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amount of sleep necessary va 
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as much as ten. The majority of 
healthy adults, however, need about 
eight hours to feel rested and alert 
during the day. 

“You can tell if you’re getting 
enough sleep if you wake up easily in 
the mornings,” Greenblatt says. “If 
you need an 
alarm clock to get 
you out of bed, 
you're probably 
at least a little bit 
sleep deprived.” 

Another sign of 
sleep deprivation, 


surprisingly: 
falling asleep with- 
in a few minutes 
after hitting the 
pillow. (It takes 
the average well- 
rested person 
about ten minutes 
to settle down.) 
Snoozing during 
the day and fecling 
generally lethargic 
and drowsy are 
also indicators. “A 
person who’s get 
ting enough sleep 
feels awake and 
reasonably alert all 
day long,” Green 
blatt says. 
Ideally, you 
should go to bed 
when you’re tired 
and not wake up 
until you do so 
naturally. “‘Vhe 
amount of sleep 
your body needs ts 
the amount. of 
sleep you get on 
Vacation or on a 
week when you 
don’t have to wake 
up on any kind of 
schedule,” says 
Greenblatt. 
Sounds great, 
doesn’t it? But, 
for most of us, 
that’s unrealistic. 





Life, after all, is 
not a perpetual holiday. However, ex- 
perts say that you should strive to set 
your bedtime at a reasonable hour, 


and that you shouldn’t force yourself 


to get up any earlier than you have to. 
Eleven P.M. to seven A.M. IS a reason- 
able schedule to aim for, suggests 
Gidro-Frank. 

If you feel you need more sleep than 
you can realistically get during the work- 
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on days off. “You can make up for a 
short-term sleep debt that you incur 
during the week by getting more sleep 
on the weekends,” says Gidro-Frank. 
Napping is another way to compen- 
sate for lost sleep. Anne Boynton, a 
twenty-cight-year-old loan officer and 
mother of a toddler, from Springfield, 
Massachusetts, says she gets only about 
six hours’ sleep on most weeknights 


on weekends, according to sle¢ 
perts. “If you have trouble s 
you should try to maintain af 
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though she needs eight to feel rested 
and relaxed. ‘fo ease her exhaustion, 
she tries to nap for a couple of hours 
on weekend afternoons. “It’s a real 
treat,” she says. 

Sleep experts say that the best tume 
for a siesta 1s early afternoon, before 
three P.M. Later naps can make it more 
difficult for you to sleep well at night. 
People who have chronic insomnia 
shouldn't nap at all or even sleep late 


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Mt are they effective? 

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yr one thing, many sleeping pills 
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sy the next day, says James Pell, 

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»onetheless, many experts say 
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stfer relief from insomnia. Perl of 
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“ilk to your doctor about the best 
medication for you. Make sure to 
im or her about any other drugs 

nay be taking. Remember to ask 
long before bedtime to take the 

Be sure to alert him to any side ef 

‘you notice. 

.3e the lowest dose that works for 
If you take pills to help you sleep 

ga crisis, slop using them as soon 

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Meditate, listen to soothing music, take 
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calm down. It’s best not to read or listen 
to music while in bed, though. Sleep ex- 
perts say that beds should be reserved 
for sex and sleep only. ‘That way, your 
mind associates your bed with sleep 
ing—making it casicr for that to be your 
primary activity there. 

Never lie in bed worrying. If you're 
having a hard time sleeping, don’t lie 
there ruminating about problems. 
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the next day. This technique can help 
ease your mind and make it easier to 
fall asleep. 
Try relaxation techniques. Some 
people find sleep can be induced 
through relaxation exercises, such as 
deep breathing or meditation. ‘Pry in- 
haling and exhaling deeply and slowly. 
Or you might try tensing and then re- 
leasing all the muscles in your body, 
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This can help alleviate tension and 
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My kids were becoming rude and sarcastic. So | went to the source . . . and turned it off. 
This is the story of how we tuned out the TV and tuned in to each other. By Mary Mohler 





c were never exactly 
TV addicts. I doubt 
my children—lLhzabeth, 
ten, David, cight, and 
Teddy,  six—watched 
even half as long as the average 
kid, which, according to the Amer- 
ican Psychological Association 
(APA), is four hours per day. And 
we didn’t turn off the “VY because 
of the violence—though I don’t 
know a parent in America who 
doesn’t think there’s too much of 
it. (Phe APA estimates that the av- 
erage child has viewed 8,000 ‘TV 
murders 
violence by the end of grade 
school.) What finally made me 
throw in the cable was the way my 
children started to copy the irrev 
erent one-liner kind of patter they 
hear on kids’ programming and 


prime-time sitcoms. ‘Vhey'd be- 


and 100,000 incidents of 


come smart-mouthed 
and insolent to me, 
verbally brutal to 
each other, and 
there was a feeling 
that 
was no longer even 


conversation 


a genuine interac- 
tion, but a kind of 
scripted reaction. 
Here’s a sample 
of what [| mean: 
When I got home 
from work one night 
I suggested to my 
bright, capable ten- 
year-old that it was 
about time to get to 
her homework. She 
turned on me with 
sarcasm oozing 
from every pore. “Does the word 
duh mean anything to your” And 
then there’s the language—*‘bitch” 
and “asshole” are legit on televi- 
sion, and my sons fecl justified in 
these 
words. Now, | 
don’t suppose my a a 
daughter is the 


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first preadolescent 
to diss her moth- 
er, nor my sons 
the first to experi- 
ment with bad 
language, but do | 
have to put up 
with program- 
ming that feeds 
their baser in- 
stincts? And then 
there’s the sex— 
comedy program- 


ming averages a 


94 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL MARCH 1994 


David, eight, Teddy, six, and 
Elizabeth, ten, with their mom 
(managing editor Mary Mohler) 
adjust to life without TV 








































sexual Joke every four minutes, 
and sexual scenes or innuendos 
are all over prime time. I’m not a 
prude, but I do want my children 
to have a childhood. 

When [ brought up my gripes at 
an articles meeting, my colleagues 
agreed-that programming is at an 
all-time low, and that between the 
sex, the violence, the materialism 
and the verbal sniping, they’d had 
it with “VV, too. I jokingly won- 
dered whether my children would 
be nicer, more genuine, if I simply 
turned it off. Then we got seri- 
ous, and decided someone really 
should undertake the experiment. 
everyone looked at me. Some- 
how, in the heat of the moment, I 
volunteered. 

At first | thought I'd try two 
weeks, starting November 1. Then 
I decided it would be fitting to 
schedule our return to ‘V-land on 
‘Thanksgiving Day—I was sure 
we'd all be more than grateful to 
have it back. As it 
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more surprised. 

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TV is not especially healthy for 
They rolled their eyes as if to saygy 
other one of her harebrained ideas, 
they were pretty good sports. 4 
about Nintendo?” said Ted. “Nog 
said. “Videos?” Liz questioned ho 
ly. “None,” I said. “How about 
in the movie theater?” asked D 
“Yes,” I said, and they were huge 
lieved to have won one. 

October 31, Halloween 

The eve of D-Day. I let Teddy 
David have an extra half hour 0 
toons because, as they pleaded, it 
be their last. Liz got to watch a Gq 
bo movie, and then I pulled the « 
off the back of both TV sets. 
November 1, Monday 

Called home to see how everyo 
faring. Six-year-old Ted had fig 
out that I had removed the conne 
cables and wanted to know w 
put them. Liz complained that 
weten’t for me they’d now be 
ing Saved By The Bell. 1 would 
felt worse about this if I hadn’t 
David actually practicing piano i 
background. 

Later: Home about six-thirty. 
the dog for a walk; David, witho 
TV to turn to, volunteered to 
along, and we simply talked. Us 
when I get home the TV is on, so 
than the hellos, we don’t chat mug@ 
til homework time. 

‘Tomorrow is Election Day, a 
kids have no school. I imagine it’s 
to be tough to have a day at home 
out TV, so tonight I got on the ¥ 
and made arrangements for all of 
to either go to a friend’s house of 
someone over. 

I don’t mind a bit not seeing 
[Letterman. Really. I’m fine. 
November 2, Tuesday 
David woke up early and started 
nizing his baseball cards. I am mg 
tarily lulled into thinking this 1s 
to be easy. Later, all hell broke 
David’s playdate fell through, a 
spent the afternoon tormenting 
her guest. They called me eve 
minutes -‘““Mom, he won’t stop 
ering me and April”; “Mom 
socked me in the arm”; “He kick 
first” then, when I succeeded i 
ing them all furious, they left the} 
off the hook in the bedroom 
Josephine, the baby-sitter, wouldg 
it. I kept pushing the redial bY 
only to get a busy signal. I was I 
kept thinking that what they nm 
was a nice mesmerizing movi 
they'd all get along. 

‘Tonight we had a family meef 
explained that I can’t work if th 
me constantly; nor can I work if } 


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ugh to them and I’m worrying. 
-anew rule: one phone call a day 
3, unless there’s blood. And no 
. the phone off the hook. 
vber 3, Wednesday 
my home bore a curious resem- 
‘0 Sunnybrook Farm. David and 
cticed piano in the afternoon. 
got home, David and I sat at the 
» ing our work, while Liz read a 
1. Teddy. No one even mentioned 
,an hardly believe it. How long is 
ig to last? 
ber 4, Thursday 
.: David called me aside to say 
. had something important to tell 
}; science teacher had shown a 
| m clip in class, and he wanted to 
) that would ruin our experiment. 
|| thought it would be okay, since 
» choolwork. Liz reminds me— 
) naliciously, I think—that it’s 
j: night. She knows it’s one of my 
J) never-misses. “Right,” I say 
| [have other plans.” She smirks. 
¢ o to bed early. 
n ber 5, Friday 
i piano teacher said he’d had a 
) sson. Music to my ears. After 
); we went straight to East Hamp- 
{the weekend, a three-hour train 
. iey fought all the way, some- 


yliey seem to be doing more of 


 » haven’t been watching TV. It’s 
fj me crazy, but on the other 
{ occurs to me that there may be 
| ng about the teasing and the 
« g for position that they need to 
 , I shudder thinking of the long 
‘1 ahead. 
poer 6, Saturday 

nd Ted woke up early and, in- 
) watching hours of nonstop car- 
h got out the emergency- 
»oirdhouse kits I brought. This is 
/than I had imagined. They 
» practically all morning, ham- 
: away. David read the instruc- 
-d actually helped Ted with his 
» zing! I went out and got bagels, 
= hung out and talked. In the af- 
!- we went to the supermarket (we 
» ple coming for dinner). When 
»» home, everybody pitched in to 
21 potatoes and apples (okay, I 
1 m—but at least they didn’t say, 
|) ainute; I’m watching some- 
. When we finished, Liz and 
 lecided to make menus for the 
They painstakingly drew pic- 
d wrote out a list of the food for 
ace at the table. 
#) the downside. The noise level, 
kids and our guests’, was unbe- 
, and it got worse as the night 
i. They ate, and then they ran 
and down, through the whole 
Ԥ 1. and out of the bedrooms, back 
‘tchen, laughing and shouting. It 
‘thmake for a leisurely adult gath- 





ering, but it made me look at one of the 
ways I use TV—as a pacifier. And I 
guess that on an occasional basis, there’s 
nothing wrong with that. But it must be 
terribly repressive, if this is what they'd 
do instead. 

After our guests had left and I went 
to tuck my children in, Ted said, “That 
was fun! Can they come for dinner 
again tomorrow?” 

November 7, Sunday 

David and Ted woke up and began 
whining immediately after breakfast. 
“There’s nothing to do,” they said. 
“We're bored.” We walked into town, 
collecting leaves on the way for a home- 
work project for Ted. David complained 
about being cold, and Liz stopped and 
helped him zip and snap his coat. ?'m 
not sure what this cooperation has to do 
with TV or no TV, but it happens about 
as often as Halley’s comet appears. 

Peace was short-lived. We hung out 
at the toy store, then came home for a 
major fight. I was tired and hungry; 
David was furious at not being able to 
buy anything, which soon turned into 
hating me, LHJ, this project. It took an 
hour to calm him down. Normally, 
when he loses it I let him chill out in 
front of the TV. This time we had a 
long talk about self-control. I’m sure 
this didn’t seem like a plus to David, 
but I felt good about it. When things re- 
turned to normal we lit a fire and all 
curled up on the sofa together. Liz and 
David both got out books (which for 
David is a first; he can read, but it’s a 
chore for him, not a pleasure). Teddy 
did his leaf project for school. 

On the way home we experienced 
what I can only describe as a miracle. 
David fell in love with the book he’d 
started reading in front of the fire. He 
read it all the way home, three hours on 
the train, and he walked into the apart- 
ment with his eyes still glued on the 
book. He’s never read a book at a sit- 
ting, or even on consecutive days, with- 
out prodding. I let him stay up until he 
finished it, at eleven. I really think this is 
going to be a new beginning for him. 
November 8, Monday 
On the way to school I suggested that 
no TV would be a good idea for school 
days even after the project was over, be- 
cause I was so pleased at the way they 
were doing homework and practicing pi- 
ano. I would have to say this was a 
strategic error—akin to saying they’ve 
responded so well to torture, ’'m going 
to torture them some more. They went 
nuts. “You’re the meanest mom in the 
whole world,” said Liz. I dropped it. 
November 10, Wednesday 
Worked until nine-thirty last night and 
tonight, but the kids were waiting up 
for me, and we read a story. Not a 
word about TV was mentioned. After 
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bed I called Paul, my ex-husband, to 
arrange details about their weekend 
with him. He was more than coopera- 
tive about the project—somehow I'd 
thought he’d object. 

November 12, Friday 

I called Paul to see how the children 
were doing. David spent the day playing 
at a friend’s house, then they all went to 
the library. Elizabeth got a dozen books 
for a project she’s doing on immigra- 
tion, and David got a rather ambitious 
seven, 
reading, picked out his own. 

November 14, Sunday 

Last night I actually had a TV dream— 
just like when I was quitting smoking I 
used to have cigarette dreams. I was 
watching TV and really loving it and 
feeling guilty as hell, afraid my kids 
would see me, and that I had simply 
thrown out all the work I'd put into 
quitting. When I woke up I first thought 
how absurd it 1s to repress such a harm- 
less desire. 
there’s not some biochemical reaction to 
quitting any habit—so that a dramatic 
alteration of the pattern sets off the 
withdrawal neurotransmitters. 

When I got home to New York City 
the children were all dancing to the 
CD Where in the World Is Carmen 
Sandiego? They went to Sunday school 
this morning, then to the park. David 
is almost finished with one of the 
books he picked out yesterday. It can- 
not be a coincidence that in the two 
weeks without TV his reading skills 
have just taken off! Before this, he’d 
never read anything that wasn’t as- 
signed, no matter how great the exam- 
ple or the incentive. Being thrown on 
his own resources for things to do has 
spurred him to great things. 
November 18, Thursday 
I can’t imagine where we ever found 
time to watch TV. This week, no one 
has mentioned it. 
we spend much more time together. In 
a sense I’m sure that’s true, because we 
don’t spend the fake time of watching 
TV together. I used to come home from 
work and beg a little time to relax by 
cuddling on the bed with them while 
they watched cartoons. Not that that’s 
such a bad thing to do, but I see now 
that its a phony kind of togetherness 
we’re cach in our own world, thinking 
different thoughts, not talking, not shar- 
ing, together only in body. It’s true that 
we do battle more now, but it seems to 
me a healthy kind of conflict, like we’re 
all more alive to differences. 

I also feel more confident about 
what’s going on in their lives and how to 
talk to them. When they were watching 
TV, I could never be sure what the 


Even ‘Ted, who’s on the brink of 


Then I began to wonder if 


I feel in general as if 


point of reference was —were they quot- 
ing someone or imitating someone, or 
was something happening here in our 
lives? When someone has an explosion 
of temper now, I feel that the referent is 
here in the family or at school, not in 
some sitcom version of life. 

November 20, Saturday 

David was having the worst time this 
morning. Only five days to go, and he 
was bored and edgy and cranky. Final- 
ly, he handed me a piece of paper with 
a picture of a person staring at a blank 
TV, with a note that said “Mom! I can’t 
stand it. I need ‘TV! Aaaaaaa!” We both 
burst out laughing, but later I think 
about this and think that the reason he 
sounds like a little addict is that TV is a 
kind of narcotic. In fact, there is no 
more potent drug in our lives than this 
TV set, and if I speak honestly, that’s 
how I use it. Kids acting crazy? Give 
them some of Mommy’s little helper. I 
know that sounds like an exaggeration; 
still, after an hour—-okay, sometimes 
two—in front of the tube, they have 





















that glazed, drugged look. Don 
wrong—I’m not swearing off T 
device to get a Moment to m 
think I'll be more conscious of 
doing and more sparing of its us 
November 21, Sunday 
We take in a movie this afterno 
it points up the fact that we d 
TV for the educational exper 
could be. After the movie, we 1 
discussing the characters and he 
behave and what we would have 
the same situation. I don’t 
but we never do that with TV. 

Later this evening, Liz was 
crazy for something to do ane 
wanted to watch TV. I dug out 
puter game, Ace Detective, 2 
happily pursued criminals. Eve 
she and David formed a detecti 
and played the game together. I 
they were looking at a screen, b 
were also reading, making choi 
deductions—playing an active 
than a passive role. Not to n 
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Would you like to 
ticipation is the hardest part 
none of you has to feel deprived. 


Here are some tips to get you going. 
1. Pick a workable starting date. For example, the week of spring vaee 
probably not an auspicious beginning, since the kids will have time € 
hands. Aim for a time when you know they'll be busy. 
2. Discuss the plan with your children well in advance, but be caret 
you discuss it. If you put it up for a vote, there’s no question you'll lo 
feel you don’t want a total ban, you can certainly ask for their prefe 
(for example: no TV on weeknights, but they can watch two hours Gf 
day and Sunday; or no TV, but a preapproved video list for weeken 
out in advance precisely what is permitted and what is not—videos, 
Nintendo, computer games—and why. | don't know many families wh 
to go completely cold turkey forever. There are good things on We 


just got to get control of the habit. 


3. Don't congratulate them on how well they're doing, or tell thems 
so happy with the situation that you may continue it indefinitely. Th 


an incentive. 


4. Planning is essential. If you're not sure how you can fill the lime, 
schedule. The afterschool hours are critical because they do need al 


to chill out. 


5. Be forewarned: Weekends are the toughest—for you. No more! 
bed while they watch cartoons. However, all kids love to draw, pall 
etc. You can leave interesting materials for them to fact aroun 
for older kids, a hammer and nails and some odds and ends of ¥ 
basket of supplies (scrap material, needle and thread, yarn), or a pair 
they can be trusted not to redecorate the house. Or, if you think fig 
more structured projects, there are very inexpensive and wondertul cra 
every toy store and dime store. (Go over the instructions with then 


bu ild, 


vance to minimize frustration. 


6. Play fair. If you're doing a total ban, you can’t watch either—not 


ter they've gone to bed. 


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shes, vaginal dryness and night sweats which may 
ise sleep disturbances. 
For millions of women, these symptoms are effec- 
ly treated with estrogen replacement therapy. 
And, the same treatment that relieves the 
nptoms of menopause can also help prevent 
eoporosis (brittle bones), a disease that develops 
ibout one of every four women over 50. 


iE CONNECTION BETWEEN 
ENOPAUSE AND OSTEOPOROSIS. 


After menopause, your body produces very little 
rogen. Without estrogen, your bones can become 
xile, more likely to break. 

In fact, half of the bone mass women lose ts lost 
he first seven years after menopause begins. 
iat’s more, bone loss is irreversible. But even if 
ae bone loss has occurred, estrogen can help pre- 
it further loss. So it’s important to ask your doctor 
ou’re at risk of developing brittle bones. 


YW WOULD YOU ANSWER THESE 
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Are you a postmenopausal woman? fs} CI 

Have you had a hysterectomy? C] CJ 


Have you been taking thyroid 
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out and take to your doctor. 


K YOUR DOCTOR IF ESTROGEN 
-ERAPY IS RIGHT FOR YOU. 


Regular weight bearing exercise and calcium 
mportant for everyone. However, for women at 

4 osteoporosis, they may not be enough. 

ogen, as part of a total treatment program including 
and exercise, can be an effective way to help 
tent osteoporosis. The estrogen doctors prescribe 
‘tis Premarin®. Premarin has been shown to 

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THE SIDE EFFECTS OF ESTROGEN 
SHOULD BE CONSIDERED. 


As with all drugs, there can be side effects with 
estrogen. One is the possibility of developing cancer 


of the uterus. Be sure to discuss this with your doctor. 
If you’ve had a hysterectomy, you don’t have this risk. 


When you ask your doctor whether you’re at risk 
for osteoporosis, it’s also important to inform him or 
her about all issues relating to your personal health 
and family health history. This history should 
include instances of cancer of the breast or uterus, 
unusual vaginal bleeding, abnormal blood clotting, 
or heart disease. 

While women entering menopause are not 
likely to become pregnant, estrogens should not be 
used during pregnancy because of possible risk to 
the fetus. 


SYMPTOMS OF MENOPAUSE WILL PASS. 


THE RISK OF OSTEOPOROSIS WON'T. 


If you’re one of the women at risk for osteoporo- 
sis, you need to find out about it. Your doctor may 
recommend estrogen replacement therapy. Premarin” 
is the most widely studied estrogen and the one doc- 
tors prescribe most. In fact, more than 7 million 


women in the U.S. alone rely on Premarin for the 
treatment of symptoms of menopause or as part of a 


program to help prevent osteoporosis. 


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BRIEF SUMMARY OF PRESCRIBING INFORMATION FOR THE PATIENT 


PREMARIN® Brand of conjugated estrogens tablets, USP 
This Summary describes when and how to use esirogens and the risks of estrogen treatment 


ESTROGEN DRUGS 

Estrogens have several important uses but also some risks. You must decide, with your doctor, whether the 
risks of estrogens are acceptable in view of their benefits. If you decide to start taking estrogens, check with 
your doctor to make sure you are using the lowest possible effective dose. The length of treatment with 
estrogens will depend upon the reason for use. This should also be discussed with your doctor 


USES OF ESTROGEN 

To reduce menopausal symptoms. Estrogens are hormones produced by the ovaries. The decrease in the 
amount of estrogen that occurs in all women, usually between ages 45 and 55, causes the menopause. 
Sometimes the ovaries are removed by an operation, causing “surgical menopause.” When the amount of 
estrogen begins to decrease, some women develop very uncomfortable symptoms, such as feelings of 
warmth in the face, neck, and chest or sudden intense episodes of heat and sweating (“hot flashes’). The 
use of drugs containing estrogens can help the body adjust to lower estrogen levels. 

Most women have none or only mild menopausal symptoms and do not need estrogens. Other women 
may need estrogens for a few months while their bodies adjust to lower estrogen levels, The majority of 
women do not need estrogen replacement for longer than six months for these symptoms 

To prevent brittle bones. After age 40, and especially after menopause, some women develop osteo- 
porosis. This is a thinning of the bones that makes them weaker and more likely to break, often leading to 
fractures of vertebrae, hip, and wrist bones. Taking estrogens after the menopause slows down bone loss 
and may prevent bones from breaking. Eating foods that are high in calcium (such as milk products) or tak- 
ing calcium supplements (1,000 to 1,500 milligrams per day) and certain types of exercise may also help 
prevent osteoporosis. 

Since estrogen use is associated with some risk, its use in the prevention of osteoporosis should be con- 
fined to women who appear to be susceptible to this condition. The following characteristics are often pre- 
sent in women who are likely to develop osteoporosis’ white race, thinness, and cigarette smoking 

Women who had their menopause by the surgical removal of their ovaries at a relatively young age are 
good candidates for estrogen replacement therapy to prevent osteoporosis. 

To treat certain types of abnormal uterine bleeding due to hormonal imbalance. 

To treat atrophic vaginitis (itching, burning, dryness in or around the vagina). 

To treat certain cancers. 

WHEN ESTROGENS SHOULD NOT BE USED 
Estrogens should not be used: 

Ounng pregnancy. Although the possibility is fairly small, there is a greater risk of having a child born with 
a birth detect if you take estrogens during pregnancy. A male child may have an increased risk of develop 
ing abnormalities of the urinary system and sex organs. A female child may have an increased risk of devel- 
oping cancer of the vagina or cervix in her teens or twenties, Estrogen is not effective in preventing miscar 
nage (abortion) 

if you are breast feeding. Many drugs are excreted in human milk and can be passed on to your baby 
Therefore, estrogen therapy should be used only when your doctor decides it is clearly necessary. 

If you have had any heart or circulation problems. Estrogen therapy should be used only after consulta- 
tion with your physician and only in recommended doses. Patients with a tendency for abnormal blood clot- 
ting should avoid estrogen use. This includes patients who currently have clots in the leg (thrombophlebitis), 
or any other part of the body (thromboembolic disorder). (See below.) 

If you have had undiagnosed vaginal bleeding. If you have ever had abnormal bleeding from the vagina 
estrogens should not be used unless you have talked to your physician about this problem. 

If you have had cancer. Since estrogens increase the risk of certain cancers, you should not take estro 
gens if you have ever had cancer of the breast or uterus. In certain situations, your doctor may choose to 
use estrogen in the treatment of breast cancer 

When they are ineffective. Sometimes women experience nervous symptoms or depression during 
menopause. There is no evidence that estrogens are effective for such symptoms. You may have heard that 
taking estrogens for long periods (years) after menopause will keep your skin soft and supple and keep you 
feeling young. There is no evidence that this is so and such long-term treatment may carry serious risks 


DANGERS OF ESTROGENS 

Cancer of the uterus. The risk of cancer of the uterus increases the longer estrogens are used and when 
larger doses are taken. One study showed that when estrogens are discontinued, this increased risk of can- 
cer seems to fall off quickly. In another study, the persistence of risk was demonstrated for 10 years after 
stopping estrogen treatment. Because of this risk, it is important to take the lowest effective dose of estro 
gen and to take it only as long as you need it. There is a higher risk of cancer of the uterus if you are over- 
weight, diabetic, or have high blood pressure 

If you have had your uterus removed (total hysterectomy), there is no danger of developing cancer of the 
uterus. |f you have your uterus, please refer to the section titled “OTHER INFORMATION." 

Cancer of the breast. The majority of studies have shown no association with the usual doses used for 
estrogen replacement therapy and breast cancer. Some studies have suggested a possible increased inci- 
dence of breast cancer in those women taking estrogens for prolonged periods of time and especially if 
higher doses are used 


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Regular breast examinations by a health professional and self-examination are recommended 
receiving estrogen therapy, as they are for all women. ’ 
Gallbladder disease. Women who use estrogens after menopause are more likely to develop g 
disease needing surgery than women who do not use estrogens. 
Abnormal blood clotting. Taking estrogens may increase the risk of blood clots. These clots ¢ can ¢ 
a stroke, heart atlack or pulmonary embolus, any of which may be fatal. 
Heart disease. Large doses of estrogen in men have been shown to increase the risk of cet 
diseases. This may not necessarily be true in women. in order to avoid the theoretical risk of high 
the dose of estrogen you take should not exceed the dose recommended by your doctor. } 
Excess calcium in the blood. Taking estrogens may lead to severe hypercalcemia in women with b 
and/or bone cancer ' 
SIDE EFFECTS 
In addition to the risks listed above, the following side effects have been reported with estrogen use: 
¢ Nausea, vomiting; pain, cramps, swelling, or tenderness in the abdomen. 
Yellowing of the skin and/or whites of the eyes 
Breast tenderness or enlargement 
Enlargement of benign tumors of the uterus 
Breakthrough bleeding or spotting 
Change in amount of cervical secretion 
Vaginal yeast infections. 
Retention of excess fluid. This may make some conditions worsen, such as asthma, epilepsy, 
heart disease, or kidney diseas> 
A spotty darkening of the skin, particularly on the face; reddening of the skin; skin rashes, 
Worsening of porphyria 
Headache, migraines, dizziness, faintness, or changes in vision (including intolerance to contact 
Mental depression 
Involuntary muscle spasms 
Hair loss or abnormal hairiness 
Increase or decrease in weight 
Changes in sex drive 
Possible changes in blood sugar 


REDUCING RISK OF ESTROGEN USE 
If you decide to take estrogens, ycu can reduce your risks by carefully monitoring your treatment. 

See your doctor regularly. While you are taking estrogens, it is important that you visit your 
least once a year for a physical examination. Special attention should be given to blood pressure, b 
abdomen, and pelvic organs. A Pap smear should be taken and tested at this visit. If members of 
ily have had breast cancer or if you have ever had breast nodules or an abnormal mammogram 
ray), you may need to have more ‘requent breast examinations. Also be sure to let your doctor know: 
have ever had liver or kidney disease, as this may affect the decision to use estrogen. ; 

Reevaluate your need for estrogens. You ap your doctor should reevaluate your need for estroge 
least every six months 
Be alert for signs of trouble. Report these or r any other unusual side effects to your doctor i 
Abnormal bleeding from the vagina 
Pains in the calves or chest, a Sudden shortness of breath or coughing blood (indicating possib 
the legs, heart, or lungs) 
* Severe headache, dizziness, faintness, or changes in vision, indicating possible clots in the brain 
¢ Breast lumps 
© Yellowing of the skin and/or whites of the eyes. 
¢ Pain, swelling, or tenderness in the abdomen. 
OTHER INFORMATION 
Some physicians may choose to prescribe another hormonal drug to be used in association with 
treatment for women with a uterus. These drugs, progestins, have been reported to tower the freq 
occurrence of a possible precancerous condition of the uterine lining. Whether this will provide p 
from uterine cancer has not been clearly established. There are possible additional risks that may be 
ated with the inclusion of a proges:in in estrogen treatment. The possible risks include unfavorable 
blood fats and sugars. The choice of progestin and its dosage may be important in minimizing these 

Your doctor has prescribed this drug for you and you alone. Do not give the drug to anyone else. 

If you will be taking calcium supplements as part of the treatment to help prevent osteopor 
with your doctor about the amounts recommended 

Keep this and all drugs out of the reach of children. In case of overdose, call your doctor, 
poison control center immediately 

This Summary provides the most important information about estrogens. If you want to read n 
your doctor or pharmacist to let you read the professional labeling 


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Elizabeth knocks off a bo 
though she did that even 
watched TV. They certai 
fight any less, but it seems t 


November 23, Tuesday 
Tomorrow is the day we set for the 
project to end. The kids are going to 
their father’s house for Thanksgiving 
Day. ‘They assure me they are going to 
spend the whole day watching TV, ex- 
cept when they’re actually cating 
turkey. I can’t help feeling a twinge of 
disappointment. 

November 25, Thanksgiving Day 

I call the children tonight to find out 
what they’ve glutted themselves on. 
Nothing, it turns out. They were hav- 
ing fun with their cousins, and the day 
just slipped by. It’s so anticlimactc. I 
feel so smug. 

November 27, Saturday 

They were with their cousins again to- 
104 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - 


November 30, Tuesday 

The kids took the bus to East Hampton 
on Saturday. No one mentioned ‘TV un- 
ul Sunday morning, when they watched 
a half hour of cartoons. The moment I 
suggested a walk to the duck pond, they 
turned the set off without a murmur. 
‘Today I am in Iowa on a business trip, 
and in the chaos of leaving, I forgot to 
reconnect the TV cable. No one men- 
tions it to me on the phone. 


()* month later, the TV remains 
unconnected, and, yes, I do think 
my kids are nicer and more genuine. 
They practice their piano more. David 
is still reading and loving it, and ‘Ted 
has begun to make out simple books. 


MARCH 1994 


fight fairer. 

On weekends they are 
watch, and I haven’t set a ti 
far it hasn’t been for more | 
Instead, I offer them someth 
do, and they invariably take it 

It means I have to plan our 
tle more carefully. It also mi 
to play a game of Monopo 
then—I’d frankly rather 
canal. I don’t intend to be | 
about it—if something great 
that we want to watch, I wo 
to turn it on. So far, with the 
we’ve been too busy. But 
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ACCEPTANCE 


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IF you can learn to accept your child’s weaknesses as well as his strengths— 
and love him for both—you’re giving a big boost to his self-esteem. By Stanley 


Turecki, M.D., with Sarah 
Wernick, Ph.D. 


artha was having a 
miserable time in 


A shy 


child, she was re- 


fourth grade. 
duced to tears by 
the class bully almost daily. Her 
two best friends from the previous 
year had moved away, and Martha 
hadn’t made any new ones be- 
cause her shyness and general un- 
happiness made her unattractive to 
her classmates. Martha’s teacher, 
though sympathetic, 
was going through a 
difficult 
and was absent too of- 


pregnancy 


ten to provide consis- 
tent support 

Worried that their 
child was being hurt 
and teased, Martha’s 
parents tried to help 
by urging her to 1g- 
nore the bully and 
walk away, as well as 
to act more friendly 
and invite other girls to play. 
Nothing helped, and Martha be- 
came increasingly withdrawn and 
reluctant to go to school. That’s 
when her parents consulted me. 

After listening to them describe 
the situation, I pointed out that 
though their advice was generally 
sensible and practical, Martha was 


110 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL 


oreatest 


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simply not emotionally ready to 
make those efforts right now. It 
might be more helpful, I suggest- 
ed, to focus their energies on bol- 
stering Martha’s strengths. Once 
she feels good about herself and 
can wholeheartedly like and accept 
herself, I said, she'll be able to 
reach out to others. 


MARCH 1994 


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When Martha’s parents began 
to focus on their daughters 
strengths and interests, they nos 
uced a clear improvement. Ma 
was naturally graceful and hag 
asked to take ballet lessons. Wher 
they enrolled her in a neighbor 
hood class, the positive comment 
of Martha’s dance instructo 
helped boost her self-confidence 
Since she was also an avid, sensis 
tive reader, they signed her up fe 
the Junior Great Books class 
taught by the school librarian 
she made several ney 
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Acceptance: the greatest gift 


ty 
continited 


she looks forward to going to school 
When a child is having problems, it’s 
only natural for parents to attempt to 
correct her weak points. But Martha’s 
parents learned one of the most impor 
tant lessons in child rearing: By accept- 
ing our children for who they are, by 
building on their strengths and success- 
them cope with their 
problems, develop self-confidence—and 


es, we can help 


learn to accept themselves. 

Much as we love our children, we 
don’t always accept them. We may 
that they are not 
smart enough, artistic enough, as articu- 


feel deep inside 


late, athletic or outgoing as we had al- 
ways hoped they would be. While 
well-meaning parents rarely go to the 
extreme of overt rejection, they may, 
unwittingly, express their lack of accep- 
tance in more subtle ways: by showing 
disappointment, being critical, having 
overly demanding expectations—even 
by being excessively indulgent 

And yet, if we don’t accept our chil- 
dren, they will never learn to accept 
lves, to develop a realistic under- 


their flaws as 


themse 
tanding of who they are 
ll as their assets. Such self-acceptance 
the key to emotional well-being 


You can foster this all-important 


feeling in your child by letting him 
know you enjoy him and are proud of 
him... that he brings you pleasure 


simply because of who he is. Of 


course, acceptance is not easy when a 
child has problems. Understandably, 
parents feel disappointed. They may 
compare him to other youngsters and 
find themselves envying mothers and 
fathers whose children seem happier, 
better behaved, more popular, or more 
successful at school; some parents 
even may become overtly angry, irritat- 
ed or critical. 

Children facing chronic nonaccep- 
tance tend to have two reactions: Either 
they internalize their parents’ unfavor- 
able assessment or they fight it; some- 
times they do both. Either response 
triggers negative patterns within the 
family. When a self-critical youngster 
becomes sad or depressed and gives up 
trying, that leads to further failure and 
additional negative reactions. If the 
youngster rebels and the parents inter- 
pret that rebellion as deliberate misbe- 
havior, the resulting nonacceptance 
causes more conflict 

However, parents can learn to see 
their child both realistically and posi- 
tively. Instead of feeling thwarted and 
anticipating failure, they can develop a 
renewed sense of optimism. Keep these 
guidelines in mind: 


112 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - MARCH 1994 





FOCUS ON WHAT’S RIGHT 


Some positive attributes are more 
than others. If your child is arti¢ 
you’re probably aware of it, but pi 
you haven’t noticed that she’sy 
very good listener. You might ta 
granted the personality traits that 
your child easy to get along 
maybe you discount her talents 
area you don’t value. Adopting a 
er view of strengths will give you 
positive attitude. 

Parents who are too focused 
child’s limitations can be encoura 
considering the positive aspects Of 
tive characteristics. For instance} 
upset children are often unusually 
tive to the feelings of others Bi 
their own emotions are so acuf 
member, too, that a cautious yoU 
who holds back from beneficial” 
ences will also avoid foolish risks 
bornness and defiance, which cai 
annoying to parents, are freq 
linked to persistence and indep 
thinking—positive attributes for St 

When parents adopt an accept 
titude, they can acknowledge 
traits without feeling overwhelm 
them. When I tell them, “FF 
cookie-cutter child; she’s one 0 
and they can laugh wryly but ¢ 
tively, I know acceptance has be 




















1. 
‘TOUR OWN ISSUES SEPARATE 

} tance requires not only that you 
) | positive attitude, but also that 
: cognize your child as a separate 
) . Because clear vision is clouded 
i'r own issues, we may make as- 
ions that aren’t based on who the 
i ruly is. 

len parents describe their chil- 
' thoughts or emotions, I always 
‘How do vou know?” Often they 
fyint to specific things the young- 
iid or did. But sometimes they’re 
»ng to conclusions: “Anyone 
\ feel bad if they didn’t get into 
#2 reading group.” “All the child- 
 g books say older siblings are 
3 of a new baby.” “I remember 
i ustrated and angry I used to get 
i. | was teased.” 

}2n parents make such unwarrant- 
‘amptions, I remind them, “We’re 
}; about your daughter, not about 
a child or about some theoretical 
) ster.” How can you tell if your 
: ‘oblems are interfering with a clear 
tion of your child? Ask yourself: 

& I magnifying the situation? Unre- 
; personal issues can cause us to 
» thild’s behavior in an exaggerated 
something in the situation or in 
wungster reminds us of a struggle 
»been through or a conflicted rela- 
(ip from our past, so we give the 


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problem weighted significance. I call 
this the magnifying-glass effect. 

If you have a strong reaction to a 

child’s problem, ask yourself: Why am I 
reacting so strongly? Might my child feel 
differently about this? Are her motives 
the same as mine? Recognizing the rea- 
son for your exaggerated response goes 
a long way toward reducing it. 
M@ Do I identify too strongly with my 
child? We all identify closely with those 
we love. But sometimes this closeness 
makes us forget that the other person 1s 
a separate, autonomous individual. 
You're overidenufying if: 


You believe you usually know what your 


child is thinking or feeling. A caring, ob- 
servant parent can often make excellent 
guesses, but acceptance requires you to 
be open to surprises. 

The youngster disputes your perceptions 
and assumptions. She might say things 
like “You think you can read my mind, 
but you can’t” or “I don’t care if you 
always wanted to go to overnight 
camp—lI don’t.” 

You use the word “we” when you really 
mean the child. For example, if someone 
asks where your son goes to school, you 
say, “We’re at Westwood Elementary.” 
@ Does my child remind me of someone 
else? You may misperceive your child 
because he resembles another person 
you know—your father, your ex-hus- 


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band, a sibling with whom you never 
got along. When that happens, any simi- 
larities in attitude and behavior between 
your child and this other person may be 
magnified by hostile interpretations. 

M@ Do I expect my child to play a role? 
Sometimes a youngster gets typecast. Par- 
ents may then misread his behavior be- 
cause it’s colored by the role they expect 
him to perform. Generally, an honest 
recognition of the situation is enough to 
get parents to change. What are some in- 
appropriate roles parents may unwittingly 
ask children to perform? 

The “best friend” In this common 
scenario, a parent—mother or father, 
married or single—lacks fulfilling adult 
relationships and turns to the child for 
companionship. If the parents have mar- 
ital problems, the child may have been 
pressed into the role of confidant or 
even surrogate spouse. 

The perfect sibling When a family has 
one child with special problems—such 
as a difficult child, or one who is handi- 
capped or chronically ill—brothers or 
sisters may be recruited into the role of 
the perfect child. Such youngsters are 
overpraised for their good behavior. 
They learn not to make trouble and to 
please others rather than assert their 
own needs. This can leave them vulner- 
able to emotional problems. 


If you’re overburdened (continued) 


113 








Acceptance: the greatest gift 


continued 


by the demands of one child, it’s under- 
standable that you might expect your oth- 
er children to help. This is not a problem, 
provided your expectations are not exces- 
sive. Pay attention, however, if a child is 
overly compliant and uncomplaining. 
The spokesperson Children are some- 
times tacitly encouraged to express sen- 
timents the parent is unwilling to voice. 
An example is the boy or girl who is 
used as a pawn in marital conflict. 


ADJUST YOUR EXPECTATIONS 


When parents don’t see their youngster 
clearly, their expectations may be inap- 
propriate, and the child may be unable 
to meet them. When parents recognize 
that their expectations need adjustment 
and that the youngster isn’t disappoint- 
ing them on purpose, the stage 1s set for 
a more positive attitude. 

Pushing a child to achieve beyond his 

capacity is a common example of unre- 
alistic expectations. Others include: 
@ Asking a very shy child to be friendly. 
@ Expecting a seven-year-old with no 
particular interest in music to sit 
through an adult concert. 


that your standards are too high. 


GIVE YOUR CHILD THE 
BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT 


Part of the change to a more accepting 
attitude is making benign assumptions 
about your child’s motives. I believe 
that virtually all children really want to 
please their parents. They don’t feel vic- 
torious when they “win” battles with 
their mother and father; at best they are 
conflicted—and unhappy. 

When parents don’t understand the 
reason for a child’s actions, they may as- 
sume she’s being annoying or difficult 
on purpose. If they recognize what’s be- 
hind the behavior, they will find it easier 
to accept. 

It’s also important to respect your 
child’s preferences and honor them if 
possible, even if they are unconvention- 
al. Families can get caught up in chronic 
conflicts when parents attempt to im- 
pose their own preferences in areas like 
clothing, food, friends and activities. Of- 
ten, when they back off and are more re- 
spectful of the child’s wishes, she 
becomes much more flexible. 

Particularly vulnerable to such strug- 
gles are children who are highly sensitive 
to tastes, smells, textures and colors. A 


We may feel—deep 
inside—that our children 
aren t as smart, articulate 

or outgoing as we d hoped. 


@ Getting annoyed when a youngster 
says he’s not tired and can’t fall asleep 
at the hour the parent considers ap- 
propriate. 

I’m not suggesting you go to the oth- 
er extreme and expect too little. But I 
don’t believe in holding the carrot too 
far in front of the horse either. Encour- 
age a child to stretch, but don’t burden 
her with unattainable goals. 

How can you tell if you’re expecting 
too much of your child? Here are possi- 
ble signs: 

@ Your child often fails to live up to 
your expectations; you are frequently 
disappointed in her. 

@ The youngster signals that your ex- 
pectations are unrealistic. He might 
say things like “I’m trying my best, 
but I just can’t” or “I’m not doing it 
on purpose.” 

@ Other people—your spouse, the 
child’s teacher, or close friends—tell you 


finicky child, who insists on wearing the 
same few comfortable outfits all the 
time, might have recurring arguments 
with fashion-conscious parents who re- 
quire her to dress “appropriately.” But 
these conflicts wouldn’t occur if this 
same youngster had a mother and father 
to whom style wasn’t important. 


BECOME AN ACCEPTING TEACHER 


Acceptance does mor mean tolerating 
rudeness and misbehavior, or ignoring 
mistakes. As a parent, you must instruct 
your child. But it’s possible to correct 
and direct in a neutral manner, without 
making the youngster feel bad. 

Try to avoid criticizing your child 
when you are angry. I know that’s not 
always possible. If your child misbe- 
haves, stop her and even punish her on 
the spot. But postpone any discussion 
until later, when emotions have cooled 
down and you’ve had time to think 


114 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - MARCH 1994 


about priorities and goals. It’s ¢ 
overcritical when you’re angry 
you’re in control, your child y 
receptive to constructive sugge 
she’s upset. You’ll be more effec 
teacher if you correct your c 
a planned discussion. 


SCHEDULE TIME TOGETHER 


There’s no clearer way to convey 
tance and respect than to give 
your time. I’m not talking abou 
special “quality” activity, such as 
to a museum or the circus, but 
letting your child know that 
count on having your undivides 
tion on a regular basis. 
Predictability and fun are fa 
important than the specific activi 
amount of time spent. It’s be 
build a little into each day thant 
up for chronic neglect with an o¢ 
al all-out effort. Even fifteen min 
it’s a dependable fifteen minute 
make a big difference. 


MAKE PRAISE MEANINGFUL 
While excessive criticism clearly 
sents a lack of acceptance, less ¢ 
is the nonacceptance conveyed 
parently doting parents who atte 
boost their child’s self-esteem 
I call “self-image commercials’ 
repeatedly say things like “Yo 
derful” or “You’re a terrific ki 
exaggerated praise, like exaggera 
icism, can pressure a youngster 
dermine her sense of who she 
Compliments that are out of I 
a child’s accomplishments (“ 
ing should be in a museum!”) 
her doubt her own percep 
from boosting confidence, fl. 
her that her true self isn’t ena 
may become a perpetually d 
perfectionist, who unsuccessful 
gles to live up to the idealized 
her parents told her she was. _ 
How can you tell you’re goi 
board with praise? Listen to 3 
More important, pay attenti 
child’s reactions: 
Does she seem pleased when yo 
pleasure and appreciation—or 
ten look uncomfortable or ever 
Is she eager to hear what you ha 
or does she frequently cut you 
words like “Stop making such a E 
As acceptance increases, ma 
ficial changes result. You’ll ne 
reasonable expectations inte 
pattern of misbehavior and | 
You'll begin to take pleas 
child once again, and you'll fe 
about yourself as a parent. P; 
quently tell me: “It’s not that 
anything radically differe 
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find a bunch of pixies trimming the grass ‘and-polish- 
ing the windows. But if you’re expecting to be ushered 
inside for an audience with a pampered celebrity 
princess, you've definitely got the wrong house. “Come 
on in; it’s nice to MEEchew!” calls McEntire, as she 
lopes down the stairs, a graceful blur of T-shirt and mee 
jeans, flame-red hair, and Oklahoma twang. And 5 
when she’s. shown you to the living room and settled 
you in front of the fireplace, on the desert-green sofa » 
near the white grand piano and the floor-to-ceiling ~ Sy ee 
windows looking out over the swimming pool and lake Ss 
out back, she makes her way to the kitchen to fetch ) 4 
you some iced tea. Not just plain old iced tea, mind 
you, but a tall, cool glass of translucent crimson. 
“Isn't that pretty?” she says. “Ah think it’s Red Zinger.” 
That’s not a bad nickname for McEntire herself. Where 
many entertainers who've achieved her brand of outsize 
success are inclined to cut back and take it easy after 
years of hard work, Reba McEntire just keeps turning up 
the heat. It’s not as if she weren't already one of country 
music’s top female singers, with a basement full. of plat- 
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mately 4,600 children a forever. Some of these year has been a particu- man wielding a knife, For 























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WAS KIDNAPPED 
FROM THIS PEACEFUL 
HOUSE IN PETALUMA, 










pi 
aine weeks, Polly’s par- 
ents, the authorities and 
housands of volunteers 
searched for her. On 
November 30, police 
dicked up Richard Allen 
Davis, thirty-nine, an ex- 


~ = 


convict who was out on 
parole after a previous 
kidnapping conviction; on 
December 4, Davis direct 
ed police to Polly’s body 
In St. Louis, a rash of 
child abductions kept par- 


CALIFORNIA 





ents in the grip of fear. On 
November 8, an eleven 
ft 
year-old girl fought off a 
would-be abductor in a 
St. Louis suburb. On 
November 18, less than 
(continued on page 190) 








What ever 
ene 


aie | 















Your doctor may be an accomplished surgeon or a topflight spe 
cialist. But he might not be as skilled in dealing with the people 


treats. An inside look at what doctors really think of patients 


haron, a thirtyfive-year-old marketing 









director, had been warned that Dr. 
Daniels* “had no bedside manner.” 
But her three-month-old daughter had 
a brain tumor, and he reportedly 
was one of the best pediatric neuro- 
surgeons in the Midwest. What 
choice did she have? 
Sharon and her husband, Tom, 
kept a cribside vigil at the hospital 
for two days before their baby’s op- 
eration. Finally, Sharon persuaded her 
husband to go home for a shower and fresh 
cup of coffee. Dr. Daniels had promised to 
stop by that afternoon, and they wanted to 
be clearheaded for the consultation. 

As soon as Tom left the hospital, 
though, Dr. Daniels appeared—three 
hours ahead of schedule. Sharon asked 
him if he would mind coming back later. 
He looked at her blankly. “I’m not free this 
afternoon,” he said. 

"Then would you come back in a few 

By ANDREA GROSS 
120 


ioe oe as 4 
Name has been changed 

















minutes, after you see your next patient? 
she pleaded. “l want to phone my Fil 
band. He has our list of questions.” 

When Dr. Daniels refused again, Shard 
desperately bombarded him with all th 
questions she could remember. The phy 
cian had a stock answer for every Of 
“You'll find out after the operation,” he saic 
adamantly refusing to share his thoughts: 

Sharon was devastated. “When yous 
in this horrible panic state, you wantat 
doctor to tell you everything—what he 
thinking, what he’s hoping, even 
he’s fearing,” she says. “But. Dr. Danie 
wouldn't give me the comfort of a few m 
utes of talk." 

Sharon's dealings with Dr. Daniels ef 
ed abruptly when her daughter died 7 
months after the operation. But she 
countered him once more several mont 
later when she went to his office to colle 
her child's medical records. She wanted 
take them to a geneticist to make sure 


similar illness (continued on page Té 





Decorator’s Notebook 


Our expert decorator, Carol Eichen, President of Carol Eichen 


nteriors, Inc., shares her design know-how 






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Lauren Hutton is fifty years old— 
, and she truly has never looked 
better. Her great looks and 
fabulous sense of style have 
made her one of the most 
captivating models for three 
decades—no other model has 
lasted so long. One of the 
reasons Lauren's look has such 
staying power is she takes 
meticulous care of herself, 
specially her skin. “The biggest 
beauty essential is healthy, 
smooth skin. If you take care of 
your skin daily, you can get 
away with lighter, sheerer 
makeup,” she says. Lauren 
hared some of the skin-care lore 
she’s learned after thirty years 
in the business: 
Drink lots of water throughout 
Ri Mele een 8 
well hydrated, it looks clearer 
e and firmer. 
tee ems oe 
@ Wear sunscreen year-+ound. 
Apply a moisturizer day and 
ight. (Lauren says Revlon Results 
Daily Requirement Moise 
ee aos) . 
Bers arses ae 
ever tried.) 
Try the Paul Newman 
irick for waking up a 
lleepy, stressed face (it’s 
pdical, but Lauren swears | 
t really works): Filla bowl 
with icy water, and dunk — 


our face in for as long as Mell] 
an stand it. Lift your head and ° 
unk again—an instant facelift. 


Give skin a sunny glow with a ~ 
4 
sunless tanner or bronzing 
powder—you ll look 


healthier and younger. 
All makeup by Classic Revlon. Revion Results 
» Daily Requirement Moisture Cream, New 
Complexion Makeup Normal to Dry in Natural 
jq2cige, New Complexion Concealer in Medium,., 
Overtime Shadow in Nudes, Timeliner in 
eakwood, Lengthwise. Mascara in Black Brown, 
Powdercreme Blush in Rose, Super Lustrous 
i) (ena le ML ees) a C0  ) 9) ]¢)-4] cemN er] Colm BTL 
ew York; pants, Basco. Right: cardigan, J. Crew. 



















“) THINK I'M A VISIBLE SYMBOL OF A MATU 
WOMAN WHO IS ATTRACTIVE, HEALTHY, 
CONFIDENT AND SEXUAL—AND A LOT OF WO 
SENTIFY WITH THAT.” 











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of a more subtle 
“Make no mistake ab 
fen ie oad Peel 
greatest weapons,” say 
Hutton. “But | think it's most ~ 
eA Cae oo 
Reema east i 
look.” Her best mane Sol 
@ Apply makeup in natur 
(near a window)—that om ia 
wv Moke Male Ama laNalfe i paee 
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layer all over your face—spot- 
apply it only where you need it. 
@ Use a clean; flat eyeshadow - 
brush to apply concealer to 
dark patches and blemishes. 
@ Use a big, soft puff to apply 
powder; slap it against your 
hand to remove excess. 

Mia cotton c-Met? 
paper oil blotters+the powder- 
free kind, available in 
drugstores—to freshen skin. 

@ For the sheerest look, apply 
lipstick with your finger over lip 
balm or gloss. (At night, Lauren 
loves a real “go-to-hell red” 
lipstick. Her favorite shade: is 
Revion Velvet Touch Lipstick in 


Rococo Red.) 


Far left: tee, Hanro; shirt, Paul Smiths: noe 
Barneys New York. Left: shirt, Brooks Brothers; 
belt, Coach; pants, J. Crew; shoes, Dr. Martens. 
All makeup by Classic Revion: Revlon Results 

Day-Light Replenisher Moisture Lotion, New 

Complexion Makeup Normal to Dry in Natural 
Beige, New Complexion Concealer in Medium, 

Custom. Eyes Shadow in Shell Pink, Custom Eyes 
Sir TeV MTMArinle im lL eesti cscce) mere an) 
Brown Suede, Lengthwise MaScara in Black. 
Brown, Powdercreme Blush in Pink, Super.’ 
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1 

As for fashion, Hutton’s classy 
but casual look is legendaryy 
“My style has always been 
simple, easy, no bother,” shel 
says. “! don’t like wearing a 0 
of jewelry; to me, clothes look 
fresher on their own.” Hutton” 
has an innate knack for styles 
@ Don’t get lost in your clothe 5. 
Define your body somewhere — 
show off a narrow waist 4 










or a shapely leg. 

@ Learn to layer clothes withou 
bulking up—start with a close 
the-body tank, camisole or : 
bodysuit, and keep it visible. 
™ Break in clothes—they shoul 
never look brand new even i 
they are. Roll up sleeves and) 
pant legs, cinch the waist. 4 

™ Show some skin—choose 
scoop or ballerina necklines 
open shirts at the throat. 

™® Wear flat or nearly flat shoe 
and boots—you'll improve” 
your posture andbe * 

more comfortable. 

™ Shop in the men’s departmel 
for classic cotton dress shirts, 
Shetland sweaters, robes, tees 
raincoats—you'll get a slouch 
look for less money. 

® Finally, keep your body fits 
you can wear the simplest 


styles with confidence. © 
Left: tee, Hanro; shirt, Paul Smith; blaze 
Barneys New York; leggings, J. Crew 
socks, J. Crew; boots, Mila from Nit 
West. Opposite: cardigan, Pa 
Stuart; V-neck, Brooks Brothe 
leggings, J. Crew.” 





















































































“V'VE 
SLOTHES F NIQUE LOOK. AFTER ALL, 
IS WHAT YOU’RE OFFERED; STYLE f 


WHAT YOU CHOOSE.” 
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Gallery manager, age: 53; 
height: 5’3”; weight: 125 


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st: 34: waist: 29; hips 40 





CATHERINE Ll 


Actress, age: 30; height: 5°10"; 1984 model used by 60 percent Photographer, age: 
weight: 130; bust: 37; waist: 28; of the industry; bust: 36; waist: 26; weight: 135; bust: 
hips: 38 


hips: 39 hips: 37 
—————————————— 








dF fA fit model, age: 32: height: 
58”. weight: 130; bust: 35; 
waist: 28; hips: 38 





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t's a situ ion women experience all 10o 





e often: You go shopping. try on an item 
In your size and 1 become instantly 
depressed because it doesn't fit at all. 

—— Well. dont start vour diet vet—we ve 

vot some interesting news: The problem isnt 

vou—it s the clothes. We ve UunCcOoVeE red one ol 

the dirty little secrets of women's retail—sizing 

isnt standardized. Designers are free to cut 
their clothing according to any measurement 
they Want Phat 5 whi One desiener s SIZ ten 
for instance Call fit completely differently from 
another designe! s size ten 

\\ hy isn't sizing standardized? It was—back in 

1942. Those measurements have never been 

updated because designers dont want to be forced 

to use government standards—they feel it would 


intertere with their creativity. These days MOS 


Attorney, age: 32: height: 5°6’ designers fit their clothing on a dummy that was 
weight: 137; bust: 36; waist: 29; 
hips: 40 created in 1964. If vou compare continued 


133 











continued) the size-ten dummy to our real women s 
bodies. vou ll see its waist is a full two inches smaller than 


the smallest waist measurement of our group. The other 


designers use fit models—women whose measurements are 


ideally proportioned notice fit model Nancy ‘s 
measurements. compared with those of our real women). 
To prove that all size tens are not created equal. we 

asked four women who wear size ten and a size-ten fit 


model to try on a variety of skirts. A couple were perfect 








ALL SIZE-10 
SKIRTS ARE 
NOT CREATED 
EQUAL 


Koa 


i 


: ‘initia — 


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fiw 
vy, \ 7 


on everyone. but most werent. We learned that altho 


















there's no way of getting around trving on lots of size 
styles. there are rules to remember in the dressing Toor 
that will make shopping just a little bit easier. We also 
found out that an American Society for Testing and ¥ 
Materials subcommittee has been working on a new 
standards chart for sizing. The proposed measurement 


Ay 


5 ; oe a ce : 1 
for a size ten (30-26-38!/2) are probably still not genet 
5 } 


Seeoncmra hy 


of me in here” i 
> ee 
but a little 


a 


conserva 


muses of many American designers today look like 















vovering anorexics. They’re pencil-thin and unrealistically 
wportioned. When women see these models in 
wertisements, they don’t realize that even the samples 
vy’re wearing are pinned and taped and 
iitioned for the photo. So when women 
on the same styles at the store, of course 
\y're disappointed.” —Alan Millstein 


fashion industry consultant 





| 


The two skirts that re- 
ceived a thumbs-up from 
everyone were the slim 
black Saks skirt (pages 
132 and 133) and this 
wrap by A-Line Anne 
Klein (right). Wraps tend 
to fit well because they offer a flexible 
fit—you can gain five pounds, and the 4 7 é : 
wrap will still fit and hide the extra bulge. ‘ . 

or 


NO WONDER SIZES MAKE NO SENSE 


We know women who wear the same size are built differently—but designers should be able to accommodate a variety of 

body types. The Saks slim skirt and the A-Line wrap fit everyone because the waistbands were comfortable, and the hip 
measurements wide enough to fit even the hippiest of our group without bagging on the smaller-hipped women. Check out 
the specs of the skirts below—they correspond to the skirts here, from left to right. For Saks skirt, see pages 132 and 133. 


Skirt Waist Hips — Length 
CK Calvin Klein Zi 38" 18" 
A-Line Anne Klein 29" 39" 13" 
Pendleton 29" 42" 26!/2" 

JH Collectibles 28" 39" 2" 

Liz Claiborne ite 38" Doe 

Saks Private Label (The Works) 30" 40" 21" to 23" 
SPEC EXPLANATIONS 

Waist: Measurement around waist 


Hips: Measurement from side seam to side seam (7" down from waist) and then doubled 
Length: Measurement at center from waist to bottom of skirt 


























HOW TO GET A GREAT FIT 
NO MATTER WHAT YOUR SIZE 


edi- 
sher of “Fashion Net- 


- : f l “Hog 
Expert tios trom Alan Millstein 


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for 


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nd publis 


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nd Frank Rizzo 


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WO! EC por 


chairman of Fs design at the 
us Parsons School of De- 


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sign, in New Y 


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1. Forget about numbers. It doesn’t 





matter what size you \ 
printed on the outside of your clothes. 
Keep in mind that one designer's size 
ten is another designer's size twelve. 
Take several sizes and styles into the 


dressing room and concentrate on fit 


me First « 


pinches, creates a bulge or just isn’t 


checkpoint—the waist. IF it 
comfortable, move on. You don’t want 
the waistband even to tit snugh—it 
should accommodate tuck-ins 


as Next, check the area between 


sure the 


the waist and the hip. Be s 


fabric doesn’t pull across your hips 


bunch up at the tummy or bag be- 


low the seat. The skirt should be 





able to slio on and off with ease. If 


the waist fits but the waistto-hip area 
doesn’t, it usually means that the skirt 


is poorly proportioned. Don't try an- 





other size; try another designer. 


A. If the waisttohip area fits but 
the waist is too big, you may want 
to have the waist taken in as long 
as it's not more than an inch too 
big. Any bigger, and the alteration 
will be complicated and costly be 
cause the tailor will have to remove 
excess fabric between the waist and 
hips and basically recut the skirt. 


5.q Sit in the skirt. Don't skip this step! 
If the dressing room doesn't have a 
chair, ask the salesperson to bring you 
one. You should be able to sit, cross 


your legs, stride and climb 
stairs with ease. 


6. book at the balance 
of the skirt, the way the 
hem falls: Stand sideways 
in front of a mirror and 


check to see that the skirt 


length is even all the way 
around. If the skirt fits inex 


ery other way but the 


hem is uneven, you 



























may decide that it’s i 2 9 
worth paying a tailor to fix the her 


7 « | you find a skirt that fits, Bt 
decide to buy it in a different cole 
you must try that one on, too. Skit 
can vary by fractions of an inch. 


8. | you knew your waist and fi 
measurements {most women—o 
testers included—don't), and desig 
ers labeled their clothing accordin 
to these numbers, shopping coul 
be simple. But knowing your mé 
surements does help when 
comes to catalog shoppin 
Catalogs often deserik 
clothes according to bu 

waist, hip and length size 

so you can be assured € 
a good fit. 


9. When you find that 
particular designer or mar 
facturer’s clothes fit well; 
that line first the next time y 
shop. In general, a designe 
sizing stays consistent seas 
after season. If you can 
least narrow your cloth 
search down fo a couple 
designers, you'll save a 
of time and annoyance. 


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Cream of 


icken & Broced 





Chicken 
(SOURS 





«hese two Campbell's chicken soups also go with 
bout anything, from turkey, to pasta, to vegetables. 
, /ey’re not just the best way to complement meals, 

| ley’re also the best way to receive compliments. 


impel. Never Vnderestimate The Power Ut Soup: 





Chicken Noodle Parmesan 


Prep Time: 20 min. Cook Time: 10 min 


1 can (10 3/4 oz.) Campbell’s* NEW 1/8 tsp. pepper 


1/2 cup milk 
1/3 cup grated Parmesan cheese 


* 


Cream of Chicken & Broccoli Soup 3 cups cooked medium egg 
noodles (about 3 cups dry) 
2 cups cubed cooked chicken* 


In 3-qt. saucepan, combine soup, milk, cheese and pepper; add 
noodles and chicken. Over low heat, heat through, stirring occasion- 
ally. Garnish with parsley if desired. Serves 4 

If desired, substitute 2 cans (5 oz. each ) Swanson’ Premium Chunk 
White Chicken, drained 

Serving Suggestion: pictured with green beans and cherry tomatoes 





1 can (10 3/4 oz.) Campbell's 
Cream of Chicken Soup 

1/2 cup milk 

4 skinless, boneless chicken 


2 tbsp. all-purpose flour 


] 


> 


breast halves 


Chicken Crunch 


Prep Time: 15 min. Cook Time: 20 min 


1 1/2 cups Pepperidge Farm* Herb 
Seasoned Stuffing, finely crushed 

2 tbsp. margarine, melted 

1 tsp. chopped fresh parsley or 
dried parsley flakes (optional) 

1/2 tsp. lemon juice (optional) 


In shallow dish, combine 1/3 cup soup and 1/4 cup milk; set aside 
On waxed paper, lightly coat chicken with flour; dip into soup mix- 
ture. On another piece of waxed paper, coat chicken with stuffing 
On baking sheet, arrange chicken. Drizzle with margarine. Bake at 
400° F. 20 min. or until chicken is no longer pink 

In 1-qt. saucepan, combine remaining soup, 1/4 cup milk, parsley 
and lemon juice. Over low heat, heat through, stirring occasionally 
Serves 4 


Serving Suggestion: pictured with sugar snap peas and carrots 






Cure 81° ham. Alwavs elegant. Always lean and tender. Hardwood 
smoked with its own natural juices. Individually inspected and registered 
to guarantee the finest quality. Give Cure 8I° ham a special place at your 
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PASTA WORTH , i 
WAITING FOR | 
Lasagne, ziti, ravioli 
and more—luscigus 
baked pasta fhat 
everyone loved, | 


















THE NEW WAY Oo 
TO EAT 

A special repoi 
one family chang 
eating habits to fol 
the USDA‘ food pyramid\, ~ =— = 







THE GREAT 
CHOCOLATE CAKE 
CHALLENGE 
Calling all bakers: 
Can you beat 
our best layer- 
cake recipe? 
We dare you 
to try! 


THE 
BREAKFAST 
BOOK 

A delicious selection 
of wake-up meals 
from top restaurants 
and spas 














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YOUR FAVORITES— 
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2 teaspoons butter or ye 

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RONI-AND-CHEESE CAKE 









ke” is really an elegant version of 
J mac ‘n‘ cheese. It has all the com- 
# > original plus basil and tomatoes. 

e: 30 minutes 

ime: 25 to 35 minutes 


B uce 
B cups milk 
(133/4 or 141/2 oz.) chicken broth 
espoons butter or margarine 
f ip all purpose flour 
f aspoon salt 


B plus 2 tablespoons unflavored dry 
# ad crumbs 
fs mozzarella cheese, shredded 
B plus | tablespoon freshly grated 
7 meson cheese 
iely chopped plum tomatoes 
# olus | tablespoon julienned basil 
ves (or '/2 cup chopped parsley 
11/2 teaspoon dried basil] 
900n freshly ground pepper 
ound red pepper 
lbow macaroni, cooked 

| 900n butter or margarine, melted 
® eded, thinly sliced plum tomatoes 


2 White Sauce: Bring milk and 
boil in saucepan. Melt butter in 
ucepan over medium heat. Add 
cook, whisking, | minute. Grad- 
isk in hot milk mixture and salt; 
boil, whisking. Reduce heat and 
stirring, 3 minutes. 
fF at oven to 375°F. Grease 9-inch 
#m pan and sprinkle with 2 table 
tread crumbs; shake out excess. 
} ozzorella, '/3 cup Parmesan, the 
H tomatoes, '/2 cup basil, and the 
fd red peppers into white sauce. 
H Icaroni; spoon into prepared pan. 
gine butter with 1/3 cup crumbs 
| blespoon Parmesan in bowl; sprin- 
# macaroni. Place on cookie sheet 
#2 25 to 35 minutes, until golden 
bly. Cool 20 minutes. Garnish 
H xt0 slices and remaining basil. Re- 
} es of pan. Makes 8 servings. 


Daily goal 
400 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 
17g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
9g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
48 mg 300 mg or less 
735 mg 2,400 mg or less 
452 250 g or more 
l6g 55 gto 90g 





BAKED RAVIOLI 








You can substitute fresh tortellini for the 
ravioli in this homey dish 

Prep time: 20 minutes O 
Baking time: 25 minutes 





3 cups milk 

2 tablespoons butter or margarine, 
divided 

'/4 pound sliced baked ham, julienned 

'/4 cup all-purpose flour 

1/2 teaspoon salt 

1/8 teaspoon freshly ground pepper 

Pinch nutmeg 

] cup shredded fontina cheese 

1 cup frozen peas 

'/4 cup chopped fresh parsley 

1 pound or 2 packages {9 oz. each) 
cheese+illed ravioli, cooked 

2 tablespoons grated Parmesan cheese 


1. Preheat oven to 350°F. Bring milk to 
boil in medium saucepan over high heat 
Melt 1 tablespoon butter in large 
saucepan over medium heat. Add ham 
and cook until it begins to brown, 3 to 5 
minutes. Remove ham; set aside 

2. Add 1 tablespoon butter to pan. Stir in 
flour; cook 1 minute. Gradually whisk in 
milk and bring to boil, whisking. Add salt, 
pepper and nutmeg; reduce heat and sim- 
mer, stirring, 5 minutes. Remove from heat 
stir in fontina, peas, parsley and ham 

3. Stir ravioli into sauce. Pour into shallow 
3-quart baking dish. Sprinkle with Parme- 
san. Bake uncovered 25 minutes or until 
bubbly. Makes 6 servings 


Per serving Daily goal 

Calories 505 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 26g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat 15g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 128 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 1,099 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 40g 250 g or more 

Protein 27g 55gto90g 


SPICY SEAFOOD-AND-FENNEL 
LASAGNE 





Test-kitchen favorite Your dinner 
guests will love this entrée, inspired by a 


(continued) 
4A2 


seafood lasagne from Venice 





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15 
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Pasta worth waiting for 


continued 


Prep time: 13/4 hours @ 
Baking time: 30 minutes 


ae Sauce 
1 tablespoon olive oil 

1 cup finely chopped onions 
1 tablespoon minced garlic 
1 teaspoon fennel seeds 
1/2 teaspoon crushed red pepper 
1 can (35 oz.) tomatoes 
1 teaspoon salt 

11/4 pounds squid, sliced into thin rings 

11/4 pounds medium shrimp, halved 
lengthwise 


Fennel Layer 
2 tablespoons olive oil 
2 large bulbs fennel, quartered, cored 
and sliced thin (6-7 cups) 
2 cups thinly sliced onions 
3/4 teaspoon salt 
'/4 teaspoon freshly ground pepper 


White Sauce 
3 cups milk 
3 tablespoons butter or margarine 
'/2 cup all-purpose flour 
|/2 teaspoon salt 


12 no-boil lasagne noodles (or 1 pound 
regular lasagne noodles, cooked) 
1/4 cup chopped fresh parsley 


1. Make Tomato-‘Seafood Sauce: Heat oil 
in large saucepan over medium heat. Add 
onions and cook until translucent, 5 to 8 
minutes. Stir in garlic, fennel seeds and 
red pepper; cook 30 seconds. Add toma- 
toes, breaking them up with spoon, and 
salt. Bring to boil; reduce heat and simmer 
10 minutes. Stir in squid; cover and sim- 
mer | hour. Stir in shrimp; cook 1 minute 
more. Makes 8 cups 

2. Make Fennel Layer: Heat oil in Dutch 
oven over medium-high heat. Stir in fennel, 
onions, salt and pepper; cook, stirring oc- 
casionally, until vegetables are tender and 
begin to brown, 30 to 45 minutes. 

3. Make White Sauce: Bring milk to boil in 
medium saucepan. Melt butter in large 
saucepan over medium heat. Add flour and 
cook, whisking, 1] minute. Whisk in milk 
and salt; bring to boil, whisking. Reduce 
heat and simmer, stirring, 10 minutes. 

4. Preheat oven to 375°F. Spoon !/2 cup 
tomato mixture without seafood from 
Tomato-Seafood Sauce. Spread in 13x9- 
inch baking dish. Arrange 3 no-boil noo 
dles or a layer of cooked noodles on top. 
Spoon on 2 cups Tomato-Seafood. Sauce, 
then add second layer of noodles. Com- 
bine Fennel Layer with White Sauce and 
spoon on top. Add third layer of noodles, 
2 cups seafood mixture, then remaining 
noodles. Spoon '/2 cup tomato sauce 
over top (reserve remaining). 

5. Cover and bake 30 minutes until bub- 
bly. Let stand 15 minutes. Sprinkle with 
parsley. Heat reserved seafood mixture in 


saucepan over low heat; serve with 
lasagne. Makes 8 servings. 


Per serving Daily goal 
Calories 455 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 


Total fat 15g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat 6g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 298 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 1,137 mg 2,400 mg or less 
Carbohydrates 43g 250 g or more 

Protein 36g 55 gto 90g 


ZUCCHINI-DILL STUFFED SHELLS 





. Wa 
Budget recipe of the month 4 /ight 
tomato sauce and a filling that's | eaeed 
with vegetables and herbs give our stuffed 
shells a fresh, lively taste. 

Prep time: 35 minutes Oo 
Baking time: 25 to 35 minutes 


Tomato Sauce 
1 tablespoon olive oil 
'/2 cup finely chopped onion 
1/4 Cup minced carrot 
1 can (35 oz.) tomatoes 
'/4 teaspoon salt 
'/4 teaspoon freshly ground pepper 


1 tablespoon olive oil 

2 teaspoons minced garlic 

6 cups shredded zucchini 

11/4 teaspoons salt 

'/2 teaspoon freshly ground pepper 

1 container (15 oz.) ricotta cheese 

'/2 cup freshly grated Parmesan cheese 

1 large egg, lightly beaten 

3 tablespoons chopped fresh dill (or 
3 tablespoons chopped parsley plus 
1/24 oe died a dill} 

1 package (12 oz.) jumbo shell pasta, 
cooked, rinsed and drained 


1. Make Tomato Sauce: Heat oil in large 
skillet over medium heat. Add onion and 
carrot; cook until tender, 6 to 8 minutes. 
Add tomatoes, salt and pepper, breaking 
up tomatoes; simmer 10 minutes. 

2. Preheat oven to 375°F. Heat oil in 
large skillet over high heat. Add garlic 
and cook 15 seconds. Stir in zucchini, salt 
and pepper; cook until zucchini is tender 
and liquid is evaporated, 10 minutes. Stir 
in ricotta, Parmesan, egg and dill. 

3. Spread |1/2 cup Tomato Sauce in shal 
low 4-quart baking dish. Fill each shell with 
rounded tablespoonful zucchini mixture; 
place in dish. Spoon remaining sauce over 
shells. Cover and bake 25 to 35 minutes, 
until very hot. Makes 6 servings. 


Per serving Daily goal 

Calories 485 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 18g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat 9g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 78 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 1,049 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 58 g 250 g or more 

Protein 23g 55 gto 90g 


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AEGEAN CASSEROLE 


We combined the flavors of € 
Greek specialties—moussaka a 
sio—to create a new classic. 
Prep time: I hour 

Baking time: 25 to 35 minutes 


White Sauce 
4 cups milk La 
'/4 cup butter or margarine 3 
2/3 cup allpurpose flour = 
1/2 bay leaf 
] teaspoon salt 
1/3 cup freshly grated Parmes 


6 cups finely diced eggplant 
: teaspoons salt, divided 4 
1 tablespoon plus ] teaspoon oli 
1 cup finely chopped onions 
2 teaspoons minced garlic 
'/2 teaspoon cinnamon 
Pinch ground red pepper 
1 pound lean ground beef 
'/2 teaspoon dried mint 
'/2teaspoon freshly ground PEP 
'/£ cup tomato paste 
] can (28 oz.) tomatoes 
: 3 cup chopped flaHleaf parsley 
1 package (16 oz.) ziti pasta 
1. Make White Sauce: Bring m 
in medium saucepan over high 
butter in large, heavy sau 
medium heat. Add flour and 
ing, | minute. Gradually w 
bay leaf and salt; bring to bo 
Reduce heat and simmer, stirr 
utes. Remove from heat. Discara 
and stir in Parmesan. ; 
2. Toss eggplant with 1 te 
drain in colander 30 minutes. 
] tablespoon oil in large skill 
um-high heat. Add eggplant o 
ring, until tender, 10 to 15 min 
3. Preheat oven to 375°F. Add 
] teaspoon oil to skillet. Add 
cook until tender, 5 minutes. 
cinnamon and red pepper; ¢ 
onds. Add meat, mint, rem 
spoon salt and the pepper; € 
until meat is no longer pink. 
paste and tomatoes, breakir 
toes with spoon. Add eggpla 
to simmer: simmer 10 min 
from heat and stir in parsle 
4. Net cooked ziti to larg 
stir in 1 cup White Sauce. Spi 
ziti in bottom of deep 5-qua 
Spoon on filling, then remair 
White Sauce. Bake unco: 


minutes, until bubbly a 
Makes 8 servings. 

Per serving 

Calories 615 

Total fat 2728 

Saturated fat 12g 

Cholesterol 78 mg 

Sodium 1,154 mg 
Carbohydrates 68 g 

Protein 26g 
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The Zechmanns, of 
Minnesota, spent 
two weeks eating 
according to the 
USDA pyramid 
plan to see how 
difficult the new 
recommendations 
are. Four of their 
newfound favorite 
healthful recipes 
(right, clockwise 
from top left): 
Yogurt Corn Bread, — 
Mediterranean 
Pasta, Coco- 
Banana Cupcakes, — 
Kid-Pleasing Chili 


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50d pyramid. Like mam 
Americans, this family We 
not getting enough of tf 
foods from the bottom iW 
tiers of the pyramid (grains 
fruits and vegetables); the 
tended to eat a lot 
cream sauces and Cres 
soups, and their snacks « 
ten consisted of cookie 
and ice cream, especial 
for the kids. i 

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| lbs. Hillshire Farm ra 
| Lite Onseal or Turkey Smoked Sausage or Polska 










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until tender. Add sausage and cashew nuts. Cook 


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tirfries that used get my kids to eat vegetables, but the found that switching to frozen yam 
ther fat. A turkey-vegetable chili was a big hit,” said milk and sherbet wasn't a big Gegm 


lude the Susan. “The celery and beans were so The only downside to the diefam 
great tavor that! got san round was the initial time ane 














c ny kids to eat their veggies without money spent stocking her paiimm 
3 e ed dietitian Sue protest new foods including a variety OF 
g nd not 3. Cutting back 1eat actually wasn'ta and several different | types of breag 
eA Wee rai rex e menus of problem for the Zechmanns. “We weren't is a common problem faced ayaa 
fered so much variety and so much food big meat eaters to begin with, so we really who are just starting to make"enmm 
= ole teelina satistied atte Jidn't feel deprived by the smaller portions their eatin ng I habits. But once the Gi 
ted Susan. "And since of meat on the plan,” said Susan. “There's place, the products become Stags 
7 ethina we like 5 ae >d for every meal on — kitchen and the investment pays on 
e me e weren't tempted to snack these menus—we never felt hungn, Since the diet is flexible enough 
je hat’s why Jim 4. “The kids objected to many of the commodate business lunchesmam 
a ds even thoua ick suggestions and wanted more of and the occasional fasHoodsni—mms 
P 5 Cente the treats they used fo eat. They say I'm feels her family can easily Simms 
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hea snacks to school—most of the probably be less strict WifnOUnNEEEE 
1 lot more grains— other children bring several sweets in ing over her shoulder.  —==—aiiamE 


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z, fruit juice; ] English muffin or | to 2 slices 
1on toast or cornbread, with | to 2 ts 
‘ine Kids: Add 1 to 2 oz. ready toeat c 


% milk, | peach Parents: Add 8 oz. low fot 


or milk 





strawberries or fruit juice; 2 slices French 
leg n wattles or pancakes with 2 7 
syrup; | to . slices Canadian bacon; 8 oz 
we milk or 1% a 
pfuit salad, | to 2 scrambled eggs, 1 carrot 
yt blueberry Sin, 8 oz. chocolate milk or 


HES 

days 

9 chicken-noodle soup, vegetable soup or 
jowder; ham, tuna salad or roast beet 


eal cookies; 4 to 8 oz. 1% milk 

y pita sandwich with lettuce ae sprouts, 
butter and jelly sandwich or | cup pasta 
iith 2 oz. turkey; '/2 cup applesauce or 

+ banana or orange; | granola bar; 4 to 8 
or chocolate milk 


sHood restaurant Kids: Plain burger on roll, 
‘der fries, chocolate-chio cookie, 4 oz 
Parents: Broiled-chicken sandwich with 
ind tomato, small order fries or plain baked 
small tossed salad with | T. oitand-vinegar 


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pasta and gain a new 
} eciation for fast food. 


Sausage Spaghetti: 
16 minutes 


|) U2 Ibs. Hillshire Farm Links, such 
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ed; 1 lb. spaghetti, uncooked; 
‘up green pepper or mushrooms; 
sir favorite spaghetti sauce. In 
let, lightly saute links with pep- 


| rcooked spaghetti. Serves 6 


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ch with tomatoes, lettuce and sprouts; grapes; 





j $ Or mushrooms. Stir in spaghetti sauce. Simmer 
| overed for 10 minutes, stirring occasionally. Serve | 


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@ ! granola bar, '/2 cup trozen yogurt or ice milk 
8 a fulf punch 


@ 2 cups plain popcorn; a peach or p 
emonade, water or 1% milk 

@ Peach, | granola bar, | oz. pretzels 
m Apple or pear, sliced, dip 
2 oatmeal cookies; 8 oz. fruit juice 


. 
@ | cup noodle soup, 2 rice cakes 





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spread with jam 


| plum, 8 oz. 1% milk 

DINNERS 

m “Honey-Orange Chicken, '/2 cup cooked 
noodle | cup spinach salad 





with 1 T. dressing, 3 to 4 sesame breadsticks with 1 
tsp. margarine, | slice chocolate pound cake, 4 to 
8 oz 1% oe 
gw !/2 cup fit juice; 3 to 4 oz. broiled or grilled fish 
(marlin, halibut, cod or snapper), chicken or turkey 
tenderloin; baked potato topped with plain nonfat 
yogurt mixed with chives {or | Fi nonin a 
Favorite Stir-Fried Vegetables; | slice Italian bre 
2 cup frozen yogurt topped with sliced strawberries 

wm "Vegetable: Patch Soup; openface grilled-cheese 
eae (1 oz. Cheddar or Swiss cheese br 
on | to 2 slices rye or wheat bread} or | to 2 slices 
cheese pizza, grapes, 2 oatmeal cookies 
@ | cup mixed fruit; *Mediterranean Pasta; salad of 











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*Recipe given 


romaine, green onions black olives and | oz. feta 














cheese with | T. dressir 1g ] whole wheat roll 

| trozentruit bar: | cream-tilled cookie 
mw *Kid-Pleasing Chili, '/2 cup coc up 
coleslaw eae Corn Bread, | Ic 

hocolate-chip cookies, 4 to 8 oz 

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3S p grilled mixed >getab es (peppers 
zucchini and onic "Marcon Couscous Salad 

to 2 flour tort t small pitas cup chocolate 
pudding (made with | % milk} 
w Vealand-vegetable kebabs (3 oz. veal skewered 
with small mushrooms, onions and c 
*Crunchy Barley Pilaf, '/2 cu 

| to 2 slices crusty bread, | slice ang 
topped with '/2 cup berries 
@ 3 02. broiled or gril hi scallops or salmon, *Super 





Stuffed Potato, summ 
and yellow squash sau ies in 17 
2 slices rye bread, | canned pear 
vanilla low-fat yogurt 

m | cup V-8 juice cocktail, *Pork Fajitas, /2 cup 
mole fice, | cup pinto beans, fresh pineapple 
quarter, *Coco-Banana Cupcakes 

‘Fish Parmesan, |/7 
steamed asparagus, | cup 
| T. dressing, 2 slices Italic 
or margarine, '/2 cup buttersc 
with 1% milk) 


aie iar Lasagne, 4 breadsticks with 2 ts, 


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vinaigrett te dr essing '/2 Cup trozen yogurt or ice 
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Taste The Difference When It 
Comes From Hillshire Farm: 

















EATING FROM 
THE PYRAMID 


WHAT IS A SERVING? 


at 6 to 11 servings of 
breads, cereals, rice and 
pasta daily. While this might 
seem like a lot of carbs, the 
servings add up quickly. One serving 
equals: 1 slice of bread, 1 oz. ready- 
to-eat cereal, !/2 oz. of crackers or 
\/2 cup of cooked cereal, rice, 
pasta or other grain. A plate of 
pasta can easily contain | to 2 cups 
2 to 4 servings); most cereal eaters 
pour at least 2 oz. into their 
bowls (2 servings). 
Eat 3 to 5 servings of vegetables 
daily. A serving of veggies equals: 
1 cup of raw leafy vegetables (such as 
spinach, kale or romaine lettuce), 
1/2 cup of cooked or raw chopped 
vegetables, 1 cup of vegetable soup or 
3/4 cup of vegetable juice. Getting 
enough vegetables in your diet isn’t as 
hard as it looks: A salad usually 
contains at least 2 cups of lettuce 
(2 servings), a side portion of cooked 
spinach tends to be at least 1 cup 
(2 servings), and most of us eat at 
least 2 cups of soup at a sitting. 
Eat 2 to 4 servings of fruit daily. 
One serving is the equivalent of a 


medium-size piece of fruit, a wedge of 


melon, !/2 cup of berries or cut-up 
fruit, '/2 cup of cooked or canned fruit 
or 3/4 cup of fruit juice. 

Eat 2 to 3 servings daily from the 
milk, yogurt and cheese group. A 
serving equals: 1 cup of milk or 
yogurt, 1!/2 oz. of natural cheese, 

2 oz. of processed cheese or two cups 
of cottage cheese. 

Eat 2 to 3 servings of meat, 
poultry, fish, dry beans, eggs and 
nuts a day. Since the total 
amount of these servings should 
be 5 to 7 oz. daily, 1 serving 
translates to 2 to 3 oz. of meat, 
poultry or fish (a 3 oz. cooked portion 
is about the size of a deck of cards); 

1 to 1!/2 cups cooked dry beans, peas 
or lentils; 6 tablespoons of peanut 
butter or 3 eggs. 


O Easy @ Challenging W Low-fat 


© Moderate © Microwave Low-calorie 
+k Can be frozen up to 3, 6 or 9 months 


HONEY-ORANGE CHICKEN 





Prep time: 5 minutes 
Cooking time: 50 to 55 minutes 


2 pounds bone-in chicken thighs or 
breasts, skin removed 
/2 teaspoon salt 
4 teaspoon freshly ground pepper 
/3 Cup Orange juice 
2 tablespoons honey 
2 teaspoons soy sauce 
/2 teaspoon ginger 
2 oranges, baie: and sliced 
Cooked white-and-wild rice mixture 


1. Preheat oven to 375°F. Arrange chick- 
en in 12x8-inch baking dish and sprinkle 
with salt and pepper. 

2. Combine orange juice, honey, soy 
sauce and ginger in cup until blended; 
pour over chicken. Bake 40 minutes, turn- 
ing chicken twice. Arrange oranges over 
chicken; bake 10 to 15 minutes more. 
Serve with rice. Makes 4 servings 
Pyramid servings: | meat, | eel 


Per serving without rice Daily goal 

Calories 280 2,000 m, 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 7g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat 2g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 138 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 588 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 20g 250 g or more 

Protein 33 g 55g to 90g 


FAMILY FAVORITE STIR-FRIED 
VEGETABLES 





S minutes 


Prep time: 


Cooking time: 8 to 10 minutes 


1 tablespoon vegetable oil 

] teaspoon minced garlic 

] teaspoon grated fresh ginger 
] pound green beans, trimmed 
4 carrots, julienned 

2 green onions, sliced thin 

2 tablespoons w 

| tablespoon soy sauce 


150 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - MARCH 1994 































/2 teaspoon sugar 


1. Heat oil in skillet or wok over 
high heat. Add garlic and gif 
cook 20 seconds. Add beans, cai 
onions; cook, stirring, 2 minutesam 
2. Add water, soy and sugarmaRe 
heat to medium; cover and simmerg 
minutes until vegetables are tender 
Makes © servings. 

Pyramid servings: | vegetable 





Per serving Daily goal 

Calories 67 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 
Total fat 2g 60 g or less (F); 70 g6 
Saturated fat Og 20 gorless (F); 23¢ 
Cholestero! Omg 300 mg or less 
Sodium 193 mg 2,400 mg or less 
Carbohydrates llg 250 g or more 

Protein 2g 55 gto 90g 


VEGETABLE-PATCH SOUP 


Prep time: 15 minutes 
Cooking time: 45 minutes 


] tablespoon vegetable oil 

11/4 pounds yams or butternut sque 

peeled and cut into 1/2inch€ 

3 carrots, peeled and cut into 1/24 
chunks (11/2 cups} 

2 cups diced onions 
ounces mushrooms, sliced 
garlic cloves, peeled and halvec 
teaspoon salt or to taste 
teaspoon ltalian seasoning 
2 teaspoon freshly ground peppe 
cans {(14!/2 oz. each) chickens 
cups water 
4 cup orzo or other small pastal 
package (10 oz.) frozen peas 
package (10 oz.) frozen leaf se 


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1. Heat oil in Dutch oven over) 
high heat. Add yams, carrots, 
mushrooms, garlic, salt, Italian $e 
and pepper; cook, stirring, Until 
bles begin to brown, 10 minutes 
2. Add broth and water. Bring fe 
duce heat to low, cover and Sif 
minutes. Bring to boil over med 
heat. Stir in orzo; cook uncov 
utes. Stir in peas and spinach; 
boil. Cook until orzo is tenders 
more. Makes 16 cups. 
Pyramid servings: 2 vegetable _ 3 


Per cup Daily goal 
Calories 115 —-2,000(F), 2,5 
Total fat 1.5g 60 g or less (F) 
Saturated fat Og  20gorless( 
Cholesterol Omg 300 mgorless 
Sodium 308 mg 2,400 mg or 
Carbohydrates 22g 250 gormore , 
Protein 4g Shgto9eg [C 


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Protein 27 


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KID-PLEASING CHILI 


Prep time: 10 minutes 
Cooking time: 13/4 hours 





2 teaspoons vegetable oil 
1 cup chopped onions 
1 cup chopped celery 
11/2 teaspoons minced garlic 
1 pound ground turkey 
1 can (28 oz.) tomatoes, cut up 
1 can (141/2 oz.) beef or chicken broth 
2 to 3 teaspoons chili powder 
teaspoon cumin 
‘4 teaspoon salt 
'/2 teaspoon oregano 
4 teaspoon freshly ground pepper 
2 cans (16 oz. each] pinto, red or black beans, rinsed 
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cup 
ablespoon chopped fresh parsley 5 


1. Heat oil in Dutch oven over high heat. Add onions) < 
and garlic; cook 3 minutes. Add turkey; cook, stirring tok k 
up meat, until lightly browned, 5 minutes. 


2. Add tomatoes with their liquid, broth, chili powder, cumifl 
oregano and pepper Bi ng to boil; reduce heat to low, cove 
| hour. Add beans and corn; simmer 15 minutes mon 
uncover and cook, stirring 
thickened, 15 mi is more oa in parsley. Makes 10 cup 
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Sodium 358 mg 2,400 mg or les 
Carbohydrates 32 g 250 g or more 
Protein 69 55 2 to 90¢ 


COCO-BANANA CUPCAKES 


Prep time: 10 minutes 
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3. Spoon batter into prepared muttin cups. Bake 18 to 20 min- 
ute | toothpick inserted in center comes out clean. Cool in 
pan on wire rack. Makes |!/2 dozen 
Pyramid servings: | grair 
Per cupcake Daily goal 
130 00 (F), 2,500 (M) 
32 F); 70 gor less (M 
lg 23 g or less (M 
24 mg 
74 mg 
Carbo hydrates 24g 2 ; ; 
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170 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 
5g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
tat lg 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
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URT CORN BREAD 


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2 time: 25 minutes 








cornmeal 

all-purpose flour 

espoons sugar 

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aspoon salt 

plain nonfat yogurt 

p low-fat (1%) milk 

e eggs, lightly beaten 
espoons vegetable oil 

? pcanned, drained (or froze 


thawed) whole kernel corn 





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8)’ 0 minutes a servings 

fivid servings: | grain 

Fay ig Daily goal 

bo 205 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 
Aa 6g 60 gor less (F); 70 gor less (M) 

Ww fat 1g . 20gorless (F); 23 g or less (M) 

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The new way to eat 


continued 


MOROCCAN COUSCOUS SALAD 





Fastest recipe of the month 


Prep time: 10 minutes plus standing O 
Cooking time: 5 minutes 


2 cups chicken or vegetable broth 
Pinch nutmeg 
| cup couscous 
'/2 Cup raisins 
4 cup chopped dried apricots 
can (16 oz.) chickpeas 
tablespoons olive or vegetable oil 
tablespoons fresh lemon juice 
/2 teaspoon grated lemon peel 
'/2 teaspoon salt 
1/4 teaspoon freshly ground pepper 


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1. Combine broth and nutmeg in medium 
saucepan and bring to boil. Remove from 
heat and stir in couscous, raisins and apri- 
cots. Cover and let stand 5 minutes 

2. Fluff couscous with fork; cool. Stir in 
chickpeas. Whisk oil, lemon juice, peel, 
salt and pepper in bowl; add to couscous 
and toss to combine. Serve at room tem: 
perature. Makes 6 ., 

Pyramid servings: | fruit, ele 


Per cup Daily goa 


1/2 meat 


Calories 285 2,000 ay 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 9g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat lg 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholestero! Omg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 561 mg 2,400 mg or less 
Carbohydrates 452 250 g or more 

Protein 8g 55g to90g 


CRUNCHY BARLEY PILAF 





Prep time: 10 minutes Ov 
Cooking time: 55 minutes 


] tablespoon vegetable oil 

1/2 cup finely chopped onion 

1 teaspoon curry powder 

1 can (14!/2 oz.) chicken broth plus 


water to equal 2!/2 cups 
1/2 teaspoon salt 
| cup pearl barley 
2 carrots, shredded (1 cup) 


1 zucchini, shredded (1 cup) 


1. Heat oil in large saucepan over medi- 
um-high heat. Add onion and curry pow- 
der; cook, stirring, 3 minutes. 

2. Add broth and water and salt; bring to 
boil. Stir in barley. Return to boil; cover 
and simmer over low heat until barley is 
tender, 45 minutes. 

3. Stir in carrots and zucchini. Cook | to 
2 minutes more. Makes 5 cups. 

Pyramid servings: ] grain, |/2 vegetable 


Per cup Daily goal 

Calories 195 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 4g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat Og 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol Omg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 641 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 362 250 g or more 

Protein 5g 55g to90g 


SUPER STUFFED POTATOES 





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Prep time: 25 minutes 
Baking time: 20 minutes 


4 large baking potatoes 
16 ounces lowdat (1 (1%) cottage cheese 

1 cup diced ham 

1 cup shredded low-fat Cheddar cheese 
'/2 cup chopped green onions (optional) 
/2 teaspoon salt 

'/8 teaspoon freshly ground pepper 


1. Prick potatoes all over with fork. Ar 
range in microwaveproof dish and mi- 
crowave on High 15 to 18 minutes, 
turning halfway through, until tender. 

2. Preheat oven to 400°F. Halve potatoes 
and scoop out insides, leaving !/4-inch 
shell. Mash cooked potato with cottage 
cheese in bowl. Stir in ham, Cheddar, 
onions, salt and pepper. Spoon mixture into 
shells. Bake 20 minutes. Makes 4 servings. 
Pyramid servings: 2 vegetable, | milk, 


] meat 

Per main-dish serving Daily goal 

Calories 400 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 9g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat 5g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 45 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 1,471 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 422 250 g or more 

Protein 33g 55g to 90g 





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Prep time: 20 minutes 
Cooking time: 7 minutes 


1 teaspoon olive oil 
1 pound pork tenderloin, julienned 
1/2 teaspoon salt 

|/4 teaspoon freshly ground peppet 
1 red pepper, julienned 

1 green pepper, julienned 

1 small onion, sliced thin 

1 garlic clove, minced 

'/2 teaspoon cumin 

21 teaspoons fresh lime juice 

8 flour (6-inch) tortillas, warmed 
1/2 cup prepared salsa 7 
Garnishes: shredded lettuce, choppe 


avocado, cilantro, tomatoes ant 


1. Heat oi! in large skillet over high 
Add pork; spike with salt and & 

and cook, stirring, 2 minutes. Stir i 
pers, onion, garlic and cumin. Coe 
vegetables are tendercrisp, 3 to 4 
more. Stir in lime juice. Makes 6 ¢ 
2. To serve, roll a cup pork mi 

each tortilla with 1 tablespoon sals 
chdice of garishes. Makes 4 se 
Pyramid servings: |!/2 meat, | ve¢ 
Per serving without gamnisiee Daily goal 








Calories 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 
Total fat 10g 60 gor less (F); 70 
Saturated fat 3g 20 gor less (F); 
Cholesterol 75 mg 300 mg or less 
Sodium 702 mg 2,400 mg orless 
Carbohydrates 30g 250 g or more 
Protein 28g 55gto90g 


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Prep time: 10 minutes 
Cooking time: 4 to 10 minutes 


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stewed tomatoes j 

| lige egg or 2 large egg white 
tablespoon water 

'/2 cup ltalianflavored dry bread ¢ 

|/4 cup freshly grated Parmesan ¢} 

7 pound flounder, sole or cod fille e' 

| tablespoon vegetable oil 
Cooked pasta 


1. Bring stewed tomatoes to sif 
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in egg, shaking off excess, then i n 
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] tablespoon vegetable oil 


| teaspoon curry powder 
1 can (14 


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| cup pearl barley 
2 carrots, shredded (1 cup) 


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one 
Prep time: 45 minutes 
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] tablespoon vegetable oil 
3 cups diced eggplant 
3/4 cup chopped onion 
] teaspoon minced garlic 
1 can (28 oz.) crushed tomatoes 
2 teaspoon salt 
2 teaspoon sugar 
/4 teaspoon basil 
1 package {10 oz.) frozen chopped 
spinach, thawed and squeezed dry | 
1 container (15 oz.) partskim ricotta 
cheese or 11/2 cups low-fat (1%) 
cottage cheese 
1 cup shredded low-fat mozzarella cheese 
| large egg, lightly beaten 
Pinch nutmeg 
) lasagne noodles, cooked 
2 tablespoons grated Parmesan cheese 
to 375°F. Heat oil in 
ver medium-high heat. | 
on and garlic; cook, | 
Stir in tomatoes, salt, 
, Bring to boil; reduce heat 
to low, cover and SIMMEL until eggplant 1S 
C Makes 43/4 cups 
“ombine spinach, ricotta, mozzarella, 
egg and nutmeg in large bowl. Spoon | 
11/4 cups eggplant sauce in 13x9-inch 


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/2 cup finely chopped onion 


2 oz.) chicken broth plus 
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2 teaspoon salt 





20 WAYS TO MAKE MEALS HEALTHIER 


EASY WAYS TO INCORPORATE THE FOOD-PYRAMID GUIDE’S SERVING 


| SUGGESTIONS INTO YOUR DAILY DIET 


1. Slim sauce Toss cooked pasta 


| with tomato-base sauces or stir-fried 


vegetables instead of creamy sauces to 
keep a lid on fat. 

2. Pass the bread Buy a different 
whole-grain bread each me you go 
food shopping. Try a cracked wheat, 
oatmeal or five-grain loaf for starters. 
3. Less is best When preparing 
packaged mixes of rice, pasta or 
stuffing, use only half the butter or 
margarine called for in the 
directions—you’ll lose fat, not flavor. 
4. No schmear here Top bread, 
toast and muffins with nonfat fruit 
spreads and jam instead of butter, 
margarine or cream cheese. (To find 
out how many fat grams these 
toppings add, see page 170.) 

5. Mix and match Compare 
package labels on crackers for fat 
grams—they vary greatly. 

6. Nutritious noshing When you 
get the munchies, snack on grain foods 
to add an extra serving from this group 
without much effort. Good choices: 
two cups of air-popped popcorn, a half 
ounce of pretzels, baked pita or tortilla 
crisps, half a bagel or English muffin, a 


| few crackers, breadsticks. 


7. Good ’n’ plenty Buy a variety of 
grains. There are many quick-cooking 
types to choose from, including 
couscous, bulgur wheat, quinoa and 
barley—any of which can be the base of 
a nutritious entrée or side dish. 


| 8. Sweet dreams Healthful dessert 
| choices can count as part of your 


grain quota, too. Consider a toasted 
whole-grain waffle topped with frozen 
yogurt, or rice pudding. 

9. Pile it on Heap veggies onto your 


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soups, pasta toppings and side dishes. 
11. Beans, beans Canned beans 
are just as nutritious as dry beans and 
peas—just drain and rinse them well 
before adding to soups, chili, salads, 
tacos or rice dishes. 

12. Flash in the pan Use plain, 
unsauced frozen veggies as a healthful 
choice for hurry-up meals. Boil, steam 
or microwave to toss into salads, rice 
pilaf or cooked couscous. 

13. Grill crazy The next time you 
barbecue, throw a few bell peppers, 
onions or zucchini halves onto the grill 
along with your chicken, meat or fish. 
14. Muffin mania To get more 
nutrition from your morning muffin, 
buy or bake muffins enhanced with 
fruits or vegetables: Pumpkin, butternut 
squash, zucchini, carrot or cranberry are 
all delicious ingredients. When buying 
muffins, keep in mind that oversize 
muffins will be higher in fat. 

15. Ace in the whole Eat whole 
fruits often—they provide more fiber 
than fruit juice, especially when 
unpeeled. Introduce your family to new: 
fruits. Delicious tropical fruits to | 
sample: Mango, papaya, guava, starfrui’ 
and red bananas are available in most 
markets, as are unusual varieties of 
apples, pears, plums and melons. 

16. Road food Keep a supply of 
dried fruits in the pantry for easy, 
totable snacking. 
17. Ice ‘n’ easy Remove from can’ 
and freeze pears or peaches in heavy 
syrup; puree in the food processor for 
a quick sorbet. 
18. Don’t say cheese Cut back !/1 
to '; on shredded cheese in traditiona) 
recipes for enchiladas and macaroni 
and cheese—and use 1% fat cheese. 
119. Hidden assets Sneak a dairy 
sserving into your kids’ diets by 
4reparing canned soups with skim or| 
pow-fat milk instead of water. 
20. Project lean Read labels at the 
aneat counter to avoid hidden fat. 
‘Look for ground turkey and chicken 
Zhat contains breast meat only. Choo: 
rat least 90% lean (or extra-lean) 
‘ground beef for your burgers. There 
are even lean hot dogs available. 


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cups all-purpose flour 

cup sugar 

4 teaspoons baking powder 
1!/2 teaspoons salt 








i | Per servini Daily goal ; . 

| eres 220 2.000 (F), 2,500 (M) 1'/2 teaspoons cinnamon 

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trons fee! pampered. 
Prep time: 25 minutes plus cooling | 
Broiling time: 1 to 2 minutes 


3 large egg yolks = 
6 tablespoons packed brown sugar, ¢ 
3/4 cup heavy cream, whipped 


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31/2 cups water 
2 cups old-fashioned oats 
1/4 teaspoon salt 

2/3 cup milk 

1 tablespoon butter 5 
2 tablespoons toasted shredded 6 
1/2 cup fresh raspberries 


1. Beat egg yolks and 3 tablespog 
ar in heatproof bow! until pale af 
Place over saucepan of boiling W 
whisk until pale and very thick, 4 f 
utes. Cool. (Can be made ahea 
and refrigerate up to 24 hours: 
cream: set aside. Makes 11/2 CUR 
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and salt in medium saucepan. 
boil: reduce heat to medium af 
stirring occasionally, until thick 
utes. Stir in milk and butter. Sp 
cup oatmeal into each of 6 © 
shallow bowls or gratin dish 
each with scant '/4 cup cream 
Broil 3 inches from heat source 
minutes, until golden brown. 
with remaining 3 tablespoons 
sugar, the coconut and fase 
Makes 6 servings. 


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Calories 335 

Total fat 19g  60gorless( 
Saturated fat 10g  20gorlessi 
Cholesterol 156 mg 300 mg or 5 
Sodium 145 mg 2,400 mg or less 
Carbohydrates 35g 250 g or more 
Protein 7¢ 


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M.reople alike. The specialty ¢ 
Di: hearty eggs and crabmeat 
| up by owner Johanna Tutone 
r. me: 10 minutes O 
1g time: 10 to 12 minutes 


Ee 
spoons butter, divided 

9 finely chopped red pepper 

“es lump crabmeat, flaked 

sspoons snipped chives or minced 
reen onion 

Fs eggs, lightly beaten 

sspOONS heavy cream, divided 

¢ 1spoon salt 

ispoon freshly ground pepper 


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cillet over medium heat. Add red 
rand cook until just tender, 3 min 
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1, 2 minutes. Transfer to bowl and 
thives. Cover and keep warm 
im skillet to heat and add 2 more 
Fy00ns butter. Add eggs and 2 ta- 
BPions cream; cook, gently stirring 
b aiula, until eggs begin to thicken 
14 to 5 minutes. Ada remaining 3 
Eyoons cream, 2 tablespoons butter 
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samy, 2 minutes more. Stir in crab 
BI: mmediately. Makes 6 servings 








fio ig Daily goal 

lor 295 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

tal 24g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
ful); at l2g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
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Sodium 504 mg 2,400 mg or less 
Carbohydrates 2e 4 or more 
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CRANBERRY STREUSEL 
COFFEE CAKE 


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Streusel 


|/2 cup firmly packed brown sugar 
1/4 cup all-purpose flour 

2 teaspoon cinnamon 

900ns butter or margarine 
softened ; 

2 cup chopped walnuts 








11/2 cups all-purpose flour 
11/2 teaspoons baking powder 
» feaspoon salt 
6 tablespoons butter or margarine, at 
room temperature : 


yranulated sug 


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1. Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease and 
flour 8-inch square baking pan 


2. Make Cranberry Filling: — (continued) 











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(continued) Combine cranberries, sugar 
and orange juice in saucepan; cook, stirring 
constantly, over medium heat until berries 


begi n fo pop Cool to room temperature 





2 Mele Streusel Combing brown sugar, 


flour, cinnamon and butter in small bowl 
intil crur bly Stir in nuts 
4. Combine flour, baking powder and salt 


n medium bowl. Beat ee sugar and 
e peel in mixer bowl until light and 
Add eggs one at a time, beating 
well after each addition. Stir in dry ingre- 
dients alternately with oe beginning and 
ending with dry ngredients 

5. Spread half the batter in prepared pan. 
Spoon on half the Cranberry Filling. Add re- 
maining batter, then filling. Sprinkle Streusel 
over top. Bake 50 to 60 minutes, until tooth- 








pick inserted in center comes out clean 
Cool on wire rack. Makes 9 servings. 

Per serving Daily goal 

Calories 395 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat l7g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat 8g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 78 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 338 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 58 g 250 g or more 

Protein 6g 55 gto 90g 


ROLLED OMELET 


Guests at the luxurious Boulders Resort, in 

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brunch at the latilla (one of five restaurants 
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Prep time: 15 minutes © 

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aver2 dry bread crumbs 
4 cup butter or margarine 
2 cup alk purpose flour 

2c JOS mi ilk 


A large eggs, separated 


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CRANBERRY 
STREUSEL 
COFFEE CAKE 


1 cup shredded Cheddar cheese 
| teaspoon Worcestershire sauce 
'/2 teaspoon salt 
Dash red-pepper sauce 
12 slices bacon, cooked and crumbled 
1 small onion, minced (1/3 cup] 
2 cups chopped fresh spinach 
1/2 Cup finely chopped tomato 
4 CUP SOUT cream 


1. Preheat oven to 400°F. Grease 151/2x 
10!/2x1-inch jelly-roll pan; line with wax 
paper, and grease paper and sides of 


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pan. Sprinkle with bread crumbs, 
Out excess. 

2. Melt butter in medium saucer 
medium heat. Whisk in flour and 
minutes. Gradually stir in milkaB 
boil, stirring constantly. Reduce" fi 
simmer 1 minute. Remove from 
stir in egg yolks, cheese, Worees 
salt and red-pepper sauce. 
3. Beat egg whites in mixer bowl 
but not dry. Fold one third of th 
into cheese mixture, then fold inte 
whites. Spread evenly in prepar 
Sprinkle with bacon and onions 
to 20 minutes, until puffed and g 
A. Invert roll onto clean kitchen 
peel off wax paper. Arrange s 
top, then roll up from long sid 
fashion. Cut into 12 slices. Af 
slices on each of 6 plates. J 
chopped tomato and sour cream 
6 servings. 


Per serving Daily goal 
Calories 400 2,000 (F), 2, 500 0 (N 





Total fat 29g  60gorless (F); 
Satdrated fat 15g 20 g or less (F); 
Cholesterol 210 mg 300 mg or less. 
Sodium 719 mg 2,400 mg or less 
Carbohydrates l7g 250 g or more 
Protein 18g 55 gto 90g 
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4 teaspoon baki 
2 teaspoon salt 
3 Cup noney 
2 cup buttermilk 
3 cup vegetable oil 

ightly beaten 
vanilla extract 


2 a fresh or frozen blueberries 


reheat oven to ae Grease eigh- 
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‘oll. eggs and vanil 
nts until ‘aga 





Fo 

(ft 
3. Spoon batter into prepared mufttin cups 
Bake 20 to 25 minutes, until toothpick in- 
serted in center comes out clean. Remove 
trom pans and cool on wire rack Makes 

2 dozen 

Per muffin Daily goal 
Calories 170 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 
Total fat 6g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat 15g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 50 mg 300 mg or less 
Sodium 219 mg 00 mg o 
Carbohydrates 26¢ 
Protein 4g 





CORNED-BEEF HASH 


pictured on page 160 
Among the attractions of Marin County, 
across the Golden Gate cca trom San 
Francisco, are scenic beauty and Sunday 
unch at Bradley Ogden’s Lark Creek 
Inn. Corned-beef hash, his signature 
dish, is one of the most requested entrées 
on the menu 





Prep time: 30 minutes plus cooling O 
Cooking time: 30 to 35 minutes 


paki stQtoes [‘ IK | 
( ING f porarToes |Z 110.) 


4 ) 

Ot ablespoons butter, divided 

] red pepper, cut in |/2-inch dice 

| green pepper, cut in '/2-inch dice 





ow pepper, cut in |/2-inch dice 
| cup diced Spon sh onion 
2 cup diced celery 
p i) ere 
teaspoons salt, divided 











teaspoon freshly ground pepper 
Pinch ground red pepper 
]1/a pounds cooked corned-beef brisket 
trimmed and diced (3 cups) 
4 cup chopped fresh parsley 
8 eggs, poached ut ional) 


1. Bring potatoes to boil in large 
saucepan of salted cae boil 20 minutes 
until almost tender. Drain and cool com- 
pletely. Peel and cut into'!/2-inch dice 
2. Melt 2 tablespoons butter in large non- 
stick skillet. Add pep pers, onion and celery 
and cook covered over low heat 3 to 4 min- 
25. Add |/2 teaspoon salt and the pepper 
see pepper and corned beef, and continue 
cooking uncovered 3 minutes. Set aside 
3. Melt remaining 4 tablespoons butter in 
same skillet Add potatoes and remaining 
| teaspoon salt, and cook over medium- 
high neat sting OCCas| onally, until gold- 
en, 10 minutes. Reduce heat to medium 
and stir in corned-beef mixture. Cook, stir 
ting occasionally and pressing with spatu- 
golden and beginning to 


Cc 
oO 


criso, 15m nutes. 
| 


. Sprinkle with parsley. Top with poached 





eqas, it desired. Makes 8 servings 
Per serving without egg Daily goal 

Ca ores 2 F 2 

Total fat 


Sa rete at 





Carbohydr ates 


Proteir 


HANGTOWN FRY FRITTATA 


s End—open omelet. 
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wiih imaginative COMDINATIONS of j ingre 
ents—have made this San Francisco 
restaurant a popular brunch spot. This dish 
is based on a classic breakfast from the 
Gold Rush days. 

Prep time: 10 minutes O 


Cooking ti time: 8 to 10 minutes 


168 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL MARCH 1994 





] tablespoon butter or margarine 
3 cup sliced mushrooms 

° oysters, shucked and drained © 
tablespoon chopped green oni 

| slice bacon, cooked and ecru 

3 large eggs, beaten 

p nch each salt and freshly groune 

Chopped fresh parsley 


1. Preheat oven to 400°F. Hea 
8-inch ovenproof nonstick skillet 
um heat: Add mushrooms and’€ 
ring, until tender, 3 minutes. Ai 
green onion and bacon; cog 
onds. Stir in eggs, salt and pe 
sides of frittata with heatresistal 
die ula, letting liquid run over e¢ 
t. Transfer to oven and bake 3 
utes, just until top is barely diy, 
with parsley. Makes | serving: 


Per serving Daily goal 
Calories 430 2,000 (F), 2, 
Total fat 32g 60 gor less (F); 
Saturated fat 13g 20 g or less (F); 
Cholesterol 720 mg 300 mg or less 
Sodium 636 mg 2,400 mg or less 
Carbohydrates 7g 250 gor more — 
Protein 278 55 gto 90g 


DRIED CHERRY-BANANA BI 


A healthful breakfast at the delu 
Door spa, in Escondido, Cali 
richly satisfying experience. Ch 
Stroot uses dried and fresh fru 
this morning bread its moist 
great flavor. 

Prep time: 15 minutes 

Baking time: 60 to 70 minutes 


2 cup dried cherries 
2 cups all-purpose flour 
2 cup whole wheat flour 
3 cup cornmeal 
teaspoon salt 
teaspoon baking powder 
teaspoon baking soda 


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OATMEAL IN MY WAFFLES!” 


' Jaffles with real Quaker Oatmeal? your whole family will love them. Of 
h Bunt Jemima could come _— course — they're from Aunt Jemima! 
f. ith such a delicious ~e. 
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2 cups mashed ripe bananas 


{confinued] 


ta} 


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margarine melted 


NO RO 





1. Prehea en t 90°F. Grease and 
flour 9xS-ir af par sk cherries in | 
ater 5D t drair 
| | | 
flours, cornmeal, salt, DakiIng 





powder and baking soda in large bowl 
Combine bananas, eggs, buttermilk, butter 
oll, sugar allspi e, caraamom, cinnamon 


and cloves in medium bowl: stir into dry in- 
gredients just until moistened. Stir in cherries 
3. Pour into prepared pan. Bake 60 to 70 


minutes, until toothpick inserted in 


comes out clean 


Cool in pan on rack 10 


center 
) 


minutes. Unmold and cool completely. Cut 





into eighteen '/2-inch slices. Makes 1] loat 
Per slice Daily goal 

Calories 165 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 4g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat lg 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M 
Cholesterol 28 mg 300 mg or less 





NY 177 mg 
Carbohydrates 30g 
Protein 32 


2,400 mg or less 
250 g or more 
55 gto 90g 


CREAMED CHICKEN 


| Cl \ 
The Krebs restaurant, in Skaneateles, New 


York, has served old-fas} 


from May through October 


vioned family fare 


1]Q00 
since 10YY 





Rush-hour BREAKFAST 


On hectic weekday mornings, we often eat and run. Here’s the nutntonal 
lowdown on some popular quick bites: 


FOOD CALORIES 
Croissant (3 oz.) 300 
Cinnamon bun (3 oz.) 290 
Bagel (3 oz.) 230 
Jelly doughnut 210 
Blueberry muffin (medium size) 210 
Plain doughnut 170 
English muffin 130 
White toast (2 slices) 120 
Add: 

2 teaspoons butter or margarine 67 
2 teaspoons jam 35 
2 teaspoons cream cheese 35 


FAT 
17g 
12g 

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10g 


8 
2 
1 
2 
5 
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When was the last time you enjé 
hearty breakfast of creamed chich 

resh biscuits? 

Prep time: 15 minutes plus cooling” 

Cooking time: 2 to 2!/2 hours 


whole chicken (3 Ib.) 
quarts water 
onion, quartered 
1 celery rib, cut up 
] carrot, cut up 
11/2 teaspoons salt 
Despre butter or margarine: 
up allpurpose flour 
o'ge egg yolk 
1 tablespoon minced fresh parsley 
4 teaspoon freshly ground peppe 


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2 

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1. Combine chicken, water, onion) 
carrot and salt in large pot. Bring 
reduce heat and simmer until chické 
der, 50 to 60 minutes. Remove 
from pan. Boil broth until reduced 
cups, about 45 to 60 minutes; Sit 
skim fat. When chicken is cool, sh 
discarding skin and bones; set Gsigh 
2. Melt butter in large saucepe 
medium heat. Add flour and cook 
occasionally, until golden brownym 
to 4 minutes. Gradually whisk ing 
chicken broth. Bring to boil, requ 
and simmer 5 minutes. Whisk ege 
medium bowl. Gradually add J 
broth to yolk, whisking constantly 
turn to saucepan. Stir in reserved 
and the parsley and pepper. Se 
Baking-Powder Biscuits (recipem 
Makes 4 cups. 


Per '/2 cup with 2 biscuits Daily goal 

Calories 2,000 (F), 2,500 ( 
Total fat 17g 60 g or less (F); 
Saturated fat 6g 20 g or less (F); 23g) 
Cholesterol 103mg 300 mg or less i 
Sodium 1,040 mg 2,400 mg or less” 
Carbohydrates 32g 250 gormore , — 
Protein 23g 55gto90g (ce 








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base Tangy Fruit Pork Chops will get you out 

er jam anytime. All it takes is some fresh, 
meless pork chops and a few extra 

its you probably already have on hand. i 


ion and cooking time: 20 minutes. = _ 
TP, 


Jangy Fruit Pork Chops 


ur boneless pork loin chops in large nonstick skillet with '/2 teaspoon 
Hele oil, turn chops. Stir in '/2 cup of cranberry sauce or your favorite 
E/ i and one tablespoon each prepared mustard and vinegar. Cover 
B)ner gently for five minutes. Serve with cornbread and your favorite 
ay.>. Serves four. 

M+ \mation, approximately, per serving: 226 cal.; 8 g. total fat; 3 g. saturated fat; 70 mg. cholesterol 
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BAKING-POWDER BISCUITS 


Prep time: 10 minutes O 
—_ time: 8 to 10 minutes 


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2 cups allpurpose flour 

‘< tablespoon baking powder 
| teaspoon salt 

/4 cup vegetable shortening 


3/4 cup milk 


1. Preheat oven Sy A50°F. Grease cookie 
sheet. Combine flour, baking powder and 
salt in large bowl. With pastry blender or 

2 knives, cut in shortening until mixture re 





bles fine crumbs. Add milk and stir 

til just combined 

2. On lightly floured surface, roll dough 
1/2 inch thick. Cut into 2-inch circl 
rerolling scraps once. Place on prepared 
cookie sheet. Bake 8 to 101 minutes, until 
golden. Serve with Creamed Chicken 
Makes 15 biscuits 


BANANAS FOSTER FRENCH TOAST 


pictured on page 139 

Food editor’s choice sig pu by 
Heaven on Seven for oer fast is Q Ppopu- 
lar Chicago pastime. WI hank Ban- 
nos’s delectable and uncompromisingly 
rich French toast, inspired by the New Or 
leans dessert, Bananas Fost 

Prep time: 5 minutes O 
Cooking time: 10 to 12 minutes 





or 





2 large eggs 


g lightly beaten 
1 cup heavy 


or whip pping cream 


APPLE- ie 
CINNAMON 


COFFEE CAKE 
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4 teaspoon vanilla extract 
3 cup granulated sugar 
2 teaspoons cinnamon 
6 slices challah or brioche bread, 
3/4 inch thick 
4 tablespoons butter, divided 
4 teaspoons vegetable oil, divided 
4 ripe bananas, sliced '/4 inch thick 
4 cup water 


tablespoon confectioners’ sugar 


1. Combine eggs, cream and vanilla in 
large, shallow bowl. Combine granulated 
sugar and cinnamon in medium bowl. Dip 
bread in egg mixture, then sprinkle both 
sides with 1] tablespoon cinnamon-sugar 
(reserve remaining cinnamon-sugar). 

2. Melt 1 tablespoon butter with 2 tea- 
spoons oil in large nonstick skillet. Add 
bread in batches and cook until golden 
brown, |'/2 minutes per side, using addi- 
tional 2 teaspoons oil as necessary. Trans- 
fer to plates and keep warm. 

3. Add remaining 3 tablespoons butter to 
skillet. Toss bananas with remaining cinno- 
mon-sugar. Add bananas to skillet and 
cook, stirring, over high heat until they be- 
gin to caramelize, 2 minutes. Add water 
and cook until mixture is slightly thickened 
Pour over French toast and sift confection- 
ers’ sugar on top. Makes 6 servings. 


Per serving Daily goal 

Calories 550 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 3lg 60 g or ess ne g or less (M) 
Saturated fat l6g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 176 mg 300 mg or Hes 

Sodium 410 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 6lg 250 g or more 

Protein 9g 55 g to 90g 




































APPLE-CINNAMON COFFEE} 


Why do guests at the Canyon Ra 
in Lenox, Massachusetts, enjo 
each morning@ It could be thet 
air—then again, maybe it’s the com 
flavored with sweet apples and spié 
Prep time: 25 minutes 
Baking time: 1!/2 hours 





4 cups unpeeled, finely diced Mel 
apples 
1/2 cup orange juice, divided. 
2 cups all-purpose flour 
'/2 cups whole wheat flour 
teaspoons baking powder 
4 teaspoon salt 
2 cup margarine, softened 
] cup sronbeee sugar 
2 large eggs 
4 large egg whites 
/4 cup skim milk 
2!/2 teaspoons vanilla extract 
2 tablespoons firmly packed brow 


1. Preheat oven to 275°F. Coat 
tube pan with vegetable cooking 
Combine apples and '/4 cups 
juice in medium bowl. In anothe 
combine flours, baking powder an 
2. Beat margarine and granulates 
in large mixer bowl unt light an 
Beat in whole eggs and egg whil 
at a time; beat | minute more. G 
remaining |/4 cup orange juices 
and vanilla; add to batter alterna 
dry ingredients, beginning and 
with dry ingredients. 
3. Sooon one third of batter into & 

pan. Spoon on half the apple mixtt 
with another third of the batter, the 
ing apples and batter. Sprinkle 
brown sugar. Bake 1!/2 hours org 
pick inserted in center comes OU 
Cool on wire rack 15 minutes. U 
coo! completely. Makes 16 serving 


1 
| 
2 


Per serving Daily goal 4 
Calories 225 2,000 (F), 2,500 
Total fat 7g 60 gor less (F); 
Saturated fat lg 20 gor less (F); 
Cholesterol 27mg 300 mgorless — 
Sodium 187 mg 2,400 mg or less 
Carbohydrates 378 250 gor more — 
Protein 5g 55gto90g 






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This rich and tender 
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ss of cold milk and a fingertul of 
trosting trom the mixer bowl. 

















pletely. (To cool more quickly, 
place saucepan in large bowl 
of ice water, stirring occasion- 
ally, until cold.) 
3. Combine flour, baking 
soda, baking powder and salt 
in medium bowl. Beat butter in 
mixer bowl at medium speed 
until creamy. Gradually beat in 
sugar until light and fluffy. Beat 
in eggs one at a time, beating 
well after each ad- 


dition. Add vanilla. Reduce 
speed to low; add dry in 


gredients alternately with co- 
coa mixture, beginning and 
ending with dry ingredients. 
Beat 2 minutes at medium 
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4. Pour | 


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Prep time: 40 minutes plus 
cooling © 
Baking time: 28 to 30 minutes 


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1'/2 cups all-purpos 
11/2 teaspoons baki ing soda 


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spoon ‘bal ing po 


room temperature 


teaspoons vanilla extract 





|2/3 cups confectioners’ sugar 
; 
4 cup neavy 


or whipping cream 
A squares (4 oz.) unsweetened 


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chocolate, chopped Tine 





spoons vanilla extract 
6 tablespoons butter or margarine 


at room temperature 





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5. Make Frosting: Bring confecti 
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move from heat; add chocol 
stir until completely smooth QF 
vanilla. Place pan in bowl of i ¢ 
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the consistency of thick fl 
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in mixer bowl until smoot 
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comes lumpy, let stand at roo 
perature 15 minutes, then Ge 
beating at high speed until sme 
mixture becomes soupy, reff 
15 minutes, then beat until sme 



























Per serving Daily goal 

Calories 555 2,000 (F), 2,500 
Total fat 35g 60 gor less (F); 
Saturated fat 21g  20gorless (F); 23g 
Cholestero 113mg  300mgorless 
Sodium 461 mg 2,400 mg or less — 
Carbohydrates 6lg 250 g or more 
Protein 78 55g to 90g 


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da four-star rating (the 
trom The New York Times 
An American couple 


Karen Waltuck 


David and 


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own and operate 














the tourteen-year-old restaurant, 
which serves delicious classic 
Franc cuisine r one of 
their most requestec 
Sac je Butter 
Red Wine—Butter Sauc 
iry red wine 
| : red wine vinegar 
200 finely sta sak shallots 
nsalfea ot gale 








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A fillets (6 oz. ea t ba 
rea snappel 
tablespoons all-purpose f Our 
2 tablespoons olive oil, divided 





1. Prepare Sage 
Butter: Process sage 
leaves butter 


lemon juice and 
garlic in mini food 
processor — until 
smooth: set aside. 
2. Prepare Red 
VWine-Butter Sauce 
Combine red wine 
vinegar and shallots 
in small saucepan 
Bring to boil; cook 
until mixture is syrupy 
and educed to 
about 2 ere ns 
Gradually ick in 
butter, a few pieces at a time co 
over very low heat, 
corporated. Stir in salt. Keep w 

3. While sauce is reducing, Se aaly 
cut skin away from flesh of fish with 
very sharp knife, beginn ing at f tail 
and keeping skin attached at wide 


end. Spread Sage Butter e\ venly over 


I 


tlesh; replace skin over butter. 


until abl 


4. Heat 1 tablespoon oil in 12-inch 


nonstick skillet over medium-high 
heat. Coat both sige of each fillet 
lightly with flour. Add 2 fillets, skin 
side down, to pan; cook until skin is 
golden and es sprinkling with !/4 
teaspoon salt and '/8 teaspoon pep- 
per, about 5 minutes. Turn fillets and 
continue cooking until opaque 
throughout, 3 minutes more. Remove 
trom skillet; keep warm. 
5. Discara drippings in skillet; wipe 
er towels. Repeat with 
remaining tish, oil, salt and pepper 

F tablespoons 
to each of 4 warm dinner 
lace fillets, skin side up 


over sauce. Garnish with sage 





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Preheat oven to 350°F. Remove 
the outer layer of skin from Ta 
6 heads of garlic. Cut 1/2 inal 
off from each head sfrai 


low baking pan. Drizzle 2 
spoons olive oil over each heae 
letting it run between the clove 
Cover with foil and bake: 
minutes. Remove foil and bak 
30 to 45 minutes more, until ge 
lic is tender when pierced with 
toothpick. Cool slightly: 
serve, peel off cloves Gm 
squeeze the roasted garlic Gn 
toasted rounds of bread or Ve 
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DON’T GET Ct 


THE HOME COOK OUGHT TO take 
as many precautions in the 
kitchen as any other culinary 
professional. Granted, one 
doesn’t think of the kitchen as 
a hazardous worksite, but dull 
knives, open cans, and the 
metal strip on plastic- and foil- 
wrap boxes can cause very 
serious cuts. To find out how 
to avoid accidents, we talked 
to Senior Chef Instructor 
Corky Clark, who’s been 
teaching cooking and safety 
at The Culinary Institute of 
America (CIA), in Hyde Park 
New York, for eleven years 
The rules he gives his students 
are the same ones that every 
home cook should follow. 

Keep knives sharp. 
Most people think this advice 
sounds paradoxical, but if 
knives are super sharp, you 
don’t need to exert as much 
pressure when slicing food. Be- 
cause you're not forcing the 
knife into the food, it’s less likely 
that the knife will slip and cut 
you. Also, if you do cut yourself, 


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a sharp knife will 
leave a clean cut, 
which is much eas- 
ier to treat than a 
jagged cut from 
a dull knife. 
Never slice 
food toward you or cut 
food while holding it in the 
palm of your hand. Always 
place food on a cutting board 
and cut with the blade facing 
down and away from you. 

if a knife drops, 
don’t catch it. At the 
CIA, the rule is: Throw your 
hands in the air when a knife 
is dropped. That way, you 
won't be tempted to catch 
it~you don’t want to grab a 
blade in midair. 

Never put knives in 
the wash water. Wosh 
dirty pots, pans, dishes and 
glassware first and save the 
knives for last. IF you dump 
knives into the wash water 
with the rest of the dishes you 
may not see them—a prime 
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from a can of food. Use 
an electric can opener or a 
hand-held rotary opener for 
the cleanest cut and cut 
through the whole lid before 
carefully removing it from the 
can. Accidents occur when a 
cook uses a can opener to 
open most of the lid, then tries 
to yank the lid off, or when a 
punch-type opener is used and 
leaves very jagged edges. 

Tear plastic and foil 
wrap with care. Chef 
Clark says the worst cut he’s 
seen during twenty-five years 
in the kitchen was caused by 
the metal teeth of a plastic- 
wrap box. In fact, he main- 
tains that these boxes are the 
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both hands and close the tog 
before ripping. Treat the bo» 
like a knife: If it drops, dog 
try to catch it. 
Handle a food-pro . 
cessor blade like a 
knife. Don’t dump it inte 
the wash water, and nevel 
stick your hand in the proces 
sor bowl—use a spatula te 
scrape the bowl, then careful 
ly lift the blade out by the 
plastic center. Never fill the 
processor bowl (or a blender 
more than halhway—the 10: 
chine won’t work properly 
and the contents could ex 
plode on you. (You also may 
be tempted to reach a 
hand into the bow! to fish ¢ 
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blade. Don’t even think of it) 
Take if easy. Most acci 
dents happen when cook 
are in a hurry. If you don 
give yourself enough time f 
prepare a meal, you'll rus 
through the chopping ar 
cleaning and possibly hu 
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home life: She’s been married to talent 
manager Narvel Blackstock for almost 
five years now, and thanks to him and 
their four-year-old son, Shelby, she 
says she’s never been happier. And it’s 
not as if she needs the money: In addi- 
tion to her concert and recording in- 
come, she and Blackstock run an 
expanding business concern that in- 
cludes a management firm, a four-hun- 
dred-acre thoroughbred-horse farm, a 
jet-leasing company and a construction 
company, all of which translates into a 
fortune that’s been estimated at up- 
ward of $10 million. 

So why doesn’t she slow down? 

“Because I love what I do,” she says 
simply. 

The result is a McEntire marathon 
this spring—“Everyone’s going to O.D. 
on Reba,” she says—beginning with the 
release of a new album, her twenty-sec- 
ond, in April. That same month, her au- 
tobiography will be published by 
Bantam. And in June she’ll hit the big 
screen as part of the all-star cast of Rob 
Reiner’s comedy North, about a boy 
who divorces his parents and goes all 


“|’m very competitive. 


pede of women to go back to school (the 
song sings the praises of one woman 
who does) when it was released in 1992. 
To keep the flame bright, she hopes to 
film a made-for-TV movie based on the 
video later this year. 

Nevertheless, critics have carped that 
the singer’s style has become too main- 
stream in recent years. To which McEn- 
tire responds, a little testily, “When they 
say, ‘What are you doing that for?’ I just 
look ’em straight in the eye and say, ‘For 
my fans. Because they’re Duyin’ my gro- 
ceries, not you!’ ” Indeed, the bond be- 
tween McEntire and her fans is so 
strong, says her co-author, Tom Carter, 

s almost as if she has a ministry. She 
doesn’t just entertain people, she touch- 
es them.” (Unfortunately, having a min- 
istry has its price—like not “gettin’ to go 
to Wal-Mart and go shopping,” says 
Reba, with a grin, “or pullin’ into any 
fast-food restaurant and havin’ to sit 
there an extra fifteen minutes signin’ au- 
tographs inside for the people who are 
fixin’ the food. If I’m not nice, you don’t 
know what they’re gonna do to it!”) 

McEntire’s reputation as a woman to 
be reckoned with didn’t emerge from 
her stage persona alone. Indeed, during 
the first few years of her career, when 


Reba says with a smile. 
“T wanna beat em 


all. 


over the world trying to find the perfect 
new set. McEntire and Dan Aykroyd 
play a couple of nouveau riche Texans, 
the first pair the boy tries out. 

The singer makes no secret of her as- 
pirations for a movie career. Sull, being 
an actor can prove frustrating work. 
“The hard part is the hurry up and wait. 
You do one scene, and they say, ‘Okay, 
it’s going to take two hours to redo the 
lighting.’ So, if you have two or three 
more projects, you’re a lot better off, 
sanity-wise. Otherwise, you’re gonna set 
in the trailer and go nuts.” 

Luckily for McEntire, of course, she 
has plenty of other projects—not the 
least of which is the more-than-full-ume 
job of being country music’s reigning 
queen. She’s become as much a role 
model as a singer, as much a heroine as 
a star. Nowhere is that more evident 
than in her video of “Is There Life Out 
There?” which caused a veritable stam- 


I'm greedy. 


]%s 


she was handled and packaged by other 
people, she met with only mild success. 
It wasn’t untl she started choosing her 
own material and co-producing her al- 
bums that she became a star, earning 
Nashville’s respect—and learning to 
trust her own instincts and abilities in 
the process. “When I chose the songs 
and they became hits, that gave me con- 
fidence,” she says. “And confidence .. . 
makes you a strong person.” 

Strong, and more than a little com- 
petitive. “I’m very competitive,” she ac- 
knowledges with a smile. “I wanna beat 
*em all.” By “them,” she means some of 
her closest friends: Barbara Mandrell, 
Naomi Judd, Garth Brooks, Vince Gill. 
“Like, the more umes I don’t win En- 
tertainer of the Year, the more I want it. 
I’m greedy. Even though Vince won it 
{last year], I wanted it. I was glad Vince 
did, but I wanted it.” 

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time; doesn’t Reba McEnti 
fears? What if all of this—the 
fame, the money—disappeared? 
She shakes her head. “I’m ne 
of that. I could do without the 1 
I’ve been broke before; I could be 
again. And I’m not so egotistical 
need the fame.” Then she’s silen 
beat. “To me, those aren’t the 
tant things, the things that matte 
the people I love that I think 2 
Narvel and Shelby, my mom ai 
and brother and sisters, all the 
close to me. All that really ma 
them to be healthy and happy ¢ 
That most fundamental 
fear—the fear of losing the p 
love—is, of course, someth 
McEntire had to face head-on in 
when seven of her band membe 
her longtime road manager w 
in a plane accident. She’s talk 
that loss and its aftermath man 
but probably never so comprehe 
as in her upcoming autobiograpk 
Carter hopes it will put to rest 2 
gering criticism that because M 
returned to performing within we 
the accident, she was unfeeli 
was very strong for the famili 
deceased,” he says. “She tended 
emotionally and psychologically.” 
Though McEntire says the boe 
tains a number of anecdotes ab 
and other performers, she’s q 
point out that it isn’t meant a 
tell-all. But, yes, she does try 
record straight on some of the 
siped-about aspects of her life— 
her 1987 divorce from rode 
Charlie Battles (“The divorce vi 
ably the biggest amount of me 
ever had to part with,” she 
“but I’da given every penny I ha 
out of it”). 
As for whether she wants % 
baby, the answer is, “Yes. B 
I’m blessed with what I have. 
great kid, and I just think Pd 
God a little bit too much if Ty 
for another.” 
Just then, there’s a thump f 
stairs, where Shelby’s playi 
less like the pitter-patter of lit 
more like a T. rex thrashing a1 
“Speaking of which,” says 
a grin, “would you like to meet] 
And as Shelby climbs into h 
lap and she smiles, two as 
similar creatures with their f 
features and polite ways, y 
concede that if McEntire ¢ 
the formula for happiness, 
another ten million overnigh 
“T’m Shelby’s mom di 
she says softly, “and ’'m Reba 
at night.” a 
Linda Sanders writes freque 
music business. 


ide manners 
ued from page 120 


tlikely to affect future children. As 
itered the office, Dr. Daniels coin- 
‘tally walked up to the front desk. 
_ Sharon said hello, he stared at her 
ie had never even seen her before. 
n't think he had any idea who I 
she says angrily. 
‘ile Dr. Daniels might seem more 
than doctor, his attitude is hardly 
al. To varying degrees, patients— 
ially women—frequently get the 
»ssion that their physicians don’t 
» 0 be bothered with them on a per- 
level at all. According to a 1993 
,) poll, four out of ten Americans 
‘doctors act as if they are superior 
, people they treat. 
, ortunately, those negative impres- 
ibout doctors may well be ground- 
reality. A recent report in Medical 
, tpublication of the American Pub- 
| alth Association, revealed that one 
» three physicians said he felt frus- 
with 25 percent of his patients. 
ne out of twelve doctors said he 
* astrated with as many as half. 
Jat are the doctors’ complaints? 
to some of the petty—and con- 
( ory—sentments voiced at recent 
irs for doctors given by the Miles 
> te, in West Haven, Connecticut, 
) anization that trains doctors in in- 
) onal skills: 
fb stors expressed contempt for pa- 
) who “bring a laundry list of prob- 
) to their appointments. But they 
 cumbled about those who come 
i) list and have a hard time explain- 
“ir concerns. (Translation: “You 
lease me no matter what you do.”) 
) tors griped about patients who call 
. afternoon with a problem that’s 
) cesent for two weeks. But they also 
) vledged that they don’t like to be 
ted with minor complaints—and 
ainor problems can become major 
@) ime. (Translation: “How dare you 
'. (at an inconvenient time.”) 
# 1y doctors complained about re- 
+ $a patient’s call only to find that 
: lent isn’t home. But they neglect- 
‘nention the possibility that it can 
irs or even days before they get 
to calling patients back. (Trans- 
“You can wait for me, but I’m 
ff D0rtant to wait for you.”) 
«almost all said they don’t like pa- 
) vho tell them what’s wrong rather 
i sk. But who knows more about 
dent’s background, lifestyle and 
Fioms than the patient herself? 
Mlation: “I’m the only intelligent 
» around here.”) 
ted, some doctors are so antago- 
)oward patients that they go to ex- 
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shields her boss from unwanted 
‘phone calls. But, in some cases, the 
tuation is even worse. One nurse re- 
ports working for a physician who 
shaved a fraction of an inch off the front 
legs of the chairs in his consulting room. 
This tilts his patients ever-so-slightly 
forward—not enough that they notice 
but enough that they aren’t able to relax 
and talk at length. 
What ever happened to patient- 
friendly physicians? 


SUPERIOR BEINGS? 


Although the reasons that doctors har- 
bor negative attitudes toward patients 
are varied and complex, experts suggest 
that the rigors of medical education may 
contribute to the problem. “Medical 
school is a very intense training process, 
and it sometimes rewards the wrong be- 
haviors,” says Margaret Cary, M.D., a 
Denver physician who teaches courses 
in doctor-patient communications. “It’s 
hard to learn about communication 
skills without stepping outside the li- 
brary once in a while to practice them.” 

It wasn’t always this way. Before 
World War II, doctors were typically 
good communicators—listening, sympa- 
thizing and comforting for hours at a 
time. But as medicine grew more so- 
phisticated after the introduction of an- 
tibiotics, things started to change. 
“Once the doctor was really able to heal, 
he didn’t feel the need to be so psycho- 
logically supportive,” says Edward 
Shorter, Ph.D., who teaches the history 
of medicine at the University of Toronto 
and is author of Doctors and Their Pa- 
tients: A Social History (Transaction 
Publishers, 1991). 

As medicine turned from an art into a 
science, a different type of person en- 
tered the profession. “Medical schools 
in the United States began selecting 
people who did very well in the basic 
sciences,” says William Marchand, 
M.D., a Salt Lake City psychiatrist. 
“These people are analytical and good 
with facts, but they’re not necessarily 
people-people.” 

By the time these doctors have fin- 
ished medical training, they have 
learned to be efficient, abrupt and au- 
thoritarian. They are ready, says Cary, 
to be “the only titled class in America.” 
And nothing bothers this royalty more 
than subjects who are critical or disre- 
spectful. “They don’t like anyone to 
question their ability or integrity,” says 


Robert Smith, M.D., a professor of 


medicine and psychiatry at Michigan 
State University, in East Lansing, and 
co-author of studies on physician-pa- 
tient relationships. 

Those kinds of attitudes may be af- 


fecting the kind of care doctors offer. 
For one thing, physicians seem less will- 
ing to give a patient much time. In 1975, 
a general practitioner spent eleven min- 
utes talking to most patients; today he 
spends only seven. And patients know it: 
A 1993 survey by the American Medical 
Association shows that 65 percent of 
Americans complain that doctors don’t 
spend enough time with them. 

While both males and females voice 
complaints about rude and uncaring 
physicians, women seem to feel particu- 
larly mistreated. The Miles Institute 
study, for instance, shows that women 
are nearly twice as likely to be unhappy 
with doctors. 

Some experts suggest that this is be- 
cause doctors—80 percent of whom are 
male—may actually hold women in low- 
er esteem than they do men. When 
physicians complain about patients, 
more than eight out of ten times the 
“difficult patient” is female, says a re- 
port in the Israel Journal of Psychiatry 
and Related Sciences. 


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to be “difficult” and state their ¢ 
forcefully in order to be heard. Ac 
to a 1993 survey on women’s hea 
the Commonwealth Fund, a 
City-based national philanthre 
percent of women (compared to 
cent of men) have been told that é 
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THE SOLUTIONS 
There are some indications, he 
that the profession is beginnialll 
patients’ complaints. In recent 
medical schools have added 
communication to their curric 
in the near future, students apph 
a medical license may have to ¢ 
than just score well on a writte 
scientific knowledge. They m 
have to show examiners, by me 
role-playing, that they can comm 
effectively with patients. i 

And many doctors already in p 
are trying to improve their peop! 
Since 1989 more than six th 
physicians have studied doctor: 
communication in a half-day 
sponsored by the Miles Insti 
lar seminars are offered by other 
zations. Yet, says Richard 
Ph.D., a sociologist and co-d c 
the residency program in i 
medicine at Highland Hosp 
Rochester, New York, “there i 
long way to go.” 

Advocates emphasize that § 
shouldn’t let doctors get aw 
treating them rudely—not o: yl 
it’s upsetting, but also because 
them from getting well: When ] 
in a study at the University of C 
at Los Angeles were taught to 
assertive with their physician 
health improved dramatically. 
with hypertension had lower blo 
sure, people with diabetes 
blood sugar, and people witl 
healed more quickly. ; 

Here are some suggestions 
you can do to protect yourself: 
Know your rights, and don’t 
to demand them. According 
of ethics of the American Me 
ation, every patient is entitled t 
tesy, respect, dignity, respons! 
timely attention to his or her nee¢ 
Visit several doctors before 
one. Many physicians are wi 
a prospective patient, withou 
for a brief initial interview. 
won’t give you five minutes” 
know him, that’s a pretty goo 
his attitude] in and of itself,” 
chiatrist Marchand. 6 
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Bedside manners 
continued from page 184 


judiciously because he or she will help 
you choose other physicians if you need 
specialized care. 

If you’re not happy with your pres- 
ent doctor, look for another. It’s best 
to find a doctor you’re comfortable with 
before you really need one. But even if 
you are in the midst of an illness, you 
probably have a few days to doctor- 
shop. “Although you may be anxious 
about postponing treatment, in the long 
run, in nonemergency situations, you 
may be better off switching doctors,” 
says Marchand. 

If it is impossible to change physi- 
cians, turn to other people for car- 
ing and empathy. “If you realize 
you're not going to get empathy and 
warmth from your doctor, ask to speak 
to a nurse or social worker,” advises 
family physician Cary. 

Tell your doctor why you don’t 
wish to be his patient any longer. 
“It’s true that people vote with their 
feet, and by dropping out of treatment, 
the patient is making a strong state- | 
ment, but it doesn’t give the doctor the 
specifics he needs to improve,” 
Frankel. “If people don’t speak out, 
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Where are our children? 


continued from page 119 


five miles away, nine-year-old Angie 
Marie Housman got off a school bus near 
her home and disappeared. Her body was 
found nine days later. Then, on Decem- 
ber 1, ten-year-old Cassidy Senter was 
kidnapped while walking three blocks to a 
friend’s house. The small personal-safety 
device she’d been wearing was found along 
the road, the alarm screeching. Her body 
was discovered in an alley eight days later. 
Authorities are now searching for what 
they suspect may be a serial child killer. 

For the thousands of other parents 
whose children are missing for months, 
and even years, hope, no matter how 
faint, never fails entirely. Below, five 
families share their heart-wrenching sto- 
ries—and an emotional plea: Have you 
seen our children? 


SARA ANNE WOOD 
DISAPPEARED AUGUST 18, 1993 
As the Fournal went to press, the police 
announced they had a prime suspect in 
the case of Sara Anne Wood. Sara van- 
ished on August 18, 1993, from her 
community of Litchfield, New York. 
The suspect, Lewis Lent, Jr., forty- 
three, of North Adams, Massachusetts, 
was arrested in early January after he at- 
tempted to kidnap twelve-year-old Rebec- 
ca Savarese, of Pittsfield, Massachusetts, 
at gunpoint; he’s also been charged with 
the 1990 murder of a twelve-year-old Pitts- 
field boy whose body was found near 
Ithaca, New York. According to the police, 
Lent gave them information that proves he 
was in Litchfield on the day Sara disap- 
peared, and he said that Sara’s body could 
be found at Raquette Lake in the Adiron- 
dack Mountains. At press ime, authorities 
were searching the area for Sara’s body. 


Sara disappeared on the afternoon of 


August 18, on a one-mile bike trip be- 
tween her home and Norwich Corners 
Presbyterian Church, where her father, 
Bob, is a lay pastor. She had left for the 
church at 1:30 P.M. to retrieve some 
music for her Bible school class that 
evening; at 2:19, someone spotted Sara 
pedaling on a rural road in the direction 
of her house. But she never made it. 

A little after 3 p.M., Sara’s brother, 
Dusty, went to the church. When he 
didn’t find Sara there, the Woods be- 
came alarmed. Bob jumped in his car to 
look for his daughter, and Frances, Sara’s 
mother, later called the state police. 

“Tt’s that feeling of fear and helpless- 
ness and anger and anxiety, when a 
child is out of your sight and out of your 
reach,” Bob says, recalling the panic he 
felt as he looked for Sara. He gathered 
some neighbors to help him; in a clump 
of trees, thirty feet off Hacadam Road, 
one of them found Sara’s bike. Her mu- 
sic was scattered next to it. 


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For the next five and a half da 
combed over six hundred squat 
looking for any clue to Sara’s dis: 
ance. A few miles away, in New Ha 
a vacant bowling alley became th 
Anne Wood Rescue Center. Ultii 
more than five million flyers with 
picture were sent out across the cou: 

Every person in the area with a 
of child molestation became a pe 
suspect. In late October, a polices in 
tor traveled to Sturbridge, Massa 
when the body of ten-year-old g 
irainen was discovered. Holly hac 
peared from a country road only 
days before Sara. (Authorities are 1 
vestigating to see whether Lewis I 
linked to Holly’s case and to the dise 
ances of other children in the area.) 

Until Bob and Frances Wood 
exactly what happened to their da 
they can never know peace. “M 
has been deeply wounded by wh 
place,” says Bob, struggling to m 
his composure. “That wound 
open. It will not close, it will me 
to heal, until we have the truth. 
Tf you have any additional info 
ote disappearance of Sara Anne Woot 

New York State Police Missing Person 
at 315-363-4400, or call 800-684-SA 


MICHAELA GARECHT 
MISSING SINCE NOVEMBER 19, 198 
When nine-year-old Michaela Ga 
Hayward, California, was abducte 
was an eyewitness to the crime. B 
with a detailed description of her 
tor, the little girl has never been fo 
On Saturday, November 1 
Michaela asked her mother, 
she could go to the Rainbow I] 
two blocks from her home, 
friend. “The friend’s father he 
them five dollars, and Micha 
saying, please, please!” remeé 
Sharon, who normally never allo 
daughter to walk to the store by] 
Later, Sharon would won 
were signs that something ay 
about to happen. Just a week 
Michaela had dreamed that ki 
people were being held in the 
And that morning, Sharon felt s 
afraid. But it was 10 A.M., Mich 
with a friend, and she’d been ft 
the safety rules. What could hag 
“T watched the girls pick up th 
ers from the driveway,” Shar 
“And before she left, Michaelé 
around to me and said, ‘I love yo 
I said, ‘I love you, too, Michaela 
At the market, the girls | 
scooters outside. But when th 
out, one of the scooters was mis 
Around the corner of f 
Michaela spotted the scoo 
up near a car. But just as § 
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out of the car, grabbed her and threw 
her inside. As Michaela’s friend 
screamed, the man sped away. 

The blatant abduction sent shock 
waves through the community. Not only 
had the man left a nine-year-old wit- 
ness, adults claimed to have seen him 
buying coffee at a nearby store, and 
nearly having an accident as he drove up 
to the market. But even with all that in- 
formation, Michaela is still missing. 

For a long time after her daughter was 
taken, Sharon was in shock. “The only 
thing I ever focused on was Michaela, 
where she might be,” says Sharon. “And 
it’s just been this last year that my own 


loss has really started to be felt.” 

Like many couples who have been 
faced with such a tragedy, Sharon and 
her husband, Rodney, have divorced. 
Rodney believes that his daughter was 
kidnapped by a pedophile. But he also 
believes she’s still alive, and that some- 
day she’ll come home. 

“Sometimes when there’s a new kid- 
napping, or they find a body, people 
will say, ‘Oh, Michaela is dead,’ ” says 
Rodney. “I say, ‘No, she’s not.’ ” 

If you have any information about the disap- 
pearance of Michaela Garecht, call the Hay- 
ward Police Department at 415-293-7272. 


SARAH PRYOR 
MISSING SINCE OCTOBER 9, 1985 


For Barbara Pryor, comfort comes from 


How fo protect your children 


remembering her daughter, § 
her “beauty and joy.’ " 

On October 9, 1985, Sai 
nine, came home from schaell IL, 
TV, ate a bowl of Jell-O, and 
father, Andrew, that she was | 
walk, as she had the day befor 
busy Concord Road in their 
Wayland, Massachusetts. 

When Barbara arrived pe 
work around 6 P.M. and Sarah 
back, she feared the worst. “Oh, 
Andy!” she cried. “We’re in trouk 

After a massive search by 
failed to turn up any sign of 
Pryors were left in a nightmaris 
suspended between hope and 
Two months after their dav 
disappearance, an anonymot 

















Child kidnappers are primarily male, and most are re 
peat offenders. However, experts believe that many ab- 
duction attempts can be foiled if children are taught basic 
security measures. Here, advice from the National Center 
for Missing and Exploited Children, in Arlington, Virginia, 
and J.J. Bittenbinder, a security expert and investigator 
with the Cook County, Illinois, sheriff's department. 

@ Tell your children that a stranger is anyone they—and 
you—don't know. Children sometimes think of a stranger 
as someone who looks scary or different. Teach them that 
if anyone they don’t know approaches them in familiar 
surroundings—at school, in church—that it doesn’t mean 
the person is trustworthy. Child molesters offen let them- 
selves be seen in places where children feel safe, or be- 
friend a child before abducting him or her. 

@ Instruct your kids to refuse a stranger's request for help. 
Abductors often lure children by preying on their natural 
desire to be friendly and helpful. Some attackers have 
even faked a broken arm to win sympathy and appear 
harmless. Anytime a stranger asks a child for directions— 
or anything else—the child must say no. 

@ let your children know who is to be trusted. One tactic 
abductors use is to tell a child that something terrible has 
happened to her parent and that she should come with 
them. Make sure your kids know who will pick them up if 
there really is an emergency. Develop a code word—if 
the person who comes to pick up the child doesn't know 
the word, the child is not to go with him. 

™ Some abductors pose as police officers, so talk to your 
children about what a real police officer looks like, includ- 
ing the badge and the uniform worn in your area. Tell your 
children never to go in an unmarked police car; a real po- 
lice officer will be able to summon a marked cruiser 

@ Know where your children are at all times. If they ar 
rive home atier school to an empty house, make sure they 
lock the door and phone you or a neighbor to say 
they've safely arrived. According to Bittenbinder, kids 
should not answer the phone when they're home alone; 
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calls. He also encourages the use of home alam 
are connected to a lacal police department, « 
gests that kids carry @ personal alarm that will 
piercing shriek when the child pulls a pin. : 
@ Children should always walk in groups. Enc 
your kids to be alert to their surroundings; they 
walk confidently, and if they feel threatened, they 
get the attention of passersby immediately. 
@ As soon as your children are old enough to 
stand, tell them not to allow anyone to take theing 
fo touch them in the “bathing suit area” or ask: 
keep secrets. Children need to know that if se 
feels scary or wrong, they should trust their insti 
them that if anyone makes them feel uncomfortable 
way, they should get away from the person imme 
and alert you or another trusted adult. 

® If your children are grabbed by an abductor, the >) 
resist as forcefully as possible. "Scream and run,” G 
vestigator Bittenbinder. He urges children to yell © 
my parent!” or “Help me, I'm in trouble!” Finally, he s 
your kids not to allow themselves to be put in a vehicl 
taken anywhere. “If the man tells the child that if 
and comes along he will not be hurt, that man is” 
says. "He wants to get the child to a place where” 
tal control and privacy. He intends to rape or kill the € 

In many states, there are now school progral 
teach kids how to protect themselves. To find such 
gram in your area, call your child’s school or 
police department. Or, call the Adam Walsh Cen 

of the National Center for Missing and Exploited’@ 

for information about its nationwide program KR 
Company Together for Safety, at 407-848-1900! 

For more on child safety, or to report any ink 
about a missing child, contact the National Ce 
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- 1. A search of more than one hun- 


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een raped and murdered and her 
dumped at a housing project in 
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ngs of Sarah. In 1986, in Balti- 
police searched a neighborhood 
someone reported seeing Sarah, 
aly look-alikes were found. Anoth- 
e, FBI agents in Cape Cod hunted 
a family who was vacationing with 
who looked like Sarah. The girl 
1 out to be a niece. 

zarly 1990, a witness came forward 
iim that a convicted murderer 
d John Whirty was sitting on the 


> of his car at the cornfield on Con- 


Road about the time Sarah would 


: walked by. Shortly after Sarah’s 


tion, Whirty had been arrested for 
tempted kidnapping of a woman 
fifteen miles from the spot where 
had disappeared. But with no wit- 
0 Sarah’s abduction, police lacked 
zh evidence to link him to the 
—a frequent and frustrating occur- 


‘ In child-kidnapping cases. 


mid-1993, a man named Donald 


Leroy Evans told a reporter that he had 
kidnapped and murdered Sarah and two 
other girls. But after he was convicted 
for the murder of a nine-year-old girl in 
Mississippi, Evans refused to talk, and 
police have been unable to confirm that 
he was ever in Massachusetts. 

Like the Garechts, the Pryors found 
their marriage couldn’t survive. In fact, 
such a tragedy can tear an entire family 
apart. “Every time a [missing] child is 
found [dead] it brings back the night 
mares for myself and my children,” says 
Barbara. “We have no closure.” 

Today, however, she tries to focus on 
the good things. She says, “I live every 
day as Sarah did.” 

If you have any information about the di 
appearance of Sarah Pryor, call the Vi 
land Police Department at 508-358 


ANN GOTLIB 
MISSING SINCE JUNE 1, 1983 


When Anatoly and Lyudmila 


emigrated to the U.S. from the el 
Union in 1980, they hoped for ter 
life for themselves and their d: ter, 
Ann. They discovered that th 1eW 
country was anything but a refug 

June 1, 1983, marked the be ning 
of summer vacation for twelve-year-old 


Ann, of Louisville, Kentucky. She spent 
most of the day at a recreation center 
with a friend, and then was driven 





home, where her grandmother was wait- 
ing. But when Lyudmila got home from 


work after 4 P.M., Ann was gone 
“Another friend had come along and 
persuaded Ann to go to her house,” says 


Lyudmila. “And they ] 


persuaded Ann's 
to let 


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girl’s house, and was assured that Ann’s 


friend would accompany 1ome 


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Lyudmila became alarmed and phoned 
again. She learned that Anz riend had 
walked onl home with her, and 
hat th rted 1d 5:20 M 
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c, Lyudmila dr« to the mall, but 
e was! en of | daughter 
“Tt wa yout Six twenty-five,” re 
nember udmiula went home and 
called t »olice.” She also called her 
husba vho was working in Michigan 
at tl “Then,” says Lyudmila, “a 
neis went back to the mall with me, 
and aw Ann’s bike. It was leaning 
ag . pillar.” 
tigators concluded that the bike 
I een planted there. Two girls said 
th had seen a man dragging a 
a drainage ditch near the mall it hun 
dreds of searchers failed to turn up any 
trace, and the girls failed polygraph tests. 
From the start, the police and FBI 
agents had several possible continued) 














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suspects. On the day Ann was abducted, 
a young girl was molested by a man at 
the same recreation center where Ann 
had spent the morning. Three weeks lat- 
er, police arrested forty-two-year-old 
Ralph Barry Barbour. Although Barbour 
admitted to molesting the child at the 
recreation center and was sentenced to 
ten years in prison, he insisted he had 
not abducted Ann. His alibi was solid. 

The day after Ann vanished, a fifteen- 
year-old Louisville girl was kidnapped 
and sexually abused; she was later re- 
leased. The man who attacked her has 
never been found. And in January 1984, 
Gregory Lewis Oakley Jr., who lived one 
block from the Gotlib home, was arrest- 
ed for the stabbing and attempted rape 
of a thirteen-year-old girl. Oakley failed 
a polygraph test when he denied respon- 
sibility for Ann’s kidnapping. But with- 
out evidence to link him to the crime, 
investigators have been unable to build 
a case against him. 

Now, more than a decade has passed, 
and the pain for the Gotlibs is almost 
impossible to bear. “People don’t un- 
derstand that we live with it every 
minute of every day,” says Lyudmila. “It 
is my present. It will never be my past.” 
If you have any information about the dis- 
appearance of Ann Gotlib, please call the 
FBI at 502-583-3941. 


JOHNNY GOSCH 
MISSING SINCE SEPTEMBER 5, 1982 
For weeks before twelve-year-old Johnny 
Gosch, of West Des Moines, Iowa, was 
kidnapped in 1982, he was being stalked, 
say his parents, Noreen and John Gosch. 
First, the family received a series of hang- 
up phone calls. Then, according to the 
Gosches, a neighbor reported to the po- 
lice that a man had snapped pictures of 
Johnny as he walked home from school. 
But since the man had done nothing ille- 
gal, the police never followed up on the 
tip, and the incident was never mentioned 
to Johnny’s parents—until it was too late. 
On September 5, 1982, Johnny left his 
home at 6 A.M. to begin his Sunday-morn- 
ing paper route. He walked one block to 
where his papers were dropped off; anoth- 
er paperboy was already there, along with 
a father who was picking up papers for his 
son. A man in a blue car pulled up and 
asked for directions to a nearby block. 
Minutes later, the man returned, say- 
ing he was having trouble finding it. 
Something about him made Johnny un- 
easy. “That guy is really weird,” he said 
to the others. “I’m going to get out of 
here, do my paper route and go home.” 
Johnny walked up the block. Two 
other paperboys saw him leaning over 
his wagon. They also saw a tall, thin 
man—not the man in the car—walk 


across the street toward Johnny. Then 
the two boys rounded a corner. It was 
the last time anyone saw Johnny Gosch. 

“We got a call from one of the neigh- 
bors wondering where their paper was,” 
remembers John Gosch. “I immediately 
got in the car.” When he found Johnny’s 
abandoned wagon, John hurried home 
and told Noreen to call the police. 

“By the time the police got there, I had 
already talked to each one of [the other 
paperboys] and found out the description 
of the man and the description of the car,” 
says Noreen. “The cop just looked at me 
and said, ‘Has he ever run away before?’ ” 

A decade ago, when children disap- 
peared, police had the discretion to treat 
them as runaways, at least until a few 
days had passed. Thus, the crucial few 
hours after an abduction, when the 
chance to find a child alive is highest, 
were squandered. 

The Gosches were left to feel it was 
up to them to find their son. “I called ev- 
erybody we knew,” recalls Noreen. “We 
had thousands of people searching.” She 
and John also sent out thousands of 
missing-person posters and hired three 
detective agencies to try to find Johnny. 

Noreen says she was out almost every 
night, making speeches to warn other par- 
ents of the threat of pedophiles. Not only 
was she raising money to help find her 
son, she was harnessing support for the 
Johnny Gosch Bill, one of the first such 
pieces of legislation in the country that 
would force police to act night away when 
a child under eighteen is missing. Noreen 
got the legislation passed, and she helped 
neighboring states pass similar bills. 

Two years after Johnny was kid- 
napped, thirteen-year-old Eugene Wade 
Martin disappeared from his morning 
paper route across town from the Gosch 
home. Like Johnny, he has never been 
found. In 1991, a convicted child mo- 
lester named Paul Bonacci, who suffers 
from multiple-personality disorder, 
came forward to claim he had helped 
kidnap Johnny, and that both Johnny 
and Eugene had been abducted for use 
in a child-prostitution ring, headed by a 
man named Emilio. But the authorities 
were never able to locate Emilio. 

Although the FBI does not find 
Bonacci’s story credible, Noreen and 
John Gosch believe him. What they 
don’t know is whether Johnny is still 
alive. Noreen worries that even if John- 
ny survived, he might be too frightened 
to come home. “The kidnappers are still 
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an alcohol or drug user (2 percent) 
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boss was a fair person, but nese who weren't happy described their boss as a 
10 percent) or wimp (9 percent). 


tyrant (27 percent), nut (19 percent) 


MARITAL ROMANCE, STRESS 
AND THANKS 
I read with great interest the article 
about Leslie Lampert’s special get- 
away weekend for her husband and 
herself (“Sex and the married wom- 
an,” November 1993). For our twen- 
ty-seventh wedding anniversary, I 
kidnapped my husband and only told 
him what to pack. He had no idea 
where we were going or what was 
planned. I made all the arrangements: 
I brought champagne and fresh flow- 
ers, Hershey’s Kisses, bath fragrance, 
massage lotion—and, of course, Victo- 
ria’s Secret came along for the fun. 
After a special anniversary dinner we 
went back to our room for cham- 
pagne. I managed to forget glasses 
from home, so we had champagne out 
of hotel glasses. That didn’t put a 
damper on our fun in the least. So, 
you see, even after being married 
twenty-seven years there is still spice. 
Next year, my husband says, is his 
turn. I can hardly wait to be kid- 
napped in the name of love! 
—Sara F. Cory 
Fremont, California 


Of all the women’s magazines I sub- 
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they'd encountered at least one truly bad boss in their 
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the article “Sex and the married wom- 
an” because it was unrealistic. 

Marital sex is not accurately por- 
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With job insecurity, financial concerns 
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how many women will feel something 
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ual relationship is less than what 1s de- 
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—Name withheld on request 
Green Bay, Wisconsin 


I wish to offer your magazine my 
heartfelt thanks for publishing “The 
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ber 1993). I, too, suffer from vulvody- 
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My hope is that other women suf- 
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CONTENTS LADIES’ HOME JOURNAI 


April 1994 + VOL. CXI NO. 4 





in the news 


33 CNN NEWSLINE REPORT LHu teams up with the world’s news leader to 
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family cruises; chic spring fashions; and more 


62 A DAY IN THE LIFE OF THE NEW AMERICAN WOMAN Women’s lives 
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women’s responsibilities and priorities are changing. By Michael J. Weiss 













102 WILD JUSTICE Revenge may be sweet—and thoughts of it sweeter 
still—but what makes some people actually lash out at those who've done 
them wrong? By Anarea Gross 


152 “SOMEONE IS WATCHING ME” It’s not only the rich and famous 
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more women just like you. How can these disturbing and 
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154 THE TALK-SHOW REPORT Love ‘em or hate ‘em, 
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buried under the chatter. By Barbara Lippert 


36 DIANA’S BATTLE ROYAL Princess Diana has all but 
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106 WHAT MEN WILL NEVER ths YOU 
He may talk and talk and talk, but that doesn't 
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thinking. By Morris Street 


families today 


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MERYL’S TURN “Coming to see 
you was a mutual decision,” 
Meryl, thirty-five, a small, animat- 
ed woman with black hair cropped 
to chin length. “We’ve split up 
once already—lI left Jake for anoth- 
er man two years ago, taking our 
daughter with me. Now Jake and I 
have decided to try again—but if 
we can’t even talk to each other 
without fighting, and if we never 


said 


make love, how can we ever make 
this work? 

“My life story is so complicated, 
you're not going to believe it. ’'m 
from an affluent, traditional fami- 
ly—my father worked in the cloth- 
ing business, and my mother was a 
discontented housewife. Dad was 
quiet and reserved—and I was 
Daddy’s girl, a real tomboy. 

“Mother hated that. She was 
meticulous and beautiful and liked 
me to wear pink dresses and crino- 
lines. Appearances were very 1m- 
portant to her, but feelings were 
dismissed. And if I disagreed with 
her, ’'d get my head handed to me. 
My mother always felt my father 
wasn’t good enough. They had to 


By Margeny 1D. Rosen 


get married—she was pregnant 
with my sister. 

‘Stull, I remember that my early 
childhood was pretty idyllic. We'd 
spend every summer on Cape Cod 
and wonderful Christmases with all 
the cousins. But on Christmas Day 
the year I was twelve, Dad an- 
nounced he was leaving. Much lat- 
er, I learned he’d been having an 
affair with his secretary. 

“When Dad told us he was mov- 
ing out, I was angry. I blamed my- 
self. My whole life changed after 
that. I was really messed up. I got 
pregnant when I was seventeen— 
the father was my high school 
boyfriend, Mike. His parents’ mar- 
riage was also on the rocks, and 
Mike would often stay over at our 
house. My parents were horrified 
about my pregnancy and forced 
me to put the baby up for adop- 
tion. But—wait tll you hear this— 
when I was six months pregnant, I 
was awakened one night by noises 
down the hall. I went to see what 
was going on and discovered my 
mother in bed with Mike. Pretty 
horrible, right? Well, there’s more. 


He ended up getting her pregnant 
too! So when I was seven months 
pregnant, J flew to Puerto Rieé 
with my mother so she could have 
an abortion. My mother ended up 
marrying Mike’s father a few year 
ago—I said you wouldn’t beliey 
it—and they moved to California. | 
haven’t spoken to her since. % 
‘“T don’t know why, but I contins 
ued to see Mike—we got married 
but divorced after a year. I hat 
been tutored while I was pregnant 
so at least I have my high sch 
diploma. But I lasted only $1 
months at college. After thaty 
bounced from one secretarial jo 
to another. 
“T think I survived all this bé 
cause I’ve learned to block on 
painful things. In fact, nght now;] 
feels like I’m talking about anothe 
person. _ 
“About six months after I finall 
left Mike, I met Jake. We we 
both working for a community th 
ater company. Jake was very differ 
ent from Mike, in everything froi 
looks to interests. Mike was hand 
Jake can barely (continue 


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change a lightbulb. Mike was tall and 
handsome; Jake is short and chunky. 
But we had so much fun together. After 
living together for a year, we decided to 
get married. 

“Jake’s parents adored me, and for 
the first time in years, I felt I was part of 
a warm, wonderful family. 

“About two years after we were mar- 
ried, we decided to start a family, but we 
were having trouble. In fact, I had two 
miscarriages. I couldn’t bear to go 
through all the fertility tests, so we agreed 
to adopt. Maybe because I’d had to give 
up my own baby years ago, I wanted to 
give an unwanted child a home. Jake 
knew about the baby but said it wasn’t an 
issue for him; he loved me and wanted us 
to be a family. We got Jenny when she 
was four days old; it was a miracle. 

“The baby consumed my life. I’d 
been working at a travel agency, but I 
quit to take care of Jenny. By that time, 
though, Jake and I had already begun to 
drift apart. Jake was working crazy hours 
at his family’s stationery store, and on 
Sunday, he’d flop down in front of the 
TV set. We hardly ever made love, but 


to me. One thing led to another, and 
suddenly we were having a torrid affair. 
I really thought I was in love with him, 
and a month after Jenny’s fourth birth- 
day, I told Jake I wanted to move out. 

“T took Jenny and rented a house in 
the next town. Jake and I were legally 
separated, but we never divorced and he 
continued to live in our house. Jenny 
handled things pretty well. She was old 
enough to ask questions, but, to her, 
Mitchell was just a friend. She saw her 
father frequently—though, like I said, 
they weren’t close. 

“But my life got worse, not better. 
Mitchell and I started fighting, and I saw 
a violent side to him. Jenny, too, was 
scared. But because of Jenny, Jake and I 
had started talking again. As ume went on, 
we'd developed a very sweet friendship. I 
noticed he was stronger, more self-suffi- 
cient; I respected that. He started listening 
to me in a way he never had before. 

“So I decided to leave Mitchell. Jake 
helped me find an apartment near our 
old house, and we saw a great deal of 
each other. Four months later, we start- 
ed dating again, and soon Jenny and I 
moved back in with him. 

“At first, it was like a second honey- 
moon—lots of laughs, lots of sex—but 


“Meryl is never in the 
mood tor sex.” Jake said. 
“When vou re constantly 


rejected, you 


that was fine by me. What wasn’t so fine 
was that I was feeling like a single moth- 
er. I knew Jake loved Jenny, but he nev- 
er knew what to do with her, never 
volunteered to take her anywhere or 
even to read to her. 

“T know life is not peaches and 
cream—I know I should have been 
grateful for what I had—but I was feel- 
ing more and more overworked and 
alone. I cooked and cleaned, and I even 
made his doctor appointments. It was a 
burden to feel that he was so dependent. 

“Around this time, Jake’s mother be- 
came ill with cancer and died. It was a 
horrible time. We were all like zombies, 
walking around, barely talking. And 
then I met another man. 

“Mitchell was director of a theater 
group where I had started working as a 
production assistant while Jenny was in 
nursery school in the morning. Mitch 
was gorgeous, and he started coming on 


1° LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - APRIL 1994 


wy 


stop trying. 


then the old problems surfaced. Jake’s 
constant traveling is starting to get to 
me—he’s now national sales manager 
for a paper-goods company, and he’s of- 
ten gone Monday through Friday every 
week; I resent it. On weekends, he’s fall- 
en into the same pattern of lying on the 
couch watching TV. We never talk, and 
we always fight. If we’re not arguing 
about Jenny and how to handle her, 
we're battling over why we never make 
love. Jake yells, and I want to crawl into 
a hole. Then he wants to make love, and 
he can’t understand why I don’t! 

“Tm so confused. Is this the man for 
me or not? Will I ever figure out my life?” 


JAKE’S TURN <1 don’t want to be 


hurt again,” said Jake, thirty-seven, a 
stocky man with curly brown hair, “and 
I don’t want my daughter to be hurt 
again. But Meryl and I can’t get along. 
“T have no intention of having the 

































same kind of marriage my parents I 
grew up in a middle-class hom 
older of two children. My folks ow 
stationery store; that meant they ¥ 
together every day and fought tc 
every day. I come from a fami 
yellers. Mom was this flamboyant 
ny person, clearly the boss—no, I 
that back. As a kid, I thought Dae 
the boss—my kid brother and I 
both afraid of him—but now I seg 
Mom ran the show. When she d 
years ago, we were totally lost. 
“But, anyway, Dad worked fou 
someumes sixteen, hours a day plu 
urday, so he was never around. 
close to my mother, though; if I 
needed to talk, she’d listen. 
“The most traumatic thing I ca 
member from my childhood is m 
to another town when I was in the 
grade. I'd had a lot of friends, bu 
denly I was in a new school, andT 
tough time fitting in. I never felt 
dens or happy in high school. 
“That’s the way it was for me ii 
lege, too—until I discovered dram 
roommate was auditioning for a 
I decided to go with him—and 
hooked. I liked being onstage, 
someone else. Everyone thought 
good, and after a few years, I sta 
feel that maybe I was. Even pe 
didn’t know would come up 
campus. I wanted to pursue actin 
fessionally—I was accepted to a 
gious acting school for graduate 
but my folks refused to pay for it 
wanted me to get a real job. 
“So I found an apartment in th 
town where my parents lived and 
working with them in the stat 
store. I hated the business, bi 
made me a good offer, and I 
was stupid to turn it down. I 
worst thing I ever did, because 
ther and I don’t get along. 
“Meantume, I’d joined the 
ma group, where I met Meryl. 
tracted to her immediately 
warned me not to get involved 
I knew all about her failed marriz 
the pregnancy. I didn’t care= 
madly in love. I didn’t pressure } 
held back and waited for her te 
around. Finally she did. 
“T know I wasn’t a good fathe 
Jenny was little. I was away so 
what with the business and my n 
illness. Jenny is nine years old ne 
I’m scared it’s too late. Meryl 
her—heck, Jenny doesn’t even 
with me lately. She prefers bein; 
friends. I’m just not good at par 
“Frankly, I had no idea any 
wrong with our marriage the 
I was too wrapped up in my owr 
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Can this marriage be saved? 


continued 


year. It really helped me. I felt more 
confident. I quit working for my dad 
and took a new job as a salesman for 
one of our suppliers. 

“In time, even my anger at Meryl 
lessened. Our conversations became 
friendlier—you know the rest. But, as 
she said, the good times didn’t last. 
We’re not talking and we’re not making 
love. Meryl is never in the mood, or she 
has a headache. Look, when you’re con- 
stantly rejected, you feel funny trying. 
I'll reach out to hold her or put my arm 
around her, and she shrugs me off! 

“Not that the opportunity comes up 
all that often. Meryl lets Jenny stay up 
until ten-thirty, eleven o’clock some- 
times. I think that’s too late for a nine- 
year-old. By the time the kid’s 1n bed, 
who has energy for sex? 

“Look, I know Mery! wants to do 
things on the weekend, but after being 
on the road for five days, I’m exhausted. 
I don’t need her talking to me in that 
condescending, bitchy tone. I hate it 
when she rolls her eyes like I’m a jerk. 

“Maybe there was a reason we never 
got divorced; maybe we’re destined to 
be together. But if we are, the terms 
have got to be different.” 


THE COUNSELOR’S TURN “Before 


this couple could work on their future 
together, they had to come to terms 
with their past,” said the counselor. 

“Unfortunately, instead of telling 
each other how they felt, Meryl and Jake 
communicated via facial gestures and 
cutting remarks, or by yelling. This in- 
ability to express themselves affected ev- 
ery aspect of their marriage, particularly 
their sex life and their parenting. 

“The younger of two children, Meryl 
had a materially comfortable but psy- 
chologically deprived childhood. Her 
mother was a critical, vindictive woman. 
Since feelings in her family were neither 
encouraged nor accepted, Meryl learned 
to close off a part of herself. She had lit- 
tle faith that other people would respect 
her feelings or trust in her ability to ex- 
press them. As a result, she didn’t share, 
didn’t talk—all the things you must do 
in a marriage—because to do that would 
be to unmask the real Meryl, the unwor- 
thy, unlovable one. When Jake yelled at 
her, she instinctively withdrew, just as 
she did with her mother. 

“When Meryl didn’t respond to him 
sexually, Jake naturally felt rejected, but 
he was too insecure to tell her directly. 
Instead, he carried on an internal dia- 
logue, asking himself why he was both- 
ering to try to be close. 

“A man with low self-confidence, Jake 
found it hard to be himself, so he always 
relied on playing a role. He modeled him- 


14 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - APRIL 1994 


| hurting a partner's feelings 


self after his uninvolved father. In his 
mind, screaming was appropriate com- 
munication; after all, that’s the way his 
family always communciated. Like his fa- 
ther, Jake dropped out of the family dy- 
namics. I assured him that it is never too 
late to start being a parent. I also told him 
it was normal for Jenny to want to spend 
time with her friends. “That doesn’t mean 
she doesn’t love you,’ I said. Jake had to 
learn to interpret ‘kid signals.’ ‘If she’s 


SKILL BUILDER 


How fo jump-start a 
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Like Meryl and Jake, many couples 
prefer to think that their sex life will 
t “happen.” But like any aspect of 
marriage, a satisfying lovelite takes 
work. Keep these points in mina: 
@ Make your sex life a prior- 
ity. If either of you is less than satis- 
tied, do something about it now 
@ Talk about sex. Dont be a 
victim of the mind-reader syndrome: 
If he loves me, he will know what | 
like. Don’t be afraid, either, to ex- 
press dissatisfaction out of fear of 





@ Just talk, period—undis- 
tracted by the kids, the tele- 
phone, the TV. |f you can't have 
a conversation, you can’t be inti- 
mate. Create the opportunities: Call 
each other during the day, make a 
date for lunch or share a glass of 
wine after the children are asleep. 
Be an sella listener. Empathy 
makes a person feel s ae and loved 
and opens the door to intimacy 

@ Romance each other. Don: 





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acting up and angry,’ I added, * 
mean she wants more attention, 
“To avoid dealing with pain 
ories, and also because her m 
never allowed her to express 
feelings, Meryl became an expert 
nial. The first part of my work wi 
was to help her recognize what 
feeling. Whenever she doubted he 
for Jake, I challenged her: ‘If yo 
love him, leave him,’ I said. ‘ 
replied, ‘I can’t do that to Je 
“Then you have to work at this 
ship,’ I responded. “Being a 
easy. Everyone has to work at i 
“T suggested she try to mo 
reactions during the day, to a 
questions like What’s bothert: 
What am I feeling right now? 
gry? Sad? Once she became more 
tive and better able to figure ou 
she was feeling, Meryl concentra 
expressing those feelings in a n 
bative way. She’s more awa 
tone she is using and makes an & 
eliminate sarcastic and cutting ren 
“Jake was reassured by the 
his wife, and he’s made more 
fort to get off the living-room 
weekends. A few weeks ago, Jenn 
Scout troop was holding a fami 
ner, and initially, Jake was reluc 
go since he just would be ge 
from a long trip. ‘But Meryl 
me it was important, and I had 
time. I’m glad I pushed myself,’ 
They've also tried to structure 
time into their weekends. 4 
“This couple had put their sex 
the back burner for the first few 
of counseling. Jake was ski 
bringing up the subject. Co 
the picture was the fact tl 
daughter stayed up so late that 
little private time to talk or mal 
“Jake wanted to move Jenny 
time up, but Meryl resisted. “It 
for him to say that—he’s ne 
during the week. How can I cha 
schedule now?’ she wondered. E 
persisted, in a calm voice, to € 
how much they needed time te 
and Mery] finally agreed. W: 
now in bed at nine-thirty, t 
time for conversation as well a: 
because they are much happier b 
gether, their lovemaking is mut 
isfving. Recently, Jake surpris 
with a weekend trip to Flori 
so many frequent-flyer miles,” 
‘we should take advantage!’ 
time I saw them, Meryl told 
had given her a new wedding 
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Bevar against crime 


\s told to Kathryn Casey 


ntil recently, the only 


women police officers 


ever SCC hl OF thre streets 
were the ones on TV. In 
the mid-seventies, female 
cops were so rare as to be considered 
oddities. Now there are nearly sixtv 


thousand of them- 
all sworn lau 


enforcement offi- 


or 9 percent o/ 


cers nationwide. 


Lh \ 


mothe iS. 


are wives, 
S7SlLErS 
and daughters 
walk 
Most say 
this 
business to help, 
to make a diffei 
And they 


al 


from every 
of life. 


theyv’re in 


CILCE 
do 
OWN jeopardy. Th 


sO thet 
the past twenty-three years, cighty- 
have been killed in 


one women officers 
the line of duty. 

We recently spoke to three police 
officers from across the country, 


who offered a personal look at what 


it’s like to be a woman combating 
crime and violence in a system that 
isn’t alwavs JUST. 


OFFICER MARTHA RODRIGUEZ 
MIAMI, FLORIDA 


I wasn’t made to sit behind a desk 


I once tried being a bank teller— 
my dad was a bank officer—but | 
hated it. I couldn’t stand the 


monotony, the same things day in 


night 1s 


APRIl 


day out. Every 


20 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL 


and 
















Crime is Americas number-one 
problem—here are reports from 
three women on the front lines 


different on the streets. Anything 
can happen. 

I joined the force three years ago 
after spending two years as a pub- 
lic-service aide for the Miami po- 
lice department. While in training, 
I rode with an officer, and IT knew 
instantly I wanted to be a cop. 
Now, at the 


I’m one of one hundred sixty-five 


of twenty-eight, 


age 


1994 






























women on Miami’s 1,064-member | 
My mother was ap-_ 
prehensive at first about my going 
Even now that | 
she’s used to the idea, she always 
likes it better when I’m working 
with a partner. 

our nights a week, from three 
P.M. A.M., ’m out in my 
squad car patrolling Wynwood 
and which border 
downtown Miami. It’s one of the 
dangerous beats; — 
there’s a lot of unem= 
ployment, poverty, guns” 
and crime. And Wyn- 
wood, in particular, has a- 
big problem with gangs.” 
‘There’s prostitution on” 
Biscayne Boulevard, and 
drugs are everywhere. 
On the job (clockwise 


from top): Rodriguez, 
Murdock and Stoltz 


police force. 


into police work. 


to one 
Overtown, 


city’s most 


I’m called to investigate all kinds 
of incidents on my patrol: ¢ 
thefts, murders, assaults, co 
plaints about homeless people. B 
the most dangerous situations ar 
usually family disputes. As a rook 
ie officer, I was once sent t@ 
house where a man was holding 
his girlfriend at knifepoint, threat 
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kill her. It took my partner about ten 
minutes to talk him into handing over 
the knife and letting her go. 

The hot crimes now are bump-and- 
grab and smash-and-grab .robberies: 


The muggers will either cause a fender 


bender or smash someone’s car win- 
dow, then snatch valuables, the vehicle 
itself—or worse. Everyone was shocked 
when a German tourist was murdered 
here by a bump-and-grab robber last 
April. Now we have to take extra pre- 
cautions for visitors’ safety. One night 
I saw a couple driving through Over- 
town, looking for an inexpensive mo- 
tel. It was easy to see they were 
tourists, and they would have made 
good targets for a mugger. I stopped 
them and directed them back to a safer 
part of the city. 

I'm only five feet two, so obviously I 
don’t use strong-arm tactics when I 
work. Women officers don’t have the 
sheer physical strength many men do, so 
we have to rely on intuition and atti- 


would be all right. I kept saying, “I 
don’t know,” even though I knew he 
would probably die. He did. 

The stress of being out on the streets 
can get to you—going from call to call 
and never knowing what to expect. It’s 
easier if you’re married to another cop, 
like I am. My husband, Fernando Suco, 
is a Metro-Dade County homicide de- 
tective. Each of us understands the pres- 
sure the other is under, and we know 
that our minor blowups are just a way of 
letting off tension. 

I always have a little fear. When you 
do what I do, that’s not necessarily a 
bad thing. It gives me a heightened 
sense of awareness and makes me care- 
ful. But I really don’t worry about get- 
ting killed or injured on the job. I 
firmly believe in fate. If it’s my time to 
go, itll happen to me whether it’s on 
the streets or not. 


UNDERSHERIFF BRENDA MURDOCK 
CHINOOK, MONTANA 

I got into law enforcement in 1985 as a 
secretary for what was then an all-male 
police department in Phillips County. 


“TE don’t really worry about 
vetting killed or injured, 


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says Rodriguez. “If it's my 
time, itll happen whether 
its on the streets or not.” 


tude. We have to defuse situations by 
coming in calmly—not excited or argu- 
mentative——and cooling things down 
with reason. Even so, you have to be 
prepared for anything. You never shoot 
unless you or someone else 1s in immi- 
nent danger, but you have to think fast 
in some situations. 

For me, the hardest cases are any 
having to do with children. One that still 
haunts me involved a beautiful little girl, 
about six or seven years old, whose 
mother had been arrested on a felony 
charge. I couldn’t find another relative 
who could take care of her, so I had to 
leave her in a county home. I remember 
how she sobbed. 

And worst of all is having to face the 
relatives of someone who’s been killed. I 
remember once investigating the shoot- 
ing of a young man. His family was cry- 
ing, and the mother kept asking if he 


24 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - APRIL 1994 


The officers started asking me to sit in 
on some of their child-abuse case inter- 
views because the kids seemed to re- 
spond better to a woman. In 1989, they 
asked me to become a deputy sheriff. 
Now I supervise four deputies in the un- 
incorporated areas of Blaine County, 
oversee the county jail and handle the 
department’s budget of $450,000. 

It’s been somewhat hard being ac- 
cepted by the men I work with, but at 
the time I first came in, Chinook had a 
female police chief, so they were used 
to a woman in a position of power. 
Some officers have told me that they 
don’t like women in law enforcement, 
and yet I work well with them. One pa- 
trolman, who’s a family friend, believes 
that women should be at home cooking, 
cleaning and being with their kids. I 
told him I do that anyway, but I still 
have to have a job. 





































Blaine County has just seve 
sand residents, of whom thir 
dred live in Chinook, a little rz 
town. The view we have of the 
Mountains and the Bear Paw] 
tains is breathtaking, although I hi 
tle time to enjoy the scenery. 

We don’t get many murders ] 
maybe one every two years—but 
are a lot of alcohol-related offense 
the declining economy has boos 
number of burglaries. I also par 
in a drug bust last year. 

Then there’s Fort Belknap, a 
American reservation nearby. Alt 
it’s under the jurisdiction of the ] 


considered a state case because 
type of public assistance it ree 
Sometimes the residents will ¢ 
when they think the BIA isn’t 1 
fast enough. ; 

An enormous problem, as it is 
where, is child abuse. So many 
the reservation are physically or 
abused. Part of it is the alcoholis 
high unemployment rate here, t 
other big factor is that the cycle h 
er been broken. Parents, grand 
uncles and aunts have all been 
and they go on to abuse their 
cause they never got help. Cour 
services are too far away. 

I’m also part of a child-prot 
team and a youth-advisory co 
the northwestern part of Monta 
of which work with the state s¢ 
vices agency to help families with 
problems. But the agency doesn’t 
follow our recommendations, ¢ 
most concerned with keeping | 
together. Officers will answer 
find the house a mess and the 
en up. They'll call Social Servi 
vestigate, but the parents 
agency caseworkers are com: 
straighten up the place and 
clothes on the kids, and Social 
doesn’t see that the children nee 
out of that environment. 

I used to feel that I wasn’t d 
job if I didn’t get the child ab 
jail or the state penitentiary. | 
I’ve done something just to 
charged and the kids into coun 

I’m a thirty-two-year-old si 
and the things I’ve seen in my 
have made me overprotective of | 
and four-year-old sons. But th 
these cases get to me. That’s w 
on the job and deal with all the 
tion—to protect children like m 
just wish I could do more. 


DETECTIVE SUSAN STOLTZ 
COLUMBIA, MISSOURI 

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ut I could feel a definite attitude: 
really don’t need to be here. You 
{be home taking care of your chil- 
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| n’s place isn’t on the street. 
an came the time someone stuck a 
in on my locker of a woman using 
al. (These days, of course, that 
| be called harassment.) At that 
nt, I realized that if I was going to 
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*t let their jokes bother me. I 
d that no matter what they said or 
as going to be successful. And 
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jar, the officers in a movie draw 
; Oot their weapons more than I 
me in almost twenty years. 
-'e much of my work is pretty typ- 
» aking arrest-warrant requests, 
mg in court, interviewing witness- 
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“ing cases over the years. One I 
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es of the incident. I once worked 
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linguist at the local university de- 
d from her accent that she was 
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ition in that area, and sure 
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is. Some of my cases are pretty 
z. | worked on one several years 
2re a woman killed her husband 
»ting him with insulin. One of the 
eigic deaths was that of a missing 
-t-old girl who was found dead in 
bded area. We arrested the 
id of the girl’s aunt. 
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don’t end in an arrest, or a conviction, 
or a long enough sentence. There was 
one man who had allegedly molested 
children from an area boys’ home. I 
saw some of the physical evidence, and 
it was horrendous. But the one boy 
who was willing to give a statement 
was too uncomfortable to tesufy well, 
and the man was allowed to plead to a 
lesser charge. 

But while I deal with murderers and 
rapists, I don’t let myself become too 
cynical. Though the crimes themselves 
disgust me, I try to understand the 
people who commit them. I don’t look 
at the crime as the totality of the indi- 
vidual, but as one aspect of that indi- 
vidual’s life. When I talk to them, I try 
to find in them some speck of decency, 
focus on it and convince them that this 
speck 1s worth holding onto. Some offi- 
cers admit that they can’t see criminals 


that way, but I think everybody should | 


have a chance. 


Even so, the work can be stressful. If | 


you make a commitment to the job, 
then there are going to be times when it 
becomes a little overwhelming. I learned 
early on that I have to put as much of 
my work aside as possible when I come 
home. My husband, Hank, is a city at- 
torney, so he knows some of what I go 
through. To relax, I'll sew or paint, and 
Hank and I go to the gym regularly. 

We're also busy raising our four-year- 
old son, Charles, whom we adopted as 
an infant. (I have an adult son, Paul, as 
well, from my first marriage.) Charles 
knows Mom’s a police officer, and he 
knows my unmarked car is a police car. 
He’ll ask, “Are you going to arrest bad 
guys?” I tell him, “Yeah, I hope so.” 

In June 1995, I'll have worked on the 
force for twenty years, and I'll be eligi- 
ble to retire with a pension. Hank and I 
have been talking about the future and 
the day when I leave the force. I’m not a 
glamour cop—the type that does big 
things and has a big career. When I 
leave, no one’s going to remember me— 
they’ll say, “Susan who?” But I feel I’ve 
made some differences in the lives of 
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LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL APR! 


Diana’s 
BATTLE 
~ ROYAL 





and purposes, she was quitting It. 
But the speech, with its implicit 

criticism of her husband’s adul- 

and the it caused, 


tery publicity 


marked not so much Diana’s exit 
from public life as her declaration 
of outright war against the House 
of Windsor. 

Those who are close to Diana, 
and certainly those who fear for 
her husband’s future, now believe 
that the princess has only one aim 
left in life—to ensure that the hus- 
band who rejected her never be- 


comes king. Instead, she is 


fighting tooth and nail to see her 


Though she’s as popular 
as ever, the Princess of 
Wales is very much on 
her own these days—and 
engaged in a bitter fight 
for her son’s future. A 
portrait of a surprisingly 


strong woman. By Fiona 
Macdonald Hull 


elder son, William, now eleven, 
wear the crown. 

‘The reason for her hatred is sim- 
ple: Camilla Parker Bowles, known 
in Britain as Camilla the Hun, the 
woman with whom Charles has 
been reportedly committing adul- 
tery for a number of years. The 
prince has shown no inclination to 
end the affair, and even though his 
associates said earlier this year that 
he would be doing so, Diana re= 
fused to believe it, reportedly 
telling her friends that Charles 
“would never give up Camilla.” 

Historically, Britain is used to 
murder, mayhem, plots and coun- 
terplots within its monarchy. But 
even by those standards, the fight 
between Diana, the Windsors, hery 
husband and her husband’s mis=™ 
tress has been a titanic one. 

Diana first learned of her hus= 
> for another woman on 
their honeymoon, associates sayous 
She never forgave him. 

“She told him on the first day® 
of their married life that he woula@® 
never be king if she could help it,” 
savs a cousin of the prince im 
whom he confided. 

Over the next few years, Diana 
whom the queen once described 
“thoroughbred who needs™ 
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became a world superstar. But the 
high-strung young woman found 
the unrelenting pressure of royal 
duties unbearable. 

“She would come home from 
engagements and sob her heart 
out,” a member of her staff told 
me. “It was terrible to hear.” 

As a result, Diana’s bulimia was 
aggravated, and she even threw up 
in the airplane toilet moments be- 
fore she stepped out onto the tar- 
mac for the start of yet another 
sensational foreign tour. 

The prince was appalled by his 
wife’s destructive problem, but, as 
Andrew Morton’s explosive book 
Diana: Her True Story (Pocket 
Books, 1992) proved, he did noth- 
ing to help his wife. “Whenever I 


go near her, I smell vomit,” Charles 
said disgustedly. Instead, he grew 
closer and closer to Camilla. 

The crunch came in late fall 
1992, when Diana was told that 
the sordid Camilla-gate tapes— 
recordings of erotic conversa- 
tions between her husband and 
his mistress—would be pub- 
lished. Humiliated and angry, 
she immediately demanded, and 
got, a separation. 

For the first few months after 
the couple parted, Charles visibly 
wilted under the ceaseless publici- 
ty surrounding the imminent pub- 
lication of the tapes. Diana, 
however, seemed in her element, 
happy and laughing at every public 


engagement and upstaging her de- 
pressed and embarrassed husband 
at every point. 

But the royal family began to 
her. Diana had 


move against 


chauffeurs, bodyguards and 
ladies-in-waiting taken away from 
her; the national anthem was not 


played in her honor when she 


went abroad. There was no doubt 


















Diana’s melancholy 
showed (left) as she 
announced her departure 
from public life. With her 
sons, though (above), 
she seems considerably 
more cheerful 


that the royals felt, as Harold 
Brooks-Baker, 


Burke’s Peerage, an encyclopedia 


of British aristocracy, told me, “If 


there was to be a war between 
Charles and Diana, only Charles 
could be allowed to win it.” 

For the first few months of last 
year, though, it was Diana who 
seemed victorious. She was seen 
here, there and everywhere, while 
Charles went on lonely, solitary 
fishing trips and phoned his Ger- 
man cousins in tears in the mid- 
night hours. 

Finally, the tapes were made 
available to the public via tran- 
scripts and a 900 number early 
last year. And it was as if, the 


publisher of 


worst having happened, they had a 
cathartic effect on Charles. He 
shook himself out of his lethargy 
and began his own public-relations 
campaign. 

His private office of image mak 
ers tripled in size, he was pictured 


in the with his 
William 


worked closely with the Foreign 


papers sons 


and Harry, and he 
Office to promote him- 
self as Britain’s greatest 
ambassador abroad 

His top aide, Com- 
mander Richard Ay- 
lard, told the press that 
Charles 
quickie divorce and the 
chance to start his life 
over again. “He feels 
that people are now lis- 
tening to what he has 
to say rather than look- 
ing at his wife,” Aylard 


wanted a 


said somberly. “He also 
feels there is no bar to 
him marrying again. He 
is quite determined to 
be king.” 

Diana, sensing that 
the country might be be- 
ginning to swing behind Charles, 
again began talking with her 
mother-in-law in an effort to ne- 
gotiate a face-saving reconcilia- 
tion with her husband—and a 
continuing place for herself in 
Buckingham Palace. 

“Diana agreed to a reconcilia- 
tion,” a member of her staff 
reported to me. “The only condi- 
laid 
Charles was to give up Camilla. 


tion she down was that 
The queen accepted.” 

Diana was invited to spend 
Christmas 1993 at Sandringham, 
the royal country estate, and the 
public began to hope the couple 
could finally mend their differences. 

But no one had asked Charles 
whether he was willing to give up 
Camilla. In fact, he was not; her in- 
fluence on him its credited not only 
with his point-blank refusal but 
also with his insistence that his one 
aim was to get Diana out of his life. 
Charles’s stubbornness left his 


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and more firmly on Diana’s side than 
ever, while for Diana it was the last straw. 

The princess reacted swiftly and dev- 
astatingly: She told the Windsors of her 
plans to make her farewell-to-public-life 
speech literally only hours before she 
made it. Charles tried to stop her, 
knowing the sympathy the speech would 
evoke for her and the opprobrium it 
would heap on him. “He phoned her up 
and asked her why she was doing it and 
begged her not to,” one of his friends 
told me. “He knew the effect such an 
announcement would have.” 

And it did. Just a couple of days af- 
ter Diana implied in her speech that 
the ordeal of being married to an adul- 
terer had proven too much for her, the 
Anglican Church, through a leading 
archdeacon, was calling into question 
Charles’s right to be king because of 
his affair with Camilla. The prince was 
urged by the queen and his staff to 
make a statement that he was giving 
her up, but he refused. 

That stubbornness may well cost him 
the throne. For, even though Charles is 
first in the line of succession, his persis- 
tent attachment has ignited a firestorm 
of debate about church and crown. 

Constitutionally, unless he renounces 
his rights, there is nothing to stop 
Charles, even as a divorced man, from 
ascending the throne unless he becomes 
Roman Catholic or marries one. 
(Camilla, though married to a Catholic, 
Andrew Parker Bowles, is Protestant.) 

But, in practice, he faces grave diffi- 
culties. The coronation service itself 
transforms the ruler into the formal 
head of the Church of England. Over 
the past months, scores of clergymen, as 
well as ordinary men and women who 
belong to the church, have said they 
would find it hard to accept a man with 
Charles’s record of marital troubles as 
their spiritual ruler. And the Archbishop 
of Canterbury, George Carey, has told 
Charles that although he is prepared to 
crown him if he is divorced, he will nev- 
er crown Camilla as queen. 

But even the prince’s allies acknowl- 
edged the difficulty of his position. 
“Technically, there is nothing to stop 
him [from being crowned king],” says 
one British constitutional expert. “In 
practice, there is the greatest hurdle of 
all: public opinion. Because of the mess 
he has made of things, if the queen lasts 
for another fifteen years, which she is 
expected to do, it will be so much easier 
just to bypass him” by forcing Charles 
to give up his right to the throne in fa- 
vor of William. 

And no one believes for one mo- 
ment that Diana is about to let up in 
the meantime. “God knows what she 


40 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - APRIL 1994 










































intends to do next,” a memb 
prince’s staff says wearily. “Bt 
all dreading it.’ 

Despite her much-publicized 
ment,” reporters are told almo 
week of a “private” visit Diana 
ing somewhere. She has taken” 
to visit the homeless and has se 
charity appearances to coincie¢ 
similarly worthy engagements 
band is making on the same day. 

If all this seems a harsh camp 
the princess to have undertake 
servers point out that Charles h 
no stranger to media manipul 
has sent newsletters about hi 
to three thousand carefully s 
influential individuals; he has aj 
of TV interviews lined up thre 
summer to mark his twenty-five 
Prince of Wales and is publishi 
in June. And he seemed to move 
to capitalize on his sudden s 
ularity following a frightening 
in Australia, in which a man 
starter pistol at him: Days 1 
prince’s friends leaked the - he 
making news that he had g g 
Camilla for good. A disgrun 
promptly had her friends lea 
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A sad impasse for a co 
marriage was touted as the 
decade. Yet Diana’s f; 
Spencer, admitted that he 
happy with his daughter’s ch 
husband. “I think he was 
man to get her,” he said gri 
an interview a few years ago. 
the fortunate one, nother. — 

“The Windsors try and & 
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added savagely, “but they 
that to a Spencer.” 

It was a tragedy for the 
for the British monarchy, 
Charles nor the queen took 
count when they decided t 
cent and appallingly young Di 
make the right kind of breedin 
the next king needed. 1 

By the time Earl speull 
1992, he hated Charles with 
because of the affair with 
had already made Diana a 
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home of their uncle, Prince Andrew. 
They could not get out and screamed 
for help; in the end, Andrew had 
call Scotland Yard, which sent 
senger with a special key to free the 
two princes. 

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when William looks rather sad, while Harry, nine, ¢ 
more happy-go-lucky. Comments royal biographer Ine 
ward, “William is a sensitive soul, and things plainly 
him. | think he has taken on some of the burden of 
Mummy and Daddy's separation.” 
Rather poignantly, William wrote last year in a 
say that what he wanted to be when he grew up we 
liceman, rather than the ruler of 270 million Common 
subjects. Observers weren't surprised; clearly, Willia 
tifies with the royal detectives who have been by 
since he was a toddler. 
“The policemen probably represent William’s only 
with the ordinary world,” said a parent of one of the 
schoolmates. “And the detectives have been wonderf 
ing the children through the trauma of their paren 
riage breakdown.” 
In fact, William himself appears to have done some 
ing during those difficult times. Royal author Andrew 
says that when Diana locked herself in the bathroom 
argument with Charle’, it was “Wills” who pushed 
under the door, with a note saying, “I hate to see 
And, as a surprise, he telephoned his mother’s 
restaurant in Knightsbridge, San Lorenzo, and he b 
table for lunch. 
Diana has always been the more visible parent of 
taking the boys to the sort of treats they love: ae e 
rides at a waterpark, go-carting in machines with to 
of forty miles per hour. 
When it is Charles’s turn to have the boys for tf 
end, they are by no means deprived of female come 
queen is said to feel they need a sympathetic aunt o 
ter around when with their father, and she was be 
appointment of a trusted former nursery schogt 
twenty-six-year-old Alexandra Legge-Bourke, as ai 
to Prince Charles. 
Known as “Tiggy,” Miss Legge-Bourke is also Or 
help tutor William for a way of life the queen app 
including fishing and shooting. That's exactly what 
allies want as well: to develop the young prince | 
ther’s bluff, masculine, public-school image. Diane 
er, is concerned that could make her son as em 
flawed an individual as his father. . 
For Charles is an old-fashioned father; his life 
dominated by the royal protocol, the British puk 
system and the strict discipline of the Navy. He ¢ 
sons in suits and ties and insists they behave in c 
and aloof manner. With Diana, things are more 
When the boys are out with her, they dress in 
baseball caps and are encouraged to relax. 
But for William, the future king, Diana has alre 
duced a serious note among all the treats: Just before 
she took him along to a center for the homelea clos 
minster Cathedral. Says one royal commentator, “D 
cern for [charitable causes] should mean that Willia 
up with some sense of what living in the real world is 
“Most of all,” the commentator added wryly, “ 
derstand that marriages of convenience just don’t 


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do for you? LHJ’s reporter went to H&R 
Block to find out. Plus, savvy tips that will save you money. By Debra Wishik England 


heoretically 5 
prepare a tax return: Ev- 
ery form comes with in- 
and the IRS 
free hot 


anyone can 


structions, 
even offers a toll- 
line staffed with people to answer 
But 
tax 


your questions. 
for many of us, 
talk may as well be 


a foreign language 


No matter how 
much you read, 
you always have a 


sneaking suspicion 
that you’re missing 
out ob- 


on some 


scure deduction 
that could cut your 
tax bill in half. 

‘The alternative, 
of course, 1s to pay 
someone else to do the paperwork. 
The cost? Anywhere from around 
$50 to several hundred dollars, de- 
pending on the complexity of your 
return and whether you go to a na- 
tional chain, a certified public ac- 
countant or an enrolled agent (these 
professional tax preparers are usual- 
ly self-employed and are required 
by the IRS to 
In fact, 


meet rigorous stan- 
dards). about half of the 
more than 
file 
professional. 


113 million people who 
a return each year go to a tax 
The good news: Tax- 
preparauon fees are deductible. 

lo find out if it’s worth the fee to 
go to a pro—and how to make the 


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some time at an H&R Block office in 
White Plains, New York. H&R Block, 
one of the largest national tax-prepa- 
ration services, has been in business 
for forty years and has nine thousand 
offices around the 
country. The people 
profiled here have 
tax problems com- 
mon to many. 


THE MAFFUCCIS 

Elizabeth and Mark 
Maffucci 
Westchester Coun- 
tv, New York, with 
their three-year-old 
daughter, Saman- 
tha. Mark, thirty- 
seven, 1S a 


live in 


pro- 
and Elizabeth, thirty- 
works part-ume as a driving 
instructor. They're 
fairly knowledgeable 
about their 
and Elizabeth care- 
fully 
throughout the vear. 

The first thing 
they tell the pre- 
parer is that Mark’s 
W-2 form is incor- 
rect. Elizabeth 
caught the error. “I 
do the bills, 
knew that the total 


taxes, 


files receipts 


and | 


gross for the year 


- 46 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - APRIL 1994 





was Way 


local 
‘They’ve 


the return, 


from an IRA. 


Their immediate concerns: Will 
their $2,800 in medical bills be 
deductible? Unfortunately, based 
on their income, they’re about 
$1,000 short of qualifying for a des 
duction (see “Tax points,” page 48 


column 1). 


ee AG 


she says. (Mistakes 
on W-2 forms can occur, but they 
are more likely to relate to state or 
taxes than to federal.) 
requested a new W-2 but 
are sull waiting for it. To enable 
the preparer to start working on 
the couple have 
brought Mark’s 
When the preparer asks about othé 
er income, Elizabeth presents her 
W-2 as well as a statement of her 
unemployment income. They also 
have a small amount of interest 
from a savings account as well ag 


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year-end pay stub. 


Next, they ask1 
any of their child 
care expenses W 
be deductible. 
ter asking for 
day care’s provid 
number, the pr 
parer explains th 
IRS regulations ¢ 
child-care expen 
es. The Maffuee 
learn that onl 
$2,400 of =m 
$5,000 a year th 
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contunued 


send Samantha to day care can be ap- 
plied to the credit. Based on their in- 
come, they qualify for a child-care tax 
credit of $329. 

Mark and Elizabeth are accustomed 
to getting a federal refund, but this year, 
because of taxes owed on Elizabeth’s 
unemployment, they’re not certain that 
they'll get the refund. She’s a little upset 
about having to pay taxes on those ben- 
efits. “That really hurts,” she says. “I 
feel like I’m being penalized.” 

When the return is complete, the 
news is good: The Maffuccis end up 
owing about $100 in state taxes and will 
receive a refund of about $300 from the 
federal government, for a net $200 in 
their favor. “They throw you a little to 
make you think you’re winning,” says 
Mark. They pay H&R Block about $90. 
(H&R Block’s average charge nation- 
wide is $55; the fee varies depending on 
the amount of work involved.) 

Before they leave, the preparer asks if 
they have any other questions. Elizabeth 
explains that she has a sexual harass- 
ment lawsuit pending against her former 
employer, and she expects the company 


mining the credit is $2,400 for one de- 
pendent and $4,800 for two or more de- 
pendents. Then, depending on your 
AGI, your credit ranges from 20 percent 
to 30 percent of the expense. (Credits 
reduce the amount of tax owed, unlike 
deductions, which reduce the amount of 
income that is taxable.) To claim the 
child-care credit, you have: to provide 
the name, address and taxpayer identfi- 
cation number of the person or center 
watching your child. If your child is 
watched in a nonprofit tax-exempt site 
such as a church, you need only to pro- 
vide its name and address. 

@ State income taxes: Both state and lo- 
cal income taxes withheld from your 
earnings during the tax year are de- 
ductible on your federal return. 

@ Unemployment income: All unem- 
ployment benefits—from the state or 
federal government—are taxable and 
must be included on your 1040. The to- 
tal amount of unemployment you re- 
ceived is indicated on Form 1099, 
which is usually sent to you automatical- 
ly, the way a W-2 form is. 

@ Tax on court actions: Generally, 
damages awarded for personal injury are 
tax free. In discrimination cases, the rul- 
ings are less precise. Back wages are al- 


“I feel like [im being 
penalized—paving taxes 
on my unemployment!” 


to settle out of court. “I want to know 
whether the settlement will be taxable,” 
she says. The preparer says that the set- 
tlement probably won’t be taxable, but 
he wants to double-check with the IRS. 
However, he explains, if any back wages 
are awarded, she may owe income tax 
on that money. 


Tax points 

@ Medical expenses: Nonreimbursed 
medical expenses that exceed 7.5 per- 
cent of your adjusted gross income 
(AGP are deductible if you itemize. The 
IRS has a list of expenses that are de- 
ductible; the list is wide-ranging and in- 
cludes the cost of traveling to doctors’ 
offices, chiropractor fees and the cost of 
glasses and contact lenses, but it doesn’t 
include weight-loss clinics or vacation 
costs, even if your doctor told you to 
take me off from work. 

@ Child-care credit: This credit for de- 
pendent care reduces the tax bill for 
working parents with child-care expens- 
es. The maximum expense for deter- 


48 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - APRIL 1994 


most always taxable; however, when 
they are awarded on the basis of dis- 
crimination, taxes may not be applied. 


THE LIVIDINIS 


Anthony Lividini, thirty-two, manages a 
store that sells marine supplies and 
hardware. His wife, Deborah, thirty- 
one, is a homemaker who cares for the 
couple’s three children, Jocelyn, five 
months, Anthony, three, and Jackie, 
five. Anthony used to complete his own 
tax returns. Then, after he bought a 
condominium in 1987, he decided to go 
to a professional to see if he could get 
more deductions. According to Antho- 
ny, the accountant didn’t offer any new 
suggestions. But Anthony wanted to 
make certain he took full advantage of 
the deduction for mortgage interest, so 
he continued to have a preparer handle 
his returns. After Deborah and Anthony 
married, the couple eventually switched 
to this H&R Block office. 

The Lividinis are actually quite orga- 
nized. “We have a small file where we 






































keep our bills. I put whatever ] 
be deductible in there,” says A 
He now knows which receipts 
tant to keep. For example, Ani 
erally buys breakfast for his s 
week. When he did his own 
didn’t realize that this expen 
ductible. Today, he keeps rece 
breakfast expenses along with 
work-related items such as gifts 
leagues. “I know now to keep 
what I spend on the job,” says Ar 
Last year, the preparer also 
an adjustment in the num 
lowances in his paycheck, from 
seven. Altering the number for 1 
ing purposes reduced the withh 
giving Anthony about $75 more 
paycheck. (Of course, the 
claimed the appropriate number of 
dents at the end of the year whe 
Having that money is definitely 
to waiting for a refund, the couple 
Last year, the Lividinis b 
house in Connecticut but de 
keap the condo as well and r 
That rental income is taxable. 
thony didn’t realize was that F 
deduct repairs to the condo as 
the painting that he had dor 
renting it out. Furthermore, 
expenses and the mortgage int 
the house also were deductible. 
In the end, the Lividinis ¢ 
themselves fortunate: They 
a refund of about $1,500 on t 
taxes and about $300 on their } 
state taxes—more than enough 
the H&R Block fee of $200. 


Tax points 
@ Job expenses: Certain job-re 
penses not reimbursed by your € 
that exceed 2 percent of you 
deductible. For example, if 
$20,000 and you have a total 
miscellaneous deductions 
job-related expenses, investme 
expenses and income-tax-de 
expenses), the 2 percent fl 
($20,000 X 2%=$400); the 
the additional $200 worth 
are deductible. These expe 
be listed as miscellaneous 
ductions on Schedule A. 
H Mortgage interest up to $1 
deductible on your primar 
and one other home (for m 
after October 13, 1987). 

can deduct only your mo 
and property taxes—not the | 
payment and insurance pl! 
are part of your payment to the 
addition, you can usually | 
points—up-front fees cha 
to finance a mortgage—on 
M Rental property: E: 
as repairs are deductible 
be listed on Schedule E 
form. (contin 







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Advice from a tax expert 


continued from page 48 


WHITNEY WEBBER 
Thirty-six-vear-old Whitney Webber™® is 
single and lives in Westchester County, 
New York. She’s a salesperson for a car- 
pet contractor, and her job requires fre- 
quent travel. In addition, she often 
entertains clients. Though work-related, 
many of these expenses are not reim- 
bursed by Webber’s employer. In fact, 
she comes to the tax preparer with bags 
of receipts! At first glance, Webber 
seems disorganized as she fumbles with 
all her papers. In reality, she’s meticu- 
lous about her taxes. 

Among the business expenses not re- 
imbursed by Webber’s employer are 
tickets to sporting events, gifts, tele- 
phone calls and credit-card fees. Her 
*Name has been changed. 





preparer asks for proof of these expenses 
and Webber complies, pulling out en- 
velopes from her bag of receipts. She 
has phone bills, ticket stubs from hockey 
and basketball games, department-store 
bills and more. When the preparer 
presses Webber about any other busi- 
ness expenses she may have had, Web- 
ber remembers that she purchased a 
new answering machine and then 
searches for the receipt. 

Because Webber is a freelance con- 
sultant, she has been able to set up a 
Keogh—a retirement plan for those who 
are self-employed. She has fully funded 
her plan, at the maximum 15 percent of 
her self-employed income. And, even 
though it’s not deductible, Webber con- 
tributes to an Individual Reurement Ac- 
count (IRA) as well. (You can establish 
an IRA even if you’re covered by anoth- 
er returement plan.) 


Simple answers to common tax questions 















Webber also made several 
ble donations during the ye 
shows her canceled checks to 
parer. In addition, she donatec 
antique rugs, which she es i 
fair market value of $1,000, 1 
historical society. 

As the preparer tallies up Wel t 
vestment income (interest from 
funds), she constantly prods V 
any other expenses or outla’ 
past year. The preparer asks Wek 
much time she spends commu 
tween clients and the main 
ber explains that she splits 
between New York City and 
urban locations. The preparer asl 
estimate her weekly mileage and 
it by fifty weeks (excluding vacati 
to get the annual mileage. 
important because Webber 
in New York City tax 


Q. In doing this year's taxes, | realize | made a mistake last 
year. Will the IRS charge interest or a penalty fee? 

A. |f you've made a mistake on last year's return (or in the previ- 
ous two years), you should immediately file Form 1040X, an 
amended return. On this form, you write the year of the return 
you are amending along with the figures you entered on your 
original return and the changes you are now making. If you 
owe additional taxes, you should pay this amount when filing 
the return. If you don't have the money, file Form 9465 to enter 
into an installment plan. Although the IRS may impose a “failure 
to pay” penalty of 5 percent a month (up to 25 percent}, gener- 
ally, if your mistake was reasonable, you will owe only the 
back taxes along with interest (7 percent last year]. And, if 
you're lucky enough to have made an error in your favor, you 
file the same form to get a refund. 


Q. My daughter, a college student, lives at home but has a 
parttime job and pays her own school expenses. Can | claim 
her as a dependent? 


A. Yes, she can still be claimed as a dependent if she did not 
reach her twenty-fourth birthday by December 31, 1993, and if 
her parents provide more than half her support. If she earns 


more than $600 in unearned income (interest) or more than 
$3,700 in salary or a combination of unearned income and 
salary, the student must file a tax return. 


Q. Must | claim child-support payments as income? 
A. No. Unlike alimony, child support isn’t reportable income. 


| Q. How do | get an extension on filing my tax return? 

A. To get an extension on filing your tax return, you must submit 
Form 4868 by April 15. This will give you until August 15 to 
file your tax return. If at that time you still need another exten- 
sion, you would have to document your reasons to the IRS. 





59° JARIEC’ MORE IOLIRPNAL  APRI! 1004 


Year after year, taxpayers ask many of the same questions. Whether you choose’to prepare your own retun n 
to a professional, read this first and you'll be a step ahead. . 















Getting an extension, however, doesn’t excuse yo 
ing your taxes. If you haven't paid at least 90 percen 
estimated tax bill by April 15, you might have to pay ¢ 
when you do finally pay. Even if the IRS doesn’ 
penalty, you wilt still have to pay interest on your fax Bil 

If you underpaid taxes because of changes in the 
made last year, you can pay this additional amount it 
one third this year and one third for the next two yi 
incurring interest or penalty charges. 


Q. Our house burned down, and we lost all of our rece 
records of expenses. Can we still itemize? ? 
A. You can still itemize. You should, of course, expla 
IRS how your records were destroyed. Then you canis 
re-creating some records. For example, your local ta 
will have copies of your city and state fax returns. 
has records of your mortgage and realestate tax pa 
minor expenses that cannot be substantiated, the IRS 
take your word for it with a sufficient explanation. 


Q. Are there any new money-saving strategies that wi 
save money on my taxes this year? 

A. Unfortunately, few of the taxlaw changes effecinell or 
going to reduce your tax bill. However, if you take the sk 
duction, you'll be happy to know that it has increased 
to inflation. Also, anyone whose principal residence Was 
in the recent spate of natural disasters now has four= 
two—years fo replace it after receiving an insurance’s 
without being taxed on that money. This provision is reirog 
may need to amend your return if you received insurance 
a result of damage to your home after September 1991 





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if she only works there part-time. 

Finally, the preparer reminds Webber 
to review all of her medical expenses not 
covered by her employer’s health insur- 
ance. She specifies items such as glasses 
or contact lenses, dental bills, chiroprac- 
tic treatments and transportation to the 
doctor’s office. Webber may be able to 
meet the 7.5 percent floor and deduct 
these expenses. 

The preparer gives-Webber an esti- 
mate of what she owes. (She’ll return 
later with medical receipts that she 
doesn’t have with her.) Ultimately, she 
learns that she must pay about $600 in 
state taxes and will receive a refund of 
about $100 from the federal govern- 
ment. She pays H&R Block $250. 


Tax points 
@ Charitable deductions: The IRS has 
different rules, depending on what type 
of property vou donate. To substantiate 
a charitable deduction, you must have a 
letter or receipt from the charity spelling 
out what you donated. You report dona- 
uions valued over $500 on Form 8283, 
which you attach to Schedule A or your 
1040 form. If you claim donations 
worth more than $5,000, you must also 
attach an appraisal. 
@ Business expenses: The costs of buy- 
ing and driving your car for business are 
deductible based on several IRS rules. 
You must keep track of your business- 
trip mileage. Then you have two op- 
tions: You can either claim the IRS 
mileage allowance of 28 cents per mile 
or claim actual expenses, whichever is 
greater. For travel expenses you may 
need to file Form 2106 if you are an 
employee, but if you are self-employed, 
you deduct them on Schedule C. 
@ Keogh plan: To qualify for a Keogh 
or self-employed retirement plan, you 
must have net earnings from your busi- 
ness. You must include employees as 
well as yourself in your plan. The ad- 
vantages of a Keogh are twofold: You 
are allowed to deduct your contribu- 
tions, and the money accumulates tax 
free in the plan untl withdrawal. 
Bonus: You can contribute to a 
Keogh opened in 1993 as late as April 
15 (or the extended due date of your re- 
turn if you get an extension). In addi- 
uon, you can open and contribute to an 
IRA or Simplified Employee Pension 
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THE NORMANS 


Diane Norman is a math teacher, and 
her husband, Mark, owns a software de- 
velopment company that he started last 
year. The couple live in Putnam Coun- 


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ty, New York, but Diane works 
Jersey and, in the summers, ig 
necticut. Both are in their early! 
Mark says he’s quite comf 
with tax returns and knows. 
ceipts must be saved. “Our tax 
er has us well trained. We? 
using her for nearly a decade,” 
“I’ve got a lot to bring in.” Th 
much of the ume spent on the 
involves questions about the 
ness. During the first half o 
Mark was employed by a se 
company while he prepared to 
his business in his spare tin 
company is considered a sole 
etorship for tax purposes, alt 
will soon be incorporated. The 
er lists the expenses that” 
ductible—including office s 
professional journals, trade-sk 
hibits, mileage, gas and more. / 
expenses are filed on Schedule 
The preparer reminds Mark 
careful track of all his business 
Por example, if he takes mone 
petty cash, he must present a bi 
company. He should also charge 
ness travel and entertainment exq 
the company. The preparer exp 
need for a Federal I.D. numbe 
incorporated business number, 1 
be used in future returns. 
Other aspects of the Normans 
turn are fairly straightforward. 
able to deduct dues to her tea 
sociation as well as school sup 
have no medical expenses to ite! 
The good news: Because ¢ 
business expenses, they will rec 
fund from the federal governn 
enough to cover the state ta 
owe, along with the H&R E 
(about $175), and still leave 
mans with approximately $300. 


Tax points 7 
@ Travel and entertainment 
To document your expenses t 
you need to keep a diary or re 
of your business-related travel 
tertainment expenses. In addi 
must keep credit-card recet 
itemized bills for expenses ove 
@ Self-employment income: A 
ployed taxpayer reports incor 
penses on Schedule C. Pr 
subject to income tax, which 
paid as a quarterly estimate, 2 
self-employment tax. The se 
ment taxes are set by the IRS 
the amount of money you eart 
@ Business equipment: As M 
ware business gets off the $§ 
he buys computers and o 
equipment, he must depreci 
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By Martin E.P. Seligman, Ph.D. 


ictims of the two most 
common emotional disor- 
ders, depression and anxiety, 
often feel as if things will 
never get better. Most of their 
days are tense or sad; their troubles 
seem insurmountable. They don’t 
know how to make themselves feel 
better, so they often give up trying. 

But it doesn’t have to be that 


way. In my work as a professor of 


psychology 
Pennsylvania, in Philadelphia, and 
while researching my new book, 


What You Can Change and What 


at the University of 


You Can’t (Knopf), I have discov- 
ered that for those who suffer from 
mild depression or anxiety, change 
can come. In fact, mild depression 
and anxiety can each be markedly 
lowered—and without therapy or 
medication. (In the case of severe 
depression and anxiety, however, 
therapy and medication may be 
needed.) Here’s how to recognize 
these feelings in yourself and deal 
with them. 


Depression. Now considered the 
common cold of mental illness, 


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depression has been on the rise i 
the U.S. for the last three decade 
It also is attacking people a 
younger ages. Thirty years ago, dé 
pression was more likely to strik 
people in their late twenties; no 
the average age is the late teens. 

Women are especially suscepti 
ble to the blues. In fact, studié 
have found that women are twié 
as likely to be depressed as men. 

Why the discrepancy? I believi 
there are three plausible explang 
nions. First, women are made to ff 


criticized by their parents and thé 
teachers, while girls are often ig 
nored. Boys are trained for self 
reliance and activity, girls fo 
passivity and dependence. Am 
when they grow up, women fing 
themselves in a culture that depre 
cates them. The helplessness 
woman feels can lead to depression 

Second, when trouble strikes 
men act and women think. Whe} 
something bad happens to a wom 
an, she tries to figure out why 
brooding and reliving the event 
over and over. A man, on the othe 
hand, gets drunk, plays basketball¢ 
otherwise distracts himself. Tf 
tendency to ruminate feeds depres 
sion; the tendency to act breaks 
up—at least in the short run. 

Third, American women pursu 
an unobtainable ideal of thinnes 
Throughout the world, in every cu 
ture that has this ideal of thinnes 
depression is twice as common ff 
women as for men, and there a 
more incidences of eating disorder 

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ing from depression? The sym 
toms are: @ the way you think—yé 
have a dour picture of yourself, 
world and the future; @ a negat# 
change in mood—you feel sa 
discouraged, sunk in a pit of @@ 
spair, and you become passive all 


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@ physiological changes—your appetite 
diminishes; you don’t want to make love; 
you can’t sleep. 

Finally, take this quick test. In the 
last week, on at least one or two days, 
have you: @ thought your life has been a 
failure? @ felt sad? @ had a crying spell? 

had trouble getting going? 

If you answered yes to at least three 
of these, you are probably depressed. 

This kind of mild depression is often 
caused by pessimism, a negative way of 
thinking that sees an obstacle or problem 
as permanent (it’s going to last forever); 
pervasive (it’s going to ruin everything); 
and personal (it’s my fault). These habitual 
beliefs are just that: mere beliefs. They are 
often false, and they are often inaccurate. 

There are no quick cures for mild de- 
pression, but there is a useful technique 
you can learn that will keep the blues 
from taking over your life. It’s called dis- 
puting. This is a skill everyone has, but 
we use it only when others accuse us 
wrongly. For instance, if a jealous rival 
tells you what a lousy worker or bad 
mother you are, you can marshal lots of 
evidence with which to defend yourself 
against the accusation. But many wom- 
en make the same sort of accusations 
against themselves several times every 
day. The pessimistic thoughts you have, 
though, are just as irrational as the accu- 
sations of.another person. They origi- 
nate not in hard fact but in the 
past—the criticisms that your parents 
made of you, your sister’s mocking. 

To defeat these negative thoughts, 
you must dispute them. The next time 
you start to berate yourself, stop and: 1) 
invoke a less permanent substitute 
thought—instead of “I always mess up,” 
say “I mess up once in a while,” 2) come 
up with a less pervasive statement— 
rather than “I ruined my friendship with 
Cindy,” try “Cindy and I had a disagree- 
ae and 3) be less personal—instead 

“T caved in,” say “She’s overbearing.” 
ie you acquire the skills of anude- 
pressive thinking (usually within a week 
or two), they’ll stick with you. And dis- 
puting your own negative thoughts is ac- 
tually fun: Once you’re good at it, it 
makes you feel better instantly. 


Anxiety. As depression can be relieved, 
so, too, can anxiety. The following ques- 
tions will help you determine whether 
your anxious feelings are out of control. 
First, is the anxiety unrealistic, out of 
proporuon to the dangers and losses that 
actually threaten you? For instance, So- 
phie, thirty-three, is the sole source of sup- 
port to her children. When her co-workers 
started getting pink slips, she had a panic 
attack. Sophie’s anxiety is realistic. In con- 
trast, Lisa’s anxiety is not. Lisa, twenty- 


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eight, is a virtual prisoner in he# 
house because she fears, irrationally 
if she goes out, she’ll be bitten by a 

Second, is anxiety paralyzing| 
Tanya, forty-two, who has an MBs 
a decade of experience as a find 
vice president, gave up her job whe 
twins were born several years ago. 
that she’s ready to go back to 
she’s convinced no one will even 
to interview her, so she delays typir 
resume. Anxiety has her frozen. 

Third, is your anxiety imtense? D 
often feel nervous and restless 
tense and in a state of turmoil 4 
think over your recent concerns? 
insecure? Feel inadequate? 

If any of the three symptoms abe 
plies to you, the time has come for 
lower your level of anxiety. There a 
techniques that are effective. They 
twenty to forty minutes a day of your 

The first method is progressive 
ation. Once or, better yet, twice ~ 
take at least ten minutes to sit 
down in a quiet room. Then, f£ 
and release your muscles—starting 
your hands and arms and n 
through the rest of your body unt 
are completely relaxed. 

The second technique that 
anxiety is meditation. Twice a di 
twenty minutes, find a quiet ple 
close your eyes and repeat a p 
syllable or word to yourself. Not 
will you feel at peace while you're 
tating, your anxiety throughout th 
will be lessened, and you’ll be less 
tive to negative events. Practiced 
larly, meditation is probably the 
effective way to lower anxiety. 

If you suffer from anxiety or d 
sion, you can choose to change th 
you think and feel. And when ye 
you'll find that your life is heal 
happier and more fulfilling. 


Martin E.P. Seligman, Ph.D., a pi 
of psychology at the University of 1 
vania and president of the Di 
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cable movie channel. A friend in the programming depart- 
it gives Lori a conspiratorial grin. “How'd the presentation 
Are they interested?” she asks. 

They still want more information, but I’m not con- 
ied,” Lori says with a shrug. “I’m a hustler.” 

\s a regional sales manager for Encore, Lori’s hustling has 
i off. At twenty-seven, she earns $45,000 a year selling En- 
>to local cable companies. And last year, she received a 
-figure bonus as Encore’s top salesperson. 


Although she knows women in other companies have been 
denied advances because of their gender, Lor says she has yet 
to suffer any sex discrimination. “I feel grateful to women who 
had to kick and scream about every inequity over the last 
twenty years,” she says. “Because they did such a great job, I 
don’t think I’ve ever been passed up for a promotion.” 

Lori talks of launching a cable channel of her own one 
day, managed by women and focusing on women’s issues. 
“In a few years,” she predicts, “I'll be one of the grand old 
women in the business.” 


A.M., Sun City West, Arizona Elizabeth Jansen: Older is better 


m 1980 to 1990, the number of people over the age of eighty-five increased by 34 percent to three million, making this 


group the fastest-growing in America. 


105°F. under the Arizona sun, and inside Sun City West’s 
(munity social hall a hundred women and a smattering of 
| are stepping and stretching to “Achy Breaky Heart,” in 
mergetic Jazzercise class. When the instructor yells, “Older 
” they all respond, “Better!” And no one shouts louder 
, eighty-seven-year-old Elizabeth Jansen, the oldest mem- 
of the class. 

lizabeth has never found it easy to sit sull. She retired in 
), after thirty-eight years as a special-education teacher at 
1001 for crippled children in Chicago. But she found her- 
mceapable of puttering around the house. “I kept thinking, 
is all there is to life?” she says. Instead, she went back to 
< for nine years as a physical therapist and, after visiting a 


former colleague in Sun City West, decided to move to the ac- 
lve retirement community in 1983. 

But Elizabeth certainly doesn’t act like a rocking-chair retiree. 
In fact, she has set some definite goals for herself: “I’d like to 
learn the piano and become a twenty-handicap golfer,” she says. 

Elizabeth attributes her longevity to good genes and great 
health care. Although she’s weathered several minor strokes 
and colon ailments, today she takes medicine only for a touch 
of glaucoma and heart fibrillation. She watches her cholesterol 
and fat intake, drinks an occasional vodka before dinner and 
has long since adapted to the two hearing aids tucked behind 
stylish earrings. “I keep forgetting that I’m eighty-seven,” she 
says, laughing. “Longevity is good—as long as you Stay active.” 





u., Minneapolis Mary Slowiak: The marrying kind 


fastest-growing age group for new brides is now made up of 


ats it. ’m not going to wear three earrings anymore.” 
_a defiant shake of her curly brown hair, Mary Slowiak 
-out three gold hoops as she stands in a fitting room at the 
vils by Joanne shop. It’s nearly a year before her wedding 
but Mary has already picked out an ivory satin and lace 
1 and begun choosing other accessories that reflect her vi- 
us personality. “I don’t want people to see three holes in 
vars on my wedding day,” she says, frowning. 
vary looks at her reflection in the mirror and laughs. “Oh, 
rod. I’ve already started acting like an old married lady.” 
thirty-two, Mary is far from matronly. Like many thirty- 
thing brides, though, Mary spent her twenties establish- 
‘er career—she’s a respiratory therapist—and enjoying 
2hood, dating frequently and traveling solo. “I didn’t 
I was ready to settle down then,” she says. “My goal was 
yw and fulfill some educational and emotional desires.” 









-l, Miami Maria Mezquita: The new American 


“hed over her desk at Miami’s Department of Health and 
dilitative Services, thirty-eight-year-old Maria Mezquita 
0 the next child-abuse case in her thick stack of files. As 
otector invesugator,” she conducts home interviews to 
‘ictims and their families. 

Ma, an immigrant from Panama, is a legal resident who’s 
ito realize the American Dream. The college-educated 
ologist has a good job, a husband who’s a neurosurgeon, 
hree children, aged nine to sixteen, who excel in 
ithe oldest is already in college. 

ven her family arrived in Miami in 1989, Maria staved 
for two years to help her children become acclimated 
“ir new country. She joined the PTA, became a class- 
‘volunteer and started working as a part-time vocation- 
tool teacher. She also landed a job teaching other 


women between thirty and thirty-five. 

But Mary’s goals changed three years ago, when a colleague 
introduced her to Rick Kane, a thirty-seven-year-old film and 
video cameraman. The two discovered a mutual interest in 
outdoor sports and soon were spending their free tme biking, 
skiing and camping. Last summer, while preparing for a bike 
trip across Iowa, Rick proposed marriage. “He figured if we 
could get through a five-hundred-seventy-two-mile bike ride, 
we could get through anything,” she recalls. 

Unlike younger brides, Mary is confident that she and 
Rick won’t face the pressures many newlyweds feel when 
they first set out on their own. “We don’t throw up our 
arms and slam the door after an argument,” she says. And 
she’s not worried by the fact that half of all marriages end in 
divorce. “We're mature enough to work through any prob- 
lems,” Mary says. “This is why I waited—for the right time 
and the right person.” 


vanics are one of the nation’s fastest-growing immigrant groups, increasing by 88 percent over the past decade. 


emigrés who want to work in child care. 

Today, Maria is happily becoming Americanized, al- 
though she sometimes worries that her children will forget 
their roots. She still serves plantains, beans and rice at 
dinner, and flies the Panamanian flag outside her home on 
the country’s November 3 independence day. Every Sun- 
day, she goes with her family to a Catholic church where 
mass is conducted in Spanish—“the language of my 
heart,” in her words. 

However, Maria appreciates the advantages of the United 
States. “This is a land of opportunity,” she says. “But you 
have to make your own opportunities.” She’ll know she’s fi- 
nally made it in this country when all her children have gradu- 
ated from college. “That,” Maria says, “will be the most 
precious moment of my life.” (continued on page 70) 


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7 p.mM., Thurston, Oregon Judith King: School days 


The fastest-growing group of college students is women over thirty-five, in search of a better life for themselves and their fan 


Weighted down by a tote bag bulging with books, forty-three- 
year-old Judith King struggles into her home just as her nine- 
teen-year-old son, Kyal, starts out the door. “Have the kids 
eaten? Why isn’t the house cleaned?” she says. 

“No. Sorry. I’m going to play basketball,” Kyal answers. 

As she collapses on a faded couch, she’s ambushed by two 
squealing children. 

“Hi, Mommy, what’s to eat?” asks seven-year-old daughter 
Cigany. “Mommy, are you going to do your homework now?” 
chimes in eight-year-old Samuel. 

A Native American who grew up poor on Oregon’s Warm 
Springs Indian Reservation, Judith married at seventeen, 
completed business school and held secretarial jobs. Then, 
her marriage dissolved, and she found it impossible to raise 


The candles flicker inside Rosemarie’s, an Italian restaurant in 
the trendy TriBeCa area, as Natalka Bukalo studies the 
dessert menu, twirling her gold necklace. “The chocolate 
souffle cake or the uramisu?” she asks her husband, Rich, as 
he polishes off the last of a $30 bottle of white wine that ac- 
companied their seafood entrees. 

For thirty-seven-year-old Natalka, enjoying gourmet restau- 
rants is one of the perks of being married without children. 
And as a vice president with Noble Lowndes, a benefits con- 
sulting firm, she has no trouble arranging her schedule at the 
last minute to entertain clients or meet Rich for dinner and a 
show. “We have the flexibility to do anything at the drop of a 
hat,” she says. “If we had children, that would be difficult.” 


1 a.m., Mason City, lowa Sandy Benson: Working mom 


The economic pressure of the 1990s has sent more mothers than ever into the labor force; today, 75 percent of zvomen 


children are over six years old work. 
Sandy Benson, forty-three, can finally go to bed—a sweet re- 
hef after a long day as a wife, mother and a registered sales as- 
sistant for the Piper Jaffray securiues firm.She rises at six A.M. 
and puts in a full day at the office before coming home to her 
husband, Gary, and their kids, aged fifteen, seventeen and 
twenty. Then her evening turns into the usual balancing act of 
feeding, chauffeuring and cleaning. “I’m one of those people 
who shops at midnight,” she says. “That’s often the only time 
I don’t have to pick someone up or be someplace else.” 

After staying home while her kids were small, Sandy began 
working full-ume in 1984, citing emotional reasons as well as 
economic ones. “I missed the adult interaction,” she says sim- 


4 4.m., Washington, D.C. Jovette Byrd: Mother and child 


Each year, some half a million teenagers give birth, and between 1985 and 1990, the birth rate jumped from fifty-one 


ty for every one thousand teenage girls. 
It’s sull dark when nineteen-year-old Jovette Byrd awakens to 
the sound of coughing from her year-old daughter, Precious. 
Throwing on a bathrobe, she picks up the baby, careful not to 
disturb her three-year-old daughter, Tynesha, asleep in the same 
bedroom. “It’s hard when the kids are sick and I can’t make them 
better,” she says later. “I feel like ’'m not doing a good job.” 

At sixteen, Jovette discovered she was pregnant by Gregory 
Bryant, a boyfriend three years her senior. “I had one of those 
teenage crushes,” she recalls. “He was my first steady.” 

Like most teenage mothers, Jovette soon dropped out of 
high school. But she considers herself luckier than most be- 
cause Gregory has remained in the picture, providing financial 
70 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL APRIL 1994 


10 p.m., New York City Natalka Bukalo: Childless by choice 


Childless couples represented some twenty-seven million households in 1990, a 42 percent change since 1970. 


three children on her $6.25-an-hour salary. “I wanted 
an example for my kids,” she says. “Going to school 
only way out of poverty.” | 

In 1990, Judith quit her job, applied for financial ai 
enrolled at Central Oregon Community College, whe: 
earned an associate degree in journalism. Now she’s wé 
on her bachelor’s degree at the University of Oregon. 

At eight-thirty, Judith puts the children to bed and then 
to the living room with a thick text on the U.S. Constituu 
other on writing fiction and a third entitled The Myth of the 
ican West. She hopes to one day earn a master’s degree, 
Native Amencan history and edit a magazine on Indian c 
“When you’re educated,” she says, “you can be anything 
world. Education has given me confidence and self-respect. 















Married for fourteen years, Natalka and Rich initially 
poned having children until their college loans were pa 
But now that they’re both earning six-figure incomes— 
an investment banker—they’ve grown accustomed t 
lifestyle and have little desire to start a family. “We bo 
children and enjoy other people’s kids,” Natalka says. But 
a car seat into her red Porsche doesn’t seem nght to her no 

Though Natalka knows that her life might appear sel 
tered to some, she also realizes that she has to do what’ 
for her. In the end, she has few regrets that children h 
entered the family portrait. “We’re a little bit spoiled 
says as the $100 dinner tab arrives. “But, frankly, if I h 
other kind of life, I might be miserable.” 


ply. Today, her salary helps her family enjoy an upper-m 
class lifestyle, the money earmarked for everything fro 
lege tuition to designer jeans. “I know not all are necess 
she says, “but they’re what we want for our kids.” 

Like many working moms, Sandy admits that trying t 
ance a family and a career can cause both to suffer. She 
that former colleagues without families have advanced 
than she has because they could put in the overtime need 
promotions. Yet she also regrets having to sometimes mi 
children’s activities because she can’t leave work. “Th 
usually understand because that’s the way they were b 
up,” she says. “But it bothers me that I can’t get to it all.’ 


support, helping with the child rearing and finding an 
ment for them to share. 

To improve her odds, Jovette is getting her high school 
alency diploma this spring. She talks of one day getting a 
cal job and possibly marrying Gregory, but the future 
somewhat vague. Indeed, the one certainty in her life is he: 
dren. As Precious drifts back into a heavy sleep, Jovette n 
her curly hair and stares out at the morning light. “It’s 
life.” she says, considering the start of a new day. “But kid 
you something to hold on to, something to look forward t 


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-TObay, THERE ARE MORE WOMEN THAN EVER IN THEIR THIRTIES AND 
FORTIES. FIND OUT HOW TO LOOK AND FEEL GREAT DURING THIS PRIME TIME 


Whats happening to me? 


It's called perimenopause—the stage of life that precedes menopause and can 





affect women even in their thirties. This report tells you what to expect and how to 


prepare for the change. By Leslie Laurence 


haron Runnels thought 

something was horri- 

bly wrong. In 1992, at 

the age of thirty-nine, 
she went three months without 
menstruating. Then her period 
returned, but her cycles became 
strangely irregular, varying 
from twenty-one days to almost 
two months. 

After that, the hot flashes be- 
gan. At first, they were mild, but 
within the year, they had become 
so intense she couldn’t sleep 
through the night. “I’d wake up, 
and the sheets would be damp,” 
says Runnels, a registered dietitian 
who lives in Bozeman, Montana, 
with her husband and their 
eleven-year-old son. “I’d throw 
the covers off, and then I’d freeze. 
After four weeks of this, I just sat 
in bed sobbing hysterically.” 

Runnels noticed other changes, 


/ too. Her concentration became so 
short she could no longer compre- 


hend the articles she normally 


~ breezed through in her profession- 
al journals. And she began having 


extreme mood swings. The small- 
est incident—the day her son in- 
advertently left his homework at 
school, for instance—was enough 
to send her into a rage. 

“Pve always been in control of 
my emotions. I’ve never been a 
crier,” says Runnels. “This was 
like being on a roller coaster. I 
felt alienated. It was like, whose 
body is this?” 

After consulting with her doctor 
and dismissing other possibilities, 
Runnels learned that she was ex- 
periencing perimenopause, the of- 
ten tumultuous—and frequently 
unrecognized—transition into 
menopause. “It caught me off 
guard,” Runnels says. “I didn’t re- 
alize that perimenopause existed.” 

Until the peri- 
menopausal phase of a woman’s 
life didn’t get too much attention. 
But with new, sophisticated ways 
of measuring hormone levels, 
“we're beginning to realize that 
menopause doesn’t just happen 
one day,” says Penny Wise Bud- 
off, M.D., director of Women’s 


recently, 


Health Services, an affiliate of 
North Shore University Hospital, 
in Bethpage, New York. “We now 
know it’s a process that goes on 
for some time.” 

Experts define perimenopause 
as the approximately four- or 
five-year span that (continued) 


SHARON RUNNELS 
of Bozeman, Montana, began 
experiencing hot flashes 

and irregular menstrual cycles 
at age thirty-nine 





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precedes a woman’s 
(By defi- 
ve months 


continued) 
final menstrual period. 
it takes twel\ 
without a period for a woman to 
be menopausal.) 

Although one study cited the 
median age for beginning of peri- 
menopause as forty-seven, it can 
hit some women as young as in 
their late thirties or early forties. 
The hormonal changes that occur 


nition, 


at this time lead to irregular men- 
strual periods and symptoms 
such as hot flashes, irritability, 
breast ténderness, insomnia, 
mood swings and decreased 
concentration. 

“It’s not unlike a bad case 
of premenstrual syndrome,” 
says Glona Bachmann, M.D., 
professor and chief of the di- 
vision of general obstetrics 
and gynecology at the Robert 
Wood Johnson Medical 
School, in New Brunswick, 
New Jersey. 

In fact, 
worst symptoms of the entire 


some of the very 


menopausal transition occur 
during the perimenopausal 
phase, according to Gail 
Sheehy, author of The Silent 
Passage (Pocket Books, 1993). 
She says that compounding 
the physical symptoms is the fact 
that many women have no idea 
they experiencing peri- 
menopause. “They feel—and 
fact are—out of control of their 
body,” 

Katherine Pavlik, of Athens, 
Georgia, knows that feeling. When 
she was forty-three, her body sud- 
denly seemed foreign. She began 
to have sleep disturbances and sud- 
den bouts of sadness. “I ran to 
three different specialists,” she says. 

Not surprisingly, Pavlik didn’t 
“Peri- 
menopause is an area of research 
that is totally infant,” says Lonnie 
Bart Ph.D., author of The 
Pause: Positive Approaches to 
Menopause (Dutton, 1993) 
“There is so little known.” 


are 


Sheehy says. 


get any clear answers. 


pach, 


Fortunately, though, that may 
be changing. Researchers are real- 
izing that to get a handle on 
menopause, it’s crucial to study 
women during perimenopause be- 
cause that’s when the most notice- 
able symptoms of menopause 
begin, says Sonja McKinlay, 
Ph.D., president of the New Eng- 
land Research Institute, in Water- 
town, Massachusetts. 

The institute 1s conducting the 


JANET HELFAND 

of East Brunswick, New Jersey, took oral 
contraceptives to relieve her annoying 
perimenopausal symptoms 





Massachusetts Women’s Health 
Study, one of the largest studies 
looking at middle-aged women, 
over a seven-year period. Other re- 
search projects are also under way: 
The National Institute on Aging, 
for instance, has recently begun a 
study that will follow 
as they go through menopause. 

Such attention is welcome be- 
cause more and more women are 
demanding answers. Unlike earlier 
when females sulked 
silently into middle age, today’s 
talking about their 
symptoms and asking what they 
can do to get ready for the change. 
“Women want to know what’s hap- 
pening to their bodies,” Bachmann 
says. “When they know what’s go- 
ing on, they gain comfort.” 


200 women 


generations, 


women are 


74 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL APRIL 1994 


WHAT’S GOING ON? 

To understand what happens dur- 
ing perimenopause, it helps to re- 
view some basic facts: Each 
month, starting in adolescence, a 
woman’s body releases one of the 
set number of eggs stored in her 
ovaries. Cells surrounding these 
eggs are the major producers of 


the hormones estrogen and pro- } 


gesterone. By the time a woman 


reaches her late thirties or forties, | 


shut down—a natural result 


the high levels of hormones 
that accompany them, are no 
longer released every month. 
“Tes the anovulatory cycles 
[where no ovulation, or re- 


cause the changes we define 
as perimenopause,” Bach- 
mann explains. 

One result of this is erratic 
bleeding. Some perimenopausal 
women experience longer pe- 
riods and heavier flow. Others 
find their cycles are shorter 
and their bleeding is scant. 
Sull others experience a com- 
bination of the two. And, 
amidst this chaos, many wom- 
en will occasionally miss a pe- 
riod completely. 

Doctors have traditionally be- 
lieved that estrogen deprivation— 
in particular the depletion of 
estradiol, the most potent hor- 


however, the ovaries begin to | 


of advancing years. Eggs, and | 


lease of eggs, occurs] that | 


mone in the estrogen family—was | 


the major cause of erratic bleed- 
ing. 
declining progesterone levels may 
play a role as well. “Women have 
fewer ovulatory cycles, so proges- 
terone frequently is not secreted 
in a regular manner or at the lev- 
els it would be in the normal 
menstrual cycle,” says Peter 
Schmidt, M.D., chief of behav- 
ioral endocrinology at the Nation- 


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(continued) bleeding patterns 
can be tricky, though. While 
menstrual-cycle changes are a 
normal part of the 
menopausal transition, they can 
sometimes precipitate—or signal 
the presence of—a medical disor- 
der. If bleeding becomes heavy 
and won’t stop, for instance, a 
woman can become anemic. Or, 
a heavier-than-usual flow with 


peri- 


periods closer together can also 
be the result of more serious 
problems, such as polyps, fi- 
broid tumors or even cancer. 

Consequently, it’s impor- 
tant for women experiencing 
erratic periods—particularly 
when they have heavy men- 
strual flow—to discuss the 
problem with their doctor. 
Ultrasound can rule out the 
presence of tumors or other 
abnormalities. And blood 
tests can measure hormone 
levels to help determine 
whether a woman is indeed 
experiencing perimenopause. 
(Doctors measure estrogen 
levels, which decline at this 
time, and also measure the 
level of the follicle-stimulat- 
ing hormone, which shoots 
up.) However, because hor- 
mone levels can fluctuate 
wildly during perimenopause, 
it’s important to alert your doc- 
tor to other problems you may 
be experiencing. 


HOT FLASHES AND MORE 
While erratic menstrual periods 
are often the most easily pinpoint- 
ed symptom of perimenopause, 
they are rarely the most bother- 
some. The hormonal flux of this 
phase often also leads to a symp- 
tom traditionally associated with 
menopause—hot flashes. 
Researchers aren’t sure what 
causes these episodes of intense 
heat; they suspect it’s related to 
a decline in estrogen. But they 
do know that hot flashes can 
be as common in the peri- 


menopausal years as they are 
during menopause. 

According to data from the 
Massachusetts Women’s Health 
Study, an average of 50 percent 
of women experience hot flashes 
while they are still menstruating. 
The episodes are most likely to 
occur just before a woman’s men- 
strual period along with premen- 
strual syndrome, or during 
missed cycles, says James Simon, 
M.D., chief of the division of re- 


LISA TREWYN 

of Beloit, Wisconsin, suffered from hot 
flashes when she went through an early 
perimenopause at age thirty-one 





productive endocrinology and in- 
fertility at the Georgetown 
University School of Medicine, in 
Washington, D.C. 

Regardless of when they occur, 
though, most women find hot 
flashes extremely uncomfortable. 
One woman described the feeling 
as “a sudden rush of heat in the 
middle of your chest radiating out. 
The top of your head feels like 
someone turned on a burner.” 

Another woman had nighttime 
flashes so severe she couldn’t 
sleep. “I was a wreck,” says Teri, 
a New York City marketing ex- 
ecutive who. started peri- 
menopause at age forty-two. “I 
felt like aliens had come and tak- 
en over my body.” 


76 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL APRIL 1994 


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For some women, flashes are! 
also accompanied by sensations of 
tingling, throbbing and light- 
headedness. Others experience 
anxiety, nervousness, depression, | 
irritability and insomnia. Yet oth- 
ers complain that they feel disori- | 
ented and unable to concentrate. | 
“My brain would just fuzz out,” 
says writer Lonnie Barbach. “It was | 
like walking through molasses.” 

Researchers say there may be a| 


link between mental acuity and es-| 
trogen levels. The brain, like | 
the uterus and breasts, con-| 
tains estrogen receptors, sites | 
where hormones affect cells. | 
A study on lab animals by! 
Bruce McEwen, Ph.D., pro- 
fessor and head of the Labo- 
ratory of Neuroendocrinology 
at Rockefeller University, in 
New York City, suggested 
that a drop in estrogen may 
reduce the number of connec- 
tions between neurons—brain 
cells through which signals) 
are transmitted—leading to) 
cognitive difficulties, includ- 
ing inability to concentrate) 
and forgetfulness. 

Other studies by McEwen 
have found that a drop in es-) 
trogen may cause a corre-} 
sponding drop in the brain! 
chemical serotonin, a neuro-| 
transmitter related to mood,) 
which could explain women’s) 
mood swings and feelings of anx- 
lety and irritability. 

Whatever is behind them, the} 
crazy quilt of perimenopausal 
symptoms can wreak havoc on a| 
woman’s life. In the Yale Mid-| 
Life Study of 130 women be-| 
tween the ages of thirty-one and| 
sixty-five, Philip Sarrel, M.D., of 
the Yale University School off 
Medicine, in New Haven, Con-| 
necticut, found that two thirds of|7 
women working outside the home |) 
felt their symptoms had “a mod-? 
erate to severe effect on their ca- 
pacity to function at work.” 

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continued) sales coordinator 
for a moving company in Beloit, 
Wisconsin, decided to confront 
the issue head-on. She told her 
boss, a man her own age, that 
she was having hot flashes at 
work. “I decided to be up front 
with him and tell him I was hav- 
ing problems,” says Trewyn, who 
went through an early peri- 
menopause four years ago, at the 
age of thirty-one. “Luckily, he 
was OKay about it.” 


HOW TO COPE 
As with many areas of women’s 
health, there is no clear con- 
sensus on the best way to 
deal with the discomforts of 
perimenopause. Opinions 
vary widely on how to 
treat—or not treat—peri- 
menopausal women. 
Clearly, one of the best 
ways to ease the transition 
through perimenopause 1s to 
be prepared for it. But author 
Gail Sheehy notes that, unfor- 
tunately, many women aren’t, 
and they think that they are 
imagining their symptoms 
or worse—losing their mind. 
“The vast majority of women 
have no idea they are in 
called peri- 
menopause,” she says. 
Experts say it’s critical to be 
aware of the changes this stage 
of life might bring. “A woman’s 
attitude and awareness going into 
this momentous passage have a 
profound impact on how it is expe- 
rienced,” Sheehy says. 
“Knowledge is power,” con- 
curs Sheldon H. Cherry, author 
of The Menopause Book: A Guide 


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to Health and Well-Being for 


Women After Forty (Macmillan, 
1994). “The more you know 
what might happen, the less you 
will fear it.” 

For some women, though, 
symptoms are severe enough to 
warrant medical intervention. For 
those, doctors can prescribe low- 


dose oral contraceptives, which 
can prevent premenstrual symp- 
toms such as mood swings and 
bloating. Janet Helfand, a spa 
owner in East Brunswick, New 
Jersey, started taking the pill at 
age forty-one—following two years 
of suffering from a myriad of an- 
noying symptoms. She says it 
changed her life. Gone were the 
irregular bleeding, bloating and 
hot flashes. “My head suddenly 
became clearer, and that unwell 
feeling went away,” she says. 
Another option is to start wom- 
en on hormone replacement ther- 


ROBIN BERKLEY 


A mother of three sons, from Folsom, 
California, Robin treated her perimenopausal 
symptoms with hormone replacement therapy 





apy (HRT), which 
estrogen to supplement the cessa- 
tion of the body’s own produc- 
tion. Though not everyone thinks 
it’s warranted—and many are cau- 
tious when prescribing HRT— 
some women find it effective. “It 
definitely made me feel better,” 
says Robin Berkley, thirty-nine, a 
full-time homemaker in Folsom, 
California, who went on estrogen 
in her thirties. 

Researchers are exploring oth- 
er, more natural remedies to ease 
women through perimenopause. 
Some doctors say that vitamin E 
and the Chinese herb dong quai, 


provides 


78 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL APRIL 1994 


both of which are available at 
health-food stores, appear to al- 
leviate hot flashes for many 
women. Exercise may also play a | 
role: Research by Joan Shaver, | 
Ph.D., R.N., chair of the depart- | 
ment of physiological nursing at | 
the University of Seattle, ef 

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gests that hot flashes are half as 
common in women who are) 
physically active as in those who 
are sedentary. | 

But while there is no uniform | 
agreement on the best way to deal 
with perimenopause, health-care 
professionals concur on at least | 
one issue: This is an impor- | 
tant time for a woman to start | 
monitoring any possible/ 
symptoms. 

Beginning in her forties, a 
woman is apt to experience 
bone loss, so this is a good | 
time to get adequate calcium | 
(1,000 mg daily) to preserve | 
bone and to help prevent os- 
teoporosis. The risk of heart |) 
disease, the leading cause of! 
death in women, also in-| 
creases in the years after} 
menopause. So, for those} 
who aren’t already doing so, 
now is the time to concen-/ 
trate on eating healthful, low- | 
fat foods and getting exercise | 
to boost the cardiovascular] 
system. For women who 
smoke, this is as good a time 
as any to quit: In addition to in- 
creasing the risk of heart disease! 
and stroke, smoking accelerates js 
the onset of menopause by as, 
much as two years. 

“The relevant issue for ona 
as they go into menopause is] 
prevention,” says ne 
“It’s not so much what you do ) 
by the time you’re menopausal, |) 
but rather what you do to pre-|7 
pare for it—that’s what makes a ; 
difference.” 


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How to look vounger 


Some of the new nonsurgical techniques offer truly amazing results. Here, two 


leading dermatologists talk about the most effective procedures. Plus, one wom- 


an’s quest for younger skin. By Linda Fears 


face-lift used to be the 







fine lines, wrinkles, 


deep grooves and dou- 


ble chins. No more. 


Today, 
come up with breakthrough 
treatments that take years off 
one’s looks without the risks of 


dermatologists have 


surgery. These procedures are 
expensive and controversial. Yet 
they may be especially appealing 
to women in their thirties and 
forties who want to improve their 
appearance—but aren’t ready for 
a face-lift. 

We spoke to two of the coun- 
try’s top dermatologists who are 
pioneers in these treatments— 
Patricia Wexler, M.D., instruc- 
tor of dermatologic surgery at 
Beth Israel Medical Center, in 
New York City, Seth 
Matarasso, M.D., assistant pro- 


and 


fessor of dermatology at the Uni- 
California, San 
to learn about the 
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HOW TO SAVE FACE 

Skin ages in two ways. Natural 
aging leads to increased dryness, 
thinner skin, fine wrinkles, 
changes in facial contours and 
growth of excess facial hair. Pho- 
toaging—caused by sun expo- 
sure—produces deep wrinkles 
and furrows. According to the 
American Academy of Dermatol- 
ogy, sun exposure 1s responsible 
for the majority of the wrinkles 


and age spots on a mature face. 


only way to get rid of 


Staying out of the sun 
and wearing a sun- 
screen with an SPF of 
at least 15 every day— 
even on cloudy days— 
is the most important 
step toward protecting 
skin from further 
damage. But the fol- 
lowing nonsurgical 
techniques can pro- 
duce a 
tighter, younger-look- 
ing skin surface, even 
if your skin has fallen 
victim to photoaging. 
These treatments, 
which are performed 


smoother, 


in a doctor’s office, an 
Outpatient surgery 
center or a hospital, 
are costly, and good results de- 
pend on a highly skilled doctor. 
(See “Choosing a doctor,” page 
84, for more information.) 

CHEMICAL PEEL This procedure, 
which is basically a controlled 
wound, restores blemished, un- 
evenly pigmented or sun-dam- 
aged skin and eliminates fine 
lines using a chemical solution to 
peel away the skin’s top layers. It 
is particularly effective for 
smoothing crow’s-feet around 
the eves and fine lines around the 
mouth, removing brown spots 
and premalignancies, and 
evening out skin tone in general. 
“The ideal patient,” says Wexler, 
“is a middle-aged, light-com- 
plected, light-eyed woman.” Pa- 
tients with olive skin tone and 
dark eves are at a higher risk for 
complications such as dark spots 


80 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL = APRIL 1994 


and scars (keloids). 

There are three types of chem- 
ical peels: light (superficial), 
medium and deep; the one the 
dermatologist selects depends on 
the patient’s level of skin dam- 
age. According to Wexler, a deep 





peel has significant drawbacks 


and is used primarily for women 
over sixty who have severely sun- 
damaged skin. “A deep peel,” 
says Wexler, “turns the skin per- 
manently white and shiny—man- 
nequin-like. You have to wear 
makeup forever.” The most com- 
monly used acid for a light peel 
is glycolic acid; the most com- 
mon for a medium peel is TCA 
(trichloroacetic acid), and the 


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(continued) (See “I want bet- 
ter skin,” page 84, for step-by- 
step details of a peel performed 
by Wexler.) But before deciding 
to have this procedure, choose 
your doctor carefully. 

The side effects: Temporary 
throbbing, tingling, swelling, 
redness, acute sensitivity to sun. 

The risks: Infection, scarring, 
flare-up of skin allergies, fever 
blisters, cold sores, tiny white- 
heads. 

The costs: $100 to $400 for a 
light peel, $750 and up for a 
medium peel. Insurance general- 
ly does not cover cosmetic proce- 
dures. However, it may cover a 
chemical peel to remove precan- 
cerous skin growths. 


PUMPING UP 


Big wrinkles and deep grooves— 


especially nose-to-mouth creases 


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and frown lines on the forehead 
and between the brows, as well 
can be plumped 
up with either collagen injections 


as acne scars 


or with a fat transfer. 

COLLAGEN INJECTIONS The pro- 
cess consists of injecting purified 
bovine collagen into the skin. 
The number of injections de- 
pends on the location and depth 
of the wrinkles. Though it’s ef- 
fective, collagen is expensive, 
and the effects are temporary: 
The cost 1s about $400 per 1 cc 
syringe, and the results last from 
three to nine months. Each nose- 
to-mouth crease requires a full 
syringe; a quarter to a half sy- 
ringe is necessary to fill furrows 
between the eyes. Also, not ev- 
eryone is a suitable candidate for 
collagen injections: They are not 
recommended for anyone with a 
history of immunological disor- 
ders such as lupus and rheuma- 
arthritis, and about 3 
percent of the population is al- 
lergic to bovine collagen. (Ac- 
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studies are required to establishf 
whether collagen is linked to cer- 
tain connective-tissue disorders.) 
The side effects: Temporary 
stinging, bruising, burning sensa 
tion. Faint redness, swelling, ex 







cessive fullness. 

The risks: Allergic reactions, in 
cluding rash, swelling; contou 
irregularities; infection, loca} 


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is removed with a syringe under 
al anesthetic from a patient’s 
th, hip, belly or buttocks and in- 
ed into deep furrows. Since the 
ient’s own fat is used, the body 
7t reject it. Because only about 
percent of each fat injection 
ces” (the rest gets absorbed into 
body), Wexler removes enough 
‘or eight treatments and freezes 
After four or five injections (at 
- to six-week intervals), the pa- 
t will see a marked improve- 
't, with 50 to 80 percent of the 
yw filled for good. 
| side effects: Same as for 
y igen. 

) risks: Contour irregularities, 
‘tion. 

tosts: $700 to $1,500. 

'OX This technique temporar- 

mooths between-the-brows 
(ows with an injection of bo- 
\n toxin (or bo-tox)—a neuro- 
ia, the same one that if 
}; ted causes botulism poison- 
Bo-tox has been used for fif- 
years for medical conditions 









like Parkinson’s disease and cere- 
bral palsy to relieve abnormal 
muscle spasms, but its cosmetic 
use is in the pioneer stage—it is 
not FDA-approved for cosmetic 
use. The bo-tox temporarily para- 
lyzes the corrugator muscle, 
which is responsible for frown 
lines. After about forty-eight 
hours, a patient can move her 
brows up and down, but will not 
be able to squint. The treatment 
lasts for three to six months. 

The risks: Possible headaches, 
bruising, swelling, temporary 
droop of the eyebrow. 

The costs: $350 and up. 


WHAT’S NEXT FOR NECKS 


Another 


sagging 


telltale sign of age can be 
jowls—and liposuction 1s 
the best nonsurgical remedy. “This 
is the most significant anti-aging 
advance for baby boomers,” says 
Matarasso. “Until the liposuction 
technique was perfected, there was 
no way to get rid of fat under the 


chin. No matter how thin you 
are—there’s no way to diet away 
this fat.” (Though fat deposits un- 
der the chin are often hereditary, 
they can also be caused by yo-yo 
dieting as well as aging.) The pro- 
cedure is done under local anes- 
thesia and takes about a half hour: 
[iny incisions are made under the 
chin, and fat is suctioned from the 
area. A patient is required to wear 
a bandage for four to five days; the 
results are permanent. The best 
candidates are people in their thir- 
ties and forties whose skin still re- 
tains some elasticity, which, after 
the fat is removed, helps the skin 
drape smoothly. 

The side effects: Temporary bruis- 
ing, swelling, numbness, soreness. 
The risks: Infection, local irregu- 
larity of contour. 

The costs: $2,000 and up. 


GO FOR THE GLOW: A NEW 
BEAUTY ROUTINE 


According to Matarasso, (continued) 














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he baby-boomer 
(continued) over-thirty skin be- 
1 comes pale, sallow, muddy and 
! dull for three reasons: The blood 
supply to the skin slows down as 
| shedding of old cells 
| generally slows, and cells begin 
to regenerate at different rates, 
causing uneven pigmentation. He 
prescribes this skin regimen for 
| his baby-boomer patients who 
have slight textural flaws and mi- 
nor skin-tone irregularity but 
aren’t ready for a peel: In the 
morning, cleanse face with a mild 
soap (he recommends Dove, Pur- 
pose, Basis, Neutrogena). Apply 
a sunscreen with an SPF uno less 
| than 15 and follow with regular 
makeup. Matarasso says not to 
try to get by with SPF-boosted 
makeup: The sunscreen is gener- 
ally SPF 4 or 6, not strong 
enough to protect skin. At bed- 
time, cleanse face thoroughly 
with mild soap. 
After a month, 
Retin-A (retinoic acid), a vita- 
min-A derivative available only 
by prescription, into the routine. 
At bedtime, after cleansing, al- 
low skin to dry and settle for 
twenty minutes, then apply 
Retin-A. Start by using Retin-A 
every other or every third night 
to avoid Retin-A dermatitis—a 
reaction that leaves skin dry, 
scaly and bright red. If skin feels 
irritated, try mixing Retin-A 
with a mild moisturizer—ask 
your dermatologist to suggest 
one. Gradually, after about two 
months, apply Retin-A nightly. 


you age, 


incorporate 


The most common forms of 


Retin-A are cream and gel— 
0.025 cream is the gentlest con- 
centration. (Retin-A comes in 

| 0.05 and 0.1 concentrations, 

| too, but Matarasso says most 

women can’t tolerate the higher 
concentrations on a daily basis.) 
In four to seven months of con- 
tinued use, skin will look more 
uniform in color and texture, 
fine lines will soften and brown 
spots will disappear. 


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After several months, Mataras- 
so adds glycolic acid cream to the 
morning routine, after cleansing 
and before applying sunscreen. 
Glycolic acid is an alpha hydroxy 
acid (AHA). The most common 
AHAs are: glycolic acid, which is 
derived from sugarcane; lactic 
acid, which is derived from sour 
milk; and pyruvic acid, which is 
derived from apples. Over-the- 
counter AHAs contain only 3 or 
4 percent acid; a prescription 
AHA cream has 12 to 16 percent 
acid. Glycolic acid acts as an ex- 
foliant and moisturizer—it 
helps speed up cell renewal 
and counteracts the dry- 
ness and flakiness caused 
by Retin-A. A regular 
moisturizer 1s not necessary 
on a daily basis. Use it if 
your skin feels dry, but 
don’t expect it to prevent 
skin from wrinkling. Mois- 
turizer can, however, make 
skin look and feel softer 
and smoother. 

Note: No serious medical 
problems have been associated 
with Retin-A or AHA use, 
though both can cause temporary 
skin irritation and redness. If this 
happens, your doctor can pre- 
scribe a milder formula. 





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November 16 

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having a bad sunburn, 
which is then scrubbed 
with a scouring pad. But 
the procedure lasts only 
twenty minutes 


yes, the delicate undereye area. | 
won't kid you: If this had lasted an- 
other fifteen seconds, | would have 
had to leave my body. 

When | look in the mirror, I'm 
shocked. My skin is 
ruddy, florid, and | 
have huge puffy 
bags under my eyes 
that are a road map 
of lines. | look twen- 
ty years older. 

I'm given a list of 
what to do: Wash 
my face with 
Cetaphil (a non- 
soapy, gentle skin 
cleanser) and slather 
t with Westcort, a 
hydrocortisone 
cream, three times a 
day. Wexler asks 
me if I've ever had a 
cold sore, and when 
| say yes, she gives 
me a prescription for 
Zovirax—if you get 
a cold sore while 
you're peeling, it 
can scar seriously. 
November 17: 
Day One 
| open my eyes at six: 
thirty to see four eyes 
staring back at me. 
Two of my kids are inspecting my 
face. “You look pretty bad,” ‘they 
agree. | get up and look. My eyes 
are just as awful as they were last 
night, and now my skin is mottled 
brown and red. | notice a pimple is 
beginning to erupt on the side of my 
nose. |'m sure this is not good. 

To the doctor's at noon. The pim- 





ple has to go. She injects cortisone 
into it. Ouch. | go straight home. 
November 18: Day Twe 

My skin is tender to the touch and 
darker and crispier than yesterday. | 
go to work today, with a little trepi- 
dation. fae ob: assures me | don’t 
look bad. I’m sure they're lying. 
November 19: Day Three 

| wake up this morning feeling like 
my face is going to split. | grimace, 
and it does. 

November 20: Day Four 
When | get out of the shower, the 
old skin is gone from the lower part 
of my face, and | can actually see 
the pink skin underneath. 
November 23: Day Seven 

| have*a follow-up visit with Wexler. 
She's delighted; she says that it's a 
great peel. She gives me a new 
regimen to follow: mild wash in the 
morning followed by Westcort: 
then, at night, wash, go over skin 
first with Melenex—a kind of bleach 
to prevent repigmentation after the 
peel—then follow with a light appli- 
cation of Glyderm, a glycolic acid 
cream to maintain the new skin. This 
is the routine |'m to stick to for the 
next few weeks. Then | use the Gly 
derm morning and night and mois 
turizer if needed. 

November 26: Day Ten 
People | haven't seen in a while and 
who don't know about the peel tel 
me | look terrific. | think | look better 
but | was hoping the peel would 
erase more of the wrinkles under m 
eyes. Now |'m thinking about fat in 
jections for the deep grooves be 
tween my nose and mouth . . . an 
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Reclaiming vour youthful boc 


A no-nonsense shape-up program to help you look better than ever. By llene Springer 


alerie Denner,* thirty-six, 
of Manchester, New 
Hampshire, has acquired a 
lot in the past few years: a 
big house on a quiet Street, a 
return to her social-work career 
now that her two children are in 
school—and 15 extra pounds that 
just won’t budge. “I have to wear 
a larger size now, and I’m self- 
conscious of the way I look in a 
bathing suit,” says Denner, who is 
five feet one and weighs 115 
pounds. “My body shape has also 
| changed. After my second preg- 
nancy, my bottom really expanded 
and never went back. I also got 
| cellulite for the first time, and my 
thighs got thicker; the tops meet 

now, and they never did before.” 

What Denner would like to do is 
get back down to her pre-pregnancy 
weight. “I want to feel good about 
my body again,” she says. 

Maybe it’s that high school re- 
union coming up. Or that big fam- 
ily get-together. Or maybe you 
just looked in the mirror one day 
and suddenly saw a larger, flabbier 
version of your old self. Whatever 
it 1s, you’re not alone if you long 
for your tighter, trimmer body of 
years gone by. 

But while it’s unlikely you'll ever 
recapture the physique of a taut 
nineteen-year-old, growing older 
doesn’t necessarily doom you to a 
life of flab, cellulite and excess 
pounds. If you’re in your thirties 
or forties, now is the best time to 

| try to shed pounds, shape up and 
reclaim a more youthful look. 

Experts say that women in this 
age group are often the most suc- 
cessful at getting back into shape. 
“At this age, you realize the plan- 
ning, hard work and time that go 
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into a weight-loss plan, sistent. Cellulite, which is just fat 


and you’re finally with a soft, dimpled appear. 
ready to make the ance, may make its debut 
commitment,” says now. According to experts 


George L. Blackburn, 
M.D., Ph.D., director of 
the nutrition and 
metabolism laboratory at 
New England Deaconess 
Hospital, in Boston. “ 


this is entirely natural. “Th 
enzyme lipoprotein lipase 
which is involved in storin 
fat, tends to be more 
abundant in the fa 
cells of women’? 
hips and thighs,’ 
says Hamilton} 
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fat cells to store en} 
ergy for pregnanc} 
and lactation.” — | 
During pregnang 
cy, the fat cells 1 
crease in numbe 
and size. Experty 
speculate that the 
don’t completely r 
cede afterward b 
cause women don 
breast-feed lon 
enough; studies sug 
gest that at least si/ 
months of breast-feed 
ing may be necessary t} 
naturally lose the weigl) 
gained during pregnancy. 
Metabolism meltdown Re 
member when you could ed” 
anything and not gain weigh 
It’s not your imagination; weig 
is easier to gain and harder to los” 
now because metabolism—tl) 
rate at which your body ust | 
energy—decreases with ag| 
Starting around age thirt 
you burn about 10 percei 
fewer calories per decade. “ 
twenty-five-year-old c@ 
maintain her weight eatiz 
twenty-five hundred cal: 
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pounds and_ flab 
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and you can’t do 
anything about 
that. But much of 
weight gain 1s due 
to poor habits— 
which you can 
change. Here 
the most 
common causes of 
getting out of shape: 
The baby years 
Many women hold 
onto several pounds af- 
ter each childbirth. If 
you were overweight be- 
fore pregnancy, it may be 
more difficult to lose 
weight, says Michael 
Hamilton, M.D., director 
of the Duke University 
Diet and Fitness Center, in 
Durham, North Carolina. 
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complain the most about 
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ESTROGENS HAVE BEEN REPORTED TO INCREASE THE RISK OF 


ENDOMETRIAL CARCINOMA. 

Three independent case contro! studies have reported an 
increased risk of endometnal cancer in postmenopausal women 
exposed to exogenous estrogens for more than 1 year. This risk was 
independent of the other known risk factors for endometrial cancer. 
These studies are further supported by the finding that incidence 
rates of endometrial cancer have increased sharply since 1969 in 
eight different areas of the United States with population-based 
cancer-reporting systems, an increase which may be related to the 
rapidly expanding use of estrogens during the last decade. 

The three case contro! studies reported that the risk of 
endometnal cancer in estrogen users was about 4.5-13.9 times 
greater than in nonusers. The risk appears to depend both on 
duration of treatment and on estrogen dose. In view of these 
findings, when estrogens are used for the treatment of menopausal 
symptoms, the lowest dose that will control symptoms should be 
utilized and medication should be discontinued as soon as possible. 
When prolonged treatment is medically indicated, the patient should 
be reassessed on at least a semiannual basis to determine the need 
for continued therapy. Although the evidence must be considered 
preliminary, one study suggests that cyclic administration of low 
doses of estrogen may carry less risk than continuous 
administration; it therefore appears prudent to utilize such a regimen 

Close clinical surveillance of all women taking estrogens Is. 
important. In all cases of undiagnosed persistent or recurring 
abnormal vaginal bleeding, adequate diagnostic measures should be 
undertaken to rule out malignancy 

There is no evidence at present that "natural’ estrogens are more 
or less hazardous than ‘synthetic’ estrogens at equiestrogenic doses. 
ESTROGENS SHOULD NOT BE USED DURING PREGNANCY. 

The use of female sex hormones, both estrogens and 
progestogens, during early pregnancy may seriously damage the 
offspring. It has been shown that women who had been exposed /n 
utero to diethy!stilbestrol, a nonsteroidal estrogen, have an increased 
risk of developing in later life a form of vaginal or cervical cancer that 
is ordinarily extremely rare. This risk has been estimated as not 
greater than 4 per 1000 exposures. Furthermore, a high percentage 
of such exposed women (30-90%) have been found to have vaginal 
adenosis, epithelial changes of the vagina and cervix. Although these 
changes are histologically benign, it is not known whether they are 
precursors of malignancy. Although similar data on the use of other 
estrogens are not available, it cannot be presumed they would not 
induce similar changes 

Several reports suggest an association between intrauterine 
exposure to female sex hormones and congenital anomalies, 
including congenital heart defects and limb-reduction defects. One 
case control study estimated a 4.7-fold increased risk of limb- 
reduction defects in infants who had been exposed /n utero to sex 
hormones (oral contraceptives, hormone withdrawal tests for 
pregnancy, or attempted treatment for threatened abortion). Some of 
these exposures were very short and involved only a few days of 
treatment. The data suggest that the risk of limb-reduction defects in 
exposed fetuses is somewhat less than 1 per 1000 

In the past, female sex hormones have been used during 
pregnancy in an attempt to treat threatened or habitual abortion 
There is considerable evidence that estrogens are ineffective for 
these indications, and there is no evidence from well-controlled 
studies that progestogens are effective for these uses 

It Estraderm is used during pregnancy, or if the patient becomes 
pregnant while taking this drug, she should be apprised of the 


potential risks to the fetus and of the advisability of continuation of 
the pregnancy 


INDICATIONS AND USAGE 

Estraderm is indicated for the treatment of the following: moderate-to- 
severe vasomotor symptoms associated with menopause; fernale 
hypogonadism; female castration; primary ovarian failure; atrophic 
conditions caused by deficient endogenous estrogen production, such 
as atrophic vaginitis and kraurosis vulvae; and prevention of 
osteoporosis (loss of bone mass) 

Estrogen replacement therapy is the most effective single modality for 
the prevention of postmenopausal osteoporosis in women. Case- 
controlled studies have shown a reduction of approximately 60% in the 
incidence of hip and wrist fractures in women who began estrogen 
replacement therapy within a few years of menopause. A recent, well- 
controlied, double-blind, prospective trial conducted at the Mayo Clinic 
has demonstrated that treatment with Estraderm prevents bone loss in 
postmenopausal women at a dosage of 0.05 mg per day. 

Treatment with Estraderm 0.05 mg showed full maintenance of bone 
density with a slight (0.8%), but not significant, increase. Placebo 
treatment resulted in a significant loss of more than 6% below baseline 
vertebral bone mass. Patients using either Estraderm 0.1 mq, or 0.05 
mag, had significantly greater bone densities than those using placebo 

Other studies suggest that estrogen replacement therapy reduces the 
rate of vertebral fractures. 

Peak bone mass |s reached at age 30 to 35 and can best be 
maximized by adequate calcium intake and exercise during the 
adolescent and early adult years. Early menopause Is one of the best 
predictors for the development of osteoporosis. White women are at 
higher risk for osteoporosis than white men, black women are at higher 
risk than black men, and thin women are at higher risk than obese 
women. Cigarette smoking may be an additional risk factor. Calcium 
deficiency has been implicated in the pathogenesis of this disease 
Therefore, when not contraindicated, a calcium intake of 1000-1500 mg/ 
day either by diet or supplements is recommended for postmenopausal 
women 

|mmobilization and prolonged bedrest produce rapid bone loss, while 
weight-bearing exercise has been shown to both reduce bone loss and 
to increase bone mass. The optimal type and amount of physical activity 
that might lower the risk for osteoporosis have not been established 
CONTRAINDICATIONS 

Patients with known hypersensitivity to any of the components of the 
therapeutic system should not use Estraderm 








1. known or suspected cancer of the breast ; 

2. known or suspected estrogen-dependent neoplasia; 

3. known or suspected pregnancy (see Boxed Warning); 

4. undiagnosed abnormal genital bleeding; 

5. active thrombophlebitis or thromboembolic disorders; 

6. history of thrombophlebitis, thrombosis, or thromboembolic 
disorders associated with previous estrogen use. 

WARNINGS 

1. Induction of Malignant Neoplasms. Long-term continuous 
administration of natural and synthetic estrogens in certain animal 
species increases the frequency of carcinomas of the breast, cervix, 
vagina, and liver. There are now reports that estrogens increase the risk 
of carcinoma of the endometrium in humans. (See Boxed Warning.) 

At the present time, there is no satisfactory evidence that estrogens 
given to postmenopausal women increase the risk of breast cancer, 
although a recent long-term follow-up study has raised this possibility. 
Because of the animal data, there is a need for caution in prescribing 
estrogens for women with a strong family history of breast cancer or 
who have breast nodules, fibrocystic disease, or abnormal 
mammograms. 

2. Gallbladder Disease. A recent study has reported a two- to threefold 
increase in the risk of surgically confirmed gallbladder disease in 
postmenopausal women receiving oral estrogens, similar to the twofold 
increase previously noted in users of oral contraceptives. 

3. Effects Similar to Those Caused by Estrogen-Progestogen Oral 
Contraceptives. There are several serious adverse effects of oral 
contraceptives and other high-dose oral estrogen treatments, most of 
which have not, up to now, been documented as consequences of 
postmenopausal estrogen replacement therapy. This may reflect the 
comparatively low doses of estrogen used in postmenopausal women. 
a. Thromboembolic Disease. \t is now well established that users of oral 
contraceptives have an increased risk of various thromboembolic and 
thrombotic vascular diseases, such as thrombophlebitis, pulmonary 
embolism, stroke, and myocardial infarction. Cases of retinal 
thrombosis, mesenteric thrombosis, and optic neuritis have been 
reported in oral contraceptive users. There is evidence that the risk of 
several of these adverse reactions is related to the dose of the drug. An 
increased risk of postsurgery thromboembolic complications has also 
been reported in users of oral contraceptives. If feasible, estrogen 
should be discontinued at least 4 weeks before surgery of the type 
associated with an increased risk of thromboembolism, or dunng 
periods of prolonged immobilization. 

While an increased rate of thromboembolic and thrombotic disease in 
postmenopausal users of estrogens has not been found, this does not 
rule out the possibility that such an increase may be present or that 
subgroups of women who have underlying risk factors or who are 
receiving relatively arge doses of estrogens may have increased risk. 
Therefore, estrogens should not be used in persons with active 
thrombophlebitis or thromboembolic disorders, and they should not be 
used in persons with a history of such disorders in association with 
estrogen use. They should be used with caution in patients with cerebral 
vascular or coronary artery disease and only for those in whom 
estrogens are Clearly needed. 

Large doses of estrogen (5 mg conjugated estrogens per day), 
comparable to those used to treat cancer of the prostate and breast, 
have been shown in a large prospective Clinical trial in men to increase 
the risk of nonfatal myocardial infarction, pulmonary embolism, and 
thrombophlebitis. When estrogen doses of this size are used, any of the 
thromboembolic and thrombotic adverse effects associated with oral 
contraceptive use should be considered a clear risk 
b. Hepatic Adenoma. Benign hepatic adenomas have been associated 
with the use of oral contraceptives. Although benign and rare, these 
tumors may rupture and cause death from intra-abdominal hemorrhage 
Such lesions have not yet been reported in association with other 
estrogen or progestogen preparations, but they should be considered if 
abdominal pain and tenderness, abdominal mass, or hypovolemic shock 
occurs in patients receiving estrogen. Hepatocellular carcinoma has also 
been reported in women taking estrogen-containing oral contraceptives 
The causal relationship of this malignancy to these drugs Is not known 
c. Elevated Blood Pressure. Women using oral contraceptives 
sometimes experience increased blood pressure which, in most cases, 
returns to normal upon discontinuing the drug. There is now a report 
that this may occur with use of oral estrogens in the menopause and 
blood pressure should be monitored with estrogen use especially if high 
doses are used. Ethiny| estradiol and conjugated estrogens have been 
shown to increase renin substrate. In contrast to these oral estrogens, 
transdermally administered estradiol does not affect renin substrate 
d. Glucose Tolerance. A worsening of glucose tolerance has been 
observed in a significant percentage of patients on estrogen-containing 
oral contraceptives. For this reason, diabetic patients should be carefully 
observed while receiving estrogen 
4. Hypercalcemia. Administration of high doses of estrogens may lead 
to severe hypercalcemia in patients with breast cancer and bone 
metastases. If hypercalcemia occurs, use of the drug should be stopped 
and appropriate measures should be taken to reduce the serum calcium 
level 
PRECAUTIONS 
General 
1. Acomplete medical and family history should be taken before 
initiation of any estrogen therapy. The pretreatment and periodic 
physical examinations should include special reference to blood 
pressure, breasts, abdomen, and pelvic organs, as well as a cervical 
Papanicolaou test. As a general rule, estrogen should not be prescribed 
for longer than 1 year without another physical examination being 
performed 
2. Because estrogens may cause some degree of fluid retention, careful 
observation is required when conditions that might be influenced by this 
factor are present (e.g., asthma, epilepsy, migraine, and cardiac or renal 
dysfunction) 

3. Certain patients may develop undesirable manifestations of excessive 
estrogenic stimulation, such as uterine bleeding, mastodynia, etc. 

4. Prolonged administration of unopposed estrogen therapy has been 
reported to increase the risk of endometrial hyperplasia in some 
Patients. Estrogens should be used with caution in patients who have or 
have had endometriosis 

5. Studies of the addition of a progestin for 7 or more days of a cycle of 
estrogen administration have reported a lowered incidence of 
endometnal hyperplasia. Morphological and biochemical studies ot 
endometrium suggest that 12 to 13 days of progestin are needed to 
provide maximal maturation of the endometrium and to eliminate any 
hyperplastic changes. Whether this will provide protection from 
endometrial carcinoma has not been clearly established. There are 
possible additional risks that may be associated with the inclusion of 
progestin in estrogen replacement regimens. The potential risks include 
adverse effects on carbohydrate and lipid metabolism. The choice of 
progestin and dosage may be important in minimizing these adverse 
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6. Oral contraceptives appear to de associated with an increa 
incidence of mental depression. Although tt is not clear wheth¢ 
due to the estrogenic or progestogenic component of the con¥ 
patients with a history of depression shouid be carefully obser 
7. Preexisting uterine leiomyomata may increase in size during 
proionged estrogen use. If this occurs, estrogen therapy shoul 
discontinued while the cause is investigated. 
8. In patients with a history of jaundice during pregnancy, the! 
increased risk that jaundice will recur with the use of estrogen 
containing oral contraceptives. If jaundice develops in any pa 
receiving estrogen, the medication should be discontinued w 
Cause Is investigated. 
9. Estrogens may be poorly metabolized in patients with impa 
function and should be administered with caution in such pati 
10. Because the prolonged use of estrogens influences the m\ 
of calcium and phosphorus, estrogens should be used with c 
patients with metabolic bone diseases associated with hyperd 
and in patients with renal insufficiency. 
Information for Patients 


See Patient Package Insert printed below. 

Drug/Laboratory Test Interactions 

The results of certain endocrine and liver function tests may & 

by estrogen-containing oral contraceptives. The following cha 

been observed with large doses of oral estrogen: 

1. increased sulfobromophthalein retention; 

2. increased prothrombin time; increased factors VII, VIII, IX 
decreased antithrombin 3; increased norepinephnine-indu' 
aggregability ; 

3. increased thyroxine-binding globulin (TBG), leading to inc} 
circulating total thyroid hormone (T, ) as measured by co 
radioimmunoassay; free T, resin uptake is decreased, refig 
elevated TBG; free T, concentration is unaltered; TBG was 
affected in clinical trials of Estraderm:; 
reduced response to the metyrapone test; 

. reduced serum folate concentration; 

. increased serum triglyceride and phospholipid concentratj 
decreased pregnanediol excretion. 
The pathologist should be informed that the patient is recg 

estrogen therapy when relevant specimens are submitted. 

Carcinogenesis, Mutagenesis, Impairment of Fertility 

Se@ WARNINGS and Boxed Warning. 

Long-term continuous administration of natural and syntt 
estrogens in certain animal species increases the frequency 
carcinomas of the breast, cervix, vagina, and liver. 
Pregnancy Category X 
See CONTRAINDICATIONS and Boxed Warning. 

Estrogens should not be used during pregnancy. 
Nursing Mothers 
As a general principle, the administration of any drug to nu 
mothers should be done only when clearly necessary since 
drugs are excreted in human milk. 

ADVERSE REACTIONS 

See WARNINGS and Boxed Warning regarding potential ad 

on the fetus, induction of malignant neoplasms, increased | 

galibladder disease, and adverse effects similar to those of ¢ 
contraceptives, including thromboembolism. 

The most commonly reported adverse reaction to Estrad 
clinical trials was redness and irritation at the application s 
occurred in about 17% of the women treated and caused aj 
2% to discontinue therapy. Reports of rash have been rare. 
also been rare reports of severe systemic allergic reactions. 

The following additional adverse reactions have been rep 
estrogenic therapy, including oral contraceptives: 

Genitourinary System: Breakthrough bleeding, spotting, 
menstrual flow; increase in size of uterine fibromyomata; chy 
cervical erosion and amount of cervical secretion. 

Endocrine: Breast tenderness, breast enlargement . 

Gastrointestinal’ Nausea, vomiting; abdominal cramps, 4 
cholestatic jaundice have been observed with oral estrogen 

Eyes: Steepening of corneal curvature; intolerance to co! 

Central Nervous System: Headache, migraine, aizziness. 

Miscellaneous: Change in weight, edema, change in libid 
DOSAGE AND ADMINISTRATION 
The adhesive side of the Estraderm system should be placepn 
dry area of the skin on the trunk of the body (including the jt 
abdomen). The site selected should be one that is not expoiltt 
sunlight. Estraderm should not be applied to the breasts. T\sit 
application must be rotated, with an interval of at least 1 wé 
between applications to a particular site. The area selecteqiol 
be oily, damaged, or irritated. The waistline should be avoi 
tight clothing may rub the system off. The system should 
immediately after opening the pouch and removing the pra 
The system should be pressed firmly in place with the pal 
for about 10 seconds, making sure there is good contact, ¢ 
around the edges. In the unlikely event that a system shoul 
same system may be reapplied. If necessary, a new systenjiay 
applied. In either case, the original treatment schedule sho: 
continued 
Initiation of Therapy 
Treatment of menopausal symptoms is usually initiated 
0.05 mg applied to the skin twice weekly. The dosage sho! 
adjusted as necessary to control symptoms. The lowest di 
necessary for the control of symptoms should be used, e 
women with an intact uterus. Attempts to taper or discont 
medication should be made at 3-to 6- month intervals. 

Prophylactic therapy with Estraderm to prevent postme! 
bone loss should be initiated with the 0.05 mg/day dosa( 
possible after menopause. The dosage may be adjusted if 
control concurrent menopausal symptoms. Discontinuati 
replacement therapy may reestablish the natural rate of bc 

In women not currently taking oral estrogens, treatmet 
Estraderm may be initiated at once. In women who are cu 
oral estrogen, treatment with Estraderm should be initiate }We 
withdrawal of oral hormone replacement therapy, or soonit 
menopausal symptoms reappear in less than 1 week. 
Therapeutic Regimen 
Estraderm therapy may be given continuously in patients 
have an intact uterus. In those patients with an intact ute! 
may be given on a cyclic schedule (e.g., 3 weeks on drug 
week off drug). 

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(continued from page 88) endocri- 
nologist at Duke University Medi- 
cal Center, “but only fifteen 
hundred to eighteen hundred 
calories sustain the weight 
of a woman in her for- 
ties.” Therefore, if you 
continue to eat at forty as 
you did at twenty-five, 
you'll gain weight. 

In part, the decrease in 

metabolism is due to ag- 
ing. “Youthful tissue acts 
differently than maturing 
tissue,” says Clark. The 
adrenal hormones, which 
affect blood flow to the 
muscles, are higher in 
younger people. So when 
younger people exercise, they 
burn more calories. Younger 
people also have a higher resting 
metabolism, Clark adds. There- 
fore, they burn more calories 
during regular activities—eating, 
sleeping, working. 
A sedentary lifestyle Many 
women in their thirties and forties 
confess that they aren’t as physi- 
cally active as they were in their 
youth, and that contributes to a 
slowdown in metabolism. Says 
Valerie Denner, “I’m much less 
active now. I used to walk daily 
or swim, but since the children, I 
feel too tired or I can’t find 
the time.” 

Without regular physical ac- 
tivity, by the time you’re forty 
you'll begin to lose about 10 
percent of your muscle mass 
per decade—and gain fat in its 
place, says Miriam Nelson, 
Ph.D., scientist at the USDA 
Human Nutrition Research 
Center on Aging at Tufts Uni- 
versity, in Boston. Even if you 
weigh the same, you may not 
fit into your clothes because 
fat, although it weighs less 
than muscle, takes up more 
room. And you will look flabby. 
“You may also find that your 
breasts sag, partly because of 
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TIGHTENING THE 
TROUBLE SPOTS 


Along with age come certain inevitable trouble spots. Breasts droop, 
arms sag and bottoms spread. Here are some easy exercises you can do 
at home to fend off those common problems: 


Tone flabby arms: This exer 
cise works the triceps and the 
arms. Photo one: Straddle a 
bench and sit up straight. Holding 
a fivepound dumbbell in your 
right hand, fold right arm behind 
your head. Photo two: Raise right 
hand straight up, and use left 
hand to steady the weightbearing 
arm. (Make sure you don’t lock 
your elbow!) Then switch weight 
to lett hand and repeat. Work up 
foyen repetitions per arm. 


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Firm up the chest: Push-ups build the upper-arm muscles and the 
pectorals (chest muscles). Photo one: Start by kneeling and putting your 
hands on the floor in front of you. Make sure your knees are together 
and your hands are shoulder-width apart. Bend your elbows slightly, 
squeeze your buttocks and pull in your abdominal muscles. Photo two: 
Go down two inches, pause, and then go down two inches more. 
Come up slightly, then up again. Start with ten repetitions, and work 
your way up to thirty. 






















back of a standard: 
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lifting your heels o 
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thighs—pretenc# 
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Bring up your rear: [his ballet beach ball between them—ancq_ 
exercise can help tone your buttocks slowly rise up to the starting position] 
along with your abdominal and leg Start with four repetitions; work you 
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or pectoral [chest] 
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(continued) 
muscles,” 
Past dieting sins If you’ve 
repeatedly losing 


been 
a yo-yo dieter, 
and re-gaining weight, 
have adversely affected your 
metabolism—not to 
self-esteem. When some 


you may 


mention 
your 
people go on a very low-calorie 
diet—less than 1,000 calories a 
day—the body thinks it’s starv- 
ing, and the metabolism adjusts 
itself to get that fat back and 
store it for another hunger bout. 
“It’s not a matter of resuming 
bad habits; these people are bio- 
eat again,” 
M.D., 


of endocrinology at 


logically compelled to 
says Ahmed Kissebah, 
Ph.D:; 


the Medical College o 


chief 
f Wiscon- 
sin, in Milwaukee, and scientific 
TOPS, 
profit weight-loss support organi- 
Says Lynn Doolittle 


adviser to Inc., a non- 


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forty-seven, of Vero Beach, 
Florida, “I’m a nurse, and you’d 
think I’d know better, but I tried 
every diet there was. Once, I lost 
ninety pounds, but I gained ev- 
ery bit back.” Doolittle is now a 
patient at the Duke University 
Diet and Fitness Center, where 
she is learning to break the yo-yo 
cycle. She has slowly lost 90 
pounds through a moderate diet 
and exercise program—and in- 
tends to keep it off. 


REALISTIC GOALS 

Experts agree that realism is just 
as Important as moderation in a 
shape-up program. For while a 
regimen of sensible diet and exer- 
cise will help make you look and 
feel better, it won’t give you back 
your teenage body. 

“You have to redefine success,” 
says Thomas Wadden, Ph.D., di- 
rector of the Weight and Eating 
Disorders Program at the Univer- 
sity of Pennsylvania, in Philadel- 


phia. “Expect to end up five or ten 


strong evidence that eating foods rif 
antioxidant vitamins and minerals is importilt 
good health. Antioxidants help strengthen the bid 


pounds heavier than your ideal 
weight of youth.” 

But that doesn’t mean you still 
can’t look great. “You can certain- 
ly improve your appearance and 
health, and get back into some of 
those old clothes,” savs Peggy 
Keating, M.A., fitness director at 
Duke University Diet and Fitness 
Center. “I’ve seen women who 
were unfit for most of their adult- 
hood lose fat, firm up and get into 
better condition than they were 
during their whole lives.” 

Here’s how to begin 
shape-up plan: | 
Watch what you eat. Before you 
rush out to buy the latest calorie 
or fat-gram counter, remember 
that the “best plan for weight loss 
begins in the mind,” says Wad- 
den. Get ready to permanently 
change your eating habits for the 
better. If you don’t, the weight 
will certainly return once you go 
back to your old ways. 

‘The key is to make changes slow- 
ly: “Start with small, manageable 


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For a well-balancecfl 

include 5-9 servings of fruit 
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are a good source of beta-carité 
and other antioxidant vital 





changes in your diet that you can 
live with,” says Hamilton, of Duke 
University. Make one change at a 
time until you’ve accepted it and 
incorporated it into your life. 
Then, when you’re comfortable, 
work in another modification. 
Think substitution, not depriva- 
tion. For example, start by switch- 
ing from two glasses of whole milk 
a day to skim. That small step will 
save you about 463 grams of fat or 
more than one pound a month, 
which adds up to fourteen pounds 
a year, almost effortlessly. Then, 
at lunch, munch on a bag of pret- 
zels instead of potato chips. Do 
that every day, and you’ll lose an- 
other fourteen pounds in a year! 
Concentrate on eating foods that 
are low in fat and high in fiber and 
complex carbohydrates, such as 
grains, beans, fresh fruits and veg- 
etables. These foods fill you up for 
fewer calories and will keep your 
hunger at bay longer because they 
stabilize your blood-sugar levels. 
So, you'll have less desire for fat, 


sugar and excess protein 
main culprits of weight gain. Ex- 
perts say that to lose weight, wom- 
en should their fat 
consumption to between 20 and 


limit 


30 grams daily; to maintain, eat 


no more than 50 to 60 grams of 


fat daily. 

Fit in fitness. “The number-one 
predictor of success in long-term 
weight maintenance is physical ac- 
tivity,” s That’s be- 
cause working out revs up your 
general metabolism through the 
buildup of muscle, something di- 
eting can’t do. Diet alone, in fact, 
shrinks your muscles. “If you lose 
weight solely by dieting, about 
fifty percent of your weight loss 
will be the loss of lean body 
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Start slowly, maybe for fifteen 
minutes a few times the first 
week. “Don’t concentrate too 
much on pace or heart rates,’ 
says Keating. “Do it comfortably 
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five days a 
week. Thirty minutes is consid- 
ered minimum for losing weight, 
says Kostas. 

To drop pounds, you'll proba- 
bly need to exercise more than 
when you were younger. But 

work out longer, not harder, for 
long-term fat-burning results. 
One study showed that women 


(continued) or 


who walked a mile slower and 
longer burned the same amount 
of fat as women who walked the 
mile faster. Working out easier 
| and longer means less injury and 
| more enjoyment. 

| Don’t be surprised if you feel 
| ured or a little sore when you start 
| exercising. “From lack of use, your 


| “If you feel happier and 
healthier, vou ve reached 
vour goal—no matter 
what the scale says. 


smaller,” says Keating, “and they 
need time to adjust to the new de- 
mands you’re putting on them.” 

To avoid injury, begin your 
workout by warming up—that 1s, 
doing your desired exercise at a 
slow and easy pace. For in- 
stance, if you’re going to jog, 
warm up by walking briskly for 
five minutes. After your warm- 
up, do some light stretching ex- 
ercises. Stretch again after you 
end your workout. 
Tone muscles. One of the best 
ways of toning your arms and legs 
| | is working out with weights. If 

you're over thirty, experts recom- 
mend strength training two to 

| three times a week for at least 
twenty minutes. 

Use weight machines at the 
health club or free weights at 
home. However, if you’re going 


muscles are probably weaker and 


to lift weights at home, first con- 
sult with an accredited personal 
trainer from your health club or 
the YWCA to learn how to lift 
safely and in proper form. “Prop- 
er body alignment means using 
the muscles you intend to use,” 
says Keating. “Otherwise, you 
may recruit other muscles to do 
the work and lose the effective- 
ness of the exercise.” 

To learn good form, suggests 
Keating, first do the exercise 
without using any weights. Then 
start with a fairly light weight 
that you can lift fifteen times. 
When that becomes too easy, 
increase the weight and begin 
decreasing the number of rep- 


s) *) 


eutions. (Increasing the weight, 
not the number of reps, builds 
the muscle.) Gradually, over 
several weeks, work up to three 
sets of ten to twelve repetitions. 
Work both the upper and lower 
body. “But don’t just work the 
glory muscles—the ones that look 
good, such as the arms and 
chest,” says Sheila King, M.S., 
a fitness-program director 
of the extension program at 
the University of California, Los 
Angeles. “It’s very important at 
this age to work the anti-gravity 
muscles also—those of the upper 
and lower back, which keep you 
in an upright position.” If you 
don’t strengthen them, you’re 
likely to develop poor posture and 
rounded shoulders. 


THE RIGHT ATTITUDE 


The most important thing to re- 


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member about getting back into 
shape is to “strive for improvement, 
not perfection,” says Susan Olson, 
Ph.D., psychological director of the 
Southwest Bariatric Nutrition Cen- 
ter, in Scottsdale, Arizona. “Focus 
on the process—healthy eating and 
exercise—and the pounds will take 
care of themselves.” 

Also keep in mind: 

@ Lose only about a 
pound a week. More than 
that is too fast and could 
set you up for a yo-yo 
dieting cycle. 

@ Measure your 

progress primarily 
by how you’re fitting 
into your clothes. 
Don’t become en- 
slaved by a scale 
that may be decep- 
tive; from working 
out, you may be 
gaining lean mass, 
which weighs more 
than the fat you’re 
losing. Weigh your- 
self only once a week. 
@ Reach a weight or 
size that is comfortable for 
you to maintain physically 
and emotionally. “If you feel 
happier and _ healthier, 
you've reached your goal no 
matter what the scale says,” 
says Keating. 

@ Finally, recognize the 
efforts you’re making and 

reward yourself now. 

Buy some new clothes 
or makeup, or treat your-| 
self to a movie. Don’t wait! 
for life to begin at a certain weight. 
Says nurse Lynn Doolittle, “ve 
never been a size five, and I proba- 
bly never will be, but that’s fine| 
with me. I think about what I’ve ac- 
complished, and I can say some- 
thing now that I haven’t said in 
years: ‘I like me.’ ” gz 


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JUSTICE 


We've all thought about lashing out at someone who 


has done us wrong—or whom we just dislike. But 


what drives people to actually do such a thing, and 


why are so many of them doing it? By Andrea Gross 


1991, Wanda 
Hollow ay, 


irst, in 
the moth- 
er of a Texas cheer- 
leader, plotted to kill 
her 


the mother of 


daughter’s rival. ‘Then, in April 
1993, tennis star Monica Seles 
was stabbed bv a deranged fan 
of her top competitor, Steffi 
Graf. And last January, figure 


Nancy Kerrigan 


in the knee by an as- 


skater was 
clubbed 
sailant about six weeks before 
she was scheduled to compete at 
Within 


days of the assault, investigators 


the Winter Olympics 


had arrested four men, including 
the ex-husband of Kerrigan’s 
Harding. 


Investigating 


closest rival, Tonya 
Authorities are 
Harding’s possible role, though 
at press time, she had not been 
charged. But, whether guilty or 
innocent, she had shown little 
concern for Kerrigan, promis- 
ing only to “whip her butt” in 
the Olympics if she had the 
ypportunity 

tricks and acts 


Today, dirt 


of revenge are the stuff of daily 
headlines. In fact, some notori- 
ous recent assaults and killings 
have a common theme of do-it- 
vourself retribution: 

WM Ellie Nesler, a California 
mother, killed the man accused 


of molesting her young son 


@ Beverly Hills brothers Erik 
and Lyle Menendez shot their 
parents, who, the brothers 
claim, were abusive. 
BM And a Virginia manicurist, 
Lorena Bobbitt, imposed her 
own kind of justice on her hus- 
band, cutting off his penis in 
retaliation for what she said was 
his brutal treatment of her. 
Pretty unpleasant stuff, but 
nothing new, really. In fact, the 
desire for revenge and retribu- 
tion is as old as the human race. 
“"There’s a constant current of 
vengefulness in human histo- 
Scheff, 
professor emeritus ol! 


ry,” says Thomas 
Ph.D., 
sociology at the University of 
California, in Santa Barbara 
What is new, however, is the 
admiration or sympathy some 
of these avengers evoke in us. 
Many residents of Ellie Nesler’s 
town felt she had done the night 
Lorena Bobbitt 


thing was 


hailed by some as a heroine in 
the fight against domestic vio- 
lence. The Menendez brothers’ 
cases ended in mistrials, clearly 
because some jurors were un- 
willing to convict them. (It’s in- 
teresting to note that what each 
of these avengers did was far 
more serious than the attack on 
Nancy Kerrigan, but most peo- 


ple have no continued 


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sympathy for Kerrigan’s assailants be- 
cause the incident was provoked, it 
seems, only by her talent and popularity.) 

And there are other disturbing signs 
of our growing taste for “wild justice,” 
as the English essayist Francis Bacon 
called our desire for retribution. Today, 
there are courses that teach you how to 
get revenge on an enemy: The Learning 
Annex in New York City sponsors a 
class titled “How to Get Vengeance, Re- 
venge, and More”; there are books on 
the market with titles like Ger Even: The 
Complete Book of Dirty Tricks; magazines 
run articles listing revenge techniques to 
help you get back at “co-workers who 
make your life miserable.” 

“Get what you need, get what you 
want at all cost to other people. . . that 
has become part of our culture, unfortu- 
nately,” says James Fox, Ph.D., dean of 
the College of Criminal Justice at 
Northeastern University, in Boston. 

This kind of covert vengefulness goes 
on every day, according to Martin 
Sprouse, editor of Sabotage in the Ameri- 
can Workplace: Anecdotes of Ditssatisfac- 
tion, Mischief and Revenge (Pressure 


clinical and social psychologist in private 
practice in Redding, California, and a 
former associate professor of psychology 
at the University of California at Santa 
Cruz. “It could be totally irrational, but 
the driving force is that there was some 
injustice. [The person who wants re- 
venge thinks] ‘I should have been re- 
warded or gotten this or that, and the 
only way I can make sure things are now 
just is to take revenge.’ ” 

Exacting revenge on an enemy also 
represents the primitive way of solving 
problems. For generations, people be- 
lieved in “an eye for an eye” as the Old 
Testament proclaimed. In more mod- 
ern times, those of us who were 
wronged or betrayed tried to follow the 
New Testament’s Christian teaching of 
turning the other cheek. But clearly, in 
the 1990s, we’re losing touch with that 
lesson of forgiveness. 

“Tf you feel like you’ve been treated 
unjustly and there’s nothing you can do 
about it that is socially supported, then 
your option today is either to swallow it 
or try to balance the scales yourself,” 
says White. 

“Revenge is the province of the pow- 
erless,” adds Regina Barreca, Ph.D., a 
professor of English and feminist theory 


Today, there are books 
and even courses that 
teach vou how to get 
revenge on an enemy. 


Drop Press, 1992). “People use sabo- 
tage as a way of getting back,” he says. 
He tells of a plumber who put nails in 
the water pipes of a homeowner who ar- 
gued about price, and a stockbroker 
who, during trading hours, randomly 
punched buttons on a computer that 
was linked to the stock market, possibly 
causing the market to plunge—because 
he was mad at his boss. 

“Most people I talked to felt really 
good afterward,” says Sprouse. “There 
was no remorse. They said if they were 
in a similar situation, they would do it 
again. The overall feeling is.that this is 
what people do in America.” 


A LACK OF POWER 

What’s especially disturbing is that 
many people out for revenge today don’t 
have a valid reason for retaliation. “Re- 
venge is a reaction to a percetved injus- 
tice,” says Gregory White, Ph.D., 


104 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - APRIL 1994 


at the University of Connecticut at 
Storrs, and author of the forthcoming 
Getting Even: Revenge in Contemporary 
Culture (Harmony) and Perfect Husbands 
(and Other Fairy Tales) (Harmony, 
1993). “People who are powerful get 
justice. This [feeling of powerlessness] is 
the reason women have for so long been 
associated with revenge, because women 
have come not to trust the usual av- 
enues of power to do them justice.” 

Take the case of Carol, a former wait- 
ress at a California truck stop, who de- 
cided to get even with her cheapskate 
boss. Along with two other waitresses, 
she deliberately let some mayonnaise- 
based salads spoil. About ten customers 
got sick, and they sued the company. 
The owner had to close down. He never 
realized that the customers’ illness was 
caused by his employees. In retrospect, 
savs Carol, “I think there are better 
ways of handling things.” 









































But the experts agree that no 
what the motivation, there a 
healthy and unhealthy types of | 
tion. “Revenge crosses the line 
exceeds social norms or whe 
comes obsessive to the point t 
person focuses all his or her en 
it,” says Eve Lipchik, A.C.S. 
founder of ICF Consultants, 
family-therapy agency in Milwa 

But some milder forms of pay 
such as taking the person who 
you to court—are socially acc 
and can actually provide a heal 
tional release for the person wh 
wronged, experts say. (However 
think the growing litigiousness 
society is still another example 
preoccupation with punishing th 
we believe have wronged us.) 

Healthy paybacks can be do 
class—and even a bit of flair. P 
don, a self-proclaimed reven 
who teaches that course on “ 
Get Vengeance, Revenge, and 
Cites the case of a well-known 
who found an ever-so-gracious 
even the score with a TV ho 
made blatant verbal advances 
during his show. She accepted 
tation to a postshow dinne 
showed up with twelve friends. 
of a romantic téte-a-téte, the hos 
himself talking to, and paying 
hungry crowd while the actres: 
happily a table-length away. 

Or the young woman from Aft 
who decided to pay a surprise 
her fiancé on the night before th 
ding. As she quietly let herself it 
apartment, she realized he wasn 
with her bridesmaid. She left be: 
couple spotted her. The next daz 
ceremony the minister asked, |] 
anyone have cause why these twa 
not be joined together?” Ther 
bride lifted her veil and said, “I dv 
then handed her bouquet to herjr 
maid. “You slept with the grom 
night. I feel you should be the r 
Then, while hundreds of guests wit 
in stunned amazement, she non¢ 
ly walked out of the church. 

But sometimes it’s just not poi 
get justice in such a simple, harms 
yet pointed way. Then, there’s <€ 
better choice. “The best revenge 1 


do the things you want to do ad 
into the kind of person you want t! 

That’s advice that some of 10! 
today’s headlines might have dc 
to heed. bi 


Andrea Gross is a contributing da 
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I'm the same person | was before | decided to stay home with my child. But people treat 
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year ago, my husband, a 
lawyer, asked me to join 
him at a trendy Manhattan 

restaurant for dinner with 
a client and his wife, 

thom I'll call Susan. She and I 
rould have something in common, 
e thought: Susan was a magazine 
ditor, as I had been before | 
iaking the choice to be a "4 
il-time mother and home-  ~ 
iaker. But when she arrived 
reathlessly, a half hour late, 
er remarks were addressed 
) her husband and mine. 
he barely looked at me and 
ever spoke to me. 

When I related this inci- 
ent to a friend of mine, she 
lurted in surprise, “But 
idn’t she know who you 
vere?” I was stunned. Nei- 
‘\er a stranger nor a good 
iend seemed to understand 
‘respect one of the most 
portant decisions I had 
‘er made. 

At that moment, I realized 
iad become invisible. 

Two years prior to that 
‘nner, when I was thought 
\ be an interesting person, I 
)vuld have talked about 
'shion I’d covered, celebri- 
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my teenage daughter, our house 
and our garden. These interests, 
and the work I do now, have made 
me a nobody, at least in the sight of 
some people, like Susan. 

Ironically, there was once a time 
when I, too, shared some of the 
same feelings. As a feminist of the 





seventies, I believed it was unac- 
ceptable for me “just” to stay 
home. I felt contempt for those col- 
lege classmates already flashing en- 


gagement rings on commencement 
day. J was going to have a career. 

I worked for many years in se- 
mior positions that absorbed all my 
ume and energies. Most of my ac- 
quaintances were colleagues; even 
among family members, my work 
had become my identity and my 
lifestyle. Then my daughter 
was born—and everything 
changed. 

When my baby was seven 
weeks old, I returned to 
work, only to discover that I 
missed being with her. No 
one talks about the back- 
breaking burden of the 
woman who works in and 
out of the home. No one ad- 
mits to the longing for a 
newborn left behind every 
morning, or the regret at 
having to leave a child in the 
hands of a nanny or a day- 
care worker. There were 
umes I would bitterly resent 
the stranger my daughter 
clung to as I walked in the 
door at night. 

I hoarded every moment I 
could with my child. I took 
on night assignments in ex- 
change for extra free time. 
To avoid wasting daytime 
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supermarket. But when I was with 
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THIS YEAR, TAKE A TRIP THAT WILL PLEASE THE WHOLE FAMILY. WE'VE CHOSEN A GROUP OF TOP-NOTCH 
RESORTS THAT SPECIALIZE IN PROVIDING ACTIVITIES FOR TOTS, TEENS, PARENTS AND GRANDPARENTS. PLUS, 


ALL OF THEM OFFER SPECIAL RATES OR ADDED EXTRAS—JUST FOR LHJ READERS. 


hether you plan to bi- 

cycle back roads, canoe 

on a pristine lake or per- 

fect your golf and tennis 

games, your family vacation 

is probably one of the most antici- 
pated events of the year. Therefore, 
it’s crucial to choose a destination 
that meets the needs of everyone— 
from the youngest on up—and that 
fits within your bud- 
get. Here, you’ll 
find twenty family 
resorts located all 
around the U.S. 
Many feature basic 
accommodations 
and activities at in- 
expensive rates, 
while others, al- . 

_ though somewhat pricier, offer a 
- more luxurious vacation that’s still 
surprisingly affordable. And for LHJ 
_ readers, all of these resorts are now 
an even better deal. If you mention 
this story when booking your vaca- 
| tion and bring in the original article 
| (not a copy) when you check in, 
, you'll receive a special discount or 
. bonus arranged just for LHJ readers. 


_IN THE NORTHEAST 
‘The Tyler Place 
lake Champlain, Vermont 
4 compound of twenty-seven cot- 
‘ages and an inn edging the lake, 
_The Tyler Place complements its 
d-fashioned friendliness with up- 
_o-date kids’ programs. Seven sepa- 
vate groups, plus an Infant/Toddler 
\ctivities Center for newborns to 
' wo-year-olds, offer age-appropriate 
i ictivities and plenty of attention. 
_3ince the programs operate morn- 
| \ngs and evenings, families have the 


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afternoon to sail, bicycle and simply 
be together. Child care is available 
on an hourly basis. Rates start at 
$70 per adult per day and $41 for 
children (including meals, activities, 
sports and children’s program). 
LHJ special: Visit between May 27 
and June 11 (when stays shorter than 
one week are allowed) and receive a 
free stay for one child, newborn to 
age sixteen (a 
savings of be- 
tween $41 and 
$47 per day). Call 
802-868-3301. 


Kids at play at 
The Tyler Place 
(left) and at 
Mountain Laurel 


Waterville Vailey 
Waterville Valley, 

New Hampshire 

With the White Mountain National 


Forest as a backdrop, Waterville 
Valley is a town that leads a double 
life: During the winter season, it’s a 
ski resort, but come summer, it’s 
transformed into a sunny, sports- 
oriented family destination. While 
your younger children (six weeks to 
three years old) are supervised at 
the Curious George child-care cen- 
ter, you and your older kids can 
sign up for tennis clinics, in-line 





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skating and mountain biking. Or at 
WVKid, the children’s program, 
youngsters can enjoy fishing, swim- 
ming and hiking. 

Accommodations range from 
country inns and lodges to condo- 
miniums. Rates vary, with a five-night 
midweek stay starting at about $445. 
LHJ special: Book a six-night stay 
in a one-bedroom Black Bear Lodge 
condominium (sleeps four to six) 
for $554, and receive the seventh 
night free (a savings of 10 to 20 per- 
cent). This offer is valid from June 
18 through July 22 and from Au- 
gust 31 through October 10, 1994. 
Call 800-468-2553. 


Mountain Laurel Resort 
White Haven, Pennsylvania 
This Pocono Mountains resort is 
part of a select breed: a moderately 
priced hotel that offers free supervi- 
sion for infants, as well as organized 
activities for older children from 9 
A.M. to 9 P.M. Here, you can enjoy 
golf, tennis, hiking and swimming, 
in addition to spending time with 
the kids. At the Leave the Kids 
With Us Program, infants through 
two-year-olds play in a toy-filled 
nursery. In the Kidtraks Cubs Pro- 
gram, younger kids visit the petting 
farm, enjoy crafts and go on 
hayrides, while older children enjoy 
basketball, swimming and minia- 
ture-golf tournaments in Kidtracks. 
From July 5 to August 31, a spe- 
cial package allows children from 


newborn to seventeen to eat and 
stay free when sharing with at least 
one adult (no single-parent penalty) 
and to participate in all kids’ pro- 
grams. Rates start at about $90 per 
night. The package 


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(continued) is based on availability. 
LHJ special: Buy four nights and receive 
the fifth night free (a savings of up to 
$200). May be combined with the package 
described above. Call 800-458-5921. 


Holiday Inn SunSpree Resort 
Lake Placid, New York 

The rooms here come with such family 
comforts as microwaves and refrigerators. 
The KidSpree program (available during 
summer and holidays) keeps ages six 
through fourteen happily busy with nature 
walks, miniature golf and swimming. The 
whole family can cast for trout at the hotel’s 
own preserve and sail on nearby Mirror 
Lake and Lake Placid. With this resort as 
your home base, you can explore the 
Olympic Village, ride the chairlift for 
sweeping mountain views and hike to wa- 
terfalls in the Adirondack State Park. Rates 
range from $59 to $189 per night. Package 
rates are often available. 

LHJ special: For midweek stays (check- 
in Sunday through Tuesday) during April, 
May and June, if you buy two nights’ 
lodging, you’ll receive the third night free, 
along with a free Lake Placid boat tour, 
free trout fishing and free KidSpree pro- 
gram (a savings of $153 to $313). Call 
800-874-1980. 


IN THE SOUTH 

Wintergreen Resort 
Wintergreen, Virginia 

An upscale resort on eleven thousand acres, 
Wintergreen is pure Blue Ridge Mountain 
magic, with endless views and varied activi- 
ties. Besides enjoying golf, tennis, boating, 
swimming and horseback rides, families 
can learn about birds, fossils, wildflowers 
and stream life on guided hikes through the 
resort’s own nature preserve. 

At Kids in Action, children romp 
through butterfly hunts, salamander walks 
and water rodeos. With Kids Night Out 
(Friday and Saturday evenings, July 2 
through September 3), ages four to twelve 
enjoy swimming and movies, while parents 
savor moonlight and romantic dinners. 

Wintergreen’s Family Package repre- 
sents a 10 to 20 percent savings from reg- 
ular prices. Rates for a family of four in a 
two-bedroom condominium start at $241 
per night midweek ($269 on weekends). 
The package includes, for each night’s 
stay, two Fun Passes good for a wide 
range of activities from the children’s pro- 
grams to trail rides. 

LHJ special: Save an additional 10 percent 
off the Family Package (a savings of about 
$25 to $30 per day). Call 800-325-2200. 


Kingsmill Resort 

Williamsburg, Virginia 

Situated along the James River, 
Kingsmill offers a free shuttle to Colo- 
nial Williamsburg and Busch Gardens. 


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Kingsmill’s complimentary sports pro- 
gram includes fishing, golf, tennis and 
more. In summer, the half-day or full- 
day Kingsmill Kampers Kids’ Program 
for ages five to twelve leaves you free to 
browse the fine furniture in Williams- 
burg’s DeWitt Wallace Gallery. 

The one-, two- and three-bedroom 
suites come with complete kitchens and 
fireplaces and start at $195 per night. Ho- 
tel rooms start at $155 per night. 

LHJ special: Get a 20 percent discount 
on rack (regular) rates Monday to Thurs- 
day; a 10 percent discount Friday through 
Sunday; plus a $50 credit toward on-site 
food, beverage or Kingsmill Kampers; and 
the option to purchase a three-day 


At Callaway Gardens (top photo) 
and Wintergreen, families bike and 
picnic in scenic surroundings 





discount pass to Busch oe 
Gardens and Water le il, ; 
Country USA. Valid __ ae ~ 
Memorial Day through , 
Labor Day week. Call 5 i 

800-832-5665. 


Oglebay Resort 
and Conference 
Center 
Wheeling, 

West Virginia 
This former estate 
turned city-administered resort features 
reasonable prices and lots of activities. En- 
joy three golf courses, trout fishing, horse- 
back riding and boating. Stroll the formal 
gardens and the woods; visit the Good 
Children’s Zoo; admire the miniature 
trains at the Mansion Museum as well as 
the local crafts at the Carriage House 
Glass Center. 

During various weeks in summer, Ogle- 
bay’s zoo offers nature camps for ages four 
to thirteen. Also, kids in kindergarten 
through sixth grade may participate in 
Wheeling Park Programs. Book the kids’ 
programs ahead, as these often fill up with 
local children. 

You can stay in a cabin or at the com- 
fortable, but not fancy, Wilson Lodge. 
Midweek, rates start at $105, double oc- 
cupancy (two kids can stay free). 

LHJ special: Get a 15 percent discount 
off rack rates for June through September. 
Call 800-624-6988 or 304-243-4090. 






High Hampton Inn 
and Country Club 
Cashiers, North Carolina 
At the High Hampton Inn and qd 
Club, which is on the National Reg 
Historic Places, the rooms and qa 
are basic. The real Southern cha 
from the setting: fourteen hundre 
in the Blue Ridge Mountains grac 
a beautifully clear lake. 
Activities include half-day guided 
three- and five-day golf schools, fly+§ 
sailing and canoeing. Ages five to 
delight in donkey-cart rides, tens 
swimming as well as evening pajama 
and hayrides. Ages two to four enjda 
and picnics during the morning sess 
Rates start at about $71 per pe 
the first two adults and $40 each f 
dren under six (additional people ¢€ 
six, $49 each) and include thre 
daily. A two-bedroom, two-bathro 
tage that sleeps six starts at $1848 
not included). Packages are availab) 
LHJ special: Book two or morg 
and receive a complimentary greenf 
one or two persons, or up to ten 
free children’s programs for onef# 
children (a savings of $20 to $44 
800-334-2551. 
























































Callaway Gardens 
Pine Mountain, Georgia 
Sprawled on twenty-five 
acres in the Appalachian 
Callaway Gardens boast 
three holes of golf. Book yd 
for the Callaway Gardens {& 
Family Adventure Prog 
camplike schedule of tennis 
bingo, waterskiing and fis 
the whole family. Additiongs 
vised programs serve ages 
six and seven to twelvejl 
meet and greet at golf clin 
ing excursions and dances. | 
If all that’s not enoughle 
one will enjoy admiring scores ofp 
flies at the Cecil B. Day Butterflye 
and oohing and aahing at the h@ 
feats of Florida State University’s |E 
High” Circus. 
Choose from hotel rooms, cotta 
villas. The Summer Family Ad 
Program for one week for up to 
ple in a two-bedroom cottage 
kitchen starts at $1,695. 
LHJ special: Book the Summe 
Adventure Package by June 1, 19 
receive one complimentary Family! 
Pass good for golf, tennis, sailing 4 
ing (an $85 value). Call 800-282-8 


Holiday Inn SunSpree Res 
Lake Buena Vista, Florida 
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Holiday provides supervi- 
sion for ages two to twelve from 8 A.M. to 
midnight. Another bonus: When parents 
dine at the hotel, kids twelve and under 
eat free from the kids’ menu when accom- 
panied by an adult. At night, you can 
make a reservation for Max, the raccoon 
mascot, who will tuck your tots into bed. 
Summertime rates start at $79 per day. 
LHJ special: Added-value bonuses in- 
clude a free room upgrade, a $3 discount 
on a Walt Disney World Four-day Super 
Bonus Pass, one continental breakfast at 
Pinky’s, free beeper rental, free sipper bot- 
tle with unlimited soft-drink refills, and a 
$5 discount off any combination of Uni- 
versal Studios or Sea World passes and 
any Orlando Entertains dinner show 
(about a $30 value). Call 800-FON- 
MAXX or 407-239-4500. 


IN THE MIDWEST 
Eagle Ridge Inn and Resert 
Galena, Illinois 
A pretty complex of villas, condos and inn 
rooms, this sixty-eight-hundred-acre resort 
is ranked by aficionados as one of the top 
golf-resort values in the country. 
Nongolfers will enjoy the nature trails, 
tennis and fitness center. Some also like 
the easy proximity to gambling aboard the 
three-hour Mississippi River cruises that 
leave from nearby marinas. In the summer, 
the Eagle Ridge Is For Kids Program offers 
activities for ages three to twelve. On week- 
ends, there’s a Kids Night Out Program. 
Inn rooms start at $185. From April 1 
to October 31, 1994, a three-night Family 
Time Package midweek in a one-bedroom 
home starts at $595 (weekends, $625). 
This includes lodging, discounts on kids’ 
programs, a $25 gift certificate for the 
General Store, a 10 percent discount at 
certain eateries, three free movie rentals, 
discounts on massages, and unlimited use 
of the fitness center, indoor pool and trails. 
LHJ special: Get a 10 percent discount 
on the Family Time Package (savings 
from $60 and up). Call 800-892-2269. 


Tan-Tar-A Resort, 

Golf Club and Spa 

Osage Beach, Missouri 

Located on the waterfront along the Lake 
of the Ozarks, Tan-Tar-A is one of the 
Midwest’s largest resorts. Families come 
here for boating, horseback riding and es- 
pecially for golf. Besides playing on two 
courses from mid-May through mid- 
September, you and your budding duffer, 
aged eight and older, can perfect putts and 
drives at the John Jacobs’ Practical Golf 
School. During the summer, from Mon- 
day through Friday, ages five to ten enjoy 
cooking, water-balloon fights, relays and 
pool games at Camp Tan-Tar-A. Rates 
start at $79, double occupancy. 

LHJ special: Get a $10 discount per 


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room (or suite). per day. Valid through 
December 1994. Call 800-826-8272. 


Radisson Arrowwood 
Alexandria, Minnesota 
This resort is definitely a family find: You 
and your children will enjoy strolling the 
paths that crisscross the property, skipping 
rocks on Lake Darling, building sand cas- 
tles and simply lazing in the sun in this 
bucolic setting. For more vigorous fun, 
improve your golf, go horseback riding and 
play tennis. At Camp Arrowwood, ages 
four to twelve participate in fishing, nature 
walks and crafts from 9 A.M. to 3 P.M. 
During the summer season, rooms start 
at $85. From May | to September 6, 1994, 
the Summer Adventure package starts at 
$184 per couple ($26 for children twelve 
and under and $44 for ages thirteen to 
eighteen). It includes one night’s lodging, 








Tennis at Eagle Ridge Inn and Resort 
(top); a horse-drawn carriage at 
Mission Point Resort 


dinner for two, breakfast for two and free 
nonmotorized recreation (excluding indoor 
tennis). Also, throughout the summer, the 
five-night Family Adventure package starts 
at $625 and includes a 25 percent discount 
on motorized rentals and many activities, 
and one free trail ride per person, per day. 
Other packages are available. 

LHJ special: Take an additional 10 per- 
cent off any package. Call 800-333-3333. 


Mission Point Resort 
Mackinac Island, Michigan 
Lake Huron’s Mackinac Island is a scenic 
oasis just three miles long and two miles 
wide. Named “Michilimackinac,” or great 
turtle, by the Indians, the island retains its 
slow pace by banning cars. Tourists and 
residents alike walk, bicycle or ride the 
horse-drawn carriages. 

Mission Point Resort, on eighteen lake- 
front acres, matches the island mood with 

















































an elegant but laid-back ambien) 
thirty-six-foot-tall lobby, crafted fre 
tive pine, resembles a sixteen-sided 
At the Mission Point Kids Club, ag 
to ten meet friends at relay races, 
and movies. (Kids twelve and und 
free and eat free at the resort’s 
rants.) Families should try the 
hayrides and, of course, bike tours 
landmarks as Arch Rock and Skull ¢ 

Room rates vary widely—from § 
a standard room in the off-season t 
for a deluxe suite during peak s 
Consider timing your trip for the s 
period, just before or after the pe 
son, when rates start at $95 per nigh 
standard room. 
LHJ special: Receive a 20 percef 
count off the rack rate of any rq 
suite through December 31, 199 
800-833-7711. 





IN THE WEST 
Copper Mountain Resort 
Copper Mountain, Colorad¢ 
Im the summer, when lift lines are 
memory, this four-diamond, spra 
resort seventy-five miles west of 
offers mountains of fun at moj 
prices. You can take to the trail 
mountain bikes or horses. Then 
trip by jeep to historic mines and t 
mountain passes. 
Belly Button Babies provides 
children aged two months to foug 
and Kid’s Camp has pond fishing, § 
boat races and nature hikes for age 
twelve. Hotel rooms start at abo 
double occupancy; one-bedroom 
miniums start at $135. 
LHJ special: Receive five days’ 
for two adults and two children i 
bedroom condominium; breakfé 
four people all five days at Pesce 
Restaurant; five days of Kid’s Ca 
two children aged five to twelve; & 
cess to the athletic club; free s@ 
chairlift rides, kids’ fishing and 
boating—all for $830 (a 48 percé 
ings). Call 800-458-8386, extensio 


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The Big Mountain 
Whitefish, Montana 
Also a ski resort in winter, The Big 
tain is tucked into northwest Monta 
to Glacier National Park. In sum 
Mountain’s Alpine Adventures prog 
trigues ages seven and up (parents 
but not required) with nature hike 
tracking, Frisbee golf and more. T 
for a float trip through Glacier 
Park or a drive along the scenic 
Down in the valley, you can play gop! 
merous courses and explore Flathe# ! 
with its thirty-two islands, abuncat 
and Blackfoot Indian petroglyphs. |_ 
Rates vary, depending on wheltgi 
choose to stay in a hotel, lodge, cil 
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Recipe Contest 


Congratulations to Marjorie Farr of Rockville, 
Maryland who won the grand prize for ber Buttery 
Southwestern Couscous. Make this recipe for your 
own family and you'll be a winner too! 


Buttery Southwestern Couscous 


cups chicken broth 

2 tsp. tumeric 
cup couscous 
Tbsp. Molly McButter® garlic 
butter dairy sprinkles 

1 cup cooked black beans, 
drained and rinsed 

2 cup chopped, seeded plum tomatoes 
Tbsp. chopped green onion 
‘Tbsp. chopped cilantro 
large jalapeno pepper, 
seeded and chopped 


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2 tsp. fresh lime juice 


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In a medium saucepan, bring chicken 
broth and tumeric to boiling. Stir in 
couscous. Remove from heat, cover, and 
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never discussed the anger, fatigue and 
longing, nor the anxiety that I would 
feel terribly bereft if I abandoned a job 
that had, in fact, come to identify me. 
Once even my unreasoning boss criti- 
cized me by saying that I “mothered” 
the staff. That comment said every- 
thing I needed to know about how little 
value maternal feelings or skills had in 
the workplace. 

I remember the precise day I made 
the decision to quit my job. It was April 
of 1991, and my husband and I were 
making the long commute into New 
York from eastern Long Island. In the 
same railroad car was a woman lovingly 
describing the view from the window to 
the toddler in her arms. 

Watching them, I started to cry. I had 
never done that with my little girl. 1 had 
never ridden a train with her, sharing 
the silly adventures that are part of 
growing up. At that minute I didn’t 
even know exactly where my eleven- 
year-old was, and I couldn’t get to her 
in any case. I reached for my sunglasses 
to hide my tears and vowed that I would 
never go back to my job again. 

My boss accepted my resignation 
with scorn. “You’ll just go off and be- 
come this little housewife,” he said. The 
remark stung me deeply, but it didn’t 
change my mind. 

My husband and I were among the 
lucky ones: We could get by pretty com- 
fortably on his salary alone. But as com- 
mitted as I was to this drastic change, I 
never anticipated the isolation, the am- 
bivalence and the loneliness I felt during 
those first months at home. I woke up 
every day wondering who I was and 
what I did. 

To survive, I established a fairly rigid 
schedule for myself. I fanatically slotted 
in housekeeping and gardening jobs, 
the very mention of which threw for- 
mer friends and colleagues into a stu- 
por. I steeled myself for the humiliation 
ot asking my husband for money— 
something I had never done in nearly 
twenty years of marriage—and the sud- 
denly unsettling thought that he might 
be working with women more interest- 
ing than I. 

Then one day that summer, one of 
the few people whose friendship had 
survived my change in lifestyle phoned 
and said something exceptionally wise: 
“Why don’t you just take some time to 
sit on a rock?” I stopped painting the 
porch, took his advice, and after a few 
days, realized that I knew perfectly well 
who I was and why I had taken this 
path. But it is not an easy one. Calculat- 
ing one’s decision and living with it re- 
quires tremendous courage, stamina and 
self-esteem. 


116 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL = APRIL 1994 


Yes, there have been grueling adjust- 
ments. But I’m finding that I actually 
enjoy and find satisfaction in house- 
work. And though I do have to ask my 
husband for money, I deserve every 
cent. I perform difficult jobs—nurtur- 
ing, cooking, nursing, chauffeuring, 
cleaning and other tasks that in any oth- 
er situation would be duly compensated. 

Yes, it’s been worth it. Though I 
wasn’t able to give my full time to my 
daughter when she was younger, I think 
she needs me even more now, and I 
don’t want to share her wonderful, trou- 
bling, challenging teenage years with 
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I also know that my being 
helps give my daughter the qu 
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I don’t always see latchkey kids 
that same kind of care. One 
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her company. Another child of 
parents recently had supper 
and remarked that all she eats a 
is Chinese takeout, pizza a 
crowave dinners. 

I understand—and respect— 
sons other mothers work. I kn 
most do it out of financial ne 
others love their work so much 
would feel a real void in their 
they left. But mine was an equal 
choice; why can’t anyone respect 

The bitter irony for me was 
period of tremendous personal li 
was bound by the extraordin 
sumption that fulfillment lay bey 
front door. It is a tremendous r 
me to know that I no longer hav 
vide my loyalties between my fa 
my work. I just wish more peo 
derstood this. 

The week after I quit my job, 
friend invited me to lunch in t 
Just as I was leaving the house, I 
call from school: My child had fi 
the playground and hurt a tooth. 
to her side after frantically beg 
with my friend—and I never hea 
him again. But when my da 
smiles and I see the tiny chip 
tooth that only I would notice, 
it’s worth all the friendships an 
paychecks in the world to ha 
with her that day. 


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IT’S EVERYWHERE: 


On the kitchen table, 


in piles on the famuily- 
room floor and stuffed 
into drawers. Whether 
it’s magazines, bills, 
family photos or crafts 
catalogs, the accumula- 
tion of paper is the num- 
ber-one complaint of 
home owners trying to 
control clutter. And in 
my home, it was taking 
over. We either had to 
declutter—or move. 
That’s when I called 
Ronni Eisenberg, of 
Ronni Eisenberg and 
Associates, in New York 
City—expert organizer 
and author of Organize 
Your Home! (Hyperion, 
May 1994)—to help me 
clean up the mess. 


118 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - APRIL 1994 


First on the agenda: 


“Weed and sort,” 
commanded Ronni. So we 
took a deep breath, tossed 
the out-of-date and don’t 
need materials, and 
organized the rest into a 
series of household files 
and notebooks, a mail- 
sorter system, and a 


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set out the dinner plates. 
Because traffic in my home 
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through the kitchen, everyor 
drops keys, parcels and 
papers on the table. No 
more. “The table is for 
™ dining,” said Ronni. So she 
~ set out to find baskets, folde, 
and files to tame the cluter: 
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DOES THIS mess look familiar? It’s 
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ed up colorful and decorative 
containers and folders for filing pa- 
pers, displaying collections, and 
housing dolls and stuffed animals. 
“Systems are the most important 
part of being organized,” says 
Ronni, “but each family requires 
one suitable to their own lifestyle.” 


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| Amanda's troll 
collection is under 
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plastic shoe bag on 
the closet door. Now, 
they hold a place of 
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Now that Amanda’s stuff is stored away, she loves 


the newly found space for doing homework at her 
desk (before, projects were relegated to the dining- 
room table), and she’s proud to bring her friends to 
play in her room. Plus, it’s much easier for her to 
keep her room neat. “| don’t really mind cleaning up 
now that | have pretty folders and boxes of my own,” 
she admits. (And I’m not nagging all the time.) 


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| for all of Amanda's Amanda's ever-growing collection of 

papers: artwork, piano dolls and stuffed animals (the current 

| music, stickers, favorites are displayed in a big basket). 

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| hatboxes keep loose extra blankets and pillows, off-season 
items in check. clothes, books, magazines or toys. 





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ORGANIZ fo 
RIGHT NO J 
In the kitchen | 
@ Purchase a calendar 


(weekly or monthly) an 
hang it prominently. 














Make family members | 
responsible for writing 
down all appointments 
changes in schedules 
and activities. 

If you're lacking 
cabinet and drawer 
room, consider these 
two space-making 
ideas: hanging shelves 
that mount underneat 
cabinets (between 
counter and cabinet); « 
hanging pot-and-pan | 
holder suspended from 
the ceiling. 

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on your refrigerator fo. 
party invitations, 
memos and phone 
messages. 
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B Get pajamas, 
bathrobes and belts o¥ 
of sight by installing 
hooks in the closet. Fo 
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Keep a small dish or 
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CASE 3: The bathroom 
MORNINGS AT 


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make the bus. It’s tough 
enough to get everybody out 








of the house in time for school 
and work—who has time to put 
away lotions, creams, toothpaste 
and towels? But, as Ronni admon- 
ished, “you even have unused 
storage space under your vanity— 
there’s no reason for not having a 
simple system.” Besides making G 
better use of existing storage ; 
space, we also installed an extra 
towel rack to take crumpled hand 
towels off the counter. 





Even though | groaned a little when Ronni suggested | give up one 
drawer for dresser clutter, she proved to be right (my scarves now 
share space with my panty hose). By outfitting the drawer with three 
inexpensive, plastic sock-organizer trays, and neatly arranging 
change, glasses, combs and brushes and all my other personal 
things, the dresser mess became a thing of the past. 


140 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL §APRIL 1994 





leau sweep 


First step to simplifying bathroom clutter: Put away 
everything on the countertops that you don’t use daily: 
Then, for the rest of the stuff, says Ronni, group your 
bottles, tubes and toiletries into categories: shower items, 
cosmetics, creams and lotions, medications, barrettes and 


headbands. Once 
you've categorized 
your daily products, 
label colorful plastic 
bins (that go from 
cabinet to counter) 


We also installed a 
wire rack inside the 
cabinet door for easy 
access to frequently 
used items. 


CASE 4: The dresser 


IT’S EASY TO accumulate bu- 
reau clutter—the dresser top 
catches all the end-of-the-day 
loose items from your pockets; 
plus, it’s the logical place for 
perfume bottles, combs and 
brushes. So, where do you put 
your change, ATM receipts 
and hair accessories? For 
starters, organize the receipts 
and other paper items into 
your new filing system as soon 
as you get home. ‘Vhen pur- 
chase a pretty tray for your 
perfume bottles. For the rest 
of the miscellaneous items: 
Outfit a dresser drawer with 
do-it-yourself sectionals. 


according to contents. 


(continued) & Install a 
second pole in your 
closet—about three f 
below the existing 
one—to maximize the 
space for shorter 
hanging clothes like 
jackets and blouses. 
In general 

@ Make more of the 
storage space you hav 
Spinning plastic caddi 
(available at home- 
improvement stores) a 
a terrific way to store 
jars of baby food, 
spices, kids’ art suppli 
@ Keep a wicker bas 
at the foot of the stair 
for stuff that belongs 
upstairs. Then, once a 
day, bring the basket 
upstairs and distribut 
the contents to their 
proper places. 

@ Make sure decorati' 
items—trunks, cookie 
tins, apothecary jars, 
ceramic bowls—also 
function as storage 
space (you can pick u 
such things 
inexpensively at a 
flea market). 

If you can’t bring 
order to your chaos, c 
in a professional 
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Too often, bright kids are turned off to learning. How 


can parents fire up a child’s imagination and interest so 


he keeps on exploring and questioning? With these key 


ideas, you can unlock your child’s learning potential— 


and stay involved in his world. By Margery D. Rosen 


ids are natural investi- 
gators, anthropolo- 
gists, linguists and 

scientists,” says Lihan 

Katz, Ph.D., professor 
of early childhood education at the 
Urbana. 


University of Ilinois, in 


he job for parents: to reinforce 
their child’s cagerness to question 
Katz calls 


and experiment—what 


their “disposition to learn.” Flow 
do you do that? By encouraging 
them to be curious and making 
learning a part of the rhythm of 
family life. “Phe following ideas, 
from learning specialists and child 


development experts, can help. 


1. REMEMBER THAT WHEN IT 
COMES TO LEARNING, THERE IS A 
WIDE RANGE OF NORMAL 

Skills for taking in information de 
pend to a large extent on the matu 
ration of the central nervous 
system, explains Lilian Katz. For 
this reason, some kids learn at a 
steady pace, while others may lag 
behind for as much as a year o1 
two, then play catch up ina spurt of 
learning. “‘Vhat’s why it’s important 
not to compare your child to any 


one else—not his friends, not his 


siblings, not even to you at his age. 


2. FOCUS ON WHAT THEY DO RIGHT 


Like everyone else, children are mo 


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tivated by success. “Phe child who 
feels capable usually succeeds,” says 
Stanley Greenspan, M.1)., a child 
psychiatrist and author of Play- 
ground Politics (Addison-Wesley, 
1993). However, many parents and 
educators spend too much time fo- 
cusing on a child’s learning prob- 
lems, ignoring his special skills, 
Greenspan continues. “If we give 
children successful learning experi- 
ences, their pride in their accom- 
plishments will help them overcome 
any fears or reluctance.” 
Determining a child’s strengths 1s 
not as simple as it may sound. Cer- 
tainly, strengths are more apparent 
in some children: ‘The four-year- 
old who loves to copy letters and 
numbers 1s teaching herself to read; 
the five-year-old who pitches a ball 
like a pro is obviously a gifted ath- 
lete. But if yowre not sure, think 
about what he enjoys doing and 
seems to do almost automatically. 
What activities does he gravitate to- 
ward during his unstructured play- 
that 
attention and boost his confidence? 
Once 
strength, give your child every op- 


time seem to capture his 


you've zeroed in on a 
portunity to pursue it. ‘Valk about 
his accomplishments at home and 
to others. Let him overhear you tell 
Grandma how impressive his latest 


book report was. continued) 


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Prominently display any trophies or 


ribbons he wins. 


3. PUT THEIR WEAKNESSES 

INTO PERSPECTIVE FOR THEM 

Though applauding their strengths ts 
important, helping them cope with 
their weaknesses is important, too. 
Don’t gloss over the fact that he’s not 
doing as well in math as you and the 
teacher would like; let him know that 
you know it’s hard. To a child strug- 
gling with a history assignment, you 
can say: “Boy, I remember how tough 
it was for me, too, to remember all 
those dates, but you sure had a great 
idea for your group’s midterm project.” 
Then sit down with him and, together, 
figure out a way for him to cope with 
the assignment, say, by making flash 
cards or by playing a memory game 
with the dates. That way, you acknowl- 
edge his difficulty but also protect his 
self-esteem, instill pride in his accom- 
plishments—and keep learning alive. 


4, PROMOTE A LOVE OF READING 
“Studies consistently show that kids 
who love to read, and continue to 
read as they get older, perform better 
academically—in math and science as 
well as in English and literature—and 
are more likely to go on to college,” 
says Ruth Graves, president of Read- 
ing Is Fundamental (RIF), a Wash- 
ington, D.C.—based program whose 
goal is to bring books to children and 
motivate reading. 
The best way to do that, of course, is 
dy setting a good example and reading 
yourself. Turn off the TV and establish, 
nstead, a family reading hour. Let them 
-cead whatever they want (yes, even 
somic books) and 
alk about what each 
of you is reading. 
| When reading aloud 
| 0 children, stop pe- 
| iodically and ask: 
Would you like to be 
his character? What 
lo you think will 
lappen next? Anoth- 
r thinking tool: 
itop before the end 
if the story and ask 
hem to supply the 
nding. Or start a 
amily book-of-the- 
1onth club: Every- 
jne decides on a 
| ypic—say, dinosaurs 
ih r sports-—and then 
hooses something 
/) read at his own 

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ents don’t have too 
much trouble revving 
up interest in reading 
when their children 
are small, encourag 
ing a nine-year-old 


can be tricky —a thir 
teen-year-old trickier 
yet. “The key to 


keeping older kids 
reading is to find 
books they want to 
read,” says Graves. 
Stick to what interests 
them, it’s 
rock music or sports. 
“The biggest mistake 
parents make its to 
belittle their chil- 
dren’s book choices,” 


whether 


says Graves. “Parents 
shouldn’t have their 
own agenda about 
what’s appropriate to 
read.” If kids resist 
your suggestions, per- 
haps Grandma or a 
favorite aunt will have 
more success—have 
them buy your chil- 
dren books as gifts. Or 
get them a subscrip- 
tion to a magazine on 
a subject of special in- 
terest to them. 


5. KNOW THEIR LEARNING STYLE 

“Most children learn in a combination 
of ways, but have one or two 
strengths,” explains Sue Korn, M.A., 
an educational therapist and consultant 
in New York City. Watch while your 
child plays and you’ll notice he tends 
to use one of his senses more than the 
others. Some kids are more visually ori- 
ented. They see a word in a story and 
automatically re- 
member what the 
configuration of let- 
ters looks like, and 
are able to pick out 
the word when it ap- 
pears again in an- 
other story. Others 
learn best aurally: 
Sing the alphabet 
song and these chil- 
dren will sing it right 
back. Sull other chil- 
dren take in infor 
mation by 
manipulating ob- 


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JECTS? These kids 
need to count the 
colored blocks or di- 
vide the cake in half 
and then in quarters 
to comprehend 
math. Then there 


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call three-dimension- 
al learners: Children 
who can easily take 
things apart and put 
them back together. 
Such children enjoy 
doing puzzles and 
origami (the Japanese 
art of paper folding) 
and fitting together 
the pieces of a model 
airplane—-skills that 
help with reading 
since they strengthen 
the ability to differ- 
entiate letters, orga- 
nize into 
words, and, in gener- 
al, see one thing in 


letters 


you aware of 
your child’s learning 
style, youll be able 
to offer more con- 
structive help with 
homework. You can 
also talk about it 
with his teacher. 
When a variety of 
teaching tools, such 
as filmstrips, graphs 
and math manipula- 
tives, 1s used in the 


classroom, 


are 


one of 
them is bound to tap 
into your child’s learning style. 


6. ASK ABOUT WHAT 

THEY’RE LEARNING 

You may well have forgotten (or, for 
that matter, never learned) many of 
the subjects your kids are studying. 
Let your children teach you. Show in- 
terest in the work they bring home. If 
a child sees that you think it’s impor- 
tant, he’ll think so, too. 

During these exchanges, you can 
convey the excitement of learning 
while showing respect for your chil- 
dren’s ideas and questions. Work your 
conversations about school naturally 
into the time you spend with your 
child at the dinner table, while 
you're clearing the dishes, during a 
walk, on the way to a baseball game, 
just before bed. 

What if all your questions are met 
with one-word answers? Perhaps you’re 
not asking in a way that encourages 
them to respond. Lilian Katz makes a 
distinction between interrogating ques- 
tions and what she calls soliciting ques- 
tions: For instance, “Did you have a 
good day?” and “How was the math 
test?” fall into the first category, and are 
likely to be ignored or answered in 
monosyllables 


yes, no, fine. Soliciting 
questions, she explains, probe for opin- 
ions and sound more genuine to a 
child. For instance: “Is 


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we a book like Raffi’s Baby Beluga (Crown, 1990). Kids who like to express themselves 
hysically will enjoy books they can act out, such as Jean Marzollo's Pretend You're a Cat (Dial 
» ooks for Young Readers, 1990). “Remember that interests change and new talents emerge as a 

uild grows,” Hoeltke adds. “So stay open to an ever-changing menu of literary offerings.” 


- Make Your Child the Expert. How do you avoid investing too heavily in a passion that 
ms out to be short-lived? Third- and fourth-grade teacher Cherylann Parker, who teaches at 
e Fuller School in Gloucester, Massachusetts, has a solution: Insist that your child read 
eply about that interest before you spend a dime. “Suppose your child wants to set up an 
|) uarium or take up the tuba,” says Parker. “Before hitting a pet shop or music store, borrow 
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children grow beyond the three R’s. His 
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that humans have many different kinds 
of intelligence, and that standard IQ tests 
measure only two of them. “A very 
important kind of intelligence is 
understanding other people,” he says. 
“There’s no way you can gauge that with 
a paper and pencil test.” 

How can parents help kids develop 
powers not measured at school? “By 
exposing them to materials that nourish 
the range of individual strengths, from 
musical intelligence to the ability to 
understand oneself,” he says. “This way, 
children can find areas where they 
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Question: What happens when children 

pass their eighth or ninth birthdays and their 

parents stop reading aloud to them? 

Answer: The children’s interest in reading 

wanes, and so does their enjoyment of it. 
This unsettling finding comes from the 

second AFT-Chrysler Report on Kids, 

Parents and Reading, which is based on a 

nationwide survey of young people aged 

nine to 17. To determine interest in 

reading, youngsters were asked which of 

five activities would be hardest to give 

up for a week. Nine- to | |-year-olds 

put playing sports first, reading 

second. Fifteen- to 17-year-olds, on 

the other hand, put reading dead last. 

Their preferences: playing sports, 

talking on the phone, listening to 

music and playing video games. 

Reading differs from these 
diversions in that it’s usually done alone. 
“For both sexes,” says Dr. Frederick Hartwig 
of Peter D. Hart Research Associates, which 
conducted the survey, “socially interactive 
activities top the list.” For older students, 
these activities dominate the list. 

Like interest in reading, the enjoyment of 
reading tends to taper off as children get 
older. Nearly three-quarters (71 percent) of 
the youngest children said they enjoyed 
reading. But less than half (44 percent) of the 
oldest children shared that enthusiasm for the 
printed word. 

Fortunately, the survey produced a lot of 
encouraging news, including guidance on 
how to get young people involved in reading. 
For one thing, most of the young people in 
the survey read mainly for pleasure. “So one 
key to increasing young people’s reading,” 
Dr. Hartwig concludes, “is to put them in 
touch with reading materials that promise an 
enjoyable experience.” 


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that young people are 
drawn to a wide range 

of book topics. “Girls,” 
Dr. Hartwig says, “are 
especially interested in 
stories about people their 
age. Boys are especially 
interested in stories about 
sports and athletes, and in 
history and the people from 
the past.” 

Most young people also 
expressed interest in magazines on sports, music 
and entertainment. And even children who 
rarely read on their own revealed a liking for 
mysteries and detective stories. “Books and 
magazines with the right focus,” Dr. Hartwig 
points out, “can be used to entice infrequent 
readers to continue developing their skill with 





Where reading is 
concerned, no one can be mc 
enticing than parents. In fac’ 
the kids who enjoy reading 
the most tend to describe 
their parents as highly 
involved with their 
development as readers. 
“When their children 
were little, these parents read to them ever 
day,” Dr. Hartwig says. “They continue to 
read books, magazine articles and newspaj 
stories aloud even after their children can 
read on their own. And they actively 
encourage their kids to read. Family 
involvement like this is the single most 
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_ Udiscovery. 

. True O False 

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ake up activities you feel could help them 
: telop their interests. 

| True Q False 


Private lessons are the best way to 
nurture a child’s creativity. 
tue False 


It’s unwise to let children help adults 
with daily tasks, even if they want to, 
‘ause it will only frustrate them. 
tue Q False 


' When it comes to helping children 
discover their strengths, unstructured 
| time is essential. 
tue Q False 


Though lots of first-rate books focus on 
adult interests and hobbies, young 
1 rs have few good choices in this area. 
lue O False 


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unique interests and strengths by 

| 1g in on some of your youngster’s 

(ite activities. 

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ANSWERS 

1. True. Your child’s sense of wonder can be 
the basis for countless learning experiences. 
Does the appearance of earthworms after a 
rainstorm fascinate your child? Then help 
start an earthworm “farm” that will introduce 
scientific skills like observation and making 
predictions. The result could be a lifelong 
interest in science! 


2. False. “Children have to develop their own 
sense of direction,” says Dorothy Rich, head 
of the Home and School Institute, “but we 
can show them some ways to light the fire.” 
The trick, she says, is to seek not one but 
several ways to further your child’s interests. 


3. False. Costly individual lessons are rarely 
needed to develop a child’s creativity. 
Scouting and local resources like the 
YMCA/YWCA offer inexpensive programs 
in everything from drama to computers. And 
remember to expose your child to your 
talented friends. Quilters, drummers, 
software designers, volunteers with the 
homeless—adults with talents like these can 
inspire children to pursue their own interests. 


4. False. Experts point out that children learn 
skills and values by imitating adults— 
something that’s hard to do if children are 
prevented from taking part in adult tasks. 
Letting your child help plan a dinner, for 
example, can provide practice in math and 


decision-making. And it may even let your 
child discover a real knack for cooking. 





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(Discovery Quotient) 


Do you encourage the kinds of learning adventures that 
will help your child develop special interests and 
strengths? Take this true-false quiz to find out! 


5. True. Play is a key source of learning. 
“Play and playthings encourage mastery,” 
says Joan Bergstrom, author of School’s 
Out—Now What? “For children six to 12,” 
she says, “play provides opportunities to 
develop and perfect skills, to rehearse future 
behaviors and to solve problems.” 


6. False. Nonfiction books for children are 
more plentiful and absorbing than ever. To 
find great books on your kid’s interests, 
check out a basic resource like Best Books for 
Children, by John Gillespie and Corinne 
Naden. It’s available in most libraries. 


7. True. “Even if you don’t delight in the 
actual activity, you can enjoy your child’s 
exuberance and exhilaration,” says Dr. 
Stanley Greenspan, author of Playground 
Politics: Understanding the Emotional Life 
of Your School-Age Child. Visit a museum’s 
fossil collection with your dinosaur fanatic— 
and ask what she knows. Let your baseball 
player give you batting tips. You’re sure to 
discover talents and abilities you weren’t 
aware your child possessed. 


SCORING YOUR FAMILY DQ 

* 1 -3 correct: Novice Level—but sure to 
rise fast as you foster your child’s interests 
with ideas suggested here. 

* 4-6 correct: Well Above Average. 

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hildren wondering 

what they’re good at 

should be encouraged 
to dream big dreams. Here’s 
a stack of titles that will 
prompt young readers to 
broaden their interests and take 
them as far as they can go. The list 
was chosen by Judy Freeman, 
librarian at Van Holten School in 
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Books Kids Will Sit Still For: The 
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(R.R. Bowker, 1990). 


Amazing Grace, by Mary Hoffman 
(Dial, 1991 [P]). 


My Buddy, by Audrey Osofsky (Henry Holt, 
1992 [P)). 


Squirrel Park, by Lisa Campbell Ernst 
(Bradbury, 1993 [P]). 


Your Dad Was Just Like You, by Dolores 
Johnson (Macmillan, 1993 [P]). 


Chicken Sunday, by Patricia Polacco 
(Philomel, 1992 [P/I]). 


Mirette on the High Wire, by Emily Arnold 
McCully (Putnam, 1992 [P/I]). 


The Rough-Face Girl, by Rafe Martin 
(Putnam, 1992 [P/I]). 


Song Lee in Room 2B, by Suzy Kline 
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My Name Is Maria Isabel, by 
Alma Flor Ada (Atheneum, 1993 [I]). 


My Sister Annie, by Bill Dodds (Boyds 
Mills Press, 1993 [I]). 


Rosie Swanson, Fourth-Grade Geek for 
President, by Barbara Park (Knopf, 1991 [I]). 


Yang the Youngest and His Terrible Ear, 
by Lensey Namioka (Joy Street/Little, 
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Almost Famous, by David Getz (Henry 
Holt, 1992 [I/U]). 


Come Back, Salmon: How a Group of 
Dedicated Kids Adopted Pigeon Creek and 
Brought It Back to Life, by Molly Cone 
(Sierra Club/Little, Brown, 1992 [I/U]). 


The Gift of the Girl Who Couldn’t Hear, 
by Susan Shreve (Tambourine, 1991 [U]). 


The Giver, by Lois Lowry (Houghton 
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Paintings of Wang Yani—China’s 
Extraordinary Young Artist, by Zheng 
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*Browse with your child througl 
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together, take snapshots,” says Pat Morales, 
principal of the Peabody Charter School in 
Santa Barbara, California. “Put them in an 
album and write captions for them. When you 
go shopping, draw up lists together. Don’t miss 
any chance to help children feel the power of 
the written word!” 


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4, Make Room for 
Dad. “I always urge 
fathers to read with 
their children,” says 
Joan Webb, who 
teaches third grade 
at the Armstrong 
Elementary School 
in Dallas, Texas. 
“When fathers do some of the reading aloud, 
choosing books on topics they care about, 
kids and fathers have a chance to see each 
other in a new light. These sessions provide 
kids with another way to reflect on what they 
care about and can do well!” 


5, Share the News. “Read newspaper articles 
with your child,” suggests Huck Fitterer, 
principal at the Aztec Elementary School in 
Scottsdale, Arizona. You'll be surprised how 
much can be done with a game based on a 
simple news story. “Take turns trying to stump 
each other with questions that begin with who, 
what, when, where, why and how,” he says. 
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St. Louis, Missouri. “And ask them to 
read to you. Read back and 
forth with the other adults in 
the house, too. Then talk about what you read. 
This way,” he explains, “reading becomes a 
public activity that can help children think 
about what they’re good at and what they 
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7. Follow Up with Creativity. “Help your 
child use stories and books as springboards to 
personal expression,” suggests Sue Metz, a 
music specialist at the Rio Linda Union 
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fairy tale, for instance, you might encourage 
your child to retell it. 

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you help them make that 
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9, Index Your Child’s Reading Gains. A _ 
treasure chest of book titles can build self- . 
esteem while helping children find what 
interests them. All you need, says Priscilla 
Ribeiro-Perdomo, an eighth-grade teacher at 
the Driftwood Middle School in Broward 
County, Florida, is an index box, a pack of 
index cards and a steady stream of read-aloud 
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paper for inside pages and poster board for 
covers. Read more about your child’s 
chosen subject together, then note the 
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your child to write—or dictate—a two- or 
three-line description of something 
interesting: an odd bug, a new sports record, 
maybe a fact uncovered in a school lesson. 
From time to time ask your child to select a 
favorite entry. Provide reading material that 
can help your child explore this interest. 
Hint: Keep a journal yourself. Your 
example will encourage and support your 
child’s efforts. 

For Older Children: Journals are natural 
places to explore thoughts, feelings and 
experiences linked to personal interests. A 
budding writer might jot down story ideas 
or poems. Young Picassos might note their 
reactions to children’s illustrators, 
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M.D., a child psychiatrist and author 
of The Art of the Obvious: Developing 
Insight for Psychotherapy in Everyday 
Life (Alfred Knopf, 1993). Dramatic 
play challenges kids to think and use 
ideas differently, as well as to practice 
skills they’ve already learned. Fantasy 
also helps kids understand feelings 
that may be scary or confusing, says 
Rosenfeld: “It’s a child’s way of prac- 
ticing what to do and how to react in 
certain situations.” Just as adults find 
it often helps to talk 
over problems, kids 
gain a sense of mas- 
tery and control by 
acting things out. 
Make-believe is es- 
pecially important 
when it comes to 
reading. “Pretending 
forms a channel 
through which the 
creative imagination 
flows, irrigating the 
soil for reading com- 
prehension and writ- 
ing competency, 
opening up a wide 
field of knowledge,” 
says Priscilla L. Vail, 
M.A.T, a learning 
specialist in Bedford, 
New York. “Joyful 
understanding de- 
pends on a child’s 
ability to identify with 
characters, situations, 
places or times— 
that’s what pretend- 
ing 1s all about.” 
Even if you’re a grounded-in-reality 
grown-up, you can sull do much to en- 
rich a child’s make-believe experiences. 
Lighten up and join in: Get down on 
your knees and be a horse. Or a lion. Or 
a dinosaur. If children ask you to join 
their fantasy play, it’s the first sign that 
they want you to be involved in their 
learning. Create a “make-believe” basket 
and stash it in a closet. Toss in old 
scarves that no longer match anything in 
your closet, pocketbooks, shoes, gloves, 
your husband’s worn ties or hats—pre- 
cious tools for a child’s imagination and 
far better than ready-made costumes. 
You also spark the imagination when 
you encourage children to draw what 
they are reading or thinking about. 
Limit TV. Studies have shown that 
children who are heavy TV watchers 
seem to engage in less imaginative 
play than others. What’s more, if kids 
don’t spend hours in front of the TV, 
they just might find something else 
that sparks their interest—like a book, 
a hobby or a sport. «i 


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WE ASKED EDUCATION EXPERTS WHAT THEY THINK PARENTS 
CAN DO TO BOOST A CHILD'S LEARNING POWER 


"When we take the time to help our 
children understand themselves and 
whatever they see—whether it’s on TV 
or in the real world—we're helping 
them know that we love them and that 
we care about what they're learning in 
this world. The TV may be the only 
electrical appliance that's more useful 
after it’s turned off. What's on the screen 
is just the beginning. TV 


watched. It's swallowed 
_..and SONS 
digested. That's why 
children need a caring 
adult nearby when 
they're watching any 
TV program.” —Fred 
Rogers, host and 
creator of the PBS-TV 
program, “Mister 


“Ultimately, the 
improvement of our 
children’s education 
depends on our 
willingness to slow 
down the pace of our 
lives to help our 
children grow. If a 
parent or parents set 


with their children 
each night on their 
schoolwork—place 
value, as it were, on the 
process of learning— 
we can transform the nation.” —U.S 
Secretary of Education Richard Riley 





“Love is not negotiable! When kids do 
something terrible, which we all know 
they do, it is important to say ‘You've 
done something terrible, but | still love 
you.’ As parents we must provide our 
kids with non-negotiable support so they 
can be prepared to deal with a very 
difficult world. Kids need to be able to 
say, “I'm really having a problem, can 
yOU nelpt di 2” Otherwise, they are 
more apt to fail—or fake understanding 
when hoe competition gets k ough.” 
—Herbert Kohl bai of thir rty books 
on education, including “Thirty-Six 
Children” and “I Wei t Learn from You" 


"Talk regularly and seriously with your kids 
about what they're learning. School is 
serious business. And kids need to know 
not only that you care, but also that you 
take schooling seriously, too.” 

—Theodore Sizer, Walter H. Annenberg 
of Education at Brown University 






Professor o 


isn’t something that's just 


Rogers’ Neighborhood” 


“Spend time with your children and 
help them believe in themselves. Too 
often, we teach kids that ability is most 
important but forget about hard work 
and high expectations. If we give our 
children more support, and encourage 
them to work hard, they'll believe they 
can do it." —Jerome T. Murphy, dean 
of the Graduate School of Education at 
Harvard University 


“The wisest thing a parent can do to 
sustain and nurture a child’s natural 
curiosity is to read ae not just fairy 
tales and fiction, but also books about 
real people, real history, the real world. 
Reality is just as fascinating as fiction, 
and has an additional advantage: 
When a child gains broad knowledge 
about reel people and things, that 
breeds a hunger for gaining more 
knowledge—a hunger that can last a 
lifetime.” —E.D. Hirsch, Jr., professor of 
English at the University of Virginia, and 
president of the Core Knowledge 
Foundation, a nonprofit organization 
devoted to educational improvement 


“Ask your children about school every 
day Listen to what they have to 
say... . Celebrate their achievements. 
Talk to them about their options and 
focus on their talents. It is important for 
a child to know that you have high 
expectations for them. High goals give 
them a vision of the future.” —Janice 
Petrovich, program officer for Education 
and Culture at the Ford Foundation 


“Don’t hand off education to the 
education system. Be active in school 
activities, not just PTA meetings or the 
once-a-year school visit. Become a 
partner with the teacher in the education 
of your child. Read to your children. Talk 
o your children. Be an active part of their 
lives. Studies have shown that the more 
a parent is involved, the better the child 
does in school.” —Edward Zigler, Sterling | 
Professor of Psychology at Yale University 





“As | tell my students, you do not enter 
the future, you create the future. Through | 
hard work. That means teachers must | 
teach, students must do the work, and 
parents must take an active interest in ‘ 
what their kids are learning.” —Jaime | 
Escalante, high school math teacher in | 
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smile for that long,” she insists. “I’m not 
Kathie Lee.” 

No, she certainly isn’t. But these days, 
Brett Butler has a lot to smile about, 
whether she wants to or not. (For the 
record, once the photographer’ s assis- 
fant put on a soothing Bonnie Raitt CD 
and ejected the crowd, the reluctant ac- 
tress relaxed and struck a number of 
good-humored poses.) Only a few years 
ago, she was just another stand-up co- 
median in New York, working the club 


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the day she spoke 
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Domestic conflicts. Unusual sexual liaisons. Bizarre 
problems. We hear about them every day on talk 
shows, and yet what else are these shows telling us? 
One woman watched for a few weeks—and discov- 


ered the messages hidden behind the gab 






prah’s on. And so are 
Bertice, Geraldo, Jane, 
Jenny, Jerry, Maury, 
Mo, Montel, Ricki, 

Sally and Shirley. In 

fact, there are now 

some fifteen daytime 

TV talk shows on the 
air, with any number 
of contenders waiting in 

the wings. 

They’re more plentiful than 
soap operas, and they offer real-life stories that 
are tawdrier than any fictional plot: “Daryl says 
his son was conceived when he was sound 
asleep,” an announcer intones solemnly. “Kirsten 

; poked holes in her husband’s condoms . . . men 
tricked into fatherhood.” 

At night, I used to listen wistfully to the titillat- 
ing promos: “Penile pick-me-ups! on the next 
Donahue.” And I wondered, If my mornings 


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weren’t taken up with getting my son to preschool 


i and myself to the office, what would it be like to 
F have the perverse pleasure of staying home all 
I: 

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by. 


fe Last fall, I got my chance to find out—during 
; sweeps period, when stations track their audience 
numbers, basing ad rates (and whether they want 
to carry the show) on the outcome. That’s when 
producers go into overdrive, booking freakier and 
freakier attractions in hopes of drawing ever-larger 
audiences. Oprah saved her dramatic, confessional 
weight-loss story for the sweeps period; Geraldo 
strode, hospital bootees first, into an operating 
room during a man’s sex-change surgery, stick- 
ing his microphone into the face of the still- 


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anesthetized patient. “Now you’ve got what you 
want,” Geraldo boomed. The poor person could 
barely muster a weak “yeah.” 

Wow. 

But though it’s easy to laugh at or mock some 
of these shows, they’re significant just because so 
many people watch them. J wanted to under- 
stand what was happening on these programs, 
and what messages they’re sending viewers. 

Geraldo and his overkill are as good a place as 
any to start. “Today you’ll see something that 
will shock and amaze you,” he said as he opened 
the sex-change show. “You’ll actually watch as a 
man becomes a woman. To our knowledge, this 
nas never been shown before on daytime televi- 
sion.” (And, one might say, thank goodness.) 

Is this reality, as talk-show advocates like to 
claim? Well, yes and no. It’s a heated, exaggerat- 
ed version of reality that can eventually distort 
our own sense of what is genuine. It’s entertain- 
ment on the order of wrestling, presented with 
all the solemnity of network news. And this 
talk-show style has certainly influenced the 


treatment of—and heightened our appetites 


BY BARBARA LIPPERT 


like those about the travails of Michael Jackson. 


for—real 


news stories 








A typical talk-show moment: 

While I was in the middle of watching “Every- 
thing you always wanted to know about lesbians” 
on Mo, an attractive blond lawyer was talking 
about how she discovered her feelings in the fifth 
grade, while watching the Miss Canada pageant on 
TV and falling in love with Miss Manitoba. Sud- 
denly, the local station interrupted to go live to 


Amy Fisher’s testimony during (continued) 
155 








continued Joey Buttafuoco’s sentencing. We 
never got back to Miss Manitoba, or Mo, for that 
matter. Talk about sleaze interrupting life, or art or 
something.... 

This endless parade of sensational stories and dys- 
functional conflicts becomes numbing after a while; 
we no longer think of people as unique individuals, 
but simply as sacrificial talk-show guests. They are 
there not for our enlightenment, but for our enter- 
tainment. Twenty years ago, the Fisher/Buttafuoco 
case would have been dismissed as a sleazy story, but 
not a laughable one. However, the over-the-top re- 
sponses of Mary Jo and Joey, roaring in practiced 
outrage before a Donahue audience, led viewers to 
see them as a circus sideshow of denial. 

And with seventy-odd shows being broadcast 
each week, some topics get worked over more than 
once. Lesbians are big. Part-time prostitutes are 
also popular: Bertice Berry, a promising future 
Oprah, had college students who use the money to 
pay for school. 

Another mainstay is mistresses. (The mistresses 
were a discerning bunch, by the way. From them I 


There’s no denying that 
talk shows tap into our 
collective curiosity. 


learned that today’s other woman no longer wants 
diamonds. Now, she asks for a Lexus.) 

Then there were the obviously bottom-of-the-bar- 
rel topics that producers seem to turn to when they 
want an instant Roman circus. “People who think 
they’re God’s gift,” for example—the subject of no 
fewer than three talk shows. 

But enough about the guests. What about the 
spectators? Of course, all studio audiences are 
primed to make near-instant judgments and approve 
or censure guests accordingly with catcalls, cheers, 
applause, boos and even the Arsenio whoop. Viewers 
at home learn to judge instantly, too. We hear the 
story, make a decision and move on, with no con- 
cern about the consequences. After all, it’s just a 
show, right? (I started being judgmental, too. I be- 
gan identifying behavior instantly—the resigned look 
of someone in denial, the defensive, blame-every- 
body-else tack of the typical abuser—and dismissing 
people accordingly.) 

And every subject, whether trumped up for ratings 
(real-life gold diggers) or genuine (children with at- 
tention-deficit disorders), whether it affects a great 
number of people (living with an alcoholic spouse) or 
just a few (when your son elopes), is given its hour. 


156 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL = APRIL 1994 





Soon, no subject seems more important, or less 
worthwhile, than another. 

I sat through shows about problem sperm (Don- 
ahue), anorexic twins (Maury Povich) and worn 
who found Mr. Right in prison (Shirley). “We cele- 
brated with Twinkies in the visiting room,” gushed a 
Shirley guest who was recently wed to a convicted 
killer. “It was a beautiful day.” 

Over the top, you say? And yet, in the mad rush 
for ratings, any topic becomes acceptable—the 
wilder the better. Jenny Jones had a guest who’d 
been arrested for videotaping his wife having sex 
with their fifteen-year-old daughter’s boyfriend. He 
explained that doing this with the boy was good for 
his daughter, so he would learn to make love to her 
“more deeply.” 

What he said was so irrational, and so ugly, that it 
was hard to watch. But he explained, like the savvy 
media consumer he is, “I chose to be on this show 
because I like the way Jenny handles it. She seems to 
be a woman of compassion. I’m a man of compas- 
sion.” Right. g 

A second ugly topic that made the rounds was 
mothers who have sex with their 
daughters’ husband. The first 
time I saw it, I cried for the 
daughter, so in denial, who ob- 
viously had an abusive mother 
and was standing by her abusive 
husband. 

Over and over on these 
shows, in interviews with cou- 
ples, I saw so much pain. And 
it’s pain that will never be resolved in five minutes 
with an on-air psychologist plugging his latest book. 

Nor will it really help other people in the same 
boat to watch. For though, in the talk-show universe, 
merely talking about a problem is seen as a step to- 
ward improving it, it usually isn’t. In fact, the staged 
and manipulated exchanges are more like hate fests, 
often generating a lot of heat (“Did too!” “Di 
not!”) and very little light. 

Real-life complexity is, after all, hard to depict o 
TV. It becomes boring. We have no patience or desir 
to struggle with ambiguous or abstract thought. In 
stead, just like the studio audience, we learn a knee 
jerk response that usually has more to do with 
contempt than compassion. 

What’s more, the value of “expert” guests wh 
offer solutions varies widely. I saw one woma 
on a Sally show (“Mothers who party with thei 
daughters”) who was quite tough on the guest 
and authoritatively drew the line on inappropriate 
behavior. But on another show, this time abou 
warring families, a second therapist offered thes 
semiliterate, less-than-helpful words: “You have 
to make a choice: Do you be right, or do you be 
happy?” (continued on page 210, 













































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that fund we are doing research and spent the time working on an threatens your life, it makes you put 
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they see me as someone who isn't 
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THERE ARE MANY STYLES TO CHOOSE FROM THAT WILL 
FLATTER YOUR BODY AND SUIT YOUR LIFESTYLE 


SLIM Fitted from waist to ankle. 
These jeans are very narrow, with 
a small waist, short rise (see box, 
right) and small hip. Good for 
straight body types. Look for: P.S. 
Gitano Slim Fit ($19.99), Levi 
Strauss & Co. 521 Tapered Fit 
($44), Gap Slim Fit ($34), Liz 
Claiborne Classic 5-Pocket Slim 
($48), DKNY Stovepipe ($56), 

CK Calvin Klein Super Slim ($60), 
Chic Slim Classic ($19.99- 
$22.99). 

CLASSIC A basically slim jean 
with a straight cut—a little roomier 
in the hips than the slim cut, but 
not much. Also for straight body 
types. Look for: Gap Classic ($34), 
Lee Misses Regular Fit ($36), 
Crazy Horse Classic 5-Pocket Jean 
($29), Wrangler Classic Fit ($26 to 
$27), Express Classic 5-Pocket 
($34), CK Calvin Klein Classic 
Straight Leg ($60). 

RELAXED The same style as the 
classic five-pocket but with more 
room in the hips, thighs and seat, 
and a slightly tapered leg. The jean 
for curvy bodies. Look for: P.S 
Gitano Relaxed Fit ($19.99), Levi 


Be a jean-ious 


Strauss & Co. 551 Relaxed Fit 
($46), Lee Misses Relaxed Fit 
($36), Gap Reverse Fit ($34), 

J. Crew Women’s ($30), Wrangler 
Relaxed Fit ($26-$27), Chic 
Relaxed Classic Fit ($19.99- 
$22.99), JCPenney Hunt Club 
Relaxed Fit ($24). 

LOOSE Boxy and loose all the way 
down. A lower-waisted jean with 
more drape, and wider seat and 
thighs. Like a boy's jean—the 
ultimate in comfort. Look for: P.S. 
Gitano Loose Fit ($19.99), Levi 
Strauss & Co. 561 Loose Fit ($46), 
Lee Misses Loose Fit ($36), Gap 
Loose Fit ($34), J. Crew Giant Jean 
($38), Crazy Horse Loose Fit 5- 
Pocket Jean ($32), DKNY Easy Fit 
($85), Wrangler Loose Fit ($26 to 
$27), Express Exposed Buttonfly 
($34), CK Calvin Klein Easy Fit ($64), 
Chic Loose Fit ($19.99-$22.99). 
BAGGY Styled more like trousers 
with front pleating and a slightly 
tapered leg. A tailored look—not 
traditional jeans styling. Look for: Liz 
Claiborne Baggy Jean ($62), DKNY 
Classic Baggy ($62), JCPenney Hunt 
Club Classic Baggy Fit ($28). 


THE FIVE MOST IMPORTANT JEAN DON'TS 


1. No Lycra! Jeans are not leggings. Even slim jeans are 


meant to skim the body, not squeeze it. 


2. Don’t roll up the cuffs—this will make your legs look shorter. 


If the length isn’t right, hem them. 


3. Forget trendy looks like stirrup jeans, overalls and bell- 
bottoms, and fringes, patches or other embellishments of any 


kind. They're too juvenile. 


4. Never, ever wear jeans with pumps and sheer hose. 
5. Don’t press a crease down the center of jean legs—they'l 
look too matronly. If you like your jeans ironed, here’s an 


editor's trick: Iron barely damp, just-out-of-the-dryer 
jeans inside out, flattening the seams and pockets 
first, then pressing the front, back and legs. Do a 


final press right side out, seams first. 


RISEs This is the measurement 
from waist to crotch. It should feel 
comfortable when you move, sit 

and bend. The hip area shouldn't 


pull, bag or crease. 


WAIST: Should fit snugly, 
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Should fall on your natural 
waist: If the jean waist drops 


below your waist, the rise is too 
A elm meee meets 
high above your waist, the rise 
is too long (a common problem 
with petites). 


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classic jeans is one inch below the 
anklebone. Some manufacturers 
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SUBS TH 4 (on 


GALANGAL: A member of the 
ginger family used frequently in 
Thai cooking; use equal amount 
fresh ginger. 

GARLIC: For 1 medium garlic 
clove, use !/2 teaspoon minced 
fresh garlic or !/s teaspoon garlic 
powder. 

GINGER: There is no real equiva- 
lent; for 1 tablespoon fresh ginger, 
use 1 teaspoon dried. 


INSTEAD OF... 





USE... 





For 3/4 cup dried beans, use one 


can of beans, drained and rinsed. 


HEARTS OF PALM: Use cooked 
white or green asparagus. 
HERBS: For | tablespoon fresh 
herbs, use !/2 to 1 teaspoon of the 
dried herb plus 1 tablespoon 
chopped fresh parsley. 


ITALIAN SEASONING: Combine 
1 teaspoon basil, 1 tablespoon 
fresh or dried pars- 
ley and !/2 teaspoon 
oregano. 


J 


JALAPENO CHILE: 
For 1 fresh chile, 
use another variety, 
such as serrano, or 
1/g teaspoon crushed 
red pepper. 

200 


INSTEAD OF... 





Lemongrass 


Use equal amount fresh lemon peel. 


JICAMA: Use equal amour 
peeled, seeded cucumber. 


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KALE: Use equal amount col 
lard or mustard greens. 
KASHA: Use equal amount b 
gur or cracked wheat. 


KOHLRABI: Use a small turni 


LADYFINGERS: Use equal amo 
sponge cake or pound cake. 
LEEKS: Use equal amount onio 
LIGHT CREAM: Use equ 


amount half-and-half cream. 


MACE: Use eq 
amount nutmeg. 
MANGO: Use eq 
amount peach. 
_ MARSALA WIN 
- Use equal amou 
_ Madeira wine. 
MASCARPO 
CHEESE: For 
pound, use 
ounces cream che 
mixed with !/2 cup sour cream. 
MAYONNAISE: In salad dre 
ings or dips, use equal amou 
sour cream or yogurt. 


NAAN: A bread served with In¢ 
an food; use warmed pita bre 
brushed with melted butter. 

NEUFCHATEL CHEESE: U 
equal amount cream cheese. | 
NOODLES: For Chinese egg nc 
dles, use equal amount fresh | 


16-ounce | 









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Lemon peel 


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Feppoconi Al fiddly —— —— — 


'/s teaspoon each ground nutmeg 
and white or black pepper 

'h to ‘/; cup grated Parmesan cheese 

2 (3'b oz. each) packages Hormel’ 
Pepperoni Slices (small diameter), 
slices cut in half 


Wake up this easy-to-make restaurant 
favorite with Hormel’ Pepperoni 


8 oz. fresh or dried fettucini, uncooked 
2 tablespoons butter or margarine 
1 cup half-and-half (light cream) 


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Cook fettucini; keep warm. Melt butter in large skillet. Stir in half- 
and-half, nutmeg and pepper. Cook and stir 5 minutes or until 
mixture thickens slightly. Stir 
in cheese and cook over low 
heat just until melted, 
stirring constantly. 
Immediately stir in 
pepperoni and 
fettucini: toss to 
coat with sauce. 
Makes 4 servings. 


( Hormel ) 


Pepperoni 


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dried angel-hair pasta or vermic 


OLIVE OIL: Use equal amo 
vegetable oil. (Calorie for calc 
all oils are the same.) 
ONION: For 1 small onion, 
1/3 cup chopped fresh onion ¢ 
tablespoon minced dried onio1 
1 teaspoon onion powder. 


PANCETTA: Italian salt-cured 
cgn; use equal amount bacon. 
PHYLLO PASTRY: Use str 
leaves. 

PORCINI MUSHROOMS: 
fresh porcini, use equal amo 
domestic fresh mushrooms { 
1/2 ounce dried porcini. 
POTATOES: For new potat 
use large potatoes cut into 1-1 
pieces. 

PROSCIUTTO HAM: Use ex 
amount very thinly sliced BI 
Forest or Westphalian ham. 


QUAIL: For 1 quail, use ha 
Cornish hen. | 
QUINCE: Use equal amo 
pears or apples, but cook only 
ul fruit is tender. 


QUINOA: Use equal amo 


couscous. | 


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RABBIT: Use equal amo 
chicken. 

RADICCHIO: Use equal “a 
red cabbage. 

RICOTTA: Use equal mou 


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tage cheese pureed in blender. 
RUTABAGA: Use equal am 


turnips or butternut squash. 


SAFFRON: Use a pinch turmé 
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: equal amount smali-shape pasta 


USE... 


; as ditalini or tubettini. 


See 


LLOPS: Use monkfish or skate. 
\LLOTS: Use equal amount 


yped sweet onion. 


REL: For 1 pound of sorrel, 
| pound spinach and | to 2 tea- 


ns lemon juice. 
[ET POTATO: 
equal amount 
ernut squash. 





INI: Use equal 
unt peanut — 
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| FISH SAUCE: 
equal amount 
Ovy paste. 


INSTEAD OF... 


Fresh tomatoes 





)WEETENED CHOCOLATE: 
1 ounce unsweetened choco- 
use 3 tablespoons unsweet- 
1 cocoa plus 1 tablespoon 


table shortening. 


Vv 


\L CUTLETS: Use turkey, 


xen or pork cutlets. 


MOUTH: Use equal amount 


TEAD OF ... 





‘anilla bean 


USE... 





Vanilla extract 


‘half a vanilla bean, use 1 table- 
on vanilla extract. 


(elmer eet eestor 


dry white wine. 
VINEGAR: Use 


equal amount lemon 


juice. 





WALNUTS: Use 
equal amount 
pecans. 


WASABE: Japanese 

horseradish; 
equal amount horseradish. 
WINE: Use equal amount broth or 
orange juice, depending on recipe. 
WONTON: Use meat-filled ravio- 


li or tortellini. 


use 


USE... 


Canne 


icmatoes: 


For 1 pound fresh tomatoes, use 2 cups 
drained canned tomatoes. 


xX 


XERES VINEGAR: Another name 


for sherry vinegar; use equal amount 
red wine vinegar. 


y 


YAM: Use equal amount butter- 
nut squash. 
YOGURT: Use equal amount but- 


termilk or sour cream. 


ZITiz: Use another 
tubular pasta such as 
penne. 


ZUCCHINI: Use equal 
amount eggplant. 
ZWIEBACK: Crumbs 
often used as a crust for 
cheesecake; use equal 
amount plain graham 
crackers. 

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spaghetti like 
the zesty, 
peppy taste 
of Hormel’ 
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LATEST DISH 








he newest hot spot in Chica- 
go is Zinfandel American 
Restaurant & Market, a six- 
month-old eatery owned by 
Rick and Deann Bayless, who also 
own Chicago’s very popular Fron- 
tera Grill, and Drew and Susan 
Goss, who also run the eclectic In- 
dianapolis café Something Differ- 
ent. The foursome teamed up to 
make Zinfandel a celebration of 
American regional cooking. The 
menu changes monthly and fea- 
tures dishes such as Oklahoma-style 
barbecued spareribs, Texas veni- 
son, Creole-style smothered shrimp 
and Amish smoked chicken-breast 
salad. The restaurant also houses a 
specialty market, a deli and a wine 
shop that offer items from small 
American producers, especially 
those in the Midwest. 

This recipe is typical of Zinfan- 
del’s menu: a contemporary ver- 


sion of a country staple, the wilted 





garden salad. It 
makes a perfect 
side dish for lunch 
or dinner. 


Wilted Field 
Greens with 
Country Ham 


Prep time: 10 minutes 
Cooking time: 


7 minutes 


3 tablespoons 
olive oil 

1 small red onion, 
sliced into 
1/4-inch strips 

1/2 cup broken 
pecans 

1/2 cup country ham, 
julienned, or 
3 strips thick 
sliced bacon, 
cooked and crumbled 

3 tablespoons wine vinegar 

© SYfUD 

1 pound (17 cups} loosely packed 





2 tablespoons pure map 


mixed greens (such as chicory, 
arugula and spinach] 
2 teaspoon salt 


1 teaspoon freshly ground pepper 


1. Heat oil in large skillet over 
medium-high heat. Add onion and 
cook, stirring, until golden, 4 min- 
utes. Add pecans and cook, toss- 


oO 


ing, until toasted, 2 minutes. Stir in 


ham; heat through. Stir in vinegar 
and maple syrup 


2. Meanwhile, place greens in large 





salad bowl. Immediately pour dress 
ing over greens. Season with salt and 


pepper and toss. Serve with crusty 


bread. Makes 4 servings. 





Per serving Daily goal 
Calories 280 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 
otal fat 2 60 ss (F); 70 g or less (M) 








a g 
Saturated fat g F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 9 mg 

Sodium 560 mg Ss 

Carbohydrates 17g 

Protein 9¢g 55 


204 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - APRIL 1994 








market trends 


ASPARAGUS 


Asparagus is at its peak in April] 
and prices are lowest. Look for} 
firm, straight stalks with tightly! 
closed tips and spears of unifomn| 
thickness to ensure even cooking. | 

To store: Cut the ends off and} 
stand spears upright in one inch of 
water (or wrap the ends in moist| 
paper towels and place thel 
spears in a plastic bag) and refrig- 
erate. Use as soon as possible. 

Jo cook: Snap off the woody 
ends where they naturally 
break. Or, you can trim away 
the tough skin by peeling, so 
you can use more of the stalk} 
To peel, start about two inches} 
below the tip, using a swivel 






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| 


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blade peeler. (Pencil-thin ast 
paragus needs no peeling. | 

Boil, steam or stirfry asparagus} 
until tender-crisp. For maximum vi} 
tamin retention (asparagus is gf 
good source of vitamins A and Cf 
and potassium)* and greenest col 


or, cook in a large pot of boiling 


salted water for. four to eight min} 
utes, depending on size of asf 
paragus. For thick asparagus 
stand stems upright in two inches 
of boiling, salted water in the bot 
tom of a double boiler with thelf 
top inverted, so the stems boil 


while the tips steam 


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2 cloves garlic, minced fans chopped cilantro 


Lcan (14.5 02) SeW Mild | Grated Monterey Jack 
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Cilantro sprigs (optional) 


Heat oil in Dutch oven; add chicken and sauté over 


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medium-low heat, stirring frequently, until pink color has ea a | MEDIUM SALS! ~ os Rae 
almost disappeared. Add onion and garlic; sauté and con- Ab - a mal a 


tinue stirring until onion is transparent and chicken is 
lightly browned. Reduce heat to low; add Salsa, White 


Beans, Cooking Sauce and chopped cilantro; simmer 5-0 





minutes, stirring occasionally, Ladle into bowls; top with 
grated cheese and sprigs of cilantro, if desired. Serves 4-6 
Nutrition information per serving: 340 cal; 3728 protein; 


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DON’T GET BURNED ‘ 


Avoiding burns in the 
Ekds 


just having a fire extinguish- 


INV olves more than 


er at the ready. Here, im 


portant tips trom Corky 
Clark, senior chef instructor 
at the Culinary Institute ot 
America New Hyde 
Pa Jew York = best 


Don’t lean too close 
to the oven. VVhen 
CNECKING the pl SGFESS of a 


dish, open the oven door 

| { | 
ana keep your face turned 
Seay. Pull the shelauk xe 
away. Full fhe snelf out, re 
move the dish and put it on 


the range top. It a recipe re- 


quires basting, take the dish 
out, baste a put it back 
in the oven. It takes more 
time and effort, but it’s 


worth it for safety’s sake 
Oven shelves are unsteady 
Keep. the broiler 
clean. Most fires in the 


Ceo ee eeeeesseeeceseseseseseseses 


broiler are caused by 
grease buildup Be sure to 
thoro ughly and 
the broiler after ev- 
you line the broil 
er with foil, change it every 
time. Baking soda and salt 
do work to extinguish very 
small flames, but Chef Clark 
(who is also a volunteer fire- 
man} recommends using a 
tire extinguisher. If the fire is 
big, get out of the house. 
Point pot handles to- 
ward the middle of 
the stove or toward 
the wall. If the pot handle 
sticks out, there's a chance 
that you could bump into it 
or that a child could pull the 
pot off the stove. If a hot pot 
is on the counter, tie a piece 
of cloth or rag on the han- 
dle to warn people [espe- 
cially children) that it's hot. 
Make sure pot mitts 


clean 
Scrape 
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are perfectly 
dry before using 
them. Moisture in 
the mitt will create 
steam when you 
grasp a pot, and 
you could severely 
burn your hand. Don’t be 
cheap when it comes to 
tts: Buy the thickest ones 
you can find. 
Don’t lift a pot top 
straight up. [ili the lid to 
ward you so that the steam 
escapes away from you. 
Always use mitts to 
remove dishes from 
the microwave because 
microwaved food transfers 
its heat to the container. 
Cool off a burn. Run 
very cold tap water over a 
burn immediately. Don't put 
anything on it. If it's an open 
wound or looks serious, 
wrap it in plain gauze and 


na fastfood ore a 


WHERE’S THE FAT? nae Surprise! We 


discovered that many red-meat sandwiches have less fat than other choices on many 


burger-chain menus. Check out the chart below and the tips at right for cutting fastfood fat. 


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fat (g) 


FAST FOODS 


McDONALD’S 
Big Mac 


Chef's salad with 1 packet (2 0z.) ranch dressing 
[salad includes ham, turkey, egg and cheese] 


BURGER KING 
Whopper Jr. 


Chef's salad, 10 oz. Pe with | packet ranch dress- 


ing (1 oz.) [salad i includes ham, turkey, egg and cheese] 


Garden salad, 8 0z. portion, with 1 packet 


{1 oz.) ranch dressing 


WENDY’S 

Plain single hamburger 
Cheese baked potato 
HARDEE’S 

Big Roast Beef Sandwich 


Frisco Grilled Chicken Sandwich 


elites fat (g 





(mg) (mg) C) 

















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(g) 


see a doctor right away. 
Equip your kitchen with 
a fire extinguisher, o 
smoke detector and, if you 
hdve gas appliances, 6 
gas detector. Keep the fire 
extinguisher near the 
oven, a smoke detector 
right outside the kitchen 
door and the gas detector 
on the kitchen ceiling. The 
gas detector will signal if 
the pilot light goes out or 
it the oven or a burner is 
slightly on. Gas detectors 
cost about as much as a 
smoke detector; they're 
available where smoke 
detectors are sold. 


@ A 2-ounce packet ol 
McDonald's ranch dress: 
ing has 20 |!) grams of fat 
and 220 calories. Look for 
reduced-calorie or fatfree 
dressing—most fastfood 
restaurants serve them. 

M@ Margarine and cheese 
sauces turn a fat-free 
potato into a fatfilled 
meal. Order a plain 
baked potato and a cup 
of chili to pour over it. A 
cup of chili at Wendy's 
has just 6 grams of fat. 

@ Don't assume that a 
fish-fillet sandwich is the 
most nutritious choice, 
The fish is fried anda 
topped with tartar sauce 
and sometimes cheese, 
too. McDonald's FiletO} 
Fish Sandwich has 18 fal 
grams and 370 calories| 
and Burger King’s BK Bic 
Fish Sandwich has C 
oe 43 fat grams 
and 710 calories! 


Researched hy Caroline Kline. R_D. g 


What's the secret to fluffier frosting? 








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the Aibrorence 


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holds its peaks better than frosting made with the leading spread. | 





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because it’s the only brand with our unique buttery taste. 
Remember: PARKAY says butter. Good cooks say PARKAY.™ 





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ed to.” But we don’t. 

e might tell her, “I think I could 
x with you a lot more if you lost 
ight pounds.” But we don’t. 

ulso Known women who seemed 
know about my past lovelife, but 
told them about it, the reaction 
ood. I admitted to one girlfriend 
cheated on my ex-wife, and from 
nt on, she never trusted me, even 
I was faithful to her. Another 
once asked me how many lovers 
_I gave her a ballpark estimate, 
zing from the fact that I never saw 
n, I have to assume she thought I 
n playing in too big an arena. Yet 
girlfriend told me that she’d want 
if I was having an affair; she also 
t she would leave me if she found 
is. It didn’t take me long to figure 
if I was going to have an affair, I 
ire wasn’t going to tell her. 


F FEELINGS 


> also afraid to talk about certain 
with women. For instance, there 


aren’t many men I know who will admit 
how insecure they are, especially when it 
comes to their career. It doesn’t make any 
difference how much money we make or 
how high up the chain of command we 
are. We fear that it could be jerked away 
at any moment. Last year I had a book 
published. It was given rave reviews and 
elicited movie offers from Hollywood. Yet 
I have spent a lot of time fixating on the 
two bad reviews it got and whether my 
next book will be a total piece of literary 
garbage. I don’t talk about my career 
doubts to Monica, however. 

Over the years, I’ve also learned, as I 
think most of my buddies have, to keep 
my feelings to myself if I think my part- 
ner doesn’t want to hear them. That way 
I won’t have to get into endless talks 
about what I’m feeling, talks I can’t win. 

Consider the pattern of the average 
relationship: Man meets woman, man 
woos woman, rockets go off, romance 
blooms, then the bubble bursts and real- 
ity sets in, Unfortunately, ?ve been in- 
volved in this pattern too often. During 
the early stages, I'd say and feel all the 
right things. The woman thought, Wow, 
this guy’s really open, really in touch 
with his feclings. Then when reality hit 
and I started spending more time think- 
ing and talking about my work or the 
U.S. Open, she thought I was being 


emotionally distant, unromantic. Some- 


times when she tried to be affectionate, 
it bugged me. I felt I was being forced to 
feel something I didn’t feel right then. 
When I told her I still loved her, she 
found it hard to believe. So rather than 
try to tell her how I really felt—that ’'m 
worried about my latest deadline or the 
tax man—I withdrew. Soon the relation 
ship was over. 

Now, I realize communication is not 
supposed to be a win-lose proposition. 
It’s just that honesty, in my opinion, 
isn’t always the best policy in a relation- 
ship. It’s overhyped. We don’t walk into 
the boss’s office and tell him he’s a jerk. 
Same thing in a relationship. 

But that doesn’t mean men and 
women can’t learn to work things out. 
Men can change. There are a lot of us 
out here who know women are equal 
or better than we are. We’re just trying 
to shake this feeling that it’s our divine 
right to play the game on our terms. 
So just keep working with us. Unzip 
our pants without asking now and 
then; tell us we’re giants of the work- 
force; urge us to play more golf. But 
whatever you do, don’t offer us a pen- 
ny for our thoughts. Believe me, you 
don’t want to know. a 


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The talk-show report 


continued from page 156 


Interestingly, the two superstars of 
the trade, Phil and Oprah, did many 
more uplifting shows that were lacking 
in easy sleaze. Oprah, number one in 
the ratings by a huge margin, has an 
instinctive ability to make people feel 
comfortable. Viewers get the sense that 
they really know her, and so they want 
to know more about her, in all her 
comforting Oprahness. 

Donahue’s ratings, on the other 
hand, have been spiraling down. ‘Too 
bad: He’s the granddaddy of all talk- 
show hosts, the first feminized TV male. 
But sometimes he’s so verbose that he 
trips over his own inflated words and 
fails to let the guest get a word in edge- 
wise. But he’s been 1n the forefront in 
covering topics like drug addiction, in- 
cest and alcoholism, as well as breaking 
the silence on social issues like abortion 
and homosexuality. And he deserves a 
lot of praise for the shows he did on 
Reginald Denny, the truck driver who 
was beaten by an angry mob during the 
Los Angeles riots after the Rodney King 
verdict. On the air, a recovered Denny 
forgave his attackers. ‘Vhe actual tape, 
which ran on the news so much, was in- 
terpreted frame by frame. 

It was an important show that had 
nothing to do with narcissism or titil- 
lation. Indeed, this was one of the rare 
occasions when someone’s personal ex- 
perience helped to explain larger issues 
about race and social reality. (Sadly 
but perhaps not surprisingly, the studio 
audience wouldn’t budge from its out- 
for-blood mode, wanting Denny to be 
less forgiving.) 

The bottom line, though, was that 
even after watching a solid month of 
talk, I found that I still had a persistent 
fascination for the format. My predic- 
tion: Valk shows will remain popular, 
because they’re cheap to produce, and 
there’s no denying that they tap into 
our collective curiosity. No matter how 
many new shows and hosts there are, 
the promos remain intriguing. 

And viewers, like studio audiences, 
know the drill. Even kids watching 
Sesame Street are hip to the form: I re- 
cently saw a segment in which Sally 
Messy Yuckyael, a character with red 
glasses and a microphone, interviewed 
Oscar the Grouch in his garbage can. 
After he spouts out a long line of trou- 
bles, she responds, “Yes, PIl solve all 
your problems. But first, these mes- 
sages... .”” Myson laughed. He doesn’t 
quite get it, but he will soon. a 


Barbara Lippert, a critic for Adweek, 
wants producers to know that she’s ready 
to appear on any segment entitled “Talk 
shows: Are they bad for you?” 








Brett Butler 


continued from page 151 


and hoping she had enough underwear 
for the road. Now she’s performing in 
front of the President, living in the Hol- 
lywood Hills and starring in a top-ten 
TV show, Grace Under Fire, in which 
Butler plays Grace Kelly, a mother of 
three, recently divorced from her abu- 
sive husband. Lauded early on as one of 
the best new shows of the season, Grace 
broke into the top ten almost immedi- 
ately—its time slot, right after Home 
Improvement, helped get it quick no- 
tice from viewers, but it 1s the show’s 
sly, witty irreverence that keeps them 
coming back. 

“She has the same kind of real 
blue-collar appeal as Roseanne,” says 
Time magazine critic Richard Zoglin. 
“She says things about men, hus- 
bands and motherhood that television 
used to avoid.” (Some gutsy samples: 
“Mr. Wonderful’s idea of foreplay 
was waking me up.” “I was looking 
for Mr. Right, and instead I found 
Mr. Right Hook.”) 

The same grittiness that gives But- 
ler’s performance its exacting edge in- 
fuses her offscreen personality; as a 
result, she’s gotten mixed reviews from 
some members of the Hollywood estab- 
lishment who prefer their stars docile 
and complacent. Butler thinks nothing 
of fighting for what she believes in. It’s 
because of her insistence, for example, 
that Grace and Russell Norton, played 
by Dave Thomas, are friends, rather 
than lovers. “Grace needs a friend 
more than a husband,” she reasoned. 
And when a stylist on the set tries to 
fix Grace’s flyaway hair, Butler gives 
her a glare that could blister paint and 
snaps, “A mother of three never has 
perfect hair.” 

It is this directness, more than any- 
thing else, that has earned her the title 
“The New Roseanne.” But while the 
two have met only briefly, Butler says 
that Roseanne Arnold—the queen of 
outspoken bravado-—has given her the 
thumbs up and encouraged her to con- 
tinue the good work. “My advice to her 
is to buckle up and hang on for the 
ride,” says Roseanne with a smile. And 
the new kid doesn’t pay much heed to 
the comparison, anyway. “Our only sim- 
ilarity 1s that we both lived in a trailer 
and wondered how the hell we’d get out 
of there,” she says. 

In truth, Butler’s brand of 1n-your- 
face honesty is hers and hers alone. 
She’s nowhere near as much of a carica- 
ture as Roseanne; you'd be hard-pressed 
to get her to talk about her weekend 
plans, let alone her lovelife. And though 
she may be gritty, with an underlying 
toughness that sharpens her classic fea- 
tures, she’s no mud wrestler. “I was a 


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forceful, articulate, kind of imposin 
man being before I ever got this st 
she explains proudly. “I’m a dark F 
I like roads less traveled, and I like 
ple who go down them.” 


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Butler’s own road has been a bt 
one. Born in Montgomery, Alab 
she was named after Hemingy 
heroine, Lady Brett Ashley, from 
Sun Also Rises. Her father aband 
the family (Brett, her mother, ¢ 
O’Quinn, and her two younger si 
in Atlanta when Brett was four. 
mother remarried—briefly—twice 
had two more daughters. Brett wa 
en her first stepfather’s last nam 
the oldest of five girls growing up 
all-female environment, Brett d 
oped a strong independent sti 
“What we had in instability was | 
up tenfold by my mother’s supp¢ 
our uniqueness, our humor anc 
minds,” she says. As a teenager, 
often helped take care of her si 
(Pethaps that’s why Butler says sh 
no maternal longings, preferring 
“Auntie Mame” to her nieces 
nephews. Plus, she admits, she’ 
self-centered for motherhood. “I 
how trapped and committed I y 
have to be if I had them,” she 
with a sigh.) 

At nineteen, Butler fell in love v 
steel worker, moved out of her fat 
home, and entered into what shi 
described as a painful, abusive mai 
that lasted three long years. B 
drank to numb her suffering, but 
she often ran away to nearby wot 
shelters for temporary relief, she | 
could seem to muster the streng 
leave her husband for good. Then 
day, something snapped. “I remer 
I was cleaning up the kitchen, wi 
any fresh bruises on me [for 0 
and he was sleeping on the couch 
calls Butler, her husky voice droj 
to a whisper. “I picked up a 
wrench and thought of parting hi: 
down the middle.” | 

Perilously close to violence 
called her mother, begging, “Pleas 
me out of here.” 


BREAKING FREE 

It was 1981, and her mother, wh« 
in the process of moving to Hou 
Texas, took Brett with her. Bu 
hardest part was yet to come—th 
when Butler realized she was “ 
with the person [herself] who ha 
lowed these things to happen to 
Unable to afford therapy, intro: 
tive Butler decided to painstak 
reexamine her life and uncove 
reasons she allowed herself t 
abused for so long. In discoverin 
weaknesses, (continued on page 


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she found her strength as well. 

That strength served her while she 
was waitressing at a neighborhood dive. 
Butler developed a reputation for her 
feisty put-downs, and a customer sug- 
gested she try stand-up comedy. Dur- 
ing her free moments, Butler sat at a 
Formica table and wrote comedy rou- 
tines, trying to emulate the outrageous- 
ness of her favorite performer, Richard 
Pryor. Soon she was venting her pent: 
up rage in small local clubs, using her 
abusive husband and her disillusion- 
ment with love in her act. (“I wasn’t 
married to a redneck. I was married to 
a subliterate, terra-cotta-toothed imbe- 
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‘That may sound mean, but he doesn’t 
understand.”) The audience embraced 
her honesty, and Butler was energized 
by the attention. 

It wasn’t long before she was work- 
ing comedy clubs around the country, 
and she spent the next few years liv- 
ing out of a suitcase. In 1983, she 
opened for Robert Klein in a club in 
Atlanta, and when he suggested she 
move to New York City for better ex- 
posure, she took the advice. With 
$250 in her pocket, she headed north 
in her 1969 Pontiac Grand Prix. Al- 
most five years later, she finally land- 
ed a spot on The Tonight Show. Like 
many up-and-coming comics, Butler 
also tried to get a cable special to 
showcase her talent. But HBO re- 
buffed her, a slight that still hurts. 
“They thought I was too dark, politi- 
cal and mean,” she says. So she dyed 


her brown hair blond. “It happe 
the same time I had made an ir 
switch. I think any woman who 
a bold change—even if it’s 
bleaching your hair—is taking 
control of her life.” (And that 
the only change she’s made; ear 
year, Butler blithely told an inte 
er on Entertainment Tonight that 
had her breasts enlarged.) 

Maybe blonds do have mor 
because the change in Butler’ 
color seemed to alter the exeq 
outlook—they thought a blond 
softened the act. The result? ¢ 
horse no longer, she got her cab 
cial last year (on Showtime, ho 
not HBO). 

Besides exposure, touring 
brought her her second husband, 
Ken Ziegler, whom she marr 
1987. The two met while she we 
forming at Catch a Rising Star, it 
York, and Butler felt she’d finally 
a man who really loved and car 
her. And these days, while much 
press coverage still focuses on 
abusive first marriage and her t 
with alcohol, the actress insists h 
is behind her. 

Still, so much has happened so 
ly, she wonders sometimes how | 
can keep up the momentum. “I w 
and my eyes are as big as silver ¢ 
and I think, What the hell is go 
with my life?” she says. 3 


And as most stars will tell you 
cess carries a price. Butler’s 
with its twelve-hour days, has 
ently taken a toll on her ma 
Sources say she and Ziegler hav 
rated, a rumor Butler will neith 
firm nor deny. “It’s real har 
hard,” she says cautiously. “I’m 
to work it out. We live three th 
miles apart, and [I feel like] a 
has hit my planet.” 

But Butler, a self-describe 
spirit,” seems prepared to keep 
ing. And her best friend, actres 
Teegardin, assures us that B 
fortunes may have changed, b 
ler has not. “The house is sti 
fectly neat, and the refrigerat 
nothing in it but bottled wate 
tard and frozen mayonnaise,’ 
says with a laugh. “If anyone c 
dle all this, it’s Brett. She’s 
been through so much.” 

Butler heartily agrees. 

“T live by the advice of an old 
she says. “He said, ‘Kid, remem 
things. Be the matador, not t 
and smell the goddamned roses.’ 

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“Someone is watching me” 
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into the spotlight when a public figure 
is pursued. In fact, according to the Los 
Angeles Police Department’s Threat 
Management Unit (TMU), these cases 
are the exception rather than the rule. 
“Our cases reveal that only seventeen 
percent of stalking victims are highly 
recognizable celebrities, and thirty-two 
percent are lesser-known entertainment 
figures,” states Lieutenant John Lane, 
director of the TMU. Most of the rest, 
he says, are “just ordinary citizens.” 

But stalking is by no means a rare 
crime. While no precise statistics exist, 
the Committee on the Judiciary of the 
United States Senate estimates that ap- 
proximately two hundred thousand peo- 
ple a year are stalked in this country. 
“Five percent of the women in this 
country will be victims of stalking at 
some point in their lives,” asserts the 
committee chairman, Senator Joseph 
Biden Jr. (D-Del.). “That breaks down 
to six and a half million women.” 

Yet only recently have state and fed- 
eral governments begun enacting mea- 


But whatever the intent—revenge, de- 
luded love or murder—all stalkers have 
one thing in common: the desire for 
power and control over another person. 


PRISONERS OF TERROR 

Before state governments began pass- 
ing anti-stalking laws, victims and their 
families found that there was very little 
protection the police and the courts 
could give. “There has been a lot of 
frustration on both sides of the fence,” 
observes Cheryl Guidry Tyiska, direc- 
tor of victim services for the National 
Organization for Victim Assistance, in 
Washington, D.C. “Without specific 
laws against stalking, victims have 
called the police over and over, only to 
be told there is nothing to be done. 
And police were put in the position of 
waiting for a crime to be committed 
before they could act.” 

All too often, threats do become reali- 
ties. Jimmie Breeding, a bookkeeper 
from a suburb of Austin, Texas, says she 
was stalked more than two years ago by 
her former fiancé, who was angry that 
she had broken up with him. Her ap- 
peals to the authorities went unheeded 


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sures to protect stalking victims. In 
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ing incidents. And shortly after the 
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Los Angeles Police Department estab- 
lished the TMU—the first police anti- 
stalking squad in the country. 

Based on the cases the TMU has cov- 
ered, Lane reports that stalkers fall into 
three broad categories. A little under 10 
percent suffer from erotomania, the delu- 
sional belief that one is passionately 
loved by the object of one’s desire. Most 
often women, says Lane, these predators 
usually target famous people, such as 
actors or politicians. Another 43 per- 
cent—mostly men—suffer from love ob- 
session, believing they can make the 
person love them if given the chance. 

The largest group of stalkers are affect- 
ed by svmple obsession. Also primarily men, 
these pursuers know their vicums person- 
ally—ex-wives, former employees—and 
are the ones most likely to turn violent. 


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because no law had been broken. 

As Jimmie testified at the trial, on Au- 
gust 19, 1991, three months after the 
stalking began, her fiance attacked her 
with a claw hammer and a stun gun, 
leaving her near death. For the crime, 
he served only sixty days in jail and then 
was placed on ten years’ parole. 

Erin Tavegia, of Meriden, Connecti- 
cut, was fourteen years old in 1990 
when a forty-nine-year-old man started 
following her to school, calling her and 
driving by her house. The police could 
do nothing until an actual crime was 
committed. Finally, after the stranger 
unsuccessfully tried to run down Erin 
with his car, the Tavegias generated a 
flurry of publicity about the case. The 
man was arrested, the family says, on 
charges of breach of peace. 

Bonnie Campbell, attorney general of 
Iowa, began getting hate mail and crank 
calls in 1987, when she was a highly 
successful attorney and rising star in the 
Democratic party. Over the next four 
years, as her campaign for attorney gen- 
eral mounted, the letters grew more 
threatening. And on the eve of her 


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swearing-in ceremony, the man cal] 
say he would be in the crowd. 

In late 1991, Bonnie met her pu 
face-to-face on her way to a medic: 
pointment; he asked about her 
band, and gave his real name. 
immediately called the FBI, bec 
threatening a public official is a fe 
crime. The agency tracked dow 
man and paid him a visit; he has 
left Bonnie alone. 


THE LONG ROAD TO SAFETY 
The psychological toll of stalking c 
as terrible as the act itself. “Stalkin 
ums feel chronically anxious, unsaf 
isolated,” says Rick Shuman, Ph. 
California psychologist who has : 
ten years working with vicums of vi 
crime. “Most acts of violence, as ho 
as they might be, are singular in ni 
With stalking, the fear is chronic 
there is no time for the victim to rec 
And it is very typical for the stalki 
go on as long as eight or ten years.” 
Jane McAllister’s pursuer was o 
the persistent ones. When her la 
warned Paul to stop sending th 
through the mail, he used a messi 
service to deliver his notes. Ther 
day in March 1991, Paul showed - 
Jane’s church and she confronted 
threatening to call the police. It \ 
critical mistake. Says Jane, “His att 
toward me went from ‘I love yo 
‘I’m going to get you, bitch.’ ” 
Experts warn that any kind of « 
rejection or threat can actually inte 
the pursuit. Says psychologist 
Meloy, author of Violent Attachi 
(Jason Aronson Publishing, 1992), 
tially, the stalker idealizes the perso 
ing pursued. But when a stalk 
rebuffed, that attitude can flip.” 
By the spring of 1991, Jane h 
bottom. Terrified and emotio} 
drained, she decided to fight back 
told her story to the local media. 
shortly thereafter was contacted t 
women who had also been victir 
stalking. With them, Jane formed a 
port group, Citizens Against Sta 
which expanded into a political a 
committee. They lobby for chang 
the laws and work to educate la 
forcement and the public. 
In April 1992, stalking beca 
crime in Virginia; the penalty for < 
offense is up to six months in jail. ° 
weeks after the law went into effi 
stopped hearing from Paul,” Jan 
ports. “I think he has a real fear of. 
to jail, and that threat alone was en 
to stop him.” 
Other victims around the countr 
cluding Erin Tavegia and Jimmie B 
ing, have gone public to testify in 
of anti-stalking laws before their 
legislatures. Last year, Bonnie Car 
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ye with a real empathy for other 
1s,” she says. 

e federal government is also taking 
to protect citizens nationwide. In 
ary 1993, Congressman Joseph 
edy (D-Mass.) introduced the Na- 
1 Stalker Reduction Act, which 
i require all states to enact antu- 
ag legislation or lose federal fund- 
and would establish a central 
ry of stalkers. 

st March, Senator Barbara Boxer 
al.) and Senator Bob Krueger (D- 
—whose family was vicumized by a 
r—introduced a bill in Congress 
41umber S470) to extend the legal 
tion of harassment to include the 
yf multiple phone calls and messages 
nonly used by stalkers. The bill 
i also make stalking a federal crime 
hable by as much as ten years in 
1 for a repeat offense. It is anticipat- 
at at least some national legislation 
st stalking will be enacted this year. 


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vhile stalking laws allow police to 
t stalkers, “when the perpetrator 
een sent to jail, it doesn’t necessar- 
2an that the victim is out of harm’s 
- warns Lieutenant Lane of L.A.’s 
it Management Unit. Psychologist 
y agrees. “With a long history of 
sive behavior, it is very unlikely a 
r could just stop the behavior per- 
ntly wichout undergoing some fun- 
ntal change in [his] life, such as 
ssful therapy,” he says. 

ice free, stalkers may return to their 
1al victims. La Vonne Skalias, of 
Worth, Texas, was viciously at- 
din her home in the fall of 1984. 


over his face, La Vonne was sure he was 
Lanny Gene Bevers, Jr., a young man in 
her neighborhood who had raped her in 
1977. She didn’t know that Bevers had 
just been paroled after serving a third of 
his twenty-year sentence; but this at- 
tacker not only knew her daughter by 
name, but also addressed La Vonne by 
her legal first name—which she never 
used personally, but which had been 
menuoned during Bevers’ trial. 

Badly hurt, La Vonne managed to es- 
cape to a neighbor’s house and call for 
help. “As soon as the police arrived, I 
told them who had done this to me,” 
she says. “They didn’t believe me. The 
detective in charge said people don’t 
come back and attack the same person 
twice.” Shortly after the incident, La 
Vonne began getting calls from a man 
threatening to return and rape her and 
her daughter. Police arrested Bevers for 
these calls, but it was not until 1988, 
when a prosecutor discovered an over- 
looked fingerprint, that Bevers was final- 
ly charged with the 1984 assault. He 
was convicted in 1989 and is now serv- 
ing a life sentence for aggravated rape, 
but will be eligible for parole around 
2005. “I have no doubt he intends to 
come back for me and my daughter,” 
says La Vonne. 

Experts who have studied stalkers say 
La Vonne is nght to believe that the crim- 
inal-justice system cannot protect some- 
one from a stalker intent on harm. While 
many pursuers are effectively thwarted by 
the law, others are so disturbed that they 
have little or no concern for legal conse- 
quences. Some are even willing to die, so 
long as they can get the victim first. 

“Law enforcement is in the business of 
catching criminals, not stopping crimes 
before they happen,” warns Meloy. “Vic- 
tims have to take responsibility for their 
safety.” Lane concurs, saying, “We tell 





that the stalker is their problem. We will 
work with them every step of the way, 
but they are going to have to take some 
difficult—and sometimes painful—steps 
to protect themselves.” 

Jimmie Breeding has done precisely 
that. Embittered at the short sentence 
her ex-fiance received, she has moved 


four times in the last two and a half 


years. “I live behind locked doors and 
windows. I can’t keep a job, and I have 
to live off my grown children and Social 
Security,” she says. “This man has got- 
ten what he wanted. I am fifty-one vears 
old, and my life is over.” 

And yet, while grim headlines serve as 
a warning that the stalking crisis is far 
from over, there are also stories offering 
hope that stalkers can be brought to jus- 
tice and the victims’ lives reclaimed, and 
even saved. Last summer, a nineteen- 
year-old woman from Orange Park, 
Florida, helped police capture Gregory 
Dale Donaldson, a young man she had 
recently befriended. Donaldson showed 
her his poems and short stories, which 
included graphic fantasies about torture 
and cannibalism. Then he confided that 
he had been following certain women— 
all of whom fit a particular descripnion— 
and planned to kill them within weeks. 
Terrified, she went for help. 

The Clay County sheriff's office per- 
suaded the young woman to help build 
a case against Donaldson. Under police 
surveillance, she wore a hidden micro- 
phone to record her conversations with 
him, and gathered copies of pertinent 
documents. By July, police had enough 
evidence to arrest Donaldson, whose tn- 
al was set for March as this issue went 
to press. “She was one hundred percent 


responsible for the welfare, the lives, of 


several women,” said Lieutenant Jimm 
Redmond, who worked on the case. 
“She singlehandedly brought his inten- 





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nger—harasses you? “Start documenting anything you your calls, letters and visitors screened, and alert security 
1," says Cheryl Guidry Tyiska, of the National Organiza- personnel to your situation 


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‘seems out of the ordinary. Get friends or colleagues to 
In court, the victims have the burden of 
of, so they need all the evidence they can collect 

“you think someone is tracking you, the Threat Manage: 
at Unit of the Los Angeles Police Department recommends 
‘you take basic safety measures: Keep your house and 
secure and install a home alarm system. Keep to busy 

ied areas when you go out. Vary your routine to make it 


as witnesses. 


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CLAUDIA’S TURN “Steve was 
unfaithful to me six years ago. It 
was a one-night stand—I really 
don’t think he ever saw her again— 
but I can’t let it go,” said Claudia, 
forty, a beautiful woman whose 
blue eyes flooded with tears as she 
spoke. “I don’t mean I| think about 
it every second, but the pain and 
humiliation I felt is always in the 
back of my mind. It makes me feel 
that my whole marriage is a sham. 

“Steve and I have been married 
for nineteen years, but for the past 
ten neither of us has been happy. 
‘The problem is, Steve won’t talk— 
about anything. In the beginning, I 
made attempts to get him to open 
up, to tell me if something was both- 
ering him, but by now I’ve basically 
given up hope. He comes home 
from work, yells at me and yells at 
the boys. He just doesn’t seem inter- 
ested in spending time with us any- 
more. I learned to concentrate on 
my children and resigned myself to 
living in a pretend marriage. 

“What Pve never understood is 


that Steve has always had plenty of 


THIS CASE IS FROM INTERVIEWS AND THE FILES OF EVELYN FIRESTONE MOSCHETTA, D.S.W., A MARRIAGE COUN- 
SELOR IN PRIVATE PRACTICE IN NEW YORK CITY AND HUNTINGTON, NEW YORK. THE STORY TOLD HERE IS TRUE, 
THOUGH NAMES AND DETAILS HAVE BEEN CHANGED TO CONCEAL IDENTITIES. 


20 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - MAY 1994 





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time for other things. He’s presi- 
dent of the local chapter of the 
electrical workers’ union. Over the 
years, he’s spent hours negotiating 
over conference tables. And though 
he was the Pied Piper of the neigh- 
borhood, playing with all the kids, 
he rarely had time to have a game 
of catch in the backyard with his 
own two sons. Slowly, he’s pulled 
away from us. He went from being 
a man who was very loving to his 
children when they were little to a 
man who would curse at them and 
tell them they’re slobs. Yes, six- 
teen-year-olds can be messy, but 
Steve is so nasty, ve chosen not to 
speak to him at all lately. 

“Pll never forget the night Steve 
told me about this fling he had. i 
had just put the boys to bed when 
he trudged through the door and 
said he had something to tell me. I 
knew he’d been worried about work. 
At the time, his union had been on 
strike against the electrical contrac- 
tors for more than twenty weeks, 
and there was a lot of pressure on 
him to settle. When I asked what 




























was wrong, he began to cry, and he 
told me that a few months back he’d 
met a woman at a bar and ended up 
going back to her house and sleep- 
ing with her. He swore it was a one- 
night stand, but I was numb. I felt 
so betrayed. 

“T grew up in a very unhappy 
home, the youngest of six girls. My 
mother was always depressed; she 
would spend the better part of the 
day in bed, and I never felt she was 
a real part of my life. At the time, 
my sisters and I thought that Dad, 
who was a bus driver for the city, 
was a Saint; it wasn’t until we were 
grown and out of the house that 
we learned he’d been a drinker and 
a gambler. 

“Steve and I started dating when) 
we were teenagers. From the be-| 
ginning, he was such a gentleman, 
sweet and caring. Everyone loved 
him, and I knew that if there was) 
one person on this earth I could 
count on, it was Steve. We dated 
seriously for two years and 
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ened all at once. 
ve was diagnosed 
:. It was torturous 
hough I'd been a 
} couldn’t concentrate on 
\ dropped out of school. 
d up getting my GED many years 
later, but at the tme I found a job as an 
administrative assistant in a doctor’s office. 

“T was eighteen when Steve asked me 
to marry him—on Christmas Day, at ex- 
actly twelve A.M., in fact. But though we 
planned a summer wedding, that spring, 
Steve was drafted and sent to Vietnam. 
The year he was away, I lived with one 
of my older sisters; her seven kids kept 
me busy. When Steve came home, we 
were married and moved into a smail 
apartment near where he worked as a 
guard for a security company. At night, 
he was taking courses at the local college 
to get his electrician’s license—his old 
firm paid for it. 

“Life was good for a while. We had 
the twins—Thomas and Joey are sixteen 
now—and, once Steve was making 
enough money, we bought a small house 
in the neighborhood. When the boys 


school. But a lot het 
My father got sic 
with colon can 
watching him 
good student 
my studies, and 


nae 


has an explosive temper, and these battles 
wear me down. He insists our problems 
now are due to the fact that I haven’t for- 
given him for what he did. Well, I don’t 
think it’s that simple. I don’t even know if 
there’s a chance for us anymore. Even if I 
could just erase what happened, how can 
we be close when we’ve been distant from 
each other for so long? 

“Clearly, P’'ve failed—as a wife and as a 
person. The other day at work—I’m of- 
fice manager for an orthopedic surgeon; I 
went back to work full-time five years 
ago—I burst into tears when one of the 
patients got upset with me about a bill. 
There must be something wrong with 
me, something I’m lacking. Why else 
would he have had a one-night stand?” 


STEVE’S TURN “I was a fool,” said 
Steve, forty-three, a muscular man who 
spoke in a low voice filled with resigna- 
tion. “I should never have told her. It’s 
been six years since it happened. I told 
Claudia then, and a thousand times 
since, that the woman meant nothing to 
me. I swore it would never happen again. 
She’s still holding a grudge. Is she going 
to torture me forever? She actually told 
our kids about it, to make me look bad. 
“Why did I open my big mouth? Be- 


“I thought telling her 


about the affair would 


clear the air, 


" says Steve. 


“Big mistake.” 


started kindergarten, I realized the 
schools in that area really weren’t very 
good, so we moved again, this time to a 
much better school district. Steve gave 
me a real hard time about that move, but 
he had already received several promo- 
tions and was making enough money. 

“T don’t think Steve had any idea 
what it was like to be home with twin 
boys all day. He’d march in and hit the 
roof if dinner wasn’t ready or the laun- 
dry hadn’t been done. Maybe his moth- 
er jumped every time his father blinked, 
but I’m not about to do that, no way. I 
don’t understand why he can’t have a 
little understanding, a little compassion 
for me. Last year, when my mother was 
ill and I was overwhelmed with every- 
thing, Steve actually told me, ‘I don’t 
have time for you and your family.’ Yet 
he expects me to listen to him talk about 
his problems at work. 

“We've been fighting a lot lately. Steve 


22 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL — MAY 1994 


cause I was miserable, our marriage was 
going down the tubes, and I thought 
that maybe if I confessed, I'd clear the 
air and things would be better. I figured 
we’d grown so far apart from each oth- 
er, what did I have to lose? Claudia has 
always begged me to share stuff, insist- 
ing that no matter what the problem 
was, we could work it all out together. 
Inside, I believed that if I told her, we’d 
go back to square one. Big mistake... . 
“[’m not proud of what I did. But at 
the time, my life at home was lousy. My 
life at work was lousy. Everything 
seemed to be crashing down around me. 
And here was this good-looking woman 
coming on to me. I took advantage of it. 
What did I have to go home to, anyway? 
A wife who treats me like a stranger. 
“Something has to change; this is no 
way to live. We’re both miserable. Every 
weekend there’s another huge blowout. 
This is so different from the life I 


dreamed we would have. 

“T fell madly in love with Clai 
moment I first saw her. We di 
high school, and I knew we'd g 
ried, but my life came to a halt 
was drafted. I had mixed feeling 
going. I couldn’t decide whl 
should go to Canada or report ff 
My whole life was just opening u 
in love, I had a job with a great 
ny and I was so young. 

“When I got back, I tried to 
the pieces of my life. The sec 
where I had been working offere 
me through school so I could 
electrician’s license, which is w 
always wanted to do. Still, a 
twins were born, I really began 
the financial pressure. Claudia 
ing to buy a house because o 
apartment was too small for all 
us. I didn’t think we could af 
move, but she was so insistent. 
her and wanted to make her hap 
as soon as we moved into t 
house, she started complaining 
had no yard for the boys to run 
in and that the schools were 
enough. So we moved again. T 
lady you can never please. With 
glass is always half empty. 

“What kills me is that she begg 
bigger house, but do you think 
takes care of it? No. I come ho 
house is a mess—the kids’ stuff i 
the place, laundry piled high on 
room floor. There’s nothing for 
Look, I’m not saying it’s easy. B 
in a while, can’t she get it togée 
makes me nuts to come home to 

“Instead, she badgers me abou 
ing so much time on work-relat 
ters. Look, I’m union president, 
my job to be there when a disput 
up. Is that so tough to understand 

“T’ve always tried to aim high, 
dad made me feel like I could ne 
sure up. Is it such a crime to wa 
successful? My father was a to 
who never had much ume for m 
younger brother, except when h 
proved of something; boy, did y 
from him then! i 

“T thought that in a marriag 
band and wife are supposed to} 
each other. But I haven’t been 
talk to Claudia for years. She { 
want anything to do with me {| 
the time, and if I do say someth| 
gets defensive. She'll never adi 
she’s wrong, that maybe I have | 
Trying to have a discussion wit! 
ridiculous because she blames! 
everything. She never bothers 1) 
to what I have to say. She just} 
look that could kill. 

“T know it sounds corny, but! 
everything that’s happened, in n 
I believe that Claudia and I are r} 
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ok at her, I can still 

ove with. I don’t 
, love anyone else. 
her to believe me?” 


crazy, but when I |} 
see the girl I fell 

think I could 
How can I set 


T@UNSELOR’S TURN “As is of- 
he case with infidelity, what actual- 


THE 
ly happened is not the problem but a 
symptom of what’s wrong in a relation- 
ship,” notes the counselor. “One of my 
goals in counseling was to help Claudia 
and Steve recognize, and take responsi- 
bility for, the ways in which each of 
them had contributed to their difficulties. 

“Before Steve had the affair, this mar- 
riage had been shaky, but at least they 
had been emotionally connected. Clau- 
dia was nicer, kinder. She trusted him. 
After the affair, that trust was shattered 
and the distance separating them be- 
came a chasm. 

“At our first session, I explained that 
marriage is a mutually created reality. 
Steve may have made a mistake, but 
Claudia was continuing to make the 
problems worse and preventing old 
wounds from healing. 

“Much of the way this couple reacted 
can be traced to their individual child- 
hood experiences. Claudia was filled 
with insecurities. She had never been 
able to fill the void left by her emotional- 
ly unavailable mother. She suffered from 
such a lack of self-esteem that the pain of 
her husband’s unfaithfulness lingered 
long after the actual infidelity had taken 
place. To her it was further proof that 
she was unlovable and not good enough. 

“However, the fact that Claudia 
nursed her anger for so long not only 
exacerbated the problems between her 
and Steve but created new ones. I don’t 
mean to minimize Claudia’s pain: What 
Steve did was wrong, and it shattered 
the trust fundamental to a healthy mar- 
riage. Steve had to prove that he was 
once again worthy of her trust. But if 
she wanted this marriage to work, Clau- 
dia had to stop collecting and nurturing 
her grievances. I also told her that re- 
vealing what had happened to the chil- 
dren was also a betrayal, one that was 
potentially harmful to the children’s 
sense of security and served no purpose 
other than retaliation. 

“Had Steve and Claudia come for 
counseling sooner to work through their 
problems instead of burying them, they 
might have avoided, or at least lessened, 
much of their pain. This is especially 
true in cases of infidelity, when an im- 
partial, trained counselor is often need- 
ed to help a couple work through 
volatile issues. Instead, unresolved prob- 
lems festered and spread like a cancer 
throughout their relationship. Over the 
years, Claudia used a magnifying glass 
24 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL : MAY 1994 


to focus on all the things she disliked 
about her husband and fell into a pat- 
tern of blaming him for everything that 
went wrong in their lives. 

“What's more, like many people in 
similar situations, Claudia’s anger made 
her self-righteous. To protect herself 
from further hurt, in every encounter 
she displayed a holier-than-thou atti- 
tude. Steve was forever cast as the vil- 
lain; he made mistakes, never she. And 
no matter how hard he tried, Steve 
could never redeem himself. 

“Sadly, Steve shared many of his 
wife’s feelings. The son of an overpro- 
tective mother and a highly critical fa- 
ther, Steve was also convinced that he 
was a terrible person, destined to live in 
misery for his sins. He worked hard to 
prove himself to his wife, but, just as he 
could never gain his father’s approval, 
he could never measure up in his wife’s 
eyes either. He often felt guilty, and at 
home he assumed blame for things that 
had nothing at all to do with him. At the 
same time, he was afraid to say what he 
was thinking or how he felt about some- 
thing, since it would most likely get him 
into hot water. His classic response was 


SKILL BUILDER 
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1. Does the grudge give you an 
edge over your partner, a degree 
of moral superiority or security? 
2. Could you be protecting your 
self against something by holding 
onto this grudge? Think about what 
you are afraid of. 
3. If you let go of this grudge, will 
you feel vulnerable to another hurt? 
4. Anger and power often go to- 
gether. Does being angry with your 
partner help you feel more power 
tule Are you feeling weak in general 
in other areas of your life—perhaps 
at work, with your parents or in a re 
lationship with a friende 

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to clam up and say nothing. Clau| 
terpreted this to mean that he> 
care. And the cycle continued. — 
“One of my first steps was to 
sure Claudia realized she was hj 
onto her grievances out of self 
tion, so fearful was she of riskir 
pain again. As long as she kept he 
tional distance from Steve, Claud 
not vulnerable to further betra 
trust. Once she was clear on 
worked to help her learn to speak 
say what’s on her mind the mome 
feels upset or angry. ‘He can’t rea 
mind,’ I cautioned. ‘You have to t 
how you feel.’ I explained that 
of voice she used with her husba 
important to the message she wat 
deliver. Instead of snapping, she 
say, in a firm but nonconfront¢ 
way: ‘This isn’t sitting right wi 
Can we talk about it?’ Once she 
to do this, it put a whole new gd 
their marriage. In time, Steve ff 
like a victim. And Claudia came t 
him as a partner rather than the e 
“Before he could feel redeemed 
ever, Steve had his own work to ¢ 
too, had to learn to speak up, reg 
of his wife’s reaction, as well as ft 
trol his temper. He handled ang 
same way his father had: by yellu 
screaming rather than working to 
issues. The messy house was a trig 
that anger. Claudia has since m 
effort to pick things up and pu 
away and to insist that Thomas a 
do the same. He’s learned to 
time-honored tricks of counting to 
leaving the room to regain his 
sure instead of lashing out at his s¢ 
“This couple have also learned 
connected by sharing happy tin 
stead of going their separate ways 
ples in crisis must make a co 
effort to shift gears. Steve was the 
do that this time: At one of our 1 
sions, he described what had hay 
the previous weekend. On Sa 
morning, he had asked Claudi: 
she wanted to do that day. She sh 
and said she had a lot of errands 
But Steve persisted: ‘I didn’t wa 
be another wasted day,’ he told 
suggested that we do errands 
morning but that by one P.M. we 
gether for a movie or just go for 
I don’t give up so easily anymoré 
surprisingly, they had a wonde 
together. ‘I needed an extra n 
Claudia admitted, ‘and I’m g 
Steve cared enough to give it to m 
“By the time they ended cour 
Claudia said she felt she had fina 
given her husband. ‘I don’t need 1 
that battle anymore,’ she told me. 
him—and I know he loves me.’ ” 


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t was an unexpectedly 
glorious time: I was 
forty years old and eight 
months pregnant. Fnends 
said that I glowed, the 
way only women carrying a 
new life sometimes do. What I 
didn’t realize was that during 
fruitful 


body was also 


those long and 
months, my 
growing something else—cells 
multiplying astronomically, 
terrifvingly. The breast cancer 
that had caused my mother to 
die at age forty-seven was 
about to overturn my life. 

My husband, David Reid, 
and I had married young, but 
like many women of my gener- 
ation, I had delayed childbear- 
ing until my thirties. The 
consequences, in my case, were 
painful: years of 
operations, hor- | Wds 
mones and regu- 
lar visits to the 
infertility clinic. 
So, when I finally 
became pregnant 
in 1991], it truly 
seemed to be a 
miracle. 

Then, in late September of that 
year—a month before the baby was 
due—I found the lump in my left 
breast and suddenly realized I 
hadn’t examined myself in months. 
Given my family history, I had al- 
ways been punctilious about breast 
self-exams; however, I had been so 
happily involved during the first 
months of my pregnancy that the 





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eight months pregnant. happily 
awaiting the birth of my first child. 


Then | learned the terrifying news 
had the eancer that killed my mother 


shadow of breast cancer had van- 
ished from my mind for the first 
time since my teens. I made a note 
to tell my obstetrician, Dr. Laurie 
Goldstein, about it at my upcoming 
appointment. In the meantime, 
David and I tried to keep calm. 
Laurie and her colleague exam- 
ined me, then immediately sent me 


to a radiologist for a breast sono- 


AVE TO BE YOUR MOTHER, by Gayle Feldmar 


Copyright © 1994 by Gayle Feldman 
Norton & Company, Inc 






































gram (mammograms aren’t reco 
mended for pregnant women) an 
a needle aspiration of cells from th 
lump. I walked home slowly to o 
Manhattan apartment that evenin 
haunted by long-dormant scene 
from childhood. 

I was eleven years oldi 
1963 when my mother fell 1 
‘The standard procedure fo 
breast cancer then was a Hal 
sted radical mastectomy 
which removes the breast an 
the surrounding chest mus 
cles. But the disease was ré 
lentless. By the time he 
doctors removed her ovaries 
few vears later to stop the flo 
of estrogen, which sometime 
fuels the spread of breast can 
cer, her lungs, bones and live 
had already been affected. 

After the cancer really too 
hold, the mental and emotion 
al strain became too much fo 
my father; he had a break 
down and went away for 
while. My older sister, Sandy 
was away at college, so I wa 
left to care for my six-year-ol 
sister, Vickie, a 
our mother slow 
ly disintegrate 
before our eyes 
She spent mos 
of her final yea 
home, the 
was hospitalize 
when her privat 
nurse could n 
longer manage. I was fifteen whe 
she died: stll a child, although my 
childhood had long since ended. 

Now I knew something abou 
what it was to be a mother, and th 
progress of my days, despite all my 
efforts to the contrary, seemed to b 
following the same path as that 0 
the woman who had given me lifelf 


forty years before. (continued 











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MULE d 


Three days after the sonogram, I was 
at my office—I’m the “Book News” ed- 
itor for Publishers Weekly magazine— 
when Laurie called to say the lump was 
malignant. How to describe the mo- 
ment that divided my life into “before” 
and “after”? Part of me was stunned; 
another part was flooded with images, 
thoughts and feelings. When I could fi- 
nally speak, I was sobbing. I wondered 
if I had given the cancer to the baby. I 
wondered if I would need a maternity 
leave at all. 

By the time David and I arrived at 
Laurie’s office that afternoon, she had 
already spoken to Dr. Steve Brower, 
who would be my cancer surgeon. The 
doctors agreed that the way to proceed 
was to induce labor right away, since the 
hormones supporting the pregnancy 
were probably speeding the progress of 
the cancer. Then the lump could be re- 
moved and examined to see what sort of 
malignancy it contained, and any neces- 
sary treatment performed. 

All I could produce were little stran- 
gled sounds, but David knew what I 
wanted to say. “The baby isn’t due for 
another five weeks,” he said. “What are 
the risks? Could the baby have cancer, 
too?” Laurie quickly said, “No way. It 
just doesn’t work like that.” And provid- 
ed the baby’s weight was good, she 
added, everything should be fine. 

David and I had less than seventy- 
two hours in which to make plans and 
tell the news to our families. We were 
supposed to have moved to a new town 
house before the baby arrived; now we 
put the move on hold and rushed to fix 
up a nursery in our apartment. These 
were days of dread and intense activity: 
reading up on cancer, finding child-care 
help. We couldn’t sleep, could barely 
eat; we lived on our nerves and whatever 
vestige of hope remained. But I knew 
that whatever happened, my husband 
would be beside me. 

I checked into Mount Sinai Hospital 
on Sunday, September 29, to begin the 
long, drug-induced labor. Just before 
midnight on October 1, Benjamin Reid 
was born, healthy and beautiful, as tears 
streamed down David’s face. For a few 
hours, I was grateful I could be a joyful 
mother and nothing else. 

Three days later, I left the light and 
new life of the maternity ward to be- 
come a cancer patient in the same hos- 
pital. The lump was biopsied. under 
local anesthesia, and Steve Brower had 
the preliminary results within hours. 
“The cancer was in both samples, and 
they think it looks invasive,” he told us. 
“Gayle, David, ’'m so sorry. We’ll have 
to schedule a mastectomy... .” I could 
feel the tears, dammed up for so long, 


20 JSARIEC’ HOME JOURNAL - MAY 1004 


trickle down my cheeks. 

I was released from Mount Sinai that 
afternoon, and David brought Benjamin 
home a few hours later. I found it un- 
bearable that our son was coming home 
to a mother who would be around only 
a few days before going back into the 
hospital. And yet we couldn’t give in to 
the enormous sadness and panic we felt; 
we had a baby to take care of. 

My sisters and father came up from 
Philadelphia that weekend to offer sup- 
port. It was then that Dad revealed 
something to us for the first ttme: Our 
mother’s mother had died of cancer, 
too. Dismayed, we realized that this dis- 
ease now spanned three generations. 

The following week, life was thrown 
into upheaval again when we learned 
that Steve Brower was ill and would not 
be able to operate. I was referred to Dr. 
Jeanne Petrek at Memorial Sloan-Ket- 
tering Cancer Center, who rescheduled 
the operation. 

When I told Jeanne about my mother, 
she said, “You know, some women in 
your situation—premenopausal with a 
strong family history and cancer already 
identified in one breast—decide to have 
the noncancerous breast removed, too.” 
I was shocked: None of my doctors had 
talked about having my other breast tak- 
en off. But I couldn’t think about that 
option now. And there were too many 


WHEN CANCER IS INHERITED 


Gayle Feldman is one of the 5 to 10 percent of breastcancer patients whose ¢ 
ease runs in the family—and knowing her history helped save her life. Genetic ¢ 
cer, unlike the nongenetic type, is inheritable, and it tends to strike early and 
more aggressive. Having a “first-degree” relative—a mother or sister—with gene 
breast cancer doubles your risk; two such relatives raises your risk six times. Pater 
or second-degree relatives (grandmothers, aunts) present a smaller, though sig 
cant, risk. Age is also a key factor here, say experts: The younger your relative 
at the onset, the higher your risk and the earlier it is likely to occur. 

Having a family history, however, doesn’t necessarily mean you will devel 
the disease—only that you need to be cautious about your health. Since one 
nine women will develop breast cancer by age eightytive, the odds are t 
some female relative will eventually be affected. 

Researchers are now working toward a simple blood test that would ena 
doctors to identify the breastcancer gene and administer preventive and did 
nostic care. In the meantime, women with a family history “should be follow 
closely,” says Joellen Schildkraut, Ph.D., an epidemiologist at the Duke Univers 
Comprehensive Cancer Center, in Durham, North Carolina. 

Breast and ovarian cancers share a gene, so a family incidence of either ig 
risk factor for both. Currently, only a manual gynecological exam can detect ea 

hee at risk must have an annual pelvic examinati 
No other cancer is as strongly linked to breast cancer, but colon cancer is nolq 
ously hereditary in both men and women. Anyone with a family history sho 
consult a doctor. Screening procedures include the fecal occult blood test af 


stage ovarian cancer, so 


colonoscopy or sigmoidoscopy 





Though genetic breast cancer offen involves both breasts, specialists don’t ¢ 
tomatically endorse the option Feldman chose: prophylactic mastectomy (preve 
tive removal of the healthy breast). Still, the procedure can provide peace 
mind, and women with any family history should establish a relationship with 
breast specialist to learn all their options. 

For more information, contact the National Cancer Institute’s Cancer Informatig 
Service, 800-4-CANCER, from nine A.M. to seven P.M. in all areas. —LYNN HAR 












































things to do in the next few days. ¥ 

I tried hard not to cry as I held 
the night before the surgery, but sf 
tears fell anyway. I closed my eyes! 
tried to imprint his smell, his lookj 
feel on my brain. I wanted to carry 
with me forever. 

I arrived at Sloan-Kettering ear} 
the morning, my gut working overt 
David stayed with me in the wa 
room; just before I was rolled awa 
surgery, he put his arms around me} 
whispered, “I love you.” 

My first thought as I woke up 2a 
ward was: I made it through. I did 
question whether the cancer had mig 
ed to the nine lymph nodes excised fi 
under my arm, or whether it had t 
eled onward. And when I was shown 
incision the next day, it wasn’t as ba 
I had dreaded. I was so glad simpl 
be alive that the loss didn’t seem tor 
ter much at that point. 4 

During that week, I attended gi 
therapy sessions led by a social wor 
Once, a woman in her seventies ta 
to u$ about the mastectomy she’d 
fort’ years ago. In her day, she s 
there were no such support groups 
one to give hope or encouragemer 
thought of my mother, who had tai 
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A woman today 


continued 


The pathology 
days after surgery, 


report came in two 
and time seemed to 
slow to a crawl] until Jeanne Petrek came 
in with the verdict. “It’s all noninva- 
she said, smiling. “In cancer 
terms, you haven’t even reached Stage 
1. You are really I had been giv- 
en back my life. It was better than we 
had dared hope. 

The day betore I was released from 
the hospital, an oncologist, Dr. Teresa 
Gilewski, came to my room for a final 
examination. David and I braced our- 
selves to hear what kind of radiation or 
chemotherapy was in store, and were as- 
tonished to learn that I wouldn’t need 
any further treatment. My cancer had 
been confined to the milk ducts and 
lobes, and the chance that it had spread 
was so tiny that no one felt 1t was worth 
putting me through chemo. 


sive,” 


lucky.” 


I should have felt triumphant, 
was panicky 


vet I 
How could I not do some- 
thing else to keep the cancer away, to 
not one cell remained? As 
these thoughts tumbled through my 
head, Dr. Gilewski also brought up the 
subject of prophylactic mastectomy to 
prevent the cancer from recurring in the 
other breast. 
It was too much to comprehend. 


32 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - MAY 1994 


make sure 


the course of three weeks, I had been di- 
agnosed with cancer, given birth five 
weeks early and had a mastectomy. Now 
they were telling me I should come back 
and undergo surgery vet again. David’s 
grim face mirrored my own. 

After I returned home, I spoke again 
to Jeanne and to other specialists. They 
all agreed that it was an option I ought 
to consider, but that I should take a year 
to think about it carefully. So I focused 
on my recovery: resting, regaining my 
strength and enjoying our son. 

When I was feeling stronger, we final- 
ly moved to our new house, and I re- 
turned to work. I also found a support 
group for breast-cancer survivors who 
had young children. That spring, we 
ited my mother’s grave. I understood so 
much more now, while so much was 
even more uncertain. But as I looked at 
my sleeping son—my mother’s grand- 
son—lI knew we would go on. 

October came again, and I went for 
my first annual checkup and mammo- 
gram. After Jeanne assured me that ev- 
erything looked good, I asked about the 
preventive mastectomy. What would the 
risks be if I decided against it? She an- 
swered, “The chance of a recurrence 
from the original cancer is pretty small. 
But I’d say, given your history, there’s a 
fifty to sixty percent chance that over 
tume you'd develop a new primary can- 


vis- 





cer in the other breast. It might nc 
pen for eight or fifteen years, bijf 
did, the prognosis probably woulc#} 
as good.” I somehow had nevergg 
oned on odds quite that high. 

The surgery would be much 
this time, Jeanne added, since or} 
breast tissue would be removed, fg 
terward, the odds of recurrence ji 
drop to one in one hundred. Buti 
to make the choice soon, while thie 
breast was still free of cancer. 

David and I had already talked 
it. I knew he loved me and would 
by me whatever I looked like, but 
realized that somewhere within hij 
was nervous about what he woul 
to face. And I had to admit th 
sense of womanhood was comforfy 
still having one breast. How would 
about myself if it was gone? 

And yet, I already knew what I 
do. I thought of my mother. I thi 
of Ben, whose first birthday we hajj 
celebrated. Eight years, fifteen yi 
that wasn’t enough. I had a sacr@ 
sponsibility to do anything possi§) 
make sure I saw my boy grow up. # 
also had a responsibility to my 
wanted to live 

The deed was done early in D& 
ber 1992. While I did feel the loss 
ly, the emotion that surged abovg 
sadness was the overwhelming feel§ 
relief. It was the right decision. I hi 
regrets. Since then, life has conti 
on its way. The doctors courf 
among those who can consider 7 
selves cured; nonetheless, I do nel 
be monitored carefully. 

On the bad days, when I’m tri 
under pressure, the ordinary achea} 
pains of life translate themselvesii 
fears of a metastasis. There are 
when I feel consumed with anger ff 
breast cancer itself: when I cannci 
derstand why so little is being done 
so many women are still silent, 
more and more women will suffe| 
many will die before time and nt 
and consciousness enough are deift 
to finding a cure. 

But on the good days, I feel the # 
being alive, of strolling with mill 
through the park, having a meal willl 
husband in our home, chatting wit 
family, watching the world of the cf} 
by through the window of my I 
These and other pleasures are gifts 
not take for granted. ; 

I think of how my mother’s pathi 
mine diverged, converged, dives 
again. I know full well I don’t have 
my mother; my life doesn’t have wfié 
low the course hers took, whet® 
spend the rest of it cancer-free orl® 
Yes, I am her daughter, but I don’t 
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It's everyone's favorite time of 


year—beaches, barbecues, 
long, lazy days relaxing in 
the sunshine. But the very 
things that make summer so 
wondertul can also be 
detrimental to your health 


and your looks. So we've 


asked top doctors across the 


country for the latest news 
and advice on everything 
from skin-cancer protection 
to breakout prevention. 
Summer is just around the 


corner—make it the best 


season ever. By Linda Fears 


and Joan Lippert 


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A sunburn isn’t the only reason 
to avoid excess sun exposure. 
Too much sun also causes wrin- 
kles, freckles, age spots and, most 
serious, skin cancer. “Be sensi- 
ble,” advises Dr. Coleman. (For 
our team of experts, see page 52.) 
“Balance sun exposure with the 
kind of lifestyle you lead. If you 
enjoy tennis, waterskiing and oth- 
er outdoor activities, you must do 
three things: Use sunscreen with 


an SPF [sun-protection factor] of 


at least fifteen faithfully; schedule 


Here comes the sun: 





your activity before ten A.M. or 
after two P.M., avoiding the mid- 
day hours, when the sun is 
strongest; and wear protective 
clothing whenever possible. A hat 
is mandatory—it shields the scalp 
and shades the face—and the big- 
ger the brim, the better. We’ve 
been finding more and more skin 
cancer on the scalp because as 
people age, their. hair thins and 
the scalp is more exposed.” 


THE LATEST NEWS ON SUNSCREEN 
Don’t bother using any sunscreen 
with an SPF below 


(continued) 
51 


loctors cuide to SUMMER 


ed)  fifteen—in fact, most 
natologists recommend get- 

ng the most protection you can 
by using the highest-SPF, water- 


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broad-spectrum sunscreen 

CE ind. (Broad spectrum 

ns it blocks UV-A and UV-B 

rays. UV-A rays cause wrinkles 

and age spots; UV-B rays cause 

burning. Remember A for aging, 
B for burning.) 

What does SPF mean? It’s the 
ratio of the amount of exposure to 
UV rays required to cause skin 
redness with a sunscreen to the 
amount required without a sun- 
screen. So if your skin burns after 
thirty minutes in the sun without 
a sunscreen, wearing an SPF 15 
sunscreen will allow you to be in 
direct sunlight for fifteen times 
that, or more than seven hours, 


without burning. However, sun- 
screens do not block all UV rays. 
“An SPF fifteen 


blocks ninety-four per- 
cent of UV-B rays, an 
SPF thirty blocks ninety- 
seven percent of UV-B 
rays and an SPF fifty 
blocks ninety-eight per- 
cent of UV-B rays,” 
says Dr. Rigel. “So, 
even if you don’t burn, 
you are exposed to some UV-B 
rays. UV-A ray blockage is harder 
to measure. But if you use an SPF 
fifteen or higher, you'll block over 
eighty-five percent of UV-A rays. 
And since people often skimp 
when applying sunscreen and ap- 
ply it unevenly, they often don’t 
get the full SPF protection that 


the product offers. An 
ounce of sunscreen— 
the equivalent of a shot 
glass full—is the 
amount required to 
properly protect an av- 
erage-size person. If you 
skimp when using an 
SPF fifteen, you may 
end up with an SPF six, 
whereas if you skimp 
using an SPF fifty, 
you'll still get adequate 
protection.” 

Apply sunscreen be- 
fore you go outside (ev- 
ery day, even on cloudy 





7 


days—80 percent of UV 
rays break through the 
clouds); thoroughly 
reapply sunscreen at 
least every two hours 
and always after swim- 
ming or heavy sweating. 


SUNSCREEN’S LIMITATIONS 

Sunscreens aren’t perfect. If ap- 
plied properly, they can prevent a 
burn, which is important, says Dr. 
Robins, because studies have 
shown that burns are likely to de- 
velop into skin cancer. Sunscreens 
can also protect against some fu- 
ture freckling and brown spots, 


OUR TEAM OF EXPERTS ee 


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Diana Bihova, clinical assistant professor of dermatology at New York University School 
of Medicine, in New York City; William P. Coleman Ill, M.D., dermatologist in Metairie, 
Louisiana, and clinical associate professor of dermatology at Tulane University School of 
Medicine, in New Orleans; Darrell S. Rigel, M.D., clinical associate professor at New 
York University Medical Center; Perry Robins, M.D., president and founder of The Skin 
Cancer Foundation; O.J. Rustad, M.D., medical director of the Advanced Skin Care Insti- 
tute, in Minneapolis-St. Paul; Ron Smith, M.D., president of the American Academy of 
Ophthalmology and professor and chairman of the department of ophthalmology at the 
University of Southern California, in Los Angeles, and Doheny Eye Institute. 


52 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL 


MAY 1994 


HEALTH and BEAUTY 


Vielanoma is the most common cancer 
in women aged twenty-five to twentv- 
nine and is second only to breast cancer 


in women aged thirtv to thirtv-four. 


and they can Jower your risk for de- 
veloping solar keratosis (precan- 
cerous lesions) and skin cancer. 
But remember that you can devel- 
op skin cancer even if you don’t 
get a sunburn. 

Says Dr. Rigel, “The only way to 
completely protect yourself against 
skin cancer is to avoid the sun.” 


SKIN CANCER: 

WHAT YOU MUST KNOW 

Skin cancer is on the rise, and the 
incidence of malignant melanoma, 
the deadliest form of skin cancer, 1s 
growing faster than any other can- 
cer in the U.S. and in the world. 
It’s rising most rapidly in people 
under forty—especially women. 
“Melanoma is the most common 
cancer in women aged twenty-five 
to twenty-nine and is (continued) 





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nued) second only 

to breast cancer in women 
aged thirty to thirty-four,” 
says Rigel. “The most likely 
cause for the increase in 
melanoma worldwide is the 
depletion of the ozone lay- 
er. And there are probably 
more cases of melanoma 
among young women to- 
day because of too much 
sun exposure during their 
teenage years—girls tend 
to sunbathe more than 
boys. Since most sun dam- 
age happens before age 
twenty and it takes ten to 
twenty years for melanoma 
to develop, women aged 
twenty-five to forty are 
seeing the results of that 
early damage now.” 

Melanoma is the most 
serious of the three major 
skin cancers, which include basal- 
cell carcinoma and squamous-cell 
carcinoma. Early detection of skin 
cancer is crucial—it’s easy to cure 
if diagnosed and treated early. 
Here’s what to look for: 
Basal-cell carcinoma The most 
common type of skin cancer (it 
represents 80 percent of all skin 
cancers), basal-cell carcinoma af- 
fects over half a million Ameri- 
cans every year. Those at highest 
risk are people with fair skin, light 
hair, and blue, green or gray eyes. 
It usually looks like a pearly 
growth or bump that may crust 
and bleed. This type of cancer 
rarely spreads. 
Squamous-cell carcinoma The 
second most common skin can- 


doctors’ cuide to SUMMER 


cer, it affects about 100,000 
Americans every year. Again, fair- 
skinned, light-eyed people are 
most at risk. It typically resembles 
a crusty, scablike lesion that can 
bleed and doesn’t heal. If left un- 
treated, this cancer does eventual- 


ly penetrate the underlying 
tissues, and though it rarely 
metastasizes to vital organs, if it 
does, it can be fatal. 

Malignant melanoma The 
deadliest type of skin cancer, 
melanoma arises in moles or in 
the tanning cells of the skin and 
can spread rapidly throughout the 
body. Those most at risk are fair- 
skinned, light-eyed people, those 
with a family history of melanoma 
and people who have a lot of 


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Free skin-cancer test 
The American Academy of Dermatology (AAD) is once again offering a month 
of free skin-cancer screenings. This year marks the tenth anniversary of National 
Melanoma/Skin Cancer Detection and Prevention Month, and the 1994 theme 
is “Burning Issues.” Over the past ten years the AAD has screened nearly 700,000 
Americans and detected more than forty-five hundred suspected melanomas. 
For more information on free cancer screenings, skin cancer and sun protection, 
send a SASE to American Academy of Dermatology, P.O. Box 681-069, 
Schaumburg, IL 60168; or contact your dermatologist, local hospital or clinic. 


54 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - MAY 1994 





HEALTH and BEAUTY 


moles. One out of every one hun- 
dred five Americans is at risk of 
developing malignant melanoma. 
Women develop melanoma most 
often on the legs; men on the 
chest, shoulders and back—the 
patterns are probably related to 
different styles of dress. 

The fastest-growing treatment 
for skin cancer is Mohs micro- 
graphic surgery (named for Freder- 
ic E. Mohs, M.D., who developed 
the technique about forty-four 
years ago). “One of every four or 
five skin-cancer patients is treated 
by this method,” says Dr. Robins. 
Mohs surgery offers the highest 





1, It’s the most common kind of — 
cancer. 
2. One in every three cancers is | 
skin cancer. ; 
3. One of every six Americans 
gets it; one of every three | 
fair-haired, light-skinned | 
Americans gets it. 
_ 4. More than 600,000 new cases 
are diagnosed every year. 
5. The sun causes at least 90 
percent of all skin cancers. 





cure rate and sacrifices the least 
amount of healthy tissue because it 
traces Cancer to its roots. Ehe 
method: Thin layers of tissue are 
surgically removed and immediate- 
ly examined for malignant cells in a 
specially equipped lab in the doc- 
tor’s office; when all areas of tissue 
are cancer-free, surgery is com- 
plete. Other common treatments 
include scraping, burning, radia- 
tion, cryosurgery (freezing tissue 


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chemotherapy. 
THE ABCD MELANOMA CHECK 


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OT INTERVAL PROLONGATION/VENTRICULAR ARRHYTHMIA 
RARE CASES OF SERIOUS CARDIOVASCULAR ADVERSE EVENTS, 
INCLUDING DEATH, CARDIAC ARREST, TORSADES DE POINTES, 
AND OTHER VENTRICULAR ARRHYTHMIAS, HAVE BEEN OBSERVED 
IN THE FOLLOWING CLINICAL SETTINGS, FREQUENTLY IN 
ASSOCIATION WITH INCREASED TERFENADINE LEVELS WHICH 
LEAD TO ELECTROCARDIOGRAPHIC OT PROLONGATION: 
CONCOMITANT ADMINISTRATION OF KETOCONAZOLE 
(NIZORAL) OR ITRACONAZOLE (SPORANOX) 
2. OVERDOSE, INCLUDING SINGLE TERFENADINE DOSES AS 
LOW AS 360 MG 
3. CONCOMITANT ADMINISTRATION OF CLARITHROMYCIN, 
ERYTHROMYCIN, OR TROLEANDOMYCIN 
4. SIGNIFICANT HEPATIC DYSFUNCTION 
TERFENADINE IS CONTRAINDICATED IN PATIENTS TAKING 
KETOCONAZOLE, ITRACONAZOLE, ERYTHROMYCIN, CLARITHRO- 
| MYCIN, OR TROLEANDOMYCIN, AND IN PATIENTS WITH SIGNIF- 
| |CANT HEPATIC DYSFUNCTION. 
DO NOT EXCEED RECOMMENDED DOSE. 
IN SOME CASES, SEVERE ARRHYTHMIAS HAVE BEEN PRECEDED 
BY EPISODES OF SYNCOPE. SYNCOPE IN PATIENTS RECEIVING 
TERFENADINE SHOULD LEAD TO DISCONTINUATION OF TREAT- 
MENT AND FULL EVALUATION OF POTENTIAL ARRHYTHMIAS. 
(See CONTRAINDICATIONS, WARNINGS, CLINICAL PHARMA- 
COLOGY, AND PRECAUTIONS: DRUG INTERACTIONS.) 


DESCRIPTION 7 
SELDANE-D (terfenadine and pseudoephedrine hydrochloride) Extended- 
Release Tablets are available for oral administration 

Each tablet contains 60 mg terfenadine and 10 mg of pseudoephedrine 
hydrochloride in an outer press-coat for immediate release and 110 mg 
pseudoephedrine hydrochloride in an extended-release core. Tablets also 
contain. as inactive ingredients. colloidal silicon dioxide. ethylcellulose 
glycerin, hydroxypropyl cellulose, hydroxypropyl methylcellulose 2208. 
hydroxypropyl methylcellulose 2910, lactose. magnesium stearate, 
microcrystalline cellulose, polysorbate 80, precipitated calcium 
carbonate, pregelatinized corn starch. sodium lauryl sulfate, sodium 
starch glycolate, talc. titanium dioxide. and zinc stearate 


INDICATIONS AND USAGE 

SELDANE-D is indicated for the relief of symptoms associated with 
seasonal allergic rhinitis such as sneezing, rhinorrhea, pruritus. lacrima- 
tion. and nasal congestion. It should be administered when both the 
antihistaminic properties of SELDANE (tertenadine) and the nasal decon- 
gestant activity of pseudoephedrine hydrochloride are desired (see 
CLINICAL PHARMACOLOGY) 

SELDANE-D has not been studied for effectiveness in relieving the 
symptoms of the common cold 


CONTRAINDICATIONS 

CONCOMITANT ADMINISTRATION OF SELDANE-D WITH KETOCONA- 
ZOLE (NIZORAL) OR ITRACONAZOLE (SPORANOX) IS CONTRAINDI- 
CATED. SELDANE-D IS ALSO CONTRAINDICATED IN PATIENTS WITH 
DISEASE STATES OR OTHER CONCOMITANT MEDICATIONS KNOWN TO 
IMPAIR ITS METABOLISM. INCLUDING SIGNIFICANT HEPATIC 
DYSFUNCTION, AND CONCURRENT USE OF CLARITHROMYCIN. 
ERYTHROMYCIN. OR TROLEANDOMYCIN. QT PROLONGATION HAS 
BEEN DEMONSTRATED IN SOME PATIENTS TAKING TERFENADINE IN 
THESE SETTINGS. AND RARE CASES OF SERIOUS CARDIOVASCULAR 
EVENTS. INCLUDING DEATH. CARDIAC ARREST, AND TORSADES DE 
POINTES, HAVE BEEN REPORTED IN THESE PATIENT POPULATIONS 
SF WARNINGS and PRECAUTIONS: Drug Interactions.) 

ELDANE-D Is contraindicated in nursing mothers, patients with severe 
hypertension or severe coronary artery disease, patients receiving 
monoamine oxidase (MAOQ) inhibitor therapy, and in patients with a 
known hypersensitivity to any of its ingredients (see DESCRIPTION 
section) 


WARNINGS 

Terfenadine undergoes extensive metabolism in the liver by a specific 
cytochrome P-450 isoenzyme. This metabolic pathway may be impaired 
in patients with hepatic dysfunction (alcoholic cirrhosis, hepatitis) or who 
are taking drugs such as ketoconazole, itraconazole, or clarithromycin, 
erythromycin. or troleandomycin (macrolide antibiotics), or other potent 
inhibitors of this isoenzyme. Interference with this metabolism can lead 
to elevated terfenadine plasma levels associated with QT prolongation 
and increased risk of ventricular tachyarrhythmias (such as torsades de 
pointes. ventricular tachycardia, and ventricular fibrillation) at the recom- 
mended dose. SELDANE-D is contraindicated for use by patients with 
these conditions (see WARNING BOX, CONTRAINDICATIONS, and 
PRECAUTIONS. Drug Interactions) 

Other patients who may be at risk for these adverse cardiovascular 
events include patients who may experience new or increased QT prolon- 
gation while receiving certain drugs or having conditions which lead to 
QT prolongation These inc'ude patients taking certain antiarrhythmics 
bepridil, certain psychotropics. probucol, or astemizole: patients with 
electrolyte abnormalities such as hypokalemia or hypomagnesemia, or 
taking diuretics with potential for inducing electrolyte abnormalities: and 
patients with congenital QT syndrome. SELDANE-D is not recommended 
for use by patients with these conditions 

The relationship of underlying cardiac disease to the development of ventric- 
ular tachyarrhythmias while on SELDANE-D therapy is unclear, nonetheless. 
SELDANE-D should also be used with caution in these patients. 
Sympathomimetic amines should be used judiciously and sparingly in 
patients with hypertension, diabetes mellitus, ischemic heart disease 
increased intraocular pressure, hyperthyroidism, or prostatic hyper- 
trophy (see CONTRAINDICATIONS). Sympathomimetic amines may 
produce CNS stimulation with convulsions or cardiovascular collapse 
with accompanying hypotension 

Use in Elderly 

The elderly are more likely to have adverse reactions to sympath- 
omimetic amines 

PRECAUTIONS 

General 

SELDANE-D should be used with caution in patients with diabetes 
hypertension, cardiovascular disease. and hyperreactivity to ephedrine 
Information for Patients 

Patients taking SELDANE-D should receive the following information and 
instructions. Patients should be advised to take SELDANE-D only as 






_— 





needed and NOT TO EXCEED THE PRESCRIBED DOSE. Patients should 
be questioned about use of any other prescription or over-the-counter 
medication. and should be cautioned regarding the potential for life- 
threatening arrhythmias with concurrent use of ketoconazole, itracona- 
zole, clarithromycin, erythromycin, or troleandomycin. Patients should 
be advised to consult the physician before concurrent use of other 
medications with terfenadine. Patients should be questioned about 
pregnancy or lactation before starting SELDANE-O therapy. since the 
drug is contraindicated in nursing women and should be used in 
pregnancy only if the potential benefit justifies the potential risk to the 
fetus. Patients should be directed to swallow the tablet whole. Patients 
should also be instructed to store this medication in a tightly closed 
container in a cool, dry place, away from heat. moisture, or direct 
sunlight. and away from children 


Drug Interactions (see CONTRAINDICATIONS) 

Monoamine oxidase (MAO) inhibitors and beta-adrenergic agonists 
increase the effect of sympathomimetic amines. Sympathomimetic 
amines may reduce the antihypertensive effects of methyldopa, mecamy- 
lamine, and reserpine. MAO inhibitors may prolong and intensify the 
effects of antihistamines. 

Care should be taken in the administration of SELDANE-D concomitantly 
with other sympathomimetic amines because combined effects on the 
cardiovascular system may be harmful to the patient 

Ketoconazole 

Spontaneous adverse reaction reports of patients taking concomitant 
ketoconazole with recommended doses of terfenadine demonstrate QT 
interval prolongation and rare serious cardiac events, e.g. death. cardiac 
arrest, and ventricular arrhythmia including torsades de pointes. 
Pharmacokinetic data indicate that ketoconazole markedly inhibits the 
metabolism of terfenadine, resulting in elevated plasma terfenadine 
levels. Presence of unchanged terfenadine is associated with statistically 
significant prolongation of the QT and QTc intervals. Concomitant 
administration of ketoconazole and SELDANE-D is contraindicated 
(see CONTRAINDICATIONS, WARNINGS, and ADVERSE REACTIONS) 
Itraconazole 

Torsades de pointes and elevated parent terfenadine levels have been 
reported during concomitant use of terfenadine and Itraconazole in 
clinical trials of itraconazole and from foreign post-marketing sources 
One death has also been reported from foreign post-marketing sources 
Concomitant administration of itraconazole and SELDANE-D is 
contraindicated (see CONTRAINDICATIONS, WARNINGS, and ADVERSE 
REACTIONS) 

Due to the chemical similarity of other azole-type antifungal agents 
(including fluconazole. metronidazole, and miconazole) to ketoconazole 
and itraconazole, concomitant use of these products with SELDANE-D is 
not recommended pending full examination of potential interactions 
Macrolides 

Clinical drug interactions studies indicate that erythromycin and 
clarithromycin can exert an effect on terfenadine metabolism by a 
mechanism which may be similar to that of ketoconazole, but to a lesser 
extent. Although erythromycin measurably decreases the clearance of the 
terfenadine acid metabolite, its influence on tertenadine plasma levels is 
still under investigation. A few spontaneous accounts of QT interval 
prolongation with ventricular arrhythmia including torsades de pointes 
have been reported in patients receiving erythromycin and trolean- 
domycin 

Concomitant administration of SELDANE-D with clarithromycin, 
erythromycin, or troleandomycin is contraindicated (see CONTRAINDI- 
CATIONS, WARNINGS, and ADVERSE REACTIONS). Pending full charac- 
terization of potential interactions, concomitant administration of 
SELDANE-D with other macrolide antibiotics, including azithromycin, is 
not recommended. Studies to evaluate the potential interaction of terfen- 
adine with azithromycin are in progress 


Carci is, Mutagenesis in f Fertili 

No studies have been conducted to evaluate the carcinogenic potential of 
SELDANE-D. 

Oral doses of terfenadine, corresponding to 63 times the recommended 
human daily dose, in mice for 18 months or in rats for 24 months, 
revealed no evidence of tumorigenicity. Microbial and micronucleus test 
assays with tertenadine have revealed no evidence of mutagenesis 
Reproduction and fertility studies with terfenadine in rats showed no 
effects on male or female fertility at oral doses of up to 21 times the human 
daily dose. At 63 times the human daily dose there was a small but signifi- 
cant reduction in implants and at 125 times the human daily dose reduced 
implants and increased post-implantation losses were observed, which 
were judged to be secondary to maternal toxicity. Animal reproduction 
studies have not been carried out with pseudoephedrine 


Pregnancy Cale! 

The combination of terfenadine and pseudoephedrine hydrochloride (in a 
ratio of 1:2 by weight) has been shown to produce reduced fetal weight 
in rats and rabbits at 42 times the human dose, and delayed ossification 
with wavy ribs in a few fetuses when given to rats at a dose of 63 times 
the human daily dose. There are no adequate and well-controlled studies 
in pregnant women. SELDANE-D should be used during pregnancy only 
if the potential benefit justifies the potential risk to the fetus 


Nursing Mothers (see CONTRAINDICATIONS) 

Terfenadine has caused decreased pup weight gain and survival in rats 
given doses 63 times and 125 times the human daily dose throughout 
pregnancy and lactation 

Pediatric Use 

Safety and effectiveness of SELDANE-D in children below the age of 12 
years have not been established 


ADVERSE REACTIONS 

Cardiovascular Adverse Events 

With terfenadine. rare reports of severe cardiovascular adverse effects 
have been received which include ventricular tachyarrhythmias (torsades 
de pointes, ventricular tachycardia, ventricular fibrillation, and cardiac 
arrest), hypotension, palpitations. syncope, and dizziness. Rare reports 
of deaths resulting from ventricular tachyarrhythmias have been received 
(see CONTRAINDICATIONS, WARNINGS, and PRECAUTIONS: Drug 
Interactions). Hypotension, palpitations, syncope. and dizziness could 
reflect undetected ventricular arrhythmia. IN SOME PATIENTS. DEATH. 
CARDIAC ARREST. OR TORSADES DE POINTES HAVE BEEN PRECEDED 
BY EPISODES OF SYNCOPE. (See WARNING BOX.) Rare reports of 
serious cardiovascular adverse events have been received. some 
involving QT prolongation and torsades de pointes, in apparently normal 
individuals without identifiable risk factors; there is not conclusive 
evidence of a causal relationship of these events with terfenadine. 
Although in rare cases there was measurable plasma terfenadine, the 
implications of this finding with respect to the variability of terfenadine 
Metabolism in the normal population cannot be assessed without further 
study. In controlled clinical trials in otherwise normal patients with 
rhinitis, small increases in QTc interval were observed at doses of 60 mg 
b.i.d. In studies at 300 mg b.i.d. a mean increase in QTc of 10% (range 
—4% to + 30%) (mean increase of 46 msec) was observed. 


ral Adverse Even P 
In double-blind, parallel, controlled studies in over 300 patie 
SELDANE-D was compared to extended-release pseud 
adverse reactions reported for greater than 1% of the pati 
SELDANE-D were not clinically different from those reported fo 
receiving pseudoephedrine (see Table below). 


Frequently (>1%) Reported Adverse Events for SELDANE-D 
Double-blind, Parallel, Controlled Clinical Trials* 3 
{ Percent of Patients Reporting § 








































| 
| Pseudo- 
| Adverse Event SELDANE-D | ephedrine 
(n=374) (n=287) 
Central Nervous System 
| Insomnia 25.9 | 268 
Headache ae 7.1 
Drowsiness/Sedation 7.2 49 
Nervousness 67 84 
Anorexia 37 38 
| Fatigue ea 14 
Restlessness 2A 1.0 
| Irritability 11 0.0 
Disorientation 11 } 00 
| Increased Energy 11 0.0 
| _ Hyperkinesia 1.1 1.0 
Autonomic 
Dry Mouth/Nose/Throat 217 21.3 
Blurring of Vision 11 0.3 
Gastrointestinal 
| Nausea 45 | 66 
Skin 
Rash 11 / 00 
| Cardiovascular | 
Palpitations 24 3.8 
Allergy Symptoms 
Sore Throat 19 17 
Cough 16 | 03 
Other 
Infection. Upper Respiratory 13 2.4 
Taste Alterations 11 1.0 





“SELDANE-D B.1.D.. pseudoephedrine 120 mg B.1.D. 


Pseudoephedrine may cause ephedrine-like reactions such a 
cao headache. dizziness. or nausea. Sympatho 
drugs ave also been associated with certain untoward ré 
including fear. anxiety, tenseness. restlessness, tremor, we 
pallor, respiratory difficulty, dysuria. insomnia, hallucinations. 
sions, CNS depression, arrhythmias, and cardiovascular collag 
hypotension. 
In controlled clinical trials with terfenadine, using the recommend 
dose of 60 mg bi.d., the incidence of adverse events in 
receiving terfenadine was similar to that reported in patients 
placebo. These effects included 

Central Nervous System: Drowsiness, headache. fatigue. di 
nervousness, weakness, appetite increase 
Gastrointestinal System: Abdominal distress, nausea. vomiting 
in bowel habits 
Eye, Ear, Nose and Throat: Dry mouth/nose/throat. cough, so! 
epistaxis 

Skin: Eruption (including rash and urticaria) or itching 
Also reported spontaneously during the marketing of terfenadiy 
alopecia (hair loss or thinning), anaphylaxis. angioedema, bronchi 
confusion, depression, galactorrhea. insomnia, menstrual di 
(including dysmenorrhea). musculoskeletal symptoms. nigh 
paresthesia. photosensitivity. rapid flare of psoriasis, seizure} 
tachycardia, sweating, thrombocytopenia, tremor, urinary freque! 
visual disturbances. 
Also in clinical trials, several instances of mild or, in one case, 
transaminase clevations were seen in patients receiving terfenadi 
elevations were also seen in placebo treated patients. Marketing 
ences include isolated reports of jaundice, cholestatic hepati 
hepatitis. In most cases available information is incomplete. 


OVERDOSAGE 
Information concerning possible overdosage and its treatment ap 
Full Prescribing Information. 


DOSAGE AND ADMINISTRATION 
Adults and children 12 years and older: one tablet swallowed 
morning and night 

USE OF DOSES IN EXCESS OF ONE TABLET B.1.D. IS NOT F 
MENDED BECAUSE OF THE INCREASED POTENTIAL FOR OT | 
PROLONGATION AND ADVERSE CARDIAC EVENTS. (See Wi 
BOX.) USE OF SELDANE-D IN PATIENTS WITH SIGNIFICANT } 
DYSFUNCTION AND IN PATIENTS TAKING KETOCONAZOLE, TR} 
ZOLE, CLARITHROMYCIN, ERYTHROMYCIN, OR TROLEANDOM| 
CONTRAINDICATED. (See CONTRAINDICATIONS. WARNING 
PRECAUTIONS: Drug Interactions.) 


HOW SUPPLIED 
SELDANE-D Tablets containing 60 mg of terfenadine and 1 
pseudoephedrine hydrochloride in an outer press-coat for im 
release and 110 mg of pseudoephedrine hydrochloride in an e9} 
release core are Supplied as follows: 

NOC 0068-0722-61: Bottles of 100 tablets. 
Tablets are white to off-white, biconvex capsule-shaped: de 
*"SELDANE-D". Store at controlled room temperature (59-86°F) (1 
Protect from moisture 


Prescribing Information as of January 1993 


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SAVE FACE 


Apply cool-water compresses. Take - 
two aspirin with every meal. Aspirin _ 
eases discomfort and works as an 
anti-inflammatory that can reverse 
some of the chemical reactions that 
occur in burned skin. Soothe large 
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SUN-RELATED RASHES 

Some people are actually allergic 
to certain wavelengths of the sun. 
Two reactions are: polymorphic 
light eruption (PMLE), which 
causes bumpy, scaling, blistering, 
itchy or red patches that develop 
hours to days after sun exposure; 
and solar urticaria, or sun-in- 
duced hives, which appear imme- 
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with topical or oral antihis- 
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or prescription medicines 


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prevention for both is the 


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lotions such as calamine to 
cool and dry the skin. Ward it off. 
by keeping cool and wearing 
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Sunglasses for summer 


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Summer means bugs—and dreaded bug bites. Though most bug bites aren’t dangerous, the big, ugly red welts 


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they cc ieave 


SYMPTOMS TREATMENT 
Scattered raised, red, itchy swollen areas 
1/4 inch in diameter. These can develop 
within minutes of the bites or be delayed. 


in rare cases, the bite causes fever. 


TYPE 
MOSQUITO BITES 


Cold compresses, ice, cortisone cream, 
antihistamines, antibiotic ointment to 
prevent infection. See a doctor if 
fever or other alarming symptoms 
develop. Mosquitoes can carry the 
virus that causes encephalitis. 


on your skin look awful. Here are symptoms, treatments and preventions for the most common 
bites plus the best way to cover bites on your legs (so you can wear sheer hose or shorts without worry!) 


PREVENTION 

Wear insect repellent and dark- 
color clothing. Avoid fragrances 
Stay away from standing water, 
where mosquitoes breed. 


Several red, raised-skin areas in a group 
or line, often three together, that look 
like small hives, sometimes with punc- 
ture marks in the centers. They develop 
hours after the bites, are about '/s inch 
across and appear on the arms, legs, 
waist, thighs, buttocks. In rare cases, 
cause flulike symptoms. 


FLEA BITES 


Same as for mosquito bites. 


Treat pet with flea collar, powder 
or bath; wear insect repellent; ap: 
ply insecticide to living quarters. 


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Multiple red, itchy bumps, hives or 
blisters. 


CHIGGER BITES 
(Chiggers are tiny, six-leqged 
spiderlike bugs found in the 
southern U.S.) 


Wash immediately after being bitten 
to remove chiggers from skin. Cold 
compresses, ice, calamine lotion, cor- 
tisone cream, antihistamines, antibi- 
otic ointment to prevent infection. 


Wear insect repellent; wear pro- 
tective clothing. 3 


BEE OR WASP 
STING 


A raised, red, itchy welt that develops im- 
mediately after the sting and looks like a 
hive, sometimes with a puncture mark in 
the middle. It ranges from half an inch to 
a few inches across and is the most 
painful bug bite. Less than | percent of 
people (usually allergy-prone people) de- 
velop a severe allergic reaction called 
anaphylaxis, which includes breathing 
trouble, fainting or severe hives. 


injection of adrenaline. 


e 
Are some people prone to bug bites? 
eS ccording to Dr. Rustad, children, people with higher body temperatures 

(body temperatures can vary by a few degrees from person to person) 
and anyone wearing a scent (from hairspray to scented soap to perfume) are 
most attractive to mosquitoes. Dr. Bihova says people who have allergies like hay 
fever and asthma tend to have worse reactions to bug bites in general. “Some 
people who are bitten in one spot develop five or ten more spots,” says Bihova. 
“The spots aren’t more bites, but a hypersensitive reaction to the by-products 
[the venom] of the onginal bite.” She often prescribes cortisone tape to cover 
very itchy, inflamed bites on the extremities—bites on the arms and legs tend to 
be bigger and redder. The tape, which is available only by prescnption, reduces 
inflammation and prevents scratching, which can lead to infection. 


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Same as for mosquito bites. For se- 
vere symptoms, go to a hospital 
emergency room immediately for an 


Avoid walking barefoot outdoors, 
avoid wearing perfumed products, 
carry an aerosol insecticide spra 
and dress in protective clothing. 
People with a history of severe re- 
actions should carry a bee-sting 
kit—which includes o drug thar 
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t things when there are 

reas of your body you can’t bear 
show. We’ve pinpointed five 
common skin problems—excess 
perspiration, acne breakouts, spi- 
der veins, hair removal and cel- 
lulite—and discovered some new, 


practical solutions. 


DON’T SWEAT IT 

Your antiperspirant 
doesn’t seem to do the job during 
the long, hot days of summer? 
You may be one of many people 
who perspire excessively in the 


regular 


heat and for whom regular an- 
tiperspirants are not effective. 
The active sweat-control ingredi- 
ent in antiperspirants, aluminum 
salts, is effective for controlling 
average perspiration. A more ef- 





fective ingredient is aluminum 


chloride, which is better at block- 
ing pores so sweat cannot be re- 
The over-the- 
counter antiperspirant with alu- 


leased. only 
minum chloride is Certain Dri, 
by Numark Laboratories, Inc. It 
contains 12.5 percent aluminum 
chloride. (Any antiperspirant that 
has 15 percent or more alu- 


66 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL — MAY 1994 


also one of 


minum chloride requires 
a prescription.) 

Certain Dri is potent 
and should be applied 
only at bedtime, says Dr. 
Bihova. Start with night- 
ly applications; then, as 
perspiration decreases, 
cut back to every other 
night. Apply it at the 
vault (the hair-bearing 
area) of the armpit, and 
don’t use it right after 
shaving or showering—it 
must be applied to per- 
fectly dry skin. 

If Certain Dri isn’t 
strong enough for you, 
there is a prescription 
antiperspirant called 
Drysol, by Person and Covey, 
which contains 20 percent alu- 
minum chloride. “Drysol is very 
effective, but it can be irritat- 
ing,” says Bihova. (Drysol is al- 
cohol-based, a more irritating 
solution than Certain Dri, which 


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“These are areas with the greatest 
number of oil glands. Sweat has a 
tendency to be comedogenic or 
pore-clogging, which contributes 
to the problem. Add to that fric- 
tion from shoulder bags and back- 
packs [any kind of mechanical 


Wear a cotton swimsuit instead 


of nylon. When nylon rubs against 


vour skin it causes friction and 


traps moisture. which causes even 


more friction. and more acne. 


is water-based.) “Apply it the 
same way as Certain Dri. Don’t 
apply too much, and use only on 
the armpits.” 


PERSPIRATION ACNE 

Why do some people break out 
more in the summer—especially 
on the back, shoulders and chest? 
“A combination of perspiration 
and friction causes perspiration 
acne in people who have a ten- 
dency to break out,” says Bihova. 


7 
oulde to SUMMER HEALTH and BEAUTY 


facts 





stimulation will irritate the oil | 
glands] and heat, which also acti- | 
vates oil glands, and breakouts are | 


likely to occur.” 

Bihova recommends treating 
perspiration acne with solutions 
such as Erycette, disposable pads 


that contain topical erythromycin | 


and alcohol. Use the pads in the 
morning and carry them with 


you during the day. “You can} 


also use harsher soaps that con- 
tain salicylic (continued) 


Dermatologists 


have put 


something 
nusually strong 
in this 


skin cleanser 








ighty-two percent of dermatologists recom- that’s why most dermatologists recommend Dove. 


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von’t dry your face like soap. Because Dove turizing cream formula, to 


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(continued) acid [Salicylic Acid 
Soap from the Stiefel Company is 
one] on these areas because the 
skin isn’t as sensitive as it is on the 
face and because in the summer the 
skin thickens from sun exposure so 
it can take more,” explains Bihova. 
“Wear natural-fiber fabrics like cot- 
ton and linen that breathe. Wear a 
cotton swimsuit instead of nylon: 


| When nylon rubs against your skin 
it causes friction and traps in mois- 


ture, and this moisture causes even 
more friction and more acne.” 


ZAPPING CREEPY 
SPIDER VEINS 


: | Though spider veins (dilated blood 


vessels near the surface of the skin) 
can evolve into varicose veins, which 
should be removed because they can 
interfere with circulation and cause 
blood clots, spider veins are removed 
for purely cosmetc reasons, says Dr. 
Coleman. (Since insurance compa- 
nies consider spider-vein removal a 
cosmetic procedure, they don’t pay 
for treatment.) “Contrary to popular 
belief, tanning your legs will not cam- 
ouflage spider veins,” says Coleman. 
“In fact, the more you expose your 
legs to the sun, the more spider veins 


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Why does sun exposure lead. 
increase of spider veins? Chronj 
exposure causes surface bloog 
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lation of the vessels and new sf 
of spider veins. According to | 
man, protection from the sun 
only prevention, but treatment 
days is excellent. Doctors use ¢ 
cedure called sclerotherapy to 
spider veins: A saline or chemic 
lution is injected into the vel 
resulting irritation in the lini 
the vein causes it to collapse 
down and be reabsorbed b 
body. Treatment is perma 
though new veins may appea 
are unrelated to the treated ve 
dermatologist performs the 
dure once a month for se 
months, then once every year 
for touch-ups. It’s not painfu 
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ybout products that claim to 
of cellulite—don’t spend a 

re on so-calle 
; and lotions. 

ents can smooth dimpled 
says Dr. Coleman. “No 
5s, no lotions—and don’t 


d= miracle 
“Noo external 


your time on loofahs. If you 
he skin by beating it up with 
ah, it may look better for a 
urs, but all you’ve done is 
swelling.” 

medical definition of cel- 
5: dimpled skin caused by the 
itmentalization of fat cells. 
people, says Coleman, have a 
icy toward dimpling because 
at is divided into little com- 
ents by fibrous strands that 
out from the skin. It’s gener- 
hereditary condition, but it 
so result from yo-yo dieting. 
a have a lot of fat in the area 
mass the size of a tennis ball 
ger], liposuction is effective 
tting rid of it. But liposuction 
e-bulking procedure, not a 
e procedure,” says Coleman. 
e doctors have attempted to 
up those fibrous strands with 
instruments, but this method 
a lot of bruising, and it’s not 
‘en treatment.” 


‘TTER WAY TO SHAVE 
biggest problem women have 
shaving,” says Dr. Bihova, “is 
yn hair, especially at the bikini 
Ingrown hairs can be very un- 
y. In bad cases they cause in- 
d red bumps—and infections 
women try to pick them out.” 
w does a hair become in- 
1»? According to Bihova, coarse 
rly hair tends to become in- 
1 because as it’s being pulled 
the skin by a razor blade, the 
ran recoil and become distort- 
Ince it’s distorted, it becomes 
underneath the skin’s surface. 
her reason: Curly hair some- 
grows out at an angle, and the 
lay grow back into the skin. A 
atologist can treat the rash and 
tions caused by ingrown hairs; 
“Olysis may be necessary to re- 
: the hair in severe cases. 
you are prone to ingrown hairs, 


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Bihova suggests shaving in the di- of ingrown hairs,” says Bihova. 


rection of hair growth. You won't We hope this health information 
get as smooth a shave, but you may and beauty advice is helpful to you 
prevent ingrowns. She also recom- and your whole family. Be smart 


mends using a salicylic acid-based about sun exposure this season 


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Jacqueline Onassis is battling cancer. But as columnist im 
Cindy Adams explains in this LHJ exclusive, if 
anyone has the strength to fight and survive, it’s the 


woman we know, simply, as Jackie O. 


ackie 1s my neigh- 
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shop the same 
stores 

I’ve been able to study 
that face and marvel at that 
bearing when no one else 
was around. I’ve seen 
Jacqueline Bouvier Kennedy 
Onassis all alone, maxi 
raincoat flapping open as 
she rounds our corner nib- 
bling a piece of 


fruit. I’ve seen 





her 


wearing 
no makeup, no 
babushka, no 
wraparounds— 
balancing an 
umbrella as she 
darts into our lo- 
cal stationery 
store for her fix 
of gossipy Maga- 
zines and tabloid 
newspapers. 

One month before her illness 
made headlines, I knew that this 
special lady, whom our country has 
all but enshrined with some sort of 
immortality, had been undergoing 
treatment for cancer. It’s simply 
that I was not going to be the one 
to break such a story 


Her face had appeared puffed. Her 


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Portraits of a lady 
(from top right): 
walking through 
Central Park; 
sharing a treat with 
granddaughter Rose; 
attending ceremonies 
with her children 


courtly, gentlemanly con- 
sort, Maurice Tempels- 
man, had actually menaced 
one of the paparazzi in front of their 
Fifth Avenue apartment building for 
trying to get a close-up shot of her 
Hospital authorities insisted to 
me on three occasions that they 
knew nothing, although I knew 
she’d been undergoing chemother- 
apy. I knew that treatments were 
being given at New York Universi- 
tv Hospital. I knew that there was 





such secrecy surrounding this case 
that some outpatient form of care 
was even being administered to 


Jackie in her home. 


Despite what I knew privately, 
I I ; 


Jackie O. never let down her guard 


in public. The whole world is a 
stage, and she’s its leading lady. 
Royalty does not cry in public. 
At the tme of JFK’s assassination, 
America’s queen was stoic, proud, 
brave, controlled. That is, out- 
wardly. Inwardly she was dis- 
traught, agitated and obsessed. 
She’d cry into her pillow. She’d 
repeat the horrific details. She would 
invade the space of her father-in- 


law, who was then (continued) 



























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ind over what hap- 
pened, 1OM i ed 

Toda lecades later, diag- 

threatening lymphat- 

1cer, OUr most treasured first 

lady is acting in that same mode. She 

has on her public face. She is contin- 

uing her work schedule as an editor 

at Doubleday. 
If not physically, she is suffering 
Goddesses are no less 


She would 


emotionally 
mortal than the rest of us. 
be thinking the same thoughts as any- 


one at her age and stage: Will I see 
my son marry? Will I live to see my 
three young grandchildren grow up? 

Untl Mrs. Onassis went public with 
this shocker because, she said, there 
had been “speculation and rumors” 
about her health, only the immediate 
family knew. Besides Caroline and 
John and Maurice ‘empelsman, not 
everyone close to Jackie knew. 

I spoke with her half brother Jamie 
Auchincloss. He was stunned. He 
said, ““This 1s the first Pve heard of it.” 

Stepbrother Hugh Auchincloss 
was “devastated” at the news. He 
also said he’d known nothing. 

Presumably, Ted Kennedy knew, 
because two weeks earlier she was to 
have hosted a fund-raiser for him. 
‘The evening’s event went on without 
the hostess, who was, reportedly, 
“home with the flu.” 

Jackie watchers, who use phrases 
for her like “fitness freak” and 
“health nut,” believe her illness is the 
ultimate cruelty 

As a four-year-old in East Hamp- 


LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL MAY 1994 


ton, New York, she was into fitness. 
First cousin John Davis tells me: 
“She was the most athletic of the 
cousins. At five, she was already a 
disciplined athlete who was winning 
horse shows. Jackie has an inborn 
desire to maintain health and 
strength and stamina. 

“She exercises regularly. She jogs, 
swims, rides, does yoga. She’s careful 
about her figure. When my mother 


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A private woman in the public eye 
(clockwise from top right): the 
family greeted President Clinton 
during a Kennedy library 
rededication; Jackie and Caroline 
yachted with the Clintons last 
summer; the men she relies on most, 
John Jr. and Maurice Tempelsman 


visited her in the White House, lunch 
in the family quarters was cottage 
cheese, lemon juice and tea. At state 
banquets, orders were to put in- 
finitesimal portions on her plate. No- 
body took better care of herself.” 
Another word used to describe her 
is vain. Before any public appear- 
ance she would go for a facial. The 
slightest disfigurement, the merest 
suggestion of even temporary hair 


loss would prove intolerable to a 












woman whose image had bee} 
prime importance. 

C. David Heymann, who wroté 
best-seller A Woman Named fa 
(Carol Publishing Group, 1989), 
me: “One of her doctors calledy 
‘very health wary.’ He said she’s als 
had information about any newé 
that measures tnglycerides and bly 
sugar levels and cholesterol. She 
about these tests before the puff 
does. It’s as thas 
she subscribed top 
New England Fo 
of Medicine. 

“She was fore 
into acupunct 
psychotherapy, 
metic surgery 
massage, so 
would have to Wig 
der: After all fi 
pounding and rok 
and caring, wh 
does such a dis 
come from? 

“Everyone envies her. 
think she copes so beautif 
She doesn’t. On the su 
she’s an iceberg, but unk 
neath she melts away. 
has to be crushing to 
adds Heymann. 

Her support group 
tightened. John Jr. stays ¢ 
by and telephones daily 
now walks with his moth 
the park. He’s spending 
at her apartment. His g 
Volvo is in her neighborhood gar 
Whereas he once lived downtdi 
his new digs are close to hers. 

Caroline and her three chil 
see her constantly. Jackie baby} 
one day a week. She takes the 
ones for ice cream and minds 
in the park. She’s a devoted si 
parent and grandparent. She’s| 
only her daughter’s mother, but 
her friend. Caroline not only lq 
her mother, she respects her. 

But, like most children, she} 
John have gone their own way. 
oline has a law degree yet opts t 
a housewife. Caroline’s husbag 
Ed Schlossberg—although fro} 
moneyed family and with an e> 
lent education—is, (continge 













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Jackie in crisis 


mong other things, an artist and a poet. 
Che likelihood is that, in Jackie’s dream 
marriage for her only daughter, she might 
have cast a different Prince Charming. 

As for John Jr., his mother did not ap- 
preciate his yen to be an actor. When he 
quit the Manhattan district attorney’s of- 
fice it was, in theory, for a higher-visibility 
job. An initial rumor had him becoming 
part of the Clinton administration or, at 
least, headed for Washington and the Jus- 
tice Department. It is not her wish that 
John F. Kennedy Jr. continue circling the 
globe aimlessly in an effort to find him- 
self. And she never has looked with favor 
on his long-term tabloid affair with Daryl 
Hannah, which doesn’t fit the image of a 
son who has a date with destiny. 

The news of their mother’s illness has 
jolted Caroline and John. According to 
friends, John may even have given his 
pledge to “shape up.” Brother and sister 
have been rocked by the news, and the 
two have shed tears separately and to- 
gether. And both have told their mom 
they'll stay close. They'll be there with 
her every step of the way. 

Support is also coming from Teddy 
Kennedy and his ex-wife Joan, with 
whom Jackie has kept in touch. She is 
receiving letters from cousins and aunts. 
But the centerpiece of Jacqueline Onas- 
sis’s world these days 1s her married 
beau, Maurice Tempelsman. 

They've known each other for most of 
their adult lives. They have been involved 
with each other over a dozen years. They 
live together. They are totally devoted to 
each other, despite the fact that Maurice 
is separated but not divorced from his 
wife of more than forty years. 

Maurice, who 1s sixty-four—the same 


age as Jackie—and is portly and fatherly, 
seems as enigmatic a figure as Jackie 
herself. A wealthy diamond importer, he 
is not handsome, not dashing, not 
Catholic, yet he is the prime figure in 
her life and her well-being, and will be a 
factor in her recovery. 

He is her defender, her protector and 
her security. She admires his quiet 
strength. She respects his business acu- 
men. He invested what she received 
from Onassis, and she is now worth in 
excess of $150 million. 

She met Belgian-born Tempelsman, a 
Democratic contributor and adviser on 
African affairs, in the White House 
years. A lifetime later, when she turned 
toward Onassis, it was a search for 
someone who was worldly, sophisticat- 
ed, comfortable and experientially older. 
Tempelsman, baid, teddy bearish— 
looking, 1s all of the above. 

Biographer Heymann says: “She’s 
suspicious of good-looking men. She 
said about [then—Texas Governor] 
John Connally, ‘He’s too handsome. I 
don’t trust him.’ ” 

Jackie has known philanderers and 
flamboyance. She now requires stability 
and devotion, the kind that comes with 
a yacht, culture, knowledge of the arts 
and sufficient wherewithal to create the 
fortified privacy she requires. 

Illness is a very private affair. A public 
association with cancer is not attractive. 
Seeing it aired worldwide could be 
wounding psychologically. Mrs. Onassis 
will again be able to summon the dignity 
that we expect of her because, in part, she 
has a long history of surviving tragedy. 

Her childhood was hell. Her parents 
had a bad marriage. Tirades, screaming 
matches. They argued constantly. A 
messy divorce followed, with schoolmates 
reading newspapers that called the father 





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Hodgkin's disease, which usually affects people in their 
twenties and thirties. According to the American Cancer So- 
ciety (ACS), forty-five thousand people will be diagnosed 
with non-Hodgkin's lymphoma this year, but only seventy- 
nine hundred will get Hodgkin's disease. Symptoms can be 


skin. Early detection is especially important because lym- 
phoma patients, like many other cancer patients, have a 
better survival rate if the illness is detected early, as it was 
in the former first lady's case. If caught too late, non- 





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she adored an adulterer. Intimates sa 
shame was what caused this shy and) 
cure daughter of the black sheep g 
family to become distant and reserveé 

A stepfather, a stepfamily and aj 
environment meant more adjustm 
She survived it all. And then cam 
own marriage and a decision to 
away when facets of its storybook 
fection were not as advertised. 

She survived the loss of two-da 
son Patrick. She survived her husbj 
assassination, sitting beside him whe 
brains were blown out and later 
his bloody head in her lap. And she 
vived the death of her children’s s 
father, her great confidant B 
Kennedy. She survived the Greek 
edies that played out in the Onassis 

With each new calamity grew a q 
er serenity that became manifest t 
outside world in unfathomable stre 
and grace and fortitude. 

Now, she is facing her own mort 
Her original fear was Alzheimer’ 
disease that took the life of her mag 
Her latent fear was cancer, whic 
away her half sister Janet. 

Jackie has already taken steps to 
pose of her estate, having sold he 
acre home in Bernardsville, New Je 
to her children, for the sum of $1. 

One cancer specialist treating 
Onassis says the condition is very 
ous. He has given friends to unders 
that it is a “fast-moving” case. 

But Nancy Tuckerman, 
spokesperson, is on record as sa 
“There is an excellent prognosis.” 

The prayers of the whole world 
with Jackie Onassis. 


Cindy Adamis is a syndicated column 
the “New York Post” who speciaha 
celebrity stories. 


THE FACTS ABOUT JACKIE’S ILLNESS 


Non-Hodgkin's lymphoma, the illness that Jacqueline 
Kennedy Onassis is suffering from, is, like Hodgkin's dis- 
| ease, a cancer that attacks the lymphatic system—an impor- 
tant part of the body's immune system. It usually occurs in 
people fifty and older, and it is more common than 


Hodgkin's lymphoma can be swiftly fatal because the 

cer can spread quickly to the bone marrow and maior 
gans such as the liver and lungs. The fact ft 
non-Hodgkin's lymphoma spreads makes it more difficul 
treat than Hodgkin's disease, which primarily stays in 
lymph nodes. According to ACS, non-Hodgkin's lympho 
has a lower survival rate than Hodgkin's disease: 52 

cent versus 78 percent after five years. But there is hop 
treated early enough with radiotherapy and chemothera} 
or in more advanced cases, bone-marrow transplants, s 
ACS's Harmon Eyre, M.D., “many non-Hodgkin's ly 


| mistaken for those of the flu—painless swelling of the lymph 
nodes (found in the underarm, pelvis, neck and abdomen}, phoma patients are permanently cured.” 
fever, night sweats, chronic fatigue, weight loss and itchy 


For more information, contact: the American Cant 
Society, 1599 Clifton Road, N.E., Atlanta, ¢ 
30329 (send a self-addressed, stamped envelop 
800-ACS-2345: or The National Cancer Institut 


—KATHERINE 





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No longer searching for her past lives, Hollywood's 


best-known New Ager is concentrating on a new movie, 


a new book—and the here and now. By Dean Lamanna 


ot long after the red 

velvet Curtain parts in 

the Crystal Room at 

the Las Vegas Shera- 

ton Desert Inn, Shirley 

MacLaine has even the most jaded 
high rollers swaying in their ban- 
quettes. Softly sexy in a black se- 
quin-and-rhinestone-studded 
dress, she bats her endless eyelash- 
es and high-kicks her famous 
legs—the same ones that have car- 
ried her through more than forty 
films and hundreds of shows and 
sull look none the worse for wear. 
Pausing for breath during an on- 
ge costume change (her elegant 


LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL §$ MAY 1994 


black-silk jacket is replaced by a 
naughty red feather boa), she mar- 
vels aloud over the romantic ex- 
ploits of her brother, Warren 
Beatty. “Its a damn good thing he 
never co-starred with Lassie,” says 
the performer with a giggle, to her 
audience’s delight. 

A few days later, relaxing in the 
sunny living room of her Malibu 
Beach home, the Oscar-winning 
actress and best-selling author is 
sull mulling over Beatty’s past con- 
quests. Her expression becomes 
somewhat pained as she recalls 
what she jokingly terms the “family 
crisis” sparked by Warren’s dal- 


lance with Madonna. “You know | 
Madonna—need any more be} 
said?” asks MacLaine. “She was 
strange to have around, but none 
of us really took it that seriously.” 

It’s hard to believe - thag 
MacLaine—looking remarkably 
young in a copper pullover and } 
white sweats—is celebrating her six- 
ueth birthday this spring. You cer- 
tainly wouldn’t know it from her 
schedule. Between frequent one- 
woman revues in Las Vegas and 
Florida, she’s still making movies 
(her latest: Guarding Tess). This 
summer, she'll go before the cameras 
to reprise her Academy Award—win- 
ning role as Aurora Greenway in 
Evening Star, the sequel to her 1983 
hit, Terms of Endearment. 

MacLaine is also putting the fin- 
ishing touches on a new book, ex- 
pected out this fall. “It’s nog 
metaphysical” is all she’ll say about | 
her eighth, as-yet-untitled volume. } 
‘The New Age icon, it seems, has 
lately abandoned some of her more 
exouc pursuits—including her ef- 
forts to discover who she was in |) 
past lives. “I’m not interested inj 
that anymore,” she says pointedly. 
“T think the life we lead now is the 
most important.” 

The importance of the present 
struck home for MacLaine in|} 
February last year when her moth- 
er, Kathlyn, died suddenly of af 


bacterial infection at the age of |%) 


eighty-nine. “Frankly, I thought [ 
she’d live to be ninety,” MacLaine 
says. Nevertheless, she says she’s 
grateful that she resolved most of | 
the prickly mother/daughter issues |7 
she explored in her 1991 book, 
Dance While You Can, before her 
mother died. “That was so won- 
derful,” she says, brightening. “I |; 
learned a lot from that. It’s too bad 
we can’t learn those things earlier.” 

Although MacLaine has had 
some rocky stretches with her own 
daughter, Sachi, (continued) 








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sachi, who recently married, lives in 
Connecticut, where she attends college 
and works as inese-language tutor. 
She lived with her father, Steve Parker, 


il she was twenty-five, so 

er and daughter have had to dis- 
cover each other recently. “We talk, 
talk, talk when we get together,” 
MacLaine says. “We go to dinner, see 
movies. We need to really connect.” 

MacLaine, who rarely connected with 
Sachi’s father during their twenty-eight- 
vear open marriage, says she is now ex- 
cited by the possibilitv of grandmother- 
hood. Does she regret not having had 
another child herself? “I don’t think so. 
There was a time when I was going to 
adopt lots and lots of children and run a 
big house. But then, you know, another 
picture would come up, and another lo- 
cation. It’s amazing how we flow into 
what we do. And every now and then 
you stop and you wonder if you were in 
control of your destiny at all.” 

Yet MacLaine, for all her go-with- 
the-flow pronouncements, exercises 
surprisingly strong control over her ca- 


1M 


Hollywood can be a tough and unfair 
town. “So many men [in the film indus- 
try] don’t have a clue what to do with 
the feminine in themselves,” she says. 
“And a lot of women feminists don’t ei- 
ther. So you tend to avoid it, and you’d 
rather go to action, mystery, high-tech, 
fantasy. But where are the stories about 
us? Not women—people. Although I 
think there should be many more wom- 
en in positions of leadership [in Holly- 
wood], those that are there now are not 
making this any better.” 

Nor have women in the political are- 
na, MacLaine feels, successfully man- 
aged to change the masculine power 
structure. “It’s not about having more 
women in politics,” she says. “It’s about 
being more nurturing, more under- 
standing, more patient. I’m not talking 
about the Margaret Thatcher kind of 
woman, although I have to say that at 
least I know where she stands, and she 
stands tall. I’m talking about a woman 
who has the courage to be—to employ 
the strengths of—the feminine that we 
really have not tried in leadership.” 

So, how does she think Hillary Rodham 
Clinton is doing? “Very well,” she says. 
“T think she’s brilliant and feminine.” 

MacLaine herself, who campaigned 


“| never bought the 
Hollywood definition of 
what beauty was... . | 


wouldn t become a ‘type. 


reer, guiding it safely through that Hol- 
lywood minefield known as middle age. 
She now lands the kind of juicy charac- 
ter roles that her contemporaries— 
Anne Bancroft, Ann-Margret and 
Debbie Reynolds among them—would 
kill tor. “I was probably willing to give 
up vanity earlier than the others,” she 
says. “But then, I’m not as beautiful as 
they are. So I didn’t have that much to 
give up. But I never bought the Holly- 
vood definition of what beauty was 
anyway. I wouldn’t change my face or 
change my hair or become a ‘type.’ I’m 
satisfied with my look.” 

She chuckles, and then, munching on 
healthful blue corn chips, quickly adds: 
“JT don’t like getting fat. Sometimes I get 
self-conscious about that.” (For the 
record, she has nothing to worry about.) 

But though MacLaine is happy with 
the roles she’s been getting, she ac- 
knowledges that for women in general, 





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diligently for Robert Kennedy and 
George McGovern in the late sixties and 
early seventies, 1s sitting out political ac- 
tvism these days. Instead, she tends to 
various causes, including Project Angel 
Food, a Los Angeles-based AIDS con- 
cern. “Politics itself would have to be 
more evolved before I got involved 
again,” she says. “The spiritual state of 
the nation is in chaos. I think violence 
has become such a prime issue that the 
very things we treasured being a pioneer 
nation—namely, the Bible in one hand 
and a gun in the other—we’re going to 
have to give up. And become what we 
were intended to be in the first place: 
loving human beings with a spirituality 
of nonjudgment.” 

For MacLaine—and this probably 
surprises no one—spirituality is “the 
only thing there is. When you’re doing 
well in your work or in a relationship, 
you have this sense of fulfillment with 


your destiny, right? When your 
life is balanced and harmonious, 
in touch with what can only b 
scribed as a kind of mini-divine fee 

MacLaine adds balance to her 
life through her relationship with 
tralian politician Andrew Peacock, 
she’s not ruling out the possibility 
other marriage. “For it to work,’ 
says, “I’d definitely want separate 
rooms—probably separate hous 
have such a wide circle of friends 
I’m not about to give up. A 
wouldn’t expect whatever man I w 
love with to do that either. I mean 
number of people that I excluded 
the years because I was into a ‘co: 
ted’ relationship with a man is 
frightening. I will never do that agai 

MacLaine nods affirmatively 
asked whether she was surprised 
her brother, who is three years he 
nior, married actress Annette Be 
with whom he has a two-year 
daughter, Kathlyn (the couple ar 
pecting their second child this sum 
“The child has really changed him,’ 
says, “He’s a very responsible fathe 
really loves her. And I really like 
nette, who’s a fabulous mother.” 
now that he has settled down, has 
ren become more of a spiritual pe 
“T think when you look into the ey 
your own child,” she says with a s 
“vou know that there’s more there 
you ever bargained for.” 

While getting a charge out of w 
ing her little niece grow up, Mac 
has also enjoyed observing the ma 
tion of some of today’s young act 
es—aincluding Julia Roberts, her co 
in 1989’s Steel Magnolias. “The mi 
Julia walked on the soundstage, b 
she opened her mouth, I said to 
star] Olympia Dukakis, ‘That girl 1 
ing to be a huge movie star.’ It was 
in the cards.” As for advising the P 
Woman on how to cope with fame, 
MacLaine keeps it short and si 
Don’t take work home with you, 0 
she says, “Don’t believe the s 
you’re in past six o’clock.” 

And, she might add, don’t trv t 
up too early. MacLaine rarely begin 
day before nine a.M., following 
night writing sprees that often last 
three. “Getting up in the morning 
making a movie is shockingly har 
me,” she says, enjoying the luxury 
fame and good fortune can bring. 
had it in my contract for a long 
now that I don’t have to be in the 
shot until ten.” Why? Because, as 
approaches a new decade, MacL 
has her priorities straight. “Perfo 
belongs to everyone,” she expl 
“Writing belongs just to me.” 


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speak volumes about the racial 
hostility that still engulfs our 
neighborhoods. 

Indeed, some people believe 
racism is on the rise, even though 
our society is becoming far more 
multicultural. (In fact, by the year 
2025, almost half of Americans 
will not be white but Hispanic, 
Asian and black.) How, exactly, 
can parents bring up children to 
live in this multracial world? What 
can they do to counter bias? 
Ladies’ Home Journal spoke with 
Marian Wright Edelman, presi- 
dent of the Children’s Defense 
Fund (an advocacy group for the 
nation’s children and teenagers) 
and author of the best-selling 
book, The Measure of Our Success: 
A Letter to My Children & Yours 
(Beacon Press, 1992), a woman 
whose life mirrors America’s cul- 
tural diversity. She grew up in 
Bennettsville, South Carolina, and 
later became the first African- 
American woman admitted to the 
bar of the state of Mississipp}. 
Married to Peter Edelman, who is 
white and Jewish, she has three 


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grown sons. 


How can we teach children not to be 


prejudiced? 


Advice from Marian Wright Edelman, founder 
and president of the Children’s Defense Fund. An 


exclusive interview by Ponchitta Pierce 


his year marks the fort- 
eth anniversary of Browz 
v. Board of Education, 
the historic Supreme 
Court case that made 
segregation in schools illegal. 

In May 1951, Oliver Brown, a 
black railroad worker from Tope- 
ka, Kansas, tried to enroll his 
eight-year-old daughter, Linda, in 
an all-white school two blocks 
3ut the Topeka 
school board demanded that Linda 

tend an all-black, academically 


from her home. 


86 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL = MAY 1994 


inferior school more than a mile 
from her home. That action set in 
motion a three-year battle, with 
Brown’s case argued by Thurgood 
Marshall, later the first African- 
American Supreme Court Justice. 
In 1954, the Court unanimously 
condemned segregation in schools 
as unconsututional. 

But, while discrimination may 
be illegal, the beating of Rodney 
King by Los Angeles policemen 
and the riots following the trial last 
year—to name just one incident— 


LHJ: Anvone reading the headlines 
or listening to evening news reports 
knows that despite the laws, the ri- 
ots, the civil rights marches, this is 
still a divided nation. Why is 
racism so deeply ingrained in the 
American psyche? 

Edelman: | think there’s a basic 
hypocrisy between the values we 
espouse and the way we really live. 
Somehow, parents have the mis- 
taken belief that we can simply tell 
our children how to act. They fail 
to recognize that children do what 
we do, not only what we say. Do 
we have friends and business asso- 
ciates from various ethnic back- 
grounds? Did we tell a joke or use 
a racial epithet or figure of speech 
that denigrates or stereotypes peo- 
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Alvin Poussaint, M.D., is professor 
of psychiatry at Harvard Medical 
School and co-author of Raising 
Black Children (Dutton, 1992). Here, 
his suggestions for bringing up 
children to live in harmony 





@ Encourage children to play with 
toys and dolls of different skin colors. 

@ Buy books that include people 
from a variety of backgrounds. 

@ Visit children’s museums where 
there are exhibits featuring ethnic 
people and their cultures. 

®@ Celebrate the holidays and tradi- 
tions of other cultures: Attend pa- 
rades or street fairs, organize 
community or school groups to spon- 
sor multicultural celebrations. 

@ Teach children about their own 
ethnic roots. If they have respect for 
who they are and where their family 
comes from, they will be likely to re- 
spect others. 

@ Monitor what kids see on TV. 
Shows like Sesame Street, with its 
multiracial cast, are ideal. But many 
shows reinforce prejudice—for ex- 
ample, cartoons often depict women 
as helpless or vulnerable. Point that 
out to kids. TV shows are a good 
jumping-off point for discussions on 
difference. 

@ Counter prejudice wherever you 
find it. If you overhear a racist re- 
mark, don’t let it slide. 

@ Be aware of what your child is 
studying in school. Look over his 
books; visit the classroom. Is the cur- 
riculum touching on all ethnic 
groups? Are teachers addressing the 
issues of racial discrimination? Voice 
your feelings to school officials. 

@ Be careful of the subtle messages 
you send. Saying something like, 
“Well, | wouldn't mind if Michael 
Jordan lived next door,” implies you 
wouldn’t like most other African- 
Americans living next door. 


(continued) LHJ: So you’re saying 
that in a variety of wavs we pass our 
beliefs down to our children. 
Edelman: Absolutely. Most of us 
know that 1f we make negative or 
derogatory comments about cer- 
tain groups of people, children re- 
peat them. But we also have to 
watch out for the more subtle mes- 
sages we send, too. 
LHJ: What if vou say something you 
regret or later realize might have giv- 
en the wrong impression to a child? 
Edelman: ‘Then apologize—even 
if it’s a day or a week later. There 
have been times when I found my- 
self saying things I later realized 
were intolerant. You have to come 
back and say, “You know, I said 
something yesterday that I really 
didn’t like. I made a mistake. 
‘That’s not who I want to be.” We 
need to X-ray ourselves and say, 
“What do I really believe? What do 
I want my kids to know?” 
LHJ: Many parents want to talk 
about tough issues like race rela- 
tions, but they don’t know 
where to begin. 
Edelman: You begin by creating 
an atmosphere of openness in your 
home. When my kids were very 
, | made a conscious effort to 
create a home environment that 
sent them messages of tolerance 
and respect for others. I turned the 
refrigerator into a Communications 
center and tacked up clippings 
from newspapers and magazines as 
well as posters that il- 
lustrated certain points. 
And when they were 
ry little, I read to 
them often and prod- 
ded them to talk about 
these issues. Parents 
must make children feel 
safe enough to discuss 
anything that they need 
or want to talk about. 
LHJ: And vou haz 


young 


these topics, too. ... 

Edelman: Right—and that’s not 
so easy either. We're all too busy. 
My biggest problem was—still 1s— 
that I’m always in a hurry. The one 
ume my kids really needed to talk 


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MARIAN WRIGHT EDEL- 
MAN’S life is testimony 
'c 10 te the fact that kids can 
make time to discuss be raised prejudice-free 


was usually the tme I was rushing’ 
out the door. Sometimes I’d snap at 
them. But I got better about com- 
ing back later and saying, 
do want to talk. When I spoke curt- 
ly to you earlier, that wasn’t about 
you. It was about me.” Busy par- 


“T really” 


ents need to set aside time each © 


day, even if it’s only a few minut 
to talk with their kids. 

LHJ: Sometimes children make neg- 
ative comments about others that 
shock us. We say to ourselves, I don’t) 


that—where did he get it? 


vay; I didn’t teach himy 


Edelman: Parents must challenge| 


But 





those comments immediately. 


they shouldn’t panic. Many times}, 
small children are testing their 


powers of perception and informa- 
ton about the world. Comment on 


the fact that they noticed a differ-)) 


ence, but clarify how you feel. 

I think the only long-lasting way 
that parents, white or black, can 
fight racism 1s to raise their kids 
with a sense of self-worth. The 
child who feels good about himself,) 


who accepts himself, will accept” 
others. But when kids dislike them- 


selves, they begin to dislike others} 





and blame them for what they lack. | 
LHJ: Jnstilling pride and self-esteem” 
is tough for every parent, but it’s es-) 
pecially difficult for African- Ameri-) 


can parents. How can they prepare) 


children for a society that still looks ath 
the color of their skin as an indication) 


of who they are? | 


Edelman: Black par-_ 


ents have 
children know 


that they may 


that the prejudice and) 


to let their) 
that) 
racism is a fact of life.) 
hear 
some pretty terrible) 
messages from the out-) 
side culture. The only” 
way they can handley 
those messages is to) 
know—and believe—) 


the discrimination is] 


not a measure of their self-worth.| 


It’s about the other people and] 


their problems. I can still remem-| 
ber my father, who was a Baptist) 


minister, telling me and my sister) 
(continued) 


and three brothers 


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ense of who vou are.” 
s have an struggle in 


their father 


Though they 
dren, in this country 
ck. It’s hard to strike 


cht balance, to let children 
take oe 


in their heritage and sull 
prepare them to cope with the out- 


side world. African-American par- 


ents have to empower their kids 





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cultures Qnd bacRgrounds, Ou The re- 

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parents do? 
Edelman: 


make a concerted effort to expose 


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wavs to bring 


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ences. My children grew up in a 
neighborhood with privileged 
blacks 
took them to services at an inner- 
My 


formed a relationship with a syna- 


and whites, yet I regularly 


city church church also 


gogue across town, and my kids 


would meet with other young peo- 
ple to talk about what it means to 
black, to be 


also involve children 


bea Jew ,to be poor. 
Parents can 


in all sorts of Community projects, 


that in- 


back- 


sports or scouting groups 


clude children of diverse 
grounds 


LHJ: 


outright prejudice? 


best Way I 


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Edelman: You must address it 
immediately. When my son’s team- 
mate was called a nigger by an op- 
jek YS1I 


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By Jacqueline Hornor Plumez, Ph.D. 









omen, like men, are 
spending more and 
more time worrying 
about work. In fact, in a 
recent poll by the Center 
for Policy Alternatives, a progres- 
sive public-policy organization in 
Washington, D.C., and the Ms. 
Foundation, in New York City, 
when women were asked about 
their greatest worries, they listed 
their jobs as number one. 
“There’s been an extraordinary 
increase in women’s concern 
about their jobs compared to 1985 
[the last time a similar poll was 
taken],” says Linda ‘Tarr-Whelan, 
president of the Center. ‘The main 
reason for their worry, she adds, 1s 
economic. “Even in two-income 
families, [couples] are struggling 
to meet their family’s budget.” 
But, unlike men, women have a 
double dose of career stress: Not 
only do they worry about promo- 
uons, raises and job security, but 
they're faced with other dilemmas 
that men rarely have to deal with. 
Fortunately, women can learn to 
overcome these difficulties—and 
relieve some of the stress. Our 
guide will help you solve yvour 
three biggest problems on the job. 





PROBLEM #1: 

BEING LABELED A COMPLAINER 
What most women don’t realize is 
that complaining about a work 


situauon—even if the complaint is 
warranted—can be one of the 
biggest on-the-job mistakes. In 
fact, the “complainer” label 1s 
something men talk about among 
themselves, behind women’s 
backs. It’s a secret trap because 
even when a woman has a legiti- 
mate grievance, she risks being 
called a nag. 

When a male boss thinks an 
employee complains too much, 
the punishment is usually harsh. 
She gets passed over for promo- 
tion—or even fired. And she often 
has no idea what went wrong. 

Why do men think of women 
as complainers? Because the sex- 
es have such different styles of 
communication, the chance of 
misunderstanding is enormous. 
“Many women are inclined to do 
what is asked of them, and many 
men are inclined to resist even 
the shghtest hint that anyone, es- 
pecially a woman, is telling them 
what to do,” says sociolinguist 
Deborah Tannen, Ph.D., in her 
best-selling book, You Fust Don’t 
Understand (Ballantine, 1991). 
“A woman will be inclined to re- 
peat a request that doesn’t get a 
response because she is con- 
vinced that [a man] would do 
what she asks if he only under- 
stood that she rea//y wants him to 
do it... . But a man who wants 


to avoid feeling (continued) 


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that he is following orders may instinc- 
tively wait... . Nagging is the result, be- 
cause each time she repeats the request, 


he again puts off fulfilling it.” 


Further re, Tannen notes that 
omen like to engage in what she calls 
rapport-talk,” which involves talking 


ibout problems and dissatisfactions. 
men have the opposite approach. 
\‘omen often don’t understand men’s 
reluctance to discuss problems. Says a 
male vice president of a computer con- 
sulting firm in New York City, “If a man 
asks a question of a boss and that ques- 
uon is not answered or is ignored, a man 
knows that’s a negative reply . . . that the 
boss doesn’t want to deal with it and the 
situation is not about to change. On the 
other hand, a woman who gets no an- 
swer doesn’t accept that as a negative. 
She’ll wait a little while and if nothing is 
changed, she’ll rephrase the question or 
ask the same question again. That rein- 
forces the male stereotype of female 
harping. She doesn’t realize [that] his si- 
lence is a very, very definitive answer.” 
This type of misunderstanding can be 
devastating for a woman’s career. For 


Mani 


corporate world, the squeaky wheel gets 
replaced. She was eventually fired. 

Then there’s the case of one woman 
who had a personality conflict with a col- 
league who was perpetually unpleasant. 
He was also often late with assignments, 
which made her job difficult. “He was 
very good at what he did, but he was a 
real toad,” she said. “I didn’t understand 
why I had to put up with him.” She was 
above him in the corporate structure, 
but top management wouldn’t let her 
fire him. In fact, management got so dis- 
gusted with her constant battles with 
him that she was forced out. 

How can you avoid being labeled a 
complainer? 

@ When asking your boss for a raise, a 
promotion or any other change, be sure 
to couch your request in professional 
rather than personal terms. For exam- 
ple, ask for a raise based on your contri- 
butions to the company—you can even 
present a written list of your accom- 
plishments—uinstead of giving a reason 
that sounds unprofessional and com- 
plaining, such as “I need a raise because 
I can’t pay my rent.” 

@ When discussing personality conflicts, 
remember that you can be seen as diffi- 
cult. For instance, if you’re telling your 


“Hf the boss ignores a 
complaint, a woman repeats 
it. Thats the stereotype 
of female harping.” savs 
one executive. 


instance, Lisa (not her real name) was 
the leader of a small corporate team be- 
fore she took a six-month maternity 
leave. When she came back, her team 
had been assigned to a co-worker and 
she had to work alone. She felt this was 
unfair and complained to her boss. He 
did nothing. 

Every few weeks for the next year, 
Lisa complained about the situation to 
her boss, or her boss’s boss. She didn’t 
yell or become insulting; in fact, she oc- 
casionally complained in a joking way. 
She knew she’d been a good leader and 
believed it was only fair to be given a 
new team. She also believed the old say- 
ing, “The squeaky wheel gets oiled.” 
Unfortunately, as her career counselor, I 
couldn’t convince her that in today’s 


34 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL = MAY 1994 


boss about an employee with a bad atti- 
tude or someone who doesn’t do his fair 
share, focus on how his uncooperative 
behavior is bad for the company—giving 
specific examples of how the employee 
has hurt morale or lowered productivi- 
ty—rather than why he’s annoying to 
you personally. 

@ Take the initiative. “One of the very 
clear unwritten rules in corporations is 
that you don’t bring problems to your 
manager, you bring solutions,” says Su- 
san Schroeer, a human-resources spe- 
cialist in Mamaroneck, New York. “You 
don’t go in to talk it over; you go in to 
say, ‘Here are some things we need to 
deal with. And here’s how I think we 
should deal with them.’ ” 

@ If a boss doesn’t respond to a request 





or your proposed sojution to a pri 
check back once. If you still get ) 
sponse, say pleasantly, “Should I 
back with you again, or do you wit 
drop this?” If he doesn’t encoura ¥ 
to pursue it, don’t bring it up agai 


PROBLEM #2: 

THE STICKY FLOOR 

We've all heard about the glass clip 
the invisible barrier that keeps wm 
from breaking into the highest lels 
management. Less well known 7 
sticky floor, which affects manyap 
women. The term was coined by 'q 
ogist Catherine White Berheide, 4] 
an associate professor at Skidmor#) 
lege, in Saratoga Springs, New Y& 
describe the plight of millions of'q 
en stuck in low-wage jobs. } 

Sucky-floor jobs tap into abilitié 
many consider “female”: the 
skills and patience required to wo 
children, the elderly and difficu 
tomers, or organizational skills rei 
to keep paperwork flowing pros 
“Historically, women have beeniy 
ae 3 
jobs thought ‘suitable’ to their n 
clerical and service work, the job 
pay the least,” says Berheide. In 
her research, she found that 55 
of the three million women emplo 
state and local governments work 
lowest-paying job categories, whi 
25 percent of men do. 

Throughout corporate Ameri 
sticky floor has many vicums. Ac¢ 
to Berheide, women make up 7 
cent of all paraprofessionals ( 
who work for professionals as assi 
for example) and 87 percent of 
ministrative support staff. Those 
categories average less than $20 
year. “If women do [the work] 
Berheide, “it’s undervalued.” 

But a sticky-floor job affects mo 
a woman’s paycheck. Because wo: 
these positions have little freedom 
about their work, they often exp 
more stress than those in job 
greater autonomy, according to re 
search. As a result, they usually 
taking that job stress home with 
which in turn creates added ten 
the family. In the end, victims 
sticky floor are left with a double 
my: stress both at work and at ho 

Today, those in entry-level positi 
ten form the sticky floor of the co 
world. As a career counselor, I’ve 
with many women in this situatio 
client I’ll call Dina worked h 
through college as a secretary. Gra 
with an art degree, she wanted to 
a graphic artist. Since entry-level 
are scarce, Dina took a job as a se 
in the art department of a major c 
tion, assuming that once she was 
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continued from page 94 


But the head of the department thought 
she was a great secretary and didn’t want 
to lose her. Four years later, Dina was still 
a secretary, with little chance of becoming 
an artist at her company. 

How can Dina pull herself off the 
sticky floor? She can look for an entry- 
level art job at another company where 
the boss promises to give her a chance 
to move up the ladder. Another option: 
She can go back to art school to update 
her skills in graphic design. 

How can you avoid the sticky floor? 
@ During job interviews, ask about the 
typical career path for people who take 
this job. 
® Ask about the skills, abilities and per- 
sonal qualities necessary to advance in 
the company. Then, to get the required 
experience, Catherine Berheide sug- 
gests finding out about in-house train- 
ing programs or tuition reimbursement 
for college courses related to the job 
you’re aiming for. 
® If you discover that you have taken a 
dead-end job, look for a new position 
immediately. Don’t get trapped by iner- 
tua or false hopes. 

& If your workplace has a big sticky floor 
ind you can’t afford to leave, “work with 
her women in your organization to try 


LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - MAY 1994 


to get the organization to change the way 
it operates,” says Berheide. For instance, 
talk to the company’s human-resources 
manager, or meet with management and 
ask them to create “bridge jobs,” which 
would allow women to move into begin- 
ning-level technical, professional or 
managerial positions. 


PROBLEM #3: 

LACK OF RESPECT 

Women used to be openly disrespected in 
the workplace. In 1957, when Madeleine 
Kunin, Vermont’s first female governor 
and now the U.S. Deputy Education Sec- 
retary, attended Columbia University’s 
Graduate School of Journalism, men in 
her class received newsroom offers; The 
New York Times offered Kunin a job in 
the cafeteria. In 1959, when Supreme 
Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg grad- 
uated first in her law-school class, no law 
firm would offer her a job. 

Today, the disrespect is usually more 
subtle. “I would be surprised to hear a 
manager in 1994 say outright that he 
didn’t think a woman could do as good 
a managerial job as a man, simply be- 
cause she was a woman,” says human- 
resources specialist Schroeer, who 
teaches managers to deal with differ- 
ences in race and gender. “The behavior 
is rarely that overt.” A somewhat more 
common scenario: A woman might find 


that some of her male colleaguet! 
her in a patronizing way—expectig 
to get the coffee at a meeting, fork 
ple, simply because she’s female. — 
Though we have made progreg 
the past several decades, sex discrhi 
tion still exists, obviously—and =. 
damage a woman’s career. In a & 
survey by the executive searclfi 
Korn/Ferry International and th: 
derson Graduate School of Maa 
ment at the University of Califol 
Los Angeles, more than 400 fem 
ecutives said the greatest career 0 
they had to overcome was sexism. | 
Sexual harassment is also al 
problem in the workplace. By defi 
sexual harassment includes requ 
sexual favors, verbal remarks and pj 
conduct when: submission to the 
ior is made a condition of employr 
person’s response to the behavior } 
as a basis for employment decisior's 
as promotions and raises; or the be 
creates an offensive, hostile or inti 
ing working environment. Accorc 
experts, most harassment—inc 
complimenting a woman on her fil 
is not about flattery but instead is} ) 
of exerting power over a woman. 
Today, however, more anda 
women are fighting back. Take tt 
of Teresa Harris, of Nashville. 
nessee, who worked for a forklift 











a company and had to put up witha | | 
sao said such things as, “You're a | 


, what do you know?” and “Let’s 
s/ She sued and won her case. 


‘srespect or harassment? 
» records of any offending behav- 
.. w York attorney Vanessa Ploumis 
” I would advise a client to write 
y very date and time and thing that 
»ied.” Also note any people who 
«ed the behavior. Then, no matter 
yu choose to do about it, you have 
se of the problem. 
[l sve it or not, many men actually 
‘ealize that what they’re doing is 
e: So, politely but firmly explain to 
son that you, like many women, 
¢ s actions unwelcome and disre- 
(il. Hold your ground, but don’t 
0a shouting match. Try to win a 
t, not make an enemy. 
|; co-worker is being blatantly disre- 
f 1 or “malicious about holding you 
! says Schroeer, “you have several 
sitives: You can either leave [the 
Br), sue, complain to the human- 
2es manager or bring it to the atten- 
the company in some other way.” 
1e company does not respond to 
omplaint and you want to take le- 
tion, contact a lawyer or call the 
1 Employment Opportunity Com- 
«nat 800-669-4000. ™ 


( line Hornor Plumez, Ph.D., is a ca- 
- unselor and psychologist in Larch- 


) New York. 


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to 5, National Association of 
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hen I quit my job to 
from home after 
my Julia, 
born four years ago, I found 
off 
network of friends and colleagues 


work 
daughter, was 


myself cut from my 
who still worked at the office. 

‘Then I discovered a new network 
that I could reach just by tapping 
the keys on my home computer. 
Now I go “ 


hang out in a place known as 


on-line,” as it’s called, 
and 
“cyberspace”—an electronic world 
where I can chat and schmooze 
without ever leaving my chair. 

I’m so enthusiastic that ve got- 
and friends hooked, 
My mom in Pennsylvania, my 


ten my family 
too 
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other relatives around the country 
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By Rosalind Resnick 


makes communication easier, and 
its cheaper than the telephone, we 
dash off birthday greetings, thank- 
you notes and updates about our 
kids and activities far more often 
than we used to. 

[ve even started a monthly on- 
line newsletter to stay in touch with 
six of my friends. For me, going 
on-line is really the next best thing 

being there—and sometimes 
even better. 

My 
When I first went on-line four 
I often felt that I was 


a handful of women in 


experience isn’t unique. 
years ago, 
one of only 


cyberspace. But that’s no longer 
true. Now that almost everybody 
uses a Computer at work and about 
one third of all families have com- 
puters at home, the on-line world 


has begun to reflect a broader 


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spectrum of American life. 
‘Though the number of womer 
on-line is still small (80 to 90 per 
cent of the on-line service users ar 
men), experts say that more anc 
more of us are logging on. And our 
ranks are expected to grow as the 
on-line world expands. 
a city, it 
zest and 
over 


If cyberspace were 
would be the world’s larg 
‘There are 
twenty million people hooked into 


fastest-growing. 


on-line services such as Com- 
puServ America Online, 
GEnie and Delphi. And countless} 
more use the estimated fifty-six 
thousand independently owned 
computer bulletin boards nation-| 
wide to do everything from make 
an airline reservation to read the) 


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-§ssence, cyberspace is nothing more 
-)aan a bunch of people sitting in front 
|? their computers, reading information 
bad typing messages back and forth to 
eae another with the aid of a modem 

, a electronic gadget that hooks up 
ymputers through telephone lines. 
\ nd yet it’s also a living, breathing 
«ommunity of people coming together 
|) meet one another, to make friends 
ad to find support. Here are some sto- 
,es of women I’ve encountered in cy- 
| erspace and the creative ways they are 
» sing on-line services. 


IN ELECTRONIC QUILTING BEE 


/mne Atkinson Brown, forty-nine, of 
reeport, Maine, is an administrative 
ssistant who makes quilts in her spare 
me. She began going on-line a year 
ad a half ago when her husband, Joe, 
| ought a computer for Christmas. He 
 ogged onto CompuServe to look for 
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eople to chat with about his hobby, 
- .odel trains. 

/ But it wasn’t long before Anne 
ound something for her as well. She 
liscovered the “crafts forum,” which 
ut her in touch with people all over 
»he world who share her passion for 
juilting. The forum also includes spe- 
ial sections for people who do needle- 
ointing, knitting, weaving and almost 
very other craft imaginable. 

“As a quilter, you can get informa- 
ion about where to find the best quilt 
hops or how to put on a quilt bind- 

/ng,” says Brown. 

But that’s not all. The forum’s elec- 

-ronic library offers software programs 
hat help people design quilts on their 
somputers. There’s also an extensive 
collection of electronic picture files, 
snabling forum members to view each 
sther’s work. And quilters can even 






‘ 


“meet” to talk about their craft. Every 
‘Tuesday night at ten P.M., the forum 
hosts a quilting bee in which everyone 
can log on and “chat” simply by typ- 
ing in messages to one another. 

Brown is so involved in the forum 
that she spends hours each night in 
front of her.computer screen. “Now,” 
she says with a smile, “all we have to 
do is figure out how to quilt and use 
CompuServe at the same time.” 


MOTHER’S HELPER 

Often, women go on-line to seek in 
formation about more critical matters 
as well. Elaine Baker, twenty-nine, 
posted some questions in Prodigy’s 
Homelife bulletin board shortly after 
she and her husband moved from 
Arkansas to Missouri. A first-time 





mom, she was worried about her son, 
Alex, now eighteen months. 

“When Alex turned a year, I tried 
to switch him from formula to milk, 
and it made him sick,” she says. “I 
asked the doctor about it, but he 
wasn’t much help, so I posted a ques- 
tion on Prodigy. One woman was par- 





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ticularly helpful. She said she had put 
her son on lactose-free milk, so I tried 
it, and it really worked.” 

A few months later, Baker grew 
worried that Alex wasn’t walking. So 
she tacked up another note. The 
dozens of responses she got on-line 
told her that the child was perfectly 
normal. Shortly after the note was 
posted, Alex took his first step. 

“It reassured me a lot to know that 
I wasn’t alone,” says Baker, who logs 

n to Prodigy every afternoon when 
her son naps. “I’ve got all the baby 
books in the world, but it’s nice to get 
advice from people who have actual 
hands-on experience.” 


ON-LINE MENTORS 
Mary O’Gara, of Albuquerque, New 
Mexico, logs onto GEnie to further 
herself professionally. A small-business 
consultant and writer, O’Gara yearns 
to publish romance novels. So she has 
joined GEnie’s Romance Exchange, a 
place where both aspiring and profes- 
sional romance writers meet to swap 
tips, techniques and the daily ups and 
downs of their lives. 

“The Romance Exchange is teaching 
me my craft,” O’Gara says. “When I’m 
working on a synopsis, I’m able to go 
on-line and ask someone to take a look 
at what I’ve written. That isn’t some- 
thing I'd be able to do in my daily life.” 

The exchange also serves as her 
support group. Since she works alone 
from home, rather than in an office 
with colleagues, she cherishes the op- 
portunity to chat with other women 
who are in the same boat. 

“It’s very lonely working as a writ- 
er,” O’Gara says. “Here, if you get 
frustrated because you got only two 
pages written that day, it’s all right be- 
cause there’s somebody else on the 
board who’s plodding along, too. In a 
way, it’s like having (continued 


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Cyberspace The electronic community of over twenty 
million people worldwide who use computers and 
modems to exchange messages and information 
E-Mail Most on-line services let you send and receive 
messages by electronic mail, called E-Mail for short 
instead of writing a letter and putting it in an envelope, 
you simply type a message on your computer screen 
and designate its recipient by using her identification 
number. Each user has an on-line mailbox that can re- 
ceive messages round-the-clock—even when you're 
not logged on. 
Forum A group of on-line-service users who share a 
! special personal or professional interest. There are fo- 
tums for people whose interests include everything 
from cooking and pet care to professional concerns 


such as law or medicine. 

Logging on Using your computer and modem to dial 
up and connect to an online service. Also called “go- 
ing online.” 

On-line service Information storehouses that let you ex- 
change messages, “chat” with other users, get informa- 
tion from electronic databases, shop for products, 
make travel reservations and more. 

Real-time chatting Instantaneous communication where 
you simply type what you want to say into your com- 
puter, and within seconds, the words appear on some- 
one else's computer screen anywhere in the world. 
Then the other person responds, and her words ap- 
pear on your screen. It’s like having a phone conversa- 
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Most surprising, perhaps, is the 
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Lyles, of Apex, North Carolin 
Kyle Griffith, a computer pro 
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Now, she says, they’ve exchange 
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“When I bought my comp 
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Women like Anne Brown,# 
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No one blamed me for the accident that took my friend's 
life. But it was years before | could start living again. 
By Carla Cantor 


wenty-two years later, I 
hear her 

screams. I am at the 

wheel of my parents’ 

Chevy, driving on a 
winding mountain road—my first 
big excursion since getting my li- 
cense the previous fall. “he sun is 
bouncing off mounds of snow 
dumped by a freak April storm. 
Toby and I are singing, exhilarated 
by our journey, the thought of ski 
slopes ahead and our budding 
friendship. 

I didn’t know Toby well, but I 
wanted to. We had met that winter 
while rehearsing for a school pro- 
duction of Guys and Dolls, and I 
was attracted to Toby’s intensity. 
Idealistic and intellectual, she 
wrote poetry and was a member of 
the French club and the honor so- 
ciety. In the way she challenged 
prevailing views and the way she 
looked—dark hair parted in the 
middle and wire-rim glasses fram- 
ing her thin face—she reminded 


can still 


4mo Ss APRA! EECA 6 FRR ERORAIA 


me of my idol, John Lennon. I, 
too, was rebellious and question- 
ing, but my adolescent values 
tipped more toward boys and par- 
ues than lofty ideals or studies. 

As we drove through the 
foothills of the Adirondack Moun- 
tains that crisp Saturday morning, 
‘Toby and I talked about politics— 
it was 1972, the era of Vietnam 
and student unrest—and about ski- 
ing, boyfriends and college applica- 
tions. | have a vague memory of 
our sharing a package of ‘winkies, 
but the image of what happened 
shortly afterward is crystal clear. 
To this day I can still see Toby 
picking up the script of the musical 
from the car seat. She offers to 
coach me on my lines, and I begin 
to sing “Adelaide’s Lament.” 

Suddenly, the vision changes. A 
crash so abrupt that I scarcely feel 
its impact has left us huddled to- 
gether, trapped in twisted steel. 
Toby’s waist-length hair has tan- 
gled across the dashboard and my 


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lap. “I can’t see! Help mel? 
she cries. But I can’t. I can 
stay awake. The scream 
grow fainter... . 

Thrust into darkness 
helpless, confused. Thos 
feelings of the last consciou 
moments after the cras 
would hover over me fo 
years to come. The acciden 
that took the life of my six 
teen-year-old fnend left m 
with barely an injury. Yes, 
was lucky. A tractor-traile 

. had plowed into our ca 
when I missed a shar 
curve in the road obscure 
by a fresh bank of snow 

Rescue workers had spen 

nearly two hours trying to pull u 

from the wreckage. They called m 

survival a miracle, which for th 
longest tume I took to mean that 
shouldn’t have lived. 

Surviving a fatal accident can b 

a complicated blessing. ‘There wer 
moments when I wished I ha 
died, the feelings of guilt were s 
devastating. Why hadn’t I seen the 
turn? Why hadn’t I forced Toby t 
wear the seat belt she said mad 
her uncomfortable? Wasn’t ther 
something I could have done t¢ 
save this radiant girl? 

For months afterward, every tm 
I closed my eyes I saw the accident 
I couldn’t stand to drive. I neve} 

did return to high school, though <« 

kind principal let me graduate with: 
out completing my senior year. - 
was too ashamed to step inside th 
building. Toby was dead, I was 
alive and I didn’t even have & 
scratch to show for the tragedy. - 
stopped eating. While my friend: 

went to proms and parties, Id li 

on my bed for hours listening tc 
rock stations on the radio. Wher 

friends or neighbors stopped by, I’c 

turn off the music, afraid they 
would consider me (continued 


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2 without me 
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-d to be helpful, even words 

poken with the best of intentions could 

sting. “We know how much you loved 
her,” said the rabbi, his hand on my 
shoulder. As I nodded in agreement, in- 
a I wanted to scream, I didn’t love her, 

abbi! How could I? I was just getting to 
know her. 

I couldn’t talk to my parents either. 
Every night we’d argue when I refused 
to eat anything but plain salad. They ex- 
pected too much of me, pushing me to 
do the “right things,” the kinds of activi- 
ties that comforted them. They persuad- 
ed me to get involved with a scholarship 
fund set up for Toby. It was on their 
urging that I visited her parents. When 
Toby’s father embraced me, I froze and 
was silent. Toby should have been 
standing in my place. 

I couldn’t cope any longer, and I re- 
treated into myself. When I entered col- 
lege that fall, my parents and I breathed 
a sigh of relief, hoping I could leave the 


nur nity tr 


new symptoms; the slightest pain or 
pimple evoked terror. I was convinced 
I'd never make it to adulthood. Already 
I had lived years longer than Toby, and 
it didn’t seem fair. 

I ignored the pleas of a patient school 
adviser to seek counseling. Instead, I 
chose to spend my time with a boyfriend 
whose poor treatment of me mirrored 
my low self-esteem. He came from an 
abusive background, which made him 
egocentric and emotionally needy, al- 
lowing me to focus on his distress and 
ignore my own unhappiness. I endured 
his put-downs, his cheating and his tem- 
per—once he even hit me—because I 
didn’t feel I deserved better. 

After each of his transgressions, I 
would try to leave, but he’d cry, apolo- 
gize and say he loved me, and Id run 
back. Anything to avoid facing myself. 
The last thing I wanted was insight into 
my problems—not then. Instead I chose 
Valium to quiet my terrifying, destruc- 
uve thoughts. That I made it to gradua- 
uon still amazes me. 

It was after college, when I had found 
the strength to break up with my 
boytnend, that I finally sought the therapy 
that helped me recover. I had a job in 
New York and an apartment in Green- 


Rescue workers called 
my survival a miracle, 
which for the longest time 
| took to mean that | 
shouldnt have lived. 


pain behind. But I couldn’t adjust. I 
pushed myself to achieve straight A’s. 
My weight dropped from 125 to 90 
pounds. Neither I nor my parents rec- 
ognized the classic signs of anorexia— 
not yet publicized in the media—as a 
signal of depression and a plea for at- 
tention and care. I felt uncomfortable 
with people, afraid they would judge me 
for my terrible deed; yet at the same 
time I had a compulsion to confess, 
sometimes telling total strangers about 
the accident. 

Happiness didn’t come often, but any 
fun that found its way in would in- 
evitably be followed by self-hatred or 
punishment. I was plagued by a paralyz- 
ing fear of death. I pored over my room- 
mate’s medical textbooks in search of 


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pression and emptiness. I had never come 
close to attempting suicide, but when 
thoughts of it became more frequent, I 
knew that I had to do something. I was 
ured of the misery; tired of neuroses, in- 
stability and setbacks. Sick of puttung my 
energy into maintaining my 95-pound 
weight; of denying myself nourishment, 
sexuality, any human pleasure. 

It was as if life had started all over 
again with Toby’s death, and the person 
I had been before the accident didn’t 
exist. The guilt that pervaded my life 
had made it impossible to grow up. For 
me to be happy, I had to leave Toby be- 
hind, alone, forever frozen at sixteen. 
My therapist was the only one who 
could really understand. Talking about 










































the accident and unraveling its 7 
math in the safety of her office—aj; 
cess that would take more thj 
decade—became my salvation. 

After all the searching, there is 
simple truth: An accident is an accil 
Years later, when I had gatherec 
courage to revisit the scen 
boyfriend—who later became my 
band—held my hand ughtly as I 
for the first ttme back toward that 
tion in the two-lane road. 

Where there had once been no 
now there was a stoplight warning 
torists of the sharp bend. Police hai 
given me a summons after the accil 
so what I hadn’t known was tha 
years, local residents had been < 
plaining about the dangerous inte 
tion. This was important knowleds 
helped me realize that anyone ¢ 
have made that same fatal mistake 
I could forgive the young girl whe 
once lost her way. 

Toby will always be part of my I 
reminder of my own mortality. | 
unte I pass a new milestone—gra¢ 
school, my first job, marriage, h 
my two wonderful children—I thi 
her and wonder what she would b 
ing if she had grown up. But as I 
on I find that there is a growing dis 
between the accident and the tee 
who survived it. No, you never get 
the guilt entirely. It goes away 
comes back. It becomes part of yo 
it doesn’t dominate your everyday | 

For a long time, I carried Toby’: 
ed yearbook picture in my wallet 1 
mind me of what I had done. A 
years ago, I asked a friend to hold 
it until I needed it again. I havi 
asked for it back. I know I will # 
forget. With all my heart I wish 
Toby had survived the accident. S 
served to live. But at last I’ve red 
that so, too, do I. 






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H YOUR BACK! 


Next to the cold, back pain is our most common medical complaint. Learn how you 


can treat—and preventthis troublesome condition. By Mike Snider 


ou do it every ume 
ee lug around a 
heavy pocketbook or 

loaded briefcase 
You do it when you 
bend over to pick up the 
clothes the kids left on the 
floor. Or when you pull weeds 
from the garden, empty the 
dishwasher, carry the groceries. 

You even do it when you 
slump down in a chair to try 
to get a moment's rest. 

Every day, in countless ways, 
you put your back at msk. And 
chances are, you don’t even 
know you're doing so. But if 
there’s one part of the body 
that deserves more attention, 
it’s the lower back. Back pain 
ranks second as the reason peo- 
ple seek medical attenuon—af- 
ter the common cold. In fact, 
studies suggest it will affect 
four out of five Americans at 
some time in their lives. 

The good news, though, is that 
the remedy for most types of back 
pain is relatively easy. In the major- 
ity of cases, the pain lessens with 
the proper dose of rest, exercise 
and over-the-counter pain relievers. 

And there’s even better news: It’s 
possible to avoid back pain alto- 
gether. Back specialists say that 
adopting an “exercise-a-day” phi- 
losophy can help strengthen this of- 
ten-neglected part of the body. And 
adding some common sense to ev- 
eryday duties like lifting, sitting and 
standing can help you avoid hurting 
your back in the first place. 

Here’s everything you need to 


about lower-back pain—its 


8 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL 





causes, Its cures and, most impor- 


tant, the way to prevent it. 


BACK BASICS 

The spine, or backbone, supports 
the body and protects the spinal 
cord. Its main building blocks are 
twenty-four bones called vertebrae. 
They are held together by liga- 
ments in front as well as bony facet 
joints in back. Below the five lum- 
bar (or lower back) vertebrae are 
two more bones: the sacrum and 
coccyx. In all, an adult spinal-cord 
column has twenty-six bones. 

A layered network of large liga- 
ments and muscles make the spine 
firm, vet flexible. Smaller muscles 
and ligaments help hold vertebrae 


MAY 1994 


together, while allowing for 
turning movements. 
Vertebrae are separated by 
disks, which act like shock ab- 
sorbers and protect the spine. 
Each has a hard outer layer 
and a jellylike core. A rup- 
tured or herniated disk (some- 
times referred to, inaccurately, 
as a slipped disk) occurs when 
that jelly filling oozes out and 
presses on nerves. In such cas- 
es, pain can radiate anywhere 
in the body, depending on 
which nerves are affected. 
Ruptured disks, typically 
thought to be a consequence of 
the wear and tear that comes 
with aging, make up only a 
small fraction of back prob- 
lems. (Studies suggest that as 
many as 30 percent of the pop- 
ulation have disks that are rup- 
tured, but in many cases they 
do not cause any pain.) 
Actually, the most common in- 
juries are strains and sprains to the 
muscles and ligaments surrounding 
the back. When these muscles and 
ligaments are injured or over- 
worked, severe pain can result. 
Strains and sprains can be caused 
by lifung, twisting, turning and Jjar- 
ring the back and its intricate internal 
ussue network. Something as simple 
as overworking or overstretching a 
muscle might result in a strain. A 
sprain typically comes from stretch- 
ing a ligament and tearing the tssue. 
Someumes the lower-back mus- 
cles contract involuntarily in re- 
sponse to a strain or sprain. Such 
spasms make up about three 
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*s Mother Nature’s way 
move me; I’m in- 
says Richard Guvy- 
D., co-founder of the Texas 
k In e, in Plano, Texas, the 
tion’s largest spine specialty clinic. 

ack pain is caused by 
unrelated 
Trouble in 


ems in other organs, 

the back’s machinery. 
the kidneys, liver, ovaries or pan- 
creas is sometimes signaled by pain 
in the back. Less serious ailments, 
Men- 


often 


too, have the same symptom. 


strual cramps, for instance, 

take the form of lower-back pain. 
Physicians have many tools for diag- 

nosing the causes of back pain, from 


ing reflexes to taking high-tech 
magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) 


check 


scans and muscle-nerve measurements 
like electromyograms (EMGs). Yet, 
despite such sophisticated techniques, 
some 85 percent of patients can’t be 
given a definitive diagnosis, according 
pain studies in the 
Fournal of the American Medical Associ- 


to a review of back- 
ation. “It’s hard because most of the 
things affected by back pain are mus- 
cles and ligaments, which we can’t see 
very well on any of the tests available 
says Richard Deyo, M.D., an 
internist at the University of Washing- 
ton School. of Medicine, in Seattle. 
‘That's why it’s sometimes so difficult 


to us,” 


to find out specifically what the cause 
of the pain 1s.” 


WHAT PUTS YOU AT RISK? 


Though the exact reason for a lot of 


back pain is unclear, doctors do 
know that certain activities make i1n- 
Unfortunately, 
many of these things are activities 
most women routinely engage in. 

Sitting, for instance, puts consid- 
erable pressure on the spine. So of- 
fice workers who sit at a desk all day 
are at high risk for back pain. 

Another high-risk category includes 
people who perform tasks requiring a 
lot of bending, lifting and twisting. 
Homemakers, for instance, who carry 
children, lug groceries and do chores 
hike mopping and vacuuming may be 
putting their back in jeopardy. 

The risk of developing back pain 
increases during pregnancy. 
all pregnant women develop back 
pain before or soon after giving birth. 
Spine and pelvic ligaments expand 
during pregnancy to accommodate 
the growing fetus; that makes them 
more suscepuble to sprains. 

In older women, osteoporosis, a 


juries more likely. 


disease in which the bones become 
brittle, raises the likelihood of a frac- 
ture to the spine. 

Being overweight by more than 20 
pounds increases the risk of lower- 
back pain, doctors say. 


Half of 








Wearing high-heeled shoes ca 
hard on the back because they th 
the body forward, throwing the } 
bar spine out of proper alignm 
Carrying heavy tote bags or povg 
books can also cause the spine to 
come misaligned. 

Stress is another possible contpil 
tor, says Deyo. “Stress doesn’t pm 
duce back pain, but stress and ang 
can cause muscle tension and spans 
Its reasonable to speculate that tig 
can perpetuate back-pain symp 
and develop into a vicious cycle.” ¥ 


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PREVENTING BACK PAIN 
It pays to avoid back pain—for 
than the obvious reasons. That’s 
cause after you’ve hurt your back 
you're three to five tmes more like 
hurt it again, doctors say. But yo 
minimize the nsk of back injury by 
ing.cautious 1n these activities: 
Lifting Whether you're liftingpE 
bies or boxes, “squat down toil 
level of the object and bring it Os 
to your body, and then stand , 
says Shelly Ritz, B.S., physical th 
pist at the Texas Back Institute. | 

When you bring yourself uprit 
the larger leg muscles bear the ar 
den. That’s better than relying ort 
back muscles, which you do "i 
you bend at the waist. 

Don’t try to lift too much. If sd e 
thing feels too heavy, (conti 








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mon ways women jeopardize their back and shoulders is by carrying a heavy bag. Experts say that to protect you 
from injury, your everyday pocketbook or tote bag should weigh no more than five pounds. And, ideally, you sh! 
be switching the bag from side to side when you’re carrying it to make sure the burden is evenly distributed. 

Yet, in an informal survey of women, Ladies’ Home Journal found that most women favor one shoulder. And whi 
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h your back! 


don’t strain yourself; get help. When 
carrying something and pivoting, move 


vour feet in the direction you're turn- 
ing. That decreases stress on the trunk. 

When lifting items like luggage, gro- 
ceries or even a heavy tote bag, bend 


om the knees, keeping your back 
straight. Grasp the item, hold it close 
to the body and stand up. This is less 
stressful than bending at the waist. 
When carrying an item like a 
heavy pocketbook or briefcase for a 
long period of time, shift it occasion- 
ally to the other side of your body. If 
you carry a baby on your hip, switch 
sides frequently. (It’s better, though, 
to carry a baby in a back carrier.) 
Standing Ritz teaches patients to 
ughten their abdominal muscles and 
buttocks somewhat, centering the 
pelvis more directly below the spine 
and flattening the lower back. “Most 
people stand with their rear sticking out 
a little bit, and they get an increased 
arch in their lower back,” she says. 
Also, when possible, prop yourself 
up against a wall, such as when you are 
waiting for a bus or standing in line for 
a movie. Keep small footstools around 
the house so you can alternate prop- 
ping up one leg while doing chores like 
ironing or washing dishes. That takes 
some pressure off the lower back. 
Sitting Many chairs force the lower 
back backward, causing stress. In- 
stead, find an adjustable chair that 
provides support to the lower 
back. Sit with your lower back 
pressed against the support. 
Always sit with your feet flat 
on the floor or propped on a 
stool so knees are above the hips. 
At work, try not to sit sull. “Peo- 
ple should try to get up every twen- 
ty to thirty minutes, whether they’re 
hurting or not,” Ritz says. “Take a 
quick jaunt over to the water foun- 
tain or copy machine. Even stand 
up at your desk if you’re on the 
phone, just to get out of that [sit- 
ting] position; it seems to add a lot of 
wear and tear to the body over tme.” 


IF YOUR BACK HURTS 

Despite precautions, many people end 
up with back pain—an — (continued) 
132 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - MAY 1994 


EXERCISES FOR A HEALTHY BAC! 


It’s impossible to protect your back from every mishap. But these exerd 
designed by the Texas Back Institute, can help. They're all designe 


strengthen the muscles that best support and stabilize the spine. 
Check with your doctor before beginning this or any exercise program. 


Bent-knee lifts Tighten abdominal muscles to keep lower back flat against floor. Lifi 
knee slowly toward the chest until bent at a 9O-degree angle. Bring other up similarly. Ha 
three seconds, then lower one leg at a time to starting position. Do ten to twenty repetitio 
alternate the starting leg. This strengthens the lower abdominal muscles. 





Bridges |ying on back with knees bent and 
ten the abdominals and squeeze 
the buttocks. Raise hips off the floor until knees, 

hips and trunk are aligned. Hold one to three 
eeping buttocks tight 
at thirty to fifty times 
muscles, or buttocks 


seconds. Lower hips, k 
until you reach floor. Repe 
This works the gluteal 





Trunk extension | 
pillow under hips and 
Squeeze the buttoc 
Raise head and she 
using lower-back muscles 
the floor. Repeat twenty to thirty times. This 
works the lowerback muscles 


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Crunches or partial sit-ups | 
back with knees bent and feet flat. Pres 
lower back into the floor and support t 
neck with hands behind the head. Tigh 
abdominals and, looking straight up at 
ceiltag, raise the head and shoulders o} 
flodr. Repeat thirty to fifty times. This wd 
the upper abdominal muscles 


Wall slide Stond, back against a wall, wit 
about one foot away from the wall. Tighten 
abdominals so lower back presses against the 
Slide down, keeping back tlat against the wall 
the knees are bent about 60 degrees. Push ba 
starting position, keeping back against the wall 
twenty to thirty repetitions. This works the 
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and then. In most cases, it goes) 
quickly by itself. But once in aw 
dull ache escalates into sudden, sh} 
pain, and perhaps a spasm that lea 
victim unable to stand straight, be 
move effectively without more 


@ Take a nonsteroidal anti-infla 
ry drug like ibuprofen (e.-g., 
Motrin or Nuprin). 

@ Use an ice pack on the affected 


ing moist heat for fifteen- to 
minute periods. 
@ After several days, gradually ré 
activity so muscles don’t weaken. | 
@ If pain persists for more than aye, 
or two, you should seek profesg 
treatment. 

@ Certain kinds of pain signal a 
injury and possible nerve damage. }} 
experience numbness or the le 
bladder or bowel control, get immfii 
medical attention. 


cians can help relieve it in a vari 
ways. An injection of an anesthetilll 
Novocain, is often used to relifé 
muscle spasm. One or more shot 
steriod like cortisone is nto the a 
into the facet joint or into the spe 
lessen aggravation in the joint oat 
disk pressing on a nerve. 
@ In the most extreme cases, surg 
sometimes warranted. Most typice¥, 
is used to repair a ruptured disk. a 
perts say surgery is only warran 
about 1 percent of all back-pain| 
and should be used only as a last repr 
So, if your back starts acting of 
member that people needing ex 
measures are the minority. Backi@ 
can be worrisome, but most pai 
have a good prognosis. “The od 3 
largely in their favor that they’ re 
to make a successful recovery,” @ 
says. “But they have to participate /@ 
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friend of mine—ordinarily 








a very practical, down-to- 
earth woman—recently 
spent nearly $2,000 on 
a weekend trip to Las 
Vegas to see Barbra Streisand 
perform on New Year’s Eve. “It 
was an extravagance,” she ad- 
mits. “The concert ticket alone 
was $300. But the thrill of being 


there, of getting dressed up, of 


seeing celebrities like Mel Gib- 
son—it was worth every penny!” 
[ notice enviously that she looks 
happier and more relaxed than 
I’ve ever seen her. 

When I mention this story to an- 
other friend, she confides that late- 


ly she’s been splurging on steak, of 
all things (she’s particularly fond of 


filet mignon). She’s been unem- 
ployed for the past few months, 
and this half pound of indulgence 
cheers her up, she says. 

Another woman I know confess- 
es that she recently took a day off 
work just to curl up at home tn her 
sweats, devour a pint of ice cream 
and watch movies all afternoon! 

Hearing these stories makes me 
think, When was the last time J did 
something fun and frivolous, 
something purely self-indulgent? 
At first I think, Well, I do it all the 
time—my husband and I often 

plurge on gourmet coffee beans 
ause we love the taste of fresh- 








ground coffee. That’s a little self- 
indulgent, isn’t it? And we just 
bought an enormously expensive 
car stereo, even though the 
money probably should have 
been spent on something more 
practical (like a new bed, since the 
one we have sags in the middle). 
3ut then I realize that the cof- 
fee beans and the stereo weren’t 
purchased at my instigatlon— 
they’re my husband’s pleasures. 
Sure, I enjoy them, too, but I 
would never have bought those 
things on my own. In fact, I can’t 
think of anything Pve done recently 
that could be classified as truly 
self-indulgent. Clearly, my friends 
(and my husband) know some- 
thing I don’t. What’s their secret? 


WOMEN JUST WANT TO HAVE FUN 
It turns out that my friends are not 
alone. Barbara Caplan, the director 
at Yankelovich Partners, Inc., an 
organization that tracks consumer 
trends, says that more and more 
women across the country seem to 
be enjoying small luxuries. “Most 
people are not going to run out 
and buy a whole new wardrobe,” 






she says, “but what they are doing 1 SidPae> 2 

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‘ion bucks.” Even my ice-cream- 
; pal is in good company. Faith 
orn, chairman of BrainReserve, 
another trend-watching organiza- 
yoints out that in spite of all the 
snes about the importance of cut- 
sack on fat, sales of Ben & Jerry’s 
ich (and oh-so-fattening) ice 
have tripled since 1987. 
plan says that her company’s re- 
also shows that women are increas- 
enjoying activities like gardening, 
decorating and baking from scratch. 
¢d of doing these things to be frugal 
“structive, she says, more women are 
them purely for pleasure. (I wonder 
/iting a window box counts as gar- 
» 32 If so, maybe I’m more involved in 
and than I thought.) 
yy has the pursuit of pleasure be- 
top priority for so many people? 
experts speculate that downsizing 
-eamer, meaner corporate policies 
led people to expect less satisfac- 
rom their job and to worry more 
their future. According to Caplan, 
‘nm you see big, established compa- 
saying people off, it contributes to a 
val feeling of not knowing what the 
+ is going to bring. I think there’s a 
sive sense of [uncertainty about] 
> things are going.” Consequently, 
) surprise that many people’s loyal- 
hifting to more controllable sources 
-asure, says Jim Spring, president of 
are Trends, an organization that 
ures and interprets how people 
‘d their free time. “While people 
trusted corporate America to pro- 
stability and personal well-being, 
‘they’re discovering that you have to 
to yourself, to your community, to 
‘home and to your friends,” he says. 
srtainly that’s true for many of the 
en I know. Even those whose jobs 
relatively secure are faced with a 
ing realization that having a career is 
mough. Amy Henchey, a forty-year- 
ttorney for the federal government, 
that one thing her job doesn’t pro- 
is an outlet for her creativity. “I enjoy 
ob, but I get more satisfaction from 
ing with my hands and doing crafts 
‘rocheting and knitting,” she says. 
’ many women, of course, time is a 
?e commodity. But some have ob- 
:d that finding a free hour or two for 
ctivity they love is the greatest self- 
Igence. Melissa Swaney, twenty-five, 
that one of the things she enjoys 
tis making chocolate chip cookies 
her daughter. Bonnie Goldberg, a 
y-six-year-old librarian, says, “One 
fe’s greatest pleasures is sitting at a 
ing frame with my mother, chatting 
7 about nothing in particular.” 
m Spring believes that outdoor pur- 


suits, especially, are growing in popular- 
ity. Twenty-six-year-old Pamela Kock, 
who lives in Cincinnati, enjoys walking 
in the woods near her home, where, she 
Says, “it’s easier to think.” Although 
she’s married, she does her walking 
alone. “Getting away from everyone is 
part of the pleasure,” she explains. 

But taking time out for pleasure 
doesn’t come easily to some women. 
According to Susan Schenkel, Ph.D., a 
psychologist in private practice in Cam- 
bridge, Massachusetts, “Women often 
don’t give their own special interests 
and needs a whole lot of priority if they 
have a demanding job and a family with 
three kids and all the rest.” 

Men, on the other hand, often have 
an easier time putting fun first. “Men 
wil routinely find time to work out, to 
play tennis or to do whatever it is they 
like to do. For many of them, it comes 
as naturally as brushing their teeth,” 
says Schenkel. This is certainly true of 
my husband—when a football game 
comes on, he watches it. So what if the 
dinner dishes are still on the table? He’ll 
clear them after the game. Maybe. 

But women’s propensity for putting 
themselves second could be changing, 


sional self-indulgent impulse just might 
improve my sex life, as well. Judy Kuri- 
ansky, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist 
who has researched the impact of plea- 
sure on people’s lives, says having fun 
can not only help you fall in love, it can 
also generate more sparks in a long-run- 
ning relationship. Now that’s one bonus 
I hadn’t counted on! After all, what rela- 
uonship couldn’t use a few more sparks? 
I know for a fact that whenever I’m not 
having a good day, ’m much less likely 
to be interested in romance. 

Making time to do what you enjoy is 
also important for your overall sense of 
well-being, says Schenkel. “When people 
talk about being anxious and depressed, 
clearly they’re not having enough fun,” 
she says. While a lack of fun may not be 
the cause of depression, having more of 
it certainly can’t hurt. Mary Hochberg, a 
forty-two-year-old management consul- 
tant, says that a few years ago the stress 
from working, running errands and rais- 
ing three kids was really getting to her. 
“When I realized I couldn’t rernember 
what season it was without figuring out 
the date, I knew I had to change some- 
thing,” she says. Her solution? She start- 
ed taking a route to work that leads past 


Finding time for an 
activity vou love may be 
the ereatest self-indulgence. 


says Schenkel, author of Giving Away 
Success (HarperCollins, 1992). “I think 
there’s an older generation that took that 
in stride much better. I suspect younger 
women are less willing to put themselves 
at the end of the line.” In that respect, I 
think she’s right on target. My grand- 
mother, for example, felt a much greater 
responsibility for having a spotless home 
than I do. If a really good movie is on—I 
confess, any movie—I will happily leave 
the vacuuming for another day. Still, I 
rarely purchase anything nonessential 
without considerable agonizing: Do I re- 
ally need this skirt? Do I have anything 
that will go with it? Is it too expensive? 
The list goes on. In fact, one of my 
friends says she hates to go shopping with 
me because she can’t stand to watch me 
constantly talk myself out of buying 
something I like. When I get home, of 
course, I feel deprived and angry. 


THE IMPORTANCE OF SELF-INDULGENCE 
Would I really be happier if I indulged 
myself more? I learn that aside from im- 
proving my mood, giving in to the occa- 


a field. “It adds almost five minutes to 
the drive, but I get to see new lambs in 
the spring, California poppies blooming 
in the summer, and in the fall, I notice 
how big the blackberries have gotten. 
Driving past that field every day relaxes 
me and brings me so much pleasure.” 

In addition, pleasure has real health 
benefits. Studies show that some enjoy- 
able activities, such as massage, can actu- 
ally reduce the physical signs of stress, 
including high blood pressure. Smelling a 
pleasant fragrance has also been shown 
to reduce tension and anxiety—some- 
thing that doesn’t surprise Marianne 
Ladlow,* a twenty-seven-year-old invest- 
ment-banking research assistant in Man- 
hattan. “Even when money is ught, I buy 
sachets for my drawers and potpourri to 
set out in baskets. I just feel better when 
my apartment smells nice,” she says. 

But it doesn’t take scientific studies to 
prove that doing something unexpected 
or out of character can make you feel 
better. Christina O’Donnell, a thirty-six- 
year-old full-time mom, says, “I have 
more fun when I toss (continued) 


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out the ‘mom’ role and try to be a kid again.” Last wint, 
example, she didn’t just stand and watch when her three: 
went sliding down a snow-covered hill in their slippery | 
suits—she joined in. “It was something that I used to dig 
kid, and it was great to stl be able to do it and have fun. 


THE PRINCIPLES OF PLEASURE | 
Okay, I’m convinced that pleasure is important, but what ej¢ 
should I be doing? Does this mean I can start eating chojg 
again? That I should stop counting every penny, every gram « 
Although everyone finds pleasure in different things, by 
ing to people I’ve learned that there are a few key ingredient} 
make up a successful indulgence. Cost is one of the most ui; 
tant—you don’t want your pleasure ruined later by a huge ¢ 
card bill. The trick is to be realistic: A vacation in the moug 
might be beyond your budget, but you can probably ma 
picnic in the woods. One of my co-workers says she picks 
few scented candles now and then. “Soft candlelight is so 
ing,” she says. Best of all, the cost is well within her budget.| 
Scheduling time off is another key factor, says Kunansky. 
often don’t know what your pleasures are going to be unt} 
give yourself time to explore them,” she says. Of course, I he 
ask the expert what /er favorite pleasure is. The answer? Gog 
theme parks. “My life is so high-stress and so pressured thé! 
me, doing Back to the Future The Ride and the ET Adve 
ride at Universal Studios Florida is the biggest pleasure i 
able,” she says. Kuriansky believes that the key is to get out 
house, away from the laundry and the chores, and spend t 
places where enjoyment is your only goal. “Take a night 
weekend off to go somewhere that’s fun and amusing,” she s 
On the other hand, it’s also important to enjoy the 
things that make up your everyday life, says David Myers, PI 
a social psychologist at Michigan’s Hope College and the al 
of The Purswt of Happiness (Avon, 1993). Myers acknowl 
that this isn’t exactly a new idea. Ben Franklin may have 
best two hundred years ago when he said that happiness is 
duced not so much by great pieces of good fortune that se 
happen as by the little advantages that occur every day. Se 
time to watch the sunrise, sip tea on your porch with a 
watch a baby splash in the bathtub—and smell the roses! 
Schenkel agrees that little things can provide great plea 
but she points out that some of us (like me) need to ac 
seek out those small joys. “If you’re not thinking in terr 
how to entertain yourself, it won’t necessarily happen sp 
neously. But if pleasure is high on your agenda, you’ll se 
portunities for it,” Schenkel says. (When she says this, it 0 
to me that, although I love music and am not a big fan ¢ 
coms, I invariably turn on the TV instead of the stereo. 
one simple habit I vow to change.) Schenkel also stresses 
it’s crucial to focus on the pleasure of the moment to the e| 
sion of all else—whatever you’re doing, don’t allow yourss 
think about the other things you “should” be doing instead. 
But all of these experts agree that you can find pleas 
just about anything—from splurging on a small luxury ite 
a sensuous silk camisole, to occasionally indulging in the | 
high-calorie chocolate dessert you can find. And don’t forge 
old standby—sex with someone you love is always a pleasur 
As for me, I think I’ll take the day off tomorrow and spe 
being completely self-indulgent—I won’t even think about 
ing housework or errands. I'll start with a trip to the 
(would you believe I’ve never bought myself flowers?). The 
turn up the stereo and create the richest, most sinful choc 
cream pie I can possibly make. Just for me. Well, maybe 
husband can have a piece. If he gives me a back rub. 
*Name has been changed. 


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Of course you want to have a nurturing 


relationship. But too much intimacy can 


actually threaten vour marriage. By Ally Hertz 


or the past six months, 

Jake and Sara Morri- 

son,* of Walnut Creek, 

California, have been 

going through Career 
Hell. Jake, forty, has been in 
charge of laying off employees at 
the accounting firm where he 
works. Although he’s been able to 
hang onto his own job, issuing 
pink slips to dozens of people in 
his department has left him weary 
and depressed. 

But his wife, Sara, thirty-eight, 
is always there to buoy him. “The 
next quarter is going to be better, 
honey,” she’ll say. “If anyone can 
deal with this, it’s you.” 

The Morrisons’ moral-support 
department has a Jake-roots-for- 
Sara branch, too. As any of their 
friends can attest, Jake is 
Sara’s biggest, ioudest fan. 
He revels in her every suc- 
cess. When she was called 
by an executive recruiter 
about a prestigious job in 
marketing, Jake built her up 
day after day as she moved 
through the interview process. 

But then Sara didn’t get the 
fabulous $60,000-a-vear job, 
the job that would have 
eased their mortgage 
payments and al- 
lowed them to 
save for their 
daughter’s col- 
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142 


lege education—the job that Sara 
wanted more for the challenge 
than the money. 

Sara has tried to get over her dis- 
appointment, but Jake’s reaction 
hasn’t allowed her to. “You were 
robbed,” he tells her every night. 

“Sometimes I think that Jake and 
I are too close to each other,” Sara 
says. “Its great to know that I can 
depend on him to offer support, but 
I’m quicker to get over my disap- 
pointments than he is, so our sup- 
port for each other works only when 
things go well. When they don’t, I 
can never put a problem behind me. 
I’m not sure this is healthy.” 

Neither are the experts. For the 
past few decades, the buzzwords 




















for couples have been intimacy, 
communication, connection. Weve 
held ourselves to high standards, 
worrying that our marriages failed 
some kind of imaginary closeness 
test. Haven’t had time for a cozy 
heart-to-heart talk in days? Don’t 
want to spend every moment to- 
gether? Uh-oh. 

But hold the worry. Couples 
counselors are now the first ones 
to say that perhaps couples can be 
too intertwined. “I have counseled 
many people in my practice whose 
pain and conflict turns out to be 
because they are too close,” says 
William J. Doherty, Ph.D., a fami- 
ly therapist and a professor of 
family social science at the Univer- 
sity of Minnesota, in St. Paul. 

While a too-cozy marriage may 
sound more like a goal than a 
problem, experts caution that cou- 
ples who are all wrapped up in 
each other may actually be puttng 
their relationship in jeopardy. “Ev- 
ery relationship has some areas 
that are what psychologists call 
symbiotic,” says Alan B. Bern- 
stein, C.S.W., a New York City 
psychotherapist. “If you’re sad, 
he’s sad. If you’re happy, he’s hap- 

py. Problems come up when 
couples get to the point 
where they can’t sepa- 
rate where one partner 
ends and the other be- 
gins. Their feelings 
get merged.” 
This kind of 
marriage can be sti- 
fling, keeping one or 
both partners from do- 
ing the things they really 
want to do, or cutting off 
all other relation- 
ships. For in- 
stance, a wife 
might feel 
obliged to 
pass up an 
important 
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Too close for comfort 


continued 


business trip because she knows her 
husband will complain about her ab- 
sence. She may worry that he will be 
jealous if she pays too much attention to 
a friend. Or perhaps husband and wife 
are so wrapped up in each other, there’s 
little room for anybody else—even the 
kids. In these situations, the seemingly 
positive goal of marital closeness has 
drifted into dangerous territory. 

“Most people who have too close a 
marriage are rarely aware of it,” says 
Cathy Krown Buirski, M.S.W., a psy- 
chotherapist in Denver. “It usually 
comes up when the husband or wife 
starts complaining that the needier per- 
son is sufling them.” Couples who don’t 
get to that point may suffer in silence or 
simply accept a life that’s far less en- 
riched or diverse than they might other- 
wise create. 

In smaller ways, a too-close-for- 
comfort marriage also takes its toll. 
Daily decision-making can get bogged 
down because the couple feel obliged 
to agree on every detail of their lives. 
Or, as in the case of Jake and Sara, a 
partner may lose emotional perspective 
as he or she attempts to help the other 
solve problems. The “help” backfires, 
and the other mate ends up feeling 
worse, as Sara did. 


THE TIES THAT BIND 

In healthy marriages, closeness ebbs 
and flows. “At the center of a rela- 
uionship is the point where most peo- 
ple are connected,” says Doherty. 
“People move closer and farther away 
from this point, so that the ‘shape’ of 
a relationship is like an ellipse, not a 
perfect circle. People have to learn to 
tolerate the periods of greater dis- 
tance without panicking.” 

But couples who are too close cannot 
cope with that kind of normal distance. 
For some, that’s because both partners 
are insecure. Each spouse feels inade- 
quate and considers the other to be the 
better half of the relationship. Conse- 
quently, they can’t bear to be apart. 
“We build each other up constantly,” is 
the way one wife describes her relation- 
ship with her husband. “He loves me 
much more than I love me.” 

Yet another negative—sexual jeal- 
ousy—can fuel intense closeness. “Some 
very close couples become preoccupied 
with each other’s loyalty,” says Doherty. 
“You find the husband and wife becom- 
ing jealous and invading each other’s 
privacy.” The dependency on each oth- 
er 1S sO enormous that life becomes 
unimaginable without the partner, and 
both spouses may obsess about losing 
the relationship. 

Another possible cause: a significant 


144 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL = MAY 1994 


event the couple experience to 
Researchers point to classic 
stances that tend either to d 
husband and wife or make the 
attuned to each other: a trage 
ing a child, for instance; a 
illness; significant stress such 
loss; or even a substantial p 
change such as a promotion. 


WHEN CLOSENESS GOES TOO 
Some wives, like Katy Martin,* 
five, a substitute teacher in Ch 
Wyoming, make a number of ¢ 
mises in the name of closeness. 
years ago, Katy says, “I flirted 
idea of going to law school, b 
who is an attorney himself, oppo 
idea. I chose not to go to law sch 
to continue as the rather old-fa 
wife I sull am.” 

Another woman might have hz 
resentment toward her husban 
Katy. “I realized that I might mn 
as close a marriage if I tried to 
as demanding a career as Jack ha 
says. “I wouldn’t have been able 
nurturing.” For Katy, her close: 
Her husband is a rich source of ¢ 
“We share everything and talk ab 
ery decision,” she says. “If we di 
it’s about something minor. He 
for instance, want to go to a m 
pensive restaurant than I would 
but I usually give in. His only cor 
with me is that he would prefer th 
next to him while he watches spi 
TV, and Id rather be on the phor 
my friends.” 

Therapists would probably 
word controlling to describe t 
Jack behaves toward Katy. Bu 
Cathy Buirski, “the behavior serv 
of their needs. Neither of the 
wants to separate from the other.’ 

Moreover, Katy has friends 
she keeps in close touch with, 
she relies on her husband for 
her emotional sustenance. Hav 
other relationships beyond the 
aries of marriage signifies that 
reached the point of being unheal 
some relationships, there’s an uns 
contract that excludes outsiders. 
ples may be able to negotiate a so¢ 
with other people,” says Alan Ber 
“but they don’t let anyone else 1 
tionally. There are only two majo 
ers. When the world become 
threatening, couples can retreat 
marriage, which becomes a ne 
enough for only two.” 

Not every couple find this kind 
fulfilling. “Some relationships 
limiting they’re toxic,” says Bert 
“Personal growth becomes extr 
limited. The marriage is stifling.” 


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hildren enter the lives of these heavi- 
ly intertwined couples? The closeness 
can make a child feel excluded; 


sense when they’re not wanted. For 
instance, one Minneapolis couple be- 
came so wrapped up in each other af- 
ter attending a marriage-encounter 
retreat that their teenage daughter felt 
completely left out and eventually de- 
veloped bulimia. “The family sought 
therapy, and in a counseling session 
the girl blurted out that she felt ‘like 
an orphan’ given how much time her 
parents were now devoting strictly to 
each other,” says William Doherty. 
“When the mother and father realized 
how their child was affected by their 
behavior, they were shocked back into 
paying more attention to her—and 
less to each other.” 

But not all couples see fit to change 
their behavior. “My total, utter loyalty 
is to my husband, not my children or 
my parents,” admits Lily Clark,* of 
Omaha, Nebraska, who’s been married 
for thirty-five years. “My daughter has 
commented that I’m lacking in the 


“You should look at your marriage as 
a teacup that should always be full,” 
says Judi, “and never let anyone else 
drink from the cup. I think a lot of peo- 
ple who have children let them drink 
from the cup, and then the marriage 
dissolves. I didn’t marry Rod because I 
wanted to have a family—I wanted to 
be with him.” 


FINDING THE RIGHT DEGREE 

OF INTIMACY 

For most couples, however, balance is 
essential: Your husband shouldn’t be 
your sole source of companionship and 
support. It’s vital to have your own 
friends and interests—at any age both 
are energizing, and later in life, they are 
even more important. 

“In general, the larger your social 
circle, the better off you are,” says 
Shari Lusskin, M.D., a clinical instruc- 
tor in psychiatry at New York Universi- 
ty School of Medicine, in New York 
City. “If you depend only on one per- 
son, life can throw you a curve ball and 
leave you alone.” 

Studies have shown that after divorce, 
for instance, women tend to manage 
better than men. That’s because women 
have usually maintained a social net- 


“When the world ects too 


threatening. 


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expert, “the marriage 
becomes a retreat big 


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mother department.” Lily doesn’t 
waste time feeling guilty, however. 
Whatever her deficiencies as a mother, 
she suggests that she has more than 
made up for them by inspiring her 
daughter to try to create such a close 
marriage for herself. “I don’t think our 
daughter can help but use our marriage 
as a role model. For instance, I hear 
her telling her husband how terrific he 
is, which is something Don and I do 
with each other.” 

Other couples may be so involved 
with each other that they feel there’s no 
room in their lives for children at all. 
Since the day they got married twenty- 
five years ago, Judi and Rod Rodman, of 
Pownal, Vermont, have been the kind of 
couple who friends say “can read each 
other’s minds.” 


146 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - MAY 1994 


only two.” 


work, so when they’re single they’re not 
as lonely as men, who tend not to keep 
up with social contacts. Keeping this in 
mind, Lusskin suggests that “it isn’t so 
bad if a wife goes out one night with her 
friends and the husband goes out anoth- 
er night with his friends.” 

Ultimately, the best advice the ex- 
perts have to offer those couples who 
have grown too close is to expand their 
individual horizons. The first step is for 
partners to agree that it’s in their mu- 
tual best interest to meet new people, 
try new activities, go new places. Talk- 
ing about this can be difficult—espe- 
cially for couples who are used to doing 
everything together and to relying sole- 
ly on each other. But if it’s been more 
than a month or two since you and 
your husband have gotten together 













































with friends—individually or as 
ple—then you definitely need to E 
the subject. 

“Try to find a sensitive way to 
your spouse that you think you’ve 
too clingy, and as nice as that i 
could use a little space,” advises D 

It’s also a good idea to take st 
your friendships. “Ask yourself, 
do I have relationships with othe’ 
my spouse? Whom do I call?’ 
Lusskin. “If you realize that you 
have as many friends as you’d lik 
a way to make some.” 

Therapy may be helpful for tho 
fering from extreme cases of clo 
“Tf one person shifts to indepen 
the one left behind may begin 
unloved,” says Cathy Buirski. “ 
helps couples to remain connecte 
shows that the new pattern their 
wants in the relationship isn’t a 
out of sight, out of mind.” 

But most of the time, seeki 
new activities and friends, alon 
soothing communication betwee 
and your partner, will be the b 
course. That works for Janic 
Bruce Anderson, of Fargo, 
Dakota. “Our marriage is a ten in 
ness, but we don’t spend every 
together,” says Janice, forty-four. 

The Andersons’ romance 1s j 
alive as it was twenty-eight yea 
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English at a junior high. Bruce, 
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many weekends away hunting; f 
part, Janice goes to the opera an 
let. Occasionally, they share the 
tivities with each other. 

And that’s what marriage is all 
You love and trust each other; y 
secure in your feelings. But each 
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,adies’ Home Journal Editorial 


OW YOU CARE: 


DO YOU WANT TO SAY NO TO 
SLEAZE AND VIOLENCE? 
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n emnical oe } Kne at cnilc =2xposed fo tne 
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Du ety is beco 1 coarser and nterest stories. We report on these 
coarser. Everythinc dde tne bjects in th imal anc ontinue 
eTTe "1 90 1e e WO OF nadqisnne i I 
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ddicts of their users, and by ignora /ho are 2 akers and ou nec not promoting | he 
nd prudery that allowed the spread of tars todaye Amy Fisher and Joey retlecting and magnitying the cynicism 
ie sexually transmitted disease syphilis Buttatuoco, lorena and John Wayne and opportunism that cted 
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irectly to his readers about th ues ind cert t we would 1 land where its citizens demand righ 
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ociety about whicn we must speak out Jow, | KnNoV peen said tnat if \ ymmitteda eacn year, where every two 
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vorld is the one our children will 
bly inherit 
i yet, there are some pecple who 
are beginning to think a change is coming. 


D AA 
mnial Patric ninan 
VONie! FOITICK FVIOY Qn, 


ine senior senator 
from New York 
the cusp of changing our mind 


t the direction of American society. . . . 


said recently, “I think we 


Ve are now reaching a new 
derstanding of what a good society is. 
uddenly you find people across the 
oolitical, social and racial spectrum 


n 


Y ( 


talking in very much the same way." 

The voices being raised both privately 
ly are speaking out about 
ethics and responsibility. For example, 
the Children’s Defense Fund's recent 
iolence urges 


and public 


report on children and \ 
Americans to restore individual and 

community responsibility for children by 
being better parents and mentors, and 


by making “pariahs” out of those who 


ohn W. Gardner, Professor of Public 
Service at Stanford University, writes, 
‘No society can remain vital or even 


glamorize violence 


survive without a reasonable base of 
and surely we don't 
want cynicism to be our most dominant 
shared value? 

Professor Amitai Etzioni, of George 
Washington University, in a book, The 
Spirit of Community, declares, “No 
society can function unless most of its 
members ‘behave’ most of the time 


shared values...” 


because they voluntarily heed their social 
y y 


responsibilities and commitments.” Etzioni 
also writes, “VWVe must be ready to 
express our moral sense, raise our moral 
voice a decibel or two. In the silence that 
prevails, it may seem as if we were 
shouting; actually, we are merely 
speaking up.” These words heartened 
me when | began to write this editorial. 

A hundred years ago it was not easy 
© teach women who understood nothing 
about bacteria how to protect 
themselves or their families from illness. 

Nor was it sensible for the editor of a 
ladies’ magazine” to bring up such a 
shockingly taboo subject as sexually 
transmitted disease. 

To protect Americans from those 
dangerous patent medicines, the 
government finally had to step in. That's 
why the Food and Drug Administration 
came to be created. 

In the past, things changed when 
people understood there were wrongs 
that had to be addressed and took 
responsibility to put them right. 

What can we do today? Unlike the 
editor of Ladies’ Home Journal in the 
past, | cannot lecture the readers—nor 
would | want to. And our problems, 
unlike those of the past, are less specific, 
more generalized. Still, | want to discuss 
our concerns with you and have you 
share your thoughts and feelings with 
me. Has the time come when we should 
all say “Enough!” and begin to do 
something about improving our society? 

First, will you start by discussing this 


editorial with your family and friends, | 
your children’s teachers and your clergyé 
Then will you show you care about these 
matters by signing this petition and also # 
asking others who care fo sign? | will 
present the results to President Clinton, fol 
members of Congress, and the president 
of the television networks, movie Studios | 
and record companies. 

| also want to know your ideas. Do 
you have specific suggestions for 
combating the attitude and dealing 
with the problems we are all facingé 
One of the Journal editors believes we 
should have a national Day of 
Reflection, a day like Earth Day, when 
we consider not what we are doing to 
our land and oceans but what we are 
doing to ourselves. Do you agree? (The 
idea of Thanksgiving Day, our most 
American of holidays, originally came 
from @ women’s magazine editor!) 

| kr6w that this editorial is just a first 
step to get us thinking about these 
issues. But can we together—the Journa 
and the millions of thoughttul women 
who read this magazine—create a 
program of specific actions? 

Senator Moynihan says, “This 
country has gotten itself into a crisis 
that is unprecedented, that has no 
equivalent. But then this country has ne 
equivalent. We have done things 
in the past that no one would have 
believed. And we can do this. | think 
we are just t about realizing we 
have to.” —MyRNA BLYTH, EDITORIN-CHIE 


Yes, | care I want to help say no to sleaze and violence. 


ee sign your name below and ask your friends, relatives and neighbors to sign, foo. 


Send this petition to: LHJ “Show You Care”/Petitions, P.O. Box 5955, Grand Central Station, New York, NY 10163- 


5955. If you want to write additional comments, send them to: 


LHJ “Show You Care”/Comments, P.O. Box 5956, 


Grand Central Station, New York, NY 10163-5956. We will be devoting space in future issues to your views. 


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he nightly scene at the 
Godbout home is 
common to 
families 
country: Dad return- 


many 
across the 
ing home from work, Mom greet- 
ing him, the kids pouncing on him 
and wrestling him to the floor, and 
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dlers are tickled, tossed and tum- 
bled. In this suburban New Jersey 
household even the family blood- 
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keet squawks excitedly on the 
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sofa, two-year-old Tom* remains 
motionless; his large chocolate- 
brown eves stare dully at the wall. 
When a visitor tries to greet him or 
pick him up, he begins to vowl, his 
cries quickly turning to piercing 
screams that seem beyond comfort. 

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sisters. In their pink corduroy pants 
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old 


long-suffering cats or the dog, Fes- 


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Andrea 
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keet; and rush back and forth for 
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Phe children’s names have been 
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156 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL 


Janice and Tom’s birth 


all three of these children 
started out with the same 
tragic strikes against them: 


mother is a drug addict liv- 
ing on the streets. (Janice’s 
father is unknown; Tom’s 
is in and out of jail.) As a 
result of their mother’s 
drug use, both children 
were born addicted to 
crack, making the first few 
months of their lives a 
nightmare. Andrea’s moth- 
er was also high when she 
gave birth, one month ear- 
ly. She abandoned Andrea 
(her ninth child) almost 
immediately after her birth. 
All this would be a tough 
enough beginning for any 
infant. But, say the Godbouts, Jan- 
ice’s, Tom’s and Andrea’s parents 
also left them another grim legacy: 
All three youngsters were born HIV- 
positive; their parents have AIDS. 
For Janice and probably Andrea, 
though, the future looks bright. 
They are part of a little-known 
good-news story about AIDS: Like 
70 to 80 percent of children born 
HIV-positive, 


reverted,” meaning she no longer 


Janice has “sero- 
tests positive for the virus; doctors 
believe Andrea will also serorevert. 

How is this possible? All babies 
whose mothers have AIDS will test 
HIV-positive at birth. Vhat’s because 


MAY 1994 


MAUREEN GODBOUT cuddles two-year-old Tom,* 
the sickest of her three foster children 


infants, who are born with underde- 
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antibodies (blood cells that fight in-} 
fections) from their mother. So, if} 
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baby’s body. Over ume, as the in- 
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over, the inherited anubodies disap- 
pear—including, in most cases, the 
HIV antibodies; this is seroreversion. 
A child probably has the AIDS virus, 
experts say, if he does not serorevert | 
by the time he’s eighteen months to 


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Carbamazepine: Felbatol™ causes a decrease in the steady-state carbamazepine plasma concentrations and an increase in the 
steady-state carbamazepine epoxide plasma concentration. In nine otherwise healthy subjects with epilepsy ingesting 
carbamazepine. the steady-state trougn (Cmin) carbamazepine concentration was 8+2 micrograms/mL. The carbamazepine 
steady-state Cmin decreased 31% to 5+1 micrograms/mL when telbamate (3000 ma/day. divided into three doses) was 
coadministered Carbamazepine epoxide steady-state Cmin concentrations increased 57% from 10+03 to 16+04 
micrograms/mL with the addition of felbamate 

in clinical trials. similar changes in carbamazepine and carbamazepine epoxide were seen 
Valproate: Felbato!™ causes an increase in steady-state valproate concentrations In tour subjects with epilepsy ingesting 
valproate, the steady-state trough (Cmin) valproate plasma concentration was 63+16 micrograms/mL. The steady-state Cmin 
increased to 78x14 micrograms/mL when 1200 mg/day of felbamate was coadministered. Increasing the felbamate dose to 
2400 mg/day increased the steady-state valproate Cmin to 96+25 micrograms/mL Corresponding values for free valproate Cmin 
concentrations were 7+3, 9+4, and 11+6 micrograms/mL for 0. 1200, and 2400 mg/day Felbatol™, respectively. The ratios of the 
AUCs of unbound valproate to the AUCs of the total valproate were 111%, 13.0%, and 11 5%, with coadministration of 0. 1200 
and 2400 ma/day of Felbato!™ respectively This indicates that the protein binding of valproate did not change appreciably with 
increasing doses of Felbatol’"” 

Effects of Other Antiepileptic Drugs on Felbatol™: 

Phenytoin: Phenytoin causes an approximate doubling of the clearance of Felbatol™ at steady state, and, therefore, the addition of 
phenytoin causes an approximate 45% decrease in the steady-state trough concentrations of Felbatol™ as compared to the same 
dose of Felbato!™ given as monotherapy 

Carbamazepine: Carbamazepine causes an approximate 50% increase in the clearance of Felbatol™ at steady state and, therefore, 
the addition ot carbamazepine results in an approximate 40% decrease in the steady-state trough concentrations of Felbato!™ as 
compared to the same dose of Felbato!™ given as monotherapy 

Valproate: Available data suggest that there is no significant effect of valproate on the clearance of Felbatol'™ at steady state 
Therefore, the addition of valproate 1s not expected to cause a clinically important effect on Felbatol™ plasma concentrations 
Effects of Antacids on Felbato!™ The rate and extent of absorption of a 2400 mg dose of Felbatol™ as monotherapy given as 
tablets was not affected when coadministered with antacids 

Drug/Laboratory Test Interactions: There are no known interactions of Felbatol™ with commonly used laboratory tests 
Carcinogenesis, Mutagenesis, Impairment of Fertility: Carcinogenicity studies were conducted in mice and rats. Mice received 
felbamate as a teed admixture for 92 weeks at doses of 300, 600. and 1200 mg/kg and rats were also dosed by feed admixture for 
404 weeks at doses of 30. 100, and 300 (males) or 10, 30. and 100 (females) mg/kg. The maximum doses in these studies 
produced steady-state plasma concentrations that were equal to or less than the steady-state plasma concentrations in epileptic 
patients receiving 3600 mg/day. There was a statistically significant increase in hepatic cell adenomas in high-dose male and 
female mice and in high-dose female rats Hepatic hypertrophy was significantly increased in a dose-related manner in mice. 
primarily males, but also in females Hepatic hypertrophy was not found in female rats. The relationship between the occurrence of 
benign nepatocellular adenomas and the finding of liver hypertrophy resulting from liver enzyme induction has not been examined 
There was a statistically significant increase in benign interstitial cell tumors of the testes in high-dose male rats receiving 
telbamate The relevance of these findings to humans 1s unknown 

As a result of the synthesis process, felbamate could contain small amounts of two known animal carcinogens the genotoxic 
compound ethyl carbamate (urethane) and the nongenotoxic compound methyl carbamate It 1s theoretically possible that a 50 kg 
patient recerving 3600 mq of felbamate could be exposed to up to 0 72 micrograms of urethane and 1800 micrograms of methy! 
carbamate. These daily doses are approximately 1/35,000 (urethane) and 1/5,500 (methyl carbamate) on a mg/kg basis, and 
1/10,000 (urethane) and 1/1.609 (methyl carbamate) on a ma/m’ basis, of the dose levels shown to be carcinogenic in rodents. 
Any presence of these two compounds in felbamate used in the lifetime carcinogenicity Studies was inadequate to cause tumors. 

Microbial and mammalian cell assays revealed no evidence of mutagenesis in the Ames Salmonella /microsome plate test, CHO/HGPRT 
mammalian cell forward gene mutation assay, sister chromatid exchange assay in CHO cells, and bone marrow cytogenetics assay 

Reproduction and fertility studies in rats showed no effects on male or female fertility at oral doses of up to 13.9 times the 
human total daily dose of 3600 mg on a mg/kg basis, or up to 3 times the human total daily dose on a mg/m’ basis 
Pregnancy: Pregnancy Category C. The incidence of malformations was not increased compared to contro! in offspring of rats or 
rabbits given doses up to 13.9 times (rat) and 4.2 times (rabbit) the human daily dose on a mg/kg basis, or 3 times (rat) and less 
than 2 times (rabbit) the human dally dose on a mg/m’ basis. However, in rats, there was a decrease in pup weight and an increase 
in pup deaths during lactation The cause for these deaths is not known. The no effect dose for rat pup mortality was 6.9 times the 
human dose on a mg/kg basis or 1.5 times the human dose on a mg/m’ basis. 

Placental transfer of felbamate occurs in rat pups. There are, however, no studies in pregnant women Because anima! 
reproduction studies are not always predictive of human response, this drug should be used during pregnancy only it clearly needed 
Labor and Delivery: The effect of felbamate on labor and delivery in humans is unknown 
Nursing Mothers: Felbamate has been detected in human milk. The effect on the nursing infant is unknown (See Pregnancy section) 
Pediatric Use: The satety and effectiveness of Felbato!™ in children other than those with Lennox-Gastaut syndrome has not been 
established 
Geriatric Use: No systematic studies in geriatric patients have been conducted Clinical studies of Felbatol™ did not include 
sufficient numbers of patients aged 65 and over to determine whether they respond differently from younger patients. Other 
reported clinical experience has not identified differences in responses between the elderly and younger patients In general 
dosage selection for an elderly patient should be cautious. usually starting at the low end of the dosing range. reflecting the greater 
frequency of decreased hepatic. renal, or cardiac function, and of concomitant disease or other drug therapy 
ADVERSE REACTIONS 

The most common adverse reactions seen in association with Felbatol™ (felbamate) in adults during monotherapy are anorexia 
vomiting, insomnia, nausea, and headache The most common adverse reactions seen in association with Felbatol’” in adults 
during adjunctive therapy are anorexia, vomiting, insomnia, nausea dizziness, somnolence. and headache 

The most common adverse reactions seen in association with Felbato!™ in children during adjunctive therapy are anorexia, 
vomiting, insomnia, headache, and somnolence 

The dropout rate because of adverse experiences or intercurrent illnesses among adult felbamate patients was 12 percent 
(120/977) The dropout rate because of adverse experiences or intercurrent illnesses among pediatric felbamate patients was six 
percent (22/357) In adults, the body systems associated with causing these withdrawals in order of frequency were digestive (4.3%), 
psychological (2.2%), whole body (17%), neurolagical (1.5%) and dermatological (15%) In children, the body systems associated 
with causing these withdrawals in order of frequency were: digestive (1.7%), neurological (1.4%), dermatological (1 4%) 
psychological (11%). and whole body (1.0%) In adults, specific events with an incidence of 1% or greater associated with causing 
these withdrawals, in order of frequency were. anorexia (1.6%), nausea (1.4%), rash (1.2%), and weight decrease (1 1%). In children, 
specific events with an incidence of 1% or greater associated with causing these withdrawals, in order of frequency was rash (1.1%) 
Incidence in Clinical Trials: The prescnber should be aware that the figures cited in the following table cannot be used to predict the 
incidence of side effects in the course of usual medical practice where patient charactenstics and other factors differ from those which 
prevailed in the clinical tnals. Similarly, the cited frequencies cannot be compared with figures obtained from other clinical investigations 
involving different investigators, treatments, and uses including the use of Felbatol™ as adjunctive therapy where the incidence of 
adverse events may be higher due to drug interactions. The cited fiqures, however. do provide the prescribing physician with some basis 
for estimating the relative contibution of drug and nondrug factors to the side effect incidence rate in the population studiec 



































Adults 

Incidence in Controlled Clinical Trials—Monotherapy Studies in Adults: The lable that follows enumerates 
occurred at an incidence of 2% or more among 58 adult patients who received Felbato!™ monotherapy at dosages 
in double-blind controlled tnals. Reported adverse events were classified using standard WHO-based dictionary ter 


Adults 
Treatment-Emergent Adverse Event 
Incidence in Controlled Monotherapy Trials 


Low Dose 


Felbatol™* Valproate*~ Felbatol™* 
(N=58)  (N=50) (N=58} 
Body System/Event % % Body System/Event % 


Body as a Whole 
Fatigue 
Weight Decrease 
Face Edema 

Central Nervous System 
Insomnia 
Headache 


Digestive (cont'd) 


o 


Diarrhea 52 

SGPT Increased 5.2 
Metabolic/Nutnitional 

Hypophosphatemia 34 
Respiratory 

Upper Respiratory 





ooo 


Anxiety Tract Infection 
Dermatological Rhinitis 

Acne Special Senses 

Rash Diplopia 
Digestive Otitis Media 

Dyspepsia Urogenital 


Vomiting 
Constipation 


Intramenstrual Bleeding 
Uninary Tract Infection 


Dom WW UMO WwWO 
OND SER KMWOD LHW 
mPNynN CO NOL DOL 


coo 


*3600 mg/day . *"15 mg/kg/day ; 

Incidence in Controlled Add-On Clinical Studies in Adults: The table that follows enumerates adverse events that occ: 

incidence of 2% or more among 114 adult patients who received Felbatol™ adjunctive therapy in add-on controll 

dosages up to 3600 mg/day. Reported adverse events were classified using standard WHO-based dictionary terminolog 
Many adverse experiences that occurred dunng adjunctive therapy may be a result of drug interactions. Adverse e 

adjunctive therapy typically resolved with conversion to monotherapy. or with adjustment ot the dosage of other antie 
i 


I 
incidence in a Controlled Add-On Trial in Children with Lennox-Gastaul Syndrome: The table that follows enumera 
events that occurred more than once among 31 pediatric patients who received Felbato!™ up to 45 mo/ka/day ora 
3600 mg/day. Reported adverse events were classified using standard WHO-based dictionary terminology 


Adults Children 
Treatment-Emergent Adverse Event Treatment-Emergent Adverse Event 
Incidence in Controlled Add-On Trials Incidence in a Controlied Add-On Lennox-Gasi 
Felbatol™ Placebo Felbatol™ Place 
(N=114)  (N=43) (N=31) (Ned 
Body System/Event % % % ‘ 


Body as a Whole 






















Body System/Event 
Body as a Whole 
Fe 



























































Fatigue 16.8 7.0 ver 22.6 i 
Fever 2.6 7 Fatigue 97 
Chest Pain 26 Ss Weight Decrease 65 
Central Nervous System Pain 65 
Headache 36.8 93 Central Nervous System 
Somnolence 193 70 Somnolence 48.4 . 
Dizziness 18.4 140 Insomnia 16.1 ; 
Insomnia 175 70 Nervousness 16.1 
Nervousness 7.0 2.3 Gait Abnormal 97 
Tremor 61 23 Headache 65 
Anxiety 5.3 47 Thinking Abnormal 6.5 
Gait Abnormal 53 0 Ataxia 65 
Depression 5.3 0 Urinary Incontinence 65 
Paraesthesia 35 23 Emotional Lability 65 | 
Ataxia 3.6 0 Miosis 65 ' 
Mouth Dry 26 0 Dermatological 
Stupor 26 0 Rash 97 . 
Dermatological Digestive ' 
Rash 3.5 47 Anorexia 54.8 
Digestive Vomiting 38.7 
Nausea 34.2 23) Constipation 12.9 
Anorexia 193 2.3 Hiccup 97 
Vomiting 167 47 Nausea 6.5 
Dyspepsia 12.3 70 Dyspepsia 65 
Constipation 114 24 Hematologic 
Diarrhea 5.3 23 Purpura 12.9 
Abdominal Pain 53 0 Leukopenia 65 
SGPT Increased 35 0 Respiratory 
Musculoskeletal Upper Respiratory 
Myaigia 26 0 Tract Infection 45.2 
Reese Pharyngitis 97 
Upper Respiratory Coughing 65 
Tract Infection 53 70 Special Senses 
Sinusitis 35 0 Otitis Media 97 
Pharyngitis 26 0 
Special Senses 
Diplopia 61 0 
Taste Perversion 6.1 0 
Vision Abnormal 53 23 


Other Events Observed in Association with the Administration of Felbato!™: In the paragraphs that follow, the adve} 
events, other than those in the preceding tables, that occurred in a total of 977 adults and 357 children exposed to Fell 
that are reasonably associated with its use are presented. They are listed in order of decreasing frequency. Because the 
events observed in open-label and uncontrolled studies, the role of Felbato!™ in their causation cannot be reliably determ 
Events are classified within body system categories and enumerated in order of decreasing frequency using 
definitions: frequent adverse events are defined as those occurring on one or More Occasions in at least 1/100 patients; 
adverse events are those occurring in 1/100-1/1000 patients, and rare events are those occurring in fewer than 1/1000 p 
Event frequencies are calculated as the number of patients reporting an event divided by the total number of patients 
exposed to Felbatol™ 
Body as a Whole: Frequent Weight increase, asthenia, malaise, influenza-like symptoms, Rare: anaphylactoid reaction, 
substernal 
Cardiovascular: Frequent Palpitation. tachycardia, Rare: supraventricular tachycardia 
Central Nervous System: Frequent Agitation psychological disturbance. aggressive reaction, Infrequent: hallucination 






suicide attempt, migraine 
Digestive: Frequent SGOT increased: Infrequent esophagitis, appetite increased, Rare: GGT elevated 
Hematologic: /nfrequent: Lymphadenopathy, leukopenia, leukocytosis, thrombocytopenia, granulocytopenia, Rare: | 
factor test positive, qualitative platelet disorder, agranulocytosis 
Metabolic/Nutritional: /nfrequent: Hypokalemia, hyponatremia, LDH increased. alkaline phosphatase i! 
hypophosphatemia, Rare: creatinine phosphokinase increased 
Musculoskeletal: /nfrequent Dystonia : 
Dermatological: Frequent: Pruritus, Infrequent: urticana, bullous eruption; Rare: buccal mucous membrane swelling] 
Jonnson Syndrome 
ial ; Rare: Photosensitivity allergic reaction 

DRUG ABUSE AND DEPENDENCE 
Abuse: Abuse potential was not evaluated in human studies 
Dependence: Rats administered felbamate orally at doses 83 times the recommended human dose 6 days each \ 
consecutive weeks demonstrated no signs of physical dependence as measured by weight loss following drug withdrawal ( 
each week 
OVERDOSAGE 

Four subjects inadvertently received Felbatol™ (felbamate) as adjunctive therapy 1n dosages ranging from 5400 to 72! 
for durations between 6 and 51 days. One subject who received 5400 mg/day as monotherapy for 1 week reported r 
experiences. Another subject attempted suicide by ingesting 12,000 mg of Felbatol™ in a 12-hour period. The or| 
experiences reported were mild gastne distress and a resting heart rate of 100 bpm. No serous adverse reactions 
reported 

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’t sweat the small stuff” 
| ed 


«ies who show antibodies to HIV 
“ted regularly. Andrea’s first two 
tyiere negative, says Maureen God- 
vhe children’s foster mother. “Jan- 
.s in the clear by the age of two 
They are both lucky little girls.” 

§)ough Tom has not yet been diag- 
is having the AIDS virus, his health 
y! y suggests that he has the disease. 
i: two years of life, Tom has seen 
loctors and hospitals, and under- 
}; ore tests, than most of us do in our 
ives. Because of chronic upper-res- 
dy y infections, he now takes antbi- 
“ily. And if any of the last battery of 


2 Godbouts say, his physicians plan 
¢ ¢ him on AZT, the first drug ap- 
yi as an AIDS treatment. 


| IRGOTTEN CHILDREN 

i unately, there are far too many 
tn who start their lives as Tom, 
a and Janice did. And since the 
4 cal parents sometimes die from 
: before their offspring do, more 
+ ore youngsters are becoming or- 
4: These are children other relatives 
® to take into their homes, children 
) ople consider adopting. 

ay HIV babies live full-time in 
‘ribs in a hospital ward. “No one 
hem up, plays with them or takes 
yut,” says Maureen, thirty-three, a 
me medical assistant. “That im- 
hunted me after I visited a pedi- 
| IV hospital ward. It’s why we 
Jnmice, Tom and Andrea.” 

» Bob Godbout, thirty-six, a teach- 
| high school for emotionally dis- 
adolescents, the reason his family 


tn into their home is much more 
dial. Like most Americans in the 
/ighties, Bob had barely heard the 
» MDS. One evening in 1984, how- 
vhe phone rang. “It was a hospital 
/orgia telling us my father was ter- 
y ill with AIDS,” recalls Bob. By 
}ae he got to the hospital, his fifty- 
» year-old father was already in a 
\ He died three weeks later without 
lg consciousness. 

aever got to talk to my father,” 
‘ob. “It was the nurses who told 
sat he was bisexual.” Like his 
: rand sister, Bob was stunned. 

| ais father’s memory, Bob and 
“zen made a quilt square, which 
| ook to Washington, D.C. The 
!: is now one of tens of thousands 
Lig up the giant AIDS memorial 
. “But I knew that wasn’t enough,” 
“ob. “I wanted to give my father’s 
Meaning.” 

©? Godbouts first learned about 
‘afected babies who needed homes 


from the former principal at Bob’s 
school. Terry Zealand, Ph.D., had just 
founded the AIDS Resource Founda- 
tion for Children, which runs three 
homes for kids with AIDS in New Jer- 
sey. “We had no idea such kids existed,” 
said Maureen. “We saw these babies 
and fell in love.” 

By becoming foster parents, the God- 
bouts learned, they could take HIV-in- 
fected babies into their home and care 
for them. The state would still have the 
ultimate responsibility for the children 
and would pay the Godbouts for their 
care; the children’s medical bills would 
be paid by Medicaid. 

But before the couple took any ac- 
tion, they gave their two children, 
Daniel, a sharp twelve-year-old, and 
shy, ten-year-old Erin, equal votes on 
the matter. “We’ve always been very 
open with our kids,” says Maureen, 
“and this was a major, major decision 
that was also going to affect their lives, 
all our lives, in a big way. We wanted 
our children to still be able to grow up 
normally and not be ostracized by other 
people or the kids at school. 

“We explained that this child might 
come into our home and die,” says 
Maureen. “We were honest about every- 


and infectious-disease control,” says 
Maureen, stroking Tom’s head as he 
nestles in her lap. “I spent time in a hos- 
pital observing nurses looking after 
AIDS babies. These kids have to be 
watched constantly [to monitor 
whether] they get temperatures during 
the day, or thrush infections [a yeast in- 
fection of the mouth], or if they start to 
lose their appetite or lose weight. Their 
heads have to be measured regularly to 
make sure they are growing properly.” 

What the couple were not warned 
ibout, however, was how to deal with 
HIV babies who were also born crack- 
addicted. In July 1990, “the Division of 
Youth and Family Services [DYFS] just 
dropped off the first child, Jennifer* 
[who lived with the family only briefly],” 
remembers Maureen. “The baby 
screamed the entire time.” 

After a week of this, the Godbouts 
called the DYFS for help. The agency 
sent out a nurse, who taught Maureen 
and Bob that crack-addicted infants 
cannot make eye contact, have difficulty 
bonding and must not be stimulated. 
“They told us to ughtly swaddle these 
babies—they feel more secure that 
way—and to hold them on our chests 
faced away from us so they didn’t make 


“We saw these babies and 
fell in love,” savs Maureen. 


thing. They told us they didn’t care if 
the babies were sick; they said we 
should take them so they could see what 
it was like to have a real family.” 

But, while Daniel and Erin were en- 
thusiastic about the idea, the Godbouts’ 
friends and other relatives were very up- 
set. “They asked us, ‘How can [you] do 
this? Aren’t you afraid of exposing your 
own kids, or our kids, to this?’ ” says 
Bob, who admits that he and his wife 
also shared doubts at the beginning, un- 
ul they educated themselves thoroughly 
about AIDS. 

“Every single person we discussed it 
with at the beginning tried to talk us out 
of it,” says Maureen. “Some of Bob’s 
family and mine have cut us out of their 
lives. People who used to visit regularly 
and invite us to their homes regularly no 
longer do. It was a testing point in our 
relationships with people.” 


OPENING THEIR HOME 

The Godbouts applied to be a foster 
family in the fall of 1988. But before an 
HIV-positive child could live in their 
home, “we had to be trained in CPR 


eye contact,” says Maureen. “We were 
also told to buy a battery-operated 
swing. We put Jennifer in it, and for 
three hours she didn’t make a sound. It 
was the first time she slept properly.” 
Crack babies frequently have low 
birth weights and are premature; they 
may also suffer from mental or physical 
disabilities. In Tom’s case, for example, 
he doesn’t talk yet and prefers to crawl. 
On the few occasions he does try to 
walk, he drags one leg behind him. 
“He’s only now learning to eat and gain- 
ing weight,” says Maureen. “He’s still 
very touch-sensitive; he won’t pick 
things up, for example. And he cannot 
cope with any irregularities in his life. 
The moment I take him outside the 
house, he screams until we return.” 
Tom currently functions far below his 
age level. Andrea, on the other hand, is 
now functioning above her age level. 
“Once she got through her crack with- 
drawal, she was fine,” savs Maureen. And 
Janice, who is undergoing speech therapy, 
1s now in preschool. “Janice’s problems 
have been emotional,” says Bob. “She 
might have been (continued) 


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continued 


abused previously; she was very hostile 
when she arrived. She threw a lot of tem- 
per tantrums, had no socialization skills 
and had to be taught how to play.” 
Despite the difference in the toddlers’ 
health, the Godbouts treat all their chil- 
dren the same. Andrea, Janice and Tom 
receive a great deal of physical affection, 
and no one thinks twice about picking 
them up or hugging and kissing them. 
“Except when changing Tom’s diapers, 
or if dealing with blood, I don’t use 
gloves with these kids,” says Maureen. 
“Everyone who touches HIV-positive 
children in the outside world wears sur- 
gical gloves. It’s just so impersonal for 
them. It also isn’t necessary. We know 
the AIDS virus isn’t spread by touch, 
and we also know it is very fragile and 
dies quickly outside the human body.” 


SORROW AND JOY 

The Godbouts face many difficulties 
most families never have to think about. 
One major problem is finding qualified 
baby-sitters they can afford. (The DYFS 
requires that the sitters undergo the 
same HIV training as foster parents.) 
Since they can’t find a sitter, Maureen 
and Bob are never able to leave the 
house together. A night out for a movie 
or dinner, even sleeping late, is a distant 
memory. “Because of Tom’s problems, 
we can’t just pick him up and take him 
out with us,” says Maureen. “One of us 
always has to stay home with him.” The 
couple do, however, try to take thirty 
minutes a day together, “when we just 
go into the bedroom, close the door and 
touch base with each other and ask‘ How 
was your day?’ ” says Maureen. “There 
have been times when I’ve thought, 
Wow, if I don’t get a few minutes to 
myself, I'll go crazy. 

“But, you know, it’s a funny thing: 
Since we’ve had these kids, I’m able to 
deal with more,” she adds. “I no longer 
sweat the small stuff. When you are 
dealing with life and death, it no longer 
bothers you if the entrance floor was 
washed today.” 

How will the Godbouts cope if Tom 
or another foster child succumbs to 
AIDS in a few years’ ime? “We may not 
have experienced the death of one of 
these youngsters yet,” says Maureen, 
“but we have experienced loss that was 
as severe as a death for us.” She’s re- 
ferring to Jennifer and Shari,* the first 
two HIV foster babies who lived with 
the family. “We fell in love with these 
little girls; the whole family was head- 
over-heels,” recalls Maureen. “DYFS 
asked us if we wanted to adopt them. 
We said yes, and we were so excited 
when they both seroreverted. 

“But once both girls became HIV- 


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negative, we were informed tha 
relatives would be taking ther 
family has more legal rights than 
parents,” Maureen says. 

Adds Bob, “Maureen, I and th; 
dren were emotional wrecks wh 
lost Jennifer and Shari.” 

After that experience, the Goc 
seriously considered giving up fos 
“Tt was Daniel and Erin who ch 
our minds,” says Bob. “‘When’s th 
baby coming?’ they asked us, 
couldn’t stand the idea of babies 
in a hospital when we could take 

The family say they have also | 
deal with racism—not only fro 
public, but from some social w 
who don’t believe black children 
be fostered with white families. 
when I take the babies out sh 
with me,” says Maureen, “I’ 
some strange looks, but only fro 
people. I’ve been called white tra 
you learn to ignore the hostility.” 

Fortunately, the Godbouts hav 
faced the bigotry experienced by 
victims such as Ryan White—the 
bey from Kokomo, Indiana, w 
barred from school in his own t 
during the early days of the 
demic. Neighbors have not thre 
the family or treated the children 
ers. “In fact, ours is the house | 
block where the neighborhood k 
congregate, and their parents 
about our foster children,” says B 

The Godbouts themselves have 
fostering HIV babies a learning 
ence. “I’ve realized that people a: 
easy to love,” says Maureen. “, 
doesn’t matter how sick they are.’ 

Adds Bob, “I’ve become more 
minded about all sorts of things- 
cial couples, gays and other peop. 
are different from what societ! 
‘normal.’ ” 

Janice, Andrea and Tom have 
more to us than we have ever gi 
them,” says Maureen. “What we’ 
ing may sound like a lot of wor 
they’re special kids. They’ve adi 
much to our lives.” 


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papers—that I’m pregnant 
and expecting a test-tube 
baby,” says Jane Seymour with 

a laugh as a makeup assistant 
dabs her face. “Amazing, isn’t it? 
And apparently, ’m supposed to 
be hysterical and crazy and im- 
possible to work with, telling the 
producers that I hate everything 
they’re writing for me. They said 
to me the other day, ‘What is this? 
Are we missing something?’ ’ 

It’s chilly up here in the Santa 
Monica Mountains, where Dr. 
Quinn shoots, but not as chilly as 
Seymour’s attitude toward the 
tabloid press and the rhymes- 
with-rich reputation they’ve giv- 
en her. The actress, her back to 
the sun, clutches a hot-water bot- 
tle to her waist; a black down 
coat covers the muslin blouse 
and long, brown dimity skirt she 
wears in her role of Dr. Michaela 
Quinn, frontier physician. 

In truth, it’s strange that snip- 


py stories about Jane Seymour 


“Dr. Quinn, Medicine 
Homan.” changed the shape of Saturday 
ght, and now Jane Seymour has 
changed the shape of her life. Here, she 
talks about the joys of work and family— 


and the power of true love 


By Diana McLellan 


should be flying around now. Be- 
cause at forty-three, she seems 
happier and mellower than ever 
before. Married since last May to 
her “soul mate,” forty-six-year- 
old actor/director James Keach, 
she’s the co-owner with him of 
Catfish Productions, the super- 
mom of a lively extended family 
and the only woman in America 
besides Angela Lansbury to star 
in an hour-long weekly drama. 
And the series that was initially 
damned as, in the words of one 
critic, “frontier hooey” has made 
Seymour not only rich and fa- 
mous but also a role model for 
millions of girls. 

‘That is nice,” she says. “I be- 
lieve it’s about time we had a 
woman who’s seen to be strong, 
vulnerable, fallible, intrepid and 
brainy—and, at the same time, 
not nerdy. And sexy without tak- 
ing her clothes off. And, yes, Dr. 
Mike is sull a virgin!” 

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ries, we've seen a parade of victims 
who can’t pull themselves together. 
The question used to be “What 
went wrong?” Now, though, ex- 
perts are looking at survivors in 
similar situations and asking, 
“What went right?” 

These are the “resilient adults” — 
the ones who bounce back from 
such traumas as physical attack, 
bitter divorce, terrible illness or the 
loss of a job. They are the “invul- 
nerable children,” 
succeed despite poverty or abuse. 

In Overcoming the Odds (Cornell 
University Press, 1992), Emmy 
Werner, Ph.D., a developmental 


the ones who 


psychologist at the University of 


California at Davis, reports on her 
landmark thirty-year study of people 
who grew up in difficult situations. 


As her study shows, the majority of 


them have defied all negative expec- 
tations. But as varied as the individ- 
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at in adulthood, Werner says, she 
found that several factors made the 
difference between those who did 
well and those who didn’t: at least 
one person who gave them uncondi- 
tional love and acceptance (““some- 
one to say yes to you,” Werner 
says); a sense of faith in oneself; and 
the willingness to seek support. 

Also essential: hope. “I can do 
it,” the resilient woman tells herself 
over and over. And though some 
people who face adversity succeed 
because of the intelligence, person- 
ality or looks they were born with, 
study after study shows that no- 
body beats the odds without some 
help from other people. 

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to succeed needs friends, family, a 
mentor at work, and as big a 
support network as she 
can put together. 

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EACH MORNING, MILLIONS OF 
AMERICANS WELCOME TODAY 
SHOW CO-HOST KATIE COURIC 
INTO THEIR HOMES. NOW, LHJ 
TAKES YOU INTO HER NEW 
HOME FOR AN EXCLUSIVE LOOK 
BEHIND THE SCENES. BY LESLIE 
LAMPERT, LIFESTYLE EDITOR 


Between interviewing Hillary Rodham 
Clinton, Reba McEntire and Robin 
Williams, Katie Couric is decorating. 
She is choosing fabric swatches, picking 
furniture and agonizing over all those 
little decisions about wallpaper, paint 
and where to hang the pictures 

Katie, co-anchor of NBC’s Today 
show and co-host of the weekly TV 
newsmagazine Now, and her husband 
of four years, Jay Monahan, are finally 
setting up house together in their new 
West Side apartment in New York 
City. They’ve had a commuter mar- 
riage for the past two years. (Jay used 
to be an attorney in Washington, D.C.; 
now he works in the Manhattan 
branch of the same law firm.) With e 
eryone under one 
roof, the couple, 
their two-and-a- 
half-vear-old daugh- 
ter, Ellie (a pint-size 


Gite Mella (e version of Katie), 


now makes 
New York City 


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(contnued) are delighting in day- 
to-day family life 

“Because I’ve been a television 
correspondent for the past fifteen 
years, I’ve moved around a great 
deal,” says Katie. “As a result, Pve 
never had a place that was truly 
done before.” 

So, with the guidance of LHJ 
contributing editor, designer and 
author Mary Gilliatt, Katie set out 
to find furnishings and accessories 
that combine casualness, comfort 
and elegance. Plus, they had to 
stand up to the Ellie test. 

In the living room, Katie started 


with her favorite blue-and-white 


color scheme and chose pillows, up- 
holstered chairs and window treat- 
ments that take their cues from the 
blues in the couple’s floral area rug. 
To take advantage of the wonderful 
city view, Mary suggested keeping 
window treatments to a minimum. 
So, she loosely draped an English 
pmnt over a white decorative pole, 
leaving the rest of the window bare. 

For additional seating, two club 
chairs—one in solid blue denim, the 
other in a delft tapestry pattern—are 
paired across from the sofas. A nine- 
teenth-century club fender wraps 
around the fireplace to provide more 


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edges of the 


existing mirrored 


paneling in the 
hall and living 


room, Katie and 
decorator Mary 
Gilliatt picked out 
traditional picture 


moldings to frame 


the mirrors. Less 


traditional, 


however, will be 


Katie’s new sets 


on 


Today and Now, 


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June, will offer 
viewers a live- 


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se, explains Mary. 

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‘d to entertaining new 
ads now, they wanted the 
ng room to be warm and 
ive. The textured, blue- 
hed walls were Katie’s idea, 
rowed from a picture she 
'in a decorating book; 
rre the perfect backdrop for 


of flickering candles of 


ring heights. The furniture 
the easy part. The William- 
-Mary-style table was a gift 
m Jay’s mom, and the 
‘ching chairs were a bargain 
- Katie and Jay got through a 
rspaper ad. (Katie is always 
ng to be thrifty.) 

, soft blue-and-terra-cotta 
Ipaper in a neoclassical de- 
a quickly warmed up the 
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}tee is a welcoming accent 
}t also provides extra seating 
| party overflow. 

sCatie and Jay’s bedroom 
-es a fresh approach to ro- 


mance: “I wanted it to be really 


pretty an * says Katie. 
The natural wicker sleigh bed is 
softened by a fanciful wall treat- 
ment in the same gauzy fabric 
that covers the windows. Pale 
salmon wallpaper that looks as 
if it were sponge-painted adds 
to the fresh feeling, and a green 
paper border that resembles a 
hand-painted molding is the 
finishing touch. 

For Ellie’s room: pink and 
white fit for a princess, with 
striped Austrian balloon shades, 
bedding and curtains that frame 
the bed inside a built-in wall 
unit. A matching border echoes 
the pattern. 

Katie’s new place is a long- 
awaited dream come true. Fi- 
nally, she has her whole family 
together 1n a place they can tru- 


ly call home. 


Photos, Judith Watts; designer, Mary Gilli- 
att; stylist, Karen J. Reisler; props, Robin 
Rosen. Accessories, Katie Ridder Home 
Furnishings, Ballard Designs, House Parts, 
C.1.T.E., Metropolitan Museum of Art Gift 
Shop; drawings above Ellie's bed, David 
James McMurray. Details, page 195 


Like Katie, her 
new home is 
tailored and 
traditional, with 
bursts of spirited 
charm. Right, 
from top: Katie 
recycled a 
favorite wicker 
chair and gave it 
a place of honor 
in the dining 
room; Jay’s 
collection of 
walking sticks 
adorns the space 
above a door. 
Mary Gilliatt’s 
bookshelf 
wallpaper peeks 
out from the 
hallway; Katie 
does her nightly 
homework in 
this bedroom 
reading chair; 
abstract 
paintings by 
contemporary 
American artist 
Francis Pratt are 
displayed above 
Jay’s Civil War 
mementos; and 
Katie’s glass 
bottle collection 
masks a not-so- 
great view while 
letting the 
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of lemon, raspberry, 
melon, mint and apri- 


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leggings as everyone’s 
favorite comfortwear. 
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narrow waistbands, 
soft front pleating and 
slash pockets, makes 
them flattering (no, 
they don’t balloon out 
at the tummy and 
thighs). Add a cardi- 
gan—it’s this sum- 
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a jacket and keeps 
any look relaxed. Eye- 
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Salute the arrival of spring the way top restaurant 
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phisticated diners chow down on chef 
Mark Miller's adventurous American 
fare. And for dessert: an unusual—and 
delicious—pairing of fresh berries, co- 
riander and meringue from pastry chef 
Kim Peoples 

Prep time: 40 minutes ~ 
Baking time: 2 hours 





Meringues 
4 large egg whites 
4 teaspoon cream of tartar 
3 cup granulated sugar 
3/4 cup confectioners’ sugar 
] tablespoon ground coriander 


lemon Curd 
2/3 cup fresh lemon juice 
4 large eggs, lightly beaten 
1 cup granulated sugar 
4 tablespoons unsalted butter, cut up 


2 pints strawberries, hulled, divided 
2 tablespoons granulated sugar 


1. Make Meringues: Preheat oven to 
200°F. Grease and flour 2 cookie sheets. 
Cut out a paper triangle with 4-inch sides 
as a guide; place on cookie sheets and 
trace 12 triangles with finger. Set aside 

2. Beat egg whites with cream of tartar in 
mixer bowl until foamy. Gradually add 
granulated sugar and continue beating fo 
stiff peaks. Fold in confectioners’ sugar 
and coriander until blended. 

3. Spoon meringue into pastry bag fitted 
with \/2-inch plain or star tip. Pipe onto 
prepared triangles on cookie sheets, 
smoothing with spatula or cake comb if 
necessary. Bake 2 hours or until crisp, ro- 
tating cookie sheets once. Cool and re 
move from pans. (Can be made ahead. 
Store in airtight container up to | week. } 
Makes 1 dozen meringue triangles. 

4. Make lemon Curd: Meanwhile, com- 
bine lemon juice, eggs and sugar in heavy 
saucepan. Cook over medium-low heat, 
stirring constantly with wooden spoon, until 
mixture is very thick, 20 minutes (do not 
boil). Remove from heat; strain through fine 
sieve into bowl. Stir in butter. Cover and 


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5. Process | pint strawberries and the sug- 
ar in blender or food processor until 
smooth. Slice remaining berries. 

6. To serve, spoon scant 1/4 cup strawberry 
sauce on each of 6 dessert plates. Layer 
each with a meringue triangle, '/4 cup lemon 
curd and 1/4 cup sliced berries; top with re 
maining meringues. Makes 6 servings. 


Per serving Daily goal 

Calories 415 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat llg 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat 6g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 162 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 82 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 748 250 g or more 

Protein 78 55 ¢to90g 
RHUBARB CRISP 





Test-kitchen favorite A hallmark of 
the Union Square Cafe, in New York 
City, is creative, seasonal food prepared 
by chef Michael Romano. Made with 
fresh rhubarb at its peak, this simple crisp 
is the height of springtime splendor. 

Prep time: 15 minutes 

Baking time: 35 to 40 minutes 


2 pounds fresh rhubarb, cut into 1/2:inch 
pieces (10 cups), or 2 bags (16 or 
20 oz. each) frozen rhubarb 

3/4 cup granulated sugar 

2 tablespoons all-purpose flour 


Topping 
|/2 cup butter, softened 
'/2 cup firmly packed brown sugar 
2 tablespoons granulated sugar 
11/2 cups all-purpose flour 
|/g8 teaspoon cinnamon 
1/2 cup chopped walnuts, toasted 


1. Preheat oven to 400°F. Combine 
rhubarb, sugar and flour in large bowl, 
tossing to coat well. Transfer to 1O-inch 
deep-dish pie plate. 

2. Prepare Topping: Beat butter and sug- 
ars in mixer bowl until creamy. Stir in flour 
and cinnamon until blended. Stir in wal 
nuts. Crumble over rhubarb. 

3. Place crisp on foiHined cookie sheet. 
Bake 35 to 40 minutes, until filling is bub- 
bly and top is golden brown. Cool slightly 
and serve warm with ice cream. Makes 





8 servings. 

Per serving Daily goal 

Calories 400 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 7g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat 8g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 31 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 128 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 6lg 250 g or more 

Protein 5g 55gto90g 


From THE UNION SQUARE CAFE COOKBOOK (to be pub- 
lished by HarperCollins, fall 1994) 

























TROPICAL CRUNCH TULIPES | 


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Indulgent but worth it Chef 
Militello, of Mark's Place, in Miam 
helped make dining out one of that 
main attractions. Topping his dessert 
cool, coconut ice cream in lightas-air 
ie cups with a rum-and-pineapple saut 
Prep time: 1 hour plus chilling 
Baking time: 8 to 10 minutes per batc 





Coconut Tulipes 

10 tablespoons unsalted butter, 
softened 

3/4 Cup sugar 
1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract 
§ large egg whites 
#1 /3 cups all-purpose flour 
1/2 cup shredded coconut 


lce Cream 
3/4 cup roasted cashews 
1 tablespoon light corn syrup 
3/4 cup shredded coconut, toasted 
3 ounces white chocolate, choppe 
1/2 gallon vanilla ice cream, softe 


Pineapple-Toffee Sauce 
1 cup firmly packed brown sugar 
1/2 cup unsalted butter, cut up 
6 tablespoons heavy cream 
3 tablespoons dark rum 
1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract 
21/2 cups chopped fresh pineappl 


1. Make Coconut Tulipes: Beat butte 
sugar in large mixer bow! until ligh 
fluffy. Add vanilla. Add egg whites ong 
time, beating well after each addition. 
flour and coconut until just blended. 4 
and let stand at room temperature | ho 
2. Preheat oven to 375°F. Grea 
cookie sheets. Spoon scant '/4 cup | 
onto cookie sheet; spread into 6-ind 
cle. Repeat, making 2 circles per § 
Bake 8 to 10 minutes, until edges 
golden and centers begin to color. 
in two 4-inch bowls to mold until 
Transfer to wire rack. Repeat with re 
ing batter. Makes 12 tulipes. 
3. Prepare Ice Cream: Preheat ov4 
325°F. Grease cookie sheet. Com 
cashews and corn syrup in small bow! 
ing to coat well. Spread on cookie 
Toast lightly 10 to 12 minutes. Cool; 
coarsely. Stir nuts, coconut and choc 
into ice cream. Freeze at least 2 hours 
4. Make Pineapple-Toftee Sauce: Con 
brown sugar, butter, cream, rum and 
la in large saucepan. {contir 





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over medium-high heat; cook, 
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Makes 31/4 cups 
ce cream into 
rve with warm 


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Per serving with 'scup sauce _ Daily goal 
Calories 690 2,000 (F), 2.500 (M) 

3 60 g or less (F}; 70 g or less (M) 
20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
0 mg or less 
mg or less 









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CHAMPAGNE RASPBERRY 
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the Four Seasons Hotel in 
Chicago love to end elegant meals with 
this dessert ice made with raspberries and 
bubbly. What could be more refreshing? 
Prep time: 10 minutes plus cooling 


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and freezing VO! 
2 cuos water 
] cup suga 
3 cups frozen whole raspberries, thawed 
1 bottle (750 ml) Brut champagne, chilled 
Fresh raspberries 
Crisp cookies, for garnish (optional) 
1. Bring water and sugar to boil in 


saucepan; boil, stirring occasionally, until sug- 
ar is dissolved. Cool to room temperature. 

2. Puree raspberries in blender or food 
orocessor. Press through fine sieve into 
arge bowl; discard seeds. Makes | cup. 

3. Add sugar syrup, raspberry puree and 
champagne to bowl. Pour into | 3x9-inch 
metal pan. Freeze, stirring every 30 min- 
utes, until completely frozen, 3 to 5 hours. 

4. To serve, spoon granité into chilled 
wineglasses. Serve with fresh raspberries 
and cookies. Makes 8 cups. 


Per cup Daily goal 

Calories 185 2,000 (F), 2.500 (M) 

Total fat Og 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat Og 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol Omg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 5 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 32g 250 g or more 

Protein lg 552to90g 
STRAWBERRY TART 


Aqua, in San Francisco, is renowned for 
chet George Morrone ’s innovative way 
with seafood. But regulars know they 
should also leave room for dessert, such 
as this delicate tart of fresh strawberries in 
a classic vanilla pastry cream 

Prep time: 40 minutes plus chilling w 


188 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL § MAY 1994 


Cooking time: 18 to 20 minutes 





Pastry 
11/2 cups all-purpose flour 
/2 Cup sugar 
Pinch salt 
10 tablespoons cold butter, cut up 


| large egg 


Pastry Cream 
2 cups milk 
6 tablespoons sugar, divided 
Half vanilla bean, split lengthwise 
4 large egg yolks 
2 tablespoons cornstarch 
1 tablespoon buiter 





2 pints strawberries, hulled and halved 


1. Make Pastry: Preheat oven to 375°F. 
Combine flour, sugar and salt in food pro- 
cessor: pulse to combine. Add butter and 
process until crumbly. Add egg and pro- 
cess just until pastry holds together. Press 
dough evenly into 12-inch tart pan with re- 
movable bottom. Freeze 15 minutes. 

2. line pastry with foil and fill with dried 
beans. Bake 10 minutes. Remove foil and 
beans; continue baking 8 to 10 minutes 
or until golden. Cool on wire rack. 

3. Make Pastry Cream: Heat milk, 3 table- 
spoons sugar and the vanilla bean to boil- 
ing in saucepan. Meanwhile, whisk egg 
yolks with remaining 3 tablespoons sugar in 
medium bowl, then whisk in cornstarch. 
Gradually whisk hot milk mixture into yolks. 
Return to saucepan and bring to boil, whisk: 
ing. Reduce heat and boil, stirring constant 
ly, 1 minute. Remove from heat; stir in butter. 
Strain through sieve. Cover surface with 
plastic wrap; chill. 

4. To assemble, spread Pastry Cream evenly 
in bottom of baked tart shell. Arrange straw- 
berry halves on top. Makes 10 servings. 


Per serving Daily goal 

Calories 335 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 17g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat 10g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 147 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 177 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 40g 250 g or more 

Protein 6g 55gto90g 


RASPBERRY BLINTZES 


pictured on page 183 

Don’t expect the blintzes (crepes filled with 
cheese or fruit) at Mike's on the Avenue, in 
New Orleans, to resemble your grand- 
mother’s hearty recipe. Chef Mike Fennel- 
ly makes his light, with orange-spiked 
ricotta filling ate a tart berry sauce. 

Prep time: 1!/4 hours 

Cooking time: 2 to 4 minutes per batch 





Crepes 

2 large eggs 

1!/4 cups water 

11/4 cups all-ourpose flour 

1 tablespoon unsalted butter, melted 
Raspberry Sauce 

2 bags {12 oz. each) frozen whole 

raspberries 

2 tablespoons sugar 
Filling 

1 package (8 oz.) cream cheese, at 


room temperature 
1/4 cup ricotta cheese 
2 tablespoons sugar =f 
2 teaspoons grated orange peel 
1 large egg ; 
1 pint fresh raspberries 
2 tablespoons butter, divided 
3 oranges, peeled and sectioned 
Orange or mint leaves, for gamish {opt 








































1. Combine eggs, water and fd 
blender; process until smooth. J 
2. Heat 6- or 7-inch nonstick skilled 
medium-high heat. Brush lightly with a 
butter. Add 2 tablespoons batter, filti 
coat bottom of pan; cook until i 
browned. Turn crepe and cook until 
en, 30 to 60 seconds more. Trans 
sheet of wax paper. Repeat with remd 
batter, stacking with wax paper be 
each crepe. (Can be made ahead. 
and refrigerate up to 24 hours.) Makes 
3. Prepare Raspberry Sauce: Puree 
berries with sugar in blender until s 
Strain through Fine sieve. Makes | cu 
4. Moke Filling: Beat cream cheese, 
ta, sugar and orange peel in large | 
bovel until blended. Beat in egg. 
5. To assemble each blintz, spoon’ 
blespoons filling in center; top each 
raspberries. Fold in all sides over fi 
envelope-style. ‘ 
6. Melt 1 tablespoon butter in large 
over medium-high heat. Cook blintz 
batches, seam side down, until gold 
to 2 minutes per side, adding rema 
butter as necessary. 
7. To serve, place 2 blintzes on eat 
6 dessert plates. Top with Raspi 
Sauce, oranges and remaining be 
Makes 6 servings. 


Per serving Daily goal 

Calories 485 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 25g 60 gor less (F); 70 g or 

Saturated fat l4g 20 gor less (F); 23 gork 

Cholesterol 169 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 192 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 6lg 250 g or more 

Protein 12g 55 gto 90g 
Cookie Contest Rules 


as seen on page 206 


1. To enter, type or print recipe on one side of a sheet of 
Ingredients should be listed in the order in which they ar 
and oven settings must be clearly stated. All entries m 
original and not previously published. Write a paragrap 
the recipe, telling why it’s your family favorite. Send 
postmarked no Jater than June 15, 1994, to COOKI 
TEST, Ladies’ Home Journal, 100 Park Avenue, New Yo 
10017. Entries must be signed by entrant. 
2. Only one recipe may be entered per reader. We reserve t 
to edit and abridge recipes as necessary. All rights, includ 
rights of copyright, in and to prizewinning entries, will bel 
and may be exercised by Ladies’ Home Journal. Selected 
will be printed in LHJ's December 1994 issue. Entry cons 
permission to use a winner's name and hometown in Ladies’ 
Journal. Winners will be required to sign Affidavit of Eligibilt 
lease and Assignment of Rights within ten days of notificatio 
3. Winners will be selected on or about August 30, 199 
notified by mail. Entries will be judged by a panel of LHJ e 
Entries will be judged on taste, clarity of directions and ori 
ty. The judges’ decision will be final. Entrant should keep 
of the entry as it cannot be acknowledged or returned. 
4. Twenty prizes will be awarded to the top twenty entri€} 
prize is a cash payment of $100. 

5. This contest is open to anyone 21 years of age or older, § 
employees and their family of Meredith Corporation. 

6. This contest is void where prohibited by law and is sub: 
all federal, state and local laws and regulations. Applicab 
es are sole responsibility of winners. 

7. For a list of prizewinners (available December 1, 1994) 
a self-addressed, stamped envelope to above address. 


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AT-THE-CLOCK DINNERS—WHICH TAKE 








> HEALTHFUL, QUICK-COOKING 


E UP SOMETHING DELICIOUSLY DIFFERENT IN 
ie BY JAN T. HAZARD, FOOD EDITOR 


MOO SHOO PORK IN TORTIL! 


eet: CHOPS WITH MUSTARD-MINT 
GLAZE AND BARLEY PILAF 










































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“ener’s on: 15-minute menus home on the range—the fish cooks up fast 1/2 cup sour cream -. 
| nuted in one pan as the savory pilaf heats up in 2 tablespoons chopped fresh dill @, 
another. 2 tablespoons prepared horseradig™. 
TROUT WITH HORSERADISH-DILL Total prep/cook time: 15 minutes Oo '/4 teaspoon freshly ground peppe 
SAUCE AND BULGUR PILAF PILAF Bulgur Pilat 1. Make Bulgur Pilaf: Bring chicken qe 

2 cups chicken broth to boil in medium saucepan over me 

| cup bulgur wheat high heat. Add bulgur and carrots; | 

1 cup prepared shredded carrots and cook until tender, 10 minutes 

/4 cup chopped fresh dill move from heat; stir in dill and ce 


2 green onions, sliced onions. 
2. Meanwhile, rinse trout inside anit 
under cold water; pat dry on papers 
els. Sprinkle cavities with salt. 
3. Heat butter and oil in two large 


ig 


lets over medium-high heat. Spreaak 


4 trout (8-12 oz. each}, cleaned 
Salt 
2 tablespoons butter or margarine 
2 tablespoons vegetable oil 

2 cup all-purpose flour 





g Horseradish-Dill Sauce flour, shaking off excess. Add to sq 
| and cook until fish is opaque when 
is inserted near backbone, about Sf 
utes per side. Serve with Bulgurfl 
and Horseradish-Dill Sauce. Mie: 
A servings. 

4. Make Horseradish-Dill Sauce: 
trout is cooking, combine sour creami 
horseradish and pepper in small i 
Makes |/2 cup. 


Per serving with sauce Daily goal 
Calor#és 560 — 2,000 (F), 2.500 (M) 
% Total fat 26g 60 g or less (F); 70 gor 


Saturated fat 9g 20 gor less (F); 23 gor i 
Cholesterol 109 mg 300 mg or less 


Sodium 752 mg 2,400 mg or less 
Carbohydrates 45¢ 250 g or more 
Protein 37g 55 gto 90g 


MOO SHOO PORK IN TORTILLS 


Yes, you can prepare a Chinese me 
home without chopping for hours. Thell 
duce section carries an array of chog 
diced and sliced veggies ready for si 
ing. The newest: broccoli slaw (shred 
broccoli stems). 
Total prep/cook time: 15 minutes 






1 tablespoon plus 1 teaspoon 
vegetable oil 

1 pound pork loin, cut for stirfrying 
1 teaspoon cornstarch 

1 garlic clove, minced 

package (16 oz.) broccoli coleslaw 
1 package (10 oz.) sliced mushroom? 
1 package (10 oz.) coleslaw mix 
1/2 cup StirFry Sauce (recipe follows) 
3 green onions, sliced 
1 package {10 oz.) flour tortillas 
Hoisin sauce* 


“My three kids say 
their lunches 

are boring, boring, 
boring: 








1. Heat large, deep skillet or wok 
high heat. Add 1 tablespoon oil andj 
until shimmering. Toss pork with corns 
in medium bowl. Add pork to skilletf 
cook, stirring, until beginning to brow 
to 4 minutes. With slotted spoon, tra 
to clean bowl. 
2. Add remaining | teaspoon oil fo s 
Add garlic and cook 15 seconds. | 
vegetables and Stir-Fry Sauce to s 
Cook, stirring frequently, until vegetd 
are tendercriso, 5 minutes. Return pd 
skillet and cook 1 minute more. Trans 
serving bowl and sprinkle with g 
onions. Makes 8 cups. | 
3. Wrap tortillas in paper towel f 


192 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL MAY? 


sqeave on High 1!/2 minutes. 
TWerve, spread hoisin sauce on tor 
k200n on Moo Shoo Pork and roll 


fixes 4 servings. 
is)vauce is available in Asian markets and in 
salty section of many supermarkets. 


Daily goal 
575 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 
228 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
6g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
76 mg 300 mg or less 
1,258 mg 2,400 mg or less 





s 58 g 250 g or more 
36g 55gto90g 
iF (YY SAUCE 





hy p this sauce to store in the fridge. It 
| jenough for three meals 


‘ep time: 5) minutes O 
i). sduced-sodium soy sauce 
dry sherry 


eons grated fresh ginger 
oons sugar 
fie all ingredients in jar with al 
Stir until sugar is dissolved. Refri 
9 to 2 weeks. Shake before us ia 
11/2 cups. 


| wrt SHRIMP AND PEAS 


» the shrimp and the creamy sauce 
vater heats for the pasta. Does din- 
tf any easier-—or more delicious— 
tls? 
f rep/cook time: 15 minutes O 





spoon butter or margarine 
: garlic cloves, minced 
) d peeled, cleaned medium shrimp 





, 2 (8 oz.) clam juice 
precy or whipping cream 
cage (10 oz.) frozen peas 
b spoon freshly ground pepper 
had angel-hair pasta 
: 1 peel of 1 lemon 


| 1g large pot of water to boil over 
} 3at. 
pit butter in large skillet over medium 
eat. Add garlic and shrimp; - nkle 
| /4 teaspoon salt and cook, stirring, 
irimp are pink, 2 minutes. With slot 
Poon, transfer shrimp to small bow! 
ie clam juice to skillet and bring to 
»x0il 3 minutes. Stir in cream, peas, 
»aspoon salt and the pepper; return 
and boil 2 minutes. 
lanwhile, add 1 tablespoon salt and 
to boiling water. Cook just until pas- 
mnder, 3 to 4 minutes. Drain. 
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Se S— “SS sae Bees” Diane O'Toole, a forty-eight-year-old 
. ?gn = e263 La e* mother of two grown children, from Mendham, | 


New Jersey, spent two weeks at the Pritikin Center in | 
Santa Monica, California. She was eager to go be | 
y now, we all realize the impor- cause of health concerns: Her weight was roughly | 
tance of healthy eating. The trouble twenty-five pounds above ideal, and her choles- | 


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tastes we love. Yet, as evidence mounts about | factors could make her a prime candidate for 
the link between high-fat foods and illnesses such as heart problems. 
cancer and heart disease, more people are eager to Karen MacKenzie, who is thirty-seven and lives 


196 


1 New York City, attended the weeklong Oakland, 
alifornia, program run by Ornish, the wellness guru 
iif the nineties. Karen, too, was in the high-risk cate- 
yory for heart disease: In addition to being about fifty 
sounds overweight, she has a family history of car- 


butter, oils of all kinds, egg yolks and nuts. Fatfree 
milk products are acceptable in limited quantities. Both 
diets emphasize fresh fruits, vegetables and foods that 
are high in fiber and complex carbohydrates. 

The Ornish program is completely vegetarian. The 


We know we should eat less fat, but changing your 
lifestyle is no easy matter. So we sent two women to the 
country’s most famous programs to 
reform their eating habits. Here’s what they learned 


liovascular problems. What's more, as a full-time 
sworking mother of a toddler, Karen was in a perpetu- 
il state of stress—another potential risk factor. 
Though the Pritikin and Ornish programs differ in 
ome significant ways, they share a fundamental phi- 
asophy: that by keeping the fat in your diet to less 
aan 10 percent of the total calories—and by exercis- 
ng regularly and reducing stress—you can 
»ose weight, feel better and minimize - 
| iealth problems. Lv 
_ Following the 10 percent rule gf f 
*s no easy feat. The aver- po f 






ige American diet con- @& 
gains about 40 #& : 
»ercent fat. So 
»oth programs 
»an = many 
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‘Karen MacKenzie has lost a total 
‘of twenty-eight pounds since 
‘starting the Ornish diet 









Pritikin plan allows for small portions of fish or lean 
meat, but as a condiment rather than the centerpiece 
of the meal. “One night we had a turkey loaf that 
was mostly carrots and peas,” Diane reports. “There 
was just a bit of turkey in it, for the flavor.” 

Much attention goes into food preparation at both 
programs. An award-winning Belgian chef 
runs the kitchen at the Santa 
Monica Pritikin Cen- 
ter, and Ornish 
has worked 
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xoing low-fat 


with some of the nation’s leading chefs in 
developing his recipes. And, indeed, self- 
denial is not the focus of these programs. 
“They told us, it’s what you eat that mat- 
ters, not how ich,” Karen says. 


But. despite the programs’ efforts at 
making low-fat foods appealing, both 
our recruits found it tough going—at 
least at first. As the program wore on, 


Diane and Karen found themselves 
gradually adjusting to the new fat-free 
tastes. Says Diane, “The food definitely 
tasted better by the second week.” 


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Both programs are housed in luxurious 
California resorts, but when our volun- 
teers were awakened before dawn on 
their first day—Diane for a six A.M. 
blood test; Karen for a seven A.M. lec- 
ture—they realized this was no vacation. 
“We worked very, very hard the entire 
time,” says Diane. “They kept us busy 
every minute,” echoes Karen. 

The two women embarked on rigor- 
ous exercise plans. On her first day, Di- 
ane stepped on a treadmill for a 
tolerance test and, based on her perfor- 
mance, was assigned to an aerobics 
class. She took at least two hour-long 
exercise classes on most days. 


The Ornish exercise plan was some- 
what more moderate. “We could walk or 
jog, swim, take an aerobics class or work 
out on exercise equipment,” Karen says. 
“We had to do an hour every afternoon.” 

Both programs offer classes in basic 
nutrition and lectures on how to deal 
with day-to-day challenges to fat-free liv- 
ing. “We learned to read labels when we 
shop, and how to cope when we go to 
parties or out to dinner,” Diane reports. 

Both women also attended cooking 
classes to help them prepare healthful— 
and tasty—meals at home. “We learned 
to saute things in vegetable stock instead 
of butter or oil, and how to use yogurt 
instead of cream, butter or oil to give 
recipes moisture,” Karen says. 


GOING HOME AND BEYOND 


By the time Karen and Diane were 
ready to go home, they had been con- 
verted to a new lifestyle. Karen had lost 
three pounds in just one week at the Or- 
nish program, and she felt more relaxed 
and fit than she had in years. Diane 
dropped four pounds during her two- 
week stint and lowered her cholesterol 
by an astonishing 100 points. 

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with whole grain breads, rice caki 
fruit jellies, egg substitutes and ft 
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nonstick roasting pan to eliming 
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Diane faced a difficult moment 
she went to the shopping-mal} 
court and realized that nearly ever 
was on the forbidden list. “I settle 
veggie sandwich,” she says. 

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found ways to stick to their diets. 
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ork helps her out a lot. Karen has 
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unger. “If I’m really starving, I eat 
le wheat bagel, and it always fills 


9,” she says. She also treats herself 


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secause I’m saving money not buy- 
-eats,” she says. 
ing out requires special attention. 
3taurants, Diane says she looks for 
dishes made with vegetables and 
hat the sauce be made without fat. 
night I had a delicious spaghetti 
vera,” she says. At her office cafete- 
‘ie can usually fill up on a vegetable 
odle soup and a whole grain roll. 
»ren likes to go to Indian restau- 
because she knows she can always 
-regetarian meals. And, at take-out 
ers, she says she’s become savvy to 
claims that food is fat-free. “They 
ell you there’s no oil in it, but if it 
_ shiny, there usually is,” she says. 
)rprisingly, both women insist they 
) t feel deprived. They say they find 
-y of delicious substitutes for fatty 
_: crusty breads and whole grain ce- 
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,ings for lunch; snacks of baked 
or fruit with nonfat yogurt; din- 
-of fresh vegetables, beans and rice, 
;3; and meatless stews. 
| don’t let myself go hungry,” Diane 


says. “I eat lots of food, but I make sure 
I eat the right kinds of foods.” 

Both women acknowledge having oc- 
casional slips. But nearly three months 
after completing the programs, Karen 
and Diane feel confident they’ve made 
significant changes in their lives. Karen 
has lost a total of twenty-eight pounds 
since beginning this diet plan, and she 
has become so accustomed to low-fat 


eating that she can detect even a slight 
bit of oil in her food. 

Diane says her commitment to the 
diet is constantly reinforced by her trim 
body and sense of well-being. “People 
tell me I look better and healthier than 
ever, and I do,” she says. “I would never 
have guessed what a change it could 
make in my life. It’s the best thing I’ve 
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According to the National 
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creased 6 percent in 1993. And 
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opening across the country. 

But you don’t have to go out to 
get that great restaurant taste. You 
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@ The more marbling (fat streaks) 
steak has, the more tender, flavorful 
and juicy it will be. The most mar- 
bled beef is graded Prime by the 


United States Department of Agri- 


culture and is usually 
headed for the high- 
end restaurant market, 
though it can be found 
in some supermarkets 
and butcher shops. 
Choice and Select have 
less marbling but are 
more readily available. 
@ Remove steaks from 
the refrigerator a half 
hour before cooking 
so that they have a 
uniform temperature 
and cook evenly. 

@ Trim off as much 
fat as possible to pre- 
vent grill flare-up. 

@ Cook 
thick steaks (the perfect thickness) 


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Thicker steaks cook more evenly if 
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@ After searing, move the 
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broiler or rangetop heat. 

@ Add seasoning, if desired, 
to each side after browning. Never 
add salt before cooking—it draws 
out moisture and prevents browning. 
@ The most reliable way to avoid 
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read meat thermometer into the 
thickest part of the meat: rare, 
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—™ isenhower was president, Mau- 
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and Jack and Jackie 

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ultimate fried-chicken dinner. 


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etables could cook in the same : spring is rhubarb season. In fact, 


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After a few months, Cronin devel- : . a4 
oped the first TV dinner—turkey nig Wet A salon 
with cornbread dressing and gravy, 
whipped sweet potatoes, and but- : 
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first year, for 98 cents each. The fol- : 


lowing year, Cronin developed the : 


and viewing was 
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ing as the fami- 
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recipe with us: The top twenty winners will be featured in the De- 
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Field-grown rhubarb has a deli 


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cut it, peel the skin with a veg- 
etable peeler. Be sure to cut away 


Hothouse rhubarb is also wide- 
ly available. It is pale pink, with 
flavor 


a milder, more delicate 


All rhubarb is highly perishable 


three days). Rinse just before us- 


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plate until you need it. Leftovers won't get lost if breathe. Store them in bags made especially for jelly. Keep the tray in the back of the refrigerator, 


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Sex crime 


ontinued from page 16 


We walked into my place, and a minute 
later I was pinned against my sink, ice- 
cube tray in hand. | told him that I wasn’t 
ready for sex, that he was scaring me. He 
thought I was being coy. I managed to 


maneuver into the living room, where he 
pushed me down on the couch. 
I was getting panicky, but something 


told me to keep calm. I told him that my 
daughter was on vacation from college 
and would be home any minute, so I 
couldn’t have sex right there on the liv- 
ing-room couch. “She’s a big girl,” said 
this sudden stranger. 

Confused and physically over- 
whelmed (he’s eighty pounds heavier 
and ten inches taller), I managed, final- 
ly, to save my skin by suggesting that I 
was certainly willing to spend the night 
with him. but I wanted to wait for my 
daughter to get home. After that, I 
swore, I’d run right over to his apart- 
ment and throw myself into his bed. 

Dumber, or perhaps just more egotis- 
tical, than I could imagine a human be- 
ing to be, he bought it and went home 
to wait for me to show up. He’ll have to 
wait a mighty long time, needless to say. 

I locked up and ran into bed, pulled 
the covers way up and realized how 
close I had been to being raped. I was 
shocked, appalled, ashamed—as though 
I had done something disgusting. 

At first I took the classic female ap- 
proach and blamed myself—I must have 
given him the wrong signals, I must 
have acted like I was ready for sex, and 
on and on. In short, I was making ex- 
cuses for /s behavior. All that stuff I be- 
lieved about myself and my role as 
nonvictim vanished. 

But after a few weeks the hight came 
on. I reached a basic but unavoidable 
conclusion: It’s never a woman’s fault if 
she’s sexually assaulted. Even if she 
wants to have sex initially and then 
changes her mind at the last minute, a 
man has no right to continue. 

The incident did make me wonder, 
though, how other divorced women 
cope with this nightmare. What if you 
don’t manage to get him to stop and 
you are raped? And what do you do if 
the rape occurs in your own home with 
your children asleep in the next room? 
Scream and wake the kids, who can do 
nothing to protect you? 

We think, as divorced women, that we 
should know better, right? We’ve been 
married, gone through divorces, proba- 
bly have kids. We should know the dif- 
ference between a potential rapist and a 
potential relationship. Maybe that’s why 
even though some statistics show that 
one in five adult women will be raped at 
some point in their lives, and that more 
than four out of five rape victims know 


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their attackers, only 7 percent of all 
rapes are reported. It’s possible, even 
likely, that you, like me, won’t report an 
“incident” —especially when you factor 
in the “I must have led him on” guilt. 

Fairstein, author of Sexual Violence— 
Our War Against Rape (Wilham Mor- 
row, 1993), says that for most women 
who have been sexually assaulted, “it 
becomes a real self-blame thing, a ‘What 
did I do to make him think . . . ? Why 
didn’t I see his conduct was becom- 
ing... ? kind of blame.” 

While women often blame them- 
selves, men hardly share this tendency; 
certainly, verv few think of themselves 
as date/acquaintance rapists. 

Joseph Weinberg, of Madison, Wis- 
consin, has made a career of confronting 
that attitude. He’s a self-described “re- 
covering normal man,” who gives lec- 
tures and workshops across the country 
on rape preventiion—not for women, but 
for men. (He’s never raped anyone him- 
self, but he says he did seek professional 
counseling after his divorce because of 
the anger he felt toward women.) And 
he’s the past president of an organiza- 
tion called Men Stopping Rape, a group 
devoted to teaching men how to talk 
and interact with women without rage. 

“Rape is not at all what we pretend it 
to be,” says Weinberg. “The perception 
[is] that it’s a man hiding behind a bush 
who jumps out and rapes a woman. The 
truth is that most rapes are acquaintance 
and date rapes, period. Women often 
blame themselves, especially if they are 
divorced and just starting to date again 
after many years of being married. 
What’s acceptable behavior? The rules, 
they think, have changed.” Susan Xenar- 
ios, the director of the Rape-Intervention 
Program/Crime Victim Assessment Pro- 
ject at St. Luke’s/Roosevelt Hospital, in 
New York City, says that many newly di- 
vorced women often find themselves in a 
time and culture warp. 

“Being suddenly not married . . . is 
very similar to being a college student 
again,” she explains. “[Women] have to 
learn the game all over again.” 

And while they’re doing so, experts 
say, women may get precious little un- 
derstanding or sympathy, even from 
those who know them: Men may regard 
them as fair game, as “loose pegs [or] 
sex-starved,” Xenarios says. And a wom- 
an’s married friends may see her differ- 
ently now that she’s “on the loose.” 

Weinberg says he’s astounded that 
women themselves often deny what has 
happened to them. “When I lecture, a 
newly separated woman will come up to 
me afterward and say, ‘I didn’t want to 
have sex... but this man I was out with 
kind of forced me. Not rape though, 
right?’ Wrong. It was rape,” he says. (By 
the way, Xenarios says that while wom- 
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by ex-spouses, the majority of rapes 
aren’t ex-spousal attacks.) 

A typical horror story: Kathy,” a suc- 
cessful executive in her late thirties, re- 
cently divorced, was called by an equally 
successful headhunter. She was looking 
to change jobs, and he was interested in 
finding her the perfect one. As is com- 
monly done, they met for a business din- 
ner to discuss prospects. Afterward, he 
offered to drive her home. She accepted, 
even though she would have preferred a 
cab. When they got to her apartment 
building, he asked if he could use her 
bathroom—he had an hour’s drive ahead 
of him. As soon as he stepped out of the 
bathroom, he attacked. The evening 
ended in a horrid rape. But Kathy did 
not press charges because she was terri- 
fied of what people would think if the in- 
cident became known. 

Xenarios also says that when divorced 
women do report a sexual assault, the 
police interrogation may be more of a 








ing raped, the defense maintained, she 
would have screamed and awakened the 
dog. Sandra’s assailant was acquitted. 

So, how does a divorced woman avoid 
becoming a statistic and protect herself 
without turning into a frightened stay-at- 
home? Fairstein says that many date and 
acquaintance rapists have a history—al- 
though probably not a record. And while 
the variables are enormous, there are some 
conditions common in many date/ac- 
quaintance rapes. Alcohol, for example, 1s 
used by one party in 70 percent of all rape 
cases and used by both parties in 30 to 40 
percent of cases, according to Fairstein. 
Drugs and substance abuse can also play 
into the picture—and this is often a reason 
that women are afraid or ashamed to re- 
port that they’ve been raped. 

“Some kind of kissing or other sexual 
foreplay often takes place, giving certain 
kinds of men the feeling that they have 
consent to anything that follows,” says 
Fairstein. Weinberg says men have a 
very large capacity for self-deception in 
this particular area. “They say, ‘It was 
pretty obvious that she wanted to even- 


While women often blame 
themselves, men hardly 
share this tendency; certainly, 
very few think of themselves 
as acquaimtance rapists. 


punishment than a reassurance. “They 
might be asked by the police, ‘What? 
You didn’t know better?’ or ‘Were you 
drinking?’ Even though the police are 
much better now, there are still biases.” 

And those women who do have the 
courage to press charges may see their 
case end in enraging defeat. Sandra,* a 
divorced woman in her forties, with two 
small children, was out with a man she’d 
dated a few times before. She asked the 
man in for a drink, and after letting the 
baby-sitter go, they kissed a bit on the 
couch. When it got out of hand and San- 
dra asked him to stop, he got angry and 
refused. She did not scream because she 
was afraid that the children would come 
running out and be harmed. Since she 
didn’t scream, she also didn’t awaken 
the dog. The defense used that very 
thing—her protection of her children— 
against her. After all, if she was really be- 
*Name has been changed. 


212 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - MAY 1994 


tually, so I pushed pretty hard.’ They 


honestly don’t believe that they have 


raped anyone.” 

Weinberg advises women to avoid 
men who are excessively jealous, drink 
heavily, have aggressive body language, 
and have an obvious dislike and disre- 
spect for women. Another warning sig- 
nal: men who try to make a woman feel 
guilty for refusing sexual overtures. Re- 
member, just because he insists on buy- 
ing dinner doesn’t mean you owe him 
anything more than a thank you. Period. 

And don’t be afraid of offending the 
man’s feelings (whether it’s a date or 
someone you've just met at a party) if he 
is making you uncomfortable. One 
book, Warning! Dating May Be Haz- 
ardous to Your Health!, by Claudette 
McShane (Mother Courage Press, 
1988), advises that you get used to say- 
ing, “Excuse me, but I need to talk to a 
friend over there,” and go. Even if you 











































don’t know anyone, talk to any won 
and explain to her that you’re tryi 
get away from a bothersome man. 

And don’t drink until you kn 
someone very well. When you're intc 
cated, you are less able to defend yo 
self. Also, if you know the man, us 
ruse, any ruse that might throw 
off—“ My kids will wake up,” “ 
roommate is coming back any seco 
whatever it takes. 

If you’re with a man in his apartm 
be aware of how you can escape if the sj 
auon turns ugly, advises McShane. Tr 
your instincts—if you feel threatened 
scared, act on your feelings. Leave. 

However, if you find yourself co 
pletely overpowered physically, Xe 
ios advises that you submit to prev 
further physical damage. 

“There is nothing you can do or sa 
a person who’s attacking you and kn 
that he’s going to rape you,” she s 
“Use whatever resources you have to 
through it in the best way you can.” 
port your assault immediately to the 
lice; call your local hospital and ask fi 
referehce for a rape crisis center. 

Get into rape crisis counseling imm 
ately, and have vourself tested for 
soon as possible. It may take six mon 
more for HIV anubodies to appear. (Ai 
as unbelievable as it seems, it 1s actu; 
against the law in some states to fo 
even a convicted rapist to take an 
test. So defense attorneys often hold ¢ 
an AIDS test of their client as a plea-b 
gaining tool: The defendant will take te 
for AIDS and other sexually transmit 
diseases if the victm drops the charges.) 

Join a support group—being w 
women who’ve been through the sai 
experience will help you see tk 
you're not alone. 

Finally, whether you choose to pro 
cute is up to you. Do what you feel you 
capable of; that’s all anyone can ever dc 

You might like to know that | 
though I myself never pressed charg 
I did get a kind of revenge. A frie 
and I were leaving a new restaurant 
town when I spotted my attacker w 
some friends at a table. 

“Hey, Linda!” he called, happily m 
uoning us over to his table. My assail 
couldn’t have been more content to 
troduce me to his friends. I smiled 
him, leaned in to the table, and said 
the loudest tone I could summon, “WI 
a pig.” I also said two other words 
him; they were not “Merry @hristmas.’ 

My daughter was neither shocked r 
too upset when I finally told her wt 
had happened to me. She also s@ 
“What a pig,” as well as two other wo1 
that also were not “Merry Christmas.” 

I’m happy to see that I’ve taught f 
well. 

Linda Stasi is a columnist for the “Da 
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continued from page 165 


some of these things in your own life, 
don’t give up. As Suniya Luthar, Ph.D., 
a Yale University psychologist, says, 
“Tt’s never too soon or too late to be- 
come resilient.” 

Experts caution, though, that even 
resilient adults aren’t uniformly suc- 
cessful in all facets of their lives. Says 
Luthar, “You can be resilient in one 
area but not another. A woman may be 
doing well in her career, but is she de- 
pressed? The struggle to overcome 
great odds is not cost-free. But it’s bet- 
ter to be resilient in some areas than in 
none at all.” 

Psychologists who study survivors 
also cite a factor they call “hardiness.” 
“Tt’s related to your style of coping,” ex- 
plains Jessica Wolfe, Ph.D., director of 
the Women’s Division of Health Sci- 
ences at the National Center for Post- 
Traumatic Stress Disorder, in Boston. 
“Some people are passive and full of de- 
nial. They feel helpless, as if it’s beyond 
their control. But the people who do 
best face the problem head-on. They 
don’t personalize it or blame them- 
selves. Instead, they look for solutions 
and take action.” 

And they don’t give up. “The pes- 
simist may see a trauma as overwhelm- 
ing,” says Wolfe. “But the optimist sees 
it as something she can overcome, if 
only she tries hard enough.” 

Here are three women who tried 
hard enough—and overcame their par- 
ticular odds. 


A LIFELONG DETERMINATION 


Nancy Wexler was twenty-two when she 
















































got the grim news. Her mothe 
been diagnosed with Huntington’ 
ease, a devastating illness that weakjs » 
patient’s mental and physical ab 
until she can no longer care for h 
And because Huntington’s is here 
there was a 50 percent chance that 
cy carried the fatal gene. 

“T was stunned and ashamed,” she. 
remembering back to that day twigs 
five years ago. She also felt rage andy 
tration—the classic “Why me?” rea 

For a while, Nancy kept the dise 
secret. “I didn’t want people to s 
as flawed or pitiful,” she says. In | 
tion, she had some hard choices to 1 
such as deciding not to have childre 

As time went on, she learned 
thing she could about the disease, 
writing her Ph.D. thesis on the su 
Her work gave her a sense of opti 
“T could take my rage out on th 
ease, not myself.” 

Eventually, her research led to 1 
fying the Huntington’s gene and cg) 
oping a test for it—a near-legerg}: 
accomplishment. 

Today, as a psychologist, Nii 
counsels people with Huntington’s 
is also a professor of neuroclinica 
chology at Columbia University, in®) 
York City, and president of the H 
tary Disease Foundation, whic 
founded by her father. Additionall 
chairs an advisory group of the H 
Genome Project, a fifteen-year, $: 
lion effort financed by the federal 
ernment to identify all of the more 
one hundred thousand human gene}, 

At forty-cight, Nancy is symp 
free. She will not say whether sh 
taken the test. The fifty-fifty 
though, are always with her—and v 















into small, manageable steps. 


the next one. 


build competence and offer comfort. 





2914 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL - MAY 1994 


SEVEN WAYS TO BEAT YOUR OWN ODDS 


1. Make a plan. What problem are you trying to overcome? Make a lis} 
what you need to do to get there, breaking down the elements of the p 


2. Update yourself. Are you falling behind on the latest information in yi 
field2 Check your local college for a course that will sharpen your skills. 
3. Face your fears—don't run away from them. Instead of avoiding 
experiences that make you nervous, go out and meet them. Do it as 
ata time. Each small stress that you can deal with makes you stronger 


4. Find a hobby. Research shows that most resilient people discover so 
small skill or special hobby—something they can do well. Whether 
singing in the choir, cultivating roses or needlepointing pillows, hobb 


5. Be persistent and learn from experience. Try to figure out what wi 
wrong, sO you won't repeat the same mistake. 
6. Nurture relationshios—whether with a friend, a parent, a spouse oF 
mentor. No one can do it all by herself, so build support networks. 

7. Be hopeful. Tell yourself, “I can do it." Keep saying it until you believe 
With practice, you can get into the habit of hope. 


























is fearful, she does not let the fear 
-rwhelm her. 

jhe hears two voices in her head. 
ae tells me, ‘Look how lucky you are. 
ok at all the great things that have 
»pened to you.’ And the other voice 
5 me, ‘Get moving. There’s so much 
lito do.’ ” 

‘As Nancy’s story shows, taking action 
ps build resiliency. Says Luthar, 
saving a sense of control over one’s 
, or having an ‘internal locus of con- 
|,’ can contribute to resiliency. If you 
re a belief that you’re not just a play- 
ag of destiny, it can help you actively 
*rcome adversity.” 


GAINING STRENGTH 

twenty-three, Jo Goecke, an Omaha 
‘memaker, was brutally attacked and 
»yed. Like many rape victims, her fear 
» gered—but in Jo’s case, her terror 
»ned into a phobia. For the next thir- 
» n years, she refused to leave her house. 
Then, one winter’s day, something 
side her changed. As she stared out 
2 window at the snow covering her 
¥) ckyard patio, she realized that her 
/m potential was being covered in a 
‘i ferent way—by fear. 

Weary of living that way, she enrolled 
an assertiveness-training course at a 
#) mmunity college. She ended up tak- 
‘rg the course five times unt she finally 
Wot it.” At last, she had broken out of 
Wr shell. 
| So, four years later, when her hus- 
sind was briefly unemployed, Jo took 
jiother big step: finding paid work for 
» e first time, at age forty, as a recep- 
mist. “I thought that was all I could 
,” she says. “But after a while, I real- 
Med that I could do a lot more.” 

, Eventually, she was able to use her abil- 
ties at a higher level, organizing seminars 
wad workshops for major corporations. 

But her journey wasn’t without set- 

hacks. Two different companies fired 
er, and she failed twice at running her 
wn firm. 
“That hurt,” she remembers, “but 
ometimes it’s the things that hurt that 
pve you the grace and grit to get on 
J ith it.” At fifty-seven, she’s in her 
-enth successful year as a whirlwind, 
»mne-woman company, giving speeches 
) nd running seminars on managing a 
‘liverse labor force for a number of 
) orporations. 

Key to Jo’s resiliency, experts say, is 
| he willingness to keep on taking 
chances, even if you’ve failed before. 
| ‘The central thing,” says Werner, “is 
‘he belief and confidence that the odds 
an be overcome. That hopefulness is 
‘he great gift we can share with a 
' thild—or give to ourselves.” 


“A SECOND CHANCE 


-Growing up, Ellen Shominure, of Chica- 











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go, watched her mother struggle in 
poverty and drift from one abusive rela- 
uonship to another; it seemed that Ellen 
herself was destined to repeat those mis- 
takes, even though she kept saying, “It’s 
going to be different for me.” 

It wasn’t. Ellen suffered through two 
abusive marriages, and three years ago 
was left jobless. Forced to fall back on 
welfare, she moved into public housing 
with her teenage son. 

“Don’t I deserve a little piece of hap- 
piness?” she wondered. Then she de- 
cided to answer her own question. She 
talked with friends at church. She be- 
gan listening to self-improvement 
tapes. When she spotted a newspaper 
ad for a support group for women like 
herself called Women Employed, she 
signed up. 

One day, as an exercise, the women 
in the group were asked to write down 
adjectives that they felt described each 
other. “There I was, brainwashed by 
my ex-husband to feel like nothing, but 
the women described me as assertive, 
determined, very friendly,” Ellen says. 
“T could hardly believe they were talk- 
ing about me.” 

With a new confidence, Ellen began 
to plan her future. As a child, she had 
always dreamed of being rich, but 
now, more realistically, she aimed at 
what she could actually achieve: hold- 
ing down a good-paying job. “I'd al- 
ways liked tinkering and working with 
my hands,” she remembers, “and I de- 
cided to try for that kind of work, 
‘men’s work,’ because it pays more 
than women’s.” 

She enrolled at Washburn Trade 
School to study refrigeration and air- 
conditioning. At the same time, she was 
elected chair of a women’s group at 
Washburn, helped start a school news- 
paper, and assisted in organizing a 
work-study program at the school where 
the students could fix people’s apphi- 
ances “for free, for the experience.” 

Each small triumph built her self-es- 
teem. Sull, it took her more than a year 
after graduation to land her first job. 
“I’d come this far,” she says, “and I 
wasn’t going to give up.” 

Finally, she found a maintenance job 
with the Chicago Housing Authority. 
“I'd hated being on welfare,” she re- 
calls. “It always felt like begging, and I 
couldn’t wait to tell my case worker that 
I no longer needed the check.” 

And she’s not through yet. She has 
applied to an apprenticeship program 
for a higher-level job. Her eves shine 
with the look of a winner—and that light 
carries a hopeful message for every 
woman who is battling the odds. a 


Claire Safran is an award-winning writer 
based in Westport, Connecticut, who spe- 
ctalizes in social issues. 





Lady Jane 


conunued from page 163 


any frontierswoman would envy. Her 
concentration is phenomenal—she stays 
focused, for example, on our conversa- 
tons, even though they’re spread over a 
couple of days and sandwiched between a 
series of demanding scenes from Dr. 
Quimn—but, contrary to those niggling re- 
ports, she never loses her sense of humor. 

Above all, Seymour maintains a deep 
respect for the work at hand. So, when 
it’s time to work up a river of tears for a 
particularly weepy scene, she turns her 
back to the cameras and the crowd and 
closes her eyes. 

“Give us a nod when you’re ready,” 
calls director Harry Harris. 

A respectful silence falls. After a few 
seconds, Seymour turns and nods. Her 
eyes are brimming. 

“She’s got the tears going!” shouts 
Harris. “Roll, please, and .. . action!” 

Seymour will replay the scene exactly 
the same way five tumes, and each time 
she works up a bucketful of tears. How 
does she do it? “I thought about the fact 
that my husband was having minor 
surgery,” she explains later, “and I 
wasn’t there to look after him.” 


FAMILY TIES 

Looking after her husband is something 
Seymour loves doing. “I feel with James 
there are no secrets,” she says. “There’s 
nothing he could do that I couldn’t find 
some way to understand. And I have to- 
tal trust with him, and that’s very im- 
portant. I’m a very honest person, and 
things have to be honest, otherwise I’m 
very uncomfortable.” 

The two fell in love in 1992, while he 
was directing and she was producing and 
acting in the USA Network movie Suz- 
stroke, in Arizona. His marriage was al- 
ready on the rocks. Her third had just 
ended in divorce. After Sunstroke 
wrapped, he followed her to Austria, 
where she was playing Miss Rottenheimer 
in Disney’s Herd:. The rest of their 
courtship was usually in writing—via fax. 

“He signed his “The Catfish’ [hence, the 
name of their production company], and I 
signed ‘Cat,’” she says with a schoolgirl 
grin. “You know, we sull write to each oth- 
er. Not by fax—we have a book now. We 
leave it lying around, and when the muse 
hits, we just write in it. Someumes, it’s just 
an update on what we’ve been through re- 
cently. Whenever somebody puts it in 
black and white how much they appreciate 
you, it’s even [better] than hearing them 
say it. We'll keep it for the children.” 

She says that “we” with happy confi- 
dence—although this is her fourth mar- 
riage. At twenty, she was briefly married to 
Michael Attenborough, son of the English 
director Sir Richard. In 1977, she had her 
second short marriage, to (continued) 


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ady jan 

usinessman Geoffrey “Jeep” Planer. In 
1981, she wed her then—business manager, 
] 1 Flynn d two children, 
Katie, twelve Sean, eight, but di- 
vorced in e’s paying him alimo- 
1y—to tt $10,000 a month—unul 


ar. As part of the divorce 

€ couple also sold all their 
assets, including her house in Malibu, to 
pay off their debts. And though some press 
reports have implied serous financial trou- 
bles, Seymour says tartly, “the newspapers 
are full of things that are not true.” 

The end of the marriage was messy, 
and it coincided with another split, this 
one professional, from a writer named 
George Mendoza, with whom Seymour 
was going to write her memoirs. She says 
he took off with their taped conversa- 
tions and her diaries and leaked juicy— 
and, she insists, often false—morsels to 
the tabloids. He also reportedly tned to 
blackmail Jane’s sister, Annie, over inti- 
mate photos of Jane. But while she’s no 
longer speaking to Mendoza, she does 
try to remain on good terms with Flynn. 
“If there are reasons why you can’t [stay 
married],” she explains, “you still have 
to come to terms with the relationship 
for the sake of the children. I mean, you 
can’t just cut someone off and say, 


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“That’s it; its over, 
good-bye.’ I still speak 
to my former husband 
all the time—we’re 
parents.” 

As for Keach, she 
insists that this mar- 
riage is definitely for- 
ever. “Why? Because I 
think I’ve found a very 
special man. And the 
two of us are willing to 
make the effort to 
make it work. I think 
we need each other 
equally and love each 


Wedded bliss: 


other equally, and we Jane with 
just enjoy everything children 
together—working, Jennifer, Sean 
playing and the kids.” and Katie 

Besides Katie and (above) and 
Sean, who live with mew husband, 
their mother, there’s James Keach 
Flynn’s thirteen-year- (right) 


old daughter, Jen- 

nifer—to whom Seymour has grown very 
close—and Keach’s sixteen-year-old son, 
Kalen. The brood gets together often, on 
weekends and at holidays. “It’s great,” 
boasts Seymour. “They all love each oth- 
er, and that really helps. Kalen is a role 
model for Sean. And Jennifer knows him 
as a sixteen-year-old who’s not a 
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of each other.” 

But such vacations are a | 
treat. Seymour is on the set 
days a week from five-thirty A.Mp 
eight P.M.; occasionally that stre® 
es from four-thirty A.M. to rf 
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on, she loo 
wide-awake, as though she’d just start! 

But for Seymour, acting is more ti! 
just hard work; it occasionally invog™ 
some physical risk-taking as well. 
instance, during a recent episode ca 
“The Circus,” Lady Jane herself sw 
monkeylike on a high trapeze—e 
though, she confesses, “I have a te 
and profound fear of heights. I also } 
terrible trouble hanging onto thin 
my legs are strong, but my arms 
completely wimpy, and I have arth 
in one of my fingers. So I was stan 
{on the platform] in the freezing c 
terrified; later, one of the crew mem] 
said he couldn’t believe I did it, becef 
my knees were shaking so much. 
the minute they said ‘roll camera,’ t 
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‘action,’ off I went. Afterward, I saidé 
myself, ‘Why?’ It’s just because I 
obedient. It was very scary, but t 
kind of exhilarating to know I could 
over that kind of fear. And then, 
God, one of the Flying Wallendas 
there for the complicated stuff!” 

If Seymour seems to be grabbing 
life itself as though it were a fly} 
trapeze, that’s because in the past 
years, her priorities have changedi 
near-death reaction to anubiotics in i! 
forced her to reexamine the role of caifl 
versus private life, and her younger sij 
Sally’s successful battle with a bri 
aneurysm “has reminded me yet ag} 
that life is very tenuous and that eve 
thing can be gone so soon.” Her ca 
is, of course, still crucial, but the acts 
isn’t going to sacrifice more importil 
things for the sake of her work. 

So, in her free ume, Seymour works) 
two charities, City Hearts and Childk| 
USA. “I have an arts program for kids 
the street called City Hearts,” she s 
“We provide dance and drama and 
ative-arts programs for kids in the in 
city in Los Angeles. I help fund-raise, ¢ 
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June 1994 « VOL. CX! o. 6 





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35 CNN NEWSLINE REPORT 
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72 WHO'S TELLING THE TRUTH? 

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BETH’S TURN “Why does a man 
think he has the right to walk out 
on his wife and child the moment 
he decides the marriage isn’t exact- 
ly to his liking?” asked twenty-five- 
year-old Beth. 

“Ron was gone for five days, and 
I don’t know if I'll ever get over it. 
How can I trust him again? I gave 
up a whole lot more than he did for 
this relationship. He was twenty- 
seven and already pursuing his ca- 
reer in restaurant management. I 
had just started my very first real 
job at a public-relations agency in 
Chicago, and I was really excited 
about it. But I also loved Ron and 
didn’t want to give him up. 

“And now, when things get 
tough, he’s the one who takes off. I 
was raised to work through prob- 
lems, not run away from them. But 
all Ron and I do is butt heads ev- 
ery time we disagree. 

“The night he walked out we 





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had gone grocery shopping, and 
we'd been having little arguments 
all evening. We disagreed on what 
meat to buy, which brand of deter- 
gent was best, and, once again, 
how much we were spending. 

“When we finished putting ev- 
erything away and I was going to 
start getting our daughter ready for 
bed, he turned to me and very 
calmly said he was leaving. He told 
me he was tired of my nagging, 
tired of the way I spent money, 
tired of feeling guilty when he 
played golf—and he wasn’t sure he 
even loved me anymore. 

“T was in shock. I begged him to 
stay, to tell me what I could do to 
make everything okay. He left any- 
way. Five days later, he waltzed 
back in and wanted to go on as 
though nothing had happened. I 
refused to do that, even though I 
was tremendously relieved to see 
him. I knew we needed help and 


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made him promise we'd see af 
counselor. I don’t think I could go 
through that a second time. 

“T don’t understand why we § 
can’t communicate anymore. While | 
we were dating, and until Elissa | 
was born, all we did was talk. 

“T met Ron the summer after I | 
graduated from college. I had taken 
a job as a waitress in a Kansas City | 
restaurant and hung out with | 
friends unul September, when I was | 
to move to Chicago. Ron was the | 
assistant manager at the restaurant, 
and right before I was due to move | 
to Chicago, I stopped by to pick up | 
my last paycheck. We started talk- | 
ing, and something clicked for both | 
of us. That evening, he took me to. 
one of the best restaurants in 
Kansas City. Afterward, we walked 
around the Plaza holding hands | 
and talking nonstop. I’d never felt © 
that kind of attraction to anyone | 
before. (continued) | 


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came to see Chicago when- 

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ses and little gifts. 
I'd never fel ed. 

“We've } id a good sex life. We 
avolved within a month 
of our i.e and relied on condoms 
for b rol. But one weekend, we 
ran i that’s when Elissa was con- 
cei © were crazy in love and decid- 

. married as soon as we could. I 

y job at the agency and moved 

to Kansas City. My parents gave us 

eautiful wedding, and on that June 
day I was the happiest I’d ever been. 

“While we waited for the baby to be 
born, Ron continued to be so sweet and 
attentive. While he worked at the restau- 
rant, I cleaned our apartment and made 
dinner and waited for him to get home. I 
wanted to show him how much I loved 
him by keeping everything perfect. When 
he was home, I didn’t need anybody else. 

“Since we hadn’t lived together before, 
I was surprised how messy he was, but I 
thought he’d change once the baby came. 
I also hoped he wouldn’t play so much 


and he had to work more hours than 
ever. Stuck in the house with a baby, I 
started to get very lonely. Most of my 
childhood friends had moved away, and, 
except for my parents, I didn’t know 
many people nearby. What’s more, 
whenever Ron was home, we’d start 
bickering. He was constantly after me 
about how much money I spent, and I 
felt like I had to account for every penny. 
“If I asked him to do anything around 
the house, he sulked when he did it or 
simply refused. On his day off, if the 
weather was nice, he played golf. If it 
rained, he’d watch some game on TV. I 
felt I was losing him. When I couldn’t 
stand it anymore, I started looking for a 
job and was fortunate to find one at the 
Chamber of Commerce. I felt guilty leav- 
ing Elissa with a sitter, but by then she 
was a year old, and I found a wonderful 
woman to care for her in our home. 
“Even though we have more money be- 
cause I’m working, I still don’t know 
where it goes. We never seem to have any. 
And things are worse at home. Ron works 
longer hours than I do, so I’m willing to 
do more of the child care and housework. 
But I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ex- 
pect him to help out, certainly to pick up 
after himself. Nor do I think it’s unreason- 


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golf or watch sports on TV all the time. I 
don’t enjoy sports very much, and besides, 
how can you talk when a game is on? 
“Most of all, wanted our home to be 
different from the one Ron had grown 
up in. I know it wasn’t easy for him; his 
mother died when he was a year old, 
and he hated his stepmother. I don’t 
think Ron’s father and new wife were 
ever happy; he married her to find a 
mother for his children. Ron’s family 
was poor—his father worked whatever 
jobs he could to make ends meet. Ron 1s 
the youngest of four brothers and felt the 
brunt of his stepmother’s bad temper. 
“Meanwhile, things for us started to 
sour soon after Elissa’s birth. I became 
very depressed: She was a wonderful 
baby and I loved being a mother—but I 
thought marriage would be different. My 
father is always buying gifts for my 
mother, and he’s so helpful around the 
house. | assumed it would be that way 
for Ron and me, too. But Ron was pro- 
moted to manager at the restaurant 
when Elissa was about six months old, 


said Ron. 


able to spend money on nice clothes or 
jewelry for myself once in a while. Ron 
spends whatever he wants on golf and 
sports events—why is it okay for him but 
not for me? Even on Sunday, the one 
day both of us have off, Ron doesn’t 
want to be with me. He sleeps late and 
golfs with his buddies. I resent that. 
“This is7’t the life I want. Ron acts like 
the kid who is sull fighting his stepmoth- 
er so he can go out and play with his 
friends. Do you blame me for worrying 
that if he gets upset, he’ll leave us again?” 


RON’S TURN “Somewhere in this mar- 
riage I’ve lost my identity,” commented 
Ron, thirty, a handsome man with blue 
eyes and a friendly smile. “I love my wife 
and daughter, but I feel overwhelmed. 
If I’m not working, Beth hounds me 
about doing things around the house or 
spending time with her and Elissa. 

“T have an awful lot of responsibility 
at the restaurant. I typically work a six- 
ty- to sixty-five-hour week, which is 
what you have to do in this business if 










































you want to get ahead. But when ] 
plain to Beth that on my one day 
need to have time to myself and te 
my buddies, she gets upset. 

“The night I walked out was my 
off. Beth had been on me all day al 
one thing after another. I wanted to 
but I had stayed home to be with 
Instead of acting grateful, she bosseq 
around. She wanted me to do the q 
ing but wasn’t happy with the way | 
it. She was upset when I gave Elis 
cookie—she yelled and told me it w 
ruin her lunch. Things went on like 
all day, and by the time we got to 
grocery store, I’d had it. 

“My life is starting to seem too 
like my childhood. Dad worried al 
trme about money, so I guess it’s no 
prise that I’m like that, too. I kno 
loved my brothers and me, but he 
never physically affectionate. He sho 
his love by encouraging us in spd 
making sure we had baseball glo 
coming to every game—things like 
I don’t think my dad knew how td 
our stepmother was. She never hit 
front of him, but when he was go 
was her target. 

“Our finances are certainly be 
now that Beth has a job, though I 
have no idea where our money goes. 
wife grew up adored and indulged. 
still likes expensive things and is fo 
talking about all the stuff she’d li 
have. I feel guilty if I don’t buy hers 
erything on her wish list for her bir 
or Christmas, and at the same time 
sent spending the money. I want to 
to buy a house and to invest in my 
business someday. Sure, I spend m« 
on golf, but if I didn’t, I would be a 
unhappy person. Sports keep me sa 

“Td been thinking about leaving 
few months before I actually wa 
out. I know Beth thinks she can’t t 
me now, but I wish she could un 
stand that I just couldn’t take it 4 
more. I didn’t know what else to di 
stayed with a single friend of mine. 
worked all the time and was ngé 
around. The five days I was away I if 
ly missed Beth and Elissa, and I decg 
I wanted to stay married. 

“But Beth has to stop pressuring 
Can you help her understand that?” | 


THE COUNSELOR’S TURN “Ww 
Ron and Beth first came to see me, Je 
that the marriage, then almost the 
years old, could go either way,” saidh 
counselor. “Ron still hadn’t acknc 
edged the depth of Beth’s anger. EF 
though both had decided that t 
wanted the marriage to work, t 
didn’t know how to break through} 
barriers separating them. | 

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wanted a mari e her parents’, with 
a husband iid be her best friend 
and spend iking with her. Ron felt 
his father en tyrannized by his bad- 
tempe! nother, and he wanted an 
und ig wife who would let him go 
his .y. Ron was used to being one 


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a married man, he couldn’t seem 
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ds and his sports interests. 

‘During our first session together, it 
was clear that Ron was overwhelmed 
with the emotional and financial respon- 
sibilities of being a father and husband. 
Though he loved Beth, marriage 
cramped the lifestyle he was accustomed 
to. His idea of fun when he had some 
time off was to play golf with his friends. 
Hers was to sit around and talk and be 
together. When she wanted more of his 
time, he would either pull away or give 
in to avoid conflict. In the end, though, 
he would resent Beth for it. When he 
found time for his friends but not for 
her, she felt lonely and isolated. 

“Unconsciously, Ron reacted toward 
Beth as he had toward his stepmother: 
He saw his wife as an angry, hard-to- 
please woman, and instinctively he with- 
drew. Whenever she pushed too hard, 
he dug his heels in further, which infuri- 
ated Beth even more. 

“The result was a pursuit-avoidance cy- 
cle. During their courtship, Ron had been 
the pursuer. Later, when things got shaky, 
Beth was. Ron wanted only to watch his 
games on TV or hang out with the guys. 
The harder Beth tried to force closeness 
and affection, the more Ron pulled away. 
This is often a learned pattern, and, inter- 
estingly, both Ron and Beth came from 
homes where the female was a take- 
charge person and the male was passive. 
Beth admired her mother and began to 
repeat the pattern in her own marriage. 
Ron, on the other hand, was determined 
that his marriage would be as different 
from his parents’ as he could make it. 

“To break a pursuit-avoidance pat- 
tern, both partners must be able to step 
back and objectively observe their be- 
havior. Beth in particular had to under- 
stand how important it was to step back 
a bit when she was feeling hurt or angry 
and give both of them space to breathe. 

“Beth was initially unaware that she 
was acting in such a hostile way. But 
once I pointed this out in counseling, she 
was able to see the pattern and began to 
catch herself when her demands were ex- 
cessive or when her anger was escalating 
out of control. She learned to tell herself 
to relax and let the little things go. 


“T also worked with both of them to 
slow down and think through their reac- 
tions to each other instead of respond- 
ing emotionally. Beth learned to use the 
time-honored trick of walking out of the 
room whenever she sensed she was los- 
ing control of her emotions. Ron 
learned to simply take a deep breath and 
count to ten instead of tuning Beth out. 

“When they began to think through 
situations first and then react, they dis- 
covered that for the first time in a long 
time, they were able to really listen to 
each other’s point of view. As the barri- 
ers fell, they began to communicate 
again. Each of them learned to say to the 
other, ‘Listen, there’s something we 
need to discuss,’ so the other would im- 
mediately respond to it—or at least set a 
time and place to talk it through later on. 

“Once Beth understood how fearful 


SKILL BUILDER 
How fo stop nagging 


In some relationships, couples fall into a 
pattern in which one partner can't get the 
other to commit to anything—from what 
color to paint the kitchen to when to have 
a baby. The result is that she [it is often, 
though by no means always, the woman 
who takes on this role ater marriage) be- 
gins to nag to get her partner to become 
more involved. The more she nags, how- 
ever, the more likely he is to avoid the is 
sue altogether and withdraw. This sets up 
a cycle of nagging and withdrawal that if 
not corrected can be very destructive to 
the relationship. If you find yourself on the 
nagging end of a relationship like this, try 
these steps fo break the pattern. 

1. Set a time for a discussion about the 
problem that will be free of interruptions 
and when you are both relaxed and 
awake. Go for a walk, or talk after the 


kids are in bed 
2. Use “I” statements. Instead of saying 
You're never home” or "VVhy do you do this 
to me®” say “I love you and | miss you when 
you're gone so much. | hope we can find 
G way fo spend more time together.” 

3. Write down your feelings and com 
plaints. Because people who tend to 
withdraw have difficulty contronting their 





aware of what they think and feel, it can 
be helpful if each partner writes down 
teelings about a particular topic, 
whether it's deciding where to go on va: 
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Ron was of repeating his father’s s 
gle with debt, she complained less g 
his long hours. Just knowing thaj 
understood helped Ron take and 
look at his work situation. He ma 
to rearrange his schedule to be 
several evenings a week. Ont 
nights, he takes over the cooking 
enjoys serving dinner to his wi 
much as she loves feeling pampered 
“These two had never worked ¢ 
system for everyday living. Beth is | 
ing to relax her housekeeping stand 
‘With a child in the house,’ she adit 
‘perfection is a lost cause.’ Since s 
not pressuring him so much, Ron if 
ing a better job of picking up after 
self as well as helping more with Elis 
“Most important, these two despé 
ly needed to reach a satisfactory coniite 
mise regarding money management. fe 
saw the other as spending too mug@ 
the wrong things. I helped them set 
mutual goals: specifically, paying off 
it cards as well as Ron’s college loans 
saving to buy a house. They drew 
budget and started taking turns pain 
the bills so they would understand 
their money goes. They also ope 
savings account and have begun p 
away money each month for a down 
ment on a house. If they have an¢ 
child, which they plan to, they hope [et 
can work only part-time or not at all. 
“Ron still likes to play golf wi 
guys on his day off, but since he 
much more attentive in general, Betir 
longer minds. They’ve enrolled Elis 
preschool, and Beth has since bec 
friendly with several other mot 
These new acquaintances plus the 
en she has met at work have given I 
network of triendships in the comm 
While she may never share her husbé 
love of sports, as long as he gives en 
time and attention to her and their f 
ly, she’s no longer hurt by his absence: 
“The final problem we worked on 
Beth’s fear that Ron would one day 
out again. In counseling, he learned 
how wounded she had been, and 
nally acknowledged that walking out} 
not the way to solve a problem. This¥: 
critical for Beth’s ability to trust 
again. In one of our last sessionsl 
said: ‘I see now that it’s a holdover { 
when I was a kid. When I was angry 
my stepmother, I’d walk away.’ At 
point, Ron turned to Beth and toldi 
how important it was for him to proy! 
her that she can trust him. 
“Ron and Beth were in counselin! 
five months, and they came to our 
session holding hands. I reminded t 
that in every marriage, it’s not ha 
differences that matter but rather’ 
ability to handle those differences.” 


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out. “Are you okay? Let me in 
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Afraid to leave him for long, I 
stood outside listening to his 
moans and guttural cries. The 
doctors and friends I called as- 
sured me that he’d “snap out 
of it,” but it was seventy-two 
hours before Rod emerged. 
Drained from lack of food and 
sleep, he was trembling and 
rambling almost incoherently. 
How 
live like this? 
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low point of my 
husband’s eight- 
year battle with 
clinical depres- 
sion. It was a 
dark time for 
both of us; there 
were davs when I 
feared he might 
kall himself—or me. Another woman 
in my position might have run away, 
but I was determined not to give up 
on Rod or 


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on us. I never lost faith 


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the loving man I had married. 

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could really be seriously ill, But his 
depression nearly destroyed both of us 


Hills banquet. He was with Anna, 
his daughter by Claire Bloom, his 
second wife. I honestly believe in 
love at first sight, because when I 
looked into this man’s eyes, I was 
so powerfully attracted that I had to 
turn away. From the way Rod was 
avoiding my gaze, it was clear the 
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own daughter. Before the evenin 
was over, he had invited me to dir 
ner the next night. 

I found Rod to be very similar 
his screen persona—tough, y 
charming, sensitive and intellige 
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very romantic; he was always wri 
ing me little love notes. The on 
film of his I had seen was Do 
tor Zhivago, so | spent ma 
hours catching up on h 
movies—more than fifty 
that time, including On t 
Waterfront, Oklahoma! and 
the Heat of the Night (f 
which he won the Best Act 
Oscar in 1967). 

Rod once mentioned to 
that he had visited a psychi 
trist after undergoing a dispi 
iting heart-bypass operation 1 
1979. He hated the deterioré 
tion of age: A former Nav 
man, Rod has always pride 
himself on the mental an 
physical strength he develop 
while growing up poor 1 
Newark, New Jersey. His pa 
ents divorced when he was 
year old; he never knew his fi 
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difference; he and I certainly didn’t! 

Then, in late 1981, Rod underwent 
elective surgery—and his behavior 
changed drastically. Doctors had 
warned him that he might feel some- 
what depressed during his recovery, but 
he acted as if someone had suddenly cut 
off his laughter, his interests and his ap- 
preciation for life altogether. He became 
irritable and unpredictable. 

I immediately blamed myself and 
tried to fix the relationship before it was 
too late. I consulted medical doctors in 
Los Angeles and New York, but they 
shrugged off my concerns, prescribing 
parties and cruises instead of real treat- 
ment. Even Rod’s closest friends said 
this was just a passing phase. It seemed 
no one would take me—or Rod’s de- 
pression—seriously. 

Trying to boost his spirits, I did 
throw parties in our beachfront Malibu 
home and invited his friends to dinner 
every other day. Rod would just sit in 
the corner, not moving or speaking—yet 
his friends sz// wouldn’t acknowledge 
that something was wrong. It was then 
that I realized that depression is a dis- 
ease of denial, not only for the patient 
but for everyone around him. 

My heart sank as I watched the man I 
loved decline. But I was beginning to 
understand that I wasn’t to blame, and I 
continued trying to find solutions. One 
psychiatrist prescribed several antide- 
pressants for Rod that seemed to work, 
but other aspects of the therapy made 
no sense to me. When I told the doctor 
we usually shared a bottle of wine at 
dinner, he didn’t tell Rod to stop drink- 
ing while on the antidepressant. How 
could I argue with a professional? 

By early 1986, with continuing anti- 
depressant drug treatment, Rod seemed 
to rally, and we decided to get married. I 
wasn’t walking into this situation blindly. 
I’ve always been a nurturer by nature—I 
looked after my divorced, aging father 
for many years—and I was prepared to 
continue caring for Rod. However, after 
our wedding, Rod’s illness returned, and 
I wasn’t quite prepared for it. 

Rod was so deeply depressed that he 
couldn’t leave the house, much less take 
acting work. During the worst of his de- 
pression, the routine remained virtually 
unchanged: Rod would come downstairs 
and mumble, “Good morning.” I would 
make him tea and toast, which he never 
touched; then he would lie on the couch 
for nine hours, staring at the ocean, be- 
fore going back to bed. He didn’t shave or 
wash; he hardly spoke to me, and there 
was almost no intimate contact between 
us. I missed the tender man I had fallen 
in love with, and I was frightened for him. 

I found solace in doing what I could 


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for Rod. I read aloud to him fro: A 
toine de Saint-Exupéry’s The in 
Prince, a book I’ve always found pj 
ing. I played soothing music. I won 
him, “It’s going to be okay. You’ rejoiy 
to pull out of it”’—words that verde 
ably meant more for me than for hi. 
Though I couldn’t stand seein Ri 
so despondent, I never took it ¢ 
him or yelled, “Get your act togetlr 
felt that would only make things je 
for both of us. And I never tha 
about leaving; I wouldn’t have de 
him if he had a serious physical ife 
and to my mind, this was no differgt. 
But I also realized that I had tdeg 
onto my own life if I were to hel 
get through this crisis. Whenev{ 
tension at home got too thick, I | 
get together with friends and pla 
quetball. The exercise and camarfle 
were good for my well-being. 
an opera singer in England by thisi 
but I called her often to let her kn 
her father’s condition. | 
My anger and fear were aimed } 
being able to find anyone to hej 
husband. The friends who did ack 
edge that Rod was sick didn’t se 
think he needed that much profes 
attention. Nor did Rod’s own dct 
His psychiatrists agreed that he wdé 
fering from serious depression—d 
caused by chemical abnormalities 
brain. But I remember feeling thi 





























his progress as closely as I wanted} 
to. And none of them ever asked 6 


While we were lucky to be able 
ford the best doctors and exp 
medications, our finances quickly 
dled. Rod mustered enough ene 
take parts in small and foreign fil 
for the money, which only mad 
feel worse. The disease stripped hj 
the spontaneity and improvisa 
skills that made him such a great § 


more often, Rod talked about 
himself just to find peace. Unblinkiy 
would tell me coldly how he’ wan# 
row out into the ocean and die. § 
times Rod fantasized about hurtiff 
family—thoughts that scared event 
Once, while looking at a large kn} 
the kitchen counter, he said - 
“What if I use that knife on you?”! 
all the sharp utensils, reminding rys' 
that he would never say these thingif 
wasn’t sick. Yet somehow Rod musa 
been aware of the threat he posed b 
cause he asked a friend to take hislhc 
gun out of the house. 

Things came to a head late that 
mer. A doctor had just taken Re 
one of his antidepressants, and tl ¢ 
sulting withdrawal made him neo 
and irrational. It was then ( conte 





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conunued 


that he shut himself nie bedroom for 
three days. He n iid anything that 
drastic again, b redoubled our ef- 
forts to find a er to this crisis. 


Then cai alvation. Rod’s publi- 
cist, who { our situation, had re- 
cently h about a specialist: Dr. 
Ronal |, assistant clinical professor 
of p y at the University of Califor- 
ni Angeles Neuropsychiatric In- 


ad Hospital, and co-founder of 

enter for Mood Disorders, in Los 

‘les. Dr. Podell examined Rod and 

ide the same diagnosis of clinical de- 

pression, but the difference was in his ap- 

proach. He treated Rod respectfully, but 
also as a dangerously suicidal patient. 

Rod was still drinking and remained 
on prescription drugs. Dr. Podell rec- 
ommended that he go into the hospital’s 
three-week detoxification program as 
part of the psychiatric treatment. Rod 
resisted at first, but he knew that if he 
didn’t take this step, our marriage 
would be over. Even so, he resented me 
for it. One day at the hospital, he turned 
to me and said, “I don’t like you. You 
understand that? I don’t like you.” It 
hurt, but I stood firm because I knew 
this was the illness talking. (The pro- 
gram worked: Rod hasn’t had a drink in 
more than seven years.) 

Although I had already begun to see 
my own therapist by this time, Dr. Podell 
was the first of Rod’s doctors to sit down 
with me and say, “How are you? I want 
to hear your side.” He told me that I had 
prevented a potenual tragedy by staying 


Every 





year, more than eleven million Americans suffer from 


calm and not letting Rod’s behavior 
dominate my life completely. 

Dr. Podell thinks the onset of Rod’s 
depression occurred shortly after the 
1979 heart surgery, and the symptoms 
became noticeably worse over the fol- 
lowing years. He also believes that Rod, 
like many clinically depressed patients, 
may have a biological predisposition to- 
ward the disease: His mother had de- 
pressive episodes, too. 

Over the next two years, Dr. Podell 
pulled Rod out of the darkness with a 
carefully balanced combination of psychi- 
atric and drug therapies. (We prefer not 
to name the drugs that helped Rod, since 
medications work differently for each in- 
dividual.) Gradually, Rod’s self-confi- 
dence, vitality and ability to communicate 
returned. When I heard him laughing and 
joking for the first ime in ages, I knew he 
was on the right track at last. 

Coming through this illness together 
really reinforced our respect and love for 
each other. Once Rod’s recovery was well 
under way, we decided to add to our 
bond by starting a family. In February 
1993, I gave birth to our beautiful son, 
Michael Winston Steiger. Rod doted on 
me throughout the pregnancy, returning 
in full the years of care I had given him. 

Rod hasn’t put this part of his life 
completely behind him, however. He 
hopes that by sharing his story, he can 
do his part to fight the stigma and 
shame that often keep depression suffer- 
ers from seeking treatment. Last year he 
recounted his own experience during a 
hearing conducted by the U.S. Senate 
Committee on Children, Family, Drugs 
and Alcoholism. His testimony moved 


THE SILENT EPIDEMIC 


Senator Edward M. Kennedy to ear 


and helped contribute to the desi 


on CNN and met with Tipper Gor 


members of Congress to discus. 
i 


place of mental health in President ‘I 


ton’s health-care program. 


(clinical depression is controllabl n 
curable), but he knows that he cz - 


duce the chances of that happeni 


ever he feels down. He also tries tore 
a positive outlook, thinking of the ge 


of crisis not as a personal failure bu; 


learning experience. 
‘Today, at sixty-nine, Rod says 


never been more content. He’s bek 


his roles in the recent TV mini-& 
Sinatra and Tales of the City, Rod te 


with Sylvester Stallone and Shr 
Stone in the film The Specialist, du) 
od fall. He still sends me flowera 


love notes, and he always tells me, |P 


grateful you are in my life. I wouldit 


here if it weren’t for you.” 
The extent of our newfound 


ness was captured perfectly one ifr 








accept failure easily, says Frederick K. Goodwin, Mh 





depression, a physical and mental illness that can affect 
behavior, physical health, appearance, job performance 
and the ability to handle everyday decisions and pres- 
sures, according to the National Institute of Mental Health 
(NIMH). Though depression atfects twice as many wom- 
en as men, some studies show that men may face the 
same risk for the severest forms of depression and manic- 
depressive illness. And, according to the NIMH, men are 


four times more likely than women to commit suicide. 
Some experts believe that male depression is underre- 
ili in the first place because men are reluctant to ad- 


nit their feelings. Instead, they're more likely to talk about 
sical symptoms: trouble falling asleep, fatigue, or 
loss of appetite or interest in sex, for example. But the pri- 
depression are a mood change (the 
of sadness, apathy, numbness, anxiety, irritability, 
; of seltesteem and selfconfidence, and 
lack of energy, motivation or the ability to concentrate. 
Who's at risk? For men in particular, it’s high achievers 
who are used to being in control of things and may not 


tneir ony 


1. 
mary inaicators of 
onset 

' 


negativity], loss 


of the NIMH. A family history of mental illness is a prejs- 
posing factor. Some triggers that may set off depresgn 
in men include job-related setbacks, the financial or ele 
tional burden of caring for an aging parent or a newbgn 
child, or a life-ordeath event akin to the surgery that Ne 
Steiger underwent. Alcohol and drug abuse can ag¢ 
vate the problem. Fortunately, the NIMH says that § 
percent of people who suffer from depression can be © 
cessfully treated with therapy, medications or a combi 
tion of both. You can help a depressed person by a 
patient, persistent and encouraging, and by urging fle 
sufferer to seek professional help. 
For more information, write to: the National Foundalf 
ee lines, P.O. Box 2257, New York, ly 
16, 800-248-4344: the National Mental Health js 
socicfbe, 1021 Prince Street, Alexandria, VA 223 
800-228-1114; and the National Depressive and Mr 
ic Depressive Association, 730 North Franklin Stret, 
Suite 501, Chicago, IL 60610, 800-826-36¢ 
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if We've Said It Once,We’ve Said 1t100 Times: 
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For years we've been featuring recipes that prove great 
ie and nutrition can go together. Now we've published 
ny of these recipes in the first-ever cookbooks from 
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These cookbooks represent the best from the pages of 


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'd to plan meals, such as estimated preparation time and 


Titional analysis. They even include daily nutrient goals, 


plus eye-catching symbols to indicate low-fat/ low-calorie 
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And since the books have a hidden spiral binding, they 
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Look for them at your favorite bookseller. As we've been 
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BEAUTY & FASHION JOURNAL 


Perfectforsummer scents, the best t thigh- busters, and more 





Love-vour-body 
SWisM s&s U iT § 


CAN'T BEAR THE thought of swimsuit shopping? Relax—we did the legwork for you: 
Our five volunteers tried on dozens of the newest styles and came up with ten figure- ii) 
flatterers. Here, and on the following page, we show you the winners and explain the con- I) 
struction Astzils that make them an i eA. || 
so great. See you aan ' 7 ry | 


on the beach! EREREFECEE: % =. i a Tie | } 
KAT: “The best suits . , > . " 


for me have deep neck- 

lines and foam bra cups. 

No underwire—it tends to 

hit large breasts in the 
wrong spot.” 

Kat's suit solution: Robby 
Len, white, style #1260. 
Thick, stretchy fabric hugs 
curves gently; foam cups 
add support. 


CARON: ‘When you 
are petite and have a full 
bust, your midriff disap- 
pears. This suit’s Empire 
waist elongates my torso.” 

Caron’s suit solution: 
COO’EE Australian Swim- | 
wear, royal blue, style | 
#EU92110. Empire waist; 
foam cups for support. 


ANNs: “I'm curvy all Ete ee SE ae ws 
over. | prefer lightly structured ~ Pelton f 
suits in a soft fabric. This is JEANNEs “I'd like a style NURAS “I tend to feel self- Young, Caron | 
one | can swim in!” that creates cleavage.” conscious in a swimsuit, but jee Scat i 
Ann’‘s suit solution: Anne Cole Jeanne’s suit solution: Gottex this tank makes me feel thin.” ‘Ann Budilin i 
Collection pink tank, style blue-green strapless, style Nura’s suit solution: Pierre (aPenes ean i 
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elongates body; stretchy fabric boost a small bosom; contoured tank, style #34041. Deep neck- We SES | 
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Love -your- -bodvy 
$ 1M _ Sonbh 


(cc i) 

“| used to think a solid- 

suit was most slimming, 

a colorful pattern is what 

Jes tummy bulge.” 

Kat’s suit solution: Bill Blass 
Swimwear, style #2791. The 
draped, foam-lined cups pre- 
vent fallout. The deep, boned 
U neckline separates and 
shapes—it’s a hardworking style 
element that doesn’t look 


old-fashioned. 
CARON: “Another Empire 


waist-style suit that | love. The 
crisscross design on top helps give 
my bosom a higher, firmer look.” 

Caron’s suit solution: Rose Marie 
Reid, violet, style #5870. Empire 


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waist; draped cups keep a large ~<— , From left: Kat, 
bust in check. Caron, Ann; 
ANNs A contoured V neckline JEANNE? “This miniskirt is new  prisingly flatter- ecg 
and light boning on the sides means to me—it looks good and covers my ing. | like it be- hae ae 
| can remove the halter strap with- problem spots.” cause the top is Sti 
out worry.” Jeanne’s suit solution: Norma_ sexy.” Pe 


Ann’s suit solution: Anne Klein Kamali red swimdress, style Nura’s suit solu- 


Swimwear, black and white, style #8012R.02. The flippy skirt is great tion: Michael Kors Swimwear by Tru- 
#386. A shelf bra lining, lightweight camouflage. lo, white, style #465034. Wide-set 
te boning gold straps help focus attention away | 


cups, wire V neck and sub 
support and shape bust. NURAS “This swimdress is sur- from lower-body problems. 


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MY HAIR LOOKS GREEN! 


WHAT HAPPENS TO BLOND HAIR in the pool that makes it turn olive? According 
to haircolor pro Louis Licari, “This happens most often to women with very dry, 
damaged hair.” The experts at Clairol say that the culprit is copper, not chlorine. A 
copper compound is sometimes added to pool water to combat algae. It can 





happen at home, too. If your tap water runs through copper pipes, the water will 
contain copper compounds. e If your hair looks just a little tarnished, use a color refresher 
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JAKE STEINFELD and host 
of the new twenty-four-hour Cable Health Club, developed 
these thigh exercises just for LHJ. Do two sets of twelve reps, 
working up to three: You’ll see contour changes in two weeks, 
real firming in three. (Consult your doctor before starting this 
or any exercise plan.) 


SIDE LUNGES: Stand with your feet spread wide 
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Over it, leaving the right 
knee fully extended. Hold 
for a few seconds; repeat on 


opposite leg. 


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It’s time to switch 
to breezier clothes 
and fresher scents. 
“In summer, women 
like to experiment 
with fragrance— 
kick up their heels 
a little bit, take a 
chance. We’re see- 
ing tremendous in- 
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florals and fruity 
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to wear—happy 
and feminine,” 
says Lawrence J. 
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Beauté. We chose 
nine new florals 
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re ae . FE is 


The newest florals. They 
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Laurer A distinctive, 
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eau de toilette (edt), $50. 


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Cool, 
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If your perfect summer 
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A bouquet 
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An earthier floral with a 
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edt, $37.50. 


Louis Scherrer: Earthy, 
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amber. 1.7 oz. edt 
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NaVy White by Cover Girl: 


A light version of original 
spicy-sweet NaVy in an 
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Much lighter perfume mist. 1 oz. edt 
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360° by Perry Ellis: 
Has hints of melon 
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Pass the produce 


Most American adults aren't eating enough fruits and vegetables to pro- 
mote and maintain good health—and neither are their children. A recent 
study by researchers for the salad-dressing maker Hidden Valley Ranch, 
in Oakland, California, showed that an estimated half of the children in 
the U.S. eat vegetables only once a day, and only 38 percent eat them 
twice a day. The National Cancer Institute recommends five servings of 
fruits and vegetables per day. —CAROLYN O’NEIL, ON THE MENU 


Summer shimmer 
Jewelry designers are accenting this summer's hottest fashions with silver-— 
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Stephen Dweck, who combines his textured silver pieces with pearls ‘and 
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A new focus 
on breast 
cancer 
Computers may soon assist 
doctors more efficiently in 
the diagnosis of breast 
cancer. Researchers at the 
University of Wisconsin 
School of Medicine, 1n 
Madison, are developing a 
new computer program 
that they say will determine 
more precisely whether a 
patient’s breast cell 
samples, if atypical, will 
become cancerous. The 
computer compares the 
cells to records of normal 
and cancerous cells in its 
data bank; if it cannot 
make a definite 
determination, it is 
programmed to estimate 
the chance that the cells are 
malignant. According to 
William Wolberg, M.D., 
the lead author of the 
research, this program may 
help doctors give women a 
clearer picture of their 
risks. —ANDREW HOLTZ, 
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Jacquie’s secret: She glues 
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LEEZA GIBBONS 


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fresh appeal. (The color looks nat- 
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had everything done to it,” says the 
thirty-seven-year-old. “I’ve been 
experimenting with hair color for 
twenty years.” 

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makeup shades and soft, neutral 
clothing. At night, when she hosts 
E.T., she goes for dazzling evening 
outfits and red lipstick. 

Besides the two TV shows, Leeza 
also has three nationally syndicated 
radio programs, and she’s the mom 
of two preschoolers. “My schedule 
is exhausting,” says Leeza, “so to 
keep my energy up I eat lots of little 
meals during the day—if I eat too 
much at one time, I need a nap.” 

What does she like least about 
her body? “Do you know any wom- 
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she swears by Johnson’s baby 
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I’m a happy woman.” 
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show uses a very thick foundation 
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under the lights she prefers to 
wear no makeup at all. 

Not only did Jane suffer from 
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Variety keeps things interesting.” 
Rolonda likes diversity when it 
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“When there’s a big change in 
my life, I'll change my hairstyle,” 
says Rolonda. “Now it’s long on 
top, short on the sides and back. It 
gives the illusion of a lot of hair.” 
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Host of Vicki! 

“My best up is to sleep with your 
makeup artist,” says forty-five- 
year-old Vicki Lawrence with a 
laugh. She’s not kidding: Vicki’s 
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learned a lot from Al 
portant, that soft, neutral makeup 
shades are most flattering. “As my 
husband says, if people notice your 
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MH oon the air. “People are al- 
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simple gold jewelry. Black is 
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‘oughest—and most intimate—problems. By Sonya Friedman, Ph.D. 


here are times when we 
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friends or family about 
our personal problems, 
vet we re not sure how to 
handle them ourselves. I posed 
some of your most common—and 
most challenging—questions to a 
panel of experts, and together we 
came up with coping strategies and 
solutions every woman can use. 

me Michael 
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chologist in private practice in 
Birmingham, Michigan; Edwin S. 
Cox, Ph.D., president of the Cali- 
fornia Family Study Center, in 
North Hollywood, California; 
Penelope Russianoff, Ph.D., a 
clinical psychologist in private 
practice in New York City; and 
Janet Wolfe, Ph.D., a clinical psy- 


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After twelve years of mar- 
riage, my husband and ! are 
becoming strangers. We’re 
so busy with our kids, jobs 
and chores that we rarely 
even have time to talk, and 
we’re never in the mood for 
sex at the same time. | don’t 
want to lose him, but | wish 
we could return to the way 
we used to be. 

Janet Wolfe: Couples in the movies 
may have no trouble becoming 
swept away with desire, but in real 
life, people get tired. They’re no 


longer spontaneously aroused as 
they once were. And they tend not 
to set aside time for the romantic 
candlelight dinners and heavy pet- 
ting that made their earlier physical 
relationship so delicious. Not to 
worry—if your marriage is basically 
a good one, something as simple as 
arranging a weekly date night may 
be just the thing to rekindle your 
sensual spark. 

Sonya Friedman: Being out of sex- 
ual syne is common for couples 
who are terribly busy. But inter- 
course itself is not the only way to 
be sexual; a good deal of touching, 
stroking, hugging 
and talking can still 
make you and your 
husband feel very 
warm, desired and 
fulfilled. Many cou- 
ples also enjoy wak- 
ing up a little earlier 
in the morning and 
that 
time to cuddle. 
Michael Abramsky: 
Marriages are hard 
work, and if not at- 
tended to, they fall 
apart. No matter 
how busy you are, try to spend 


using extra 


some time alone with your hus- 
band every day—and take a week- 
end away once in a while. When 
your intimacy level improves, so 
should your sex life. 


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having an exciting, passion- 
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man. The trouble is, | doubt 
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and lately I’ve been won- 
dering whether I’ve been 
wasting my time. But | love 
him too much to break it off. 
Friedman: | think you already real- 
ize, painful as it may be, what the 
future holds. Rarely does a man 
leave his wife for a lover, and af- 
fairs are hardly ever a true test of 
what a real relationship with the 
man would be like. Sometimes lov- 
ing someone means having the 
courage to let go. 
Edwin Cox: Stay- 
ing in the relation- 
ship provides you 
with passion, but 
it prevents you 
from developing a 
full life of your 
own. When the 
pain of not moving 
ahead exceeds the 
pleasure of the af- 
fair, then you should 
be ready to end it 
and seek a relation- 
ship with someone 
more fully available to you. 


My husband spends all his 
free time vegging out on the 
couch, watching whatever 
happens to be on TV. I’ve 
asked him time and time 
again to turn off the set so 
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.er with your friends. 

223 Talk to him (when the TV is off); 
k him straight in the eye and say, “I 
ve you, and I want to spend more time 
with you. I feel left out when you’re so 
wrapped up in watching TV.” Then 
plan to do something that you both en- 
joy rather than using the time to get 

into heavy discussions. 
Wolfe: You may have to remind your 
husband from time to time that mar- 
riage is a loving business, in which both 
partners are at times willing to do some- 
thing that isn’t one hundred percent 
convenient in order to please the other. 
In business and in life, we usually have 

to give in order to get. 


understanding, return her anger with 
love and compliment her unique talents 
and skills. As she grows older and more 
self-confident, she won’t feel the need to 
compete with you. 

Friedman: I agree, but at the same 
time, you don’t have to tolerate her dis- 
respect. Set kind but firm rules, and 
enforce reasonable consequences— 
groundings or loss of privileges—when 
she treats you inconsiderately or 
doesn’t return your belongings. As for 
the message problem, why not invest in 
an answering machine? 


A woman in my office insists on 
telling me about all her minor 
personal problems. She even 
calls me at home in the evenings! 
How can | tactfully get her to 
quit bothering me? 

Russianoff: There is no nice way to tell 
her you’re not interested, but you can 
find ways to fend her off. At work, you 
can say, “Sorry, I can’t chat—I really 
have to finish this project now.” When 
she calls you at night, politely tell her, 
“This is the time I like to spend with 
my family, and I’d rather not be tied up 
on the phone.” 

Friedman: You're the one who has to 


Fantasies are great 
pleasure-enhancers, so 
stop putting vourself 
down for having them. 


My twelve-year-old daughter 
seems determined to sabotage 
me. She keeps telling me how 
old | look, she borrows my fa- 
vorite things without returning 
them and she “forgets” to give 
me phone messages. She doesn’t 
behave this way with my hus- 
band. I’m hurt and upset, but she 
refuses to discuss it. Am | just a 
bad mother? 

Cox: It may help you to realize that she 
probably isn’t doing anything to get at you 
personally. It’s natural, as a girl matures, 
for her to pull away from her mother so 
she can define herself as an individual 
separate from the dependent child. Dur- 
ing this time, daughters continue a fairly 
stable relationship with their father. 
Abramsky: At this age, young girls feel 


awkward, ugly and unlovable, and they 
become angry and competitive with 
their mother out of jealousy. Try to be 


set the boundaries. When she starts talk- 
ing, tell her you can spare only five min- 
utes—then stick to that time limit. 

Cox: Don’t encourage your co-worker 
or ask her follow-up questions; maybe 
then she’ll find someone else to burden. 
But if her intrusions become a real 
problem, you have every right to talk to 
your supervisor and request help. Con- 
stant interruptions can interfere with 
your own work performance. 


My mother recently confided to 
me that she thinks my dad is 
having an affair. She seems to be 
looking to me for advice, but | 
love both of my parents and 
don’t want to take sides. Should | 
talk to my father or stay out of it? 
And what should my mother do? 
Wolfe: Empathize with your mother; 
tell her, “This must be a very painful 
and tough situation for you to be 















































dealing with, and you clearlyfes 
someone to help you sort it out. Ph 
explain how much you wish youjg 
be the one to help, but that woufy 
you in an awkward position and 
bly hurt your relationship with h 
with your dad. Suggest she talk 
close woman friends, or refer h 
good marriage counselor. 

Friedman: If you feel you mus 
front your father, don’t get too inv 
Say that your mother seems veryjp 
over something personal but th: 
love both of them, you don’t wan 
forced to take sides and you thi 
should talk to her. I think that’s as 
you can go in this situation. 


Sometimes | get these stra 
self-destructive urges o 
nowhere. If I’m in a tall buil 
| have the impulse to jump 
window. If I’m out alone, | | 
about disappearing and 
being found by my fami 
don’t think I’d ever do a 
these things, but just thin 
about them is scary. Is some 
seriously wrong with me? 

Cox: Many people have these se 
structive urges occasionally, 
doesn’t mean that there is somethi 
riously wrong or that they'll act o 
impulses. Often, these urges come ff 
people feel overwhelmed with resfin 
bilities. An “easy” way out seems 
pler than dealing with all 


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you feel more in control of your lif 
impulses should diminish. 
Russianoff: It sounds as if youl 
need help to deal with your anxietis 
recommend short-term therapy; ta 
about problems is useful, and a thei 
can help you exchange your fantasi(} 
realistic ways to cope with stress. | 


t) 


I’m ashamed to admit this, 
I’m sexually attracted tot 
seventeen-year-old son’s 
friend. He’s very good-looka 
and | actually feel myself get 
flushed when he’s around. I’ 
embarrassed—I’m thirty-n|) 
but | feel like a schoolgirl! 

Wolfe: There’s nothing shamf 
about a thirty-nine-year-old wolf 
having sexual fantasies—or a nir 
year-old, for that matter! Fantasie¢ 
great pleasure-enhancers, so enjoy tk 
and stop putting yourself down for 
ing them. Needless to say, however 
Mrs. Robinson scenario is better le} 
the movies than played out in real li* 
Abramsky: Though we are taught 
certain sexual feelings are wrong, 
are just part of being human and 
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to act on them—and in this case, 

jurse, you mustn’t. Could it be that 
-e fantasizing about the boy because 
own sex life isn’t as exciting as 
d like? Think about what you and 
husband might do to improve it. 


a3 company party, my boss 
a bit too much to drink and 
Je a fool of herself—flirting 
» the men and blabbing about 
intimate secrets. Now, a 
sk later, she’s been asking 
about the party, as if she 
ws she did something wrong 
can’t remember what it was. 
uld | tell her the truth or keep 
mouth shut? 

You have no obligation to tell her 
you saw. But if you don’t, she may 
Jer just how badly she behaved and 
be reluctant to face many people in 
*ompany—including you. If you do 
er, be accurate but nonjudgmental. 
msky: If the two of you normally 
e a formal working relationship, 
ly say you’re not aware of what 
-on. If the two of you are closer, 
can tell her the truth—but assure 
she didn’t do anything terrible. (If 
did do something wrong, you may 
‘to tell her tactfully, though keep in 
i that it can be dangerous to be the 
sr of bad news.) 

nis type of memory loss frequently 
ils a serious drinking problem. You 
It want to suggest she talk to the 
pany’s employee-assistance program 
it seeking treatment. 


nkly, | can’t help feeling a 
e disappointed in my chil- 
n when it comes to their 
ol performance. Though my 
nds’ kids all seem to do 
|, my daughter is so shy she 
1’t speak up in class, and my 
clowns around and never 
; his work done. I’ve talked 
hem, but so far it hasn’t 
le a difference. 

dman: Talk to your children’s 
ols and arrange to have a social 
er or psychologist observe their be- 
yr in class. Then discuss with their 
hers the best way to bring your 
hter out of her shell and to control 
son’s impulsiveness. 

smember, too, that no one’s kids 
erfect. While your friends’ children 
do well in school, they might fall 
t in other areas. Love and accept 
kids for who they are. 

amsky: I’m sure your son and 
rhter sense your disappointment, 
without being told. Be honest with 
1. Explain that they don’t have to 


please you all the time or in every way 


but that you’re concerned they don’t 
seem to be doing as well in school as 
they might. Ask them how they feel, and 


offer to find them a counselor or tutor if | 


they think it would help. And be sure to 
reinforce their strengths and downplay 
their vulnerabilities. 


My husband of fifteen years 
walked out on me nearly a year 
ago. | should be over it by now, 
but | still feel so betrayed, sad 
and furious, especially when | 
hear that my ex has been dating. 
Sometimes | even fantasize about 
getting revenge on him some- 
how. | know | should be getting 
on with my life, yet | can’t seem 
to put the pain behind me. 

Cox: It’s not unusual to continue feeling 
angry and hurt toward your ex-spouse 
after a divorce, especially when he be- 
gins to date. That can be the most tan- 
gible signal that the relationship is really 
over. In spite of these feelings, it’s ex- 
tremely important to find things you can 
do for yourself that give you pleasure. If 
you take action and build enough enjoy- 
ment into your life, the pain zi fade. 
Wolfe: In my observation, it can take 
as long as two or three years for the av- 
erage person to get over being dumped 
from a long-term relationship. Plotting 
revenge may seem satisfying for a 


while—but enough already! Stop focus- | 


ing on what a louse he is and concen- 
trate on what you can do to improve 
your friendships and skills, develop new 
interests, and have fun. You'll come to 
realize that ending a relationship isn’t 
the worst thing that can happen, that 
there probably were some good things 
that came out of the marriage, and that 
ultimately, living well is the best re- 
venge of all. a 


Sonya Friedman, Ph.D., is a clinical psy- 
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whose fourteen-month-old 
son had suffered brain damage, 
allegedly after she applied a pre- 
scribed lotion to treat a body rash 
her doctor said was caused by sca- 
bies, a microscopic insect that bur- 
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‘The doctor had prescribed two 
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the brain injury and permanent re- 
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putting his hands in his mouth, but she 
didn’t worry since the doctor had said 
the lotion was safe. 

Even the family dog, a six-year-old 
black Lab, seemed attracted to the lin- 
dane. Jean caught him licking Scott’s 
legs. After the first application, Scott’s 
rash persisted. Following the doctor’s 
advice, Jean waited ten days and treated 
him once again with lindane. The dog 
had a seizure. Jean and her husband, 
Paul, rushed the animal to the vet and 
wondered what had happened; now they 
believe the incident was caused by the 
dog licking Scott again. 

In another ten days, Scott received a 
third application of lindane. The next 
day, he had what Jean now knows was a 
mild seizure. He was glassy-eyed, lethar- 
gic, nonresponsive. Three days later, his 
eyes rolled back, his lips turned blue, his 


body stiffened, he convulsed and lost 
consciousness. On the way to the emer- 
gency room, he stopped breathing. He 
was revived, but his seizures continued. 


They persist to this day. 

“The reason I cried when I 
story is that boy’s problems are so much 
like Scott’s,” Jean told me. Scott now 
has cerebral palsy, brain damage, and a 
damaged left foot, and hand. 


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He can’t jump or skip. He can’t write 
his name. His language development is 
slow. He has also been diagnosed with 
Attention Deficit Disorder. He is on 
medication in an attempt to control his 
seizures, though nothing really does. 

Both of these mothers believed that 
lindane was a medicated lotion that 
would soothe their children’s itch and 
irritation. The mothers say that no one 
told them, nor did the labeling make 
sufficiently clear, that lindane is a pesti- 
cide, a poison that kills insects by at- 
tacking their central nervous system. 
Doctors and pharmacists have, however, 
known this for years. 

“T think lindane should be thrown in 
the trash somewhere. They’ve hurt my 
son forever, and it wasn’t even neces- 
sary,” Jean says. 

Jean is not the only mother I heard 
from after that June report. My office, 
the office of the National Pediculosis 
Association (a nonprofit group formed 
to educate parents about the preven- 
tion and proper treatment of head 
lice), and the office of the attorney 
who represented Rosa Santiago were 
flooded with calls, many from parents 
who believe that their children, too, 
had been harmed. 

And Jean is right. It isn’t necessary to 
use lindane to treat scabies or lice. These 
days, there are effective alternatives that 







must be used carefully. But the: e 
as toxic as lindane. 
So, why is this substance stile 


Barreonadonal Inc., the large: 
ufacturer of generic lindane, sayiit 


likely. “The importance of the dct 
patient relationship,” the compay s ‘ 
in a prepared statement, “gives 
assurance that the product will 
safely and effectively.” 


NOT SAFE AND EFFECTIVE 
To a mother like Jean Nabor| 
response is painfully inadeda 
Jean’s heartbreak began in 198 ai 
she adopted Scott from South 
ca. Three doctors examine 
found him weakened by maln 
ment and suffering from a co a 
an ear infection, but all prononc, 
hmm otherwise healthy, happy, Cie. 
and intelligent. 

But a diagnosis of scabies camethi. 
three weeks after Scott enterd 1, 
United States. “I noticed him ith. 
and scratching; he looked so uncoate 
able,” Jean said. “Some of the "I I, 
turned into open sores.’ 

Medical reference books found. 
ery doctor’s office are quite clar 
warning against the use of lindg 
open wounds. They are also cleartby, 
the consequences of misuse of thepry, 
uct. Lindane “penetrates the 
skin and has the potential for Ss 
nervous system toxicity,” says Ce. 
goes on to say that seizures are ajOs 
ble outcome and that the “potenti/ t 
ic effects of topically applied lindas 
greater in the young.’ f 


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“How could my doctor have te 
it was safe?” asks Jean. 

Part of the reason has to be bem 
the federal Food and Drug Admiust 
tion (FDA), despite years of contpy, 
sy over lindane’s potential toxic eec 
especially on children, continues } ¢ 
the substance “safe and effective vb 
used as directed.” 

Yet reports of seizures followig” 
use as a treatment for scabiesa: 
head lice have been surfacing in 
icant numbers for decades. The D 
which regulates lindane as a mediir 
held hearings and ruled that tH i 
dustry should provide written int 
tions to patients when ling 
products are dispensed. 

But the first FDA-approved pile 
instructions failed to mention thei 
dane was dangerous, poisonous 00 
ic. In 1983, when reports of seigr 
and other neurological damage pei: 
ed, Public Citizen, a consumer ; 





aded by Ralph Nade: petitioned 


FDA to ban all medicines contain- | 


lindane. Today, eleven years later, 
group is outraged that lindane is 
‘being used. 

We have recently looked at reports 
| with the FDA, and there are almost 


yreports of convulsions, half of 


ch are in children under the age of 
from using products containing lin- 
2,” says Sidney Wolfe, M.D., direc- 
of Public Citizen’s Health Resource 
up. “Generally, fewer than one in 
adverse drug reactions gets reported 
he FDA. The fact that there are 
y-seven cases of convulsions report- 
neans that there are probably hun- 
is of cases.” 

fut to the FDA, these numbers ap- 
ntly do not suggest a need for any- 
ig more than superficial changes. 
rray M. Lumpkin, M.D., deputy di- 
or for review management at the 
A’s Center for Drug Evaluation and 
earch, says that the agency’s cur- 
t position “is that lindane is safe 
_effective when used as directed. 
t May [1993], we did ask our Der- 
ological Advisory Committee if this 
duct should be pulled from the 
‘ket. They voted unanimously not 
yull it.” The FDA believes that ef- 
s should focus on educating users, 
on banning lindane. 

the agency’s newest patient instruc- 
s, approved just last year, do, for the 
‘time since reports of convulsions 
aced in the 1950s, finally state un- 
ivocally that lindane can “be poi- 
ous if misused.” (However, a spot 
ck of lindane products by Ladies’ 
ne Fournal showed that not every 
jJuct was so labeled.) 

uch labeling comes too late, though, 
one family. William Carpenter, an 
uquerque, New Mexico, attorney, 
resented the family of a healthy 
--year-old who was treated for head 
in 1986 upon the recommendation 
heir physician. The child did not 
e head lice; her baby brother did, 
treatment for the whole family was 
ommended. The child used the 
npoo in the shower, followed by a 
m rinse, and suffered a seizure just 
rs after the one application. She suf- 
from brain damage and permanent 
ure disorder to this day. Experts say 
yt Shower and the use of conditioner 
ream rinse can increase the absorp- 
of lindane. 


HTING BACK 

Jane does not always cause perma- 
t harm. At least Nancy Stivers. of 
bock, Texas, hopes that will be the 


with her daughter, Jennifer. Now | 
een, Jennifer was prescribed lindane 
scabies in November 1992. “The | 


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three nights in a row. After the third ap- 
plication, Jennifer suffered seizures— 
multiple ones for several days. She and 
her mother believed they were caused by 
lindane. But they appear to have 
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It is important to note that the use of 
lindane has fallen in recent years. Many 
physicians years ago gave up using it on 
children under five, or wouldn’t dream 
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written instructions. 

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Says Lumpkin, “There are aern, 
tives for the treatment of both sabi 
and head lice. We believe that pre 
should try the safer products firs? B 
families on medicaid do not dwa 
have the option of trying the safettre; 
ment first, unless they pay for ither 
selves, because prescription drug m 
be the only medicaid-reimbuiab 
treatment; policies vary from site 
state. Robert Wardwell, director f t 
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is a piecemeal remedy, effectiv 
when families are persistent and 
enough to argue their case with o% 
who are willing to listen. 

And, says Deborah Altschuler, |re 
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ciation (NPA), it is not en@g 
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government to take some steps toma 
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how to use lindane or other treatnin 
It’s got to stop.” 


Paula Lyons, former consumer ednr 
“Good Morning America,” 1s a frear 
journalist based in Boston. 


Getting help 


For more information about sie 
treatment of head lice and scabts 
and to report outbreaks and fd 
verse reactions to lindane and ole! 
treatments, you can call the Natin 
al Pediculosis Association’s tole 
number twenty-four hours a dy 
During business hours a staff min 
ber will answer your questions. 
other times, you'll hear a recordig 
that tells how to treat scabies dd 
lice—information and warnings {et 
could have prevented the tragec8s 
detailed here. Last year Americqs 
spent $90 million on treatments Br 
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SELF- ESTEEM 


/hat makes a woman stronger, happier, more self-confident? Here, advice from 
the real experts—LHJ readers—on how to feel good about yourself 


healthy sense of self-esteem 
helps determine our success 
in life. It gives us the con- 
fidence to celebrate our 
accomplishments and the 
But 


how can we keep our esteem levels 








courage to forgive our mistakes. 


high—even when times are tough— 
and pass this quality on to our 
children? To find out, we asked 
readers to share their strategies for 
boosting self-esteem. Their top tech- 
niques can work for you, too. 


THE FEEL-GOOD FILE 
I’m a public-relations person, 
and people always expect me to 
have a positive image, but there 
are some days when I feel like 
I’m not doing anything right. So 
I keep a “smiley” file in my of- 
fice that contains sweet notes 
from my husband, cute notes 
from my kids, wonderful letters 
from my mother and thank-you 
letters from clients. Whenever I 
get something that makes me 
feel good, I drop it in the file so 
I can retrieve it when I need it. 
After rereading all these posi- 
tive letters, [ am reminded that I am 
valuable, I do have something to 
bute, and I am making a dif- 
file makes me 
t anything is possible. 
VicRae McKnight 


Columbus, Georgia 


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yourself before you can boost your 
child’s self-esteem. After my hus- 
band of nine years left, my self-es- 
teem was at an all-time low. One 
day my four-year-old daughter, 
Kristyn, said, “You know, Mom, 
Daddy doesn’t love you anymore.” 
I took a deep breath, looked her 





straight in the eye, and said, 
“That’s okay, because other peo- 
ple love me, God loves me and I 
love me.” She just smiled and con- 
tinued what she was doing. 

A few weeks later, Kristyn was 
listing all the people who loved 
her, and she ended it with, “And I 
love me.” I sat there in amazement 

nd thought about what a beautiful 


expression of love I had bestowed 
upon my daughter to carry her 

through the rest of her life. 
+ —Diane Maikranz 
Jermyn, Pennsylvania 


A SECOND CHANCE 
For years I busily did all the things 
that most people do—I was a 
wife, mother and employee. 
But at forty, I learned I had 
cancer. After my recovery, I 
discovered the value of life, 
and I now appreciate what a 
gift it is to be on this earth. I’'d 
like to pass along the follow- 
ing tips: 
@ Talk and share with people 
you trust. 
@ Live simply, save money 
and do community-service 
work. 
@ [augh at yourself when you 
do something foolish. 
@ Tell people how much you 
love them, and send them 
notes regularly. 
@ Terminate relationships 
that drag you down. 
@ Never give up. 
—Fean Neville 
Chapel Hill, North Carolina 


A MOTHER’S WISDOM 

I feel good about myself, and I 
owe it all to my mother, who lived 
to be ninety-nine years old. She 
had such confidence in herself and 
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TE 3ST IMPORTANT LESSON 
and healthy self-concept is vital 
uccessful life. I co-direct a self-es- 
. program for children in an elemen- 
y school that has yielded remarkable 
-esults. We teach the kids that: 
@ It’s important to be liked by peers and 
adults, but you should like yourself 
above all else. 
@ Individuals with high self-esteem gen- 
erally feel motivated and have a clear 
sense of direction. They always reach 
for realistic and obtainable goals. They 
continually plan daily goals and set 
long-term objectives. 
@ People with a good self-concept believe 
in their hearts that they are winners! 
Eleanor Roosevelt said it best: “The 
future belongs to those who believe in 
the beauty of their dream.” 
—fill Scharf 


Theresa, Wisconsin 


WINNING WAYS 
Improve thyself—this is the command- 
ment of self-esteem. Find a talent in 
yourself and develop it. Whether it’s 
playing tennis or writing, it may lead to 
great things. But even if we don’t play in 
the Wimbledon finals, we will have con- 
fidence in our ability and in ourselves. 
—Fean Roth 
Queens Village, New York 


THE BOOK OF LIFE 
My secret to survival has been my per- 
sonal “Book of Self-Esteem.” Go out 
and buy yourself a journal, and each 
night before going to bed, date the page 
and write down everything you did dur- 
ing the day that made you feel positive 
about yourself. If you do this every 
night, I promise you will begin to realize 
that you do have a purpose for being 
here and that no one can take that away 
from you unless you let them. 
—Cassy Slaven 
Durham, North Carolina 


TAKING CHARGE 


Self-esteem is a natural consequence of 


knowing and being true to yourself and 
making decisions based on that knowl- 
edge. Eight years ago I took an as- 
sertiveness-training course given by the 
Displaced Homemakers Program in 


Portland, Maine. I learned to let go of 
682 LADICS’ HOME JOURNAL - JUNE 1994 


destructive, passive and aggressive be- 
haviors, and open the door to the limit- 
less possibilities that exist once we learn 
to respect and honor our true selves. 
Some of things I discovered: 
@ I am the one in charge of my life. 
@ Through meditation, contemplation 
or prayer, I can identify my needs and 
wants, ideals and goals. 
@ I must love and nurture myself. 
@ Self-esteem is very much connected 
with pnysical condition. I keep my body 
healthy and at optimal physical capacity. 
@ Every day I: forgive myself (and oth- 
ers) for failure; thank God for guidance 
and blessings; credit myself for my 
achievements; thank others for the help 
they’ve given me in getting where I am 
today. And when I fall, I pick myself up 
and start all over again. 
—Lucille Wolff 
Seattle, Washington 


MOVING FORWARD 
Self-esteem equals just going for it! I 
push myself to new adventures every 
day. I am learning to ride and repair my 
newly purchased motorcycle. I’m 
launching a photography business, 
learning quilting and trying to eat 
healthfully. I may or may not succeed in 
my endeavors, but I won’t look back. 
—M. Murray 
Sarasota, Florida 


THE BEST LEGACY 
I have tried to pass along self-esteem 
to my adolescent daughter by telling 
her to accept compliments—without 
editorializing—and to learn from fail- 
ures and mistakes. When given a com- 
pliment, accept it with a simple thank 
you. Easy to say, but far more difficult 
to execute. As for failures or mistakes, 
these must be measured by the five- 
year rule. That is, if the mistake or 
failure will be of importance in five 
years, then it’s important. If not, it 
should be forgotten. 

—Candace Drimmer 

Westport, Connecticut 


THE POWER OF FAITH 

Over the years, I’ve read self-help 
books and generally done what I could 
to gain a sense of control over my life. 
However, one of the biggest steps I 
took was to go back to college and 
complete my bachelor of arts degree. 
When I went onstage to receive my 
diploma, I was filled with awe and 
pride that I had something to show—fi- 
nally—for all my hard work. 

Recently, I also found a faith and a 
church where I can join with others of 
like-minded values. I feel greatly uplift- 
ed within this community and finally 
have a sense of belonging. 

—Susanne Sande 
Chesterland, Ohio 














































ME VERSUS THEM 
I used to compare myself with oje 
constantly. I attributed all of my adn 
plishments to luck and took responbil 
ty only for my failures. But with th 
of a good friend, I learned to snap ¢ 
my old ways. 
My advice: First, don’t think dou 
yourself so much. It’s silly to conjar 
yourself with others because peopl 
special and should be different. Sec 
take the negative blinders off. Lo 
situations objectively before pa 
harsh judgment on yourself. Finally 
out and get busy. Think of others 
This will add to your self-worth, fad 
consequently, you will learn to be 
to yourself. 
—Darra A. Gol 

Randolph, New 


PICTURE PERFECT 
When my self-esteem needs a bod 
reach for my photo albums and bé 
cards and letters. A happy trip d 
Memory Lane does wonders for me 
There are the pictures of the 
shower I threw for my sister, Ba 
who finally had a child after years a 
fertility treatments and a miscarr 
photos of my daughter Erica’s 
birthday party; snapshots of the 
abandoned kittens I rescued and fe 
homes for. 
And if that doesn’t work, I put o 
favorite rock-and-roll CDs, turn up 
volume and dance. The imagi 
crowd always thinks I’m great! 
—Linda Freed 

Hamden, Conned 


MY PERSONAL JOURNEY 
For most of my thirty-five years, I 
fered from low self-esteem. I so 
others’ approval as if to validate m 
and my decisions. I thought anybo 
life was better than mine. 

At the age of thirty, I began a j 
ney of self-discovery. It was one 0 
most painful experiences I have ¢ 
been through because I didn’t like 
I saw and realized there was no on 
blame but me. 

That journey of learning and acc 
ing who I was—and acknowledg 
that I can change anything about 
self at any time—is the key to my 
piness today. I maintain a high leva 
self-esteem with the firm belief th 
have the ability to control how I 
spond to the events that happen in 
life. I say positive things to myself, 
I’ve stopped thinking, I can’t do th 
can, and I will. 

We all make our own success in 
Take responsibility and strive to 
your dreams come true. What h 
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et many people are being accused 
and judged on the basis of testimony 
that may be more make-believe 
than memory. A frightening report. 


By Andrea Gross 


he headlines were be- 
yond shocking: Cardi- 


nal Joseph Bernardin, 


of Chicago, one of 


the most prominent 
and respected leaders in the 
Catholic Church, was accused 
last November of sexually abus- 
ing a man named Steven Cook 
seventeen years earlier. ‘The basis 
of Cook’s story: a recently re- 
called “memory.” Yet, in Febru- 
ary, Cook dropped his suit 
against the cardinal. His memo- 
ries of the abuse, he said, were 
“unreliable” because they had 
surfaced only during hypnosis 


A CLIMATE 
OF FEAR 


No one denies 
that 
abuse of chil- 


sexual 





dren is 
pant. According to the National 
Child 
Abuse, in 1992 there were approxi- 


ramM- 


Committee to Prevent 
mately two hundred thousand re- 
that 


thought warranted serious investi- 


ported cases authorities 
gation. And experts say unreported 
incidents still exceed reported ones. 

But after years in which child 
abuse was ignored and denied, 
now the pendulum has apparently 





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hypnosis. But the cardi- 
nal may never complete- 
the 
scandal. 


ly recover from 
implication of 
“My life will never be 
the same because of 
this,” he has said. 


Was 


victim ol 


Bernardin the 


a modern-day 







witch-hunt? Bob Kelly, a 

North Carolia das EILEEN FRANKLIN-LIPSKER’s recovered me 
kage cetner apeiator whé convict her father, George, on a murder charge 
was convicted in a controversial swung the other way. ‘Today, peo- 
trial, has said: “In America now, ple seem willing to believe abuse 
if you want to get even with a accusations, no matter how scant 


man, all you do is 


a sex crime.” 


iccuse him of 


the evidence—and, as a result, in- 
nocent people may be going to jail 


CARDINAL JOSEPH BERNARDIN was accused of sexual abuse 
on the basis of “memories” that proved to be faulty 


mory helped 









on the basis of rumors, false mem- 
ories and public fear. 

“These cases have all the hall- 
marks of mass hysteria similar to 
that which took place at the tme of 
the Salem witch. trials,” 
Richard A. Gardner, M.D., clinical 
professor of child psychiatry at 
Columbia University College of 
Physicians and Surgeons, in New 
York City, and author of 77rue and 
False Accusations of Child 
Sex Abuse (Creative Thera- 


vinced that there 
hundreds—and perhaps 
thousands—of people who 
are in jail in the United 
States today who have 


are 


been convicted of crimes 
they never committed.” 


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As any history student 
knows, the witch trials of 
1692 Massachusetts are a dark 
chapter in America’s past. During 
a feverish few months, twenty-sev- 
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of witchcraft; all but (continued) 





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abuser 1s the 
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and fear, and the main players are 
an assortment of popular lecturers, 
authors and th Through 
their work, they encourage their 


sual 


erapists. 


audiences to look for signs of abuse 
in their past with which to justify 
their life’s problems. Their basic 
message, says Eleanor Goldstein, 
co-author of True Stories of False 
Memories (Sirs, 1993), is simple: 
“If you are unhappy, it’s not your 
fault. You are 


Were BETSY AND BOB KELLY, owners of a North 
Carolina day-care center, the victims of a rumor that 
got out of hand? 





Says an FBI agent. 









is all | Was PAUL ING 


wrongly jailed for crimes 
he didn’t commit? 


just the victim of 


of being a victim has faded, people 
who believe they were abused can 
find catharsis and sympathy when 
they go public with their 
experiences. Television 
talk shows are a typical 
forum, as are lurid con- 
fessional books. 
Comments agent 
Kenneth V. Lanning, a 
top FBI specialist on 
sexual victimization of 
children: “Are we mak- 
ing up for centuries of 
denial by now blindly 
accepting any allega- 
tion of child abuse, no 
matter how absurd or unlikely?” 


TOTAL RECALL? 

As in the Cardinal Bernardin case, 
many people are accused of abuse 
simply because the survivor has mem- 
ories of the event. 

But recent studies have shown that 
unquestioning trust 1n memories 
might not be such a good idea. Not 
only can actual recollections blur with 
time, but false ones can also be im- 
planted so subtly as to be mistaken for 
real. Young chil- 
dren are especially 
susceptible to sug- 
gestion. “The more 
often you~ ask 
young children to 
think about some- 
thing, the easier it 
becomes for them 
to make something 
up that they think 
is a memory,” says 
Stephen Ceci, Ph.D., 
professor and 
psychologist at 
Cornell University, 
in Ithaca, New York. 


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up for centuries of denial by now 


accepting any allegations of abuse?” 


growing up in an abusive family.” 
The other message being sent is 

that not much evidence is needed for a 

charge of abuse to be made. Even the 


law backs this up: The federal Child 
Abuse Prevention and Treatment Act 
requires health professionals, law- 


enforcement officials and educators to 
report suspected cases of abuse or face 


criminal penalties. It also promises the 


accusers Immunity from prosecution if 


the report proves false 


Finally, now that some of the stigma 


In one experiment, Ceci and his col- 
leagues asked children aged four to six 
about a number of events, some real 
and some imaginary. They asked one 
child, for example, if he had ever caught 
his finger in a mousetrap and been tak- 
en to the hospital. The first time the 
boy answered correctly: “No. I’ve never 
been to the hospital.” When asked the 
same question a week later, he an- 
nounced he had cried. Nine weeks and 
many questions later, the boy gave a de- 
tailed account of how his brother had 


























pushed his finger into the mousetrap. 

An adult’s memories aren’t neces- | 
sarily any more reliable. Elizabeth Lof- 
tus, Ph.D., is a psychologist at the | 
University of Washington, in Seattle, 
who is working on a book about mem- 
ories. In one of her recent experi- 
ments, five people, aged eight to| 
forty-two, were told fictitious stories 
about being lost in a mall at the age of 
five. All later developed “memories” 
of the nonevent. 

But by far the most controversial 
issue is that of “recovered memo- 
ries.” These are supposed recollec- 
tions, like Steven Cook’s, that are 
said to have been blotted out for 
years, then remembered much later 
on—usually through therapy. 

Many are 
using this new- 
found knowl- 
edge as evidence 
in trials; the first 
such criminal 
case took place 
in San Mateo 
County, Cali- 
fornia, in 1990. 
George Frank- 
lin’s twenty- 
nine-year-old 
daughter, 
Eileen Franklin- 
Lipsker, sud- 
denly remembered that she had 
seen her father molest and kill her 
eight-year-old playmate two 
decades earlier. Based largely on 
that evidence, George Franklin was 
found guilty of first-degree murder 
and sentenced to life in prison. 

Yet critics say that many of these 
memories are actually fantasies given to 
suggestible patients by the therapists 
themselves. Michael Yapko, Ph.D., is a 
family therapist in private practice in 
San Diego and author of Suggestions of 
Abuse: True and False Memories of | 
Childhood Sexual Trauma (Simon & 
Schuster, 1994). He says, “There is 
disturbing evidence that some thera- 
pists unintentionally insinuate into the 
minds of their clients memories of 
abuse that never happened.” A study 
he conducted in 1992 shows that many 
therapists are woefully ignorant when it 
comes to understanding how memory 
works. Therapy techniques such as 
hypnosis, guided imagery and any form 
of suggestive questioning, Yapko as- 
serts, can be misused to lead patients to 
believe that they were sexually abused. 

Maintaining their innocence, the 
accused are fighting back. In 1992, a 
group of families, hurt and confused 
at being accused of abuse by their 
children, along with mental-health 
professionals concerned about what 
they saw happening in (continued) 






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a, are also quick to blame when they 
-e or hear a hint of abuse in day-care fa- 
cilities. This fear has risen since 1983, 
when the founder, a co-owner and em- 
ployees of the Virginia McMartin 
Preschool, in Manhattan Beach, Califor- 
nia, were accused of abusing the children 
in the preschool. The trial—the longest 
and most expensive criminal court case 
in United States history—dragged on for 
seven years with no convictions. 

Of course, experts say, child abuse 
does happen in day-care facilities. Says 
David Finkelhor, Ph.D., co-director of 
the Family Violence Research Program 
at the University of New Hampshire, in 
Durham, and co-author of Nursery 
Crimes: Sexual Abuse in Day Care (Sage 
Publications, 1988): “We estimate that 
about five to ten children per ten thou- 
sand who were enrolled [in day care] 
were sexually molested [there].” 

But how well-founded are cases in 
which whole groups of children are said 
to be abused in a day-care center? Take 
the drama that unfolded in the Little 
Rascals Day Care center, in Edenton, 
North Carolina. In the fall of 1988, for 
reasons that have long been forgotten, 
Bob Kelly, who owned the center with 
his wife, Betsy, slapped a four-year-old 
boy. Hearing of this, the child’s mother 
began asking other parents how they felt 
about Little Rascals. In the following 
months, children attending the center 
were questioned by investigators, thera- 
pists, lawyers—and especially the terrified 
parents. Twenty-nine children accused 
the Kellys, three of their employees and 
two town residents of sexual abuse. 

At Bob Kelly’s trial, the other Little 
Rascals employees said they had never 
seen anything inappropriate taking place 
at the center. Nor had any of the par- 
ents, who often stopped by unan- 
nounced. The children themselves gave 
varying accounts of what had happened 
to them—from sodomy to being flown 
to outer space. 

In April 1992, Bob Kelly was sen- 
tenced to iwelve consecutive life terms. 
Some of the jurors confessed in an inter- 
view later that the, were not convinced 
of his gui't, but thei the anxiety and 
strain of the long process—plus pressure 


from the other jurors—forced them to 
convict him. Eight months later Dawn 
Wilson, the center’s cook, was also giv- 
en a life sentence. 

Betsy Kelly, drained from the ordeal, 
entered a no-contest plea last January. 
She received a seven-year sentence; the 
other defendants are still awaiting trial. 
Says Betsy, “This will never be over, not 
really. The mass hysteria has touched 
every part of my life. Because of it, Pve 
lost my husband, years with my child, 
my home, my livelihood. It’s destroyed 
my past and taken away my future.” 


DEMONIC DOINGS 

By far the most frightening and bizarre 
stories of child sexual abuse, however, 
are those involving rituals with occult 
overtones, performed by members of a 
supposed underground satanic conspira- 
cy. In these accounts animals are muti- 
lated, infants sacrificed and eaten, and 
women impregnated only to have fetus- 
es ripped from their bodies. Tales of rit- 
ual abuse are told by nearly 20 percent 
of adults who recover memories of 
abuse, according to the FMSF, and re- 
ports of ritual abuse are given in 13 per- 
cent of cases involving day care, says 
David Finkelhor. But the FBI’s Lanning 
is not aware of a single documented case 
of organized satanic conspiracy. 

Paul Ingram, chief civil deputy of the 
Thurston County, Washington, sheriff's 
department and a devout congregant at a 
Pentecostal church, was the last person 
one would suspect of satanic deeds. But 
in 1988, his daughters—Ericka, twenty- 
two, and Julie, eighteen—claimed he had 
molested them. They had no evidence, 
nor did Ingram remember ever having 
done so; nonetheless, he believed them. 

Over the next five months, as In- 
gram was questioned again and again 
by the police, psychologists and his 
own church pastor, he “remembered” 
more and more. His daughters went 
on to accuse Ingram and others of sa- 
tanic ritual abuse that included the 
murder of babies, forced abortion, 
stabbings and other atrocities. Again, 
there was no physical evidence of 
these deeds, but Ingram, still con- 
vinced they were right, denied noth- 
ing. Charges against the other alleged 
conspirators were dropped, but In- 
gram pleaded guilty to six counts of 
third-degree rape and was sentenced 
to twenty years in prison. 

Richard Ofshe, Ph.D., a professor of 
sociology at the University of California, 
Berkeley, who consulted on the case, 
says Ingram’s newly discovered memo- 
ries were nothing more than suggestions 
planted by his questioners through in- 
terrogation and “visualization” sessions. 
As Ofshe anticipated, once Ingram was 
no longer being told that the memories 
were true, the inconsistencies in what 


he was imagining led him to reliz 
that they were, indeed, false. 


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cover-up—there have been signs thi 


day-care worker who had been servi 
forty-seven-year sentence for allegedl» 


Nursery, in Maplewood. Michaels dim 
receive a fair trial, said the judges, beip 
of the leading manner in which the 
dren were questioned prior to the fia 
Spurred in part by the Cardinal Berns 
incident, the Illinois legislature is conde 
ing reinstating a previously repealedle 
that would prohibit adults older thanhi 
ty from filing civil suits against pq@ 
who allegedly abused them as childre, 

And PBS has aired a four-hour de 
mentary that raised serious ques 
about the charges against Bob Ke} 
Little Rascals. As a result of that 
gram, North Carolina officials hay 
ceived more than three hundred lée1 
protesting his conviction. 

Finally, the American Medical 


abuse allegations based on reco 
memories have retracted their cha 

But, cautions psychologist Elizze 
Loftus, “It is always possible th) i 
our concern over the falsely accuse) 
can make the other mistake—that 4 
fail to punish or bring to justice a } 
guilty person.” 

All in all, experts say, it’s not surri 
ing that this issue, involving de 
volatile subjects as children and sexal 
ty, should have raised such strong @¢, 
tions. What is shocking, and hearbredil 
is how difficult it is to find the witt 
and how many people—both abe, 
children and falsely accused adults-jar 
hurt when we fail to do so. | | 
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miles every day—you know the benefits of 
keeping fit. Engaging in physical activity helps 
keep you trim, healthy and more relaxed. 

But athletic involvement has some other pay- 


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is important to good 
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knowledge didn’t readily translate 
into action in her personal life. 

“I'm not a natural athlete,” says 
Perry, thirty-six. 


82 LADIES’ HOME JOURNAL JUNE 1994 


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But when her 
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chores and their children. And 
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their relationship had lost some of if 
original spark. | 
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Arlene says. “But we thought that 
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relationship,” Arlene explains. “But | 
didn’t realize how much we were 
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real family affair for the Rosses. Arlene 
and Mike cycle in 100- and 200-mile 
races, and their sons, Brian, sixteen, 
and Eric, twelve, often join them for 
twenty- or twenty-five-mile rides. 

Best of all, cycling has put the 
sizzle back in Arlene and Mike’s 
marriage ‘Before cycling, we spent 


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d love it,” Mike says. Arlene 
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lusiasm. Since then 


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things we needed to get done,” 
Arlene says. But on their bikes, 
without any distractions, they talk 
about everything from politics to 
movies. “It feels like we're dating 
says Arlene 

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But | never thought this nightmare would happen to us. 


By Laura Day Calk, as told to Deborah Bebb 


t didn’t occur to me that 
anything might be wrong 
when my five-year-old 
son didn’t answer my first 
call to supper. Everarde, 
whose nickname is E, 
often dawdled coming to 
the table, especially when we 
were at our family’s waterfront 
cabin at Lake Rabun, in 
northeastern Georgia. 

To a city kid like E 
growing up in Atlanta, 
trips to the lake were a 
chance to chase frogs, 
build pinecone forts or 
run without having to 
worry about traffic, 
and I tried to let him 
enjoy that freedom. 
But when my second 
call went unheeded, an 
icy chill passed through 
my body. 

Though it had been 
only about fifteen 
minutes since I had last 
seen him, something 
told me he was in 
trouble. And, as if an 
angel had whispered in 
my ear, I knew exactly 
where to find him. 
Bolting to the door, I 
cried, “Please, God, not the lake!” 
“Stay away from the lake” 
Aside from being fun for our 
kids—E, three-year-old Adrienne 
and nine-month-old Frederick— 
weekends at Lake Rabun were a 
chance for my husband, Tom, a 


pediatrician, to relax with the 
family. Having worked as a 
pediatric intensive-care nurse 
myself until Adrienne was born, I 
knew how important it was to get 
away from the responsibility of 
caring for critically ill children. 

On the weekend of July 31, 
1992, we decided I would take the 
kids up to the lake one afternoon 





and Tom would join us in the 
evening. It was the first time I had 
been alone at the lake house with 
the three children, and I quickly 
discovered how difficult it was to 
unload the car by myself. 

Despite my warnings to stay 
away from the water, every time I 


turned my back, Adrienne and E 
ran down to the dock. When I 
went to put on their life jackets, I 
discovered that in my rush to get 
going I had left them with the 
things Tom was to bring that 
night. So} to distract the kids, I 
suggested they help me unpack, 
offering them a soda as a reward. 

No sooner had I handed E his 
soda than he spilled it. 
“Don’t worry, Pll clean 
it up,” Heisaid; Then, 
after wiping up the spill 
with one of the baby’s 
diapers, he announced, 
“I’m going to rinse it 
out.” I told him, 
“That’s not necessary, 
E. Just hang it over the 
porch rail.” I assumed 
that was that. 

A short while later, I 
started to prepare 
supper, and E went 
outside to play. It 
didn’t occur to me then 
that this child—who 
always was very timid 
around the water— 
might go near the lake 
alone. But, when he 
didn’t answer my 
repeated calls, I 
realized that was exactly what he 
must have done. 

When I reached the dock, the 
first thing I noticed was the diaper 
at the bottom of the lake. Had E 
fallen in while trying to rinse it? 

Turning toward the sun, my 
eyes (continued on page 92) 





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continued 88) searched 
the lake. $ .y, a flash of color 
beneath er caught my eye: 
It was iiticolor shirt. Yelling 
for ! jumped into the lake 
an m toward my child. 


ugh I had seen him clearly 
, the dock, submerged in the 
‘ter, I had a hard tume finding 
nim. Frantically, I started back 
toward the dock to try to locate 
him again. My heart stopped 
when my foot touched something 
heavy in the water: I had stepped 
on Everarde. 
As I grabbed E’s soggy body 
and dragged him back to the 


shore, I tried not to think about 
how limp and dead he looked. I 
pressed my mouth against his 
cold, blue lips and began 
cardiopulmonary resuscitation 
(CPR), telling myself, “You’re a 
nurse, Laura. You can do this.” I 
concentrated only on the rhythm 
of my breaths until I heard a 
gentle voice. “Don’t give up,” he 
said. “You’re doing fine.” A 
neighbor, who I later learned was 
Lamar Fleming, M.D., head of 
orthopedics at Emory University 
Hospital, in Atlanta, had heard my 
screams. “I’m a doctor,” he said, 
kneeling to help me perform CPR. 
While no water came out of E’s 
lungs, he vomited violently as we 
worked on him, and after ten 
minutes of our pounding his tiny 
chest and forcing air into his 


lungs, he gasped a breath. 
But the crisis was far from over. 
As a nurse, I knew E might have 
suffered lung or brain damage, 
and I realized he needed 
immediate medical attention. 
Because there was no 911 service 
at the lake, even trying to call for 
help wasted precious time. When 
we finally found the telephone 
number for the nearest hospital, 
we learned the ambulance, an 
hour’s drive away, would not be 
able to navigate the narrow dirt 
roads to the lake. So, leaving the 
younger children with a neighbor, 
I bundled up E and had Dr. 
Fleming drive us to meet the 
ambulance at the main road. 
When we arrived at the 
community hospital, E was placed 
on a hand-operated (continued) 


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(The 
hospital didn’t have a respirator.) 
Hearing my child struggle for each 
breath, watching his arms and legs 
stiffen and twist from lack of oxygen 
to his brain, I remembered all the 
other drowning victims I had cared 
for in the pediatric intensive-care 
unit. Not once had I seen a child as 
ill as E recover. How could I have 
let this happen? 


(continued) breathing device. 


“it was an accident” 

I always thought of myself as a 
My 
stayed in car seats longer 


safety-conscious mother. 
children 
than any of my friends’ kids, and I 
even made them wear bicycle 
helmets when they rode tricycles. 
Yet I have to admit I had grown a 
bit complacent about safety at the 
lake. I may have been especially lax 


about E because he was the type of 
kid who was afraid of the water and 
rarely went into the lake. Foolishly, 
I had let his fear of the water lull me 
into believing he would never go 
near the water alone. 

Over and over I asked myself how 
I could expect Tom not to blame 
me for what had happened, when I 
blamed myself. But when Tom 
arrived at the hospital nearly an 
hour later, having been briefed on 
E’s condition by Dr. Fleming, who 
was waiting at our house, he didn’t 
blame me at all. Falling into his 
arms, I sobbed, “I’m so sorry,” 
“The 
important thing is you saved him. 
You did all anyone could,” he 
insisted. “It was an accident.” 

Doctors at the community 
hospital agreed with our assessment 
that without the sophisticated 
technology of a first-rate children’s 
hospital, E’s chances of survival 
were slim. Around midnight, close 
to five hours since E had fallen into 
the lake, a rescue helicopter arrived 


but 
Tom refused to listen. 



















to transfer E to Egelston Children 
Hospital at Emory University, in 
Atlanta, where he could get more 
specialized care. As soon as that ti 
chopper flew out of sight, we dro 
back to the lake for the other 

children and raced toward Atlanta 

When we got to Egelston Hospit 
I was shocked to discover how littl¢ 
my training and experience preparé 
me for having a critically ill child. 
Seeing my son lost in a sea of IVs, 
catheters and monitors, I felt as if 
heart was being mpped from my 
chest. I knew it would take a mira 
to save Everarde. 

When a person is drowning, his 
windpipe automatically claps shut 
to keep water from filling the lung 
so that even if a person has been 
under water for many minutes, he 
may not have serious lung damag' 
E had inhaled only a few teaspoo! 
of water, but the doctors believed] 
that during CPR he had inhaled / 
some of his own vomit, causing 
acute respiratory distress syndron 
(ARDS), which made it very 


ult for his lungs to take in 

gh oxygen to sustain his body. 
from the early signs, Tom and 
eved that even if E survived 
RDS, he might be severely 
-damaged. 

ould barely believe it when, 
ext morning, E’s neurologist 
ed us, “If we can save his 

, 1 think there is reason for 
ism.” I had seen too many 

its grasp onto false hope only 
ve their hearts broken. Yet I 
quiet—something told me 

nore than anything, E needed 
ope and love. 

ice his lungs were working so 
y, E had been placed in a drug- 
‘ed coma to decrease his body’s 
ind for oxygen. Still, E 

ined ashen. To keep his heart 
uately oxygenated, the pressure 
s ventilator had to be turned 
high it blew holes in his lungs, 
amon complication. Though 
oles would heal themselves in 
five times they caused one of 
ngs to collapse, each time 





inching him precariously close to 
death. Yet, each time, E fought 
back and won. 

Certain he could hear my voice, I 
read stories, sang songs, and talked 
to E for hours on end. Every night 
after his bath, I wrapped his limp 
arms around one of his stuffed toys 
and whispered, “I love you forever.” 

For three grueling weeks, it was 
touch and go. But, finally, E began 
to improve. Each day he required a 
little less oxygen until his doctors 
decided to wake him from his 
coma long enough to check his 
progress. Yet as excited as I was, I 
couldn’t help worrying, “What if E 
doesn’t wake up? What if his 
doctors were wrong?” But just 
minutes after the doctors began 
the process of reversing the coma, 
E was alert. For the first time since 
I stood on that dock, I knew he 
was going to be okay. 

Though E still wasn’t out of the 
woods, from that day on, he only 
got better. One week later, his 
doctors took him out of the coma 


permanently, and in another two 
weeks, he was home. 

After three months of physical 
therapy, he regained the strength he 
had lost while in the coma. 

While his doctors cannot explain 
how he escaped permanent brain or 
lung damage, they agree that aside 
from a few minor respiratory 
problems that he will probably 

itgrow, E is the same child he was 

fore the accident. 

As for me, I am still struggling 
with guilt over what happened. At 
times I am so overprotective I 
don’t want to let my children out 
of my sight, even to play in their 
own backyard. Yet in other ways, 
E’s accident has changed me for 
the better—when we go to the 
lake, my children wear their life 
jackets any time they are outside, 
and they are with an adult at all 
times. And having been granted 
no less than a miracle—as a 
mother and a nurse—I have 
learned that sometimes hope and 
love are stronger than anything. @ 


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HER LESSONS IN LOVE 


he song is 
called “ _ 
No Lady [she’s 
my wife],” and 
it’s one of Lyle 


Lovett’s most ironic composi- 


song 18 


She’s 


tions. Yet, when the quirky 
singer performed it recently at a 
concert in Aspen, Colorado, he 


made a point of saying that it 


Fler career ts hotter 
highest-paid female star. But these day 


success, her goal ts happiness. By 


most definitely did not apply to 
his own spouse, Julia Roberts. 
And then, tongue firmly in 
cheek, he dedicated another 
number to “my wonderful wife, 
wherever she may be.” 

Of course, she was right there 
in the audience: Julia had flown 
via Disney’s corporate jet from 
Los Angeles, where she was 
working on her latest film, the 
romantic comedy J Love Trouble 
(due out this month). Though 


she had to be back on the plane 


by seven A.M. for the next day’s 


shooting, she had willingly 
tossed a few things into an 
overnight bag and, on arrival in 
Aspen, had headed straight for 
the Wheeler Opera, where Lyle 
would perform that evening. 
The couple embraced happi- 
ly, and then Julia slouched 
down in a seat while Lyle fin- 


ished his sound check. He kept 





asking what songs she wanted 
him to sing. 

That night, the couple kissed 
backstage, and between the 


evening’s two shows, they went 


back to the motel where they 





were staying with the band. Dur- 
ing the last show, Lyle invited Ju- 
lia and John Denver onstage, 
where they sang, “I love every- 
body, but especially I love you!” 

“She’s a little tone-deaf, but 
it was sweet just the same,” 
commented one member of the 
audience. 


After the last show, the 


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Lovetts went with friends to 
the trendy Caribou Club, 
where they stayed until two 

{., holding hands, laughing 
and telling stories. Julia, look- 
ing radiant, didn’t miss an op- 
portunity to refer to Lyle as 
“my husband.” 

Hardly the picture of a couple 
whose marriage is on the rocks. 
Yet that’s been the rumor the 
Lovetts have had to contend 
with almost since their surprise 
in June 


wedding ceremony 


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fornia and the man 
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with an absurdly 

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wards say, their 
teenage son was 
washing their car, 
and some soapy 
water ran onto the 
neighbor's lawn. An 
argument erupted. 
The next day, they 
recall, the neighbor, 
a man in his sev- 
enties, painted a 
white line 
down the 4 


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middle of the drive- 
way and forbade 
the Drinkwards to 
cross it. (The neigh- 
bor declined to be 
interviewed for this 
story.) “I thought it 
was ridiculous,” 
says Ann Drink- 
ward. “I told my 
family to stay on 


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frozen entrées, Linda McCartney's 
Home Style Cooking. They debuted in 
England to rave reviews in 1991 and 
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MENU 
*Shrimp and Lobster Salad 
*Roast Pork Tenderloins 
with Prosciutto and Sage 
“Sautéed Greens with Pine Nuts 
*Golden Potato-Carrot Puree 
*Polenta Pound Cake with 
strawberries and whipped cream 
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Dressing 


3 CUD sour Cream 
4 Cup mayonnaise 


4 cup chopped fresh chives 
tablespoons chopped fresh tarragon 
tablespoons fresh lemon juice 


teaspoon Dijon mustard 
teaspoon sugar 
4 teaspoon salt 
3 teaspoon freshly gr 


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1. Prepare dressing: Whisk dressing ingredi- 


ents until well blended. (Can be made 
ahead. Cover and refrigerate up to 8 hours.) 
2. Bring large saucepan of water to boil 
over high heat. Add salt and shrimp; aK 
ust until shrimp are opaque throughout, 
minute. Rinse under cold water and = 
dry. (Can be made ahead. Cover and re- 
frigerate up to 24 hours.} 

3. Just before serving, stir shrimp, lobster 
and apple into dr essing until thoroughly 
coated. Toss endive with watercress, then 
arrange on 8 salad plates. Spoon shrimp 
mixture On fop. Garnish with tarragon and 
apple slices. Makes 8 servings. 


Per serving Daily goal 

Calories 165 2.000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 9g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat 2g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 99 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 380 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 5g 250 g or more 

Protein l6g 55gto90g 


ROAST PORK TENDERLOINS WITH 
PROSCIUTTO AND SAGE 


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entrée, you may have to ask your butcher 
to reserve pork tenderloins for you—this 
cut is so popular in some areas that it's 
hard to keep in stock 

Prep time: 20 minutes O 
Roasting time: 25 minutes 





2 tablespoons chopped fresh sage 
2 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil 

| tablespoon minced garlic 

3/4 teaspoon freshly ground pepper 
|/4 teaspoon salt 

8 ounces thinly sliced prosciutto ham 
A pork tenderloins (10-12 oz. each) 
2 tablespoons balsamic vinegar 

3/4 cup chicken broth 

Ac ional fresh herbs, for garnish 


Preheat oven to 450°F. Combine sage, 
ail garlic, pepper and salt in small bow\. 
Arrange one quarter of the prosciutto slices 
slightly overlapping on sheet of wax pa- 
per. Spread top with 11/2 teaspoons 
sage mixture; top with 1 pork tenderloin. 
ae wax paper as a guide, roll up from 
one long end to cover pork with prosciut 
to. Transfer to roasting pan. Repeat with 
remaining sage mixture, prosciutto and 
pork. (Can be made ahead. Cover and 
refrigerate up to 24 hours. Remove from 
refrigerator | hour § before roasting.] 

2. Roast pork 25 minutes or until meat 
thermometer inserted in thickest part reach- 
160°F. Transfer pork to cutting board; 
cover and keep warm. Heat juices in 
roasting pan over medium-high heat. Add 
vinegar and chicken broth and boil 
2 minutes. Strain through fine sieve. 
Makes | cup 
3. Slice pork inch thick; transfer to 
warm platter. Spoon sauce over top and 
garnish with fresh herbs. Makes 8 servings. 
Daily goal 





Per 3-ounce serving 


Calories 295 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 15g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat 4g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 117 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 666 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates g 250 g or more 

Protein 37g 55 gto 90g 


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Prep time: 25 minutes 

Cooking time: 10 to 15 minutes 

Salt 

3 pounds broccoli rabe, ‘rimmed, thick 
stems peeled (or 2 bunches broeéali, 
cut into spears) 

tablespoons pine nuts (pignoli] 

tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil 

large garlic cloves, smashed 

2 teaspoon grated lemon pee 

Freshly ground pepper 


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1. Bring 3 quarts water to boil in larg 
pot. Add 2 teaspoons salt and broccol 
rabe; cook until tender, 5 to 8 minutes 
Drain in colander. When cool enough tc 
handle, chop broccoli rabe coarsely 
(Can be made ahead. Cover and keepa 
room temperature up to 4 hours.) 

2. Toast nuts in large skillet over medium 
low heat, shaking pan occasionally, Unt 
golden brown, about 3 minutes. Set aside. 
3. Add oil and garlic to skillet. Cook ove 
medium-low heat until garlic (continued 


DINNER PARTY 
* Up to 1 month ahead: 


|. Buy nonperishable ingredients. 
2. Make and freeze polenta pound cake. 


1 day ahead: 

Buy remaining ingredients 

epee pork tenderloins refrigerate. 
Cook shrimp for salad; refrigerate. 

Set the table 


* Morning of party: 

1. Make dressing for shrimo and 
lobster salad 

Peel potatoes and carrots 

store separately in water. 

Cook and chop broccoli rabe. 
Wash greens . shrimp and 
lobster salad. 

Hull and slice strawberries for dessert. 
Defrost pound cake. 

Toast pine nuts for sautéed greens. 


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2 hours before serving: 

1. Whip cream for dessert; refrigerate 
Prepare potato-carrot puree; let stand 
at room temperature. 


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1 hour before serving: 


Remove pork from refrigerator. 


Just before serving: 
Finish shrimp and lobster salad. 
Roast pork tenderloins. 
Sauté broccoli rabe 
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masher and puree the 
carrots in a food processor 
Prep time: 25 minutes O®@ 
Cooking time: 25 to 30 minutes 








3 pounds carrots, peeled and cut into 


2-ir ch chunks (6 ups} 
1 cup milk 
3 tablespoons butter or margarine 


1. Bring 2 large saucepans of water to 
boil with 1 teaspoon salt in each. Add 
potatoes to one pan, carrots fo the other; 
return to boil, reduce heat and cook until 
tender when pierced with a fork, 20 to 
30 minutes. Drain 

2. Meanwhile, combine milk and butter in 
2-cup glass measure. Microwave on High 
2 minutes, until milk is hot and butter is 
melted 

3. Press potatoes and carrots in batches 
through ricer or food mill into large bowl 
Whisk in hot milk mixture, '/2 teaspoon 
salt and the pepper until smooth. (Can be 
made ahead. Cover and let stand up to 2 
hours. Reheat in large microwaveproof 
casserole on High 4 to 5 minutes, stirring 


every 2 minutes.) Makes 9 cups 


Per cup Daily goal 

Calories 200 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 5g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat 32 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 14 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 351 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 35g 250 g or more 

Proteir 5g 55g to 90g 


POLENTA POUND CAKE 





Cornmeal gives this dessert its distinctive 
of orange peel adds a fresh 


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whipped cream 
Prep time: 15 minutes 
Baking time: 45 minutes 





Cake 


13/4 cups all Purpose tlour 


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low cornmeal 


2 teaspoons baking powder 


'/4 teaspoon salt 

1 cup butter (no substitutions), softened 
1 cup granulated sugar 

4 large eggs, at room temperature 

1/2 cup heavy or whipping cream 

1 tablespoon grated orange peel 


1 quart strawberries, hulled and sliced 
3 tablespoons fresh orange juice 

2 tablespoons granulated sugar 

1 cup heavy or whipping cream 

1 tablespoon confectioners’ sugar 

| tablespoon dark rum 


1. Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease and 
flour 9-inch springtorm pan 

2. Prepare cake: Combine flour, cornmeal, 
baking powder and salt in medium bowl. 
Beat butter in large mixer bowl until 
creamy. Beat in sugar until light and fluffy, 
about 5 minutes. Add eggs one at a time, 
beating | minute after each addition. Beat 
in cream and orange peel. Stir in flour mix- 
ture with rubber spatula just until combined. 
3. Spoon batter into prepared pan; 
smooth top. Bake 45 minutes or until tooth- 
pick inserted in center comes out clean. 
Cool in pan on wire rack 15 minutes. Re- 
move from pan and cool completely. (Can 
be made ahead. Wrap well and freeze 
up fo 1 month, or store at room tempera- 
ture up fo 2 days ) 

4. Combine berries, juice and sugar in 
bowl: toss. (Can be made ahead. Cover 
and refrigerate up to 4 hours.) 

5. Beat cream to soft peaks; beat in con- 
fectioners’ sugar and rum. Slice cake into 
wedges and place on dessert plates. 
Serve with berries and cream. Makes 
12 servings. 


Per serving Daily goal 

Calories 445 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 29g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat 17g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 154 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 142 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 422 250 g or more 

Protein 5g 55g to 90g 


CASUAL BUFFET 
FOR A CROWD 


Everyone’s invited to our Southwest- 
style spread: This menu for eight can 


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*Pepper-Jack Empanadas 
Guacamole with tortilla chips 
*Southwest Turkey Kabobs 
“Black Bean and Jicama Salad 
*Green and Wax Bean Salad with 
toasted cumin vinaigrette 
Ice cream 
“Assorted bar cookies 
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Beer, iced tea 


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PEPPER-JACK EMPANADAS 


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Triangles of flaky phyllo filled with thre 
cheeses—you couldn't serve a more af 
pealing appetizer. 

Prep time: I hour Ox 
Baking time: 12 to 15 minutes 


1 package (3 oz.) cream cheese, 
softened 

11/2 cups shredded pepper-jack cheese 

1 cup ricotta cheese 

1/3 cup chopped fresh parsley 

1/2 cup walnuts, toasted and ground 

1 large egg, lightly beaten 

6 to 10 drops red-pepper sauce 

20 she&ts phyllo dough 


'/2 cup butter or margarine, 


melted (continued 
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CASUAL BUFFET 





¢ Up to 1 month ahead: 

1. Buy nonperishable ingredients 

2. Make and freeze unbaked 
empanadas. 

3. Make and freeze bar cookies. 


* 2 days ahead: 

1. Buy remaining ingredients. 

2. Soak and cook black beans for 
salad; refrigerate. 


* 1 day ahead: 

1. Marinate turkey for kabobs; 
refrigerate. 

2. Blanch green and wax beans; 
refrigerate 


* Morning of Bary: 

1. Make dressing tor green bean salad. 

2. Prepare vegetables for kabobs (do 
not skewer). Refrigerate separately. 

3. Defrost cookies. 

4. Set up buffet table. 


* 2 hours before serving: 

1. Assemble black bean salad. 

2. Thread turkey and vegetables 
on skewers; refrigerate. 

3. Prepare grill (do not ignite). 


* 30 minutes before serving: 
1. Bake empanadas. 
2. Arrange guacamole and chips 
on serving plates. 
3. Add dressing to green bean salad; toss. 


* When guests arrive: 


1. Ignite grill. 
2. Just eae serving, grill kabobs. 














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1, cups raspberries 
1/, cups strawberries, sliced 
1 cup blueberries 
1 baked pastry shell 
(9 inch), cooled 
¥, Cup sugar 


MIX berries in large bowl. Pour into pastry shell. 


1'/, cups water 


MIX sugar and cornstarch in medium saucepan. Gradually stir 
in water until smooth. Stirring constantly, cook on medium heat 
until mixture comes to a boil; boil 1 minute. Remove from 
heat. Stir in gelatin until dissolved. Cool to room temperature. 


Pour over berries in pastry shell. 


REFRIGERATE 3 hours. Spread whipped topping over pie 
before serving. Garnish with additional berries, if desired. 


Makes 8 servings. Prep time: 20 mins. Refrigeration time: 3 hrs. 


Note: Sugar Free JELL-O® Brand Strawberry Flavor Gelatin and 


COOL WHIP LITE® Whipped Topping can be substituted in this recipe. 


Summer Berry Pie 


3 tablespoons cornstarch 






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bite-sized pieces 

1 cup sliced Hormel’ Pepperoni 

/scup shredded Parmesan cheese 

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and toss with Caesar dressing. Serves 4. 
To make Caesar dressing, blend these 
ingredients on high until well-mixed: 
6 tablespoons olive oil 
2 tablespoons red 
wine vinegar 
1 tablespoon 
mayonnaise 
2 cloves garlic 
'hteaspoon Dijon 


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2 cookie sheets. 
2. Beat cream cheese in medium bowlt 
til smooth. Stir in pepperjack and ricoli 
parsley, walnuts, egg and pepper saul 
until evenly combined. 

3. Place one phyllo sheet on work § 
face; brush lightly with butter. Top W 
second phyllo sheet; brush with buff 
With sharp knife, cut crosswise into fi 
3-inch-wide strips. Place 1 rounded te 
spoon cheese mixture on the end of ea 
strip. Fold up around filling to form ti 
gle (flag-style). Transfer seam side doy 
to prepared cookie sheet; brush tops lig 
ly with butter. Repeat with remaining p 
lo, butter and filling. (Can be ma 
ahead. Freeze on cookie sheets. Trans 
to freezerproof plastic bags and store 
to 1 month.) ) 
4. Bake 12 to 15 minutes, 20 to 25 m 
utes if frozen, until pale golden. Sen 
warm. Makes 50. | 


Per appetizer Daily goal 

Calories * 75 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 6g 60 gor less (F); 70g or less i 
Saturated fat 3g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less( 
Cholesterol 17 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 82 mg 2,400 mg or less 
Carbohydrates 4g 250 g or more 

Protein 2g 55g to 90g 
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Budget recipe of the month /| 
will become your favorite recipe for su 
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breast are perfect for grilling, and & 
cause they're skinless, the flavor of fi 
marinade really comes through. 

Prep time: 30 minutes plus marinating V' 
Grilling time: 20 minutes 


Marinade 

2 tablespoons fresh lemon juice 

] teaspoon salt 

] teaspoon minced garlic 

/2 teaspoon crushed red pepper 

/4 cup olive oil 

4 cup chopped fresh oregano (or 

1 teaspoon dried plus '/4 cup 
chopped fresh parsley) 


3 pounds boneless, skinless turkey breas| 
2 large or 3 small yellow peppers, cut 


into 1'1/2-inch cubes 

4 medium red onions, cut into ]!/2-inch 
cubes 

11/2 pounds zucchini, cut into 3/4-inch 
slices 


Salt 


1. Make marinade: Whisk lemon juice, s¢ 
garlic and crushed red pepper in larg 
bow!; gradually whisk in oil. Stir in oregan 
2. Cut turkey into 1!/2inch chunks, discar 
ing any tough membrane. Add to marinad 
tossing to coat. Cover and refrigerate 
least 4 hours. (Can be made ahead. Cov 
and refrigerate up to 24 hours.) 

3. Prepare grill. Thread turkey alternate 
with vegetables on 8 skewers; sprinkle w 









pill over mediurrhot coals, turning oc: 
Haally, 20 minules or unlil turkey is 
Wd through. Makes 8 servings 





Daily goal 


275 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 
5g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
fat lg 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
1 106 mg 300 mg or less 
232 mg 2,400 mg or less 
4 ates 12g 250 g or more 
452 55g to 90g 





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} ng time: 50 to 70 minutes 


ind dried black beans 

| sp fresh lime juice 

lespoon salt 

} aspoon freshly ground pepper 

I Jp olive oil 

Hos finely diced jicama (3 Ib.) 

1 je red pepper, diced fine 

| ckage (10 oz.) frozen whole-kerne! 
| corn, thawed 

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ak beans in water to cover by 2 
2s in large saucepan overnight. 
1; cover with © cups fresh water 
b to boil, reduce heat and simmer cov- 
AO to 60 minutes, until tender. Drain 
be made ahead. Cover and refriger- 
p to 2 days.) 
Vhisk lime juice, salt and pepper in 
large bowl. Gradually whisk in oil 
beans, jicama, red pepper, corn and 
itro; toss to coat. [Can be made 
eid. Cover and refrigerate up to 2 
3.) Makes 11 cups. 


pup Daily goal 

130 2.000 (F), 2.500 (M) 

3g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
1d fat Og 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
2rol 0 mg 300 mg or less 

305 mg 2,400 mg or less 

drates 22g 250 g or more 

6g 55gto90¢g 


-EN AND WAX BEAN SALAD 


test recipe of the month [cos 
the cumin seeds for the vinaigrette 
s this tasty, colorful bean salad its sub- 
flavor. 

time: 15 minutes O 
king time: 3 minutes 





t pounds green beans, trimmed 

1 pounds wax beans, trimmed 
aspoons cumin seeds 

iblespoons fresh lime juice or cider 
negar 

teaspoon freshly ground pepper 
blespoons olive oil 


ring 4 quarts water to boil in large 
“epan. Add | tablespoon salt. Add 
2n beans and wax beans; return to 
and cook until tender-crisp, 3 minutes 
n and rinse under cold water. Pat dry 
1 be done ahead. Refrigerate in plas- 


tic bag up to 24 hours.) 

2. Toas! cumin seeds in small saucepan 
over medium-low heat until fragrant, about 
2 minutes. Whisk lime juice with 1 tea- 
spoon salt and the pepper in small bow/: 
whisk in oil. Add cumin. (Can be made 
ahead. Cover and refrigerate up to 6 
hours.) Place beans in serving bowl: toss 
with dressing. Makes 8 servings 


Per serving Daily goal 

Calories 70 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 4g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat Og 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol! Omg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 420 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 10g 250 g or more 

Protein 22 55g to90¢ 


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FAMILY BARBECUE 


The freshest summer flavors, the sizzle 
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*Mint Bruschetta 
*Double Tomato Jam 
*Grilled Chicken Drumsticks 
and Assorted Sausages 
“Spicy Ginger-Lime Sauce 
*Broccoli-Cabbage Slaw 
*Green-Pea and Red-Potato Salad 
*Peach and Sweet Cherry Cobbler 
with vanilla ice cream 
Beer, lemonade 











*Recipe given 


MINT BRUSCHETTA 





Bread spread with fresh mint? Honest— 
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Prep time: 15 minutes O 
Grilling time: ] to 2 minutes 


/2 cup firmly packed mint leaves, 
chopped fine 

6 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil 

] teaspoon minced garlic 

Pinch salt 

Pinch freshly ground pepper 

2 loaves peasant bread or Italian bread 
(8 oz. each}, cut into 3/4-inch slices 


1. Prepare grill or preheat broiler. Com- 
bine mint, oil, garlic, salt and pepper in 
small bowl. (Can be made ahead. Cover 
and refrigerate up to 2 hours.} 

2. Grill or toast bread 30 to 60 seconds 
per side, until golden brown. Brush one 
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-ories 
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surated fat 


Daily goal 
60 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M 
3g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M 
5g 20 gor less (F); 23 g or less (M) 






2. Combine sun-dried tomatoes and boil 
ing water in small bowl: let stand 5 min- 
utes. Meanwhile, heat oil in large skillet 
over medium-high heat. Add shallots and 
cook until golden, 2 minutes. Stir in garlic 
ana ginger; cook 30 seconds. Add plum 
and sun-dried tomatoes with their liquid: 
cook, stirring, until thickened and most of 


1) 


onions and ginger. Makes |'/2 cups. 

Per tablespoon Daily goal 

Calories 25 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 28 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat Og 20 g or less (F}; 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol Omg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 206 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates lg 250 g or more 

Protein Og 55 gto 90g 









lesterol Omg 300 mg or less 
jium 87 mg 2,400 mg or less 
“bohydrates 7g 250 g or more 
tein lg 55g tog 
-OUBLE TOMATO JAM 


vo kinds of tomato—fresh and dried— 
te cooked together in this colorful 
ead. It also makes a terrific hostess gif. 
-ep time: 20 minutes plus cooling SO 
goking time: 25 to 30 minutes 


2 plum tomatoes (about 2 Ib.) 

'4 cup ('/2 oz.) chopped sun-dried 
tomatoes 

'2 cup boiling water 

tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil 

cup thinly sliced a 

teaspoons minced garlic 

teaspoons grated fresh ginger 

tablespoons balsamic vinegar 

tablespoon packed brown sugar 

2 teaspoon salt 

4 teaspoon freshly ground pepper 







Prepare grill or preheat broiler. Grill 

»ym tomatoes 3 inches from heat source, 
ming occasionally, until skin is black- 
red, about 2 minutes per side. Cool 
ghtly and coarsely chop. 


SCHEDULE 


BARBECUE 
| Aileen aga 


. Buy nonperishable ingredients 


'» 3 days ahead: 
. Buy ingredients for tomato jam 
and peaches for cobbler 

2. Make tomato jam; refrigerate 


'» 1 day ahead: 
1 |. Buy remaining ingredients. 

2. Make dressing for slaw. 

3. Make potato salad; refrigerate 
I\'4. Pit cherries for cobbler; refrigerate 


|» 4 hours before serving: 
1. Make slaw; refrigerate. 
2. Make gingerlime sauce. 






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|» 2 hours before serving: 

| |. Finish cobbler. 

2. Make mint spread for bruschetta 

3. Parboil sausages 

4. Slice bread for bruschetta; wrap wel 
|. Prepare grill (do not ignite} 


eS eee 


'» 30 minutes before serving: 

} |. Remove chicken, sausages, potato 

| salad and tomato jam from retrigerator 
2. Ignite grill. 





«» When guests arrive: 
. Grill bread. Arrange on platter 

with mint spread and tomato jam 
2. Grill chicken and sausages. 


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tne liquid is evaporated, 20 to 25 

= sugar, salt and pep 
minute more. Transfer to 
medium bowl and cool. 


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per; cook 


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{Can be made 


ahead. Cover and refrigerate up to 3 
days.) Serve with bruschetta, chicken and 





sausages. Makes 3 cups 

Per tablespoon Daily goa 

Calories 15 2,000 (F)}, 2,500 (M) 

Total fat lg 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat Og 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol! Omg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 25 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 2g 250 g or more 

Protein Og 55g to 90g 


GRILLED CHICKEN DRUMSTICKS 
AND ASSORTED SAUSAGES 





This mixed grill has something for every- 
one, including the kids. Forget the ketchup 
and try some Double Tomato Jam 


Prep time: 20 minutes 


oO 


Grilling time: 25 to 30 minutes 


4 pounds (about 20) assorted sausages 


(such as hot or sweet Italian, 


chicken, turkey, Bratwurst or veal) 
4 pounds (16-20) chicken drumsticks 
Salt and freshly ground pepper 


1. Prepare grill. 

2. Prick uncooked sausages all over with 
fork. Place in large Dutch oven with water 
to cover. Bring just to boil; reduce heat 
and simmer gently 10 minutes. Drain. 
(Can be made ahead. Cover and refriger- 
ate up to 2 hours.) 

3. Sprinkle chicken with salt and pepper. 
Grill chicken over medium coals 25 to 30 
minutes, until juices run clear. Grill 
sausages, turning frequently, 5 to 10 min- 
utes, until browned. Makes 10 servings. 


Per serving Daily goal 

Calories 545 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 36g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat 12g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 184 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 1,247 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates lg 250 g or more 

Protein 52g 55g to90g 


SPICY GINGER-LIME SAUCE 


il a eth chad 
The vibrant Asian flavors of the delicious 
dipping sauce are a perfect match for 
both chicken and sausages. 

Total prep time: 10 minutes O 


'/2 cup reduced-sodium soy sauce 
4 Cup rice wine vinegar 
'/4 cup Asian sesame oil 
2 tablespoons grated lime peel 
2 tablespoons ae lime juice 
] teaspoon red-pepper sauce 
1/2 cup chopped green onions 
4 cup grated fresh ginger 
Whisk soy sauce, rice vinegar, sesame 
oil, lime peel and juice, and pepper 
sauce in medium bowl. Stir in green 


BROCCOLI-CABBAGE SLAW 


Shredded broccoli stems sold in the pro 
duce section give coleslaw a new twist. 
Total prep time: 10 minutes 





Dressing 
3 tablespoons white wine vinegar 
] teaspoon sugar 
] teaspoon Dijon mustard 
'/2 teaspoon salt 
'/a teaspoon freshly ground pepper 
6 tablespoons olive oil 


1 package (16 oz.) broccoli coleslaw (or 
6 cups julienned broccoli stems) 

3 cups shredded green or red cabbage 
(or half of one 16-0z. package) 


1. Make dressing: Whisk vinegar with 
sugar, mustard, salt and pepper in large 
bowl: whisk in oil. (Can be made ahead. 
Cover and let stand at room temperature 
up to 24 hours.) 

2. Add broccoli slaw and cabbage; toss 
to coat. (Can be made ahead. Cover and 
refrigerate up to 4 hours.) Makes 9 cups. 


Per 3/4 cup Daily goa 
Calories 75 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 


Total fat 7g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat lg 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol Omg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 117 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 4g 250 g or more 

Protein lg 55g to 90g 


GREEN-PEA AND RED-POTATO 
SALAD 


No summer spread would be complete 
without a great potato salad. This one’s 
soothing, creamy and flavored with dill. 
Prep time: 15 minutes O 
Cooking time: 20 to 30 minutes 





] tablespoon salt 
5 pounds small red potatoes, cut into 
11/2inch chunks 


ve 
/4 Cup mayonnaise 
/2 cup buttermilk 
3 cup chopped fresh dill (or 
] tablespoon dried plus 
chopped fresh parsley) 
2 tablespoons Dijon mustard 
2 tablespoons fresh lemon juice 
4 teaspoon salt 
‘4 teaspoon freshly ground pepper 


1/4 cup 


2 cups diced celery 
1 package (10 oz.) frozen peas, thawed 
2 cup chopped green onions 





1. Bring large saucepot of water to boil. 

Add salt and potatoes and return to boil; 

boil until tender, 12 to 15 minutes. Drain 

in colander 15 minutes. 

2. Make dressing: Whisk ingredients in 

very large bowl until blended. 

3. Stir warm potatoes into (continued) 
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onions. (Can be made ahead. Cover « 
refrigerate up to 24 hours.) Makes 14 cu 


Per '/2 cup Daily goal 

Calories 120 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat Sg 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less 
Saturated fat lg 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less 
Cholesterol 4mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 233 mg 2,400 mg or less 
Carbohydrates 17g 250 g or more 

Protein 2g 55gto90g 


PEACH AND SWEET CHERRY 
COBBLER 


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Test-kitchen favorite [he quintesser 
June dessert: peaches and sweet cher 
baked together under a biscuit topping. 
Prep time: 30 minutes 

Baking time: 20 minutes 


6 cups peeled, sliced peaches (3'/2 lb 
4 cups pitted sweet cherries (2 |b.) 

3/4 Cup sugar 

'/4 cup cornstarch 

3 tablespoons fresh lemon juice 


Biscuit Jopping 
2 cps all-purpose flour 
'/3 cup plus 2 tablespoons sugar 
2 /2 teaspoons baking powder 
'/2 teaspoon salt 
'/2 cup butter or margarine, cut up 
3/4 cup plus 2 tablespoons heavy crec 
'/4 teaspoon cinnamon 


Vanilla ice cream [optional] 


1. Preheat oven to 425°F. Grease 13: 
inch glass or ceramic baking dish. 

2. Combine peaches, cherries, sugar a 
cornstarch in large saucepan. Bring 
boil, stirring gently, over high heat; boi 
minute. Remove from heat; stir in lem 
juice. Spoon into prepared pan. 

3. Make topping: Combine flour, 1/3 ¢ 
sugar, the baking powder and salt in lar 
bowl. With pastry blender or 2 knives, | 
in butter until mixture resembles coai 
crumbs. Stir in 3/4 cup cream. Knead 2 
3 times, just until dough holds together. ¢ 
floured surface with floured rolling pin, | 
dough !/2 inch thick. Cut with 2!/2 or 
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scraps. Place biscuits over fruit. 

4. Combine remaining 2 tablespoons ec 
sugar and cream and the cinnamon in cu 
brush over biscuits. Bake 20 minutes or u 
fruit is bubbly. Let stand 10 minutes. (C 
be made ahead. let stand up to 2 hou 
Serve with ice cream. Makes 10 servings 
Per serving without ice cream Daily goal 


Calories 465 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 18g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less ( 
Saturated fat llg 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less ( 
Cholesterol 53 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 334 mg 2,400 mg or less 
Carbohydrates 74g 250 g or more 

Protein 5¢g 55gto90g 


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2!/2x1!/zinch bars. Makes 30 

Per cookie Daily goal 

Calories 2.000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 


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2.400 me or less 
250 g or more 
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Prep time: 20 minutes Ox*/ 


Baking time: 30 10 35 minutes 





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1. Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease 
13x9-inch baking pan 
2. Combine flour and salt in medium 
bowl. Beat butter with confectioners’ 
sugar in large mixer bowl until light and 
fufy Beat in egg. At low speed, gradu- 
ally beat in flour mixture until blended. 
Stir in coconut and lemon peel. Spread 
in prepared pan. Bake 30 to 35 min- 
utes until deep, golden brown 
3. Make lemon glaze: Immediately stir 
confectioners’ sugar and lemon juice in 
medium bowl until smooth. 
4. Spread glaze over warm cookies. 
Sprinkle with coconut. Cool completely. 
Cut into 2-inch triangles. Makes 4 dozen. 


Per cookie Daily goal 
Calories 90 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 


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Total fat 5g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat 3g 20 g or less (F), 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 15 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 69 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 12g 250 g or more 

Protein lg 55g to 90g 
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BROWNIES 





Brownies will never be the same! Dried 
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Prep time: 20 minutes O@ */ 


Baking time: 30 to 33 minutes 





4 cup butter or margarine, cut up 
4 squares (4 oz.} unsweetened 
chocolate, coarsely chopped 
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2 cups firmly packed brown sugar 
2 teaspoons vanilla extract 
1 cup all-purpose flour 
2 teaspoon salt 
: cup hazelnuts, toasted, skinned and 
chopped 
4 cup dried cherries, chopped 
i Cup semisweet chocolate chips 


1. Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease 
13x9-inch baking pan. 

2. Combine butter and chocolate in mi- 
crowaveproof bowl. Microwave on 
Medium (50%) 2 to 21/2 minutes, stir- 
ring after 2 minutes, until melted. Cool. 
3. Beat eggs and sugor in large mixer 
bow! at medium-high speed until light 
and ribbon forms when beaters are lift 
ed, 5 to 8 minutes. Beat in vanilla. At 
low speed, beat in chocolate mixture. 
Stir in flour and salt until blended. Stir in 
nuts and cherries. Spoon into prepared 
pan. Sprinkle chocolate chips on top. 

4. Bake 30 to 33 minutes, until barely 
set in center. Cool. Cut into 2! /4x2-inch 
bars. Makes 2 dozen. 





Per cookie Daily goal 

Calories 235 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 13g 60 gor less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat 6g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 51 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 123 mg 2,400 mg or less 
Carbohydrates 30g 250 g or more 

Protein 3g 55 gto 90g 

FIGGY BARS 


SS 
These aré}the ultimate grown-up fig 
cookies. They keep well, so you can 
wrap them individually and grab one 
whenever you need a pick-me-up. 

Prep time: 35 to 40 minutes plus chilling 





Baking time: 30 minutes @xtiv 
Filling 
] pound dried figs, trimmed and 


halved 
2 cups water 
2 teaspoons vanilla extract 





2!/2 cups all-purpose flour 

1!/2 teaspoons baking powder 

| teaspoon cinnamon 

'/2 teaspoon salt 

'/2 cup butter or margarine, softened 
] cup sugar 

2 large eggs 


1. Make filling: Combine figs and water 
in medium saucepan. Bring to boil, re- 
duce heat and simmer uncovered, stirring 
occasionally, until water is absorbed and 
tigs are tender, 25 minutes. Cool 10 
minutes. Puree in food processor until 
smooth. Add vanilla; pulse to combine. 
2. Combine flour, baking powder, cinna- 
mon and salt in bowl. Beat butter and sug: 
ar in large mixer bowl until light and fluffy. 
Add eggs one at a time, beating well af 
ter each addition. At low speed, beat in 
flour mixture. Shape dough into ball. 
Wrap and refrigerate 1 hour. 

3. Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease 
13x9-inch baking pan. On lightly 
tloured wax paper with floured rolling 
pin, roll half the dough into 13x9-inch 
rectangle. Drape over rolling pin and 
transter to prepared pan. Press to patch 
any tears. Spread fig filling evenly on 
top. Roll remaining dough into 13x9- 
inch rectangle. Prick with fork and ar 
range on top, patching as necessary. 

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These bars will play a perfect duet with 
2550 or tea 


Prep time: 20 minutes plus chilling @#F1 
Baking time: 45 to 53 minutes 

2!/a cups all-purpose flour 

'/a cup sugar 

1/8 teaspoon salt 

'/2 cup cold butter or margarine, cut up 
'/a cup vegetable shortening 


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6 to 7 tablespoons ice water 


] cup cherry or other preserves, pureed 


Frangipane Topping 
] cup sugar 
1 can or tube (7 or 8 oz.) almond 
paste, cut up 
/2 Cup butter or margarine, softened 
4 large eggs 
'/2 cup all-purpose flour 
4 teaspoon salt 
1 teaspoon vanilla extract 
teaspoon almond extract 


1. Preheat oven to 400°F. Grease 

151/2x101/zinch jelly-roll pan 

2. Combine flour, sugar and salt in 

arge bowl. With pastry blender or 2 
25, cut in butter and shortening until 


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3. On lightly floured surface or pastry 
cloth, roll dough to 17x12-inch rectangle. 
Fit into prepared pan, trimming so dough 
comes !/2 inch up sides of pan. Bake until 
lightly browned, 15 to 18 minutes. Cool. 
Reduce oven temperature to 350°F. 

4. Spread preserves evenly over cooled 
crust. 

5. Make frangipane topping: Beat sug- 
ar, almond paste and butter in large mix- 
er bowl until light and fluffy. Add eggs 
one ata time, beating well after each 
addition. Beat in flour, salt, and vanilla 
and almond extracts. 

6. Spread topping over cherry layer. 
Bake 30 to 35 minutes, until browned. 
Cool. Cut into 3x1-inch bars. Makes 50. 


Per cookie Daily goal 

Calories 130 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 

Total fat 62 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat 3g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 27 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 62 mg 2,400 mg or less 

Carbohydrates 16g 250 g or more 

Protein 2g 55g 10 90g 


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GINGER CRISPS 


A must for ginger lovers: thin, crisp 
cookies with a dainty brush of frosting. 
Prep time: 20 minutes plus cooling O71 
Baking time: 35 to 40 minutes 





2!/4 cups all-purpose flour 

1/2 cup firmly packed brown sugar 

2 teaspoons ginger 

/2 teaspoon salt 

1 cup butter (no substitutions), softened, 
cut up 

/3 cup finely chopped crystallized 
(candied) ginger 


Lemon Glaze 
1'72 to 2 tablespoons milk 
'/2 teaspoon grated lemon peel 
| cup confectioners’ sugar, sifted 


1. Preheat oven to 350°F. Grease 
1 3x9-inch baking pan 

2. Combine flour, sugar, ginger and salt 
in large bowl. With pastry blender or 2 


knives, cut in butter until mixture resembles 
fine crumbs. Stir in crystallized ginger. 
Press evenly into prepared pan. Bake 35 
to 40 minutes, until browned. Cool. 

3. Make lemon glaze: Stir milk and 
lemon peel into confectioners’ sugar in 
medium bowl, until smooth. 

4. Spread glaze evenly over cooled 
bars. Let stand 1 hour. Cut into 21/ax2- 
inch diamonds. Makes 2 dozen. 


Per cookie Daily goal 
Calories 165 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 





Total fat 8g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 
Saturated fat 5g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Cholesterol 21 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 129 mg 2,400 mg or less 
Carbohydrates 27g 250 g or more 

Protein lg 55g to 90g 
BLUEBERRY-LEMON 

CRUMB BARS 


SS 
Fresh berries snuggled under a crumb 
top give these treats a sensational sum- 
mertime taste. 

Prep time: 20 minutes O*/ 
Baking time: 32 to 40 minutes 





2 cups all-purpose flour 

2 tablespoofs granulated sugar 

2 teaspoons grated lemon peel 

Pinch salt 

'/2 cup cold butter or margarine, cut up 


1 large egg 
| teaspoon vanilla extract 





Crumb Topping 
5 tablespoons butter, softened 
1/2 cup firmly packed brown sugar 
3/4 cup all-purpose flour 


2 cups fresh blueberries 
'/4 cup granulated sugar 
'/8 teaspoon nutmeg 
Confectioners’ sugar 


1. Preheat oven to 400°F. Grease 
13x9-inch baking pan. 

2. Combine flour, granulated sugar, 
lemon peel and salt in food processor; 
pulse. With machine on, add butter 
through feed tube. Whisk egg with 
vanilla in bowl; with machine on, add 
through feed tube until combined. (Mix- 
ture will be crumbly.) Press evenly into 
prepared pan. Bake 12 to 15 minutes, 
until golden. (Crust will crack.) Cool. 

3. Make crumb topping: Meanwhile, 
stir butter and brown sugar in medium 
bowl until smooth. Stir in flour. 

4. Sprinkle blueberries over baked crust. 
Combine sugar and nutmeg in cup and 
sprinkle over berries. Crumble on top- 
ping. Bake 20 to 25 minutes, until 
browned. Cool. Sprinkle with confec- 
tioners’ sugar. Cut into 2)/4x2-inch 
bars. Makes 2 dozen. 


Per cookie Daily goal 
Calories 145 2,000 (F), 2,500 (M) 
Total fat 7g 60 g or less (F); 70 g or less (M) 


Saturated fat 4g 20 g or less (F); 23 g or less (M) 
Choiesterol 26 mg 300 mg or less 

Sodium 74 mg 2,400 mg or less 
Carbohydrates 20g 250 g or more 

Protein 2g 55g to 90g 


Excerpted from A TO Z BAR COOKIES. Copyright © 
1994 by Marie Simmons. Published by Chapters Pub- 
lishing Ltd., September 1994. 





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Chef Gray Kunz creates 
the most innovative food 
today at the four-star 
restaurant Lespinasse 


This spring, Lespinasse, the luxurious 
restaurant at Manhattan's St. Regis 
Hotel, was awarded the highest rat 
ing by The New York Times. What 
makes it so extraordinary? The 
cross-cultural specialties of Chef 
Gray Kunz, who combines unusual 
spices and seasonings from around 
the world with traditional French cui- 
sine. Kunz's recipe for chilled cu- 
cumber soup is an example of his 
signature style. 


CHILLED CUCUMBER SOUP, 
COUSCOUS AND MINT 


Prep time: 70 minutes plus chilling 





4 cucumbers. peeled 


; seeded and cut up 
heavy or whipping cream 


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11/4 teaspoons salt 

1/4 teaspoon freshly 
ground pepper 

Pinch sugar 

| teaspoon anise seeds 

1 teaspoon fennel seeds 


Couscous 
1!/2 cups water 
| cup couscous 
4 tablespoons extra- 
virgin olive oil 
3/4 teaspoon salt 
/3 cup minced roasted 
red pepper 
1/4 cup diced plum 
tomato 
2 tablespoons minced 
shallots 
2 tablespoons julienned 
fresh mint leaves 
2 tablespoons fresh 
lemon juice 
] teaspoon each 
minced flatleaf 
parsley, chives and 
chervil 
'/4 teaspoon freshly 
ground pepper 
Pinch ground red pepper 


Garnishes 
Finely diced cucumber, julienned 
radishes, julienned fresh 
mint, chopped fresh basil, 
chervil sprigs, celery leaves 


with 
Transfer to 


1. Puree cucumbers 
cream in blender 
bowl; stir in yogurt, creme 
fraiche, salt, pepper and sugar. Crush 
anise and fennel seeds together in mortar; 
add |/4 teaspoon crushed seeds to cu- 
cumbers (reserve remaining for garnish]. 
Press cucumbers through fine sieve. Refrig- 
erate at least 2 hours 

2. Make couscous: Bring water to boil in 
medium saucepan. Stir in couscous, | ta- 
blespoon oil and the salt. Cover and let 
stand 5 minutes. Fluff couscous with fork: 
cool. Transfer to large bowl. Toss with re- 
maining oil and ingredients 

3. For each serving, pack about |/3 cup 
couscous info small mold or custard cup; 
invert in soup plate. (Refrigerate any re- 
maining couscous.) Ladle soup into plate 
around couscous. Sift remaining anise and 
fennel on top. Sprinkle with garnishes. 
Makes 6 servings. 


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Folic-acid 
UPDATE 


ew studies show that 
folic acid not only 
helps prevent birth 
defects known as 
neural tube disorders but may 
also help prevent both heart 
disease and cancer. 
Researchers at the University 
of Alabama, in Birmingham, 
have found that folic acid, a 
B vitamin, can help prevent 
some of the damage to lung 
tissué caused by smoking as 
well as protect cervical tissue 
from forming abnormal cells 
that can lead to cancer. 
Studies from Harvard 
Medical School and from the 
Framingham (Massachusetts) 
Heart Study have found that 
low levels of folic acid in the 
diet may indirectly contribute 
to the risk of heart attack. Folic 
acid helps break down the 
chemical homocysteine; high 
levels of homocysteine 
in the blood plus low 
levels of folic acid in 
the diet can triple the 
risk of heart attack. 
Experts now urge 
women of child-bearing age to 
ingest at least 400 micrograms 
(mcg) of folic acid a day. 
Below, foods rich in folic acid. 


Food Mceg folic acid 
Spinach, 1 cup cooked:-....-. 262 
Lentils, !/2 cup cooked......... 179 
Avocado, 1 whole................ 162 


Lima beans, | cup cooked ...156 
Pinto beans, !/2 cup cooked...147 
Chickpeas, !/2 cup cooked ...141 
Okra, 1/2 cup cooked. s.24....: 134 
Asparagus, !/2 cup cooked ...132 
Black beans, !/2 cup cooked ...128 

—MAUREEN CALLAHAN 


Source: BOWES & CHURCH'S FOOD VALUES OF 
PORTIONS COMMONLY USED: 16TH EDITION. 


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brush on chicken during last 15 minutes of cooking time. Mak 


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FISH : DOES YOUR CANNED TUNA LOOK 


DIFFERENT? IT’S THE “DOLPHIN SAFE” POLICY 


anned tuna has been 
the most popular 
fish in American 
households since the 
1950s. Nearly 
billion pounds are consumed 
each year. But recently you 
may have noticed some 
changes on the labels and in- 
side the cans. Light-meat 
tuna is increasingly being la- 
beled dolphin-safe, which 
means that fishermen are 
complying with the new fed- 
eral law requiring that tuna 
nets be set so that no 
dolphins are caught 
along with the tuna. 

So what does this 
mean for tuna con- 
sumers? Darker light- 
meat tuna. This is 
because yellowfin, 
very light-colored 
species of tuna, swims 
where there are dol- 
phins. Yellowfin is be- 
ing partially replaced 
by skipjack, a species 
that is slightly darker 
but offers the same fla- 
vor. Light-meat tuna 1s 
available as Solid Light 
or Chunk Light. 

Albacore is the only 
species of tuna that 
can be labeled as white 
meat. (The dolphin-safe pol- 
icy does not affect albacore 
tuna because albacore is 
caught with poles, not nets.) 
It’s more expensive than 
light-meat tuna because 
there are fewer albacore than 
other species. White-meat 
tuna has a milder flavor and 


one 


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a creamy white color. It’s 
canned as Solid White or 
Chunk White. 

All varieties are available 
packed in oil or water. Oil- 
packed tuna generally contains 
polyunsaturated vegetable oil, 
though some brands are start- 
ing to pack tuna in canola and 
olive oils. Water-packed tuna 
accounts for 80 percent of tuna 
sales. A 3-ounce can of water- 
packed tuna contains about 
100 calories; the same amount 
of oil-packed tuna contains 


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calories drained. 

Regardless of what type 
you prefer, tuna is a high- 
protein food. It’s also rich in 
omega-3 fatty acids, which 
have been linked to lowering 
the risk of heart disease. 

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is darkest in color for the variety 


you're buying. The stems should be 


tresh and green in color. If stems are 
dry and shriveled, the fruit is not fresh; 
without stems, cherries don’t keep 
well. Cherries are highly perishable 
and should be used as soon as possi- 
ble atter purchasing. Refrigerate them 
in loose plastic wrap and eat within o 
day or two. At less than five calories 
cherry, you can enjoy a bowltu 
Cherries are also a good source of 


tiber, potassium and vitamin C. To en- 
a tbat: Ayil| io lc ~ freez ach 
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cherries in plastic treezer bags for up to 


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THE FAMOUS LIPTON 
CALIFORNIA DIP 


1 envelope Lipton Recipe Secrets’ Onion 
Soup Mix 

1 container (16 0z.) sour cream 
In small bowl, blend all ingredients; chill 
Makes about 2 cups dip 
For a creamier dip, add more sour cream 
Try these delicious variations 
* CALIFORNIA SEAFOOD DIP: Add 1 cup 
finely chopped cooked clams, crabmeat or 


shrimp, % cup chili sauce and 1 tablespoon 
horseradish 


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i fere is a listing of recipes ap- 
“4 earing in this issue, includ- 
ig those from the Journal 
‘\itchen and advertisements. 
, |} dvertisers’ recipes appear in 
") pldface. Recipes marked 
} jth an asterisk include 
icrowave instructions 
| PPETIZERS 
| ie Famous Lipton California 
Dip p. 140 
pf) int Bruschetta p. 125 
Fgh spper-Jack Empanadas 
Ce p. 120 
‘wip apperoni Caesar Salad p. 124 
al) arimp and Lobster Salad 
‘oh |p. 122 
| ESSERTS 
| lUeberry-Lemon Crumb 
Bars p. 134 








Pie p. 133 
sf} Thocolate-Cherry Brownies 
p. 132 
Ch gey Bars p. 132 
NH ourless Chocolate Cake 
Hp. 141 
‘ly nger Crisps p. 134 
mon Love Notes p. 132 
rach and Sweet Cherry 
|| Cobbler p. 128 

jlenta Pound Cake p. 125 
immer Berry Pie p. 123 
isan’s Frangipane Bars 
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Tropical Crunct 

ENTREES 

Great Plains Kabobs p. 138 

Grilled Chick rumsticks 
and Assorted Sa 


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Jding public hearings around the coun- 
to look into the health problems, now 
snown as Persian Gulf War syndrome. 

MyYet the federal government has 
yownplayed any connection between 
ae illnesses suffered by the veterans and 
qeir families and service in the Gulf. 
he Pentagon asserts that although low 
wels of nerve and mustard gas were de- 
scted during the war, they were never 
t health-threatening levels. And, ac- 
ording to government agencies, much 
tore research will need to be done to 
}stablish a correlation between the ill- 


ses and service in the Gulf. As for the 
tedical problems of babies born after 
ie war, “what I’ve seen preliminarily 
)ertainly needs further investigation, but 
\ don’t think it’s nearly as dramatic as 
ie press to date has suggested it is,” 
| iys Robert Roswell, M.D., chief of staff 
| tthe Birmingham, Alabama, VA Medi- 
yal Center. “I would caution that it’s 
}2ry important that we not be alarmist 
|. this situation.” 

Yet Senator Riegle and many others 
»ympare the veterans’ illnesses—and the 
overnment’s response—to what hap- 
ened with Agent Orange, a chemical 
-efoliant used in the Vietnam War. Al- 
‘tough for decades the U.S. denied any 
‘Averse health effects from the chemical, 
1 1982, Agent Orange was found to 
ause certain types of cancers. Many 
vulf War families fear a similar situa- 
on. “The government has been saving 
aey don’t want another Agent Orange, 
ad I keep telling them, ‘Hey, pal, 
u’ve already got it,’” says Major 
‘ichard Haines, a member of the U.S. 
mrmy Reserve in New Albany, Indiana, 
\ho is compiling a list of sick veterans 
+4 their children. 

In the Mississippi unit, the families 
)mply want some answers—and some 
kelp for their children. “We’re all just 
junking, What in the heck is going on?” 
tuys Ammie West, whose two-year-old 
vaughter, Reed, was born with severe 
!spiratory problems, and who recently 
\iscovered that she is pregnant again. 
It?s almost like a mad scientist has got- 
‘n loose, and this is the product.” 


_MOTHER’S WORST FEAR 
immie’s husband returned from the 
hulf on April 29, 1991. That evening, 
ie spotted a strange rash the size of a 
palf-dollar on his lower back. “I said, 
What’s happened? Have you been 
arned?’ He said, ‘I don’t know. It’s 
‘val raw, and it kind of hurts.’ ” 

The couple consulted a pharmacist, 
tho suggested over-the-counter an- 
opacterial ointments. Nothing worked. 
vast January, after the rash had grown 
) the size of his hand, Dennis went to a 























local VA physician. “She [the doctor] 
said it looked bad,” Ammie says. “She 
didn’t know what it was, so she referred 
Dennis to a dermatologist.” The rash 
has not yet been diagnosed. 

Less than a month after Dennis came 
home from the Gulf, the Wests received 
some happy news: Ammie was preg- 
nant. The couple were overjoyed; for 
four years before the war they had tried 
in vain to have a child. “We had wanted 
[a baby] for so long, and I wanted to du 
everything by the book. And I did,” 
Ammie says. “I’m a Christian person, so 
naturally I don’t drink or smoke or any- 
thing like that. I was so scared some- 
thing could go wrong. If I had any little 
pain, I'd call the doctor and say, ‘Is this 
right? Is this okay?’ ” 

Although Ammie was healthy and 
there were no known risk factors in her 
family or her husband’s, her doctor gave 


her three sonograms to help allay her 
| 


fears. The tests indicated no problems. 

But on February 21, 1992, the Wests’ 
daughter, Reed, was born with hyaline 
membrane disease, a clinical condition 
in which the lungs are underdeveloped. 
For four days, the infant lay in the nurs- 
ery’s intensive-care unit, her face blue, 
her chest heaving. The doctors weren’t 
certain she’d live. 

On February 24, Reed was transferred 
to the technologically advanced neonatal 
intensive-care unit at University Medical 
Center, in Jackson. She remained there 
for seven days until her condition stabi- 
lized. But since then, she’s been in and 
out of hospitals for everything from 
pneumonia, high fevers, and viral and 
bacterial infections to vomiting and 
chronic diarrhea. She has also suffered 
from continuous colds and chronic bron- 
chitis that don’t respond to treatment. 

In Reed’s two years of life, her medi- 
cal bills have totaled close to $100,000. 
Fortunately, the family is covered by 
medical insurance, though “in 1992 
alone, we paid over two thousand dol- 
lars [the insurance deductible] out-of- 
pocket,” says Ammie. Sometimes, in 
order to keep food on the table, she and 
Dennis were forced to pay off those 
medical expenses $5 and $10 at a time. 

Among the families the Wests knew, 
Reed was the only child with serious 
medical problems. But in July 1993, 
when Ammie visited two friends who 
had just given birth, she found both 
women sitting in the hospital’s inten- 
sive-care unit, sobbing over their sick 
babies. One child was suffering from 
respiratory problems. The other, the son 
of Ammie’s best friend, Tracy West (no 
relation), had severe anemia. (He now 
has respiratory problems as well and re- 
quires treatments with a breathing ma- 
chine three times a day.) 

It wasn’t long before Ammie suspect- 
ed that it was more than just a coinci- 








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medical conditions Gulf War soldiers 
had reported. The VA sent her a pam- 
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had babies born with medical problems. 
She sent the survey to the soldiers in her 
husband’s unit. 

The results shocked her. Out of fif- 
teen babies born to her husband’s unit, 
thirteen had serious health problems, in- 
cluding respiratory problems, blood dis- 
orders, high fevers, vomiting and 
diarrhea. One child was born with three 
nipples; another has an enlarged liver. 

In some cases, entire families were 
sick. Olivia Fowler, of Laurel, Mississip- 
pi, told Ammie that both she and her 
husband served in the Gulf War; they 
returned home suffering from migraines, 
chronic fatigue and memory loss. Her 
husband also experiences joint pain and 
sudden spells when his hands shake un- 
controllably. Olivia, twenty-eight, be- 
came pregnant within months of 
returning home. Her son, now two, was 
born with severe respiratory problems 
and a blocked urethra (the canal that 
carries urine from the bladder). 

Outraged and terrified by what she 
had learned, Ammie began calling the 
VA office and her local politicians to in- 
form them of the problem and to ask 
them for help. Finally, in November, of- 
ficials held a meeting in Waynesboro 
with her and other concerned families. 
But, according to Ammie, the meeting 
was “a whitewash. They were just ready 
to discredit [the medical problems] and 
be done with it,” she says angrily. “I 
think they thought they’d be able to 
hem and haw enough so that we would 
feel intimidated and say ‘I guess we 
overreacted.’ But we didn’t because we 
knew there was something wrong. We’re 
not just a bunch of ignorant rednecks.” 

Desperate for help, Ammie and some 
of the other veterans and their families 
took their story to the media. Within 
days of the first news reports on the sick 
children, the VA office in Jackson took 
action. They initiated a statewide study 
of Mississippi veterans who served in the 
Gulf and found that of fifty-five babies 
born to these men and women after the 
war, thirty-seven had health problems. 

Unfortunately, the VA is authorized 
to treat only service personnel. “The is- 
sue of children’s health is new to the VA 
because we don’t take care of children,” 
says VA spokesman Ron Kirkpatrick. 
“What we can do is work with the veter- 
ans to find out about the children’s 
health and get that information to some- 
body -an do something.” 

At the moment, however, little is be- 
ing done. Government officials say that 
they want to help the sick children but 
that more research needs to be conduct- 
ed. And there is still disagreement as to 
whether the children’s conditions can 

¢ linked to their parents’ service in 


the Gulf. Some experts believe it can. 
Although few studies have been done on 
whether environmental toxins can affect 
a man’s sperm, it is possible such con- 
tamination could occur, according to 
Mary Hovinga, Ph.D., an environmental 
epidemiologist at the University of Al- 
abama, at Birmingham. “Damage to the 
DNA of the sperm obviously carries over 
to a fertilized egg and a fetus,” she says. 

Others aren’t so sure. Says Susan Rit- 
ter, head of the VA family-support pro- 
gram in Alabama, “Invariably [when I 
go out to units in Alabama] I hear about 
miscarriages, problems with infertility, 
babies with problems. It’s very difficult 
to say how many of these problems are 
normally occurring.” 

The doctors who’ve treated the chil- 
dren in the Mississippi unit are reluctant 
to talk to the media. But privately, say 
the Wests and other parents, their doc- 
tors are advising them to keep question- 
ing officials until they get some answers. 


FIGHTING FOR THE TRUTH 

Until the mysterious illnesses suffered 
by veterans and their families are identi- 
fied, those affected cannot receive dis- 
ability benefits or appropriate medical 
care through the VA, because, as of yet, 
there is no proof that their illnesses were 
caused by service in the Gulf. The VA is 
sull gathering data on Gulf War syn- 
drome: It has held workshops with med- 
ical experts to learn more about the 
syndrome, and late this year it will open 
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FOR MORE INFORMATION 

If a Gulf War veteran in your family 
has symptoms of Persian Gulf War 
syndrome, contact your local VA 
hospital immediately to schedule a 
physical and to add your name to 
the national Persian Gulf Registry 

@ Ammie West is collecting intor 





mation on sick veterans and their 
families. Write to her at: P.O. Box 
198, Clara, MS 39324 

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: a member of the 
U.S. Army Reserve in Indiana, who 
iS compiling information on the syn- 
drome as well. Write him at: 4247 


Valley Terrace, New Albany, IN 
47150, or call 812-948-9366. 

@ Veterans who have any informa- 
tion on chemical exposure or at 
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also appropriated money to study “m 
tiple chemical sensitivity,” a conditi 
in which exposure to chemicals sen 
tizes a person so that ordinary su 
stances, such as perfume or car exhau 
can make him sick. In the meantim 
veterans who believe they have G 
War syndrome can undergo a physic 
and add their name and symptoms 
the national “Persian Gulf Registry.” 

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cial registry yet. Military units arou 
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Control, in Atlanta, is helping to anal 
the statistics on these children. 

In the meantime, Ammie continu 
her fight. She and some of the oth 
families have testified before Congres 
she’s also still collecting data on sic 
children. She says she’s now heard fro 
hundreds of veterans and their famili 
in moré than thirteen states who repo 
that since returning from the Gul 
they’ve suffered miscarriages, stillbirth 
and had children born with illnesses an 
birth defects. 

“Every person who calls me seems t 
know of several more children who ar 
sick,” she says. “The worst thing is, w 
don’t know what the future holds. W: 
have no way of knowing whether Ree 
will fall ill or if, God forbid, she’ll pas 
something on to her children.” 

Of course, Ammie also worries abou 
the child she’s carrying now, who is du 
in November. To prepare her for an 
problems the baby may have, she’s un 
dergoing such diagnostic tests as sono 
grams and amniocentesis. “I’d be lyin 
if I said that at least two or three times 
day I didn’t just stop and think, I 
something going to be terribly wron 
with this baby?” she says. “It’s kind of 
panic that will start to rise.” 

In the end, all Ammie and the othe 
parents can do is wait—and pray. “Ev 
erybody is terrified,” says Ammie. “Yo 
talk to [these families] and they’re hurt 
ing financially, emotionally and physi 
cally. I believe somebody knows why 
this all happened. And if America allows 
our government to get away with keep- 
ing information, then I don’t know what 
kind of nation we’ve got. 

“Reporters ask me what I want out of 
all this. I tell them a healthy baby would 
have been nice. But I didn’t get that, 
and neither did these other people. And 
that’s not fair. If nothing else, I would 
like to one day be able to tell those peo- 
ple, ‘This is what happened to your 
baby. It’s not your fault.’ ” a 


Sarah Tippit ts a writer who is based in 
Orlando, Florida. 


8:26 Friday night. 


You worked hard all day. 


All you want is a long, hot bath. 


But it will have to wait. 
“Beauty and the Beast” is on. 
Parents who have 
The Disney Channel have 


different priorities. 


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Julia: her lessons in love 
continued from page 97 


Reports of public fights, infidelities 
and—perhaps most believable of all— 
the realization that they have almost 
nothing in common have plagued them 
around the country and the world. But 
most insiders agree that for now, at 
least, the rumors are wrong. “All that 
stuff about them not staying together,” 
insists one member of Lyle’s immediate 
family, “is just not true.” 


LOVE ‘EM AND LEAVE ‘EM 

For Julia, twenty-six, the kind of con- 
stancy thirty-six-year-old Lyle offers 
must be an oasis of comfort in the 
midst of what is once again a very hec- 
tic professional life (currently, she’s do- 
ing three movies in a row—I Love 
Trouble, the Robert Altman fashion 
satire Pret-a-Porter and the Gothic story 
Mary Reilly). And there’s a day-and- 
night difference between Lovett, a taci- 
turn, soulful Texan, and the succession 
of glamorous leading men (Dylan Mc- 
Dermott, Kiefer Sutherland, Jason 
Patric) Julia has been involved with in 
the past. But it’s taken the skittish star a 
long time to learn that sometimes, love 


recognizing your own ability to make a 
perfectly correct decision. I think that’s 
quite a feat: to look at something you’ve 
done and say, “This is completely right.’ ” 


A SAD HISTORY 

One reason it’s so right is that now Julia 
has the kind of family life she’s long 
craved. For, despite her starry-eyed 
view of her childhood, the truth is 
somewhat sadder. Julia’s parents di- 
vorced when she was only three. She 
idolized her father, Walter Roberts, a 
handsome man who founded a drama 
school in Atlanta. But following a bitter 
custody battle, she saw him only infre- 
quently. Her stepfather, Michael 
Motes, was reportedly bitter and diffi- 
cult, and his behavior caused Julia’s 
older brother, actor Eric Roberts, to 
run away from home at the age of fif- 
teen. Money was always tight, and 
eventually Motes and Julia’s mother, 
Betty, divorced. 

No wonder, then, that Julia cherish- 
es Lyle’s stability. Says Claudia Perry, 
pop-music critic for The Houston Post, 
“Lyle is the most regular, homebody 
guy of any Texan who’s had national 
success. He’s the sanest of all of them. 
Every woman I know thinks he’s really 


“Lyle is exactly what she 
needs. says a friend. 


can be all it’s cracked up to be. 

Untl she met Lyle, Julia had an un- 
fortunate habit of leaving her men 
while they thought she still loved 
them—almost as though she was will- 
ing to get close, but not so close that 
she risked losing herself in the process. 
“Julia’s pattern is to be in their face, 
right there; then in a second she’s 
gone,” says Aileen Joyce, author of Fu- 
la: The Untold Story of America’s Pretty 
Woman (Pinnacle Books, 1993). 

And, because she doesn’t like con- 
frontation, her departures can be shock- 
ingly abrupt: She allegedly had her 
ageni, Elaine Goldsmith, call Sutherland 
to tell him the most anticipated wedding 
in Hollywood was off; Goldsmith also 
reportedly telephoned Patric to say that 
Julia wouldn’t be returning to him. 

Is something similar likely to happen 
with Lyle? Julia-watchers say no. With 
him, Julia seems most herself, in a down- 
home, jeans-and-bare-feet kind of way. 
And, indeed, Julia seems to understand 
this herself. “TI feel liberated,” she con- 
fessed shortly after the wedding. “I feel 
like this really pleasant calm has de- 
scended [on] my life... . It has to do with 


sexy because he’s so smart.” 

But it was his music that first attract- 
ed Julia to Lyle. She had a tape of it 
with her when she went hiking in the 
Costa Rican rain forest with Susan 
Sarandon and Sarandon’s brother Terry 
Tomalin. Tomalin, a sportswriter for 
The St. Petersburg Times, had met Lovett 
at a wrap party for The Player. He knew 
Lovett carried a video of Pretty Woman 
with him on the road, so he suggested 
Lyle call Julia. A short while later, the 
two were married. 


FUTURE PERFECT 


Julia has never made a secret of wanting 
to have a home and children. For now, 
though, it looks as though the Lovetts 
are settling for just a home (they recent- 
ly bought an apartment in Manhattan). 
“At thirty, I think I'll feel mature and 
unselfish enough to take care of chil- 
dren properly,” the actress said recent- 
ly. “Too many people have children 
when they’re still kids themselves. 
Once I learn how to take care of myself 
and Lyle, then I’ll be ready to take 
care of a family.” 

In the meantime, the couple will divide 
























their time between New York and th 
farmhouse in Klein, Texas. Living in 
house that once belonged to Lyle 
grandfather must mean a lot to Juli 
whose family had none of that traditi 
and continuity (both houses Julia 
mother received in her divorces we 
lost—the first auctioned off on the ste 
of a courthouse because of a foreclos 
mortgage, the other left as an aba 
doned property). 

And certainly no one can fault Juli 
for focusing on her career. After taking 
two-year break from moviemaking, s 
bounced back with The Pelican Brief \a 
year. Now, with a price of $8.5 millio 
per film, she’s Hollywood’s highest-pai 
actress, and her three current projec 
look like winners. As for her heavywei 
status at the box office, Julia is rightfull 
proud. “They say I can open movie 
and that’s nice in that it puts it into peo 
ple’s minds that women can do it. Iv 
not just Kevin Costner, not just Arnol 
Schwarzenegger. Not just the guys.” 

Sull, she might be testing that profit 
making power with Mary Reilly, a presti 
gious, “artsy” piece directed by Englis 
filmmaker Stephen Frears (Dangerou 
Liaisons). Julia plays a maidservant t 
Dr. Jekyll Gohn Malkovich), who trans 
forms himself into the monstrous Mr 
Hyde every night. Observers say tha 
this could be the movie that will finall 
give Julia a chance to show what she ca 
really do as an actress. 

Nevertheless, if her history is any 
thing to go on, the project might also b 
a frightening and exhausting one: Julia i: 
well known in the industry for blurrin 
the line between movies and real life. 

She has had a hard time filming 
scenes of conflict, whether physical or 
verbal. She dissolved into tears after re- 
peated takes of scenes in Pretty Woman 
in which Richard Gere yelled at her. She 
didn’t get along with Patrick Bergin, 
who played her stalker husband in Sleep- 
mg with the Enemy. “It was emotionally 
harrowing,” she has said. “For weeks of 
my life I had to be the victim in those 
terrible fights.” | 

Lucky for Julia, then, that she has 
Lyle—the Texas boy next door—to 
come home to. Says one friend, “Lyle is 
exactly what she needs. He’s nonthreat- 
ening, noncompetitive, and he adores 
her. And after all that girl’s been 
through, she needs to be adored.” 

The question is, has Julia learned that 
lesson? Well, to hear her talk, it seems 
she may have—at least for now. “Every 
time I talk to [Lyle], or every me I look 
at his picture or listen to his music or 
think about him, I think, Wow, I’m 
so... I’m so smart! I’m so lucky!” a 


Susan Price is a freelance journalist based 
in Colorado who writes frequently about 
celebrities. 






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SPECIAL: Child of Mine 
Songs to Our Children 





the neighbor re- 
city for possible viola- 
“My husband 
* savs Ann. “He’s a 


r goodness sake!” 


oul perm 


1d all th 


duilding 

Fina ears ago, says Ann, when 
comm ition from next door came only 
thro registered mail, she’d had 


enouzh. In an effort to be friendly, she'd 
drop by with some fresh-baked cookies or 

vat of bread and chat with the neighbor. 

For a few months, all was well. But 
then, according to Ann, the neighbor re- 
vived the feud, threatening the Drinkwards 
with a lawsuit for property damage. The 
reason? Roots from the juniper trees had 
crossed onto his property. 


UNDER SIEGE 

Across the country, these types of neigh- 
bor nightmares are becoming common- 
place. The American Bar Association 
estimates that neighborhood disputes now 
account for up to 45 percent of misde- 
meanor charges filed in U.S. courts each 
year. The complaints fall into three lead- 
ing categories: vandalism from children 
and pets, boundary trees (for instance, a 


other’s throats? The whole issue of home 
and neighborhood is emotionally charged, 
experts say. “Your house is supposed to be 
a haven from a hectic world, the place you 
can be king of your castle,” says Cora Jor- 
dan, an attorney in Oxford, Mississippi, 
and author of Neighbor Law (Nolo Press). 

And because of our neighbors’ sheer 
proximity, we tend to react to them as ex- 
tended family, according to Bob Hauer, a 
personal-injury lawyer who handles neigh- 
bor disputes in Minneapolis. “You never 
have a simple legal problem with an an- 
noying neighbor,” he says. “It’s a lifestyle 
problem, a psychological problem. You 
start fighting with the folks next door, and 
it’s like a marriage gone bad—except you 
can’t divorce them.” 

When a neighbor problem arises, a per- 
son’s first impulse 1s usually avoidance. 
“Either you can’t risk insulting or offending 
them by bringing up a problem, or you feel 
helpless, like there is no feasible solution,” 
says Arthur T. Toole, of the Institute for 
Mediation and Conflict Resolution, Inc., in 
New York City. “So you do nothing.” 

And lawsuits are also usually a poor so- 
lution. “Lawsuits often just mask or neu- 
tralize the immediate problem, creating 
even larger power struggles,” warns Mark 
Warda, an attorney in Clearwater, Florida, 


“You fight with the folks 
next door. and its like a 
marriage gone bad. Except 


vou can t divorce them.” 


neighbor’s maple blocking your view) and 
excessive noise. Other common charges 
stem from automobile parking, obnoxious 
odors and “spite” fences, legal terminolo- 
gy for high or ugly fences built specifically 
to annoy a neighbor. 

As trivial as these irritations may seem, 
when they occur over and over they can 
spark all-out war. For instance, in Texas, 
after two boys damaged a neighbor’s 
shrubs while playing ball, the neighbor 
tried to run them down with a car. In one 
California town, a man was so enraged by 
persistent barking from his neighbor’s dog 
that he taped shut the pet’s mouth. The 
dog died, and the man now faces criminal 
charges for animal cruelty. In a Connecti- 
cut neighborhood, when a family refused 
to trim their messy weeping-willow tree, 
someone drilled holes in the tree’s trunk 
and poisoned it. 

What is it about neighbor disputes that 

s otherwise rational people at each 


) 


and author of Neighbor vs. Neighbor: Legal 
Rights Of Neighbors In Dispute (Sphinx 
Publishing, 1991). “Courts hate neighbor 
lawsuits because the neighbors find some- 
thing else to fight about.” 


WHAT YOU CAN DO 


Experts say the most effective and satisfy- 
ing way to solve neighbor disputes is to 
handle them yourself. 

To begin with, be aware of your rights. 
When a neighbor does something so un- 
reasonable that it constitutes a wrongful 
act or injury, he or she has broken “a nui- 
sance law.” These laws vary from commu- 
nity to community, but they are often very 
detailed. For instance, in Farmington, 
New Mexico, music played on private 
property is not allowed to exceed fifty 
decibels at night. 

Check your local laws at the town 
clerk’s office or the public library. If you 
have legal grounds to complain, show your 



































neighbor a copy of the ordinance. 

Unfortunately, being on the right sic 
of the law isn’t always enough. To prevei 
the situation from turning into a battl 
keep in mind that different types of neig] 
bor problems call for different strategies: 
Noise Thirty-seven-year-old Barbar 
Solomon,* of San Francisco, owns a vaci 
tion home in Seattle, where her fami 
“escapes for peace and quiet.” But a yes 
ago, her next-door neighbor leased h) 
house to four men in their twenties wh 
were in a rock band. Every night, Barbar 
and her husband were levitated out ¢ 
their bed by the screech of guitars. 

“When I complained,” she recall 
“they just looked at me and said, ‘Nois@ 
This is important music.’ ” 


ing to Dan Joyce, executive director of 
Cleveland Mediation Center. “Don’t ag 
sume your neighbor realizes he or she 
even creating a nuisance,” he says. 
Also, remember that noise is subjectiv¢ 
“Judging or interpreting the other person} 
behavior only alienates them,” says Debr, 
Bass, Communications vice president ¢ 
the Community Associations Institute, a 
organization that represents condo an 
homeowner associations outside Washing 
ton, D.C. Instead, “give informatio! 
about your own situation and feelings.” 
That’s what Barbara did. When she ex! 
plained that the band was keeping he 
family awake at night, they agreed to pla 
only during the day with the window 
closed. But eventually, the late-night jan 
sessions started up again. 
At that point, Barbara presented th¢ 
owner of the house next door with a peti 
tion signed by eight other neighbors 
Within a month, the band moved out. 
Kids and pets Children and domesti 
animals have the greatest potential to tea! 
a neighborhood apart. Take the case o 
Michael Rubin, a civil trial lawyer i 
North Hollywood, California, who ha 
been embroiled in one of the most bitter 
neighbor lawsuits in the nation for the 
last few years. 
In 1989, Rubin’s neighbors, the Schilds. 
erected a basketball hoop for their so 
about thirty feet from Rubin’s bedroom 
window. One day, “I was so exhausted 
from work, I had to take a nap,” Rubin re- 
calls. “I asked the boy to stop playing bas- 
ketball. He stopped, but then came out 
with his father and started [playing] 
again.” Rubin grabbed a garden hose and, 
according to a legal complaint filed by the 
Schilds, soaked the boy and his father. 
The Schilds sued Rubin and petitioned 
the court to grant a restraining order 
against the Rubin family. The Schilds also 
claimed the emotional distress was so in- 
tense that they needed therapy. Rubin 
countersued the Schilds. 
According to Rubin, many of the law- 
suits have now been thrown out of court, 
*Name has been changed. 


jit the ugly feelings still abound. 

#) What can neighbors do to avoid this 
I)gal and emotional warfare? In a case in- 
Huilving a neighbor’s child, it pays to be 
pecially careful. “Realize that people 
}e hypersensitive and defensive about 
}eir kids,” says attorney Mark Warda. 
stead of reacting in the heat of the mo- 
Went, think about how you want to re- 
lve the problem, and then calmly 
4 proach your neighbors. 

jlrees From the perspective of nuisance 
4) v, trees are one of the trickiest neighbor 
} oblems to resolve. That’s because they 
\\-ve so many vital purposes to a home- 
jumner. They may be used for privacy, 
4 ade, fences, boundary markers or even 
od. So, in the case of a problem tree, be 
4) epared to compromise. 

That’s something Evelyn King,* a thirty- 
}o-year-old housewife in Connecticut, 
) shes she had done. Every autumn, Eve- 
|} 1 collected the several bushels of apples 
| at had dropped from her neighbor’s 
yes into her yard, to make cider. But last 
ar, her neighbor approached her with a 





















¥ 


uu want to use my apples, you have to 
\y for them.” 
| The apple controversy raged on. Final- 
}, Evelyn trimmed the apple-tree 
vanches that hung over her property 
ice. “My neighbor hired a tree consul- 
}pat who claimed the trees were trauma- 
ed,” she says. 
)'Evelyn decided to build a high fence 
jong her property line. “Now the neighbor 
Is me up to complain about the fence,” 
2 says. Even worse, the branches have 
\:rted to grow back over her yard. 
She could have avoided these troubles 
|| ‘making some concessions to her neigh- 
r. For instance, she might have suggest- 
that she’d be willing to allow the 
jvanches to hang over her property—and 
tego the cider—if her neighbor would re- 
}»ve the apples that fell into her yard. 


K(CLARING A TRUCE 

fortunately, some neighbors are not 
\ling to be reasonable. Instead, they be- 
me threatening, even violent. 

In such cases, the ideal solution may be 
bring in a neutral third party to medi- 
:. Community or volunteer mediators 
warge a nominal fee (usually a total of 
to $20) to help both parties reach a 
|'mpromise. Suggest the idea to your un- 
|) Xperative neighbor; if he refuses to par- 
|) ipate, tell him your only other option is 
| call the police. 

| Neighbor mediation has become re- 
irkably successful. The Dispute Resolu- 
on Section of the American Bar 
sociation reports that over a quarter of a 
llion neighbors underwent two-hour 
»diation sessions last year. Of those, 
percent reached a satisfactory written 
treement. And 95 percent of mediated 
reements are currently being complied 





i) 1. “The tree belongs to me,” he said. “If 


with, more than twice the compliance rate 
of court-ordered resolutions. 

Mediation helped Ann Drinkward and 
her neighbor finally solve their feud. “We 
found out information about each other 
that reduced the hostility,” says Ann. “I 
didn’t realize [the neighbor] was lonely.” 
She promised to repair the damage her 
tree roots had caused. The neighbor, she 
says, agreed to come to her with com- 
plaints instead of taking irrational action 

Today, Ann feels emotionally « 
trenched in her neighborhood again. “I 
feel very secure now,” she says. “I have 
my sense of belonging and place back.” 


Mark Stuart Gill is a Los Angeles—based 
journalist. 





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‘The lessons 


OF DISASTER 


Sometimes it's only in catastrophe that the essential strength and goodness 
of the human spirit are revealed. By Elizabeth H. Dole 


he was an older woman whose careworn face 
spoke volumes. 
eves that told me how she had suffered. She 
held her arms close to her chest and shiv- 
ered, even in that warm shelter. 

Like other vicums of the Los Angeles earthquake, 
she had been jolted from sleep in time to see her be- 
her home shaken to its 
foundations, and along with it her sense of security. 

Nothing prepares you for the immensity of a natu- 
ral disaster, for the flood or the fire or the quake that 


longings crash around her, 


is an inevitable, uncontrollable and terrifying part of 


thou- 


lite on this earth. In a few seconds, 
sands of lives are changed for- 
ever. No news photos or film 
footage can fully express the 
wrenching pain suffered by the 
people who created the farms 
and cherished the homes that 
have suddenly vanished. 

Not surprisingly, emotional 
healing after such loss takes time. 
Immediately after a calamity, of 
course, the response is heroic. 
Everyone pitches in to help. Dur- 
ing the floods in the Midwest, people staffed sand- 
bagging operations day and night in a valiant effort 
to protect the homes and farms of their neighbors, 
even after their own were ‘The arrival of the Red 
Cross and other agencies helps keep spirits up, even 


lost. 


as the reality of loss sets in. Everyone’s mood is posi- 
tive; their energy is high. 

Inevitably, when the media leave, taking national at- 
tention with them, disillusionment sets in. The pace of 
rebuilding slows, and new obstacles crop up daily. The 
‘normity of the disaster seems suddenly clearer, and 

roes of yesterday are frusiraied by the endless 
paper overwhelmed by the tasks ahead of them. 

With d shantment come all the psychological 
traumas. lhe duration of the Midwest floods, for ex- 
that families alternated daily between 


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hope and heartache as the waters rose and fell. Or 
again, because the Los Angeles earthquake hit at 
night, we saw, and still see, people who are terrified 
to go to sleep. Children are especially vulnerable. 
And when parents are focused on their own fears 
and the pressing task of repairing the damage, they 
may not recognize the suffering of their children, 
who are mourning the loss of home and routine. 

But after this long winter of grief comes a small, 
quiet miracle. It may take as long as two years, but 
little by little, or sometimes all at once, the in- 
domitable human spirit reasserts itself; those who 

— were victims realize that the fu- 
ture can be what they make it, 
and they begin to take personal 
responsibility for that recovery. 

I remember especially a sin- 
gle mother in south Florida 
who told us about her four 
children who had been running 
with street gangs for years. 
‘Tragically, Hurricane Andrew 
destroyed the home these chil- 
dren shunned. But in closing 

one door, the hurricane opened another. For a 
time, the family depended on food deliveries by Red 
Cross volunteers. One morning, the four youngsters 
decided to go along with these volunteers to deliver 
food to other families. Soon they were helping out all 
the ume: Volunteering gave their lives the purpose 
and meaning they had been seeking so desperately. 

Disaster victims suffer enormously, yet many will 
say—like the mother in south Florida—that in los- 
ing everything, they gained ee of soul- 
restoring importance. 5 

When any of us faces adversity we can discover a 
sustaining strength, if we support along the 
way. us with a more pro- 
found understanding of ourselves and others. I find 
this to be inspiring proof that the human spirit en- 
dures, even triumphs, over devastation and despair. 


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ent of the Amencan Red Cross, Elizabeth H. Dole continues a remarkable public-service career in which she has 
ted States presidents and has been named by the Gallup Poll as one of the world’s ten most admired women. 


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